High School Reunion / A message about bullying in schools

[misskyria1]

yea bullying is the wrong answer and people should stop doing it because it is so not nice and you dont have to change your appearenace if you dont want to just because what other people say but you you should always know that your most beauty is in the inside not the out....

[hoborcorn]

A lot of things like this happen 2 me and I kids go up 2 me at school and tell me I have a big forward and call me creature and make fun of my glasses and braces and stuff and I told my parents and they told me 2 ignore it but It doesn't help

[Blacckkfire]

when I was in elementary school, I used to over-react to a lot to the smallest of problems, I am not going to lie, but instead of the school acknowledging my problem, and getting or suggesting me for help, they tested me, and despite my high IQ level, a PHYSIOLOGIST, not psychiatric, actually diagnosed me with autism. Imagine how special I felt. Lucky for me my parents and the woman who tested me defended me.

[Blacckkfire]

I can really relate to this, thank you.

[epodcentral]

@Blacckkfire thanks, hope things are getting better for you now :)

[Msbaybay224]

I feel for you girl! I went through the same crap! Even with all the 'bully awareness' progams, i dreaded going to school because i couldn't do anything i wanted to. I didnt feel comfortable being around people and teachers made me feel so stupid and worthless. They would pick on me because i wasn't the Typical skinny girl like everyone else. Thankfully, i transfered schools and met people that are much more open minded and compasionate. By having a good friend it makes evetything easie

[epodcentral]

@Msbaybay224 yeah, the bully awareness programs have a lot to answer for...perhaps they have got better but i suspect not. i'm glad you had a better time after you transferred schools although it kind of sucks that one has to go to that extreme just to not be harassed on a daily basis. i no longer (finally) care what people think of me, and it has made a massive difference and i'm much happier about life, the universe and everything these days.

[illusion0delusion]

this sounds like me, but right now.

[epodcentral]

@illusion0delusion i'm really sorry to hear that :( the only advice that i can possibly give you is something that i have only learnt recently....the moment you stop worrying what people think about you, things get better. of course it does not stop the stupid bullies doing what they are doing, but hopefully trying not to take what they are saying so seriously will help a little.

[TheNakedWombat]

I was asked once if I would attend a high schoo reunion and I said no. This fella who wanted to organise one, said that all but a few people from our grade, all said, NO! - He also said that about one third admitted to needing counselling after school while another third admitted they needed counselling but never sought it out. How's that for one rooted school?

[epodcentral]

@TheNakedWombat the sad thing about those figures is that they hardly surprise me :( glad you had the satisfaction of knowing a martial art though... i posted this video onto their facebook reunion page, and the morons have come out in droves to attack me... however i am so far above them now i could not care less...plus they have provided me with excellent fuel for a follow up video. one of their suggestions what that going to the reunion would be healing LOL right.!!!

[TheNakedWombat]

@epodcentral It was a matter of survival for me. I spent most of my time there on/off crutches making me an easy target. The TKD strengthened my body, mind and pain resilience. My instructor told me that the school environment meant putting someone down hard & fast. Preferably without breaking anything. Well, I smashed up the wooden frames in the shed once. If I didn't, it left me open to violent abuse with the Christian Brothers clapping them on. Lucky for me, I learned to not about others.

[TheNakedWombat]

I wouldn't go to a school reunion. I hated the place. I was surrounded by the biggest bunch of retards who thought they were smart but in reality, were dumb as. My high school was Christian Brothers who manipulated the weak minded fools to beat up other kids while they sat back and watched. Yet I beat them up in return, being a Tae Kwon Do student, the Christian Brothers got extremely upset.

[marfius]

Wow, such a powerful video, I really empathise with you as my years at school weren't that great either. What you say about those days affecting yor adult view of life are so true. It makes me so sad that so many people's lives can be affected by a few bullying idiots. Your teachers should have done something, shame on them. I hope you have managed to get some sort of closure though and managed to put those days behind you.

[epodcentral]

@marfius thanks, yes, this video was incredibly cleansing. i also posted it to their facebook reunion page where i got the predictable inane, unintelligent responses that i was expecting. however...there will be a follow up video made based on all these incredible comments from these delusional, boring, uneducated people. i feel great now and that that part of my life is now closed. in fact, i have been bouncing off walls ever since i made it! :)

[TheCynicalRealist]

Bullies. One of the reasons I'm seriously considering home schooling my little one. I'd hate to see her vibrant self be squashed by the bullies like I was. Although I don't want to wrap her up in cotton wool either :-/ I also found that teachers often were the worst bullies.

[epodcentral]

@TheCynicalRealist it's something that is incredibly hard to weigh up...home school is all good and pleasant and wholesome, but then there is the real world which is full of adult bullies as well. i was thinking about this the other day and i would be really curious if a psychologist would be able to condition a child to react in a certain way if they were sent to school and bullied so as to lessen or totally remove the damage that kids like to partake in. sounds strange, but sure is interesting

[ModerateMartian]

Excellent and brave video. I watched you video just before going out with my parents, let’s just say I wasn’t in the mood for it. I’ve been well messed up by bullies in one form or other and my parents. Most of the bullying was by teachers and of course not having a safe haven at home leaves you nowhere to go so all my anger and hurt turned inward (oh the joys of social phobia and major depression!). I do wonder if I will ever be able to let it all go and be able to get on with my life...

[epodcentral]

@ModerateMartian thanks, yeah i still have the whole parentals thing to deal with...but luckily i am thousands of kms away from them in the middle of nowhere....if you haven't seen a psychologist please think about it, i highly recommend it. they cost a small fortune though, so hopefully you can get to see them for free on some sort of government subsidised program - which is why i am seeing one, i could never afford their rates any other way.

[ModerateMartian]

@epodcentral We have the National Health Service here in the UK, which hasn't been much help really. Seen psychiatrists (10 minutes is about all you get), and spent 4 years, 3 1/2 hours a week in group analytical psychotherapy which didn't help all that much. But it was free. CBT would probably be the best therapy for my bad coping mechanisms (avoidance, negative thinking etc) but it's very difficult to get on the NHS. At the moment I'm working on positive self-talk for myself which is working.

[ModerateMartian]

@ModerateMartian I'm not usually depressed these days, so that's a start, as well as getting in touch with me anger which I sometimes take out on inanimate objects (a poor waste paper bin was the last victim :). I hope all goes well for you...

[epodcentral]

@ModerateMartian 10 mins??? what can they hope to achieve in 10 mins...there is a good resource called moodgym (on the net, it should come up in google)....i did explore it quite a few years ago but think i will revisit it again. it's great that you at least know what is going on and trying your best to correct it with the limited resources that you have available. ps. i hope the waste paper bin doesn't press charges ;)

[ModerateMartian]

@epodcentral It's a bit like getting a quick reading at a fair side show, maybe it was a bit longer, had a quick chat and sent me on to the-rapist for treatment. Thanks for pointing me towards moodgym, I'm going to join up today.

[epodcentral]

@ModerateMartian awesome, best of luck - let me know how you go :)

[slaxxxer]

Excellently said - It makes my flesh crawl when people do this re-union bollocks and that is before you even scratch the surface of issues like bullying, we were all thrown together at 5 years old and were forced to sink or swim and thus even at that age we were forced into relationships that were based on necessity and not genuine friendship! - excellent stuff!

[epodcentral]

@slaxxxer thanks, yeah it is all very bizarre this inane idea of wanting to revisit, for what a lot of people was one of the most painful times of their lives. it all goes back i think to what people think is normal and the right thing to do and how they should behave and so forth. there is a really interesting piece written by a friend of mine called jimbo...it's called "death coach" and whilst i can't put links here, it should come up on google and it is quite an interesting read.

[beautyfiend89]

Yep, still here but my anxiety is kicking my arse like you wouldn't believe! Some days I can't even leave the house =(

But if i see you in the street (if I make it that far =p) I'll be sure to say hello!

I'll add you in facebook if that helps with keeping in touch =)

[epodcentral]

@beautyfiend89 can you go walking at the saltlakes or in the bush? that is always fun and little chance of running into humans...except maybe me! yes, if you like that facebook page, i will then send a friend request from my personal page. :)

[rbnchick44]

i agree with what your saying about bullying.

About the photo i disagree, so what if they put a photo up? it's the memories. if you don't like it, to bad if it's a group photo. they can't crop you out. something tells me your a bit jealous. there proud of there children. who cares if your different? don't take things too seriously. if you don't want to be asked "are you married? have you had children?" then don't go because that's what everyone ask's. because there interested. people change.

[epodcentral]

@rbnchick44 there are good reasons why people do not post photos of themselves on facebook, at no time did i agree when the photo was taken that it could be shared with a lot of anonymous people, as well as have my real name attached to it. i choose what to put on my facebook carefully and for good reason. With regards to being jealous, absolutely not, I am happy as I can be doing what I am doing and babies and partners are irritating.

[epodcentral]

@rbnchick44 with regards to the "are you married / do you have kids" questions...there is a really interesting piece that my friend jimbo wrote called "death coach" which explores the things that "normal" people find important...it offers another perspective it is a really interesting read, but you should be able to find it by googling jimbo death coach. (i can't put links here)

[epodcentral]

@rbnchick44 with regards to the photos, i would feel uneasy having photos of my kids on the internet (but again each to their own) given the amount of pedophiles that trawl the net. there is a playlist i have done of the show "to catch a predator" for example that will give great examples of why kids pics should be kept of the net. there is also another video in my favourites section with regards to what the government is possibly using facebooks face recognition software for.

[DibbersPage]

I only went to 1 school reunion but wasnt invited to a second hahahahha, i showed up in my leathers and club colours and on my bike, yes the school bullies who always came after me in a gang were there, what did i do, i kicked the shit out of 2 of them hahahahahha xxxxx

[epodcentral]

@DibbersPage lol, there were sometimes that i wished that i had a mildly violent streak in me lol! :)

[RobertxJenks]

you said it like it is people like to show off and brag a lot .

myself i find you being very smart and well minded , for your looks i see nothing wrong there i actually find you a looker .

as for me im not smart had my brain rattled to many times. im tall, pale and ugly to give you a description . ( hope that gave you a smile help you feel better )

[epodcentral]

@RobertxJenks thanks, yeah it's sort of sad what people find important. i mean its all well and good to be proud of your kids/relationship whatever, but splashing it on facebook for all to see...I mainly object to kids being placed online in any way by people who don't fully understand the implications. haha i'm a looker - thanks! (how many beers have you had lol jokes)...haha tall pale and handsome, that is a more optimistic way to look at things!

[epodcentral]

@RobertxJenks and thanks, yes you did make me smile...believe it or not making this video was an amazingly cleansing experience for me and i have been bouncing off the walls all day! (or maybe it was more due to the excess amount of chocolate i consumed in the past 24 hours lol! :)

[christopherinsc1981]

But you can tell your a very smart person. And I enjoy watching your videos because you are smart and you are diff. so Screw the people in the past. That is where thankfully they can stay they cant hurt you any more. And lets hope none of their children have to deal with the pain that was put on you. 

[christopherinsc1981]

Yeah bulling is hard for everyone I know I went thro a few years of it mysellf that was very hard to deal with. I went from being a very popular kid and then moved and went from being the target of everyone it seem that walked the same way home as i did. I spent many days running home and that was the lucky days when i made it with out being caught. People are just mean even as adults people are mean we just grow up to learn its wrong. Well most do but sadly some dont,

[epodcentral]

@christopherinsc1981 thanks so much! you know what? you are right about letting the past go...unfortunately i have quite a messed up past life, but it is essentially that...in the past and should be kept there. I haven't let go of everything yet, but I do know how much of a cleansing experience making this video was. It is something I have been wanting to make for a long time, but I struggled a little in doing it...i was very happy how it turned out though - this was cut from 35min of footage!

[beautyfiend89]

I understand completely what you went through (or at least what you said) because I went through something very similar. I won't share it here but I really admire you for sharing this.

Take note anyone wanting to bully and bring people down, your nasty little comments are remembered and they DO leave a scar! You might say things without thinking but when it hurts enough, that person your bullying can't stop thinking about what you've said. Think before you speak and ask yourself if you would

[epodcentral]

@beautyfiend89 thanks, it wasn't a particularly easy video to make, but i feel a zillion times better after doing it...really therapeutic - i have been bouncing off the walls all day :) this was made under 24 hours after i had my 2nd psychologist appointment, which was incredibly informative, but totally did my head in - & i mean seriously i felt really really bad, but after taking all the info in, it was ok and finally i think pushed me to make this, which ive been wanting to make for a while.

[epodcentral]

@beautyfiend89 ps. i really miss seeing you around town - are you still here? i'd love to catch up sometime!

[cheekychickenhead]

School years were brutal I hated school too. My group of so called misfit friends and I all got picked on. I did go to my school reunion and just hung around with my group of friends I loved catching up with them and they had not changed but everyone else certainly had. At the end of the night there were some fights and some chic balling her eyes out in the bathroom about how her marriage was crappy. Kids can be very cruel but it is up to the parents to mould them.

[epodcentral]

@cheekychickenhead lol that would have made an amazing youtube video! tears! fights! bitching! school sucked so much...the main thing that frustrated me looking back was that they were so big on encouraging us to stay till grade 12...there really is no point if you are being bullied unless you have a specific career in mind. i learnt much more after i left school, however found that bullies are unfortunately still everywhere...but thankfully, not everyone is bad plus my coping skills are better.