You can do all the "planning" in the world but the bottom line is that you DON'T know what's going to happen down the road. It's easy to sit back and say you'll do this and that, but life is unpredictable. My husband and I waited and waited to start a family until we were financially stable and had a home, it's been 4 years of marriage and it's still just us. We've had several miscarriages an even an ectopic pregnancy which almost cost me my life. Plan all you want but you just don't know.
i personally think if you are lucky enough to have a man who is willing to support you and the kids and you dont have to work, DONT. i am in a situation where i have to work , and its really hard emotionally and physically especially as my child is very out of control which i think is due to me not having the time or energy for raising him. but on the flip side, i do think not working at all is just lazy on the mothers behalf and 1-2 days at least is very do-able
I am a SAHM but I also home school my children. We are debt-free and save on average 40% of my husbands yearly income. Why would I let someone else raise my children even if my husband didn't make as much as he does? G*d gave my children to me and made me as a helpmeet to my husband so I think my place is in the home, caring for my husband and our two children. Oh, btw if you cook, clean, home school, and run a home like a well oiled machine then you have little extra time.
@TheHomeschoolingmom I hope nothing ever happens to him or that you have good life insurance cause if something bad happen to your husband like an accident or he falls into someone else's vagina you are shit out of luck. hun, but keep your head up cause maybe it won't happen
@tonyaldorsey You know not all men cheat! In most cases, if they do it is because their wife didn't take care of them. A lot of women just let themselves go and get fat and fail to do their part in the marriage, ie. deny there husband sex and then the man starts looking for someone else. When something goes wrong in a marriage it is, in most cases, the fault of both parties. As for insurance we both have million dollar policies and I am medically retired from the Army because of a bad PLF.
cont...I have income from that retirement. We are debt free to include our home. Yes, I could go back to work and gain more wealth but at what cost? It may not be practical for some but I think that most people don't plan their lives out very well. If you can't afford to raise your children then delay having them. I was 33 when we had our first child. We had set ourselves up for life. It boils down to personal responsibility and making the right decisions.
every woman I know works and are productive members of society. no matter how much you do around the house you always end up with way too much time on your hands.
I'm a work at home Mom. I work on the internet and currently have a dayhome that I will quit when my internet business provides me with the income I require which looks like soon. YaY.
Im been a stay at home mom, since My husband & I desided to be parents thats been 10 yrs ago. He works a full time job. My job is everything else, not kidding. I dont have a day off, never. My kids are 10, 7 & 3. I admit it, its hard at times. I have had side jobs, but nothing that I wantd to do permently. The day care was getting most of my check. Plus I dont want the daycare telling my kids something new my baby did, that happnd once, & my heart dropped. Thats something you cant get back.
my plan after baby is to work from home - or out of the home part time - i already work from home because i wanted us to have time to adjust and see how it went ..so now when the time comes not much to change as far as that goes .
Hi there! I'm new to your videos! :) Found you from Kailin Turner. I am a SAHM, and was a housewife before that. i love staying home w/ our 23 month old son!
if i'm lucky enough to be able to have a baby (i'm startig my 3rd iui soon), i'll def stay at home with the baby, when the child goes into school i'll get a small p/t job to work around school times xx
I ended up being a stay at home mom because most of my salary would of went to daycare if I stayed working. Anyway, we really didn't want anyone else to take care of our baby. So, those factors played a role in why I am a SAHM. I plan to go back to work eventually, probably when our son is in school. I really could use the income!
Hi! If i can be blessed enough to ever have a baby, i will stay home. With my job as a therapeutic foster parent they require one parent to stay at home with the children. But, even if i didnt do that for a job..i would try really hard to stay home with my child. But i do understand with todays economy how most women cant afford to stay at home. And also i respect those women who want to keep their careers and send their children to daycare.
I did a video response on the subject but I don't think it's been approved however if you're interested please feel free to check it out on my channel. :) My thoughts and opinions are in my vlog.
Oh, and after suffering being a single mother with three children who suffered day care abuse- my mother remarried and had my youngest brother and vowed to stay home with him as long as she could so she wouldn't miss out on anything. She stayed home 10 months before returning to work and, even then, handed my brother over to me (he's going to be 3 soon) to take care of. If you must work due to economy, I'd check out family options first. Or church day cares, which is where my brother is now.
Myself, my sister and one of my brothers were victims of daycare abuse, in more than one daycare. Then, as I got older and began volunteering in daycare centers, I started witnessing some pretty upsetting things. I have stayed at home, worked in home and worked, all while being completely able to keep our son out of daycare while my husband was working. We juggled shifts and it was very stressful. The one I agreed to let a close friend keep him, she messed up BIG time. I vote SAHM.
I will have to work part time that means only 4 times a week for 4 hours a day. My husband will be taking care of the baby while I will be at work. Hope it will funtion;)
I did a daycare in my home for 4 years, i had the same wonderful boys all that time. There are good daycares, but also bad ones. I wouldnt put my child in one, i was on the other end and seen how much parents miss out. 1 little boy took his 1st steps at my place, i knew it would hurt the mom if i told her, so i didnt. IF i ever become a mom i'll be a stay at home mommy. If i have to go back to work for $ reasons it well be evenings and weekends so my hubby could take care of the baby.
I'm so glad you shared this furry. No matter how good of a daycare it is - when you give your child up to another person to care for - you miss SO MUCH!
I agree. After my Mom left my brother in my care, he took his first steps with me. She was upset, but so happy when she came home early and he walked for her again. I couldn't imagine missing out on my son's milestones...
Children need their mommys! Why birth a baby if you are going to hand it over to a stranger to raise? It may involve sacrifice but you can adjust your lifestyle to do this. I'm a huge believer in mom staying home with the kiddos.
I am lucky to be able to stay at home for as long as I want. But I am planning on working while TTC and durring pregnancy. We personally have not been affected by the economy...
I currently work 4 days/week and there is the ability to go down to part time. Depending on my husband's promotion schedule and how quickly we can finish paying off student loans, SAHM is achievable within 3 years.
However, we would be able to work our schedules so that the baby would be with me 4 days, my husband 2 days and my mom 1 day a week.
Since I've been a nanny and have seen the benefit of one on one parenting, we hope to avoid daycares if possible.
You can do all the "planning" in the world but the bottom line is that you DON'T know what's going to happen down the road. It's easy to sit back and say you'll do this and that, but life is unpredictable. My husband and I waited and waited to start a family until we were financially stable and had a home, it's been 4 years of marriage and it's still just us. We've had several miscarriages an even an ectopic pregnancy which almost cost me my life. Plan all you want but you just don't know.
1ssny 2 months ago
i personally think if you are lucky enough to have a man who is willing to support you and the kids and you dont have to work, DONT. i am in a situation where i have to work , and its really hard emotionally and physically especially as my child is very out of control which i think is due to me not having the time or energy for raising him. but on the flip side, i do think not working at all is just lazy on the mothers behalf and 1-2 days at least is very do-able
jody802202 11 months ago
I am a SAHM but I also home school my children. We are debt-free and save on average 40% of my husbands yearly income. Why would I let someone else raise my children even if my husband didn't make as much as he does? G*d gave my children to me and made me as a helpmeet to my husband so I think my place is in the home, caring for my husband and our two children. Oh, btw if you cook, clean, home school, and run a home like a well oiled machine then you have little extra time.
TheHomeschoolingmom 1 year ago
@TheHomeschoolingmom well good for you darling, but that's not practical for everyone
tonyaldorsey 6 months ago
@TheHomeschoolingmom I hope nothing ever happens to him or that you have good life insurance cause if something bad happen to your husband like an accident or he falls into someone else's vagina you are shit out of luck. hun, but keep your head up cause maybe it won't happen
tonyaldorsey 6 months ago
@tonyaldorsey You know not all men cheat! In most cases, if they do it is because their wife didn't take care of them. A lot of women just let themselves go and get fat and fail to do their part in the marriage, ie. deny there husband sex and then the man starts looking for someone else. When something goes wrong in a marriage it is, in most cases, the fault of both parties. As for insurance we both have million dollar policies and I am medically retired from the Army because of a bad PLF.
TheHomeschoolingmom 6 months ago
cont...I have income from that retirement. We are debt free to include our home. Yes, I could go back to work and gain more wealth but at what cost? It may not be practical for some but I think that most people don't plan their lives out very well. If you can't afford to raise your children then delay having them. I was 33 when we had our first child. We had set ourselves up for life. It boils down to personal responsibility and making the right decisions.
TheHomeschoolingmom 6 months ago
every woman I know works and are productive members of society. no matter how much you do around the house you always end up with way too much time on your hands.
GetOffMyCloud31 1 year ago
I'm a work at home Mom. I work on the internet and currently have a dayhome that I will quit when my internet business provides me with the income I require which looks like soon. YaY.
CherylWilms 1 year ago
Im been a stay at home mom, since My husband & I desided to be parents thats been 10 yrs ago. He works a full time job. My job is everything else, not kidding. I dont have a day off, never. My kids are 10, 7 & 3. I admit it, its hard at times. I have had side jobs, but nothing that I wantd to do permently. The day care was getting most of my check. Plus I dont want the daycare telling my kids something new my baby did, that happnd once, & my heart dropped. Thats something you cant get back.
lydstruckman 1 year ago
my plan after baby is to work from home - or out of the home part time - i already work from home because i wanted us to have time to adjust and see how it went ..so now when the time comes not much to change as far as that goes .
candycoatedcenter 1 year ago
Hi there! I'm new to your videos! :) Found you from Kailin Turner. I am a SAHM, and was a housewife before that. i love staying home w/ our 23 month old son!
Blessedmommy21 2 years ago
I have a video on my page about Working moms and SAHM..Check it out. I was trying to link it but I dont think it will let me unless im a friend..
THanks,
Britney
MBShrewsbury 2 years ago
I Truly believe that Stay at home or part time is best. As soon as I get my cam working I will post a video comment.
Mrsnesi08 2 years ago
if i'm lucky enough to be able to have a baby (i'm startig my 3rd iui soon), i'll def stay at home with the baby, when the child goes into school i'll get a small p/t job to work around school times xx
sexypinkfairy 2 years ago
I ended up being a stay at home mom because most of my salary would of went to daycare if I stayed working. Anyway, we really didn't want anyone else to take care of our baby. So, those factors played a role in why I am a SAHM. I plan to go back to work eventually, probably when our son is in school. I really could use the income!
brandedprincess 2 years ago
Hi! If i can be blessed enough to ever have a baby, i will stay home. With my job as a therapeutic foster parent they require one parent to stay at home with the children. But, even if i didnt do that for a job..i would try really hard to stay home with my child. But i do understand with todays economy how most women cant afford to stay at home. And also i respect those women who want to keep their careers and send their children to daycare.
redhenful 2 years ago
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I did a video response on the subject but I don't think it's been approved however if you're interested please feel free to check it out on my channel. :) My thoughts and opinions are in my vlog.
BettyLorain 2 years ago
Oh, and after suffering being a single mother with three children who suffered day care abuse- my mother remarried and had my youngest brother and vowed to stay home with him as long as she could so she wouldn't miss out on anything. She stayed home 10 months before returning to work and, even then, handed my brother over to me (he's going to be 3 soon) to take care of. If you must work due to economy, I'd check out family options first. Or church day cares, which is where my brother is now.
kimmeemee 2 years ago
Myself, my sister and one of my brothers were victims of daycare abuse, in more than one daycare. Then, as I got older and began volunteering in daycare centers, I started witnessing some pretty upsetting things. I have stayed at home, worked in home and worked, all while being completely able to keep our son out of daycare while my husband was working. We juggled shifts and it was very stressful. The one I agreed to let a close friend keep him, she messed up BIG time. I vote SAHM.
kimmeemee 2 years ago
I will have to work part time that means only 4 times a week for 4 hours a day. My husband will be taking care of the baby while I will be at work. Hope it will funtion;)
xxxxtryingmiaxxxx 2 years ago
I totally tried making a video response but, for some stupid reason YT wont let me upload anything! GURRRR!
fairyfrenchfry 2 years ago
My dh and i live on his salary and we save mines. So that I can be a stay at home mom. I can't wait for the day.
paigepeoples 2 years ago
I did a daycare in my home for 4 years, i had the same wonderful boys all that time. There are good daycares, but also bad ones. I wouldnt put my child in one, i was on the other end and seen how much parents miss out. 1 little boy took his 1st steps at my place, i knew it would hurt the mom if i told her, so i didnt. IF i ever become a mom i'll be a stay at home mommy. If i have to go back to work for $ reasons it well be evenings and weekends so my hubby could take care of the baby.
furrycomet 2 years ago
I'm so glad you shared this furry. No matter how good of a daycare it is - when you give your child up to another person to care for - you miss SO MUCH!
Elizabeth01010101 2 years ago
I agree. After my Mom left my brother in my care, he took his first steps with me. She was upset, but so happy when she came home early and he walked for her again. I couldn't imagine missing out on my son's milestones...
kimmeemee 2 years ago
Children need their mommys! Why birth a baby if you are going to hand it over to a stranger to raise? It may involve sacrifice but you can adjust your lifestyle to do this. I'm a huge believer in mom staying home with the kiddos.
Elizabeth01010101 2 years ago
I am lucky to be able to stay at home for as long as I want. But I am planning on working while TTC and durring pregnancy. We personally have not been affected by the economy...
Princessren88 2 years ago
I currently work 4 days/week and there is the ability to go down to part time. Depending on my husband's promotion schedule and how quickly we can finish paying off student loans, SAHM is achievable within 3 years.
However, we would be able to work our schedules so that the baby would be with me 4 days, my husband 2 days and my mom 1 day a week.
Since I've been a nanny and have seen the benefit of one on one parenting, we hope to avoid daycares if possible.
thebubblelush 2 years ago
That sounds like an awesome plan. I've worked for daycare centers before. There is NO way I would put my child in daycare. No no no...
Elizabeth01010101 2 years ago
Stay at home mom. :)
beezkneeezz 2 years ago
Lee makes great money and Im already a stay at home mom........ so never a discussion :)
HeavensAngel1121 2 years ago