Here is the problem. IF it comes out (and big lies tend to come out eventually) it is going to be WORSE. Yes telling sucks in EVERY possible situation, but hearing it from her mouth won't be as embarrasing as hearing it from someone elses. Imagine how embarrassing it would be to hear it from someone else? Shit OTHER people possible know but HE doesn't. He'll feel like the biggest jackass ever.
This is horrible advice, not knowing the truth is like living a lie. I don't know about anyone else but I'd rather be hurt and know the truth than be happy and be living a lie. I mean if someone tells me they don't like my cooking I'm a little upset sometimes but better that than being lied to. Everyone deserves a chance to know the truth. If you cheat on someone, they have every right to know and they should be told. To not tell them is keeping the truth for them for selfish reasons
I think everyone is missing the point that she was with the other man for a year, not one or two flings. She has established a relationship with this guy. It is very difficult to go back after you have given your heart to someone else .
Men can keep things to the self and us women with drive ourself crazy trying not to hurt him! So although it sounds like the best and easiest thing to to, the secret would put your relationship where it needs to be, not in fake!!!! Strong people deserve each other!
I personally feel as though, if you handled your affair properly (aka - it's not someone your husband knows, you didn't blab the details of it to everyone you know), then it's the right thing to do to not say all the dirty details. After all, all it's doing is making you feel better about what you did. However, if there are ways where this will resurface and ruin everything you've been building, you have to come clean completely. That's just me though.
I like how this dude advocates not telling this woman to tell her husband what she has done. The foundation of their relationship is built on lies, she has to come clean. That's the least she owes him.
i dunno if telling is usually good for the relationship or not, but i do know that rule number one of my relationship with my wife has always been honesty and things worked out pretty well. I CAN'T lie to her, it would kill me inside, and she knows me too well to be fooled anyway.
Men usually cheat for physical reason; women cheat for emotional reasons. Of course this is not carved in stone. If your husband's a selfish, abusive asswipe that deprives you of attention, oh well! Cheating sucks either way, but I feel a one shot thing is easier to forgive than a long on going affair. And by the way: you don't have to hit people to be abusive.
Nothing wrong with having an affair when you husband is a complete douche bag selfish moron who only cares about himself, is lazy and doesn't know how to treat a woman
Don't tell. All it does is create a lot of hurt feelings and confusion. But do stop and think if this is going to become a recurring situation, and if it is, have the guts to break it off.
Otherwise, make a commitment to yourself to make a commitment to the relationship and make it stick.
I agree with what Matt said. Although it's not right to lie it would most likely only hurt the relationship to tell the truth. If the woman has learned a lesson and agreed with herself to remain faithful to her husband, then now she can concentrate on fixing her current relationship with him than going over with him how sorry she is. Because she knows she's sorry, and why subject your husband to hurt feelings and then try and make him get over it?
this is a fascinating debate and I understand both sides. Don't subject your husband to more hurt and just move on from here OR tell him the truth and try to rebuild.
Unfortunately it's better not if you tell him, but I hope he finds out that you're a cheating slut and dumps your ass. So much of a lack of integrity and honesty in people these days. If there were a hell, I'd condemn you to rot in it, assholes.
Matt has a point...but...relationships are built on trust and honesty. She needs to come clean doing her part...and then it's up to the guy to see if he can handle it or not.
What the fuck? This and the "should girls propose" advice suck. Lying is such a dick move, especially with cheating... just because it'll spare the relationship, doesn't mean it's a good idea to LIE. That relationship is based on a lie for about a year... I'm close to unsubscribing.
i say come clean with the situation 'cause it will bite you in the ass later on in life. if the guy leaves you than that should open your mind on how dumb and naive you was to do something stupid. if he stays with you than it still opens your mind on what a retarded thing you did and not do it again. after that build onto it 'cause it be awhile to be back to way it was unless he fast forgiving person.
Cheating is superficial B.S. that doesnt exist, the whole idea of cheating just never really made any sense to me at all If you make each other feel as though you have to lie and go behind each others backs just to live your life and do what you both need to do because your both insecure about it, Is it even worth being in that relationship? Personally Its a big turn off for me = S
YES...if you are going to rebuild that trust you HAVE TO TELL HIM there is simply no excuse not too, sooner or later he will ask, and you will look like a fool for not confessing it earlier
my mum was having an affair for years, and i was the only one who knew. i couldnt tell my dad because i thought that he would divorce my mum and i was really scared how this would affect my little brother. but recently he found out about it and him and mum are getting counselling.
so i think you should tell him and deal with the consequences, he obviously loves you enough to want to continue this relationship. but you have to accept the outcome as your fault.
A relationship should be based on trust and not coming 100% clean about it is just wrong and you'll be living a lie for the rest of your life..
Come clean! If he leaves you because of it, its your own fault and you should deal with the consequences of your actions. if he decides to stay, its more then you deserve and should be thankful and make sure not to cheat on that person again.
With the moral of the video. If you cheat, best thing to do is probably accept responsibility but at the same time you might not want to tell your spouse.
true and how can you rebuild when there is obviously no more trust? a good relationship is based on truth! i agree duh...no trust then that relationship is over forever its done
Wow, you guys are 0 for 2 with your last 2 videos. All's well and good until the truth (inevitably) comes out later, right? Then what kind of relationship do you have? This is just awful advice...
she should leave her husband, she obviously doesn't love him...duh!
gaia1love 9 months ago
Here is the problem. IF it comes out (and big lies tend to come out eventually) it is going to be WORSE. Yes telling sucks in EVERY possible situation, but hearing it from her mouth won't be as embarrasing as hearing it from someone elses. Imagine how embarrassing it would be to hear it from someone else? Shit OTHER people possible know but HE doesn't. He'll feel like the biggest jackass ever.
MrTNAfan2010 1 year ago
You should tell him you cheated and to say you're sorry, let him watch you get gangbanged.
eatingperson 1 year ago
This is horrible advice, not knowing the truth is like living a lie. I don't know about anyone else but I'd rather be hurt and know the truth than be happy and be living a lie. I mean if someone tells me they don't like my cooking I'm a little upset sometimes but better that than being lied to. Everyone deserves a chance to know the truth. If you cheat on someone, they have every right to know and they should be told. To not tell them is keeping the truth for them for selfish reasons
Anakin054 1 year ago
WHORE!!!
OdinHyrule 1 year ago
I think everyone is missing the point that she was with the other man for a year, not one or two flings. She has established a relationship with this guy. It is very difficult to go back after you have given your heart to someone else .
twobeavers 1 year ago
Men can keep things to the self and us women with drive ourself crazy trying not to hurt him! So although it sounds like the best and easiest thing to to, the secret would put your relationship where it needs to be, not in fake!!!! Strong people deserve each other!
SuperMsYaya 1 year ago
I personally feel as though, if you handled your affair properly (aka - it's not someone your husband knows, you didn't blab the details of it to everyone you know), then it's the right thing to do to not say all the dirty details. After all, all it's doing is making you feel better about what you did. However, if there are ways where this will resurface and ruin everything you've been building, you have to come clean completely. That's just me though.
FindTheBody 1 year ago
"Should I Tell My Husband I Cheated?"
Depends on whether or not you are strong enough to take the beating of course..
nrg1901 1 year ago
I like how this dude advocates not telling this woman to tell her husband what she has done. The foundation of their relationship is built on lies, she has to come clean. That's the least she owes him.
FitnessGuru1988 1 year ago
i dunno if telling is usually good for the relationship or not, but i do know that rule number one of my relationship with my wife has always been honesty and things worked out pretty well. I CAN'T lie to her, it would kill me inside, and she knows me too well to be fooled anyway.
waldoman7 2 years ago
Men usually cheat for physical reason; women cheat for emotional reasons. Of course this is not carved in stone. If your husband's a selfish, abusive asswipe that deprives you of attention, oh well! Cheating sucks either way, but I feel a one shot thing is easier to forgive than a long on going affair. And by the way: you don't have to hit people to be abusive.
wmdbassplayer 2 years ago
Nothing wrong with having an affair when you husband is a complete douche bag selfish moron who only cares about himself, is lazy and doesn't know how to treat a woman
iHateMyHusbandAlot 2 years ago
yes there is. divorce him if you must but don't cheat.
waldoman7 2 years ago
the truth hurts most of the time but whats done in the dark somehow always finds the light.
KingKassius 2 years ago
Don't tell. All it does is create a lot of hurt feelings and confusion. But do stop and think if this is going to become a recurring situation, and if it is, have the guts to break it off.
Otherwise, make a commitment to yourself to make a commitment to the relationship and make it stick.
getplaning 2 years ago
I agree with what Matt said. Although it's not right to lie it would most likely only hurt the relationship to tell the truth. If the woman has learned a lesson and agreed with herself to remain faithful to her husband, then now she can concentrate on fixing her current relationship with him than going over with him how sorry she is. Because she knows she's sorry, and why subject your husband to hurt feelings and then try and make him get over it?
EvilPaola 2 years ago
this is a fascinating debate and I understand both sides. Don't subject your husband to more hurt and just move on from here OR tell him the truth and try to rebuild.
yourtango 2 years ago
@yourtango I hate those people who have all the fun, Drag some one along and then just change there mind, Why? cuz they suddenly start feeling
Most likely they wont tell there husband, Not that they care about him but they are selfish.
An it was the selfishness that made them cheat in the first place.
324582782 1 year ago
@EvilPaola bullshit
324582782 1 year ago
Unfortunately it's better not if you tell him, but I hope he finds out that you're a cheating slut and dumps your ass. So much of a lack of integrity and honesty in people these days. If there were a hell, I'd condemn you to rot in it, assholes.
MaicoMoon 2 years ago
Matt has a point...but...relationships are built on trust and honesty. She needs to come clean doing her part...and then it's up to the guy to see if he can handle it or not.
pintobeans77 2 years ago 4
Cheating is just something that makes no sense.
portugal82 2 years ago 2
it makes plenty sense...its wrong but it makes perfect sense
yummdiddy 2 years ago
What the fuck? This and the "should girls propose" advice suck. Lying is such a dick move, especially with cheating... just because it'll spare the relationship, doesn't mean it's a good idea to LIE. That relationship is based on a lie for about a year... I'm close to unsubscribing.
likethelinen 2 years ago 7
i say come clean with the situation 'cause it will bite you in the ass later on in life. if the guy leaves you than that should open your mind on how dumb and naive you was to do something stupid. if he stays with you than it still opens your mind on what a retarded thing you did and not do it again. after that build onto it 'cause it be awhile to be back to way it was unless he fast forgiving person.
honorableninjas 2 years ago 2
DONT TELL HIM!!!
dabrooksux 2 years ago
Cheating is superficial B.S. that doesnt exist, the whole idea of cheating just never really made any sense to me at all If you make each other feel as though you have to lie and go behind each others backs just to live your life and do what you both need to do because your both insecure about it, Is it even worth being in that relationship? Personally Its a big turn off for me = S
XXTheRealMcCoyXX 2 years ago 3
100% absolutely agreed!
likethelinen 2 years ago
Tell him and hope he doesn't beat the shit out of you.
frostythesn0wman 2 years ago 2
I agree with Tamsen, not with Matt.
SilentBat 2 years ago
Yeah, he needs to hear the truth keeping him from the truth is a big fat dick thing to do.
Narashava 2 years ago
YES...if you are going to rebuild that trust you HAVE TO TELL HIM there is simply no excuse not too, sooner or later he will ask, and you will look like a fool for not confessing it earlier
robhkycc 2 years ago
don't tell him. do not.
a relationship is not based on truth. thats bull. it's constructed on carefully planned and orchastrized lies. it's a beautiful thing.
whatevergrl5674 2 years ago
my mum was having an affair for years, and i was the only one who knew. i couldnt tell my dad because i thought that he would divorce my mum and i was really scared how this would affect my little brother. but recently he found out about it and him and mum are getting counselling.
so i think you should tell him and deal with the consequences, he obviously loves you enough to want to continue this relationship. but you have to accept the outcome as your fault.
chemicalcassi 2 years ago
A relationship should be based on trust and not coming 100% clean about it is just wrong and you'll be living a lie for the rest of your life..
Come clean! If he leaves you because of it, its your own fault and you should deal with the consequences of your actions. if he decides to stay, its more then you deserve and should be thankful and make sure not to cheat on that person again.
500019579 2 years ago 2
No MAN want to be with a WHORE !!!
The Man Who Know his Wife or Girlfriend Cheated and he still is with Her
is a COWARD not a MAN !!!
ErickReyKing91 2 years ago
i would tell him.
maria39208 2 years ago 2
I say tell him that you cheated on him and then wait for him to say:
"F**k you, I deserve better than a cheating whore!"
Then leave ya! =D
Crayolalola 2 years ago
slag
najam133 2 years ago
I agree.
supercommie 2 years ago
With whom?
SilentBat 2 years ago
With the moral of the video. If you cheat, best thing to do is probably accept responsibility but at the same time you might not want to tell your spouse.
supercommie 2 years ago
As long as he's not black youll be ok!
zxeritross 2 years ago
LOL!
Crayolalola 2 years ago
true and how can you rebuild when there is obviously no more trust? a good relationship is based on truth! i agree duh...no trust then that relationship is over forever its done
kangryh 2 years ago 2
No. He doesn't want to know, and probably doesn't care.
getplaning 2 years ago
WHORE !!!!.......
divine0dude 2 years ago
YUP!
kangryh 2 years ago 3
Wow.........., keeping something from someone who otherwise might not wanna be with you I think is one of the worse things you could do to someone.
A definately tell him!!!!
freshhug 2 years ago 3
Wow, you guys are 0 for 2 with your last 2 videos. All's well and good until the truth (inevitably) comes out later, right? Then what kind of relationship do you have? This is just awful advice...
bellaswan2010 2 years ago 6