Rubin, where is your sense of adventure? Become caught up in the action and become and every day common Soccer Hooligan and start trashing stuff and beating fans up! YOU CAN DO IT BUDDY!!! :D
Thank you so much for sharing this. I am the mom of a recently diagnosed 7-year-old Aspie, and so much of what Reuben says and does are just like my son. It is really hard to cope with his emotions and needs right now, and this gives me hope that there is light at the end of the tunnel (because this kid seems awesome). Actually, I wish I could email his mom for advice! Hahah.
The ASD scale is just that, a scale. He must be very low on the scale, many with aspergers do not have any facial expression (he smiles), they also do not noticed things, they are more likely to look at a finger pointing than what it's pointing at, but here he points himself to point out the people who are wearing jeans, most aspergers people would not do that... "I want to still be quirky" he said, it's good he's comfortable with himself, the label of 'aspergers' has helped him accept himself.
i knew and worked with someone with aspies, its true they are very alone but they are very smart, he couldnt read body language untill the person exploded, he was a very awkward and unusual person....
I really think if you have aspies you shouldnt try to be something you're not, just be yourself
It's nice to see what other people with aspergers are like. It's good he wants to stay himself. I have Aspergers but I love being around l lot of people. The bigger the crowd the better. That's just me though. I liked his old clothes better. He should have gotten contacts and grown his hair out longer, at least neck length.
@Norstomulance Yea... am not going to lie I did get a lot of girls. I mostly hang with with the other geekly girls those. And yes I do have Asspies also. I think my cast is more miild
This video disappoints me, thus, one more thumbs down for this misleading documentary, I have also taken the privileged of flagging this video for misleading text and I advise you to participate as well seeing as we all just lost seven minutes and fifty seven seconds of our time without ever witnessing the burgers he is allegedly harboring in the ass.
This is weird, my doctor told me I may have Aspergers and I'm going to see a specialist tomorrow when she described what Aspergers was it didn't seem like me at all. I watched this to find out more about it and this guy seems perfectly normal to me and I'm confused when the woman questions him like he's different... maybe I do have it
@NotToImply With asperger syndrome, you SEEM to be exactly like everyone else, except your brain works in a different way. Think of a tree. Take off some branches and that's what Asperger syndrome is like.
@NorthernerMatty123 No, not necessarily. It sounds as if you have Claustrophobia, a fear of tight and/or crowded spaces...there are many others aspects of Asperger's Syndrome. It may be co-morbid WITH Claustrophobia, but not always. It is far more complex than just being uncomfortable in tight spaces.
@NorthernerMatty123 No there is a lot more to Asperger's than not like crowds. What you might have is social anxiety. If you are worried about that you might want to talk to you doctor about it. There should also be free clinics you can go to in your town for mental health also. They will probably want to put you on pills, but try to find one that will teach you coping mechanisms first before going the medicine route. Good luck and stay strong.
i think hes a little nerdy... but in his own way a cool kid... i don't have Asperger's... but id chill with this kid n try to help him out... this kid would be the coolest kid ever if i hung out with him
@chambersgirl92 I know many kids from my town who are friends with a child "who i believe" has the syndrome. These "ollys" are very common. Surprisingly. They are great kids.
@chambersgirl92 Because he is a brilliant boy, who's just awkward. Why NOT be his friend? I don't see the burden at all, in fact, he seems like he'd be quite an interesting person to have around. Olly is kind because he CARES about his Reuben. If you don't understand that, then you obviously do not have a clear concept of friendship.
I had a friend in college-amazingly brilliant. Graduated high school @ 14 got his BA in Engineering at 17 was anticipating MIT to finish his Masters-but during his time he seemed to be unable to cope. Very nice guy but obsessed with impressing upon people how brilliant he was. Looking back now I think he may have had Asperger's.
He seems so normal.. he's still young but he's got all this support wow.. He'll be ok. I'm glad this docu is showing you don't need to be this robot/Weirdo person to have Aspergers. Took me some time and lots of reading other people's experiences to figure out my own incapabilities.
Haha at 4:38 with the jeans comment. I actually don't wear jeans because I hate how so many people wear them. Like seriously? Yeah they can be comfortable, but what's with all the blue?! Come on. I'm glad nowadays that at least black jeans are becoming common but still. Like say 1 day theres 2 people walking in the morning. Hey Fred, nice jeans. Hey you too Bob, nice jeans. Oh hey John, I like your jeans. Oh those are brand new? I couldn't even tell them apart from your other ones, oh I see.
I think it's logical to be somewhat scared of crowds. I'm not scared of them but I understand that they can get out of control and that people can get hurt. I'm just "aware" in a crowd. Reuben is very cool and interesting. He will be someone who becomes a neurosurgeon or researchers or something. I don't understand why this really needs to be considered an illness. He's gifted, not ill.
i would love to spend time with someone like him! i could teach him about the social life, and how to act with others, why etc.. teach him about Etiquette and why it is that way.. and he could learn me about how he thinks, and teach me to be logically smarter.. trade IQ vs EQ =D
Well I really like the kid, he reminds me of myself. When I was 14 I had the same struggle of fitting in and starting smoking weed and using all kinds of other substances :P It really set me free in a way! Now I`m 22 and I will quit and focussing on my study of maths and woman. By the way woman like unique men, I`m a reall lady killer now!
Good Luck , hope you find something that you excel at like becoming a top neurologist one day! You'll cope better as you get older as you'll accept yourself more and care less about what others think of you. You'll learn more about acceptable social behaviour. Funny thing about society , when you're a kid you're called Alien, wierd, different, odd. When you're an adult you're considered to be either eccentric or an expert or both! It's easier then! : )
Oh god I am now in love with this guy. I just want to be his friend and show him that he doesn't have to change a thing about himself for others to accept him.
@EnigmaDrath I´m with you. He is a funny, smart and cute. Love the fact that he doesn´t want to be like everybody else. We need more teenagers like him. What a boring life it would be if everybody was the same. You go Reuben
@JoeAuriun thats the worst part about it, people with aspergers just appear as average nerdy guys, so people just treat them like shit. i got over some of my social akwardness problems, but they obviously still persist, eye contact is hard, initiating a conversation is hard, but if u initiate one with me im ecstatic. people with aspergers appear as a normal average person who's just a bit more "rude" or "smart ass" like so they get treated like shit.
I love this kid, and I've only "known" him less than 30 minutes :) He's a very special person, and that is neither because of nor in spite of his asperger's. I wish him the best!
Man, as I watch more and more of the soccer game you can see how he stims more and more and more. A very outward expression of nervousness about the game and his excitement.
@Avitinyourface Shit like that? It is still a problem, my girlfriend says i hurt her and i can't have pleasurable sex with her because of my large penis and i don't know what to do.
Reuben you are an amazing individual! To all kids with Aspergers, know that life gets easier after you're done with secondary school! There is less social pressure. Hang in there!
@coconutponi I was thinking too how I'm almost identical to this guy, but I've never been diagnosed with it and just recently learned that people attach a label to those people who act and think very similarly to me.
I do feel as if people have picked arbitrary traits that are often found in conglomeration with each other, did a few brain scans (yada yada yada), and now it's a big deal.
Could we not do a similar thing to those people who strut like they're badasses, and with that all types?
God. This was series was painful. It reminds me so much of myself. Especially the getting ramped up and speaking really fast. I'm very aware of what makes me different. Other people may not care but it's hard to reconcile it with yourself.
I dont understand this obsession with people trying to fit in. This kid is cool, he doesn't need to dress a certain way or play certain sports to be the same as others. He's an individual and later in life people will appreciate him for being different.
The thing is, with aspergers, it's sort of like living your worst school nightmare. You know the one where you're in front of the person you're crushing on, everybody is laughing at you becuase you're in your underwear, and then the teacher explodes in rage because of it. Wanting normalcy in a life that is anything but is what he wants. And for him, it's more with trying to fit in with others.
I've always figured that kids who bully other kids have more socialization problems than kids on the spectrum.
That's just my perception of the world, anyway. When I was growing up these explanations for behavior didn't exist, and I'm not fully sure yet if I buy into them, but the proof is in the pudding: The slightly off kids that I went to school with went on to do some pretty interesting things while the bullies are still in our hometown working for thir parent's car dealership.
@djazr Average kids, don't know what to do with him for his differences to those typical kids. My 11 year old is a real cool kid, but he gets picked on for his differences. Adults recognize that he is not only bright but very cool also. It's just how it is.
@djazr What if he found drugs instead of soccer? What if he found suicide instead of shopping?
No man is an island. When he's forced to stand alone literally alienated within a sea of people ... You don't feel good. You want to fit in enough to ... be logical. Otherwise, "why be alive" ??
And how much later in life will we appreciate him? 18? 25? 60? He's Einstein but we live in a world of superficial interview processes. For every Reuben, 10 just end up sucking at life.
@djazr well u can be the smartest person in the world, but part of being successful is being able to socialize with ppl. no necessarily to make friends, but being able to tlk wit ur clients at your job, wife and kids maby etc. I already appreciate him for trying to overcome his disability. when he does im sure we will all here about him :)
In an ideal world that would maybe be great. But it is a difference if you can choose to fit in and decided you don't have to or if you are ALWAYS standing out, then it is not so fun and the option to be like everybody else is very desirable. Besides, people around us are not so sensitive all the time very day, even the nicest of us, we giggle, make funny comments or very hurtful one, or we get annoyed as we have our own stuff going on. Asperger's people get ALL THE TIME such reactions.
my name is abigail, i am 7 years old and i just found i have aspergers syndrome, my mammy told me i have it. i didn't really understand what she meant but after watching this video i learned that reuben and i are not so different. i get nervous in crowds sometimes too, and i sometimes find it dfficult to interact with other children and make friends. now i understand that i am not weird, i am special. thank you for helping me to understand myself a bit better reuben
it seems he's still trying to understand himself. he doesn't understand the simplest things about what's going on and reading body language, but that doesn't mean he's an idiot. should stop worrying about that. these people understand complex issues but not simple things. their brains are just wired differently than most people.
i read all the comments with interest, not once did someone say well done to olly for being such a good friend and i think he deserves some respect for sticking by him and doing things that would only help him to do what he would not do otherwise. you could see olly was a true friend, respect to him
honestly I respect the crap out of rueben because i to have asperger's syndrome and it is a very hard thing to deal with. i spent a good 6 years denying the fact i had it but this video has inspierd me to except it and try to better understand asperger's and learn how to over come my symptomes. so all i have to say now is thanks rueben for inspiering a fellow autistic.
@suddenlyitsobvious Well you know this is a documentary all about him and his asperger syndrome. Hence, "My Crazy Life"
And you know for a person who hangs out with no one else but spends his time doing things of HIS interest, I don't blame him for only talking about himself
Being an introvert is not about other people. It's impossible for it to be about other people. For me, being an introvert is all about trying to be unique, "different", but at the same time not going insane. It's not easy
@suddenlyitsobvious Hey, stop. He has Aspbergers, as do I. I recognize myself in his situation a bit, allthough I'm different too in many ways, I'm more social, and really enjoy being social. But this eternal who am I thing and analysing social situations...... He's not obsessed with himself, he just doesn't understand the world, and try hard to understand it......
Do you really think labelling yourself is a good idea, considering psychiatry will label ANYONE it can get its claws on?
Psychiatry's DSMIV manual is expanding like wildfire, and we live in a society that is PUSHING people to consider themselves sick or somehow disordered.
When I see how easy it is to get the Asperger label, this diagnostic really means nothing to me.
You should really check the criminal history of psychiatry: a completely unscientific sham.
...UTTERLY obsessed with himself, and no kid understands the world, or rather human society and the world of grown-ups.
What do you think puberty is all about, why are so many kids withdrawn, confused, rebellious? Because grown-up life sucks and society is controlled by evil.
Really, do yourself a favour and look into psychiatry seriously. It's all about medicalizing people and medicating them with toxic drugs. Psychiatry never points out SOCIETY is VERY messed up.
They want you to feel YOU ARE THE ONE with the problem.
EVERYBODY in society has massive issues, and people are just pretending to be 'normal' because they're terrified of falling outside the norm.
Be careful to not label yourself to easily. I know this can be tempting, because with a label you get the impression that you understand what's going on and the problem is identified. Look how happy Reuben is with his diagnostic. The REAL PROBLEM is society...
...important are the ideas and understanding one develops, the actions one undertakes.
Just trying to be different from the rest is a goal that lacks substance.
It seems pretty obvious to me that what is needed in this guy's case, is developing, CANALIZING his interests, his energy, towards something through which he can construct himself, his life. He isn't doing any such thing. He is ONLY busy with himself, and his 'difference'.
@suddenlyitsobvious Obviously you have no clue about Autism or those that have it and teenagers from what you wrote. He IS doing things with his intelligence. One of the most important things in a teens life is fitting in. His idea is to change his appearance so he doesn't "stick out" as much. He's awesome and doesn't need your approval.
Why? Because he has 'asperger'? Because he's morbidly interested in himself?
' and doesn't need your approval.'
Neither do I from you, and I prefer informative, intelligent posts from adults equipped to discuss the matter, mr. 'blowme'. You're 36, not 16. Try to behave like it. Maybe read a book once in a while?
At least his psychic energy would be able to flow somewhere where it can develop and expand, which at the present time clearly does not appear to be the case at all!
Wow, there's not A SINGLE sentence he utters that isn't about I, I, I. It's ALL about HIM. Is HE fitting in? Is HE enjoying himself? Is HE smart? Can HE do the shopping? etc etc.
Perhaps it would be a good idea if his entourage stopped talking about Asperger & got him to develop some interests so that his professed intelligence can be put to some use. He obviously needs to get occupied with something STIMULATING rather than HIMSELF.
Well, I'm happy to say I don't have a bizarre language disorder, as do you apparently, judging from your post, and FYI pinhead, 'someone with a diagnosed disorder' may perfectly well be narcissistic -supposing you are intellectually equipped to look up the meaning of this word: the one doesn't exclude the other.
Do you even know how fast countless disorders are being concocted into existence by the insane pseudo-science called psychiatry? Can you even think for yourself?
I have a friend who makes me think of Reuben and he as Asperger's Syndrome, so I have a lot of respect for him. It's also weird watching this how much I can see of myself in him, with certain mannerisms and reactions to things. I doubt that I have Aspeger's though.
I wish I had friends like this guy has that tried to help me fit in, my IQ is around the same as his as well and I also have Aspergers. So I really could use the help in the social corner as well.
@SIG442 well thanks for the offer, but eventually I will be needing someone that is there for me on long term. Aspy's can not trust anyone just like that, I am no different from that. No offence meant of course.
continuation about power: It is not likely that you can muster a really convincing yell, a powerful yell, because of some repression. It may be wise to actually practice that - its like when Mel Gibson yelled FREEDOM in Braveheart - the roar of the lion. Get the yell out of yourself...yell! Run hard on rough terraine, up and down hills - that will help with the feet thing. And again, let the girls dress you - most people have to pay for that service. Bedome a gentleman and a nobleman.
continuation about Power: If you dont have the sports gene, then don't try to fake it...but you can respect the athletes for the power. If you workout hard and tone that body, you will aquire some power, and people will respect you more. give compiments when due, and accept them nobly, not like you hunger for them. Try to understand power, like how Manmohan Singh is the most powerful man in India, yet has a humble persona - how does he do it? Faking it will not do - actually get some power.
Reuben: a clue for all Aspies and this is true of most on the autistic spectrum, is that you dont understand power. This was clearly evident when you could not understand why people would buy bags of ice cubes.Your mother did not explain the matter well at all. Its like this: if one has the excess money, which is power, then buying cubes is akin to having them made for you by a servant. Sports is about power. Let the girls dress you and determine your hair style - the old woman nor you must not.
Being a person who has been around many with Asperger's in my lifetime, I have to say I'm very impressed with this young man. He has a diagnosis, he understands where he struggles, and is trying to overcome them without compromising what makes him, well, him. Keep on fighting the good fight man, keep on challenging yourself to improve and never underestimate yourself, you certainly have a bright future ahead
i have hyperlexia but one of my strong points is body language, hyperlexia is considered to be very similar to aspergers, but honestly, i can read body language, more so than the average person can i believe, but i have all the socialising problems too and i know how tough it is, everyday its like a struggle, you see people going to school with friends, laughing away n that, going out to clubs n all tht, but me, i just would rather stay at home away from it all, i feel uncomfortable
I know the only way I can get diagnosed (with anything) is if I talk to someone, which I don't really feel eager to do, so I've been trying to compare myself to people with asperger's. The only difference I see between Reuben and myself is that he embraces his differentness much more than I do. He has a diagnosis that he can tell ppl about and I don't, so I can't make friends using that as a ice breaker. I don't have any ice breaker or tools for meeting people or keeping relationships at all.
@vampirehunter714 I see. The fact that a total stranger on the internet with presumably no training in neurology or psychology said that a person doesn't have aspergers... you know nevermind. Just. Just fuck your self.
Reuben is clearly very smart, but has some unusual mannerisms, particularly when stressed (like at the football match). He is how I can see my son turning out as he gets older (he's 7). I'm sure this young man will do well in life :)
0:17 Hold on a second, he has asperger's syndrome and there's obviously an old woman there who can hear everything he's saying and he is aware of that. Why did he shout in public?
He actually reminds me quite a bit of my boyfriend. This is great stuff!
Rjoy117 4 minutes ago
I read on wikipedia that aspergers syn. is a autism disorder.
Autism my ass, asperger's not only sounds like ass burgers, but it also seems like a something thats used to describe genius'
DarthBane123 2 days ago
He is cool :)
yeskamaniaca 1 week ago
@Cataclysmize stupid, he's very intelligent. I'd love to be his best friend.
darthgabriel97 1 week ago
hes really gay
Cataclysmize 1 week ago
is there a particular reason theres a clip of him jumping? seriously, I would like to know, thanks
lifeforce109 1 month ago
5:20 made me smile alot reminded me of times i first went out of my norms to a concert :P
lovemetal2010 1 month ago
i have AS and for some reason people assume that people with aspergers don't get girls trust me they do ;)
lovemetal2010 1 month ago
Rubin, where is your sense of adventure? Become caught up in the action and become and every day common Soccer Hooligan and start trashing stuff and beating fans up! YOU CAN DO IT BUDDY!!! :D
outbackautomotive 1 month ago
Thank you so much for sharing this. I am the mom of a recently diagnosed 7-year-old Aspie, and so much of what Reuben says and does are just like my son. It is really hard to cope with his emotions and needs right now, and this gives me hope that there is light at the end of the tunnel (because this kid seems awesome). Actually, I wish I could email his mom for advice! Hahah.
joliara 1 month ago
i wonder if reuben prefers hanging out with girls like i do? (i have aspergers too)
kallemick 1 month ago
0:15 HAIIIIIIIIIII!!!!!!111
SirCumAlot605 1 month ago
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SirCumAlot605 1 month ago
lol when he's like 'we scored a goal, la la la la la la'
bsphailness08 1 month ago 2
Dose'nt Reuben look like that bloke who used to be on The Big Breakfast?
DANWOODHOUSE 1 month ago
he kinda looks like a young lennon...
msredmy 1 month ago 12
The ASD scale is just that, a scale. He must be very low on the scale, many with aspergers do not have any facial expression (he smiles), they also do not noticed things, they are more likely to look at a finger pointing than what it's pointing at, but here he points himself to point out the people who are wearing jeans, most aspergers people would not do that... "I want to still be quirky" he said, it's good he's comfortable with himself, the label of 'aspergers' has helped him accept himself.
Elibobbob 2 months ago
YOU ARE AWESOME JUST THE WAY YOU ARE
flyigirl57 2 months ago 2
i knew and worked with someone with aspies, its true they are very alone but they are very smart, he couldnt read body language untill the person exploded, he was a very awkward and unusual person....
I really think if you have aspies you shouldnt try to be something you're not, just be yourself
Fayejealousy 2 months ago
It's nice to see what other people with aspergers are like. It's good he wants to stay himself. I have Aspergers but I love being around l lot of people. The bigger the crowd the better. That's just me though. I liked his old clothes better. He should have gotten contacts and grown his hair out longer, at least neck length.
tiffanychand 2 months ago
Wants good fashion
Doesn't buy a cape
your34mum 3 months ago
Asspie's get all the bitches
Norstomulance 3 months ago
@Norstomulance can't thumb up your comment enough.
nashvilleraidersfan 2 months ago
@Norstomulance Yea... am not going to lie I did get a lot of girls. I mostly hang with with the other geekly girls those. And yes I do have Asspies also. I think my cast is more miild
those.
InsanePalmNinja 2 months ago
This video disappoints me, thus, one more thumbs down for this misleading documentary, I have also taken the privileged of flagging this video for misleading text and I advise you to participate as well seeing as we all just lost seven minutes and fifty seven seconds of our time without ever witnessing the burgers he is allegedly harboring in the ass.
THAT1ANONYMOUSDUDE 3 months ago
This is weird, my doctor told me I may have Aspergers and I'm going to see a specialist tomorrow when she described what Aspergers was it didn't seem like me at all. I watched this to find out more about it and this guy seems perfectly normal to me and I'm confused when the woman questions him like he's different... maybe I do have it
NotToImply 4 months ago
@NotToImply With asperger syndrome, you SEEM to be exactly like everyone else, except your brain works in a different way. Think of a tree. Take off some branches and that's what Asperger syndrome is like.
xTwilightWolvesx 3 months ago
@xTwilightWolvesx They don't seem exactly like everyone else at all...
3255905 2 months ago
Does anyone know if OCPD is a (slight) form of Asperger's?
zoey1912 4 months ago
@zoey1912 i dont think it is, but ocpd can be a part of aspergers,but if thats all u have i dont think so,.i have aspergers
evade531 4 months ago
@evade531 Thanks for letting me know....according to my doc I only have strong ocpd tendencies, with depression, and anxiety...
zoey1912 4 months ago
i don't understand why he wants to "fit in" he needs to understand when you grow up that does not matter just march to your own trumpet :3
meowey55 4 months ago
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NorthernerMatty123 4 months ago
@NorthernerMatty123 No, not necessarily. It sounds as if you have Claustrophobia, a fear of tight and/or crowded spaces...there are many others aspects of Asperger's Syndrome. It may be co-morbid WITH Claustrophobia, but not always. It is far more complex than just being uncomfortable in tight spaces.
BlackLeatherSoul 4 months ago
@NorthernerMatty123 No there is a lot more to Asperger's than not like crowds. What you might have is social anxiety. If you are worried about that you might want to talk to you doctor about it. There should also be free clinics you can go to in your town for mental health also. They will probably want to put you on pills, but try to find one that will teach you coping mechanisms first before going the medicine route. Good luck and stay strong.
TheFerret78 3 months ago
BULLYING People = bully in jail no questions asked
KaiserVadin 4 months ago
i think hes a little nerdy... but in his own way a cool kid... i don't have Asperger's... but id chill with this kid n try to help him out... this kid would be the coolest kid ever if i hung out with him
GreenTeaLSD 4 months ago
@GreenTeaLSD y u so big headded and tw aperger's makes him nerdey
ghosts2kewl 3 months ago
ahh, I really love this documentary, I just wish it was longer! it's too short isn't it?
violinist881 4 months ago
WHAT IS "WRONG" WITH HIS CLOTHES? THE CLOTHES THAT THOSE GIRLS MADE HIM BUY ARE HORRID. FUCKING CHAVS.
ReiK0Z 4 months ago
Loved this documentary :)
zombiehuntergurl 4 months ago
@chambersgirl92 I know many kids from my town who are friends with a child "who i believe" has the syndrome. These "ollys" are very common. Surprisingly. They are great kids.
UnstableCore 5 months ago
This has been flagged as spam show
skinny blonde and fat brunette at 1:00 helping the kid with assburgers
saltheboy 5 months ago
This has been flagged as spam show
the assburgers population is gradually expanding
saltheboy 5 months ago
@chambersgirl92 Because he is a brilliant boy, who's just awkward. Why NOT be his friend? I don't see the burden at all, in fact, he seems like he'd be quite an interesting person to have around. Olly is kind because he CARES about his Reuben. If you don't understand that, then you obviously do not have a clear concept of friendship.
peoplecallmeagoth 5 months ago
I had a friend in college-amazingly brilliant. Graduated high school @ 14 got his BA in Engineering at 17 was anticipating MIT to finish his Masters-but during his time he seemed to be unable to cope. Very nice guy but obsessed with impressing upon people how brilliant he was. Looking back now I think he may have had Asperger's.
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There's no such thing as a BA in Engineering.
ryanmichaelhaley 5 months ago
This guy will have An. Amazing future o..o
SLtempe 5 months ago
THE WEATHER AND THE SAME COLOUR HOUSES IS TO BLAME
by the way olly is cute :P
Dreameatertv 5 months ago
He seems so normal.. he's still young but he's got all this support wow.. He'll be ok. I'm glad this docu is showing you don't need to be this robot/Weirdo person to have Aspergers. Took me some time and lots of reading other people's experiences to figure out my own incapabilities.
monstertruckess 5 months ago
Haha at 4:38 with the jeans comment. I actually don't wear jeans because I hate how so many people wear them. Like seriously? Yeah they can be comfortable, but what's with all the blue?! Come on. I'm glad nowadays that at least black jeans are becoming common but still. Like say 1 day theres 2 people walking in the morning. Hey Fred, nice jeans. Hey you too Bob, nice jeans. Oh hey John, I like your jeans. Oh those are brand new? I couldn't even tell them apart from your other ones, oh I see.
GJliz 5 months ago
I wanna be friends with this guy.
GJliz 5 months ago
I think it's logical to be somewhat scared of crowds. I'm not scared of them but I understand that they can get out of control and that people can get hurt. I'm just "aware" in a crowd. Reuben is very cool and interesting. He will be someone who becomes a neurosurgeon or researchers or something. I don't understand why this really needs to be considered an illness. He's gifted, not ill.
MrsSarb 5 months ago
i love you.. thank you for posting your video.. you have helped me feel better..
ThePrrstar 5 months ago
Why does he want to be one of the regular jackasses?
Somethingproductable 5 months ago 3
i would love to spend time with someone like him! i could teach him about the social life, and how to act with others, why etc.. teach him about Etiquette and why it is that way.. and he could learn me about how he thinks, and teach me to be logically smarter.. trade IQ vs EQ =D
oaaserud 6 months ago
He's a lovely guy. I predict he will do well in life - get to uni, then get a job he likes and marry. Good luck to him!
jazproductions100 6 months ago
Well I really like the kid, he reminds me of myself. When I was 14 I had the same struggle of fitting in and starting smoking weed and using all kinds of other substances :P It really set me free in a way! Now I`m 22 and I will quit and focussing on my study of maths and woman. By the way woman like unique men, I`m a reall lady killer now!
Pimp88z 6 months ago
Good Luck , hope you find something that you excel at like becoming a top neurologist one day! You'll cope better as you get older as you'll accept yourself more and care less about what others think of you. You'll learn more about acceptable social behaviour. Funny thing about society , when you're a kid you're called Alien, wierd, different, odd. When you're an adult you're considered to be either eccentric or an expert or both! It's easier then! : )
lynnemum58 6 months ago
Aspergers or just homosexual?
mizsigzLLR 6 months ago
Oh god I am now in love with this guy. I just want to be his friend and show him that he doesn't have to change a thing about himself for others to accept him.
Good luck, Reuben!
EnigmaDrath 7 months ago 44
@EnigmaDrath I´m with you. He is a funny, smart and cute. Love the fact that he doesn´t want to be like everybody else. We need more teenagers like him. What a boring life it would be if everybody was the same. You go Reuben
TheVidesi 1 month ago in playlist Ausburgers
Just seems like any average nerdy guy.
JoeAuriun 7 months ago
@JoeAuriun thats the worst part about it, people with aspergers just appear as average nerdy guys, so people just treat them like shit. i got over some of my social akwardness problems, but they obviously still persist, eye contact is hard, initiating a conversation is hard, but if u initiate one with me im ecstatic. people with aspergers appear as a normal average person who's just a bit more "rude" or "smart ass" like so they get treated like shit.
cabot2jville2010 6 months ago
@JoeAuriun thats what people say about me & i have Aspergers 2
723PanTera 6 months ago
All British people are like this guy to a certain extent.
MrCubanLincoln 7 months ago
This is a good video.It really helps explain how aspie feels and why getting on is important.
tedibhear 7 months ago
thank you this was very helpfull :)
ikillseals 7 months ago
Faaaaaascinating
papatoony 7 months ago
He really does look like an Anime Character . xD
TheHannah789 7 months ago
We scored a goalll. la la la laaa lalalaaa.
dashowest00 7 months ago
I like Reuben, he reminds me a lot of my brother, (He has aspergers as well)
lanbo28 7 months ago
Are they sure he's not just gay? Haha lol.
jetembrasse 7 months ago
@jetembrasse Leave Reuben alone! He is not gay!
ixtoothint 7 months ago
Damn his old gear made him look like an Anime character ... it was bad ass
thewhulk 7 months ago 26
very charming young man
nikkilemieux 7 months ago
I love this kid, and I've only "known" him less than 30 minutes :) He's a very special person, and that is neither because of nor in spite of his asperger's. I wish him the best!
Thanks so much for these three videos.
LunaGer 8 months ago
Man, as I watch more and more of the soccer game you can see how he stims more and more and more. A very outward expression of nervousness about the game and his excitement.
Kyu7 8 months ago 2
See how he is stimming at 4:57 ?
Kyu7 8 months ago
what happen to your teeth
WatchinVide0 8 months ago
@WatchinVide0 how shallow can you get? damn...
MrPresidentToBe 8 months ago
@MrPresidentToBe you obviously have no idea what shallow means, so much for a president-wanna-be
WatchinVide0 8 months ago
just because u have aspergers it doesnt mean ur an idiot
cooldude22032 8 months ago
I'm allways surpired to the general dumbness of comments and how rude and mean people can be. xD
warmsteel 8 months ago
@warmsteel Me too me too..its quite sad really. but this kids story has done a lot for me. :)
ShyGirLovesTecH 8 months ago
This faggot needs to stop making excuses.
RabTroIIsYou 9 months ago
@RabTroIIsYou Get a new hobby. There are better ways of develop confidence. Give self-delusion a shot.
markthe5hark8 8 months ago
@Avitinyourface Shit like that? It is still a problem, my girlfriend says i hurt her and i can't have pleasurable sex with her because of my large penis and i don't know what to do.
Roflmeat 9 months ago
Reuben you are an amazing individual! To all kids with Aspergers, know that life gets easier after you're done with secondary school! There is less social pressure. Hang in there!
Pitah7 9 months ago 3
I wish I had pals to pick out my clothes for me D:
livingsocks 10 months ago
Hope you're getting on well Reuben and best wishes through your life.
ubking777 10 months ago
his blonde friend is hot as fuck, i bet he makes her so wet.
coldironhands1 10 months ago
Awesome Keane song at the end!
derekxnl 10 months ago
I have a huge penis.
Roflmeat 10 months ago
@Roflmeat congratulations, good for you
YOUmarshallTUBE 9 months ago
This boy with aspergers is EXACTLY how aspergers affects me and how I feel about it.
coconutponi 10 months ago 57
@coconutponi same!
cash082 10 months ago
@coconutponi - Yes 95% sure I must have Asperger's after watching this I've suspected it for a long time
accesser 8 months ago
@coconutponi I was thinking too how I'm almost identical to this guy, but I've never been diagnosed with it and just recently learned that people attach a label to those people who act and think very similarly to me.
I do feel as if people have picked arbitrary traits that are often found in conglomeration with each other, did a few brain scans (yada yada yada), and now it's a big deal.
Could we not do a similar thing to those people who strut like they're badasses, and with that all types?
TwistedLemniscate 8 months ago
@coconutponi I agree.
kylecoriza 6 months ago
God. This was series was painful. It reminds me so much of myself. Especially the getting ramped up and speaking really fast. I'm very aware of what makes me different. Other people may not care but it's hard to reconcile it with yourself.
Seris33 10 months ago
@Seris33 same
cash082 10 months ago
@Seris33 indeed
ubking777 10 months ago
I dont understand this obsession with people trying to fit in. This kid is cool, he doesn't need to dress a certain way or play certain sports to be the same as others. He's an individual and later in life people will appreciate him for being different.
djazr 10 months ago 75
@djazr But at the moment he's really going to be excluded.
lennic95 8 months ago
@djazr
The thing is, with aspergers, it's sort of like living your worst school nightmare. You know the one where you're in front of the person you're crushing on, everybody is laughing at you becuase you're in your underwear, and then the teacher explodes in rage because of it. Wanting normalcy in a life that is anything but is what he wants. And for him, it's more with trying to fit in with others.
GaaraBabyEater 7 months ago
@djazr
I've always figured that kids who bully other kids have more socialization problems than kids on the spectrum.
That's just my perception of the world, anyway. When I was growing up these explanations for behavior didn't exist, and I'm not fully sure yet if I buy into them, but the proof is in the pudding: The slightly off kids that I went to school with went on to do some pretty interesting things while the bullies are still in our hometown working for thir parent's car dealership.
lesterclaypool1 7 months ago
@djazr It's called peer pressure.
HarryPotter87 6 months ago
@djazr Average kids, don't know what to do with him for his differences to those typical kids. My 11 year old is a real cool kid, but he gets picked on for his differences. Adults recognize that he is not only bright but very cool also. It's just how it is.
mizbrowneyes13 5 months ago
@djazr What if he found drugs instead of soccer? What if he found suicide instead of shopping?
No man is an island. When he's forced to stand alone literally alienated within a sea of people ... You don't feel good. You want to fit in enough to ... be logical. Otherwise, "why be alive" ??
And how much later in life will we appreciate him? 18? 25? 60? He's Einstein but we live in a world of superficial interview processes. For every Reuben, 10 just end up sucking at life.
sketch2k 5 months ago
@djazr well u can be the smartest person in the world, but part of being successful is being able to socialize with ppl. no necessarily to make friends, but being able to tlk wit ur clients at your job, wife and kids maby etc. I already appreciate him for trying to overcome his disability. when he does im sure we will all here about him :)
yongsta210 5 months ago
@djazr don't be naive.
RasLevi 4 months ago
In an ideal world that would maybe be great. But it is a difference if you can choose to fit in and decided you don't have to or if you are ALWAYS standing out, then it is not so fun and the option to be like everybody else is very desirable. Besides, people around us are not so sensitive all the time very day, even the nicest of us, we giggle, make funny comments or very hurtful one, or we get annoyed as we have our own stuff going on. Asperger's people get ALL THE TIME such reactions.
Joandthefish 4 months ago
@djazr But until then it sucks to be bullied constantly
WeDealxoxCamisado 4 months ago
What is the song at the end? it sounds so familiar...and awesome
poppyseed1000 11 months ago
seriously i hate it when people bully people because there different i t pisses me off.
deathsrival1 11 months ago
my name is abigail, i am 7 years old and i just found i have aspergers syndrome, my mammy told me i have it. i didn't really understand what she meant but after watching this video i learned that reuben and i are not so different. i get nervous in crowds sometimes too, and i sometimes find it dfficult to interact with other children and make friends. now i understand that i am not weird, i am special. thank you for helping me to understand myself a bit better reuben
MsPookywooky 11 months ago
it seems he's still trying to understand himself. he doesn't understand the simplest things about what's going on and reading body language, but that doesn't mean he's an idiot. should stop worrying about that. these people understand complex issues but not simple things. their brains are just wired differently than most people.
dhom100 11 months ago
I love Ruben
Antonomfg 11 months ago
he's doing better than me and i have nothing wrong with me (that i know of)..he gets to hangout with cute girls at least
gottspieler 11 months ago
i read all the comments with interest, not once did someone say well done to olly for being such a good friend and i think he deserves some respect for sticking by him and doing things that would only help him to do what he would not do otherwise. you could see olly was a true friend, respect to him
huntingracer 11 months ago 7
honestly I respect the crap out of rueben because i to have asperger's syndrome and it is a very hard thing to deal with. i spent a good 6 years denying the fact i had it but this video has inspierd me to except it and try to better understand asperger's and learn how to over come my symptomes. so all i have to say now is thanks rueben for inspiering a fellow autistic.
lilgreengiant 11 months ago
The fact that Aspergers cannot be "seen" is shitty. These kids with this syndrome get bullied for not understanding people. It's fucking shitty.
larsen550 11 months ago 3
@suddenlyitsobvious Well you know this is a documentary all about him and his asperger syndrome. Hence, "My Crazy Life"
And you know for a person who hangs out with no one else but spends his time doing things of HIS interest, I don't blame him for only talking about himself
Being an introvert is not about other people. It's impossible for it to be about other people. For me, being an introvert is all about trying to be unique, "different", but at the same time not going insane. It's not easy
thingstodo645 11 months ago
@thingstodo645
' but spends his time doing things of HIS interest, I don't blame him for only talking about himself'
Things of his interest? Like what? I haven't seen ONE THING in this documentary that interests him except himself.
'Introversion' is just another label. Face it: the guy is morbidly obsessed with himself. THAT's the problem.
There's no point in TRYING to be 'different'. An identity that is solely based on the wish to be 'different' lacks an essence. What's...
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@suddenlyitsobvious Hey, stop. He has Aspbergers, as do I. I recognize myself in his situation a bit, allthough I'm different too in many ways, I'm more social, and really enjoy being social. But this eternal who am I thing and analysing social situations...... He's not obsessed with himself, he just doesn't understand the world, and try hard to understand it......
warmsteel 8 months ago
@warmsteel
Do you really think labelling yourself is a good idea, considering psychiatry will label ANYONE it can get its claws on?
Psychiatry's DSMIV manual is expanding like wildfire, and we live in a society that is PUSHING people to consider themselves sick or somehow disordered.
When I see how easy it is to get the Asperger label, this diagnostic really means nothing to me.
You should really check the criminal history of psychiatry: a completely unscientific sham.
Yes he IS...
suddenlyitsobvious 8 months ago
@warmsteel
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...UTTERLY obsessed with himself, and no kid understands the world, or rather human society and the world of grown-ups.
What do you think puberty is all about, why are so many kids withdrawn, confused, rebellious? Because grown-up life sucks and society is controlled by evil.
Really, do yourself a favour and look into psychiatry seriously. It's all about medicalizing people and medicating them with toxic drugs. Psychiatry never points out SOCIETY is VERY messed up.
suddenlyitsobvious 8 months ago
@warmsteel
(3)
They want you to feel YOU ARE THE ONE with the problem.
EVERYBODY in society has massive issues, and people are just pretending to be 'normal' because they're terrified of falling outside the norm.
Be careful to not label yourself to easily. I know this can be tempting, because with a label you get the impression that you understand what's going on and the problem is identified. Look how happy Reuben is with his diagnostic. The REAL PROBLEM is society...
suddenlyitsobvious 8 months ago
@thingstodo645
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...important are the ideas and understanding one develops, the actions one undertakes.
Just trying to be different from the rest is a goal that lacks substance.
It seems pretty obvious to me that what is needed in this guy's case, is developing, CANALIZING his interests, his energy, towards something through which he can construct himself, his life. He isn't doing any such thing. He is ONLY busy with himself, and his 'difference'.
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@thingstodo645
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I'm not 'blaming' him for it, but merely pointing out that his obvious self-obsession is useless, counterproductive & morbid.
I've heard the entire doc how intelligent he is, and have hear him utter NOT A SINGLE INTELLIGENT THING. NOTHING. He's doing NOTHING with it.
Why not spend all that time doing chemical experiments or getting up to speed in the area of quantum physics fi?
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@suddenlyitsobvious Obviously you have no clue about Autism or those that have it and teenagers from what you wrote. He IS doing things with his intelligence. One of the most important things in a teens life is fitting in. His idea is to change his appearance so he doesn't "stick out" as much. He's awesome and doesn't need your approval.
blowme6325 10 months ago
@blowme6325
' Obviously you have no clue about Autism or those that have it and teenagers from what you wrote.'
You think so?
' He IS doing things with his intelligence'
As I said: obsessing about himself and being exstatic about his psychiatric diagnosis.
'His idea is to change his appearance so he doesn't "stick out" as much'
Thank you for this 'in-depth' 'analysis' that however doesn't exclude or invalidate my observation about his massive narcissism whatsoever.
suddenlyitsobvious 10 months ago
@suddenlyitsobvious it sounds like you consider massive narcissism to be a bad thing
YOUmarshallTUBE 9 months ago
@suddenlyitsobvious maybe you have heard of this condition, hmmm, yes!, ..., puberty, that s how they call it
YOUmarshallTUBE 9 months ago
@YOUmarshallTUBE
I infer that you consider:
1.massive narcissism is a good thing
2.all pubescent kids are of necessity massively narcissistic.
Nice views!
Basically what you are saying is that you can't connect with kids.
suddenlyitsobvious 9 months ago
@suddenlyitsobvious sorry, that is not exactly what i was trying to say, what i ment is that all people are massively narcissistic.
try to think about that and you will see i am right.
and if not...
whatever
YOUmarshallTUBE 9 months ago
@blowme6325
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'He's awesome'
Why? Because he has 'asperger'? Because he's morbidly interested in himself?
' and doesn't need your approval.'
Neither do I from you, and I prefer informative, intelligent posts from adults equipped to discuss the matter, mr. 'blowme'. You're 36, not 16. Try to behave like it. Maybe read a book once in a while?
suddenlyitsobvious 10 months ago
@thingstodo645
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At least his psychic energy would be able to flow somewhere where it can develop and expand, which at the present time clearly does not appear to be the case at all!
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
Wow, there's not A SINGLE sentence he utters that isn't about I, I, I. It's ALL about HIM. Is HE fitting in? Is HE enjoying himself? Is HE smart? Can HE do the shopping? etc etc.
He's completely narcissistically, egotistically obsessed.
Perhaps it would be a good idea if his entourage stopped talking about Asperger & got him to develop some interests so that his professed intelligence can be put to some use. He obviously needs to get occupied with something STIMULATING rather than HIMSELF.
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
@suddenlyitsobvious his freidns are helping him develop. he ain't narcissictic, u might be or thinkiong someone with a diagnosed disorder is.
The420Northwest 11 months ago
@The420Northwest
Well, I'm happy to say I don't have a bizarre language disorder, as do you apparently, judging from your post, and FYI pinhead, 'someone with a diagnosed disorder' may perfectly well be narcissistic -supposing you are intellectually equipped to look up the meaning of this word: the one doesn't exclude the other.
Do you even know how fast countless disorders are being concocted into existence by the insane pseudo-science called psychiatry? Can you even think for yourself?
suddenlyitsobvious 11 months ago
Not much of a fashion sense.. hah. I have to admit I rather like that scarf.
uzaiyaro 11 months ago
I have a friend who makes me think of Reuben and he as Asperger's Syndrome, so I have a lot of respect for him. It's also weird watching this how much I can see of myself in him, with certain mannerisms and reactions to things. I doubt that I have Aspeger's though.
TinselFairy 11 months ago
I wish I had friends like this guy has that tried to help me fit in, my IQ is around the same as his as well and I also have Aspergers. So I really could use the help in the social corner as well.
SIG442 11 months ago 2
@SIG442 well thanks for the offer, but eventually I will be needing someone that is there for me on long term. Aspy's can not trust anyone just like that, I am no different from that. No offence meant of course.
SIG442 11 months ago
Curious Incident Of the Dog In the Night Time. Excellent book about an asperger syndrome kid. highly recommend it to anyone
TruAzn100 11 months ago 2
continuation about power: It is not likely that you can muster a really convincing yell, a powerful yell, because of some repression. It may be wise to actually practice that - its like when Mel Gibson yelled FREEDOM in Braveheart - the roar of the lion. Get the yell out of yourself...yell! Run hard on rough terraine, up and down hills - that will help with the feet thing. And again, let the girls dress you - most people have to pay for that service. Bedome a gentleman and a nobleman.
rh001YT 11 months ago
continuation about Power: If you dont have the sports gene, then don't try to fake it...but you can respect the athletes for the power. If you workout hard and tone that body, you will aquire some power, and people will respect you more. give compiments when due, and accept them nobly, not like you hunger for them. Try to understand power, like how Manmohan Singh is the most powerful man in India, yet has a humble persona - how does he do it? Faking it will not do - actually get some power.
rh001YT 11 months ago
Reuben: a clue for all Aspies and this is true of most on the autistic spectrum, is that you dont understand power. This was clearly evident when you could not understand why people would buy bags of ice cubes.Your mother did not explain the matter well at all. Its like this: if one has the excess money, which is power, then buying cubes is akin to having them made for you by a servant. Sports is about power. Let the girls dress you and determine your hair style - the old woman nor you must not.
rh001YT 11 months ago
Being a person who has been around many with Asperger's in my lifetime, I have to say I'm very impressed with this young man. He has a diagnosis, he understands where he struggles, and is trying to overcome them without compromising what makes him, well, him. Keep on fighting the good fight man, keep on challenging yourself to improve and never underestimate yourself, you certainly have a bright future ahead
trm10111 1 year ago
i have hyperlexia but one of my strong points is body language, hyperlexia is considered to be very similar to aspergers, but honestly, i can read body language, more so than the average person can i believe, but i have all the socialising problems too and i know how tough it is, everyday its like a struggle, you see people going to school with friends, laughing away n that, going out to clubs n all tht, but me, i just would rather stay at home away from it all, i feel uncomfortable
Brady2k10 1 year ago
God bless you, Rueben
raider2661 1 year ago
I know the only way I can get diagnosed (with anything) is if I talk to someone, which I don't really feel eager to do, so I've been trying to compare myself to people with asperger's. The only difference I see between Reuben and myself is that he embraces his differentness much more than I do. He has a diagnosis that he can tell ppl about and I don't, so I can't make friends using that as a ice breaker. I don't have any ice breaker or tools for meeting people or keeping relationships at all.
WAKEUPshift111 1 year ago
this guy is a PLAYA!
americanGTA 1 year ago
I got my official Diagnosis yesterday :)
caberwacky 1 year ago
@vampirehunter714 I see. The fact that a total stranger on the internet with presumably no training in neurology or psychology said that a person doesn't have aspergers... you know nevermind. Just. Just fuck your self.
Aepotheosis 1 year ago
@Aepotheosis Well said! :)
kriskahn21 1 year ago
Reuben is clearly very smart, but has some unusual mannerisms, particularly when stressed (like at the football match). He is how I can see my son turning out as he gets older (he's 7). I'm sure this young man will do well in life :)
starlaeuropa 1 year ago
0:17 Hold on a second, he has asperger's syndrome and there's obviously an old woman there who can hear everything he's saying and he is aware of that. Why did he shout in public?
caberwacky 1 year ago
@caberwacky Some people with asperger's have a problem with speaking too loud.
20Gabby11 1 year ago
he just needs to take a few tips from the asperger master Christian Weston Chandler. He has vids on youtube.
freedomfriestastebad 1 year ago
Arrrr how cute is he, I'd so be his friend. We'd get on well cos I don't like crowds and have a similar personality
zarabow 1 year ago
That little smirk he gives at the end is SOOO cute. Gosh, this boy is adorable. I would totally date him! :D
chochibo 1 year ago
he needs to cut his hair really bad x
somethingblue22 1 year ago
good luck ,wishing you lots of success -Know youll do well ,thanks for sharing!!
yankieism 1 year ago
Great little show - I hope Reuben went on and got everything he wanted.
kateling32 1 year ago
Reuben seems like a really nice and genuine kid from this, more so than a lot of the 'normal' people I've seen.
hearthebutterflies 1 year ago 3