Less worth then i am,you are just you and im me.I just respect others so why can they just repsect me?. I looked the world as being beautiful,and same with humans.They are all here for me, AND for you!.If i dident had to hear all my life how to be and not to be.And have tried so hard to bee what im not("Normal"),and just respected.I couldt maybye do the same against you!. Make me diffrent and i make you diffrent you know what i mean?. We are humans we all here for a reason.Peace
Hey im a narcissist,have proberly been it all my life.I have had alot of troubles and conflicts with other people.I have now learned,that all my troubles and others have been because i had hurt people in diffrent ways.Sometimes because i really wanted to,and other times because it could fuel have i feeled other ppl looked at me. I have now comed by to the conclusion that i am what i am, i have learned to respect other ppl and dont hurt them endless they hurt me.
my husband is a Narcissist, he makes me feel week and sooo drained and everything is my flaut ,i not being selfish i love my husband but its sooooo draining
@gummynumberone You have it already. Your narcissist has just made you forget that. Just do it and you will find what resources you have. It was part of the healing for me to find what incredible strength I had. It was buried and forgotten, but there all along.
I know too well about a narcissist....my ex son-in-law is one.....my daughter has a perment restraining order against him as he was phycially abuse to her when throughout their marriage and when she was expecting their son.I am the one who must deal with him as he now has unsuporvise visits with his daughter 4 and son son 3......he is so difficult to handle I try not to say anything to him as he always has a problem.He is driving me and my family nuts....any kind of help i would most appreicate.
I have a "friend" at school which I nearly can't handle any more. He shows very low empathy for others and when he do, he later dedicates it like it was a joke. When I talk to him he shows low interest in the theme and when we have lesson at school (specially if it don't interests him) he either wants to open and play games on his pc. When me or other friends of him gets a lower grade when him, he humbles them and becomes very annoying. Dr. Art Bowler can you answer me: what is he?
@Krissy19731 Hey Krissy, sup. you know, thanks again for the reply, I respect that. Is a Narcissists' true intentions to inflict pain? Also, I might be so bold as to say there is a lot you can do when you happen to be a "target", other than running away.
@Krissy19731 Hi Krissy, Thank you for the reply! I just want to tell you real quick that you don't have to be a "victim" if you don't want to be!!!!! I think that all people who claim to be "victims" of Narcissism are just victims in general! LOL! I hope and pray you realize you can take power and control of your own life! Praise the Lord! Have a good Day!!!
I think the underlying thing about narcy's is a feeling of inadequacies and much needed praise or worthiness that they cant create for themselves. They are draining, I think hypochondriacs are narcy's too. What about really flamboyant flamer self-absorbed people that have to be the center of attention?
Isn't Narcissism a disorder? Why should we treat people with Narcissism like our enemies? I have been reading information and watching videos about Narcissism looking for some kind of treatment or help for those who suffer from it. I guess I am just confused. What exactly is Narcissism? Can people who have it be helped?
Hey guys! Try to remember that Narcissists are people too! They don't do it on purpose and truly on the inside all they really want is love just like any of us! They just need to be dealt with differently. No offense to doc over here but to avoid them completely is kinda called discrimination! and that's not cool! I know from experience they can be dealt with and the relationship can be positive! Most people just have no clue how to deal with it because they mask true feelings of need of love
@greyxwind See that is what I am saying! almost every video I have seen is about dealing with Narcissists and protecting yourself, which is important, but nothing is about helping them.
@smilecolorsan Yessir!!! smilecolorsan, I appreciate the reply. You seem like someone who is maaad smart! I commend you and wish you the best, keep it real!
Wow, the last four months of my life summed up in just over one minute. Good, straight talk, Doc. Wish I had seen this in May. Falling in love with a narcissist made me doubt everything I know and nearly destroyed me. I got the mean woman blues.
when you are unable to sever all ties with someone who is a narcissist, he is my ex-husband and we have children envolved. What is your advice on how to talk to him when, he will not at all listen to reason. He sees it his way and thats final. He is causing an issue towards me, like telling the children things that is putting them in the middle and telling them about adult situations to get them on his side. Example, he told one child about what happen in divorce court.
I have witnessed first hand the extreme damage the office narcissist can do and most people around them just don't get it. People are woefully ignorant of what the word narcissism means let alone how to spot one. They usually think the office narc is the greatest person in the place especially the pathological liar/narc.
@maiAlotaibi Some of the obvious things are best left unsaid. lol. I don't agree with his lifestyle but he is an educated man so I am sure he has some information to give.
Dr. Art Bowler, one comment that I hope you will understand is constructive--not mean spirited--criticism: Your NAME is not "Dr. Art Bowler!" (My ex-husband, a medical doctor, still cringes at that. "My name is Dr. Tom Smith." NO it is NOT. Either, "I am Tom Smith" or "I'm Dr. Smith" or "My name is Tom Smith.") Otherwise, keep up the good work!!! And, guess what! My ex-husband is a narcissist! How shocking to find a narcissist among the medical profession! :^P
@VenusAsABoyFilms yeah, when my biological dad (who is a narcissist) tells a joke and I don't laugh or acknowledge him he just stares at me. It makes me feel weird -_-
@MouraVianna a narcissist is not a storm, it's just a person and you should avoid them if you can. ...avoiding a person is MUCH easier than avoiding a storm, that's for sure.
We've got this new guy at work. He's just been promoted head of the English department. He walks in on supply teachers and takes over the delivery of their lessons while they are forced to stand idly by. He barks at the kids and gets them to fall silent, then he walks around the kids singing to himself. He's also prone to ignoring or completely blanking any staff members that are below him. Prick or narcissist?
@Kinkseraph A narcissist would never see himself/herself as imperfect. It wouldn't even occure to him/her. Id, ego, superego - yes I learned about those in Highschool Psychology. I do not agree with your conclusions at all.
They may also react out of anger if they feel your question "have you thought of this?" is construed as an attempt to usurp or expose them in some way.
I don't think this advice is particularly helpful and, in a worst case scenario may prompt a narcissist to react violently, either emotionally and/or physically.
Knowledge is power go on all you tube vids on this subject study sociopathy and narc read all the books and get if u cry and keep going back than its now u who are becoming insane
Move the fuck off it. Becoming an adult means u accept life is sometimes losses. Pick up ure cards and love the fuck off it .or u will incur more loss
Do age progression photos of ure face if u can't get that ure time is more valuable than years of pining over the loss
I want to add that if a dog has a history of biting u when I walk by and pet him he will bite u and if u do it next day guess what hell bite u again
This has nothing to do with what u said , what u look like etc, hell bit anyone .is nothing personal
Narcs after they've fucked u over don't even think about u lol my ex narc under a code name was on warhammer talking normally with other players while I was crying lol
Best way to deal with a narcissist: restraining order... same thing with a sociopath or borderline... they are no different in respect to this same shit...
@Kinkseraph You cannot be a narcissist because you know that you are not perfect. You are looking inward. A narcissist wouldn't think to do that. In my experience they don't even consider if they could ever be wrong or have a fault. I'm not an expert, but we have one at work. The top guy of course :[
How can you stick away from them when every company is basically run by either one or two? I've had to stick out of work so far. I've had 4 jobs, my latest one is a charity and guess what, there's one here too..
@Kinkseraph Yes it has been used erroneously. Basically if you worry that you're a narcissist then the chances are you aren't. I do however genes play a part but mostly it's upbringing and environment that makes you what you are.
@Kinkseraph The book has recently been published and is very good. The author may not differentiate between narcissist, sociopath and psychopath but he comes up with a new category of proto-psychopath which is somebody who isn't a born psychopath but has some psychopathic traits because of upbringing and society.
@Kinkseraph I read a book by Thomas Patrick Sheridan called 'Puzzling People: the Labyrinth of the Psychpath'. In it he describes born psychopaths and proto-psychopaths who have been influenced by psychopaths. It's a very good book. He has some videos on You Tube.
I married a Malignant Narcissist, I did not know it at the time. Now I don't exist, the divorce will be final in 60 days. I will celebrate by moving on, after 7 years of "Twilight Zone" moments. Glad to know I'm not crazy. The only attention he will get from me, he will not want. He is a Dr. of Education & has many fanantics fooled, but not for long. His book is a indepth look at a Malignant Sociopath ( My soon to be ex husband, that is).
True narcissists who are born that way show no remorse at all. These are the ones to avoid. They also project their shortcomings onto others. There are others who appear to be narcissists but they are unaware of their lack of social skills.
I found this video to seem very true. In dealing with a narcissist, it is either "their way or the highway". God bless all of us who have no choice but to have to suffer being around these people.
Doc, I usually don't say this, but I can tell what a good counselor you really are. Those caring, compassionate, all seeing eyes. Yeah dude. You were made for this. I'm currently dealing with a "best friend" who has NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and it really sucks. Your advice really helps me. Thanks!! Best of luck in your practice!!
Gerald Springer changed my life!!! by the way I have to separate my own sh$t from the other person's and own responsibility in the situation. Blaming other's will not set me free, only looking at and changing myself will liberate me from other's crap and sickness!!! The best revenge is to LIVE WELL...
the best way to handle these people is to avoid them, not exactly what i wanted to hear, cus when you have one in your family, you don't want to avoid. i love her, but i'm just drained from energy and sick of saying no to everything she askes. it's wonderful to be away from here, but at the same time i miss her. it's not easy to have one in your family, they are very demanding. they need to love themselves more, if they where they wouldnt ask for approval all the time.
@keybladeblastcalibur Yeah sure. I mean, I'm heterosexual towards women. But they've become a tremendous fucking headache lately. I prefer to be gay for me. Not gay for other dudes. That's just plain gross.
@agentspinnaker This fellow is trying to destroy me by getting me a pink slip. It was such an eyeopener when I finally realized that that he was straight up ca ca crazy because now I know what he is capable of doing. Now I know that all of this weird behavior.....he hasn't talked to me in over ten weeks now wont even look at me when its me an him...means. I chalked it up to him loosing his business and having to take a job with the average work-a-days.
@choppyusmc Laconic wit works the best with a narcissist. Avoid sarcasm because that shows you are in some small subtle way affected by the narcissist. That gives them control. But that short one liner that instantly takes the wind out of their sails, shows them reality, and gives everyone a chuckle. Laconic witticism usually provides for no retort especially from a narcissist because they get furious. Hey if someone hates you, you may as well have some fun in the process.
he use to stare at people in the face then start talking really really loud at the same time, until you give up. And he would keep saying "we pay your wages, and that you dont know what you are doing and your learning on job."
I'm a powerful person now as Everyone who kicked me down gave me power. If u can transform the pain. Google alchemy and read a ton of philosophy and occult stuff. WARNING. Took my long time to get my own power I spiralled down close to suicide from abuse from narcs. I attracted due to my abusive childhood. THEY ARE EXTREMELEY DANGEROUS IN THE SENSE THEY WILL GET U TO DESTROY URSELF,while their audience thinks their perfect. Get away and educate urself .study the Tarot.
If u don't believe me research extensiveley narc info on net and hire a private eye to follow ur ex. There not crying their seeking new narc supply. People are objects. DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY. IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU. A dog bites u cause u were in his proximity but could have been any human. Its not personal. 1 of my ex narcs married a beauty and had 2 kids been cheating for 5 yrs. Its not about looks etc THEY ARE MENTALLY ILL
A narc will idolize devalue and discard and eat a bowl of fruit loops the next day while laughing and playing warhammer. I have firsthand experience was raised by and later dated 2. Don't take it personally they enjoy destroying their victims by getting the victim to destroy themselves. They seek out the strong cause to destroy the weak is no fun. I'm still fly like a G6 and have the 411 on these creeps
@faffaflunkie Perhaps a good point. I think his advice would only be truly useful if you've just been dating the narsi, friends, or in a work environment where you could avoid him/her. Otherwise (like in marriages, bosses, family), it can be rather difficult to 'minimize' contact, until the narsi just decides to 'make it so'.
It's a little sad how the victim has to resort to a few narsi tactics, JUST to get some peace of mind. I'm a compassionate, empathetic person, but... that makes it worse
@SwobyJ Perhaps Bob Dylan described the narcissist best. "Like a dog on a chain, He ain't got no name, But it ain't him to blame-he'll see by his grave, On the stone that remains, His epitaph plain, He was only a pawn in the game
No expert village prefer us do do the work managing 56 videos of 2 minutes and trying to figure out where it was when we look back for a usefull informations ! hardly watch them anymore :(
he he - sitting in a house of glas and throwing around with the stones, also kind of human nature as much as narcissism is :)) if it's real, it's almost surreal to hear a psychologist saying: avoid them, keep the contact short, take care - is it paranoic or humanophobic? the real confidence to deal with people in common lies beyond the fight or flight instinkts or unreflected projections.
@aikashine Everyone except the completely giving have narcissistic tendencies and behavior, but a narcissist WILL DO ANYTHING TO DESTROY YOU. So.. maybe you haven't met the right(aka wrong) person. I just did, and it nearly gave me a total mental breakdown.
every human being on this planet has some mental sickness to a certain degree. And I would not suggest people go round self diagnosing people as Narcassists when it takes an expert to do that!!! the simple fact of two people who do not get on is more to do with Pride than anything else, and that most human's are selfish to a degree. If we do not think of "Self" to a certain level then we would not survive on this earth...talking about N.P.D "If You can spot it, then You have got it".
@opendtuning Yes. I have to make it a point to say 'SUSPECTED narsissist' when it comes to my ex, as I don't know if he's been diagnosed (though my uncle was one, and a roommate was a diagnosed one, so I do know what to look for). I recognize some of the tendencies in myself, and thank my friends and family throughout my life in forming a good internal defense within myself to recognize and stop myself :).
Another saying may be: "If you're asking of your own will if you got it, its not as bad."
LOL, where do they get these "how to" people? Dr. so and so, you have no clue on how to deal with a narcissist so you your advice is just to ignore them? That's very clever.
This is a great tip that I use with my narcissistic mother. BUT, incredibly, she will readily dismiss my attempts at "I agree with you on that...have you thought about this." In fact, it tends to enrage her. wow Well, at least it does afford me some ability to express my thoughts, albeit temporary.
my mother has npd. I move 2000 miles away. she is moody, really nice one minute and then quits talking to me for weeks and I often wonder what I did. she always gets close around her birthday. she is snyde and hurtful. she love to vacation everywhere and in the last 3 years has not come to see here grandkids. it is typical and honestly I am getting tired of the whole thing.
Great info , but what is the deal with your eye browes, they point up. If there fake because you have alopecia, they should not point up. Not trying to be an asshole, but they look like Spock. Just trying to help like yourself.
After 10 yrs loving a narcissist=pathological liar-procrastinator-cheap (2 gifts, 1 dinner)-one-sided lover, not once told me I was beautiful, not once said "Thank you, I appreciate you," continual return to and addition of women, unfulfilled promises, expectations of me 2provide 'everything,' the past was to be forgotten or I was blamed for not being able to move forward-not one apology or taking responsibility for wrongs done in the past, was "I" faithful, kicked to the curb-drained-suicidal2x
At 0.15 and at 1.05 you talk about Narcissists in an incorrect manner. The rest of the clip is good advice. But to say that a Narcissist is "all about themselves" is misleading and incorrect.
It is important to understand that they hate and avoid the self and the personality on show is totally fake and an empty shell.
The optimum advice is to move jobs if it is possible.
I like the agreeing with superiors tidbit. If you can't possibly avoid contact non-resistance is the way to go. If you can avoid the person do so....or better yet, release them entirely. Let go and grow.
>>with a narcissist, because they're so self-involved, it can be very difficult to find your own way<<
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@NyRoNiC oh well i can agree with you on that. By what you said it doesn't sound like you are a narcissist. Bullying, and neglect often have such an effect on a person by making them feel so inferiour that they just can't get along with others. It's not their fault. I'd say if that's the way you feel then just use reverse psychology on yourself when talking to someone and say to yourself, whenever someone is giving you hard time, that they are the one with an inferiourity complex, not you.
@broadcastmyass4u trust me I am, I'm not proud of it but I always tell myself I will make the best of it. The difference between myself and others is I am self aware and I recognize my own selfish habits, egotism, etc(often after they happen) so I'm constantly making mental notes in order to be a "nicer" person.(though from my perspective its all artificial and feels pointless.)
I do have to get my attention fix somehow, as its the only way I "feel" anything. I resort to online gaming for this.
All narcissists want from you is to drain your life force and abuse you to build themselves up. NO MATTER WHO the narcissist is in your life, run in the opposite direction with every ounce of strength that you've got. You mean NOTHING to them except aa a plaything to feed their ego and torture. THEY EMBODY EVIL.
@Sgomez417 In my friend's case, no. He married young and even when they got married I had some concerns about his then-future wife. When they were engaged she seemed "high maintenance" compared to my wife (of 26 years and she's wonderful). Soon after they got married it went downhill from there. Fast forward to today - he's wiser now, he got her out of his life, and has a wonderful new person in his life. Narcissists CANNOT be helped - you HAVE to get them out of your life. Period.
Just how do you minimise contact with a 95 year old mother who depends on you to give her everything she denied you as a child. Tried to explain things today but, after denying everything, said I was making her feel awful . . . see, all about her AGAIN! I have had a lifetime of keeping worry, upset and illness from her and because of her training have never been able to ask others for help. I long for freedom but can't avoid her. She needs me now and I don't know how to not respond.
@Controversialname1 First of all that’s your mother. She gave birth to you and you still are alive period. One of the few things I dislike about the west is separation of the mother and father from the children once they grow up and you wonder why the youth of this generation are all screwed up. She gave you life thus you are forever indebted to her. There isn’t anything in this world I wont do for my mother regardless of the things that happened between us
Hmmm...I find that I cant accept peoples arguments, and thats because I often know what I'm talking about and am told I don't by idiots who haven't done any research. So I don't accept others POV simply because they haven't done the research and often just argue with you to piss you off (because they are a narcissist). So, you're wrong on that count. Sorry.
Dr. Bowler provides a thoughtful and concise presentation of advisement related to how to handle and cope with a narcissist. Narcissists are probably one of the most difficult types of personality disorders to treat, and this psychologist is right on the money.Avoidance is key, yet often we cannot avoid, so we must cope. I think Dr. Bowler's strategies are pretty strategic and well-thought out, because it is only by mirroring the narcissist that they even have a chance to see you.Go Dr. Bowler!
The simplest and most easy way to handle a narcissist is to walk away and just leave it alone. If that is not possible crush it without mercy and it will run away of it's own accord.
He is right on the money. My husband's cousin is a narcissist. Everything people have written about these people are true! 2 years ago, we decided to not make contact with her ever and it's been just heaven!
I think the focus should be on how to stop creating Narcissists.
VapoVibes 4 days ago
Less worth then i am,you are just you and im me.I just respect others so why can they just repsect me?. I looked the world as being beautiful,and same with humans.They are all here for me, AND for you!.If i dident had to hear all my life how to be and not to be.And have tried so hard to bee what im not("Normal"),and just respected.I couldt maybye do the same against you!. Make me diffrent and i make you diffrent you know what i mean?. We are humans we all here for a reason.Peace
beautifulInner 2 weeks ago
Hey im a narcissist,have proberly been it all my life.I have had alot of troubles and conflicts with other people.I have now learned,that all my troubles and others have been because i had hurt people in diffrent ways.Sometimes because i really wanted to,and other times because it could fuel have i feeled other ppl looked at me. I have now comed by to the conclusion that i am what i am, i have learned to respect other ppl and dont hurt them endless they hurt me.
beautifulInner 2 weeks ago
@beautifulInner well done,really :)
gummynumberone 6 days ago
What if the narcissist is one of your best friend's of 10 years...smh it can suck
Craccckkk 2 weeks ago
Inception is the trick to dealing with narcissists.
aRustedRoot 3 weeks ago
emotional abuser is very near to narsist...
TheSuzane27 3 weeks ago
useless.
77anniese 3 weeks ago
my husband is a Narcissist, he makes me feel week and sooo drained and everything is my flaut ,i not being selfish i love my husband but its sooooo draining
emymummy 4 weeks ago
@emymummy Leave. Really. Leave. I left mine and have not looked back. You can do so much better. You have no idea.
KraftwithaK 4 weeks ago
@KraftwithaK how do you get the strength?
gummynumberone 6 days ago
@gummynumberone You have it already. Your narcissist has just made you forget that. Just do it and you will find what resources you have. It was part of the healing for me to find what incredible strength I had. It was buried and forgotten, but there all along.
KraftwithaK 4 days ago
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Hato50187 1 month ago
this video is useless
eruseron 1 month ago
Hollywood are you watching?
enos218 1 month ago 2
I know too well about a narcissist....my ex son-in-law is one.....my daughter has a perment restraining order against him as he was phycially abuse to her when throughout their marriage and when she was expecting their son.I am the one who must deal with him as he now has unsuporvise visits with his daughter 4 and son son 3......he is so difficult to handle I try not to say anything to him as he always has a problem.He is driving me and my family nuts....any kind of help i would most appreicate.
jeanielamp 1 month ago
I find this video, his looks and the complete serie quite narcissistic...
TheDAO2011 1 month ago
please doctor, what should i do if the narcisist is my own moher?
i depend of her money for living, i feel in hell
MouraVianna 1 month ago
@MouraVianna email me any help.myfather is.and i work with him in business.....
gummynumberone 6 days ago
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Id say the majority of these so called "reality tv stars" are narcissists.
azrial4421 1 month ago
Id say the majority of these so called "reality stars" are narcissists.
azrial4421 1 month ago
I have a "friend" at school which I nearly can't handle any more. He shows very low empathy for others and when he do, he later dedicates it like it was a joke. When I talk to him he shows low interest in the theme and when we have lesson at school (specially if it don't interests him) he either wants to open and play games on his pc. When me or other friends of him gets a lower grade when him, he humbles them and becomes very annoying. Dr. Art Bowler can you answer me: what is he?
JohnLeftyRosland 2 months ago
@Krissy19731 Hey Krissy, sup. you know, thanks again for the reply, I respect that. Is a Narcissists' true intentions to inflict pain? Also, I might be so bold as to say there is a lot you can do when you happen to be a "target", other than running away.
greyxwind 2 months ago
@Krissy19731 Hi Krissy, Thank you for the reply! I just want to tell you real quick that you don't have to be a "victim" if you don't want to be!!!!! I think that all people who claim to be "victims" of Narcissism are just victims in general! LOL! I hope and pray you realize you can take power and control of your own life! Praise the Lord! Have a good Day!!!
greyxwind 2 months ago
I think the underlying thing about narcy's is a feeling of inadequacies and much needed praise or worthiness that they cant create for themselves. They are draining, I think hypochondriacs are narcy's too. What about really flamboyant flamer self-absorbed people that have to be the center of attention?
hotgluegunfun1 2 months ago
Isn't Narcissism a disorder? Why should we treat people with Narcissism like our enemies? I have been reading information and watching videos about Narcissism looking for some kind of treatment or help for those who suffer from it. I guess I am just confused. What exactly is Narcissism? Can people who have it be helped?
smilecolorsan 2 months ago
Narscissists are so annoying
Blahblahbox1 2 months ago
@Blahblahbox1 I bet you are more annoying lol
greyxwind 2 months ago
How much do you want to bet that the ones that "dislike" these videos are the narcissists themselves. Ha ha.
007bookmaster 2 months ago
Hey guys! Try to remember that Narcissists are people too! They don't do it on purpose and truly on the inside all they really want is love just like any of us! They just need to be dealt with differently. No offense to doc over here but to avoid them completely is kinda called discrimination! and that's not cool! I know from experience they can be dealt with and the relationship can be positive! Most people just have no clue how to deal with it because they mask true feelings of need of love
greyxwind 3 months ago
@greyxwind See that is what I am saying! almost every video I have seen is about dealing with Narcissists and protecting yourself, which is important, but nothing is about helping them.
smilecolorsan 2 months ago
@smilecolorsan Yessir!!! smilecolorsan, I appreciate the reply. You seem like someone who is maaad smart! I commend you and wish you the best, keep it real!
greyxwind 2 months ago
Well Folks, It Takes One, To Know One ! LOL
RustArtRed 4 months ago
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@RustArtRed "Well Folks, It Takes One, To Know One ! LOL"
Not all. Most narcissists are not aware that they are narcissist. Self-aware narcissist is rare.
tkathryyn 3 months ago
Ok how do you make a Narcissist go away? I mean they make NO sense. But if anyone know?No not harm them just make them decide to leave.
GhostmysteryGhost 4 months ago in playlist Masking Monsters
Wow, the last four months of my life summed up in just over one minute. Good, straight talk, Doc. Wish I had seen this in May. Falling in love with a narcissist made me doubt everything I know and nearly destroyed me. I got the mean woman blues.
CSFLY77 6 months ago
when you are unable to sever all ties with someone who is a narcissist, he is my ex-husband and we have children envolved. What is your advice on how to talk to him when, he will not at all listen to reason. He sees it his way and thats final. He is causing an issue towards me, like telling the children things that is putting them in the middle and telling them about adult situations to get them on his side. Example, he told one child about what happen in divorce court.
Truffles150111 6 months ago
just switched to GEICO. Saved big.
cunnidvd 6 months ago
Why does this guy make these videos?. All of them are totally lame. I think the doctor is a narcissist himself.
googleboyny 6 months ago 3
This guy looks like Howie Mandel.
Lev79T 6 months ago
this doctor is a moron. all his videos equate to... if someone mistreats or abuses you just do nothing about it.
IBeatUpThugs 6 months ago
Dr. Fruity Pebbles says just tell the Narcissist to "Be Nice" and chat them up about the latest hair styles and become their interior decorator.
Fresco1982 7 months ago
Isn't avoidance in fact NOT handling a narcissist?
unabonger777 7 months ago 2
lol just laugh and have fun with them and dont say shit ,lol they trips
AmphibiousReconMSOB 7 months ago
I have witnessed first hand the extreme damage the office narcissist can do and most people around them just don't get it. People are woefully ignorant of what the word narcissism means let alone how to spot one. They usually think the office narc is the greatest person in the place especially the pathological liar/narc.
ctweebee 7 months ago 4
*gay hand-swing* lol
TheDoritosfan1 7 months ago
one word.. GAY
maiAlotaibi 7 months ago
@maiAlotaibi That was three words.
zarasophia1 7 months ago
@maiAlotaibi who gives a crap ? ridiculous
fetishisticrose 7 months ago
@maiAlotaibi Some of the obvious things are best left unsaid. lol. I don't agree with his lifestyle but he is an educated man so I am sure he has some information to give.
gregthesenior12 7 months ago
Dr. Art Bowler, one comment that I hope you will understand is constructive--not mean spirited--criticism: Your NAME is not "Dr. Art Bowler!" (My ex-husband, a medical doctor, still cringes at that. "My name is Dr. Tom Smith." NO it is NOT. Either, "I am Tom Smith" or "I'm Dr. Smith" or "My name is Tom Smith.") Otherwise, keep up the good work!!! And, guess what! My ex-husband is a narcissist! How shocking to find a narcissist among the medical profession! :^P
nannygoatj 8 months ago
Narcissists are intolerable, if you should happen to run across one just punch him/her in the face
noibn2 8 months ago 52
@noibn2 Your post made me laugh right out loud!!!
nannygoatj 8 months ago
@noibn2 fuck you.
videodesignerz 7 months ago
@noibn2 or, better yet, ignore them. Narcissists can't stand being ignored.
VenusAsABoyFilms 6 months ago 26
@VenusAsABoyFilms yeah, when my biological dad (who is a narcissist) tells a joke and I don't laugh or acknowledge him he just stares at me. It makes me feel weird -_-
pimpchic1 2 months ago
@VenusAsABoyFilms I think we're all agreed then. Punch, then ignore.
MikaShelley99 1 month ago
@VenusAsABoyFilms ignoring a narcissist is the same as ignorim a storm of attemp to hurt you, it isn't health either
MouraVianna 1 month ago
@MouraVianna a narcissist is not a storm, it's just a person and you should avoid them if you can. ...avoiding a person is MUCH easier than avoiding a storm, that's for sure.
VenusAsABoyFilms 1 month ago
@noibn2 I work with one. A word for word textbook definition of a person with NPD and all attributes. It annoys the hell out of me.
Andy152R 1 month ago
he's gay
Mevrouwbella 8 months ago
@Mevrouwbella How do you know? Did you date him?
zarasophia1 7 months ago
@nso1256 he's dumb if he's a narc in the first place imo
FinalMythology 8 months ago
We've got this new guy at work. He's just been promoted head of the English department. He walks in on supply teachers and takes over the delivery of their lessons while they are forced to stand idly by. He barks at the kids and gets them to fall silent, then he walks around the kids singing to himself. He's also prone to ignoring or completely blanking any staff members that are below him. Prick or narcissist?
CharmingLordSausage 8 months ago
@Kinkseraph A narcissist would never see himself/herself as imperfect. It wouldn't even occure to him/her. Id, ego, superego - yes I learned about those in Highschool Psychology. I do not agree with your conclusions at all.
notcool98 8 months ago
Brilliant Psychologist Dr. Art Bowler !
tj74top 8 months ago
Brilliant Psychologist Dr. Art Bowler !!!!!!!!!!!!
tj74top 8 months ago
They may also react out of anger if they feel your question "have you thought of this?" is construed as an attempt to usurp or expose them in some way.
I don't think this advice is particularly helpful and, in a worst case scenario may prompt a narcissist to react violently, either emotionally and/or physically.
jonb5150 8 months ago
hell he looks like a narcissist
atmark666 8 months ago
Apologies, i zones out after noticing my reflection off of the monitor screen.
xkoenigseggx 9 months ago
a lot better title would be - how to avoid a narcissist, since you cant really handle this people cause narcissists alone cant even handle themselves
glutamin111 9 months ago
so avoid >>>>> or make it like thier idea
hab123 9 months ago
138,000 videos! That's the most I've ever seen! I thought gameplay uploaders with 5000 or 10,000 videos had alot.
Aphradonis 9 months ago
Knowledge is power go on all you tube vids on this subject study sociopathy and narc read all the books and get if u cry and keep going back than its now u who are becoming insane
Move the fuck off it. Becoming an adult means u accept life is sometimes losses. Pick up ure cards and love the fuck off it .or u will incur more loss
Do age progression photos of ure face if u can't get that ure time is more valuable than years of pining over the loss
janityy 9 months ago
I've posted on here before. Good vid
I want to add that if a dog has a history of biting u when I walk by and pet him he will bite u and if u do it next day guess what hell bite u again
This has nothing to do with what u said , what u look like etc, hell bit anyone .is nothing personal
Narcs after they've fucked u over don't even think about u lol my ex narc under a code name was on warhammer talking normally with other players while I was crying lol
They do not give a fuck
janityy 9 months ago
Best way to deal with a narcissist: restraining order... same thing with a sociopath or borderline... they are no different in respect to this same shit...
MrSpemat 9 months ago
@Kinkseraph You cannot be a narcissist because you know that you are not perfect. You are looking inward. A narcissist wouldn't think to do that. In my experience they don't even consider if they could ever be wrong or have a fault. I'm not an expert, but we have one at work. The top guy of course :[
notcool98 9 months ago
How can you stick away from them when every company is basically run by either one or two? I've had to stick out of work so far. I've had 4 jobs, my latest one is a charity and guess what, there's one here too..
Nibinaear 10 months ago
@Kinkseraph Yes it has been used erroneously. Basically if you worry that you're a narcissist then the chances are you aren't. I do however genes play a part but mostly it's upbringing and environment that makes you what you are.
lemsip 10 months ago
@Kinkseraph The book has recently been published and is very good. The author may not differentiate between narcissist, sociopath and psychopath but he comes up with a new category of proto-psychopath which is somebody who isn't a born psychopath but has some psychopathic traits because of upbringing and society.
lemsip 10 months ago
@Kinkseraph I read a book by Thomas Patrick Sheridan called 'Puzzling People: the Labyrinth of the Psychpath'. In it he describes born psychopaths and proto-psychopaths who have been influenced by psychopaths. It's a very good book. He has some videos on You Tube.
lemsip 10 months ago
U would luv the Castro.
eg6roll 10 months ago
I married a Malignant Narcissist, I did not know it at the time. Now I don't exist, the divorce will be final in 60 days. I will celebrate by moving on, after 7 years of "Twilight Zone" moments. Glad to know I'm not crazy. The only attention he will get from me, he will not want. He is a Dr. of Education & has many fanantics fooled, but not for long. His book is a indepth look at a Malignant Sociopath ( My soon to be ex husband, that is).
Mrsoriginal13 10 months ago
True narcissists who are born that way show no remorse at all. These are the ones to avoid. They also project their shortcomings onto others. There are others who appear to be narcissists but they are unaware of their lack of social skills.
lemsip 10 months ago
"let them make it their idea" How clever! If this is done well I bet it must be very successfull ;)
TheTrancereligious5 10 months ago
I found this video to seem very true. In dealing with a narcissist, it is either "their way or the highway". God bless all of us who have no choice but to have to suffer being around these people.
lemurleslie 10 months ago
Doc, I usually don't say this, but I can tell what a good counselor you really are. Those caring, compassionate, all seeing eyes. Yeah dude. You were made for this. I'm currently dealing with a "best friend" who has NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and it really sucks. Your advice really helps me. Thanks!! Best of luck in your practice!!
thewolfkiba 10 months ago
Gerald Springer changed my life!!! by the way I have to separate my own sh$t from the other person's and own responsibility in the situation. Blaming other's will not set me free, only looking at and changing myself will liberate me from other's crap and sickness!!! The best revenge is to LIVE WELL...
opendtuning 11 months ago
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Klinkerklunk 11 months ago
Doc, you're a fag, right?
patel136 11 months ago
the best way to handle these people is to avoid them, not exactly what i wanted to hear, cus when you have one in your family, you don't want to avoid. i love her, but i'm just drained from energy and sick of saying no to everything she askes. it's wonderful to be away from here, but at the same time i miss her. it's not easy to have one in your family, they are very demanding. they need to love themselves more, if they where they wouldnt ask for approval all the time.
yocbjone 11 months ago
@PrankerDemon I`m a heterosexual narcissist, is that normal?
keybladeblastcalibur 11 months ago
@keybladeblastcalibur Yeah sure. I mean, I'm heterosexual towards women. But they've become a tremendous fucking headache lately. I prefer to be gay for me. Not gay for other dudes. That's just plain gross.
PrankerDemon 11 months ago
@keybladeblastcalibur What kind of narcissist would be worried about other peoples opinions.
Subvert1024 11 months ago
@agentspinnaker This fellow is trying to destroy me by getting me a pink slip. It was such an eyeopener when I finally realized that that he was straight up ca ca crazy because now I know what he is capable of doing. Now I know that all of this weird behavior.....he hasn't talked to me in over ten weeks now wont even look at me when its me an him...means. I chalked it up to him loosing his business and having to take a job with the average work-a-days.
choppyusmc 1 year ago
What happens if u work with one who is trying to destroy u Doc?
choppyusmc 1 year ago
@choppyusmc Laconic wit works the best with a narcissist. Avoid sarcasm because that shows you are in some small subtle way affected by the narcissist. That gives them control. But that short one liner that instantly takes the wind out of their sails, shows them reality, and gives everyone a chuckle. Laconic witticism usually provides for no retort especially from a narcissist because they get furious. Hey if someone hates you, you may as well have some fun in the process.
agentspinnaker 1 year ago
i worked for NarcIssIst, F-in E-ll jeasus.
he use to stare at people in the face then start talking really really loud at the same time, until you give up. And he would keep saying "we pay your wages, and that you dont know what you are doing and your learning on job."
coldrunning2002 1 year ago
Deal or No Deal.... hehe... sorry it reminded me of that show, but thanks! i know how to deal with my sister
KENJI92799 1 year ago
I'm a powerful person now as Everyone who kicked me down gave me power. If u can transform the pain. Google alchemy and read a ton of philosophy and occult stuff. WARNING. Took my long time to get my own power I spiralled down close to suicide from abuse from narcs. I attracted due to my abusive childhood. THEY ARE EXTREMELEY DANGEROUS IN THE SENSE THEY WILL GET U TO DESTROY URSELF,while their audience thinks their perfect. Get away and educate urself .study the Tarot.
janityy 1 year ago
If u don't believe me research extensiveley narc info on net and hire a private eye to follow ur ex. There not crying their seeking new narc supply. People are objects. DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY. IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU. A dog bites u cause u were in his proximity but could have been any human. Its not personal. 1 of my ex narcs married a beauty and had 2 kids been cheating for 5 yrs. Its not about looks etc THEY ARE MENTALLY ILL
janityy 1 year ago
A narc will idolize devalue and discard and eat a bowl of fruit loops the next day while laughing and playing warhammer. I have firsthand experience was raised by and later dated 2. Don't take it personally they enjoy destroying their victims by getting the victim to destroy themselves. They seek out the strong cause to destroy the weak is no fun. I'm still fly like a G6 and have the 411 on these creeps
janityy 1 year ago
Narcissists may have empathy (or not). They do not have COMPASSION.
AnnaMishel 1 year ago
sooo gay! :D
MsCapricorna 1 year ago
@faffaflunkie Perhaps a good point. I think his advice would only be truly useful if you've just been dating the narsi, friends, or in a work environment where you could avoid him/her. Otherwise (like in marriages, bosses, family), it can be rather difficult to 'minimize' contact, until the narsi just decides to 'make it so'.
It's a little sad how the victim has to resort to a few narsi tactics, JUST to get some peace of mind. I'm a compassionate, empathetic person, but... that makes it worse
SwobyJ 1 year ago
@SwobyJ Perhaps Bob Dylan described the narcissist best. "Like a dog on a chain, He ain't got no name, But it ain't him to blame-he'll see by his grave, On the stone that remains, His epitaph plain, He was only a pawn in the game
faffaflunkie 1 year ago
@faffaflunkie The loneliest people in the world.
SwobyJ 1 year ago
@SwobyJ Yes. Like Booth, Oswald, James Earl Ray, the "Zodiac" and countless others who no one will miss.
faffaflunkie 1 year ago
Thanks Doc.
marlin187 1 year ago
Well hey, maybe now I'll fair better next time I have to see my mother.
deityofanimee 1 year ago
No expert village prefer us do do the work managing 56 videos of 2 minutes and trying to figure out where it was when we look back for a usefull informations ! hardly watch them anymore :(
TheVoyeure 1 year ago
he looks like a faggot!
taurkron 1 year ago
@taurkron You are wrong. He looks like Kevin Spacey. Oh, wait a minute...
YurAllStupid 1 year ago
he he - sitting in a house of glas and throwing around with the stones, also kind of human nature as much as narcissism is :)) if it's real, it's almost surreal to hear a psychologist saying: avoid them, keep the contact short, take care - is it paranoic or humanophobic? the real confidence to deal with people in common lies beyond the fight or flight instinkts or unreflected projections.
aikashine 1 year ago
@aikashine Everyone except the completely giving have narcissistic tendencies and behavior, but a narcissist WILL DO ANYTHING TO DESTROY YOU. So.. maybe you haven't met the right(aka wrong) person. I just did, and it nearly gave me a total mental breakdown.
SwobyJ 1 year ago
try taking your own moral inventory first, before pointing the finger and then you will learn alot more of your own predicament...
opendtuning 1 year ago
every human being on this planet has some mental sickness to a certain degree. And I would not suggest people go round self diagnosing people as Narcassists when it takes an expert to do that!!! the simple fact of two people who do not get on is more to do with Pride than anything else, and that most human's are selfish to a degree. If we do not think of "Self" to a certain level then we would not survive on this earth...talking about N.P.D "If You can spot it, then You have got it".
opendtuning 1 year ago
@opendtuning Yes. I have to make it a point to say 'SUSPECTED narsissist' when it comes to my ex, as I don't know if he's been diagnosed (though my uncle was one, and a roommate was a diagnosed one, so I do know what to look for). I recognize some of the tendencies in myself, and thank my friends and family throughout my life in forming a good internal defense within myself to recognize and stop myself :).
Another saying may be: "If you're asking of your own will if you got it, its not as bad."
SwobyJ 1 year ago
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opendtuning 1 year ago
LOL, where do they get these "how to" people? Dr. so and so, you have no clue on how to deal with a narcissist so you your advice is just to ignore them? That's very clever.
wowoak 1 year ago
This is a great tip that I use with my narcissistic mother. BUT, incredibly, she will readily dismiss my attempts at "I agree with you on that...have you thought about this." In fact, it tends to enrage her. wow Well, at least it does afford me some ability to express my thoughts, albeit temporary.
StilettoKix 1 year ago
my mother has npd. I move 2000 miles away. she is moody, really nice one minute and then quits talking to me for weeks and I often wonder what I did. she always gets close around her birthday. she is snyde and hurtful. she love to vacation everywhere and in the last 3 years has not come to see here grandkids. it is typical and honestly I am getting tired of the whole thing.
pandabead 1 year ago
Great info , but what is the deal with your eye browes, they point up. If there fake because you have alopecia, they should not point up. Not trying to be an asshole, but they look like Spock. Just trying to help like yourself.
blindmellonchittlen 1 year ago
After 10 yrs loving a narcissist=pathological liar-procrastinator-cheap (2 gifts, 1 dinner)-one-sided lover, not once told me I was beautiful, not once said "Thank you, I appreciate you," continual return to and addition of women, unfulfilled promises, expectations of me 2provide 'everything,' the past was to be forgotten or I was blamed for not being able to move forward-not one apology or taking responsibility for wrongs done in the past, was "I" faithful, kicked to the curb-drained-suicidal2x
Dare2BUCounsel 1 year ago
@Dare2BUCounsel maybe he was just attempting imitation to induce attraction
Necronomnicon 1 year ago
draining and unfulfilling...yep.
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@MrLukasart And?
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"If you don't agree with the narcissist, you basically don't exist."
Wow, how true! (I speak from experience).
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title of the movie should be how to handle 90 percent of society.
suchafool990 1 year ago
Thanks man, You´ve got it. ! Keep make this great movies!
luispessoa27 1 year ago
At 0.15 and at 1.05 you talk about Narcissists in an incorrect manner. The rest of the clip is good advice. But to say that a Narcissist is "all about themselves" is misleading and incorrect.
It is important to understand that they hate and avoid the self and the personality on show is totally fake and an empty shell.
The optimum advice is to move jobs if it is possible.
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dewsqavfckmu 1 year ago
Woah Art Fuller!
Are you exhibiting Narcissistic tendencies by recommending people should just AGREE with their Narcissistic bosses, in order to stay out of trouble?
WTF &c....
dbaudio1866 1 year ago
Hi,
Super advice here.
I like the agreeing with superiors tidbit. If you can't possibly avoid contact non-resistance is the way to go. If you can avoid the person do so....or better yet, release them entirely. Let go and grow.
Thanks for sharing and have a powerful day!
Ryan
ryanbiddulph 1 year ago
knowing these ppl is hell..! u cannot get through to them whatsoever.. !
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@OdysseusAres5500 and yr point is..?!? lots of gay ppl around get over it kid.!
SovereignBeing 1 year ago
@broadcastmyass4u This nyronic guy is as far from a narcissist as someone can get.
thesparitan 1 year ago
@stocksandshares its both sides that need help, you're an idiot.
NyRoNiC 1 year ago
You can't deal with a beautiful narcissist when he has his spanish claw at your ugly throat! Bleh, Bleh!
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HardeyLeone 1 year ago
@NyRoNiC oh well i can agree with you on that. By what you said it doesn't sound like you are a narcissist. Bullying, and neglect often have such an effect on a person by making them feel so inferiour that they just can't get along with others. It's not their fault. I'd say if that's the way you feel then just use reverse psychology on yourself when talking to someone and say to yourself, whenever someone is giving you hard time, that they are the one with an inferiourity complex, not you.
broadcastmyass4u 1 year ago
@broadcastmyass4u trust me I am, I'm not proud of it but I always tell myself I will make the best of it. The difference between myself and others is I am self aware and I recognize my own selfish habits, egotism, etc(often after they happen) so I'm constantly making mental notes in order to be a "nicer" person.(though from my perspective its all artificial and feels pointless.)
I do have to get my attention fix somehow, as its the only way I "feel" anything. I resort to online gaming for this.
NyRoNiC 1 year ago
All narcissists want from you is to drain your life force and abuse you to build themselves up. NO MATTER WHO the narcissist is in your life, run in the opposite direction with every ounce of strength that you've got. You mean NOTHING to them except aa a plaything to feed their ego and torture. THEY EMBODY EVIL.
gumbyzhi 1 year ago
Run and don't look back! Remember that you mean NOTHING to them
accountatyoutub 1 year ago
@Sgomez417 In my friend's case, no. He married young and even when they got married I had some concerns about his then-future wife. When they were engaged she seemed "high maintenance" compared to my wife (of 26 years and she's wonderful). Soon after they got married it went downhill from there. Fast forward to today - he's wiser now, he got her out of his life, and has a wonderful new person in his life. Narcissists CANNOT be helped - you HAVE to get them out of your life. Period.
tritonrocks 1 year ago
Just how do you minimise contact with a 95 year old mother who depends on you to give her everything she denied you as a child. Tried to explain things today but, after denying everything, said I was making her feel awful . . . see, all about her AGAIN! I have had a lifetime of keeping worry, upset and illness from her and because of her training have never been able to ask others for help. I long for freedom but can't avoid her. She needs me now and I don't know how to not respond.
Controversialname1 1 year ago
@Controversialname1 First of all that’s your mother. She gave birth to you and you still are alive period. One of the few things I dislike about the west is separation of the mother and father from the children once they grow up and you wonder why the youth of this generation are all screwed up. She gave you life thus you are forever indebted to her. There isn’t anything in this world I wont do for my mother regardless of the things that happened between us
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WhitneyXanna 1 year ago
Hmmm...I find that I cant accept peoples arguments, and thats because I often know what I'm talking about and am told I don't by idiots who haven't done any research. So I don't accept others POV simply because they haven't done the research and often just argue with you to piss you off (because they are a narcissist). So, you're wrong on that count. Sorry.
JDubya2k 1 year ago
Dr. Bowler provides a thoughtful and concise presentation of advisement related to how to handle and cope with a narcissist. Narcissists are probably one of the most difficult types of personality disorders to treat, and this psychologist is right on the money.Avoidance is key, yet often we cannot avoid, so we must cope. I think Dr. Bowler's strategies are pretty strategic and well-thought out, because it is only by mirroring the narcissist that they even have a chance to see you.Go Dr. Bowler!
niceandhot72 1 year ago 2
I say Run as far away as you Can and keep running.
don't look back.
DonnaUtubefan 1 year ago
"Self-Help Tips : How to Handle a Narcissist"
The simplest and most easy way to handle a narcissist is to walk away and just leave it alone. If that is not possible crush it without mercy and it will run away of it's own accord.
EternalFuu 1 year ago
He is right on the money. My husband's cousin is a narcissist. Everything people have written about these people are true! 2 years ago, we decided to not make contact with her ever and it's been just heaven!
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