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  • i had this thing with this girl when she really liked me but then it ended and over the past coupel weeks we were just friends and my friend kinda did the forceing her to go like me again and it worked for a week then it all fell apart and she hated me for the past coupel days when i basically gave her everything. we are still friend but it will never be the same the way we talk in school is good but out of school we dont talk anymore like we used to...

  • Goddam watched this video to late now she is gone..

  • Nice Kitchen :D

  • I agree it is great advice and I've been a total fool; but often the case is a woman will lead a guy on with mixed messages..."I love you " but then act the opposite...and not explain it. Then it is even more confusing whether to give up or not.

  • Women will not commit to a relationship unless they have determined that it is a win/win situation for them--a no-risk gain.

    It's like refusing to purchase a lottery ticket unless you know before hand that it is a winner.

    It's like, guys, until you spell it all out for me, you won't be getting any response from me.

  • @mrsolofeo Guys do this? Why on earth would your self worth be contingent upon someone else wanting to be in your life? You are setting yourself up to be miserable forever.

  • @lecifbaby Yes. It is because men, for the most part, have to approach women--and if they are rejected, they see it as a personal rejection. Men have to present themselves to women, and if they are not found to be acceptable, they see themselves as undesirable. It is the worst feeling imaginable to be rejected by a woman that a guy is interested in because it's like everything that he is has been discarded. A lot of men feel this way, and it's why so many men are hesitant to approach women.

  • @mrsolofeo As a woman I can tell you that's not true 99% of the time. First, she probably doesn't even know all of you to discard it. Rejection is specific. She's either saying no the dynamic (ex: she wants fuckmate/you want girlfriend) and/or you've ticked some things or even one thing on her deal breaker list. Granted rejection still sucks, but how you look at it would probably help you cope better :)

  • @lecifbaby A whole lot of guys see themselves as failures when they get rejected--not good looking enough, not personable enough. You say rejection is specific--right, the woman is rejecting a specific aspect about the guy. You call these deal breakers. But what are they? Being too short? Too shy? A lot of women go out with drunks, drug users and just plain abusers--those faults should be deal breakers. So there is more going on here under the surface than what most women will admit to.

  • @mrsolofeo Not being attracted to the person is the biggest dealbreaker. Sad that they would go out with abusers but true that attraction is everything and if not learn the hard way...if not attracted to someone everything with them even putting your arm around the person becomes non-consensual. You become practically repulsed by the wrong person. Don't know if it's the same with guys really or all women but I think something that a lot of women feel is that a connection is important.

  • What pisses me off is that it's always the guy who puts his self worth on the line when initiating a relationship. When a woman rejects you, she is rejecting you as a person.

    It is the guy who must rebuild his self esteem. The woman is more concerned with saving face to herself and her friends. She will never put her emotional integrity on the line unless the guy first commits his intent. It's act coy, and let the guy take the risk. Then, like in gladiator days, it's thumbs up or thumbs down.

  • I couldn´ t agree more. It seems so unfair

  • If woman are so intuitive, then why the facade?

    If a woman knows within the first minute or so whether she is attracted to a guy then tell him so. If she is not attracted, tell him so right off the bat.

    Don't date the guy if you are not attracted to him.

    Don't lets-only-be-friends the guy if you are not attracted to him.

    Don't give him your phone number if you are not attracted to him.

    It's really quite simple.

  • @mrsolofeo I know right? It must be really hard if the charade continues.

  • 10 people slaped a girl for rejecting them

  • i wish i watched this video a month ago..this girl dumbed for no obvious reason. n i was like fine but y...my point was simply find out y n may be try to learn something from it n move on...i do nt know what is going on in that lil peanut woman head but I was n't desperate or anything but she probably thinks that way now.

  • @cornholio777 rape her, that wuld teach her a lesson.

  • This is so true. Never beg or try to change their mind.... just walk away. There are more than 3 billion in the world. Keep practicing and staying positive.

  • @FreeOnlineWorkouts IS THIS SERIOSE or is it some virus site

  • that's so bul shiit rofl.. One time she said that to me, and i got her to like me again

  • its funny how in my case there r girls that find me to much of a "tough guy" and don`t like it while others just loves it!

  • Whenever a girl isnt interested in me i just... smack her and show her my penis.

    I have always seen a change in her mood.. instantly

  • Like I always say, attraction isn't a choice. You just may not be her type and that's ok :) Different men and women are attracted to different things :)

  • Why can't humans get back to one fundamental point: if someone is not interested and that includes if you go for a job not just a relationship, it is not your fault, it is good to learn from it but people REJECTION OF ANY KINDS IS NOT YOUR ISSUE ITS THEIRS

  • i agree theres no point trying to talk her into it. if she turns you down you need to stop paying her attention. then theres a possibility she will realise that you dont really care that much and that you dont need her desperately. the strategy i use to get into the right mind set is to think to myself "im better than her and if she turns me down its her loss" i dont actually talk down to girls or anything, but it is a great confidence booster, along with not caring too much in general

  • YOU CAN ALWAYS TURN A NO INTO A YES !

    YOu SHOULD HAVE IT IN YOU !

  • one way to MAYBE reverse the sittuation a litle bit, is if she says no to you, you say " shame, we would really work out together".just say it like it was nothing, but at the same time putting emotions into those words. that way you wont sound desperate and it will get her THINKING she may realize that you dont like her anymore, but you made a sugestion to her, and that litle sentence may help in some way. Maybe in the future you wil have a relationship, its hard,but its better then a simple no

  • What I get sick of. Is when you tell a guy you're just not interested and they ignore that, and they are certain, that you just haven't gotten to know them yet.Why can't they just get it through their heads that no means no?Anyway, good video with really good advice. :)

  • i dont know but this makes me feel very disappointed.. theres a girl that has already turned me down, and im i love with her for about 3 years.. im a teenager, and this is not just another crush. i ve been in a relationship with other girls, but all i can think of is her.. it really hurts if we dont talk at all but it also hurts if im pretending to be her friend, so close to her but yet so far.. other guys who were into a girl and they kept telling her finally made her fall in love with them..

  • @Johnkarnias she knows that id die for her, and yet she doesnt give a damn.. i cant get over her. ive seen so many girls, and not one of them is as perfect as she is.. i love everything about her!her character, the way she looks, the way she talks, the way she walks, the way she smiles,even the way her hair and arms move as she is walking. what should i do? i just cant move on :'-( answer plz..

  • @Johnkarnias Friend, when I was your age I felt exactly the same way. Now when I look back, I regret having spent so much time and energy thinking about the one girl. Even if you feel that way, you should at least date other girls. That can only help you. Girls are afraid of someone who is clingy. If you are able to free your mind from her at least a little you will become more attractive to her. You don't have to give up. But do yourself a favor and explore the possibilities.

  • @mutt1771 thank you for your kind words and your advice.

  • @Johnkarnias well we're all gonna get old one day and everyone has their bad side, I use to think only about one girl, sometimes i still do, but I've learned to moved on. When someone isn't worth it, that means they're not the right one for you, maybe some else is. Let love come and it should flow naturally. I'm sure if you can't get over her then there must be the same girl out there who has as much of a big heart as you have.

  • @RSCII are you for gay marriage?

  • If she turns out not to be interested - you always take a shot and go for someone a little more like yourself... as in another man...

  • Never become friends with a woman that you are pining for. You will just be anointed in the role of her servant!

  • Why does everytime i ask a girl out and she turns me down she treats me different although i dont treat her different? Could be great if you could make a video about this issue.

  • @LitterBoxification same here bro , haha so we're alike!

  • This is cool how I've always acted this way . if a girl is not interested in me , then it's a bit sad . but I will never try and explain to her why she should . I just move on . and if something is ment to happen . she will try and contact me again .

  • ....what if this girl who suggested to be only good friends starts to show some interest in you?

  • i should of watched this 5 min ago :( i already miss her so much

  • @987koolkid it'll be okay, man.... if she's worth your time, she'll see how much you care and feel the same way. just don't show too much weakness. and mess with her head a little. at one point, tell her she looks beautiful when she's wearing regular clothes but don't compliment her when she's dressed up

  • @greaterrome thanx for the tips man =)

  • @987koolkid anytime, man

  • your kitchen is very nice

  • What if the boy leads u on

  • @13sunnyrae leading on is like trying out all the clothes in a clothing store, then leaving and not buying anything. If they lead you on, get rid of them, they are not honest (all mysterious and playing games) and for most of the time trying to get into your pants.

    As a girl, you deserve better.

  • @13sunnyrae find the female counterpart of this guy :D

  • Good advice...... thanks for posting...... the best thing you can do is cut all contact....do not go into the friend zone. I agree that you have the right to ask to help identify where you might have gone wrong.....the best female friends to have are those whom you are in no way attracted to and NOT someone who has rejected you

  • Almost never works it never does

  • How about when a girl initially likes you, you get to know her better, she continues to express interest in you, but then gradually begins to distance herself and later claims she doesn't feel a connection. Would it be right to try an establish that "connection" and get her to redevelop feelings for you, or forget about her completely?

  • @airbornef16 Forget about her completely is my advice dude.... you cannot change a woman's mind once she has decided there isn't enough attraction, the best thing you can do is tell her you accept her decision and that you are moving on but try to find out what it was that changed her attraction level, then focus on improving it - but not for her sake - remember that there is usually someone better out there who ticks all your boxes and you tick hers, turn the situation into a positive lesson

  • @airbornef16 it will never happen. by analyzing your comment, it seems liek you are fallin in love with the girl that used to love you.

    if you had to have a girl you like, and somewhere in the past - forgot about her, you will understand.

  • However, "This Boys Life" is much funnier, "Kill or cure...kill or cure" lol

  • they not interested becuase all bitches are gay

  • you just stole your advice from carlos xuma.

  • listen, i like this girl named gina. shes pretty, and has a nice personality, are there like anytips you can give me?

  • I don't think that movie was helpful at all..

  • okay so...my girl is being very weird. shes been avoiding me alot and the physical side of our relationship has stopped almost completely and i think she isnt interested in me anymore. =\ im so sad....

  • @GuitarPlayah15 shes a dyke they all are she just realized she couldnt use you like she thought at first

  • if a girl turns me down, i see it as, she has her choice like i have mine to date anyone i like its a free country.

  • I learn what he said here a HARD WAY,

    believe me,really hard

  • how i wish i came across videos and advice like this way back..... just realised i've really messed up

  • i like a girl very much. And i asked her if she feels the same way, but she didn´t so i just said ok and trying to move on but i can´t stop think about her...

  • I actually did what he said, & know me & the girl are really good friends now. Id say its worth it to let it go, because if you do, you usually end up with a friend, but if you dont, you end up with nothing

  • yeah really. if she doesn't want you, or if she puts a lot of pressure on you, it's best to just let go. you would end up breaking up anyways because you're not feeling good together.

    You should look for a girl that you feel good with, not a girl that puts too many conditions.

    and BTW, it IS easy to get one. just stop wishing you did and try it!

  • good points and the worst thing you can do is be too available for them and do all kinds of things for them, you won't make them like you and you'll feel like a tool when you come to your senses.

  • thanx for the movie title i like all ur vids

  • That's a nice fridge =)

  • @Dominicanjs

    I agree: if this guy shows women the kind of kitchen he has, many of them will want to cook there.

  • @Dominicanjs lol

  • this girls life is a movie bout a porn star dont watch it lol

  • why is everything so hard?

  • what's with all the goddamn strategy? go to a club find a girl, look her into with eyes that say 'You're mine' and start touching her and push it always push it. she'll fall for ya. it's not rocket science it's just confidence.

  • my girl is so stupid she think that her friends are more important than me.

    Man i know space is essencial and i want it too but i fell like shit.

    i will just move on, im just wasting my time.

  • @Luissomeguy23 yeah my friend you should be her best friend, so ask yourself if she's really the one for you, peace!

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  • @vyrgo84

    Thank you for comment, I already leaved her. We shouldnt waste our time with people that dont deserve it.

    Peace.

  • @Luissomeguy23 good work man, now you need to move on real FAST and not turnin' back, i know how hard it is, i been through a tough break up myself , take the time you need to figure out if you're better single or with a new chick,

    peace!

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  • I Had A 3 Day Relationship then We Broke Up And I Said That It Was O.K Next Day I Figured Out She Was Going Out With Someone Else Was Me Or Was She Not Interested???

  • if u ask "why" she'll think ur a creep-o then that'll really hurt her chances.

  • Why didn't my parents ever tell me this stuff? I'd could have saved me a shit load of rejection, heartache and depression.

    Thanks for sharing

  • having as a friend a person you have feelings for and she doesn't reciprocate you? Are you that masochistic? You would torture yourself.

  • 'this girls life'

  • they fukin bigheaded these days lol

  • The whole problem with women is that they have a problem with needy men. Like if you would ever hear a man complain a about a needy woman.

  • When a chick turns me down, I do not talk to her again. I just cant do that friend junk after she turns me down, and ends up dating another person down the line. Just me though. Im not saying every guy should do that. If she is not intersted, then she doesnt understand. Hell with it.

  • @tedder1931 When I'm denied she imediatly dates a guy OPPOSITE of me.

  • @tedder1931

    I hear what you mean and I think exactly the same, but I try to stay friends on purpose because that way I know more people, get invited to more parties and events and meet more new people ;)

  • @tedder1931 i do the same thing bro

  • haha i use to do that but now i stop

  • the girl i like has a boyfriend but at times it seems that she likes me alot but i mean alot tell me what shoul i do

  • well....what if all of the ones i talk to aren't into me?

  • @MrKeepnit100 then u need to move on big man, life is too short to waste it on those girls that dont appreciate your true value, or good nature, at the end of the day MrKeepnit, it their loss, keep reminding yourself how good u are as a person, rock n roll ;)

  • Nope not interest. I don't feel like it.

  • Staying friends with a girl usually isn't an option because every time you'll see her or talk to her, you'll keep realizing that she didn't have the same feelings for you and you will feel depressed for a very long time.

  • i find it interesting that the movie he suggest has a porno actress starring in it.

  • he sounds like borat

  • He's totally right.

  • @Kayenne54 us men need reasons, women don't, they go with instinct or gut feeling, they think differently, and that takes the piss! she doesn't understand my pain!

  • I am sorry for your pain, mate. Anyone's really! but when I've been "rejected" by someone, you know its usually for the best; somehow they've known better than me that its not quite right. Sometimes we get dazzled, or hormones are raging; try and adopt a more philosophical outlook. Learn to trust your own gut feeling, but trust other peoples' gut feeling too. Men get instincts too, but maybe hormones over-ride their process more than women's.

  • In the end between a male and female, its about "chemistry" anyway. That's the "X" factor. You can do everything RIGHT but its still all wrong. And that works both ways. Have faith in yourself to attract a compatible person, who will be the best person to have in your life.

    Women are instinctively attracted to men who REALLY like women, not just those who pretend to. Analyze your attitudes and be really honest with yourself. (and that works both ways too!)

  • One thing you MIGHT want to do (notice the big word "might") if you end on good terms... well I started typing too early - he answered it in the video! But I was going to say if you leave or stay friends with her on good terms, then you could say "please tell me what I did wrong so I'll know next time never to do that thing again" (of course, implying with someone else!) And don't forget women are human beings too. They DON'T want people weirding out all around them all the time!

  • no you should ask why! i agree just move on after that but if she dumps you i wanna know why..... wtf man

  • that is serious, asshole

  • i know, whos kiddin????

  • 1st: If god isnt real then wat helpd me besides my enormus dick to slamm ur mom.

    2nd: your just a fucking athiest. Do u even know where you go when u die?Plz tell me id like to read the shit stain fucking stupidity your gonna come up with

  • Fuck you god is real u athiest fuck

  • What would be good advice for you ?

    Why so upset about marriage mindedness?

  • great advice!

  • Your super cute :p

  • thank you sir

  • @moviehouse105

    and why do you watch these videos if you think that ?

    you are in bondage to your delusions, or else you want to discourage men who are trying to make something of their lives.

  • in order to fall in love with someone you have to get them to like you first lol

  • Shoes, you don't have to get them to like you. It should never be worked like a sales gig but a completely mutual interest from the beginning. It displeases me to see men put women on pedestals and feel the need to earn their attention like working clowns. Believe that there are women out there who Glow. They don't ask for anything, they don't play cat and mouse. When you sit next them, your not anxious or unsure. They share the same sparkle you do. Wait until you meet that woman.

  • hahaha he's actually right. I don't know about other girls but I hate it when a guy talks about himself constantly in thinking that she'll be impressed. No means no. If she's not directly rejecting you, but she's not looking too happy, you might as well be aware that that's just her polite way of telling you off because we know it takes guts to approach someone.

  • In addition to my comment below: I disagree with the fact not to ask why he/she is not interested in you because its at least good to know the flaws/mistakes that were made so they can be improved upon in the future. Having more time can also play a crucial role in fixing the problem. I mean, its understable if you made a big fool of yourself on one of the dates, like getting heavily drunk and banging a receiver of a pay phone like a friend of a room-mate did when he had his chance with a girl.

  • Well, i just like to say that this is a good video of what the man is talkin about. Except that its similiar to his other topics like the one about not being good about returning your phone call. Like yes, it makes sense that if your date didn't go well, then who cares... MOVE ON. But if it went well, then that's a different story.

  • thats the reason why girls havent seeing me yet

    i feel like a soure looser

  • if you want a relationship with a woman then i advise you to never approach her and come off like a friend with the first encounter. that is a huge mistake. approach with curiosity and half the battle is over. o! and dont forget to tease! xD

  • i need advice, msn ?

  • dont hav one. just pm me...

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  • are u still single,because if you are i'll get with u.

  • LOL funny guy.

  • Is it me?

  • @JayJayGrady4U I LOVE YOU jk xD i couldnt resist.

  • @JayJayGrady4U LOL you amuse me

  • acan can i do if a man was interested ??? and he lost the interest? why is it happen?

  • I think that "convincing" shouldn't even be in your mindset when attracting a women. I think the guy should just wanna be friends with all of them and if you guys get along she'll let you know she wants to go out. Most guys just don't have any inner game, which is what they all have to cover.

  • no we should be friends on the GUY's terms then the script is flipped

  • Maybe by terms you mean values and I think if you wanna be friends with someone you have to be honest with your values. There is no power that the female has, your the only one that gives it to her or anyone for a fact. I know I don't know you, but you seem like you have experience in dating. What do you mean by being friends on the "guys terms" and what is this script? I honestly don't have any terms and there is no "script" what script? tell me more.

  • ok first and foremost flip the script is a slang term meaning turn the tables on ppl. thats all and you have some valid points; however i was simplypointing out that the mistake that most guys make is when they become her friend they dont do ANYTHING to show an interest or attempt to spark attraction in the woman. thats what i meant by the whole power thing. and by terms i mean that you lead by being a MAN not a "nice guy"

  • and if things are on your terms then she is basically thrown thru a loop because most guys she encounters make the fatal mistake of leaving it up to her DONT EVER DO THAT!!!!!

  • So if your friends with a girl 1st? It's alot harder to move it more than friends?

  • Naw you don't start off as friends frist homie big mistake only attraction first than go out for dates etc. That business lands you in the friends zone quick most women use that as a excuse

  • Big mistake that is, trying to pressure a girl into liking you will more then likely push her away.

  • those are very good advice,HOWEVER i dont agree with not asking to know why she isnt interested in you. how else are you gonna know what you did or have said wrong to have her view you feel differently of you. im sorry but to not ask someone why is kinda like not giving yourself closure to what just happened. what he said about not providing any benefit about that, i feel every guy will have any benefit of knowing what went wrong and then work on improving your game with women.

  • The "why's (ftrom her)" will do nothing great for ur self confidence. If u reflect upon it most probably u might find that the answer is obvious as to why she said "no". It could be that u called too often. Maybe she was too busy in life at that time, maybe u looked below her eyes more than looking into them when u met, maybe your body language was weak, or poor grooming or maybe u used abusive language thinking it was 'cool'.

  • i know im gunna sound like a big pussy but i literally cried and begged for her back. (long story) but i never did anything really wrong. i dont understand. this happened only an hour ago. :_(

  • your a real man jones, a real man

  • my best solution is :

    chill. don't actively search for a date blabla.

    just chill.

  • When a women see's you as friends first, she isn't attracted to you I never start off as freinds with women that I like.

  • it's absolutely possible to start off as friends first; if there is mutual attraction, there should be a decent amount of flirting which would lead to an intimate relationship.

  • Iam a widower at age 47,I have no idea .where to begin trying to meet another lady.

  • hhhmmmm.... interesting..

  • there r plenty of fishes in the sea, so move on :)

  • You are SO RIGHT-ON with this. I've been asked often by guys I don't want to date "why? what's wrong with me? I'm so-and-so, I do such-and-such.. " ..

    If I'm not attracted to a man because of something in his personality, or a physical trait I find too unappealing to overlook, that's the way it is, and I will not 'learn to love him'.

  • Arkady39 is telling you younger guys something that I wish I had been told years ago. He's telling the truth. It took me years to learn that a woman likes you or she doesn't. Take his advice.

  • i made this mistake :(

  • I have a problem w/ making guys think tht I like them when I just see them as friends. Ppl tell me tht Im just naturally flirty b/c i smile and laugh a lot when I talk to guys thts just how I am. I've tried to stop but tht results in me feeling like Im rude and depresses me.

  • Just make sure to keep the flirting non-physical and if you think someone is getting the wrong idea you can try casually flirting with other guys in their company. Be careful though, make sure your flirting is of a very similar kind and level as with the first guy or you risk making him jealous.

  • @Guerrera0de0Princesa OMG tell me about it !! can't have one guy friend without them ending up hating you.

  • You are so cute. You must have broken a lot of hearts yourself. Great advice. Men should just leave it alone, becauseit is difficult for a woman to turn a man down. If she is doing it, guys should feel happy for the communication,because they can move on.