Narcissism...Is Their Behavior RATIONAL??

[brianjacksun]

I cry about this all the time, even knowing why...like 7 yrs never existed

[patriciacarrasco]

its not rational its demonic

[MsMisfits]

Also, is it possible that he really does know deep down that he really loved me and did have something special and maybe that's why he's avoiding me? Am I just foolish to believe so? He has a new gf now and I believe he's with her which is why he's so blatantly rude to me so she'll think that I'm the crazy one. I don't know what to do. I hate seeming like a weak person and he tore me down mentally and emotionally to where I now feel completely helpless.I don't know how to move on.

[MsMisfits]

EXACTLY** what happened to me.

[MsMisfits]

This is word for word EARLY what happened to me in my previous relationship.He stopped contacting me 4 days ago and I am completely heartbroken although I KNOW he has NPD on top of I believe manic depression.I was made as the attacker while he victimized himself.He refuses to acknowledge my presence and although I'm learning a lot more about this, I still cannot seem to get my mind off of him and get over it even though I know how toxic he was to me. Any advice? Anyone?

[DelusionDispeller]

@MsMisfits just two words...let go...if you can't do that yet, then hold on loosely, but love yourself enough to realize he is not good for you and you deserve better.

[Bf7138]

thank you so much for your videos, I just recently got out of a issue with someone that I believe has NPD

[purelightink]

It's interesting to me that going down the "symptoms" of a narcissist, he isn't, yet according to this (how/why he "needed" to get rid of me), he probably is. It's the only thing that makes the breakup (divorce) makes sense (not the same as rational). I look forward to watching the other videos in the sidebar. I think this will help greatly in putting my confusion, sorrow, etc. to rest. Thank you.

[uodet]

good day, and thanks for your work.

I know I am a narcissist that was drawn to other narcissists.

I just left a relationship and I'm grappling with the abandonment issue.

I want to feel that I left so I didn't enable us to death. I'm going to hold onto that.

I do see though, that I have work to do on me.

Thanks again, for helping me to help me.

[drjfs]

DD, thank you for your videos. I have one comment about dealing with someone with NPD. Everything is SO important at the moment that it is happening. But once things start to go south, and the devaluation begins, what was SO important is now crap. I find that these individuals lack true meaning in their lives. It's so odd. If it was SO important then why is it garbage or nothing now? Loyalty has no meaning them. It really is "how are you useful to me now?"

[yahssis]

To be honest, some narcissists that end up getting help DO see that their behavior is irrational, but those who never get help, believe that everyone and every thing outside of themselves CAUSED them to behave a certain way. In my past experience, even after I tape recorded the N's saying odd things, they could not SEE that their behavior WAS strange at all...they only said "well if so and so did not do such n such, I would not have said that...."

[SOULS04]

I have been asking this very question. But my next question is then, do they ever see that it isnt rational?

[DropDeadCouture]

keyword false image. lol.

[ruby2411]

Thank you so much for your comments. It all made sense now after battling with wondering what had happened for the last 7 months.

[whackemandstackem5]

You are SO AWESOME....i walked away from mine last year., and I was a total emotional wreck...and I'm STILL trying to sort it out, and I just found your videos today...it is RIGHT ON THE MONEY....I now realize how VULNERABLE i was when i met this person..i had lost my husband 6 months earlier..and everything has happened pretty much as you state on your videos.....i now refuse to get involved with anyone at this point, until i fully educate myself...i do not ever want to feel this pain again

[Cindyo2271]

great videos......great info. These are really helpful and I feel like I can BREATHE now, knowing that the person I'm with is a TEXTBOOK CASE.

[ic2trees]

Thank you for the vids... Theses are helping me understand my eldest Daughter much better and why I can't get thru to her.

[BringBack500s]

More excellent stuff DD!

Yes I'd bet your series of videos must get the narcs "what if they find out?" fear going into overdrive, and of course the rage episodes (how dare she criticize me!) would and will generate devaluation attacks.

My advice? Not that you need it, you appear to have them them well sussed. Keep going please, shining the light into the dark places will always get the cockroaches scurrying for cover ;-)