It would be so much simper if the couple getting married would invest their money in their future instead of throwing it away at such outrageous and extravagant events.
Salaam. I'm not a desi but my culture has brought up a society to pride big weddings too. I guess people around the world are faced with a lot of challenges that made them choose between good and bad. But to make things worse, we aren't made aware of these choices except those who have dedicated their lives to study the Noble Book of Allah, Al-Quran, and the Sunnahs of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW).
Masha Allah a very good explanation of an Islamic wedding, Islam is simple and wants us to do all the occasions of the life in simplicity... may Allah bless bro Noman
@armanijared Are you another one of those "born-again" Western raised Muslims who comes with a self-righteous attitude even towards their own parents who are "jaahil" in the deen?????
@VEVOsucksDicks I am one of those Muslims who simply wishes to see more weddings that DON'T empty out people's pockets and focus solely on material things, but more so the meaning behind getting married. What is wrong with the idea of adhering to the Sunnah, especially when it comes to something as monumental as a wedding? EVERY aspect of life should be followed in adherence to the deen, and I don't feel sorry calling out those who end up doing more harm than good with elaborate weddings.
@armanijared Hey i have a question...Are the so called "Islamic weddings" sunnah or are the an innovation? The ones where you get the sheikh to sign you into some doctrine and then people will start throwing the parties. Simple answer please.
@armanijared Im not pakistani i dont know what Nikkah is. Im talking about an Islamic doctrine. Did the Prophet Muhammad(pbuh) get married in a certain way ? Like in a masjid?
@The100black100 You don't have to be Pakistani to know what a Nikkah is, it's a word in Arabic. And I don't know details about his (pbuh) marriages. All I know is what Islam teaches, which is backed up with daleel (Islamic proofs, ie: Qur'an and ahadeeth). You should take your question to a scholar. What I can tell you that all you need to be married in Islam is a Nikkah (marriage contract).
@TheLaig88 whatever your worries, turn to Allah (swt) with full belief that you may rise from His challenge to you. Know that He loves his creation and know that your Muslim brothers and sisters quake for you.
@TheLaig88 Just say Alhamdulillah! You can't imagine how short this life is. Look at our beloved prophet Muhammad S.A.W. who on many occasions didn't have food for days. Yes its not easy in situations like yours but be patient and inshAllah things will be good!
I'm supposed 2 get married soon and it's already driving me nuts cuz' I don't want professional photographers and cameramen at my wedding, I don't wanna book the most expensive beauty saloon just to throw away thousands of rupees on make up that's gonna be washed off in a few hours, I don't want my family to buy expensive furniture, matching drapes and a flat screen T.V to adorn my future bed room all in the name of "jahez" but how do I convince others?
He is sooooooo right! Me and my husband had to starve ourselves for almost 2 years after our wedding to pay off our credit card bills that had been used crazily to meet up family expectations and status war!
its easier said than done!!!! subhanallah, i want a very peaceful , calm wedding , but you know, i have to convince my mother, my mother in-law and my future husband's relative to throw a small wedding.... its my words against theirs,,, and i have to succumb.... i know this is what usually happens... May ALLAH HELP US AND (THOSE CLOSE TO US) MAKE THE RIGHT DECISIONS... AMIN!
@TheLaig88 i.A Allah will make it all better for you and for your family. He's putting through a test, maybe. Don't lose iman... you can lose everything but if you still have iman... everything will be ok in the end. And if not in this life... then in the hereafter.
Muhammad SAW said that if one of you were to put his finger in the ocean, and take it out... then the amount of water left on your finger is the WORLD (dunya) compared to the Hereafter (referring to the ocean).
i got married by taking public transit (local subway train) with my fiance. no kidding. we have ZERO debt! it ain't magic! we sacrifice a lot in life but that gives us peace. no worries. life is good alhamdulillah ;)
I was suppose to get married few years ago. My parents and the guy (the guy i was suppose to marry) got into huge arguments over having a huge after the nikah. My parents wanted a luxurious wedding. The guys family wanted the wedding done simple. At the end everyone fought over the Wedding celebration and everything was cancelled. We should always remember everything in this world is temporary. We shouldn't make things complicated. ALLAH's guidance is simple.
Masallah brother Khan. May Allah swt bless you for all your nice words. I am almost 28 and this is my nr 1 reason I still don't got married. Just too much money, too much marriage rituals, too much of everything and I ended up I don't want to marry cuz of all this kind of stuff. O Allah please help...
Everyone should be wise enough to suit their pocket. If someone has been blessed with financial ease, they should spend it likewise.. but if someone does not then they should not strain themselves with what Brother Nauman is saying..
I think the cheaper the marriage, the better. That way, the couple and their families can save and reserve money for emergencies or difficult situations (accidents, medical conditions, etc.). I don't think there is a need to look the best on the day of your marriage. What is important is that the marriage goes on smoothly. I mean, who are you dressing up for? You should only beautify yourselves to your spouse, not other people.
While getting married in a bloody apron may be "simple" it's not a practical solution. Islam is beautiful and you have to present yourself beautifully. There is nothing wrong in adjusting to your social standing, but what is needed is moderation and understanding what you can afford. People get married once (mostly) and you have to save for it, and do it within your means. But giving impractical advice like dressing in a blood stained apron for your nikah takes away from the message.
@bdcaptain He didn't advise anyone to get married in a bloody apron. He was simply giving an extreme example to open people's eyes up to the fact that a wedding can be a very simple affair. Which is something that a lot of people clearly don't understand.
@MrStartingGun it's a bad example to give. The Prophet, even if not dressed in rich clothes, was always smartly dressed, and getting married in a bloody apron would never be OK. Muslims are supposed to dress smartly even if it's a simple dress. And which girl would like her husband in a bloody apron? In Islam you have to take care of your spouse and her feelings as well. Wrong, wrong, wrong example to give.
@bdcaptain You're right, but I think you should give some benefit of the doubt to the speaker. He was simply sharing a story that stands out in his memory. Sometimes when you give a speech, you don't remember to qualify every statement you make. You don't always remember to say "of course I'm not recommending you wear a bloody apron." You sometimes assume (perhaps incorrectly) that the crowd gets your point. (By the way, he didn't say that the guy wore the apron during the nikah.)
I have attended an English wedding recently and it was so simple they went to this registrar office signed some papers come back to home had a dinner and everyone left, no show off at all no heavy gold jewelry, no furniture trade this is what we suppose to do, Insha’Allah I will not put burden on my in-laws and on my parents and get married according to Sharia
how many of you already knew this??? all you people do is just talk. if you like to talk so much why not just have a wedding in court or in the mosque. i want to see how many of you will be doing that.
i want all of you to make a youtube video of the weddings that happen in your own households--and then come back and bash me. yes u should have fun but i never said that you have to spend all your money.
I am surprise that Mr Nouman is giving example of one of his friend about simple wedding which was done in 45 minutes, but how many Muslims followed that example? I am Muslim too & got married in 1976 and asked nothing from my in-laws except the girl but isn't it a business in Pakistan to ask as much as they can and spend money like a competition? Forget talking about what is happening in western world and look first in your own backyard and correct our own people instead. Hate Hippocrates
Tbh I organise weddings I did a sisters the other day the family spent £7000 an invited 350 guests this included the food decoration staff and all the other relevant stuff it's not that bad. On the other hand some people spend on average between 7k and 25k. There's even halls which people hire which costs £14000 per day now that's crazy.
islam is so evilllllll. allah is just another name for satan. The quran is a bunch of evil garabge. When are the foolish that follow this garabge going to wake up and realize it is satan trying to use this evil belief system to set up the end of time events, the one world church and the false prophet who support the anti Christ.
I wish u came and explained this to my parents and my elder bros and sisters... I HATE WEDDINGS because of these problems!!!!!!!! Seems likes everything we do is not enough for us or the in-laws. Whoever goes against our sunnahs and Islam, She is sure to have sadness in her heart! :(( like ME
Have as big wedding as you want as long as its affordable based on your finances. That is what he is saying. Keep away from financial stress by keeping away from unneeded debt. Have fun.
Have as big wedding as you want as long as its affordable based on your finances. That is what he is saying. Keep away from financial stress by keeping away from unneeded debt. Have fun.
Recently a friends daughter was married, and a loan in the amount of $30,000 was taken out for the festivities. Most of us were astounded at the dholkis, mehndis and etc that took place. She told me well, "she is marrying a Doctor, so we have to do this ..What will the inlaws think?"
At this rate, my children will not get married. they are Hafiz of Quran and engineers. Simply because we do not have the money to throw a bash as mentioned.
Weddings have become such elaborate affairs, I shudder to think that the next generation; the generation of my children will not marry. I have had proposals for my daughters, but the first thing asked is 'what will you give us?' . 'Erm, we have so and so relatives and they will all get xxxx amount?'
Excuse me, but if I giving you my daughter and you are giving a son, is that not enough. It takes guts and sheer courage to have a wedding where you will not go in debt.
All the lectures in the world cannot change the elaborateness and excessive spending of weddings.
I live in a large metroplex, but when even the most 'religious', niqabi, bearded brothers and sisters are having the month long festivities for their children, what about the most common , 'poor' person. Recently one of the most religious families in our area married their daughters; each wedding cost over $50,000 per wedding, just for their function.
Very true. A small and simple wedding is the way to go. Invite a bunch of people at the masjid and do you nikah there. With all the money you've saved, do hajj or umrah. Imagine all the blessings! Start your marriage on the right foot - debt and stress free! I know couples who have been married for 2-3 years and are STILL in debt! Simplicity and sunnah FTW!
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B4 i rererted i used 2 wan a massive wedding wit everything but aftr reverting, we c things differently aftr knowing/reading/hearing prophet muhammad sallahu alaihi wasalam times/stories, truly sunnah is d best ways, so simple and u actually feel truly more humble n happy! Alhamdullilah!!!
Ya when I wasnt Muslim my mom would go on and on about how my wedding should be and when I mer my hub we went to the justice of the peace lol and she had a fit and refused to come, but lol I then convert to.Islam Alhamdulliah and the same man converted after me and married me again SubhannAllah and if u think.my first wed n was simple you should have come to my second one and best believe they were both beautiful for me. Everything is simple in Islam ive saved so much money living simple.
very well said but if u do have money and can afford it then I think there's nothing wrong with inviting several friends and family to your wedding and celebrating.
I STRONGLY AGREE WITH WHAT HE SAYS... But what can u do when ur parents says that its the matter of their status and reputation so they hv to spend alot of money and we shd keep our religon to our selves and not interfere in what they are doing? and plz can someone tell me is there anyway to cntact wd brother nouman and ask questions abt religon?
Being a PRACTICING Muslim, and a 100% desi, I WISH beyond anything else that my wedding is as simple as possible. Subhan'Allah. I hope I find a guy who's family values this. The perfect wedding in my eyes is something simple. No stress, no worrying about the venue, the clothes, the food, the speeches, etc. No nothing. Simple is always better. The Islamic way is always the better way. Insh'Allah, I hope my wish comes true. :)
Please someone tell this to my parents. I want a simple islamic wedding, nothing fancy like what he is talking about. But I am afraid that my parents & my future inlaws will not accept, instead they will want an elaborate wedding that we can not afford. Please pray for me. You see the stress we have to go through over a wedding before the marriage even starts? :(
@strawberrypepper18 InshAllah try to keep at it. At the end of the day it's you & your future husband who is getting married not the whole family. Stay strong. It's sad thing wedding have become more of showing off then and marriage between 2 people.
There is no such thing as Western fun or Eastern fun, there is only halal and haram. Do the halal things and try as much as possible to keep away from haram. SubhanAllah!!!!
I have wedding coming up alhamdillah but i engaged in may my wedding will be in may inshallah and the reaso may because its so expensive... but our tradition is the sexpensive part ....al rizkah min allah...
SubhanAllah, If only we would look past the deceptions of this dunya, and seek the beauty of Islam, marriage would be seen as a blessing not as a burden! Its tru! Most ppl 'cant' get married, becoz ppls fuss and criterias never STOP! U cant tick every box on the checklist u kno! It comes down to u wnna hv fun now? where u hav a limited time, or in the hereafter?! for ETERNITY! SubhanAllah!
my point isn't to bash the person in the video if they is what you think. i just feel that there should be moderation in what we do. You can have fun sitting down laughing about something in your own home--with your family. my point is --that no i would not want my husband to be covered in blood but will i take out a huge loan to impress random ppl on my wedding? NO. i never talked about the sahabas to begin with so let's stick to the topic discussed in the video.
TRUE! don't know how many times i have asked myself these questions whenever there is a wedding. To a point that compared to those GRAND parties a simple nikah stands out more. Plus those grand parties are such a bore.
Oh and my sis is getting married next month and we are inviting 40 ppl ONLY at her wedding. Yes, folks 40 people at a desi wedding. See you did not know that about me till you gave your comment on this thread. Western or eastern - it does not matter, be around positive people. Inviting tons of muslims to your wedding does not gaurantee that you are now a holy person or more Islamic because people are more complex than ever before. Respect people and the end.
he is right but i do think u should have fun on ur weddings. i love being muslim but i agree that we must learn to have more fun, otherwise ppl do things they should not and then lie about it lol. ppl need to become more spiritual then too rigid in their way of life.
@sairaj1 so u mean sahabas dont have any fun?? A muslim got day every week to celebrate? that is friday what else u want?? being a beliver evry moment is blessing Allahamdullilah...I hope u r not brainswashed by westernised idea of fun
@abulzan07 being a believer does no mean you cannot have fun at wedding. the point you are making is to NOt spend money one does not have. But honestly I would not want my future husband to be covered in blood at the time of our wedding. A person can have a small intimate wedding and that is fine. Western idea of fun? Let's see..I did not think you would judge me like that since I did not. I think as long as there is positivity in a celebration you cannot label it as more western or eastern.
You know Abulzan, I am pakistani girl and back home in the east people waste even more money trying to impress others and I see some westerners getting married in court. It depends on the kind of person you are so I speak for both westerner and easterners in general. Do I think that sahabas had fun?Nnot really because people who are there to teach and set a good example-live a different way of life than commoners. I am not saying we should not value our religious beliefs. May Allah bless you.
@sairaj1 You really don't think the sahaba had fun? =( wow, I kinda feel sad for you. There are so many stories and accounts about the sahaba and how they had fun, even how Rasool salallahu alaihi wa salam played jokes on people, just thinkin about it makes me smile =) Insha Allah you get to learn about it so you will smile too! =D
@IleocecalSphincter i feel bad about the fact that you feel sad for me because i am not sad. Yes they did had fun but our Prophet was the walking quran as you know and you and I are most probably not that way. I smile ALOT and have a beautiful smile. Yes they did joke around but the amount of time that MOST ppl and u can include me in it too, was not something they did. A leaders life is much different than any others. After all he is was the last Prophet.
@sairaj1 Don't feel bad. Alhamdulillah you're not sad =) lol the issue is not whether your smile is ugly, beautiful, yellow or white hehe. it's about smiling about the wonderful and rich history of our faith =) take care, and don't be so defensive (a desi cliche lol). noone is trying to get you, haha at least i'm not =) salam alaikum! :D
so u mean sahabas dont have any fun?? A muslim got day every week to celebrate? that is friday what else u want?? being a beliver evry moment is blessing Allahamdullilah...I hope u r not brainswashed by westernised idea of fun
@abulzan07, Brother, what is the point of an argument? One is only sharing their opinions, is this not allowed?
@abulzan07 I'm sorry but I'd like you to explain that comment.. I'm a BORN westerner... I was born in the US and have lived here ALL my life and had the most amazing blessing of finding Allah wa' tala over a year ago... I have all sorts of "western fun" but do you know what I DON'T have fun with? People like YOU who assume that ANYTHING western is bad. Is that how you do you da'wah? "Oh Americans come give up your fun of everything American and convert!!!!" Be careful that YOU'RE not brainwashed
@AllyMcGill Did i say everything US or westeners promote for fun is bad??? but ya most of it as western definition of fun surround around sex drug n rock n roll and wealth!!!
From looking at your profile full of illuminati owned singers and shaitan worshippers, I will safely say it is you that is brainwashed. Fear Allah (SWT)
@sairaj1 oh come on who wants Fun ?? its an illusion that created by Some so called intellectuals .. humans need only one thing that called Peace for that we are running every time . Religion is the only thing that brings peace in life other wise its all tense, full of problems ,stress and pain . havent u experienced it?? . he is talking abt Peace and u r talking abt Pain (FUN). may be m wrong please can u describe wat FUN IS? for u ??
@salmanzafar214 i wished u had read all my comments. just because i gave my opinion does not mean the person in the video is completely wrong. fun can be sitting down in the living room with your family on a nice summer afternoon and having a meaningful conversation. religion is about peace but fun can be anything that brings positivity in an occasion. so if some people want to have a wedding where they want to spend 4 days then so be it. The main point is to NOT spend money you DO NOT have.
@sairaj1 ur desc. of fun is quite different than avg. human have. so i was talking abt different fun and up to some extent i dont have any prb with ur Fun. but i have one issue with ur one statement that Dont sPend money that you dont have. i disagree with this part either u have money or not u dont have to spend it in that way by calling hundreds of ppl having a big party having 4 days of marriage.
u do NOT have problem with my idea of fun?? fun to me is going to resturants AND having a nice wedding in the future. now do u have a problem with it? please do not be judgemental. the point of the video is to not spend money you do not have and person talks of ppl taking out loans. if Allah has given ALOT to a person and i do not see anything wrong in spending that money and intiving several ppl. it all depends on how the person lives his or her life. how they treat others.
@sairaj1 yar watever u want to do go do it. if u have a lot of money then spend on poor ? pay proper taxes , pay full salary to ur Employees.so u mean to say its ALlah who give someone so much and to some one just nothing ?? if u dotn even know the system of GOd then why brining GOD in this debate God dont make some one poor or rich its The government Rich elite that make some one poor and some one rich ny how i dont want to argue more ..
@salmanzafar214 honestly i do not want to either. yes Allah gives because whether is good times or bad, you let God take care of you--this is why certains things do not go our way or as planned. anyhow, comments will always be taken out of context. as far as ppl doing things on wedding to please others goes--we can see that in everything. some ppl do that by buying 'stuff' they do not need and those same ppl will do that on weddings. it all depends on intentions. end of story lol.
@salmanzafar214 having your own mind is not such a bad thing. i did not come here to argue. i respect what Nouman does but you must understand that just because someone comes online to a thread to give her opinion does not mean she is going against Islam. Islam actually teaches you to have your own mind and opinion. Always speak your mind respectfully. Just saying.
@sairaj1 i didnt said that u r against ISLAM or like dat. i was just merely discussing with u my point of view as u have described now ur point of view. this thread is a place for discussion and for new ideas . and i agree with Numan either u have money or not u dont have to spend in that way bcoz if u r going to spend million its going to start a race between ppl even u want it or not but humans have jealousy and competition by nature.
@salmanzafar214 and one more thing u say that fun is pain???? what are you doing on youtube then? do not tell me you have not seen any movies, soap,songs, news, or Monday night football clips for FUN?? come on man. fun is not pain. u can be in pain lifting weights in the gym. the pain that u talk of is acting irresponsibly by putting oneself in bad situations that could have been avoided to begin with. save ur money and if u have extra then spend it. anyhow, i said what i had to and i am out. WS
@sairaj1 I mistakenly pressed Vote up button. U R completely confused about Islam like many other muslims. U think that U can become more spiritual without following Shariah, the way of beloved prophet Muhammad (S.A.W)?? Get ur concept straight. If ur fun is taking u away from Deen then actually Satan is making fun of U.In fact this so called fun is not only dragging u towards hell but making ur life hell financially.
@bilalatutube I do not need your sympathy since you hardly have any --when you think for some reason you have the authority to send me to hell. I NEVER said the person is wrong. I said that moderation is key. I do know my deen and do not need your tirades to define me as a muslim woman. I am not coming back to defend myself. IF you DO NOT have enough consideration to listen to others and have the ability to comprehend their point of views, then there is no need to waste time with such ppl. kh.
@sairaj1 I wasnt sympathising with anyone. and u failed to understand a conditional sentence that starts with "if" . Anyway I am not interested in UR moderation IF that goes against Shariat. By the way its indeed a pleasure to read that only 40 ppl are invited in ur sister's marriage. May Allah showers blessings on both husband & wife
@sairaj1 Who says we don't have fun? Brother we do have fun but our definition of fun might differ from other people's definition, some people even consider drinking alcohol to be fun but our fun is not like that.
@TahmidChoudhury93 I understand brother. I think that when it comes to inviting people, most people just cannot understand why a wedding isn't huge. In other words, if you tell someone,"Hey we are inviting you only and not the rest of your family because we want to keep it simple," people get upset. Nevertheless, fun is what you make of it. Wow, I did not know my response would be this popular. haha.
And you can have fun. Abulzan was only giving the butcher as an example. What he's saying is don't go all out and spend $60,000+ on a wedding at a hotel like most Americanized muslims do nowadays.
You can have a small wedding at your own house. You can invite dozens (maybe even hundreds if you open you backyard) of close relatives and still not make it an excessively expensive affair.
@ninjapharmacist u guys are VERY close minded. i HATE coming back here over and over. that is VERY RUDE. i did SAY that yes u can have a small intimate wedding. when someone writes something in favor of me- it is deleted. VERY VERY close minded and I am sure Allah does not like the competition you are putting me through. goodbye. even in ramadan??
Did I ever say everything west is bad? Did I say anything about the west being bad? You're making assumptions. You're probably assuming I was born in the east. I was born and raised in the west, never been in the east. I'm aware that youtube is a western design, as is most of technology. I am a computer science engineer (gasp! A muslim good with technology?!). All I'm saying is that just because we can make more money in the west, it doesn't mean we have to waste it being fanc
@ninjapharmacist i NEVER assumed u were born in the east. if u had read all my comments, then u would have known that i was implying that u can be moderate about a wedding celebration. u said americanized muslims so yes i did assume u were saying west is bad because u used the term "americanized muslims". mental growth happens when we break through stereotypical thinking about places and ppl. good luck with that.
and just because you are born in the west ninja - does not mean u have not outgrown typical perceptions about ppl. it is just like some typical white ppl down south who cannot locate any other country on the map besides america.
and yeah i do agree with u that we should not waste money and that is EXACTLY what i meant but i also felt intuitively that when ppl think of the "west" they think of it as forbidden, haram and unattractive and that my friend is the wrong way to think. good company always brings positivity and good experiences in ones life. i know i have philosophized this but i had to and that also tells u how close minded ppl are here on this thread.
I never drank alcohol in my entire life and am an american girl. u are using youtube that too is western thing to do. stop being so rigid. that is exactly what i meant. life is very very tough and full of disappointments. when a muslim sister has a say about things-give her space and listen to her.
u work in the united states then u must have had western friends whom u sit down to have lunch with. if they are drinking does not mean u have to. no one forces u and if they do then u need to start using ur intellect more.
u got to have tolerance for other people if u want to get over ur superstitions and stereotyping. i am not saying to become a drug addict but every color of person is created by Allah--so start learning to accept that. all of types of ppl live in the west AND the east does not make the east more holy. must respect the people around u.
u know HOW creative and intelligent people can be? yes there are many in the east but there also are in the west. there are many ignorant people in the west who do not like muslims- but do we have to have the attitudes they do? no. everyone has something to offer and not every western thing is unhealthy or wrong.
@farazshahid so if you were intelligent enough you would have read my comments thoroughly and would NOT be asking me what I had meant. go away please.
@rockrefugee ; you can have fun but not my putting a burden upon yourself. Marriage shouldn't ever be a liability. And one of the major reasons many Muslims cannot get married is because they cannot afford to throw a large enough wedding. Which is totally stupid...
@rockrefugee buddy Muslims are khalifa after bani israel, Muslims have alot of things to be done for there just survival, i want to ask question if survival is question how can you just chill and hang around, remember life is a test with some certain amount of time, life is giving an BSC stuff paper for ur successful career, (jannah). its upon u give ur test paper like waisting time, just chilling or concentrate on the question and answer it well for better grades .. Allah Knows Best
@rockrefugee hiking biking skiing golf paintball 6 flags etc etc ...... ppl waste so much money on 1 occasion but after no money for other things. what about rent money ? get married and now u need to live with other ppl cuz u cant afford ur own place. if ur rich and hv money to burn then fine spend it on a big wedding but if u r limited why waste ur life savings
Yeah yeah customs n traditions are diseases in desies
bacteriado 1 week ago
It would be so much simper if the couple getting married would invest their money in their future instead of throwing it away at such outrageous and extravagant events.
TheCutiepie16 1 week ago
Very good points.
indodesi 1 week ago
Salaam. I'm not a desi but my culture has brought up a society to pride big weddings too. I guess people around the world are faced with a lot of challenges that made them choose between good and bad. But to make things worse, we aren't made aware of these choices except those who have dedicated their lives to study the Noble Book of Allah, Al-Quran, and the Sunnahs of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW).
virdangel 1 week ago
* Wallahua'lam.
virdangel 1 week ago
We make our lives harder!
moonfizza789 1 week ago
Wow! Very true!!!!!
YazMEen12 1 week ago
@famztsb this dua doesn't specify for someone who dies. The sunnah is when a calamity hits then say it.
yusuf9jf 2 weeks ago
Masha Allah a very good explanation of an Islamic wedding, Islam is simple and wants us to do all the occasions of the life in simplicity... may Allah bless bro Noman
13holywarriors 2 weeks ago
weddings are big business, thats it. If people buy into it thats the mistake.
monjiaitaly 2 weeks ago
Y he say "Inna lilahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon" did some one die
famztsb 2 weeks ago
My desi parents will never understand this! I wish more desis would stop caring about elaborate weddings.
armanijared 3 weeks ago 12
@armanijared Are you another one of those "born-again" Western raised Muslims who comes with a self-righteous attitude even towards their own parents who are "jaahil" in the deen?????
VEVOsucksDicks 1 week ago
@VEVOsucksDicks I am one of those Muslims who simply wishes to see more weddings that DON'T empty out people's pockets and focus solely on material things, but more so the meaning behind getting married. What is wrong with the idea of adhering to the Sunnah, especially when it comes to something as monumental as a wedding? EVERY aspect of life should be followed in adherence to the deen, and I don't feel sorry calling out those who end up doing more harm than good with elaborate weddings.
armanijared 1 week ago
@armanijared Hey i have a question...Are the so called "Islamic weddings" sunnah or are the an innovation? The ones where you get the sheikh to sign you into some doctrine and then people will start throwing the parties. Simple answer please.
The100black100 4 days ago
@The100black100 Are you talking about a nikkah? Of course that's not an innovation.
armanijared 3 days ago
@armanijared Im not pakistani i dont know what Nikkah is. Im talking about an Islamic doctrine. Did the Prophet Muhammad(pbuh) get married in a certain way ? Like in a masjid?
The100black100 3 days ago
@The100black100 You don't have to be Pakistani to know what a Nikkah is, it's a word in Arabic. And I don't know details about his (pbuh) marriages. All I know is what Islam teaches, which is backed up with daleel (Islamic proofs, ie: Qur'an and ahadeeth). You should take your question to a scholar. What I can tell you that all you need to be married in Islam is a Nikkah (marriage contract).
armanijared 3 days ago
@TheLaig88 whatever your worries, turn to Allah (swt) with full belief that you may rise from His challenge to you. Know that He loves his creation and know that your Muslim brothers and sisters quake for you.
crystalclear72000 3 weeks ago
@TheLaig88 Just say Alhamdulillah! You can't imagine how short this life is. Look at our beloved prophet Muhammad S.A.W. who on many occasions didn't have food for days. Yes its not easy in situations like yours but be patient and inshAllah things will be good!
ehsan719 3 weeks ago
Masha Allah.... I did my sisters wedding that way....
irfanmindian 4 weeks ago
this is hillarious! its the same for the somali community.
glamorousshayla 4 weeks ago
Love the Lectures.. He can relate too us without saying were rong and im rite. He is jus alhamdulillah Fantastic..
Islam2ube 1 month ago
@TheLaig88 Alquran " After every harsh time there is a good time"
Allah(Swt) in Quran said "dont share your sorrows to others cz it makes your enemy happy and the people who love you sad, just share it with me"
Allah(Swt) said in Alquran " Rizk( Wealth ) is in my hand , no one can increase or decrease it except me"
Trust Allah Cry Infront of him!! i knw it is easy to say rather than to act
but literary its the truth!! leave it to Allah he will never leave u alone cz he loves you morethan70tims
0watchyourback0 1 month ago
@ mariam123ism
I know exactly what u mean
I'm supposed 2 get married soon and it's already driving me nuts cuz' I don't want professional photographers and cameramen at my wedding, I don't wanna book the most expensive beauty saloon just to throw away thousands of rupees on make up that's gonna be washed off in a few hours, I don't want my family to buy expensive furniture, matching drapes and a flat screen T.V to adorn my future bed room all in the name of "jahez" but how do I convince others?
atiyaahsan83 1 month ago
He is sooooooo right! Me and my husband had to starve ourselves for almost 2 years after our wedding to pay off our credit card bills that had been used crazily to meet up family expectations and status war!
savewaterplz 1 month ago
its easier said than done!!!! subhanallah, i want a very peaceful , calm wedding , but you know, i have to convince my mother, my mother in-law and my future husband's relative to throw a small wedding.... its my words against theirs,,, and i have to succumb.... i know this is what usually happens... May ALLAH HELP US AND (THOSE CLOSE TO US) MAKE THE RIGHT DECISIONS... AMIN!
mariam123ism 1 month ago 2
@mariam123ism SUMMA'AMEEN !! SAME HERE !!!!!!!!
AmreenShaikh12 1 month ago
he looks like Nicholas cage....lol
Darknss2Light 1 month ago
@TheLaig88 i.A Allah will make it all better for you and for your family. He's putting through a test, maybe. Don't lose iman... you can lose everything but if you still have iman... everything will be ok in the end. And if not in this life... then in the hereafter.
Muhammad SAW said that if one of you were to put his finger in the ocean, and take it out... then the amount of water left on your finger is the WORLD (dunya) compared to the Hereafter (referring to the ocean).
AceFrolic720 1 month ago
100% agree with you mate but i am afraid i cant help it...
sheikh9087 2 months ago
mashallah very true may allah bless you brother we need people like you
84hamoda 2 months ago
hey looks a bit like nicholas cage lol
Super1ummah 2 months ago
@Super1ummah your comment made me laugh in a middle of the video :D May ALLAH bless your heart. still chuckling ))))
gorodskaya 2 months ago
@gorodskaya
lool ameen..
Super1ummah 2 months ago
i got married by taking public transit (local subway train) with my fiance. no kidding. we have ZERO debt! it ain't magic! we sacrifice a lot in life but that gives us peace. no worries. life is good alhamdulillah ;)
AlirazaTRAVEL 2 months ago
I was suppose to get married few years ago. My parents and the guy (the guy i was suppose to marry) got into huge arguments over having a huge after the nikah. My parents wanted a luxurious wedding. The guys family wanted the wedding done simple. At the end everyone fought over the Wedding celebration and everything was cancelled. We should always remember everything in this world is temporary. We shouldn't make things complicated. ALLAH's guidance is simple.
shilpa88888 2 months ago
Masallah brother Khan. May Allah swt bless you for all your nice words. I am almost 28 and this is my nr 1 reason I still don't got married. Just too much money, too much marriage rituals, too much of everything and I ended up I don't want to marry cuz of all this kind of stuff. O Allah please help...
cyrax70 2 months ago
Everyone should be wise enough to suit their pocket. If someone has been blessed with financial ease, they should spend it likewise.. but if someone does not then they should not strain themselves with what Brother Nauman is saying..
madanimasjid 2 months ago
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I love this guy for the sake of Allah subhana wa ta'la. He is so right in his speeches.
Btw, he kind a looks allot like nicolas cage lol
Matroos0611 2 months ago
I think the cheaper the marriage, the better. That way, the couple and their families can save and reserve money for emergencies or difficult situations (accidents, medical conditions, etc.). I don't think there is a need to look the best on the day of your marriage. What is important is that the marriage goes on smoothly. I mean, who are you dressing up for? You should only beautify yourselves to your spouse, not other people.
freghorn 3 months ago
While getting married in a bloody apron may be "simple" it's not a practical solution. Islam is beautiful and you have to present yourself beautifully. There is nothing wrong in adjusting to your social standing, but what is needed is moderation and understanding what you can afford. People get married once (mostly) and you have to save for it, and do it within your means. But giving impractical advice like dressing in a blood stained apron for your nikah takes away from the message.
bdcaptain 3 months ago 2
@bdcaptain He didn't advise anyone to get married in a bloody apron. He was simply giving an extreme example to open people's eyes up to the fact that a wedding can be a very simple affair. Which is something that a lot of people clearly don't understand.
MrStartingGun 1 month ago
@MrStartingGun it's a bad example to give. The Prophet, even if not dressed in rich clothes, was always smartly dressed, and getting married in a bloody apron would never be OK. Muslims are supposed to dress smartly even if it's a simple dress. And which girl would like her husband in a bloody apron? In Islam you have to take care of your spouse and her feelings as well. Wrong, wrong, wrong example to give.
bdcaptain 1 month ago
@bdcaptain You're right, but I think you should give some benefit of the doubt to the speaker. He was simply sharing a story that stands out in his memory. Sometimes when you give a speech, you don't remember to qualify every statement you make. You don't always remember to say "of course I'm not recommending you wear a bloody apron." You sometimes assume (perhaps incorrectly) that the crowd gets your point. (By the way, he didn't say that the guy wore the apron during the nikah.)
MrStartingGun 1 month ago 5
I have attended an English wedding recently and it was so simple they went to this registrar office signed some papers come back to home had a dinner and everyone left, no show off at all no heavy gold jewelry, no furniture trade this is what we suppose to do, Insha’Allah I will not put burden on my in-laws and on my parents and get married according to Sharia
rickiukpk 3 months ago
Best wedding video ever.
faro0485 3 months ago
how many of you already knew this??? all you people do is just talk. if you like to talk so much why not just have a wedding in court or in the mosque. i want to see how many of you will be doing that.
sairaj1 4 months ago
i want all of you to make a youtube video of the weddings that happen in your own households--and then come back and bash me. yes u should have fun but i never said that you have to spend all your money.
sairaj1 4 months ago
omg is that nicholas cage?
royisstr 4 months ago
I am surprise that Mr Nouman is giving example of one of his friend about simple wedding which was done in 45 minutes, but how many Muslims followed that example? I am Muslim too & got married in 1976 and asked nothing from my in-laws except the girl but isn't it a business in Pakistan to ask as much as they can and spend money like a competition? Forget talking about what is happening in western world and look first in your own backyard and correct our own people instead. Hate Hippocrates
cqali 4 months ago
@cqali : do you eat glue ?
mfs313 4 months ago
@cqali I don't understand what you're upset about? Did he not address the issue?
1FUNDAMENTALIST1 3 months ago
Tbh I organise weddings I did a sisters the other day the family spent £7000 an invited 350 guests this included the food decoration staff and all the other relevant stuff it's not that bad. On the other hand some people spend on average between 7k and 25k. There's even halls which people hire which costs £14000 per day now that's crazy.
ukbadmash 4 months ago
He never said that muslims should not have fun.
He said that there's a tragedy in some muslim families who feel obliged to run into debts for a marriage because of social pressure.
If you want a big marriage, that's great. There's a similar hadith about beautiful clothes. There's nothing bad about it.
It becomes bad when it becomes a way to stand before others by vainglory.
blugublu 4 months ago 3
@GTCism may allah lower ur punishment in hell brother ! And guide u to the stright path ameen
heartlessraza 5 months ago
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islam is so evilllllll. allah is just another name for satan. The quran is a bunch of evil garabge. When are the foolish that follow this garabge going to wake up and realize it is satan trying to use this evil belief system to set up the end of time events, the one world church and the false prophet who support the anti Christ.
GTCism 5 months ago
@GTCism May allah forgive u for sayin that brother... if u dont wanna knw something.. at least learn to respect it...
0Saif0 4 months ago
@GTCism bastard get lost.
sairaj1 4 months ago
Wonderful!
Islaam really is a complete way of life!
AsfahDihaz 5 months ago
I wish u came and explained this to my parents and my elder bros and sisters... I HATE WEDDINGS because of these problems!!!!!!!! Seems likes everything we do is not enough for us or the in-laws. Whoever goes against our sunnahs and Islam, She is sure to have sadness in her heart! :(( like ME
killphaser25 5 months ago
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Have as big wedding as you want as long as its affordable based on your finances. That is what he is saying. Keep away from financial stress by keeping away from unneeded debt. Have fun.
wade2bosh 5 months ago
Have as big wedding as you want as long as its affordable based on your finances. That is what he is saying. Keep away from financial stress by keeping away from unneeded debt. Have fun.
wade2bosh 5 months ago
Where can I get the full lecture?
h2dude69 5 months ago
@h2dude69 utube
Objectives of Sharia: A Quranic Perspective by Nouman Ali Khan
call2allah 5 months ago
2:42
Unixization 5 months ago
well said alhamdullilah! inshaAllah atleast for our children
Unixization 5 months ago
Recently a friends daughter was married, and a loan in the amount of $30,000 was taken out for the festivities. Most of us were astounded at the dholkis, mehndis and etc that took place. She told me well, "she is marrying a Doctor, so we have to do this ..What will the inlaws think?"
At this rate, my children will not get married. they are Hafiz of Quran and engineers. Simply because we do not have the money to throw a bash as mentioned.
shadowduding 5 months ago
Weddings have become such elaborate affairs, I shudder to think that the next generation; the generation of my children will not marry. I have had proposals for my daughters, but the first thing asked is 'what will you give us?' . 'Erm, we have so and so relatives and they will all get xxxx amount?'
Excuse me, but if I giving you my daughter and you are giving a son, is that not enough. It takes guts and sheer courage to have a wedding where you will not go in debt.
shadowduding 5 months ago
All the lectures in the world cannot change the elaborateness and excessive spending of weddings.
I live in a large metroplex, but when even the most 'religious', niqabi, bearded brothers and sisters are having the month long festivities for their children, what about the most common , 'poor' person. Recently one of the most religious families in our area married their daughters; each wedding cost over $50,000 per wedding, just for their function.
shadowduding 5 months ago
Lmaooooo!!!!! "Reception and a half"
Omg so trueeee and funny! lMAO! tauba
reenee4 6 months ago
couldn't agree more!!!
hayouroxa 6 months ago
He remainded me of nicolas cage
massrerdean 6 months ago
Very true. A small and simple wedding is the way to go. Invite a bunch of people at the masjid and do you nikah there. With all the money you've saved, do hajj or umrah. Imagine all the blessings! Start your marriage on the right foot - debt and stress free! I know couples who have been married for 2-3 years and are STILL in debt! Simplicity and sunnah FTW!
CullenHearts 6 months ago 2
@CullenHearts well said =)
darkbreeze9009 5 months ago
btw the speech is given by Nouman not abulzan.
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TheServiceWeb 6 months ago
B4 i rererted i used 2 wan a massive wedding wit everything but aftr reverting, we c things differently aftr knowing/reading/hearing prophet muhammad sallahu alaihi wasalam times/stories, truly sunnah is d best ways, so simple and u actually feel truly more humble n happy! Alhamdullilah!!!
tsw76riz 6 months ago
Masha'Allah spot on, lol. Why go for all the pomp && glitter, the Sunnah is easy, the best wedding is the simple wedding.
Jazaka'Allah khair for the upload. Salamu 'Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
TheMuslimahSouljette 6 months ago
I even opened up my.own simple little barber shop Alhamdulliah
malihaummnaseer 6 months ago
Ya when I wasnt Muslim my mom would go on and on about how my wedding should be and when I mer my hub we went to the justice of the peace lol and she had a fit and refused to come, but lol I then convert to.Islam Alhamdulliah and the same man converted after me and married me again SubhannAllah and if u think.my first wed n was simple you should have come to my second one and best believe they were both beautiful for me. Everything is simple in Islam ive saved so much money living simple.
malihaummnaseer 6 months ago
very well said but if u do have money and can afford it then I think there's nothing wrong with inviting several friends and family to your wedding and celebrating.
xoxohelloxoxo 6 months ago
very well said.
xoxohelloxoxo 6 months ago
I STRONGLY AGREE WITH WHAT HE SAYS... But what can u do when ur parents says that its the matter of their status and reputation so they hv to spend alot of money and we shd keep our religon to our selves and not interfere in what they are doing? and plz can someone tell me is there anyway to cntact wd brother nouman and ask questions abt religon?
AJ8074 6 months ago
Being a PRACTICING Muslim, and a 100% desi, I WISH beyond anything else that my wedding is as simple as possible. Subhan'Allah. I hope I find a guy who's family values this. The perfect wedding in my eyes is something simple. No stress, no worrying about the venue, the clothes, the food, the speeches, etc. No nothing. Simple is always better. The Islamic way is always the better way. Insh'Allah, I hope my wish comes true. :)
xXsahar92Xx 6 months ago 3
Alhamdulillah very nice explanation...inshallah may Allah reward u..
thefriendofpeace 7 months ago
Please someone tell this to my parents. I want a simple islamic wedding, nothing fancy like what he is talking about. But I am afraid that my parents & my future inlaws will not accept, instead they will want an elaborate wedding that we can not afford. Please pray for me. You see the stress we have to go through over a wedding before the marriage even starts? :(
strawberrypepper18 7 months ago 39
@strawberrypepper18 May ALLAH help ur parents n inlaws understand this! u shd keep praying!
sadyatabassum 7 months ago
@strawberrypepper18 You and me both.
skulz66 4 months ago
@strawberrypepper18 Ameen. Let's all make duaa for all of the muslims in similar situations.
optimus2g 4 months ago
@strawberrypepper18 InshAllah try to keep at it. At the end of the day it's you & your future husband who is getting married not the whole family. Stay strong. It's sad thing wedding have become more of showing off then and marriage between 2 people.
marshallah21 3 months ago
@strawberrypepper18 I hope everything worked out for you inshallah (:
LiveLifeLove20101 3 months ago
There is no such thing as Western fun or Eastern fun, there is only halal and haram. Do the halal things and try as much as possible to keep away from haram. SubhanAllah!!!!
cyber0nemesis 7 months ago 2
No pretty lights of fancy technicolored wedding can compete with the beauty of islam.
faro0485 7 months ago
@faro0485 lovely!
sadyatabassum 7 months ago
this is so true, we have become so materialistic, chauvinistic, egoistic. May Allah guide us and the ummah
javsrock52 7 months ago
Anyone know where the full video is?
RobertLeroy99 7 months ago
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projectpaki 7 months ago
I have wedding coming up alhamdillah but i engaged in may my wedding will be in may inshallah and the reaso may because its so expensive... but our tradition is the sexpensive part ....al rizkah min allah...
money12389 7 months ago
Mashallah. Subhanallah. I agree what this brother has to say, it's sad how we're spoon fed with the ideas of celebrations in the wrongest ways.
May Allah guide us.
dehog 7 months ago
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pissueg 7 months ago
Bingo!! Precise and perfect!!
sighage 8 months ago
very nice Masha'ALLAH
gullpari1 8 months ago
100% Agreed. Islam is the religion of ease, الإسلام دين اليسر
WE made it difficult by blending traditions into religion!
moharris2 8 months ago
SubhanAllah, If only we would look past the deceptions of this dunya, and seek the beauty of Islam, marriage would be seen as a blessing not as a burden! Its tru! Most ppl 'cant' get married, becoz ppls fuss and criterias never STOP! U cant tick every box on the checklist u kno! It comes down to u wnna hv fun now? where u hav a limited time, or in the hereafter?! for ETERNITY! SubhanAllah!
786afz 8 months ago
my point isn't to bash the person in the video if they is what you think. i just feel that there should be moderation in what we do. You can have fun sitting down laughing about something in your own home--with your family. my point is --that no i would not want my husband to be covered in blood but will i take out a huge loan to impress random ppl on my wedding? NO. i never talked about the sahabas to begin with so let's stick to the topic discussed in the video.
sairaj1 8 months ago
Subhan'Allah!
It reminds me of this ayah:
"Allah desires that He should make light your burdens, and man is created weak. (4:28)"
May Allah help all those Muslims who want to lighten their burden and want simple nikkah-
honeyiscoool 8 months ago 3
TRUE! don't know how many times i have asked myself these questions whenever there is a wedding. To a point that compared to those GRAND parties a simple nikah stands out more. Plus those grand parties are such a bore.
mintismile 8 months ago
Oh and my sis is getting married next month and we are inviting 40 ppl ONLY at her wedding. Yes, folks 40 people at a desi wedding. See you did not know that about me till you gave your comment on this thread. Western or eastern - it does not matter, be around positive people. Inviting tons of muslims to your wedding does not gaurantee that you are now a holy person or more Islamic because people are more complex than ever before. Respect people and the end.
sairaj1 8 months ago
OMG Somalis do the exact same, people go crazy over big weddings....
amnah10000 8 months ago
he is right but i do think u should have fun on ur weddings. i love being muslim but i agree that we must learn to have more fun, otherwise ppl do things they should not and then lie about it lol. ppl need to become more spiritual then too rigid in their way of life.
sairaj1 8 months ago 3
@sairaj1 so u mean sahabas dont have any fun?? A muslim got day every week to celebrate? that is friday what else u want?? being a beliver evry moment is blessing Allahamdullilah...I hope u r not brainswashed by westernised idea of fun
abulzan07 8 months ago 57
@abulzan07 being a believer does no mean you cannot have fun at wedding. the point you are making is to NOt spend money one does not have. But honestly I would not want my future husband to be covered in blood at the time of our wedding. A person can have a small intimate wedding and that is fine. Western idea of fun? Let's see..I did not think you would judge me like that since I did not. I think as long as there is positivity in a celebration you cannot label it as more western or eastern.
sairaj1 8 months ago
You know Abulzan, I am pakistani girl and back home in the east people waste even more money trying to impress others and I see some westerners getting married in court. It depends on the kind of person you are so I speak for both westerner and easterners in general. Do I think that sahabas had fun?Nnot really because people who are there to teach and set a good example-live a different way of life than commoners. I am not saying we should not value our religious beliefs. May Allah bless you.
sairaj1 8 months ago
@sairaj1 You really don't think the sahaba had fun? =( wow, I kinda feel sad for you. There are so many stories and accounts about the sahaba and how they had fun, even how Rasool salallahu alaihi wa salam played jokes on people, just thinkin about it makes me smile =) Insha Allah you get to learn about it so you will smile too! =D
IleocecalSphincter 8 months ago
@IleocecalSphincter i feel bad about the fact that you feel sad for me because i am not sad. Yes they did had fun but our Prophet was the walking quran as you know and you and I are most probably not that way. I smile ALOT and have a beautiful smile. Yes they did joke around but the amount of time that MOST ppl and u can include me in it too, was not something they did. A leaders life is much different than any others. After all he is was the last Prophet.
sairaj1 8 months ago
@sairaj1 Don't feel bad. Alhamdulillah you're not sad =) lol the issue is not whether your smile is ugly, beautiful, yellow or white hehe. it's about smiling about the wonderful and rich history of our faith =) take care, and don't be so defensive (a desi cliche lol). noone is trying to get you, haha at least i'm not =) salam alaikum! :D
IleocecalSphincter 8 months ago
@IleocecalSphincter i am sorry that u are making this more than it should be. i really wished you had read all my comments. take care. kh.
sairaj1 8 months ago
@IleocecalSphincter ohh. i am sorry you were being considerate of me. that was a very wise thing you had said about Islamic history. WS. :)
sairaj1 8 months ago
@abulzan07 Sorry bro this is hypocrisy...every muslim has the western fun somewhat...why not we stop being hyprocritical about it?
rockrefugee 8 months ago
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so u mean sahabas dont have any fun?? A muslim got day every week to celebrate? that is friday what else u want?? being a beliver evry moment is blessing Allahamdullilah...I hope u r not brainswashed by westernised idea of fun
@abulzan07, Brother, what is the point of an argument? One is only sharing their opinions, is this not allowed?
kamranjaan 8 months ago
@abulzan07 I'm sorry but I'd like you to explain that comment.. I'm a BORN westerner... I was born in the US and have lived here ALL my life and had the most amazing blessing of finding Allah wa' tala over a year ago... I have all sorts of "western fun" but do you know what I DON'T have fun with? People like YOU who assume that ANYTHING western is bad. Is that how you do you da'wah? "Oh Americans come give up your fun of everything American and convert!!!!" Be careful that YOU'RE not brainwashed
AllyMcGill 6 months ago 5
@AllyMcGill Did i say everything US or westeners promote for fun is bad??? but ya most of it as western definition of fun surround around sex drug n rock n roll and wealth!!!
abulzan07 6 months ago 34
@abulzan07 is that not racism?
PKVCMOSS 4 months ago
@AllyMcGill
From looking at your profile full of illuminati owned singers and shaitan worshippers, I will safely say it is you that is brainwashed. Fear Allah (SWT)
IslamTheLoveOfMyLife 5 months ago
@sairaj1 oh come on who wants Fun ?? its an illusion that created by Some so called intellectuals .. humans need only one thing that called Peace for that we are running every time . Religion is the only thing that brings peace in life other wise its all tense, full of problems ,stress and pain . havent u experienced it?? . he is talking abt Peace and u r talking abt Pain (FUN). may be m wrong please can u describe wat FUN IS? for u ??
salmanzafar214 8 months ago
@salmanzafar214 i wished u had read all my comments. just because i gave my opinion does not mean the person in the video is completely wrong. fun can be sitting down in the living room with your family on a nice summer afternoon and having a meaningful conversation. religion is about peace but fun can be anything that brings positivity in an occasion. so if some people want to have a wedding where they want to spend 4 days then so be it. The main point is to NOT spend money you DO NOT have.
sairaj1 8 months ago
@sairaj1 ur desc. of fun is quite different than avg. human have. so i was talking abt different fun and up to some extent i dont have any prb with ur Fun. but i have one issue with ur one statement that Dont sPend money that you dont have. i disagree with this part either u have money or not u dont have to spend it in that way by calling hundreds of ppl having a big party having 4 days of marriage.
salmanzafar214 8 months ago
u do NOT have problem with my idea of fun?? fun to me is going to resturants AND having a nice wedding in the future. now do u have a problem with it? please do not be judgemental. the point of the video is to not spend money you do not have and person talks of ppl taking out loans. if Allah has given ALOT to a person and i do not see anything wrong in spending that money and intiving several ppl. it all depends on how the person lives his or her life. how they treat others.
sairaj1 8 months ago
@sairaj1 yar watever u want to do go do it. if u have a lot of money then spend on poor ? pay proper taxes , pay full salary to ur Employees.so u mean to say its ALlah who give someone so much and to some one just nothing ?? if u dotn even know the system of GOd then why brining GOD in this debate God dont make some one poor or rich its The government Rich elite that make some one poor and some one rich ny how i dont want to argue more ..
salmanzafar214 8 months ago
@salmanzafar214 honestly i do not want to either. yes Allah gives because whether is good times or bad, you let God take care of you--this is why certains things do not go our way or as planned. anyhow, comments will always be taken out of context. as far as ppl doing things on wedding to please others goes--we can see that in everything. some ppl do that by buying 'stuff' they do not need and those same ppl will do that on weddings. it all depends on intentions. end of story lol.
sairaj1 8 months ago
@salmanzafar214 having your own mind is not such a bad thing. i did not come here to argue. i respect what Nouman does but you must understand that just because someone comes online to a thread to give her opinion does not mean she is going against Islam. Islam actually teaches you to have your own mind and opinion. Always speak your mind respectfully. Just saying.
sairaj1 8 months ago
@sairaj1 i didnt said that u r against ISLAM or like dat. i was just merely discussing with u my point of view as u have described now ur point of view. this thread is a place for discussion and for new ideas . and i agree with Numan either u have money or not u dont have to spend in that way bcoz if u r going to spend million its going to start a race between ppl even u want it or not but humans have jealousy and competition by nature.
salmanzafar214 8 months ago
@salmanzafar214 and one more thing u say that fun is pain???? what are you doing on youtube then? do not tell me you have not seen any movies, soap,songs, news, or Monday night football clips for FUN?? come on man. fun is not pain. u can be in pain lifting weights in the gym. the pain that u talk of is acting irresponsibly by putting oneself in bad situations that could have been avoided to begin with. save ur money and if u have extra then spend it. anyhow, i said what i had to and i am out. WS
sairaj1 8 months ago
@sairaj1 I mistakenly pressed Vote up button. U R completely confused about Islam like many other muslims. U think that U can become more spiritual without following Shariah, the way of beloved prophet Muhammad (S.A.W)?? Get ur concept straight. If ur fun is taking u away from Deen then actually Satan is making fun of U.In fact this so called fun is not only dragging u towards hell but making ur life hell financially.
bilalatutube 7 months ago
@bilalatutube I do not need your sympathy since you hardly have any --when you think for some reason you have the authority to send me to hell. I NEVER said the person is wrong. I said that moderation is key. I do know my deen and do not need your tirades to define me as a muslim woman. I am not coming back to defend myself. IF you DO NOT have enough consideration to listen to others and have the ability to comprehend their point of views, then there is no need to waste time with such ppl. kh.
sairaj1 7 months ago
@sairaj1 I wasnt sympathising with anyone. and u failed to understand a conditional sentence that starts with "if" . Anyway I am not interested in UR moderation IF that goes against Shariat. By the way its indeed a pleasure to read that only 40 ppl are invited in ur sister's marriage. May Allah showers blessings on both husband & wife
bilalatutube 7 months ago
@sairaj1 Who says we don't have fun? Brother we do have fun but our definition of fun might differ from other people's definition, some people even consider drinking alcohol to be fun but our fun is not like that.
TahmidChoudhury93 7 months ago
@TahmidChoudhury93 I understand brother. I think that when it comes to inviting people, most people just cannot understand why a wedding isn't huge. In other words, if you tell someone,"Hey we are inviting you only and not the rest of your family because we want to keep it simple," people get upset. Nevertheless, fun is what you make of it. Wow, I did not know my response would be this popular. haha.
sairaj1 7 months ago
@sairaj1
And you can have fun. Abulzan was only giving the butcher as an example. What he's saying is don't go all out and spend $60,000+ on a wedding at a hotel like most Americanized muslims do nowadays.
You can have a small wedding at your own house. You can invite dozens (maybe even hundreds if you open you backyard) of close relatives and still not make it an excessively expensive affair.
ninjapharmacist 6 months ago
@ninjapharmacist u guys are VERY close minded. i HATE coming back here over and over. that is VERY RUDE. i did SAY that yes u can have a small intimate wedding. when someone writes something in favor of me- it is deleted. VERY VERY close minded and I am sure Allah does not like the competition you are putting me through. goodbye. even in ramadan??
sairaj1 6 months ago
@sairaj1
Did I ever say everything west is bad? Did I say anything about the west being bad? You're making assumptions. You're probably assuming I was born in the east. I was born and raised in the west, never been in the east. I'm aware that youtube is a western design, as is most of technology. I am a computer science engineer (gasp! A muslim good with technology?!). All I'm saying is that just because we can make more money in the west, it doesn't mean we have to waste it being fanc
ninjapharmacist 6 months ago
@ninjapharmacist i NEVER assumed u were born in the east. if u had read all my comments, then u would have known that i was implying that u can be moderate about a wedding celebration. u said americanized muslims so yes i did assume u were saying west is bad because u used the term "americanized muslims". mental growth happens when we break through stereotypical thinking about places and ppl. good luck with that.
sairaj1 6 months ago
and just because you are born in the west ninja - does not mean u have not outgrown typical perceptions about ppl. it is just like some typical white ppl down south who cannot locate any other country on the map besides america.
sairaj1 6 months ago
and yeah i do agree with u that we should not waste money and that is EXACTLY what i meant but i also felt intuitively that when ppl think of the "west" they think of it as forbidden, haram and unattractive and that my friend is the wrong way to think. good company always brings positivity and good experiences in ones life. i know i have philosophized this but i had to and that also tells u how close minded ppl are here on this thread.
sairaj1 6 months ago
I never drank alcohol in my entire life and am an american girl. u are using youtube that too is western thing to do. stop being so rigid. that is exactly what i meant. life is very very tough and full of disappointments. when a muslim sister has a say about things-give her space and listen to her.
sairaj1 6 months ago
u work in the united states then u must have had western friends whom u sit down to have lunch with. if they are drinking does not mean u have to. no one forces u and if they do then u need to start using ur intellect more.
sairaj1 6 months ago
u got to have tolerance for other people if u want to get over ur superstitions and stereotyping. i am not saying to become a drug addict but every color of person is created by Allah--so start learning to accept that. all of types of ppl live in the west AND the east does not make the east more holy. must respect the people around u.
sairaj1 6 months ago
u know HOW creative and intelligent people can be? yes there are many in the east but there also are in the west. there are many ignorant people in the west who do not like muslims- but do we have to have the attitudes they do? no. everyone has something to offer and not every western thing is unhealthy or wrong.
sairaj1 6 months ago
@sairaj1 lol ... so borrowing ur ass out just to get married n then paying it back to the rest of ur life is a fun right???
farazshahid 6 months ago
@farazshahid so if you were intelligent enough you would have read my comments thoroughly and would NOT be asking me what I had meant. go away please.
sairaj1 6 months ago
it seems like muslims are supposed to have no fun?
rockrefugee 8 months ago
@rockrefugee ; you can have fun but not my putting a burden upon yourself. Marriage shouldn't ever be a liability. And one of the major reasons many Muslims cannot get married is because they cannot afford to throw a large enough wedding. Which is totally stupid...
dpaki 8 months ago 42
@dpaki I totally agree sir...but you still need to have fun and stay happy :)
rockrefugee 8 months ago
@dpaki very true....
zairt 8 months ago
@rockrefugee i dont think its fun to b in debt just for gettin married
Sunni4lyf 8 months ago
@Sunni4lyf Ok give me something else that muslims can do for fun?
rockrefugee 8 months ago
@rockrefugee buddy Muslims are khalifa after bani israel, Muslims have alot of things to be done for there just survival, i want to ask question if survival is question how can you just chill and hang around, remember life is a test with some certain amount of time, life is giving an BSC stuff paper for ur successful career, (jannah). its upon u give ur test paper like waisting time, just chilling or concentrate on the question and answer it well for better grades .. Allah Knows Best
XhizorsmAs 8 months ago
@XhizorsmAs Yes Allah know my fate..but why the test? I can spin this arguement in a new direction...but believe in whatever you like...Thanks
rockrefugee 8 months ago
@rockrefugee Bowling =) The muslims in my area play volleyball on the weekends, soccer too. No debt involved =D
IleocecalSphincter 8 months ago
@IleocecalSphincter lol man i can find maulanas finding fault in both these aswell...anyways...
rockrefugee 8 months ago
@rockrefugee hiking biking skiing golf paintball 6 flags etc etc ...... ppl waste so much money on 1 occasion but after no money for other things. what about rent money ? get married and now u need to live with other ppl cuz u cant afford ur own place. if ur rich and hv money to burn then fine spend it on a big wedding but if u r limited why waste ur life savings
Sunni4lyf 8 months ago
mashaAllah..such a good and eloquent speaker.. well said bhai..
kinda funny..lol
JunaidKing18 8 months ago
And not to say about the fight which the bridesmaids & bridegroom's men have over joota-churai!!
such freemixing!
SUBHANALLAH!
thenewmee 8 months ago
So true nouman bhai....so true!
i feel just the same....though im telling my family to have a decent wedding for me...they won;t agree!
thenewmee 8 months ago