i don't care if it's in everyday life but i think when it comes to certain jobs and defiantly interpersonal relationships(this shouldn't even be a question) their should be disclosure..when I said certain jobs..i know in Canada they have a case where it was a job that said "male" only( i think it was collecting urine samples) and they denied the FtM(not sure how they found out) i think it's in court. Also maybe TSA patdowners should have to disclose
U look awesome! I am happy to call you Mr.! I am just being intro to transmen, u guys are gorgeous/so handsome! People need to mind their business! I am really attracted to you transmen, only you fit in so well, I wouldn't know u were a transman! LOL! It seems to me, the choice is yours whether to disclose are not your status -- Peace!
Thanks for posting this! It was really meaningful to me. I had thoughts like this and kept putting pressure on myself to make it as big of a deal as I thought it should be to everyone else and.. Whatever. Thanks, this is cool, you're cool, thanks.
Wow... I've would have never known you were trans anything if you never shared. It's not my business! This post was incredibly powerful on so many levels. I know whoever gets you in the end will be a very happy & blessed individual!
Thank you for this! Seriously. I really needed to hear it, as I've been struggling with whether or not to disclose my trans status. And you're right, we're people just like everyone else; each with our own individuality.
@Bourne2bwild1989 Exactly! We become 'others' when we view and treat ourselves as such, but in reality, we are not. We're just as human as anyone else and with that comes diversity.
so all those people assume you are just out as they have no clue what part of your identity you disclose to others (remember you are the only one to know your privacy settings ;)...So please don't make of an accident a political act like "he outed me, I will sue him or her with my trans rights non profit or support group".
Part 3 (read backward sorry bro' ;) Sometimes it happens when one friend makes a comment on your FB wall about your gender identity...Sometimes this person does not even know in the first place you are not out as trans because you disclose so many things online and to such a number of fans, friends, subscribers, followers...
ParT 3 (read backward ;) Sometimes it happens when one friend makes a comment on your FB wall about your gender identity...Sometimes this person does not even know in the first place you are not out as trans because you disclose so many things online and to such a number of fans, friends, subscribers, followers...
@Fluffaudaskoski Yea I know people who choose to live stealth and have made it clear that mentions of their transition isn't to be mentioned on their page. Personally, I'm out in all of my social pages so my friends don't have to consider that. I just ask that they not CALL me by my birth name.
Moreover if your public identity on the different social media is not consistent ie if you "leave" traces of your female past either in video or nicknames or by connecting people who are not aware to whom you are out or not... I am pretty sure that most of the time, people will out you by accident (ie they didn't want to hurt you).
hey man great video hit me up om my channel SUB! lol i had an old one but had to make a new one so im trying to get all my subscribers back on my new one
Hey thanks....i need to see that after a co worker told me about another coworker who didn't like me just because of what she believes im doing is morally wrong..etc etc etc...
@laidbaqq Yeah, was around the time you took a break from the internet. I respected your boundaries so I didn't say anything, ya know. Plus I wasn't online much to talk at the time anyhow. I'm super glad to see things are getting a hell of a lot better for you. Can I re-add?
@thegaymaker when you put personal information on different social media like Youtube or Facebook or Tumblr, when you answer any question possible on Formspring , you document every breath of your life on Twitter,... you disclose so many information, they get out of control.
And so it is just math & statistics: you increase the risk of being visible and so outed.
@Fluffaudaskoski ....I'm aware whatever I put on a social networking site is my business. It's also my business of whom I let see it and whatnot. However, I can see you are one of those "anon" people that likes to fill up comment pages with your meaningless banter/spark random issues(judging from your aray of comments on this video). So have a great day and continue talking if you please, you'll get no response from me
I love your attitude around these issues and agree with your approach 100-percent. I think gender/sexual/ethnic minorities, liberals, members of the working class, and pretty much anyone who isn't a cisgender upper-class white hetero male is accustomed to apologizing and assimiiating. Hell no. NO SHAME is the way to go.
u dont have to put your business out there....u dont look trans nor sound trans. so they wont even know unless u feel like u have to tell people. I just don't see the need.....
@cubecalirican I've probably mentioned in another video, that I simply cannot connect with people who do not know (speaking of friends and potentials) because its keeping a large portion of my history in the shadows and I find it difficult to speak truthfully - which I dislike. I never said I'd just go and tell everyone though.
being stealth - or attempting to be, I feel like I have to keep my guard up at all times and be prepared to make excuses for the simplest things. That was another thing I didn't like.
you are sooooo right how u present it definitely influences reactions....my prob is when i say "aye im trans" they be lost as hell lol have no clue what im talkin about...o well education is lovely --ya lookin great and great vid thanks!
yeah we know more than ANYTHING as trans people simply being asked "can i ask you somehting" don't fuckin say that shit to me, people who make a habbit of it, i can't even be friends with them LOL, if you REALLY want to ask me somehting you would have fuckin said it, you do not have to ask someones permission to ask them a question wtf LOL
got somehting top say say it
an when telling people MY personal business that is NONE of their business, i am somewhat hesitant, but i STILL simply say it
Word on that homie! I recently came out to family&the response was totally opposite from what I expected I told myself from now on FUCK IT! This is my life&I want to open with ppl that r close to me so my next step is work. U r right posivity flows & u b surprise in the ppl that respond to your prescence. I dig the video bruh
omg... u look soooooo different.... ur voice... its crazy how its possible 2 do this... u look great.... jaw droppin! Do u prefer to date lesbian girls or straight? I understand tht it could be scary 2 disclose tht info... but if i were 2 like u and then find out... i dnt think i would have a problem. Not everyone is like tht tho
The dating thing definetly makes it harder for me and my fellow stealth ninjas, but hey its just one of those things that just is. Love the attitude fella... its all about the positive!
This made my night, thank you greatly. I really appreciate you putting this out there, I was contemplating stuff like this myself..a lot lately, but you have a great attitude. Your personality just shares warmth.
You know what? You are AMAZING and so honest and informative and I believe that's what sets you apart from not just other FTM'S but other people in general the fact that you are truly allowing yourself to grown along with the transition is very becoming. And I don't think anyone would look at you differently weather they had the information of you being trans or NOT atleast that's just how I look at it because you are a genuinely awesome person. ANOTHER GREAT video =]
Happy New Year luv ya much u look better nd better every time u make a vid hope them dreadz coming good bruh needed this vid been feelin down lately this vid lift me up thxs X.... what happen to ur piercings thinkin about gettin one this year
@bustitwydeopen365 Thanks and they're coming along just well. Recovering from the assault of conditioner. & those, I took them out MONTHS ago although my eye brow hole is still open.
i don't care if it's in everyday life but i think when it comes to certain jobs and defiantly interpersonal relationships(this shouldn't even be a question) their should be disclosure..when I said certain jobs..i know in Canada they have a case where it was a job that said "male" only( i think it was collecting urine samples) and they denied the FtM(not sure how they found out) i think it's in court. Also maybe TSA patdowners should have to disclose
ubermisogynist 5 months ago
you seem like a really lovely guy! its a pity u live in the us:( damn!!! i really like ur vidz l8rz.........
ashtrayheartxxboi 5 months ago
U look awesome! I am happy to call you Mr.! I am just being intro to transmen, u guys are gorgeous/so handsome! People need to mind their business! I am really attracted to you transmen, only you fit in so well, I wouldn't know u were a transman! LOL! It seems to me, the choice is yours whether to disclose are not your status -- Peace!
Yanadew 8 months ago
Thanks for posting this! It was really meaningful to me. I had thoughts like this and kept putting pressure on myself to make it as big of a deal as I thought it should be to everyone else and.. Whatever. Thanks, this is cool, you're cool, thanks.
spindlegold 8 months ago
@spindlegold don't stress it!
laidbaqq 8 months ago
Wow... I've would have never known you were trans anything if you never shared. It's not my business! This post was incredibly powerful on so many levels. I know whoever gets you in the end will be a very happy & blessed individual!
kiki1965 10 months ago 2
@kiki1965 Wow, thank you.
laidbaqq 8 months ago
@kiki1965 You're more than welcomed!!!
kiki1965 8 months ago
just wanted to say, you hot as hell. not just your appearance, but your mind too. you are an inspiration.
thanks for sharing.
Quantumism 11 months ago
@Quantumism :) thanks
laidbaqq 11 months ago
Thank you for this! Seriously. I really needed to hear it, as I've been struggling with whether or not to disclose my trans status. And you're right, we're people just like everyone else; each with our own individuality.
Bourne2bwild1989 1 year ago
@Bourne2bwild1989 Exactly! We become 'others' when we view and treat ourselves as such, but in reality, we are not. We're just as human as anyone else and with that comes diversity.
laidbaqq 1 year ago
i can relate each n every word u said...made me see thing a whole lot different..thanks!! much love to u mayne
kaydoubleyou33 1 year ago
<3
i'm so very happy for you xave. AND this vid has great advice for er'body so double kudos
IndulgeObscenity 1 year ago
@XavierBehaviour thanks Xay
laidbaqq 1 year ago
PLEASE dont kill me!
but are yu omnisexual, or you still JUST prefer females?
talentedlibra 1 year ago
@talentedlibra pansexual, although some consider the terms pansexual and omnisexual to be interchangeable.
laidbaqq 1 year ago
you just keep gettin hotter and hotter everytime i see you C=
robabylove1992 1 year ago
so all those people assume you are just out as they have no clue what part of your identity you disclose to others (remember you are the only one to know your privacy settings ;)...So please don't make of an accident a political act like "he outed me, I will sue him or her with my trans rights non profit or support group".
Fluffaudaskoski 1 year ago
@Fluffaudaskoski Like I said in the video, I don't particularly care anymore.
laidbaqq 1 year ago
@Fluffaudaskoski
I think that would just make him a supastar. lol.
mysticangel17 1 year ago
Part 3 (read backward sorry bro' ;) Sometimes it happens when one friend makes a comment on your FB wall about your gender identity...Sometimes this person does not even know in the first place you are not out as trans because you disclose so many things online and to such a number of fans, friends, subscribers, followers...
Fluffaudaskoski 1 year ago
ParT 3 (read backward ;) Sometimes it happens when one friend makes a comment on your FB wall about your gender identity...Sometimes this person does not even know in the first place you are not out as trans because you disclose so many things online and to such a number of fans, friends, subscribers, followers...
Fluffaudaskoski 1 year ago
@Fluffaudaskoski Yea I know people who choose to live stealth and have made it clear that mentions of their transition isn't to be mentioned on their page. Personally, I'm out in all of my social pages so my friends don't have to consider that. I just ask that they not CALL me by my birth name.
laidbaqq 1 year ago
Moreover if your public identity on the different social media is not consistent ie if you "leave" traces of your female past either in video or nicknames or by connecting people who are not aware to whom you are out or not... I am pretty sure that most of the time, people will out you by accident (ie they didn't want to hurt you).
Fluffaudaskoski 1 year ago
hey man great video hit me up om my channel SUB! lol i had an old one but had to make a new one so im trying to get all my subscribers back on my new one
EndingUpEmery 1 year ago
ur soo cute! lol
BarbieAllure 1 year ago
you are very attractive. and your words are the truth.
loversarelunatics 1 year ago
well said. you are very intelligent and well spoken. i enjoy your videos and your insight and i hope your transition continues to go well.
poetrytolive 1 year ago
and im mad t you you deleted me off facebook **tears**
FreckelzMarie 1 year ago
OMG LOOK AT YOU!!! you look good boo!!! love the facial hair suits you
FreckelzMarie 1 year ago
Wow, you're such a cool person : 3
moolikeachicken 1 year ago
Hey thanks....i need to see that after a co worker told me about another coworker who didn't like me just because of what she believes im doing is morally wrong..etc etc etc...
MsDeandrea 1 year ago
@MsDeandrea yea but who gives a shit about what she thinks
laidbaqq 1 year ago
This video really inspired me. Thanks!
emperorovicecream 1 year ago
well said..*standing ovation*
TheLovelyRANDOMNESS 1 year ago
your looking mighty handsome i must say, always enjoy watching your videos.
poet111 1 year ago 5
your smile is so bright that made my day.
mahohappyaku800 1 year ago
Well said my man. P.S.-I'm mad you deleted me off your facebook lol
thegaymaker 1 year ago
@thegaymaker *funny face* I did? Honestly, I don't recall deleting you.
laidbaqq 1 year ago
@laidbaqq Yeah, was around the time you took a break from the internet. I respected your boundaries so I didn't say anything, ya know. Plus I wasn't online much to talk at the time anyhow. I'm super glad to see things are getting a hell of a lot better for you. Can I re-add?
thegaymaker 1 year ago
@thegaymaker of course man!
laidbaqq 1 year ago
@thegaymaker when you put personal information on different social media like Youtube or Facebook or Tumblr, when you answer any question possible on Formspring , you document every breath of your life on Twitter,... you disclose so many information, they get out of control.
And so it is just math & statistics: you increase the risk of being visible and so outed.
Fluffaudaskoski 1 year ago
@Fluffaudaskoski ....I'm aware whatever I put on a social networking site is my business. It's also my business of whom I let see it and whatnot. However, I can see you are one of those "anon" people that likes to fill up comment pages with your meaningless banter/spark random issues(judging from your aray of comments on this video). So have a great day and continue talking if you please, you'll get no response from me
thegaymaker 1 year ago
I love your attitude around these issues and agree with your approach 100-percent. I think gender/sexual/ethnic minorities, liberals, members of the working class, and pretty much anyone who isn't a cisgender upper-class white hetero male is accustomed to apologizing and assimiiating. Hell no. NO SHAME is the way to go.
postgender 1 year ago
i LOVE YOU AS A PERSON YOU ARE SO COOL!
Telaasiablack 1 year ago
thanks for the vid, i'm always excited when to see you posted a new one. Good topic!
Genesis0291 1 year ago
You look great! Look at all your facial hair!! yay for T!
Wilmie82 1 year ago
@Wilmie82 lol ikr.
laidbaqq 1 year ago
u dont have to put your business out there....u dont look trans nor sound trans. so they wont even know unless u feel like u have to tell people. I just don't see the need.....
cubecalirican 1 year ago
@cubecalirican I've probably mentioned in another video, that I simply cannot connect with people who do not know (speaking of friends and potentials) because its keeping a large portion of my history in the shadows and I find it difficult to speak truthfully - which I dislike. I never said I'd just go and tell everyone though.
laidbaqq 1 year ago
being stealth - or attempting to be, I feel like I have to keep my guard up at all times and be prepared to make excuses for the simplest things. That was another thing I didn't like.
laidbaqq 1 year ago
Thoroughly agree....
cymonebreathe 1 year ago
you are sooooo right how u present it definitely influences reactions....my prob is when i say "aye im trans" they be lost as hell lol have no clue what im talkin about...o well education is lovely --ya lookin great and great vid thanks!
Catpn 1 year ago
u are very handsome now!
septemberlibra28 1 year ago
damn u became a find man!!!!
Mr247star 1 year ago
Lmao your so cute haha. but yea i agree 100%
tfpunk1979 1 year ago
looking great :)
SELKILKT 1 year ago
great video i will be doing a video respond
nochokin 1 year ago
Damn your handsome ! =) -Kei
SincereKouture 1 year ago
yeah we know more than ANYTHING as trans people simply being asked "can i ask you somehting" don't fuckin say that shit to me, people who make a habbit of it, i can't even be friends with them LOL, if you REALLY want to ask me somehting you would have fuckin said it, you do not have to ask someones permission to ask them a question wtf LOL
got somehting top say say it
an when telling people MY personal business that is NONE of their business, i am somewhat hesitant, but i STILL simply say it
crakhoBITCH 1 year ago
Word on that homie! I recently came out to family&the response was totally opposite from what I expected I told myself from now on FUCK IT! This is my life&I want to open with ppl that r close to me so my next step is work. U r right posivity flows & u b surprise in the ppl that respond to your prescence. I dig the video bruh
untilidie06 1 year ago
omg... u look soooooo different.... ur voice... its crazy how its possible 2 do this... u look great.... jaw droppin! Do u prefer to date lesbian girls or straight? I understand tht it could be scary 2 disclose tht info... but if i were 2 like u and then find out... i dnt think i would have a problem. Not everyone is like tht tho
sweetma4life 1 year ago
Good stuff plus loving the hat! ^^
RoseWasCute 1 year ago
"Someone who dates... and does stuff."
That smile. Xavier, you're adorable!
christianasays 1 year ago
@christianasays lol I try to keep it PG sometimes.
Ty :D
laidbaqq 1 year ago
The dating thing definetly makes it harder for me and my fellow stealth ninjas, but hey its just one of those things that just is. Love the attitude fella... its all about the positive!
kylokeen 1 year ago
awesome vid man. you always got something interestin to say and I love how you say it. your view on things is refreshin
senpai16 1 year ago
This made my night, thank you greatly. I really appreciate you putting this out there, I was contemplating stuff like this myself..a lot lately, but you have a great attitude. Your personality just shares warmth.
cocoanutaddict 1 year ago
"im not much different than anyone else, in the sense that i am myself" love that
talented414 1 year ago
You know what? You are AMAZING and so honest and informative and I believe that's what sets you apart from not just other FTM'S but other people in general the fact that you are truly allowing yourself to grown along with the transition is very becoming. And I don't think anyone would look at you differently weather they had the information of you being trans or NOT atleast that's just how I look at it because you are a genuinely awesome person. ANOTHER GREAT video =]
elleemusic 1 year ago
@elleemusic typo *grow
elleemusic 1 year ago
Happy New Year luv ya much u look better nd better every time u make a vid hope them dreadz coming good bruh needed this vid been feelin down lately this vid lift me up thxs X.... what happen to ur piercings thinkin about gettin one this year
bustitwydeopen365 1 year ago
@bustitwydeopen365 Thanks and they're coming along just well. Recovering from the assault of conditioner. & those, I took them out MONTHS ago although my eye brow hole is still open.
I'm glad it did somethin' for you man.
laidbaqq 1 year ago