Honestly, when I started to watch this video,I had little expectation with regards to it being very serious due to the humorous approach at the begining, but as I watched on, I could see that it made a lot of sense and I could relate to it as a Christian. The approach used in getting the idea across is very innovative. Great job!
I've a toxic sistr. She alwys complains abt other ppl and tries to prove how bad her life is. If I try to change the topic she gets even angrier and start blaming me for nt caring enuf or talk abt how good my life is. Shes vry insnsitive and nosy about ppl's personal matters. I'm 23 and she's 28 now. I'm so frustrates that i jst avoid her now. She was divorcd last year and has no frend becz of her behavir. I want to help her bt evry time I try she hurts me with hr cruel words. What to do?
@Savetheworld714 OH B-O-Y! OK ... Listen to Me... You can do NOTHING to help her while she is in this mindset. Family are the last people on the planet you will listen to, esp if you are being Obnoxious. By distancing yourself from her behavior you save yourself, AND send her Loving thoughts on the side. Love her, But limit your exposure......either she will realize that she is messing up with her relationships and do something about it.... or she will carry on, totally unaware and indifferent.
I have a question we have friends who are very toxic they don't take the hint from all the invite refusals and unanswered phone calls. They still show up at our house wanting to hang out for an hour. The wife never speaks and the husband all he does is talk about how he hates our house hates our life ex its gotten so we don't even defend ourselves to him because its gotten so old. My question is if he hates every aspect of our lives our house the car ex why does he keep coming over to our house?
@Chloey39 So to take so long to Reply Chloey! This is a classic! Two very unhappy people who don't hate your life, its their own life they hate. People move away from pain, toward pleasure....... believe me if your life was that abhorrent to them it would be far too pain too painful to turn up. People often don't deal with their own crappy lives and instead put others down so they can feel better about themselves. Its very common. Tell them not to come around anymore and tell them Why.
So true!!! GREAT advice! Makes me also question myself- "Am I an energy vampire to anyone in my family?" It's a good idea to look at yourself when someone presses your buttons because often, people in our lives are a reflection of some part of ourselves.
@lunasolgirls Guys you are completely right of course and I admit I had to look at myself too. Best to live in truth rather than be deluded. Love You Vix xoxo
@manohadjilias Bless your heart darling. Sorry I started this show for women coz I felt we were a bit underserved in the motivation department. But I am going to do a more unisex job as you are not the first to bring this up. I feel very flattered that you find it relevant too! Thank you so much for you comment. Duly noted and changes in the pipeline. Love VB x
@frenchkiss776 Yes You are right ! We can become very complacent , and after a while we think that it is Normal life! It is NOT ! Thank you so much for you comments! xoxox
I, fortunately, don't have any toxic relatives, but when I find myself in that situation, I simply - ignore. In that way your calm behaviour doesn't feed the toxic person's ego, and that's what makes 'em pissed even more, but still they learn how to quit after some time.
@Silverbloom04 Thank you Gorgeous! It's the only way! Be the light! And you will reflect that energy back in to your life. People aren't born difficult, circumstances get them all messed up. And they just need to be shown the light. Bless you for being that person. xoxo
Honestly, when I started to watch this video,I had little expectation with regards to it being very serious due to the humorous approach at the begining, but as I watched on, I could see that it made a lot of sense and I could relate to it as a Christian. The approach used in getting the idea across is very innovative. Great job!
brains7733 3 months ago
that's some good advice.
mrkkerekes 3 months ago
Turn into a Super Blow Up Chick lol
Relax and take a chill pill works.
KnightChatX 3 months ago
You are wonderful! Excellent Excellent Video, Thank you so much!!!
highheelstaylor 4 months ago
very informative!
BeAwareofMarianne 4 months ago
I've a toxic sistr. She alwys complains abt other ppl and tries to prove how bad her life is. If I try to change the topic she gets even angrier and start blaming me for nt caring enuf or talk abt how good my life is. Shes vry insnsitive and nosy about ppl's personal matters. I'm 23 and she's 28 now. I'm so frustrates that i jst avoid her now. She was divorcd last year and has no frend becz of her behavir. I want to help her bt evry time I try she hurts me with hr cruel words. What to do?
Savetheworld714 4 months ago
@Savetheworld714 OH B-O-Y! OK ... Listen to Me... You can do NOTHING to help her while she is in this mindset. Family are the last people on the planet you will listen to, esp if you are being Obnoxious. By distancing yourself from her behavior you save yourself, AND send her Loving thoughts on the side. Love her, But limit your exposure......either she will realize that she is messing up with her relationships and do something about it.... or she will carry on, totally unaware and indifferent.
thebackontopshow 4 months ago
@thebackontopshow Thank you so much for your advice. I'm really glad I found your channel. You're amazing :)
Savetheworld714 4 months ago
This was epic. Thank you.
javajunkie101 5 months ago
I have a question we have friends who are very toxic they don't take the hint from all the invite refusals and unanswered phone calls. They still show up at our house wanting to hang out for an hour. The wife never speaks and the husband all he does is talk about how he hates our house hates our life ex its gotten so we don't even defend ourselves to him because its gotten so old. My question is if he hates every aspect of our lives our house the car ex why does he keep coming over to our house?
Chloey39 6 months ago
@Chloey39 So to take so long to Reply Chloey! This is a classic! Two very unhappy people who don't hate your life, its their own life they hate. People move away from pain, toward pleasure....... believe me if your life was that abhorrent to them it would be far too pain too painful to turn up. People often don't deal with their own crappy lives and instead put others down so they can feel better about themselves. Its very common. Tell them not to come around anymore and tell them Why.
thebackontopshow 5 months ago
More Power to you for Empowering Others! Great Enlightenment, thanks! =)
heaven7valley 6 months ago
@heaven7valley Thank you Gorgeous! I really Appreciate your comments. Bless you. MUCH LOVE VICKY B XOXOXO
thebackontopshow 6 months ago
So true!!! GREAT advice! Makes me also question myself- "Am I an energy vampire to anyone in my family?" It's a good idea to look at yourself when someone presses your buttons because often, people in our lives are a reflection of some part of ourselves.
Love and light,
Jacque and April
lunasolgirls 7 months ago
@lunasolgirls Guys you are completely right of course and I admit I had to look at myself too. Best to live in truth rather than be deluded. Love You Vix xoxo
thebackontopshow 7 months ago
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manohadjilias 8 months ago
@manohadjilias Bless your heart darling. Sorry I started this show for women coz I felt we were a bit underserved in the motivation department. But I am going to do a more unisex job as you are not the first to bring this up. I feel very flattered that you find it relevant too! Thank you so much for you comment. Duly noted and changes in the pipeline. Love VB x
thebackontopshow 8 months ago
@frenchkiss776 That's why i wear the Amber :)
fooknoos 9 months ago
@frenchkiss776 Yes You are right ! We can become very complacent , and after a while we think that it is Normal life! It is NOT ! Thank you so much for you comments! xoxox
thebackontopshow 10 months ago
A shame some see to give this the thumbs down ... but these are the psychic vampires on the loose. Great advice, Vicky. Stay Cosmic ...
cosmicordering1 10 months ago
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anci2e 11 months ago
I, fortunately, don't have any toxic relatives, but when I find myself in that situation, I simply - ignore. In that way your calm behaviour doesn't feed the toxic person's ego, and that's what makes 'em pissed even more, but still they learn how to quit after some time.
anci2e 11 months ago
@anci2e Great comments, thanks babe!!! xoxo
thebackontopshow 11 months ago
@thebackontopshow You're welcome! ;)
anci2e 11 months ago
WOW! Thank you! This was just what I needed to hear! I have a very difficult co-worker and I am going to try shining the light!
Silverbloom04 11 months ago
@Silverbloom04 Thank you Gorgeous! It's the only way! Be the light! And you will reflect that energy back in to your life. People aren't born difficult, circumstances get them all messed up. And they just need to be shown the light. Bless you for being that person. xoxo
thebackontopshow 11 months ago
I wish they would teach this stuff in school! everyone should know this!
tripvids420 1 year ago
this was great, vicky, you're best one (so far). xxoo, anita :-)
AnitaGoaTV 1 year ago
This was great Vicky! :)) I loved it. I will definitely try to use these tips! -Alli
Alliruth1 1 year ago
Where is the LOVE, LOVE, LOVE button! Thanks, Vix! It's as if you made this one just for me! ;o)
DixieMomDixie 1 year ago