Are You Gay?

[raymaner33]

I´m not gay. 

[SARMA1956]

YOU MY FRIEND ARE A GOD!

[HaldoChan]

Awesome video, you're very understanding :)

This one time at an anime convention, I bought a rainbow flag and since I didn't have a bag with me, I carried it around with me for the rest of the day, and I ended up waving it around during the masquerade (which is a show with skits and videos)... My straight best friend said I was shoving it in her face, but it was a freaking anime convention!

[LetsStartOverNow]

Loved the video. The only big issue I had with it is that you said "... we need to treat people that are gay with a lot of compassion and also respect and not be judgmental." (3:57), you also said "... not treat gay people in an extra-odinary special way either." (4:39). It is not just the LGBT community that those rules apply to, it is all people. But I thought it was amazing and agreed with everything else you said! I watched it a few times back to back to make sure. Haha!

[bettydude]

I am gay... I am 100% percent with your remarks... thank you, very educational for other people.

[spartacandream]

No clue why people think we're more compassionate and sensitive than straight guys. Stereotypes are just a result of peoples desires to find patterns to label people based off.

[spartacandream]

I'm the stereotype of a heterosexual guy. I'm tough, athletic, and love to compete. No one guesses at first that I'm gay, though they think I'm a girl if my hair is long. As I fit none of the stereotypes.

Though I'm about as straight as a circle.

[sadistickitty1977]

i have also been asked this question because as woman I have expressed no desire to have children and because I don't wear makeup very often, coupled with the fact that I am assertive. I also have tons of gay and lesbian friends and whenever someone asks me that question in front of them they just laugh so hard... Gays and lesbians are just like us. Stereotypes suck.

[unparalelled]

I think people shouldnt percieve the question "are you gay?" in a negative way. Its just a simple question of curiousity.

One day we will have no stereotypes. We wont be able to tell if that person walking down the street is male, female, gay or straight. "are you gay?" will be as commonly asked as "whats your favorite color?"

[gaylolful]

@unparalelled Well whenever I get asked that question the person is usually trying to insult me..hmmm yeah I know high school idiots :/ lol yup high school sucks, but yeah I agree...

[bannol]

I think people who ask that question do so because they are interested in a bit of nookie. Otherwise I can't imagine why they would want to know.

[Erinsaidhello]

@bannol, I disagree, I think humans are just curious in general. I know I am.

[BrainstormWonders]

ur right. gay people arnt bad. Im nnot gay but I have friends that r. I am very tolerent of gays or anybody for that matter. and anybody that is a homophobe is a retard.

[Atheist630]

@BrainstormWonders right on man. tolerance is hard to find these days

[bjorkica5678A]

You seem a genuin guy. I like you man!

[stefanopazzo77]

being gay the only thing I can say is tht I agree with you 100%!

[FiveStarsPerShoulder]

I think this was a nice video, it was stated well and you were right about stereotypes. I am gay, and although I am a sensitive person deep down, I am good at hiding it. I am not feminine at all, I am a die hard gun enthusiast and republican, I am very patriotic, I have a high tolerance for gun recoil, and I will not hesitate to fight a person twice my size to stand up for myself, and this is 5 times as true when it comes to protecting those that I care about. Oh, and I like that shirt lol.

[Annanova99]

I love what you have to say. You make it into no big deal, and I love the way that you show that not all stereotypes of gays are bad. Some of them are good, but not true.

And I love how you did this professionaly. You didn't make a big deal or

[starsiaeve]

It's lame that anyone makes assumptions about sexual orientation at all. Why does it matter. We are all just people. And we should all have equal rights.

[TimCubUAkbar]

Thanks for your support, especially as Pride '09 approaches. If only more Americans thought like you. I, as a gay man, am amazed at the gains we've made in the last couple months, especially in the area of marriage equality. Hopefully, this trend will continue.

[claresmostwanted]

actually ur right though

[claresmostwanted]

for not being gay, you put up a good defence

[uraine7626]

Xaves, It's none of their damn business if you gay or not? Some people think it is their damn business to know every damn thing. Like your life is on Jerry Springer or something? The next time the ask you: are you gay? Ask them something personal and see how they like it. Ask them their underwear size? Ask them how many times a day the have sex? And watch how those same people when ask personal question will get offend.

[RazorBladez666]

a lot of people do not put up posters of naked women because they respect females! it does not mean that you are gay if you do not act "macho". and if someone IS gay, why do they have to answer to anyone? no one has to answer to someone is they are straight!

[tokiohotel1408]

Cheers to you!!!!! I'm bi and people who aren't prejudiced are absolutely awesome. And I'm really excited that somebody is open about this.

[sweetxrapturedxlight]

I'm bisexual and that's who I am and I'm proud! YAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAY!

[Atlavocat]

It's great to be open-minded and tolerant, but sexual orientation is a major factor in everyone's personality. If you don't like people asking if (or assuming) you are Gay, then ask them, "So what?" and leave them guessing. But you could also just say "No". Bigots probably won't believe you no matter what you say.

[darkestixion]

I want to say you're a really tolerant guy, but that implies you merely tolerate other people rather than respect them, so it's not really appropriate. Great video and you come across as a very compassionate and level-headed guy.

[Titan4549]

YOu have very good videos. You are very educational. And knowledgeable.

[Xaves511]

Thank you very much, Titan4549. Remarks like your are what make all of the work I do worth while.

[dwatcher11]

Glad I came across your videos, you seem like a super nice guy, and an animal lover as well! Love that.

[Xaves511]

Thank you for those very kind words, dwatcher11.

[IKissllamas]

Okay people it's really not that complicated. There are gay peeps and there are strait. Regardless everyone should be treated with respect. Even so gay is not okay with me personally... it's weird okay!?!! But I know alot of nice straight and gay peeps. Everyone is different and have different opinions. Mine:Gay is Weird and sick.

[That80sGuy1972]

I get that question too... even when my behavior gets "piggish" (guy talk). The question when it comes to me may be a bit deserved. I get caught checking out guys (I'm a guy), going to gay clubs, talking about my adorible cats, some of my mannerisms, etc. I never deny being attracted to men. I just honestly answer "Don't worry, I prefere women." That usually gets misinterpreted as thinging I'm straight. The truth is that I'm a girl preferring bisexual.

Only other Christians hassle me about it.

[NoelleIzHott]

i have some gay friends and they are super nice too. i think this was a well rounded video, well thought out and worded.

[conrad2468]

Gay is okay as long as your not gay towards me

[kimberlyhogg]

Straight is okay too, as long as you're not straight toward me.

[Bloodshot24]

Xaves u bring up alot of good points in your videos this is another good one i myself am not of homosexual oreintaion, but it do think that "Don't Ask Don't Tell" should possibly aply it is jsut kinda awkwark when sumone tells u there not "straight" so wat im trying to say is that ur right Xaves we should accept it but if we accpet it then they do have to follow sum of rules. they have to avoid flaunting it around,just normally, but i think we should get along as if everyone were eqaul.Bloodshot

[PoohBear02003]

I think we all should treat others the way we want to be treated. If someone is gay, than be gay. I would never look down on anyone for who they love...

Wendy

[Xaves511]

Good point, Wendy. Thanks for posting. I can tell you have a heart of gold!

[That80sGuy1972]

That's a win for the Golden Rule, Wendy. ;)

[PicturesForMyMom]

Just judging by the beginning of your video I can't believe people sometimes (I mean your co-workers). "Being gay" in the first place is a whole joke. I am Homosexual, meaning I enjoy the "company" of another men to the sexual extent of the word. But "gay"? Gay is more of a religious practice if you ask me, a whole new lifestyle that they themselves help prevail.

I don't usually comment on my suscriptions' videos but this is a special one. Thank you for the wisdom!

[Xaves511]

Thanks for taking the time, PicturesForMyMom, to post your thoughts.

[DrZarkloff]

I think that "Don't ask; don't tell" is a good policy. For some reason, the gay community doesn't accept it. They want to flaunt their sexuality and wear it around their body like a Miss Universe robe.

[Xaves511]

Hi DrZarkloff. As always, thanks for checking in with your thoughts and input.

[bristolboi2007]

I was in the Marines. I am not your "Stereotype" Gay guy. I don't need to flaunt it but if you can tell me that you think a girl is hot while hanging out why can't I tell you that guy is hot?

[Xaves511]

Hi bristolboi2007. It all has to do with the time and place of the event. If we were hanging at as friends, in a casual setting, I would have no problem with it. Things have to be considered in context - and that goes for just about every topic you can care to discuss, not just homosexuality.