I feel like it's really hard to establish relationships with other ppl because I am introverted. I want to establish and meet new ppl but it's hard for me also as a J (Personality types-ISTJ) to get a good conversation going on the spot, especially if it's just me and one other person
Hi, I loved your video on being an Introvert. It was very revealing. I myself am an Introvert and have made a short film about my perspective on London. I would love for you to check it out and tell me what you think. Thanks :) - Kevin
My baby pic I never smiled and I don't smile now but am so happy inside. Ppl are always asking me is anything wrong and I explain to them that I'm happy I jst don't like to smile. One thing that extroverted ppl say now that I know what to call it. Is that it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile well it hard work for me trying to keep a smile on all day. It's jst not me.
I jst always called it antisocial and never thought about.I chalked it up to if someone likes me as a person they do and if they don't they don't after I got older. As a little girl I struggled with it. Back to the lady in the grocery store she left me wondering did I blank out on her. The way she said it to me. My friends tell me that sometimes I am rude and jst stop talking to ppl but it's jst cause I don't have jst spare of the moment social skill. I'm not trying to be rude.
I was tense talking to her but after the convo ws over she walked a little down.I went back 2 shopping & she said well u have a good day.I thought she was gone about her business and it struck me that is what I could have said to her but it was nice of her to say it to me. I felt relieved after the convo. was over and she surprised me when she said that and got me back tense for a sec.
I never heard of introverts & extroverts& I'm glad I'm hearing this now.I've struggled all my life 2b more lively w/ ppl.My friends get upset cause I don't like 2 go out w/ em. I like 2 go out bt only wen I get the urge 2 which is not often.I don't call family members often,but they seem 2 know I do care I jst don't socialize alot.I was jst n the store&a lady struck up a convo w/me bout out dated dariy products.I didn't want to talk but I did anyway.
I think successful people are those who are in the middle of extroversion/introversion spectrum , those who ask important questions and analyze the data around them and yet have good connections and good common sense . balance is the key
@hadihadi222 I disagree with that, I am an introvert and I live a wonderful life, I make alot of money at my job, have a great bunch of friends who understand me(meaning they know i care for them but also know I NEED more me time then the average person).
On a side I believe alot of people confuse being interverted with just being plain jain shy.
Continued: They accept me, but when they introduce me to people they know, they say things like "this is my friend, he's really quiet." In reality, I'm just like them, I just prefer to listen and think rather than talk. I just wish that the world could understand introverts better, but I doubt that that will ever happen.
I'm an introvert, and I have mostly extroverted friends. I do enjoy time alone, but I have an outgoing side that loves to spend time with friends and have fun. When I'm in a social situation, I prefer to listen and think while everyone else talks more. People don't understand me when I do this. They say things like "why are you so quiet" and "are you shy?" No I am not shy, I just don't say much because I don't want to. I feel like they don't understand me.
@Smpa421...So? I think that if a person is quiet or don't know what to say...don't judge them as serious, prude, and selfish because they are not. I think you need to take a step back Smpa421 and realize that you have to go out of your way to get to know them...ask them questions, and just really see the good side of a person that's quiet.
Who knows? You might learn a lot from a quiet person...I'm not bashing Extroverts, but try and look at the introverted side too.
@Smpa421...Extroverted people are "Normal?" Okay...what is Normal about this world we live in? Define what is Normal, because we live in a really world were we have diversity. Smpa...you're an example of a recruiting Extrovert, and it's pushy people like you that give introverts a bad rap.
I think that if someone is quiet or shy...don't question them in a negative way. I think you should go out of your way to get to know them and make them feel comfortable...you know what I mean?
Introverts tend to be more depressed than extroverts, although, introverts get more accomplished because they usually don't let their mind float like extroverts, they are more concerned with their goals while extroverts waste time by living in the moment and socialize. Extroverted people are what you call "normal people", who like to have fun and are not so serious, prude, and calculated like introverts. Unlike introverts, extroverts are more kind and have the ability to be easily personable.
@Gurugoogly2...Um? Social people deserve to be gunned down? I'm an introvert, but what you're saying is really extreme. I don't wish death upon them you know, because we are all human.
The better solution would be to help the extroverts understand where we are coming from, and explain to them why we like to spend time alone to think and reflect.
Wow this video described me exactly with social gatherings and meeting people. I am an introvert AND a cancer just like couldbemessy. I really dislike social interactions and large gatherings, and would much prefer an IM conversation over a face to face one. I also agree with him on it not being a matter of choice as I know I've always been this way, even when I was little. I'm going away to college right now and it is a rough existence.
@TheAtomic1234321 : Hmm I don't really have any tips per-se, what I do is I make an effort to just get out of the dorm occasionally and take walks or go running when I'm not swamped with homework :P Also I try to talk to the people on my floor when I see them get them to talk about what their doing as its usually interesting to me.
I know how you feel,I'm an introvert and I went to a party a recently.Before I entered the room I knew it wasn't a good idea.Everyone was dancing and they were all trying to make me dance.I couldn't my body had frozen up.So I just backed into the corner,sat on a chair,looking at the clock,waiting for the party to end.It was so horrible because people were putting pressure on me to dance,if I didn't dance they would think I was boring.couldn't dance.Ended in 'What's your problem with dancing?!?!'
@Toxicslime1 I know what you say and it's horrible, you see all those people dancing, moving around, but I always feel uncomfortable with moving that much, even before entering to a crowded place full of people I know, I always feel like it's a huge mistake, I just don't like to be around with so many people talking so loud at the same time, and it is akward to be there alone in the corner, with people whispering about me, and randomly talking, just to not appear to be boring, :(
@odesasmty Yeah, it seems that they just don't understand. Heh well I felt more sorry for the boy since he was the only boy who came. He was in the same situation as I was XD We knew we felt the same thing xD
Being a cancer and an introvert is a leathal combination for social ackwardness haha i feel your pain man. By the way 25 percent of the population is introverts just so ya know
"Although many people view [it] as a question with only two possible answers, most contemporary trait theories measure levels of extraversion-introversion as part of a single, continuous dimension of personality, with some scores near one end, and others near the half-way mark. Ambiversion is a term used to describe people who fall more or less directly in the middle and exhibit tendencies of both groups."
I HATE EXTROVERTS. They dont understand introverts & make us feel like pathetic losers. Extroverts deserve to be gunned down by introvert has been made to feel bad. I love those lonely kids going on a rampage ,killing more social people in schools & colleges.
@gurugoogly2 don't hate! only you can make yourself feel like a loser. and violence is not the answer. you just have to make the most of what you have and find your place in life.
hi..i am introvert kid 15 years old...i just want to know what is the difference between emo and introvert...because my schoolmates always said that i am an emo...but actually i am not...thanks for your help...
Its also hard for me to initiate conversation, I just like to sit and listen. I know a couple of people not well though at school and I wont even walk up to them and say hey, im not being mean or rude im just always expecting to be talked to first. plus I hate when they come up to me and start little converstation because I cant keep a convo going for shit im like yeah blah blah this and that and then theres that awkwards silence which I HATE!!!!!!!!!!! because I will like my time was wasted
Im introverted and like Christmas im strong. I have no problem with being alone and I love it. Only time I really address someone is if they talk to me. Of course my Fam im more talkative but out in school im like watever. Honestly loud people sometimes sorta annoys me just because they go out there way to be heard or notice and im just like why can you just chill. One thing I hate is being in class and the teacher knows you dont say much or nothing and they have the ordasity to call on me -_-
I find that I am an introvert but I am strong at the same time but kinda like I am going to all of a sudden run 16 miles strong or I am gonna write this essay draft tonight... I am fighting against depression so I have to be strong.
@xavier3961 sorry to pile this one in but one I picked up recently is to accept its not part of you and your depression is like a force against you and it is not who you are. Definitely on the runs, I mean everything out the way instantly when you start feeling down just get running like your life depends on it run in till you feel A LOT better because you have to come first in life when you have problems to deal with because that is what being your best friend is about, looking after you.
These people are analytically smart. These types of people you find at prestigious universities like Yale, Harvard, Princeton, etc... They base things more on fact than opinion. Everything in their mind is calculated, and there is justification and meaning behind everything spoken. They are so busy being organized and calculated, that they drift away from "living in the moment" of time. These types of people are not very street smart and lack common sense. Alot of them are control freaks.
I understand where you're coming from, people always ask me if im shy, and they talk to me like im an idiot. Like there is something wrong with me. It drives me up the wall.
Just be yourself man...you know what? I've been to parties and was made fun of in front of my friends, and my friends and they didn't back me up which was messed up, but I feel you. I've had stupid questions asked to me like...why are you quiet? Why don't you smile more are you okay? It's annoying -_-
I like how you made compared it to being gay, well what you were saying is more like a preference, a choice.
im an introvert and i feel like im the only one since im surrounded by extroverts in my family and at school i mean i have friends but ye im constantly avoiding potential awkward situations like big groups of people and am constantly worried about what people are thinking and ye i don't like being this way and i know people don't understand me and think im weird and antisocial
I live in a family on extroverts and they drive me fucking insane... For a LONG time my family thought I was mean, rude, spoiled, and lonley because I was always wanting to be alone and didn't have many friends. This went on until two months ago when they took me to a councilor to see if i had a mental problem. Well... he told my parents and sibling that i was an introvert. And told them how to take care of me... Now they leave me alone XD Life is good.
idk if im an introvert...but if i go to school im nervous most of the time...i would talk to freinds and i have freinds but in class in nervous that people look at me and i dont know where to look and its all weird...im shy all the effin time which is annoying
When you have next doctor's visit, ask them for a CBC test. When you get the results, look at your hemoglobin. Brains consumes 70% of the energy and 30% goes to the rest of the body. I have this theory that introversion is merely a standby state of the brain because it lacks the energy to constantly stay on as in extroverts. Introversion is a curse because you don't absorb as much of the world so even at a later age you tend to be somewhat childish.
Introvert is a gift, my friend. The love of being peacful and calm, enjoying the sunset and sunrise at the beach is a blessed. Extroverts love drama, if they don't have it they go crazy.
I'm an introvert too, I consider myself a laid back type of person. I like to observe instead of hear myself talk all the time. I'm just not into all the crazy stuff that people like to do and talk about.
I think that introverts arnt that much of a minority, because extroverts tend to be loud your brain is drawn to them because they are interesting, if you look down a room your atension is nautraly drawn to the loud ones.
I still agree with you saying that they are a minority but like 30% or 40% not like 10% or 20%.
I have something more difficult to understand. It is called APD. Avoidant Personality Disorder. I avoid people because of feeling criticized. I never have felt competent enough for people, so I just avoid them. People are more judgemental than ever and it's hard to want to be around them. I can talk to strangers and voice my opinions and feelings to them but my own family I cannot.
I am not the person I usually am around my family and when I am alone I feel more relaxed.
@revilor sorry for missing the friend request. yes, I have had a relationship with an introvert. did not last as long as those with extroverts. but I have grown a lot since then (and even since this video was made), so I feel even wiser and ready for what may come next.
it is a gift my friend. You see, when you keep your mouth shut and your thoughts to yourself, you have the power. When people start talking you know what they are thinking (or at least make a logical pattern of what the person is thinking) but then they don't know what you are thinking since you are not talking as much. Sun Tzu will be proud!
@mrthingus All my friends are extroverts who think im weird cuz i don't wanna go to a party thats full of ppl talking about pointless shit, excuse me while i try and improve on something other than my "sexing skills"
i have social phobia or socail anxiety. im energetic and talkative and funny at ome but still very curious about everything. i hate facebook and nvr use my fone. i go to school and am very quiet... how can i tell if im introverted when social phobia masks my personality?
@TheScreamingRetard If you are interested in being more social, but are just afraid or nervous, you are probably an extrovert. Introverts actually have no desire to be out there in the crowd, but they are not afraid to be.
@TheScreamingRetard I know what you mean, I'm the same way. I don't do all of that crazy stuff like Facebook and have a million people blowing up my phone either. I am curious about things too.
They're two completely different traits. I honestly think introverts are the manual version of psychics in which we only know things in advanced from the fact that we put pieces together. Introverts think a lot and I usually find a correct conclusion to something when I figure things out myself without anyone telling me. I think of introversion as a gift, not a curse. We'll have less people in our lives, but we'll have more skills to survive. Which do you feel is more beneficial?
It probably is. But those are two different things. Introverts choose to be alone, while people with social anxiety disorder are people who usually want to be around people but can't. Introverts can be around other people just fine.
@ExplodingTurtle yeah i feel you im not shy at all i just dont care to talk to those other people... btw are you explodingturtle from ps3? if so this is aiir viirus from mgo!
@ExplodingTurtle LOL i know exactly what you re saying, i'm like that too :)) i dated a girl once who disliked me because I didnt talk that much. I actually enjoyed the date and being near her and all that, and felt like i dont need to bother the beautiful silence. she kept saying "why dont u say something, ure making me uncomfortable with your silence, why do i have to force words out of you, etc" until she became annoying.
like personally ok with silence, like i cud just sit in a room w ppl and just listen and stuff. silence isnt awkward but the extroverts r like this is awkwrd lets tlk. and im all self consious about it
you're so dam right! i feel tha same way about it's outa ur control and how i jus want ppl to treat me normal and not wierd! yu r smart b/c yu get it.
I hate talking to people i'm not use to. Everytime theres a party my mom would get in my case because I refuse to leave my room. She said its rude but I have no choice. I just can't stand being around strangers.
Thanks for your post. It was very helpful. I am also an introvert. Most of the time being the way I am is not a problem. Although there are certain social situations I miss out on and I feel bad about missing afterward. Like you said though it is part of who I am and not something that I feel I can change about myself. I have come to see it as a cross I have to bear.
sir i think you're naturally an extrovert, since you gain energy from being around other people. you just display signs of introversion cause of shyness so you think you're an introvert.
Thanks for sharing. I think it's a possibility some people labelled introverts are not introverted. Perhaps they are labelled by so called extroverted individuals who are dissatisfied with the interaction of the "introvert" and may label them introverted in some cases. So not all people are really introverted.
Question. How do you know your not going to have a good time when you go to a party? I think that's pessimistic or anxiety and the video is a good step in the right direction.
i can seriously relate to this. i am new in college and am very very introverted. i went to my first party a few weeks ago and i loved the beer and getting drunk but my thoughts were on those people that i barely knew that i was walking around with. but im so inwardly kept that i didnt really talk and the people around me were all introverted. also the people i was walking home from the party with were wondering why i was so quiet. even alcohol has a hard time loosening me up to talk
its small talk i cant abide. if sum1 wants to have a meaningful conversation, fine. i hate talking to people sometimes i am constantly worrying about what to say next its so annoying esp cos most my friends are extroverts.
This is a very insightful video. I have always known I am an introvert but it's only recently that I've realized this is something I am going to have to deal with for the rest of my life. Like you said, introversion is a social orientation. There is actually a biological basis for both types (introversion and extraversion). If I remember correctly, extraverts have lower cortical arousal/stimulation than introverts.
Please dont look at it as a burden, its a gift. The smartest people on earth, and some of the best actors are all introverts. We have big advantages. The only thing that tends to get in our way is this idea that we have to change and act like everyone else. Be yourself, thats what I do. And I could yap forever, kind of like i am here lol. For me, I don;t lose energy much or at all when I'm sharing a part of my rich inner self with other people. Having few close friends is better then 100fakeones
hi..i am introvert kid 15 years old...i just want to know what is the difference between emo and introvert...because my schoolmates always said that i am an emo...but actually i am not...thanks for your help...
Im also an Introvert, and im sick of it. I try to put myself in extroverted situations to see if maybe i can become more socially open. Thats usually not the case.. I often go home afterwards thinking "ugh i could have been more social, i acted like in idiot" and so on. Also, when im around new people, I often get asked why im so quiet, and I never know what to answer.
Don't be sick of it, it's a gift. If you wanna be so social, ask yourself why? If its to be normal, then cut it, you can be social and have good conversations that are meaningful, thats one of the perks, being able to think and thinking on higher levels. Otherwise, you're probably a mild introvert or extravert.
That's right. It is a gift. People think it's more like a problem with us. Even my parents don't truely understand it. My mom always pushed me into socialism when I was younger. I want friends, but I'd rather be alone if I don't feel the connection. Introverts are independent leaders who know what they want and how to get it. Extroverts are JUST followers who feel the winning team is the one who speaks up.We can talk, but who'll care, right? So why bother wasting our energy, right?
Also, even someone like me, who is extremely introveted, has no problem acting stupid or socialising, or ranting on end. For me, I just prefer being alone and thinking, and when i do those extroverted things, I just have to watch it because I run out of energy within about 2-3 hours. The thing is, i CHOOSE when I wanna go out, I CHOOSE who to go out with, and I try to avoid meaningless chit chat. But in a world thats 75% extroverted, its a valuable thing to learn to get by.
Well besides being more social, I also want to feel a connection that is straightforward with others. I also want to feel comfortable socializing with others, instead of feeling like im forced to talk to them. Although I love being alone, I dont want that to also interfere with me in society,
feeling comfortable socializing with others is something you can definetely learn, but you cant force a straightword connection with others. However, bein gthe type of person you are, your brain is marvelously wired to be great in person to person socialization. The fact is you can do everything you want, but if you wanna feel the way you stated you do, you cant do it the same way others do. You can learn to act like a mindless extrovert, but i guarantee you'll feel lousy afterwards. be yourself
Dont torture yourself over it. Act the way you feel is natural. I don't give a damn what other people want me to be like, I refuse to betray one of the core aspects of my personality just to make other people happy.
man i know how you feel. im black and an introvert. its tough sometimes cause the black culture seems to be more favorable to those who are loud (extroverts). but i have 3 close friends so im cool with that.
Um,Can anyone tell me what I am? I'm shy,insecure(I think) and I want people to talk to me but at the same time I don't want anyone near me because I always want to be alone but not really... Ugh,life is so confusing... =[ Can anyone give me advice on what to do? I'm so...
It sounds to me like you might be an introvert but also have a problem with social anxiety. Introversion, shyness, social phobia are not all the same thing. Talk to a counselor and see what they have to say. It might also help to do some reading. It's been a godsend for me. Good luck.:)
my mom wanted me to go to a psychiatrist because i don't talk much, don't socialize much in short because i'm an introvert. it was painful to think that my OWN mother thinks that i have some defects. Now, i'm third year psychology student.
Great video! I'm so sick of being an introvert, but it's nice to read about others like me. I hate being at work and when the lines go away I'm supposed to talk to my coworkers. I especially hate going out with a new friend and ending up sitting in a living room with five people I've never met in my life, staring at the carpet and wishing I was invisible to keep them from asking that one question--why are you so quiet?
I don't really think introverts are selfish - personally i don't like TALKING to other people or be with them, but i would never let a friend down and i really care for the humans as a whole...
@danthemaniac you are nothing but a gay ass mother f***** who gives a shit! u dont know or understand the life of an introvert!!! i would like to see you be afraid of speaking to people see how u feel dickhole.
I feel like it's really hard to establish relationships with other ppl because I am introverted. I want to establish and meet new ppl but it's hard for me also as a J (Personality types-ISTJ) to get a good conversation going on the spot, especially if it's just me and one other person
jagdjohn96 4 days ago
i heard introverts 30% and 70% extroverts in the world
sylvial1985 1 month ago
Hi, I loved your video on being an Introvert. It was very revealing. I myself am an Introvert and have made a short film about my perspective on London. I would love for you to check it out and tell me what you think. Thanks :) - Kevin
jamaicanpenguin 2 months ago
@MrTempUzer thank you!
couldbemessy 3 months ago
My baby pic I never smiled and I don't smile now but am so happy inside. Ppl are always asking me is anything wrong and I explain to them that I'm happy I jst don't like to smile. One thing that extroverted ppl say now that I know what to call it. Is that it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile well it hard work for me trying to keep a smile on all day. It's jst not me.
100thickalicwayz 5 months ago
@100thickalicwayz i get told the same thing it really works my nerves
chaotix6 5 months ago
I jst always called it antisocial and never thought about.I chalked it up to if someone likes me as a person they do and if they don't they don't after I got older. As a little girl I struggled with it. Back to the lady in the grocery store she left me wondering did I blank out on her. The way she said it to me. My friends tell me that sometimes I am rude and jst stop talking to ppl but it's jst cause I don't have jst spare of the moment social skill. I'm not trying to be rude.
100thickalicwayz 5 months ago
I was tense talking to her but after the convo ws over she walked a little down.I went back 2 shopping & she said well u have a good day.I thought she was gone about her business and it struck me that is what I could have said to her but it was nice of her to say it to me. I felt relieved after the convo. was over and she surprised me when she said that and got me back tense for a sec.
100thickalicwayz 5 months ago
I never heard of introverts & extroverts& I'm glad I'm hearing this now.I've struggled all my life 2b more lively w/ ppl.My friends get upset cause I don't like 2 go out w/ em. I like 2 go out bt only wen I get the urge 2 which is not often.I don't call family members often,but they seem 2 know I do care I jst don't socialize alot.I was jst n the store&a lady struck up a convo w/me bout out dated dariy products.I didn't want to talk but I did anyway.
100thickalicwayz 5 months ago
most annoying extrovert quotes:
"Why are you so quiet?"
"Why are you so shy? Have fun and open up!"
"Do you ever talk?!"
*mom nudges you* "Emily say hello!!"
MyEmmaLeeRose 5 months ago
I think successful people are those who are in the middle of extroversion/introversion spectrum , those who ask important questions and analyze the data around them and yet have good connections and good common sense . balance is the key
hadihadi222 6 months ago
Extroverts generally live a happier life than introverts
hadihadi222 6 months ago
@hadihadi222 I disagree with that, I am an introvert and I live a wonderful life, I make alot of money at my job, have a great bunch of friends who understand me(meaning they know i care for them but also know I NEED more me time then the average person).
On a side I believe alot of people confuse being interverted with just being plain jain shy.
2897241 5 months ago
I dnt know if anybody posted this yet but I have read that 75% of the population is extroverted
stephangelo 6 months ago
@stephangelo Me too~ D:
TheRena5 6 months ago
@mrthingus
Thank you...I feel the same way.
EricSchwin22 7 months ago
I can tell when the Extroverts are getting ready to ask me "Why don't you smile?"
....*sigh* Shut up and stick your smile up your ass.
UcanbeGOD 8 months ago
@UcanbeGOD I like your response. I wonder if it would be okay for me to borrow it....
baddave62 7 months ago
Lol so true having extrovert parents is hell, always nagging you about your behavior and not going out more like your siblings.
SidneyVang 8 months ago
@SidneyVang I'm so glad i'm an only child. lol
sergeantvictory 7 months ago
alot of people would see me as "shy", and my parents seem to think i'm a "loner"
its annoying
DubaiNoob 8 months ago
Continued: They accept me, but when they introduce me to people they know, they say things like "this is my friend, he's really quiet." In reality, I'm just like them, I just prefer to listen and think rather than talk. I just wish that the world could understand introverts better, but I doubt that that will ever happen.
sergeantvictory 8 months ago
I'm an introvert, and I have mostly extroverted friends. I do enjoy time alone, but I have an outgoing side that loves to spend time with friends and have fun. When I'm in a social situation, I prefer to listen and think while everyone else talks more. People don't understand me when I do this. They say things like "why are you so quiet" and "are you shy?" No I am not shy, I just don't say much because I don't want to. I feel like they don't understand me.
sergeantvictory 8 months ago
Thank you so much... that was exactly what I needed to hear! Wish you the best.
spiritedblue 8 months ago
@spiritedblue you're welcome :)
couldbemessy 3 months ago
@Smpa421...So? I think that if a person is quiet or don't know what to say...don't judge them as serious, prude, and selfish because they are not. I think you need to take a step back Smpa421 and realize that you have to go out of your way to get to know them...ask them questions, and just really see the good side of a person that's quiet.
Who knows? You might learn a lot from a quiet person...I'm not bashing Extroverts, but try and look at the introverted side too.
EricSchwin22 9 months ago
@Smpa421...Extroverted people are "Normal?" Okay...what is Normal about this world we live in? Define what is Normal, because we live in a really world were we have diversity. Smpa...you're an example of a recruiting Extrovert, and it's pushy people like you that give introverts a bad rap.
I think that if someone is quiet or shy...don't question them in a negative way. I think you should go out of your way to get to know them and make them feel comfortable...you know what I mean?
EricSchwin22 9 months ago
@EricSchwin22
Normal is majority.
RavensOfMyFuneral 9 months ago
Introverts tend to be more depressed than extroverts, although, introverts get more accomplished because they usually don't let their mind float like extroverts, they are more concerned with their goals while extroverts waste time by living in the moment and socialize. Extroverted people are what you call "normal people", who like to have fun and are not so serious, prude, and calculated like introverts. Unlike introverts, extroverts are more kind and have the ability to be easily personable.
Smpa421 9 months ago
@Gurugoogly2...Um? Social people deserve to be gunned down? I'm an introvert, but what you're saying is really extreme. I don't wish death upon them you know, because we are all human.
The better solution would be to help the extroverts understand where we are coming from, and explain to them why we like to spend time alone to think and reflect.
EricSchwin22 1 year ago
Wow this video described me exactly with social gatherings and meeting people. I am an introvert AND a cancer just like couldbemessy. I really dislike social interactions and large gatherings, and would much prefer an IM conversation over a face to face one. I also agree with him on it not being a matter of choice as I know I've always been this way, even when I was little. I'm going away to college right now and it is a rough existence.
Matt13789 1 year ago
@Matt13789 Hows college going? Im in it, and highly introverted, and its very stressful.
Do you have any tips lol?
TheAtomic1234321 1 year ago
@TheAtomic1234321 : Hmm I don't really have any tips per-se, what I do is I make an effort to just get out of the dorm occasionally and take walks or go running when I'm not swamped with homework :P Also I try to talk to the people on my floor when I see them get them to talk about what their doing as its usually interesting to me.
Matt13789 1 year ago
@Matt13789 hope you're doing well Matt - sorry took me so many months to respond!
couldbemessy 3 months ago
I know how you feel,I'm an introvert and I went to a party a recently.Before I entered the room I knew it wasn't a good idea.Everyone was dancing and they were all trying to make me dance.I couldn't my body had frozen up.So I just backed into the corner,sat on a chair,looking at the clock,waiting for the party to end.It was so horrible because people were putting pressure on me to dance,if I didn't dance they would think I was boring.couldn't dance.Ended in 'What's your problem with dancing?!?!'
Toxicslime1 1 year ago
@Toxicslime1 just drink a lot bro, it helps me loosen up and get my inner extrovert on.
amosminore 1 year ago
@amosminore But I'm too young to drink =/
Toxicslime1 1 year ago
@Toxicslime1 I know what you say and it's horrible, you see all those people dancing, moving around, but I always feel uncomfortable with moving that much, even before entering to a crowded place full of people I know, I always feel like it's a huge mistake, I just don't like to be around with so many people talking so loud at the same time, and it is akward to be there alone in the corner, with people whispering about me, and randomly talking, just to not appear to be boring, :(
odesasmty 9 months ago
@odesasmty Yeah, it seems that they just don't understand. Heh well I felt more sorry for the boy since he was the only boy who came. He was in the same situation as I was XD We knew we felt the same thing xD
Toxicslime1 9 months ago
My zodiac sign is a leo and my personality type is ISFP, I'm not sure if thats a good or bad thing lol
Aufaugen 1 year ago
well a drink or 2 will fix it
jhood7891 1 year ago
Being a cancer and an introvert is a leathal combination for social ackwardness haha i feel your pain man. By the way 25 percent of the population is introverts just so ya know
bm2272 1 year ago
"Although many people view [it] as a question with only two possible answers, most contemporary trait theories measure levels of extraversion-introversion as part of a single, continuous dimension of personality, with some scores near one end, and others near the half-way mark. Ambiversion is a term used to describe people who fall more or less directly in the middle and exhibit tendencies of both groups."
Wikipedia
Octobre1986 1 year ago
I HATE EXTROVERTS. They dont understand introverts & make us feel like pathetic losers. Extroverts deserve to be gunned down by introvert has been made to feel bad. I love those lonely kids going on a rampage ,killing more social people in schools & colleges.
gurugoogly2 1 year ago
@gurugoogly2 u dont need to have a hate for them but i would say that u are 75 percent correct
zombiekidcrazy 11 months ago
@gurugoogly2 don't hate! only you can make yourself feel like a loser. and violence is not the answer. you just have to make the most of what you have and find your place in life.
couldbemessy 3 months ago
Man, just remember. Introvertic people think a lot and speak less. Extrovertic people think less and speak a lot.
PlaguedMan 1 year ago 12
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hi..i am introvert kid 15 years old...i just want to know what is the difference between emo and introvert...because my schoolmates always said that i am an emo...but actually i am not...thanks for your help...
hanazawarui21 1 year ago
wise words.
Deimos69r 1 year ago
@Deimos69r thanks!
couldbemessy 3 months ago
A Wise man speaks because he has something to say (Introverts) The fool speaks because he has to say something (Extroverts) LOL
FatalDeity 1 year ago
@FatalDeity I think they both speak because they have something to say. Maybe they just come from different places(?)
couldbemessy 3 months ago
Its also hard for me to initiate conversation, I just like to sit and listen. I know a couple of people not well though at school and I wont even walk up to them and say hey, im not being mean or rude im just always expecting to be talked to first. plus I hate when they come up to me and start little converstation because I cant keep a convo going for shit im like yeah blah blah this and that and then theres that awkwards silence which I HATE!!!!!!!!!!! because I will like my time was wasted
FatalDeity 1 year ago
@FatalDeity awkward silence is not fun, I agree.
couldbemessy 3 months ago
Im introverted and like Christmas im strong. I have no problem with being alone and I love it. Only time I really address someone is if they talk to me. Of course my Fam im more talkative but out in school im like watever. Honestly loud people sometimes sorta annoys me just because they go out there way to be heard or notice and im just like why can you just chill. One thing I hate is being in class and the teacher knows you dont say much or nothing and they have the ordasity to call on me -_-
FatalDeity 1 year ago
I find that I am an introvert but I am strong at the same time but kinda like I am going to all of a sudden run 16 miles strong or I am gonna write this essay draft tonight... I am fighting against depression so I have to be strong.
CHRISTMASBASTARD 1 year ago
@CHRISTMASBASTARD How are you dealing with your fight against depression?
xavier3961 1 year ago
@xavier3961 By remembering important teachings like be your best friend, try and see the bright side, going for runs regularly no matter what.
CHRISTMASBASTARD 1 year ago
@CHRISTMASBASTARD Thanx for the Help.
xavier3961 1 year ago
@xavier3961 sorry to pile this one in but one I picked up recently is to accept its not part of you and your depression is like a force against you and it is not who you are. Definitely on the runs, I mean everything out the way instantly when you start feeling down just get running like your life depends on it run in till you feel A LOT better because you have to come first in life when you have problems to deal with because that is what being your best friend is about, looking after you.
CHRISTMASBASTARD 1 year ago
These people are analytically smart. These types of people you find at prestigious universities like Yale, Harvard, Princeton, etc... They base things more on fact than opinion. Everything in their mind is calculated, and there is justification and meaning behind everything spoken. They are so busy being organized and calculated, that they drift away from "living in the moment" of time. These types of people are not very street smart and lack common sense. Alot of them are control freaks.
Smpa421 1 year ago
@Smpa421 Don`t get me wrong - i think you have a great point but introverts also have passion - its just not that obvious!
DCM30 1 year ago
wow, what an interesting comparison...comparing being gay to being an introvert.
okonkwoobiageli 1 year ago
@okonkwoobiageli how so?
couldbemessy 3 months ago
I understand where you're coming from, people always ask me if im shy, and they talk to me like im an idiot. Like there is something wrong with me. It drives me up the wall.
Grimmy15 1 year ago
Just be yourself man...you know what? I've been to parties and was made fun of in front of my friends, and my friends and they didn't back me up which was messed up, but I feel you. I've had stupid questions asked to me like...why are you quiet? Why don't you smile more are you okay? It's annoying -_-
I like how you made compared it to being gay, well what you were saying is more like a preference, a choice.
EricSchwin22 1 year ago
im an introvert and i feel like im the only one since im surrounded by extroverts in my family and at school i mean i have friends but ye im constantly avoiding potential awkward situations like big groups of people and am constantly worried about what people are thinking and ye i don't like being this way and i know people don't understand me and think im weird and antisocial
slamcityskater 1 year ago
fag
brixendump 1 year ago
I live in a family on extroverts and they drive me fucking insane... For a LONG time my family thought I was mean, rude, spoiled, and lonley because I was always wanting to be alone and didn't have many friends. This went on until two months ago when they took me to a councilor to see if i had a mental problem. Well... he told my parents and sibling that i was an introvert. And told them how to take care of me... Now they leave me alone XD Life is good.
mirioticdbsktvxq1321 1 year ago
What does introversion have to do with being gay?
Barackhenaten 1 year ago
@Barackhenaten nothing I gather - from your question. is that your opinion?
couldbemessy 3 months ago
idk if im an introvert...but if i go to school im nervous most of the time...i would talk to freinds and i have freinds but in class in nervous that people look at me and i dont know where to look and its all weird...im shy all the effin time which is annoying
AhmedSPX 1 year ago
When you have next doctor's visit, ask them for a CBC test. When you get the results, look at your hemoglobin. Brains consumes 70% of the energy and 30% goes to the rest of the body. I have this theory that introversion is merely a standby state of the brain because it lacks the energy to constantly stay on as in extroverts. Introversion is a curse because you don't absorb as much of the world so even at a later age you tend to be somewhat childish.
1975Aspen 1 year ago
u HAAATTTEE being an introvery
being a teenager is hard enuf without the world telling us tht we need to be extroverting. over think and over analyze stuff
it wud b so much easier to be extroverted.
ALLthingsTV242 1 year ago
Introvert is a gift, my friend. The love of being peacful and calm, enjoying the sunset and sunrise at the beach is a blessed. Extroverts love drama, if they don't have it they go crazy.
ferrari4sale 1 year ago
I'm an introvert too, I consider myself a laid back type of person. I like to observe instead of hear myself talk all the time. I'm just not into all the crazy stuff that people like to do and talk about.
TheNextBestThing7 1 year ago
I think that introverts arnt that much of a minority, because extroverts tend to be loud your brain is drawn to them because they are interesting, if you look down a room your atension is nautraly drawn to the loud ones.
I still agree with you saying that they are a minority but like 30% or 40% not like 10% or 20%.
blewett47 1 year ago
I have something more difficult to understand. It is called APD. Avoidant Personality Disorder. I avoid people because of feeling criticized. I never have felt competent enough for people, so I just avoid them. People are more judgemental than ever and it's hard to want to be around them. I can talk to strangers and voice my opinions and feelings to them but my own family I cannot.
I am not the person I usually am around my family and when I am alone I feel more relaxed.
robbiesyohn 1 year ago
@robbiesyohn how did you find out about APD?
couldbemessy 3 months ago
ISTP
sputnikowns 1 year ago
Astrology FTL
sputnikowns 1 year ago
How you ever had a relationship with an introvert?
What was the relationship like?
Did the introvert seem like they understood you better than an extrovert person in a relationship?
Sorry for all the questions just curious. ;]
Tried sending it in a message but you haven't added as a friend yet. :(
revilor 1 year ago
@revilor sorry for missing the friend request. yes, I have had a relationship with an introvert. did not last as long as those with extroverts. but I have grown a lot since then (and even since this video was made), so I feel even wiser and ready for what may come next.
couldbemessy 3 months ago
Introversion explains why i find fb to be annoying
lakid87 1 year ago
@lakid87 how so?
couldbemessy 3 months ago
it is a gift my friend. You see, when you keep your mouth shut and your thoughts to yourself, you have the power. When people start talking you know what they are thinking (or at least make a logical pattern of what the person is thinking) but then they don't know what you are thinking since you are not talking as much. Sun Tzu will be proud!
dirx103 1 year ago
ok so you like showing people your tattoo, for an introvert you are pretty.....errr extroverted roflmao
dirx103 1 year ago
Thank you for your video and yeah there are more extroverts than introverts.
Lootraevefan 1 year ago
@Lootraevefan thanks!!
couldbemessy 3 months ago
There's no split line with introverts on one side and extraverts on the other..you can have qualities of both.
LovetteCher 2 years ago
@LovetteCher of course.
couldbemessy 3 months ago
Being an introvert with extrovert parents is hell.
Being an introvert with extrovert friends is hell.
mrthingus 2 years ago 27
@mrthingus
You can say that again...again. xD
LovetteCher 2 years ago 2
@mrthingus true
nangamujra 1 year ago
ya i know how that goes, im in the same boat
pyrofreak8 1 year ago
except the freinds part, i dont hang out with anyone anmore, but when i did have freinds they were all extroverts.
pyrofreak8 1 year ago
@mrthingus
fuck your rite my life is hell when am at home.
armytaskforce11x 1 year ago
@mrthingus All my friends are extroverts who think im weird cuz i don't wanna go to a party thats full of ppl talking about pointless shit, excuse me while i try and improve on something other than my "sexing skills"
lakid87 1 year ago
@mrthingus I feel ya, take a walk in my shoes.
TheNextBestThing7 1 year ago
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MegaHayhayhayhay 9 months ago
@mrthingus BEING A INTROVERT AND A EXTROVERT IS HELL!!!
MegaHayhayhayhay 9 months ago
@MegaHayhayhayhay care to explain?
couldbemessy 3 months ago
@mrthingus personally, I need my extrovert friends. else I'd be living in a cave...
couldbemessy 3 months ago
i have social phobia or socail anxiety. im energetic and talkative and funny at ome but still very curious about everything. i hate facebook and nvr use my fone. i go to school and am very quiet... how can i tell if im introverted when social phobia masks my personality?
TheScreamingRetard 2 years ago
@TheScreamingRetard If you are interested in being more social, but are just afraid or nervous, you are probably an extrovert. Introverts actually have no desire to be out there in the crowd, but they are not afraid to be.
kag1985 2 years ago
Well this sucks then, I'm introverted with social anxiety at the same time.
nukeum2 1 year ago
@TheScreamingRetard I know what you mean, I'm the same way. I don't do all of that crazy stuff like Facebook and have a million people blowing up my phone either. I am curious about things too.
TheNextBestThing7 1 year ago
@TheScreamingRetard good question - maybe it's not important to label or categorize yourself too much.
couldbemessy 3 months ago
I wonder if being introverted is being confused with social anxiety disorder.
nukeum2 2 years ago
They're two completely different traits. I honestly think introverts are the manual version of psychics in which we only know things in advanced from the fact that we put pieces together. Introverts think a lot and I usually find a correct conclusion to something when I figure things out myself without anyone telling me. I think of introversion as a gift, not a curse. We'll have less people in our lives, but we'll have more skills to survive. Which do you feel is more beneficial?
NewYorkS4U 2 years ago
It probably is. But those are two different things. Introverts choose to be alone, while people with social anxiety disorder are people who usually want to be around people but can't. Introverts can be around other people just fine.
entrailsgalore 2 years ago
I always get bothered for being "shy". I'm not shy, I just don't feel the need to talk to you, okay. :P
ExplodingTurtle 2 years ago 51
@ExplodingTurtle yeah i feel you im not shy at all i just dont care to talk to those other people... btw are you explodingturtle from ps3? if so this is aiir viirus from mgo!
ironkatana3 2 years ago
@ExplodingTurtle , lol, people used to say that to me too.. feel the same way
kag1985 2 years ago
@ExplodingTurtle LOL i know exactly what you re saying, i'm like that too :)) i dated a girl once who disliked me because I didnt talk that much. I actually enjoyed the date and being near her and all that, and felt like i dont need to bother the beautiful silence. she kept saying "why dont u say something, ure making me uncomfortable with your silence, why do i have to force words out of you, etc" until she became annoying.
Mtbfanro 1 year ago
@Mtbfanro ik wht ur saying
like personally ok with silence, like i cud just sit in a room w ppl and just listen and stuff. silence isnt awkward but the extroverts r like this is awkwrd lets tlk. and im all self consious about it
ALLthingsTV242 1 year ago
@ExplodingTurtle Tell me about it.
TheNextBestThing7 1 year ago
you're so dam right! i feel tha same way about it's outa ur control and how i jus want ppl to treat me normal and not wierd! yu r smart b/c yu get it.
MegaDreamer88 2 years ago
I think i am more introvert but have some extrovert qualities. I have a big group of friends but i think im like the quiet one
MrJamesmusic 2 years ago
@MrJamesmusic lol, if you have ANY extrovert qualities, trust me, youre not an introvert
kag1985 2 years ago
This person is not a typical introvert. He is an ambivert.
litpal 2 years ago
@litpal oh really? hmm will look into that.
couldbemessy 3 months ago
good video people need to understand other people differances
BRKS627 2 years ago
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introvert would not make youtube vids, c'mon, your not
agamjl 2 years ago
I hate talking to people i'm not use to. Everytime theres a party my mom would get in my case because I refuse to leave my room. She said its rude but I have no choice. I just can't stand being around strangers.
PassingSquall 2 years ago 3
you're a cutie
Triad3Force 2 years ago
Don't use the word 'confessions' OK? I'm an INTP.
Zaphenath4 2 years ago
@Zaphenath4 don't censor me OK?
couldbemessy 3 months ago
Thanks for your post. It was very helpful. I am also an introvert. Most of the time being the way I am is not a problem. Although there are certain social situations I miss out on and I feel bad about missing afterward. Like you said though it is part of who I am and not something that I feel I can change about myself. I have come to see it as a cross I have to bear.
uberdude101 2 years ago
sir i think you're naturally an extrovert, since you gain energy from being around other people. you just display signs of introversion cause of shyness so you think you're an introvert.
mmeemss 2 years ago
Thanks for sharing. I think it's a possibility some people labelled introverts are not introverted. Perhaps they are labelled by so called extroverted individuals who are dissatisfied with the interaction of the "introvert" and may label them introverted in some cases. So not all people are really introverted.
Question. How do you know your not going to have a good time when you go to a party? I think that's pessimistic or anxiety and the video is a good step in the right direction.
mzterrific 2 years ago
im only an introvert because it's essential i sort my life problems out first, cause sorting out my life problems always takes a long time!
vegunited06 2 years ago
ITV & Comments: We high-five each other for being losers.
Lexmechanicus 2 years ago
Better than being retarded.
FromBoomTown 2 years ago 4
i can seriously relate to this. i am new in college and am very very introverted. i went to my first party a few weeks ago and i loved the beer and getting drunk but my thoughts were on those people that i barely knew that i was walking around with. but im so inwardly kept that i didnt really talk and the people around me were all introverted. also the people i was walking home from the party with were wondering why i was so quiet. even alcohol has a hard time loosening me up to talk
zeke01370 2 years ago
its small talk i cant abide. if sum1 wants to have a meaningful conversation, fine. i hate talking to people sometimes i am constantly worrying about what to say next its so annoying esp cos most my friends are extroverts.
Pippitypopify 2 years ago 2
This is a very insightful video. I have always known I am an introvert but it's only recently that I've realized this is something I am going to have to deal with for the rest of my life. Like you said, introversion is a social orientation. There is actually a biological basis for both types (introversion and extraversion). If I remember correctly, extraverts have lower cortical arousal/stimulation than introverts.
jennielynn77 2 years ago
Please dont look at it as a burden, its a gift. The smartest people on earth, and some of the best actors are all introverts. We have big advantages. The only thing that tends to get in our way is this idea that we have to change and act like everyone else. Be yourself, thats what I do. And I could yap forever, kind of like i am here lol. For me, I don;t lose energy much or at all when I'm sharing a part of my rich inner self with other people. Having few close friends is better then 100fakeones
andrew18651 2 years ago 44
well said, I agree completely. If I could give you 100 thumbs up I would :)
boss2860 2 years ago
@andrew18651 lol im introvert and a hell of an actor
ydrjtt 1 year ago
hi..i am introvert kid 15 years old...i just want to know what is the difference between emo and introvert...because my schoolmates always said that i am an emo...but actually i am not...thanks for your help...
hanazawarui21 1 year ago
kindly reply me in my facebook account or yahoo mail...my email is harvey_caceres21@yahoo.com...thank you again...
hanazawarui21 1 year ago
@hanazawarui21
Your school mates are extroverted morons.
gurugoogly2 1 year ago
Im also an Introvert, and im sick of it. I try to put myself in extroverted situations to see if maybe i can become more socially open. Thats usually not the case.. I often go home afterwards thinking "ugh i could have been more social, i acted like in idiot" and so on. Also, when im around new people, I often get asked why im so quiet, and I never know what to answer.
IlikepurpleXP 2 years ago 5
Don't be sick of it, it's a gift. If you wanna be so social, ask yourself why? If its to be normal, then cut it, you can be social and have good conversations that are meaningful, thats one of the perks, being able to think and thinking on higher levels. Otherwise, you're probably a mild introvert or extravert.
andrew18651 2 years ago
That's right. It is a gift. People think it's more like a problem with us. Even my parents don't truely understand it. My mom always pushed me into socialism when I was younger. I want friends, but I'd rather be alone if I don't feel the connection. Introverts are independent leaders who know what they want and how to get it. Extroverts are JUST followers who feel the winning team is the one who speaks up.We can talk, but who'll care, right? So why bother wasting our energy, right?
NewYorkS4U 2 years ago
Also, even someone like me, who is extremely introveted, has no problem acting stupid or socialising, or ranting on end. For me, I just prefer being alone and thinking, and when i do those extroverted things, I just have to watch it because I run out of energy within about 2-3 hours. The thing is, i CHOOSE when I wanna go out, I CHOOSE who to go out with, and I try to avoid meaningless chit chat. But in a world thats 75% extroverted, its a valuable thing to learn to get by.
andrew18651 2 years ago
Well besides being more social, I also want to feel a connection that is straightforward with others. I also want to feel comfortable socializing with others, instead of feeling like im forced to talk to them. Although I love being alone, I dont want that to also interfere with me in society,
IlikepurpleXP 2 years ago
feeling comfortable socializing with others is something you can definetely learn, but you cant force a straightword connection with others. However, bein gthe type of person you are, your brain is marvelously wired to be great in person to person socialization. The fact is you can do everything you want, but if you wanna feel the way you stated you do, you cant do it the same way others do. You can learn to act like a mindless extrovert, but i guarantee you'll feel lousy afterwards. be yourself
andrew18651 2 years ago
Dont torture yourself over it. Act the way you feel is natural. I don't give a damn what other people want me to be like, I refuse to betray one of the core aspects of my personality just to make other people happy.
Giblinono 2 years ago 6
man i know how you feel. im black and an introvert. its tough sometimes cause the black culture seems to be more favorable to those who are loud (extroverts). but i have 3 close friends so im cool with that.
ggpofan 2 years ago
I'm an extreme Virgo introvert, and let me tell you, the graveyard shift is my friend.
MalfoyFemDom 2 years ago 2
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RattleheadAnthony 2 years ago
Um,Can anyone tell me what I am? I'm shy,insecure(I think) and I want people to talk to me but at the same time I don't want anyone near me because I always want to be alone but not really... Ugh,life is so confusing... =[ Can anyone give me advice on what to do? I'm so...
RattleheadAnthony 2 years ago
It sounds to me like you might be an introvert but also have a problem with social anxiety. Introversion, shyness, social phobia are not all the same thing. Talk to a counselor and see what they have to say. It might also help to do some reading. It's been a godsend for me. Good luck.:)
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RattleheadAnthony 2 years ago
@RattleheadAnthony u need to get high
lakid87 1 year ago
my mom wanted me to go to a psychiatrist because i don't talk much, don't socialize much in short because i'm an introvert. it was painful to think that my OWN mother thinks that i have some defects. Now, i'm third year psychology student.
clanhsm 2 years ago 5
Great video! I'm so sick of being an introvert, but it's nice to read about others like me. I hate being at work and when the lines go away I'm supposed to talk to my coworkers. I especially hate going out with a new friend and ending up sitting in a living room with five people I've never met in my life, staring at the carpet and wishing I was invisible to keep them from asking that one question--why are you so quiet?
cuddlyfruit 2 years ago 5
Are you trying to say that you're gay???
akrasia1969 2 years ago
Im a capricorn introvert!!
CapricornusDude 2 years ago 5
CapricornusDude,
Me too!
BalletTwirl 2 years ago 3
Same here. Cold months harden personality :)
TheCat86 2 years ago
I don't really think introverts are selfish - personally i don't like TALKING to other people or be with them, but i would never let a friend down and i really care for the humans as a whole...
athiria 2 years ago 5
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You have a gay lisp. No wonder you are an introvert.
danthemaniac 2 years ago
Stupid...?
athiria 2 years ago
@danthemaniac you are nothing but a gay ass mother f***** who gives a shit! u dont know or understand the life of an introvert!!! i would like to see you be afraid of speaking to people see how u feel dickhole.
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