this actually clearified something to me, my daughter is not acting like she think she's an outsider but rather accusing the rest of the world beeing idiots not seeing her point or angle of a problem.
I'll try to reason with her telling there is no right or wrong to some problems but different way to look at things, she don't seem to grasp this reasoning..... I'm still learning...it's hurt so bad seeing your daughter in this confusion.
You mention that you've spent around 7 years focused on learning how to act "natural." What specific training would you recommend to other aspies who would also like to put in the time and energy required to accomplish your level of social ability?
@rotatingorb It's hard to say something specific. But I will try to describe it a bit in future videos. But honestly, I find it difficult to explain in detail, or to be very specific.
There's a lot of concentrated thinking about how/why others might react to certain things. Training in facial expressions, voice intonation, body language. Much of that is done using a mirror.
Character based roleplaying/drama has also played a huge part in my social skills developing so much.
I think he consciously avoids looking at her eyes for too long because he is an expert in Asperger's and doing it to try to see if that helps not make her feel unconfortable.
Thanks to The AnMish for seizing this opportunity and making the results available to all of us who appreciate the chance to hear this interesting and valuable conversation.
@dinleer13 For the Aspie, or anyone with challenges for that matter, sometimes one must face and endure the very things which challenge us most, but this is a growth opportunity. also your arbitrary judgement of the uploader does nothing to enhance your credibility.
This comment has received too many negative votesshow
good way to mock aspies by uploading this and having stupid noise in the background. i don't think the uploader has aspergers (of what i can see), imo.
@dinleer13 Yes. I could explain why I called you an idiot, but I highly doubt you will even understand one single word I'd say. So, just know that you're an idiot.
@dinleer13 Just as I thought. Obviously, you would not understand if I explained anything to you. I mean, look at you, already forgetting what it was you wanted for me to explain. This is what makes you an idiot.
@Vessoland No, you just read what you want to read, that's your issue. You assume stuff out of nothing, this makes you a real idiot. Putting words in peoples mouth doesn't make you right.
@Vessoland@dinleer13 I'd very much prefer it if you would take your argument somewhere else now. This isn't a video about who is or who isn't what, and so there's no need to discuss those things here.
I'm not taking sides and don't care to. I care that my comment section is kept somewhat friendly.
I hated groups. I hated relying on other people. Plus I just don't know what to do with people. But I was good when we had to discuss whether gambling could be considered a virtue according to Aristotle's Virtue Ethics (whether it's between a good extreme and a bad extreme) :) Why do teachers assign group projects?
@Uaxis Also paul didn't have much influence over anyone. He had to prove himself. To get anyone to do anything he had to use 'the voice'. Anyone who's read dune'll know.
To have arrogant aspies uniting in a secret community would be deadly. It'd be like Paul Muad'ib in Dune (insanely smart kid to the point of clairvoyancy deciding that he could control humanity and that he had a destiny that couldn't be avoided (the justification)).
It's been suggested by multiple professionals that I may be an Aspbergers candidate. However, I have never felt the need to verify their hypotheses for I would never diagnose or suggest or hypothesize a label of any kind on another human being with an unweildy word as "syndrome." I prefer to keep things generalized. I am an artist, musician, etc. That being said, this interview approaches which seem to infer no value judgement upon someone who may have Aspbergers. I wish the world were as kind.
Yes, and I think you are entirely right. Definitions aren't important if you are able to live without them.
People just have the need to define things to make the world easier to understand, even if in real life there is only different people along wide spectrum of traits and personalities. In a way all of us are aspies. :)
And then again, who is normal? Some imaginary person of all averages?
Sounds good to me though that you are really pushing Aspie Awareness forward and I wish you so much happiness in the future maybe one day you will do an Interview with me he he
Great interviewer! (Mr Attwood has less eye-contact than you. Is HE an aspie!?)
Um, I do agree with you that aspies have superior talents (overall).
Maybe there should be t-shirts to inform the community of it.
Do you think that we- in cultures maybe- should be more assertive, like make our statements heard: that we see things diff??
How do you think we SEE diff, (vs. diff talents).What I mean, is do you think there should be an 'aspie attitude'. What is better with our view, comparatively??
I noticed his body language is ridged he fails to make eye contact properly. Could it be that he actually has the syndrome or traits himself and that is why he started work in this field?
@Aspergianstar2009 He says that his stepfather (who he knew since he was very young.. 3, I think?) was a classic case of Asperger's, and that that's why he became so interested in it.
I also think it's possible that because he's around aspies so much, he may have "adopted" some symptoms over time..
Not symptoms, imo. It's NT way to adapt your behaviour while interracting with people. Imitating body language, and also behaviour in a long run, for example. By doing this, they are more hard-wired to make socializing fluent, while AS usually hold on their own ways. And if AS adopt something from the person they are talking, it usually take more time. And about those other comments, you don't look like NT for me. You seem to be bit nervous and u don't try to imitate his body language
Perhaps he does not make that much eye contact with regard to the interviewer, who is Aspie, in order to not confusing her, because it is a crowded and loud environment why he is afraid to create even more stimulation? It is a bit difficult for me to concentrate on the interview on YouTube because of that (and I'm no Aspie, only very sensitive), and I'm impressed how you, TheAnMish, could have beared the background distraction?
If you have Asperger's, I think, you cope with that very well in the interview, because you act like a NT here, in my eyes: You are successful in making eye contact, you are spontaneously interrupting him with an adequate association (concerning the subject arrogance), you laugh as response to his laughing (mirror neurons?), and you use consistent gesture. How do you manage to do all that, because it does not seem to be artificially adapted but quite relaxed?
@Cantatoria I've become very good at acting the way most people expect me to, and to a large degree it has become "natural" to me. At least it is as long as I have energy. During depressive periods, or when just very tired, I would not be able to do this.
It has taken me over ten years (around seven of them quite concentrated) to accomplish this.
@Aspergianstar2009 He doesn't exhibit the symptoms. The most obvious symptoms of an aspie are exhibiting paranoia over everything, being easily distracted, etc.
The most frustrating thing during the time of pre-diagnoses is the nagging feeling that there are all these rules that everyone knows, but you somehow didn't get the memo.
youtube wouldnt let me watch this until today. it showed up on my youtube as soon as you posted it, but when I tried to play it, it wouldnt play. I don't know what that was about. ANYWAY, the video is awesome! I'm glad you got to interview him.
I refer to Dr. Attwood as the Patron Saint of AS. He diagnosed me and has written the forward to a few of my books on AS. I know I wouldn't be so comfortable in my skin if it weren't for his insight and advice. Everyone should read his works and go to his conferences. Way to go for making this video chat happen (Dr. A is super busy and exhausted at conferences) and YAY for such a succinct and important Youtube video.
I've been told that my mind is logical but often goes in many directions at once. I've been told that I lack emotion, even schizoid, but can come off as rude. I was born with a birth injury, facial paralysis, so I was extremely ostracized and bullied as a child....so I don't believe I was autistic, but rather manipulated by a maladaptive environment to cause Asperger's life symptoms. Have you come to the conclusion that Aspie is environmental more then genetic disposition?
Pride or fear... in the third question. One extreme is Magneto and his 'homo superior'. The other extreme is of feeling worthless and being afraid of never 'fitting in'. Both extremes are VERY harmful. I have seen this myself... in the lives of my Neurotypical friends let alone those with autism or Asperger's. We have our own gifts as Aspies... but so do the Neurotypicals. They cannot memorize a textbook. But I have great trouble talking in a crowd. Different gifts, but gifts still.
LOVE THIS, Animish! Thank you for being brave enough to ask these questions of the famous Tony Attwood. I didn't know Mr. Attwood was such a nerd... not offense. ;) I have been likened to a Vulcan myself for many years. And it isn't the work that is hard in school. It is the social aspects. But the analogy of left-handed was a great one. Link is left-handed after all and he saves Hyrule. ;) So many talents in both ASD and NT. Both together will bring a great future. :)
OK i am not too familiar with.... what am i saying - this was crazy good!.. especially for a newbie like me to academic Asperger studies. (I felt the cacophony in the background was sheer irony. That means i think the video without sound retrieval will always be an important archive. It also means I will probably always enjoy the raw take the most. :-)
I have to thank you again for this interview. I've had more insight from his answer to the first question than from any other source I can remember. I listen to that and I hear Cenk in my head saying "Of cooourse!". As for lectures online, I've seen quite a few videos and interviews with him, but I haven't found any full lectures. Like you might find on Fora or TED talks. There's a radio interview on his website which is very thorough. I just thought that if anyone knew of a lecture, you would!
I'm reading the book The Complete Guide to Asperger's syndrome and thank you for the interview and the time you took. By the way you look great greetings.
you are my hero for this. i really like his ideas on how we can improve awareness that autistic thought is valuable... i agree that presenting oneself as unique, problem solving oriented, not concerned with nor focused on social conventions may actually be the strongest way to do this, without ever delving into educating people about the spectrum itself.
Thank you, I found his comments fascinating and something I will consider deeply. I was especially piqued by his comment that arrogance about Aspergers can become religion like. I will need to think more about that but my first response is that I agree and that his description is very apt.
3:30 That's a very interesting point, yes contemporary formal education does have a very strong social dimension to it and I think this works to the advantage of more confident people with more assertive personalities.
what I find interesting here is to look at TheAnMish. You are doing an very good jobb with the body language here. I know that is alot of work for an aspie to do. Awesome . And Tony is just awesome too and Also One can see he kinda know you a little . Thats just super awesome. Also Thanks alot for taking time doing this .
I like Tony Attwood... He is brilliant! And great questions! :D Especially the last one... He hit the nail on that one... Wauw... Next conference he has in Denmark I'll be there for sure... :)
but i disagree in one point , you don't have to fake what you are in order to get it , is the that say to a gay that it should act straight to get what it wants, sounds familiar ?
@thetvuser666 He has an Honours degree in Psychology from the University of Hull, Masters degree in Clinical Psychology from the University of Surrey and a PhD from the University of London. He is currently adjunct Associate Professor at Griffith University in Queensland. Is what is says on his website. He also speaks at conferences about AS/Autism all over the world.
VERY GOOD INTERVIEW... I'M NOT FEELING AS BAD ABOUT NOT HAVING DIAGNOSIS YET, BUT FOR MYSELF... I AM STILL GOING TO SEEK IT, BUT NOT GOING TO STRESS ABOUT IT ANYMORE. Thanks VERY much for sharing this interview with us! I feel that having official diagnosis (for myself) will be good, but don't feel it's so mandatory anymore.
Great video. This guy seems really knowledgeable. Do you know if he comes to the United States for lectures at all? Specifically anywhere close to Omaha, U.S.?
Great vid! Reading his book, it explains a lot about myself. He talks about tics and I didn't even know some of the habits I use to have qualified as such. Including the odd way I walk as well. Another big thing is interests. Get me talking about my interests and I won't shut up about it, I have to consciously remember not to talk about them too much and listen to what other people have to say.
Good questions and excellent answers. He seems like a really nice man. Are there any of his talks / lectures online anywhere? I'd like to hear more from him.
@DaithiDublin There should be more videos on youtube.. and he also has a website. Don't know if there are any talks there.. but I'm sure you can find something somewhere :)
Great interview, you must be very happy about getting the chance to do this. All the questions were great, but i really liked you included the first one. Congratulations and Have a nice week :-)
@TheAnMish I'm kind of confused on the answer to the first question you asked him. Was he saying it was her for it or against it? Or was it more in between?
Really? I got my diagnosis this last winter at 21 years old, but it has been the problems that the diagnosis describes that have been ruining my life, not the diagnosis itself.
@moscowmasha well you try joining the Armed Forces with it... because i'm banned just because of a diagnosis of very mild AS... so yes the diagnosis ruined my life.
@moscowmasha you don't say... i'm an army brat... i think i already know what it entails, and theres no BUT in this, the system is using a clause that is irrisponsible of the world we live in today, so what you're telling me is its ok to discriminate against people who had a diagnosis even though the diagnosis could have been wrong as it even states (SO9) that a disgnosis of this condition could have been in error due to adolescance and puberty... are you telling that sits ok on your mind?
The army is somewhat picky about the people that it accepts, and any disability is likely to bar one from service (since the job requires the ability to do well under pressure and work with a great deal of precision). In my experience, a number of the symptoms of AS could interfere quite heavily with proper service, although this is certainly not a given. If you think that the diagnosis is incorrect, you should go get a 2nd (and possibly a 3rd and/or 4th) opinion.
@moscowmasha and now you become part of my problem... make no mistake I am not disabled, i am precise and grew up under pressure, you don't know a thing about me to include me in a generic opinion, I am a [precise worker, i work to oders and above them if needed, I'm a carpenter so being precise is the way of the job, point is this, there is not system set out by the MoD to test this to find out if they are indeed no eligable for service and this is not acceptable.
@moscowmasha because you are talking like the people who refuse to see the world outside of thier box... if you're inquisitive then you'd understand why i'm challenging such a wide reaching slander of anyone with AS.
Briiliant interview with Tony Attwood. Looking forward to seeing you do more interviews on this topic in the future. As I think you are very good at interviewing.
Comment removed
HybridD91 1 week ago
Comment removed
HybridD91 1 week ago
Great video and nice to have a "face to go with the book"! Thanks again for sharing!
okcdarksage 1 month ago
this actually clearified something to me, my daughter is not acting like she think she's an outsider but rather accusing the rest of the world beeing idiots not seeing her point or angle of a problem.
I'll try to reason with her telling there is no right or wrong to some problems but different way to look at things, she don't seem to grasp this reasoning..... I'm still learning...it's hurt so bad seeing your daughter in this confusion.
cougarrx 1 month ago in playlist Fler videoklipp från TheAnMish
You mention that you've spent around 7 years focused on learning how to act "natural." What specific training would you recommend to other aspies who would also like to put in the time and energy required to accomplish your level of social ability?
rotatingorb 1 month ago
@rotatingorb It's hard to say something specific. But I will try to describe it a bit in future videos. But honestly, I find it difficult to explain in detail, or to be very specific.
There's a lot of concentrated thinking about how/why others might react to certain things. Training in facial expressions, voice intonation, body language. Much of that is done using a mirror.
Character based roleplaying/drama has also played a huge part in my social skills developing so much.
TheAnMish 1 month ago
Comment removed
Fadzilahasbi 3 weeks ago
You're too cute, I can't concentrate to the interview..... seriously..
Did I just mistake love for aspie?
spraser 2 months ago
I think he consciously avoids looking at her eyes for too long because he is an expert in Asperger's and doing it to try to see if that helps not make her feel unconfortable.
onewey00 2 months ago
@onewey00 Right. I also interpreted as sensitivity towards Asperger rather than him having the condition.
MayonR 2 months ago
Thanks to The AnMish for seizing this opportunity and making the results available to all of us who appreciate the chance to hear this interesting and valuable conversation.
aspeykirk 2 months ago 4
@dinleer13 For the Aspie, or anyone with challenges for that matter, sometimes one must face and endure the very things which challenge us most, but this is a growth opportunity. also your arbitrary judgement of the uploader does nothing to enhance your credibility.
aspeykirk 2 months ago
This comment has received too many negative votes show
good way to mock aspies by uploading this and having stupid noise in the background. i don't think the uploader has aspergers (of what i can see), imo.
dinleer13 2 months ago
@dinleer13 Unfortunately, there was nothing I could do about the noise.
And luckily, whether I have ASD or not has nothing to do with your opinion.
TheAnMish 2 months ago 3
@dinleer13 You are a fucking idiot.
Vessoland 1 month ago
@Vessoland Yeah? Idiot.
dinleer13 1 month ago
@dinleer13 Yes. I could explain why I called you an idiot, but I highly doubt you will even understand one single word I'd say. So, just know that you're an idiot.
Vessoland 1 month ago
@Vessoland Please do, please explain why you show a cleavage to get more viewers. thanks.
dinleer13 1 month ago
@dinleer13 Just as I thought. Obviously, you would not understand if I explained anything to you. I mean, look at you, already forgetting what it was you wanted for me to explain. This is what makes you an idiot.
You're welcome.
Vessoland 1 month ago
@Vessoland No, you just read what you want to read, that's your issue. You assume stuff out of nothing, this makes you a real idiot. Putting words in peoples mouth doesn't make you right.
dinleer13 1 month ago
@Vessoland @dinleer13 I'd very much prefer it if you would take your argument somewhere else now. This isn't a video about who is or who isn't what, and so there's no need to discuss those things here.
I'm not taking sides and don't care to. I care that my comment section is kept somewhat friendly.
Thank you, and have a nice day.
TheAnMish 1 month ago
@TheAnMish My apologies.
Vessoland 1 month ago
I hated groups. I hated relying on other people. Plus I just don't know what to do with people. But I was good when we had to discuss whether gambling could be considered a virtue according to Aristotle's Virtue Ethics (whether it's between a good extreme and a bad extreme) :) Why do teachers assign group projects?
TheLonelyImmortal 3 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@TheLonelyImmortal
Because they want to torture us! ;)
ThePinkHeel 2 months ago
@Uaxis Also paul didn't have much influence over anyone. He had to prove himself. To get anyone to do anything he had to use 'the voice'. Anyone who's read dune'll know.
Uaxis 3 months ago
This guy is right on the money.
To have arrogant aspies uniting in a secret community would be deadly. It'd be like Paul Muad'ib in Dune (insanely smart kid to the point of clairvoyancy deciding that he could control humanity and that he had a destiny that couldn't be avoided (the justification)).
Uaxis 3 months ago
I laughed when he made the comparison with being left handed, because I am Left handed! Not to mention it's discussing asperger's.
sarahbpen 3 months ago
Contains rather....
ASAngelo 3 months ago
@ASAngelo I suppose, simply, it's just...
Uaxis 3 months ago
It's been suggested by multiple professionals that I may be an Aspbergers candidate. However, I have never felt the need to verify their hypotheses for I would never diagnose or suggest or hypothesize a label of any kind on another human being with an unweildy word as "syndrome." I prefer to keep things generalized. I am an artist, musician, etc. That being said, this interview approaches which seem to infer no value judgement upon someone who may have Aspbergers. I wish the world were as kind.
ASAngelo 3 months ago
@ASAngelo
Yes, and I think you are entirely right. Definitions aren't important if you are able to live without them.
People just have the need to define things to make the world easier to understand, even if in real life there is only different people along wide spectrum of traits and personalities. In a way all of us are aspies. :)
And then again, who is normal? Some imaginary person of all averages?
ladoga 3 months ago
Sounds good to me though that you are really pushing Aspie Awareness forward and I wish you so much happiness in the future maybe one day you will do an Interview with me he he
Aspergianstar2009 3 months ago
Great interviewer! (Mr Attwood has less eye-contact than you. Is HE an aspie!?)
Um, I do agree with you that aspies have superior talents (overall).
Maybe there should be t-shirts to inform the community of it.
Do you think that we- in cultures maybe- should be more assertive, like make our statements heard: that we see things diff??
How do you think we SEE diff, (vs. diff talents).What I mean, is do you think there should be an 'aspie attitude'. What is better with our view, comparatively??
medusaheart 4 months ago
I bet you that this old dude hit it after the interview. Or maybe even before. But probably after. Heh.
n33chisgod 6 months ago
I noticed his body language is ridged he fails to make eye contact properly. Could it be that he actually has the syndrome or traits himself and that is why he started work in this field?
Aspergianstar2009 7 months ago
@Aspergianstar2009 He says that his stepfather (who he knew since he was very young.. 3, I think?) was a classic case of Asperger's, and that that's why he became so interested in it.
I also think it's possible that because he's around aspies so much, he may have "adopted" some symptoms over time..
TheAnMish 7 months ago
Not symptoms, imo. It's NT way to adapt your behaviour while interracting with people. Imitating body language, and also behaviour in a long run, for example. By doing this, they are more hard-wired to make socializing fluent, while AS usually hold on their own ways. And if AS adopt something from the person they are talking, it usually take more time. And about those other comments, you don't look like NT for me. You seem to be bit nervous and u don't try to imitate his body language
apxeli 2 months ago
@Aspergianstar2009
Perhaps he does not make that much eye contact with regard to the interviewer, who is Aspie, in order to not confusing her, because it is a crowded and loud environment why he is afraid to create even more stimulation? It is a bit difficult for me to concentrate on the interview on YouTube because of that (and I'm no Aspie, only very sensitive), and I'm impressed how you, TheAnMish, could have beared the background distraction?
Cantatoria 3 months ago
@TheAnMish
If you have Asperger's, I think, you cope with that very well in the interview, because you act like a NT here, in my eyes: You are successful in making eye contact, you are spontaneously interrupting him with an adequate association (concerning the subject arrogance), you laugh as response to his laughing (mirror neurons?), and you use consistent gesture. How do you manage to do all that, because it does not seem to be artificially adapted but quite relaxed?
Cantatoria 3 months ago
@Cantatoria I've become very good at acting the way most people expect me to, and to a large degree it has become "natural" to me. At least it is as long as I have energy. During depressive periods, or when just very tired, I would not be able to do this.
It has taken me over ten years (around seven of them quite concentrated) to accomplish this.
TheAnMish 3 months ago
@TheAnMish Hey, congratulations! I've got it too. I've been depressed. But I've had good people tell me it's okay.
What I worry about is how unresponsive people have become, relative to an aspie (who, mature, feels the white hot desire to speak their mind). :)
Uaxis 3 months ago
@Aspergianstar2009 He doesn't exhibit the symptoms. The most obvious symptoms of an aspie are exhibiting paranoia over everything, being easily distracted, etc.
Uaxis 3 months ago
The most frustrating thing during the time of pre-diagnoses is the nagging feeling that there are all these rules that everyone knows, but you somehow didn't get the memo.
TheBeatlesFan420 7 months ago 8
Comment removed
sidewinder040 2 weeks ago
youtube wouldnt let me watch this until today. it showed up on my youtube as soon as you posted it, but when I tried to play it, it wouldnt play. I don't know what that was about. ANYWAY, the video is awesome! I'm glad you got to interview him.
thebestwillow 7 months ago
I refer to Dr. Attwood as the Patron Saint of AS. He diagnosed me and has written the forward to a few of my books on AS. I know I wouldn't be so comfortable in my skin if it weren't for his insight and advice. Everyone should read his works and go to his conferences. Way to go for making this video chat happen (Dr. A is super busy and exhausted at conferences) and YAY for such a succinct and important Youtube video.
lhwilley 8 months ago
I've been told that my mind is logical but often goes in many directions at once. I've been told that I lack emotion, even schizoid, but can come off as rude. I was born with a birth injury, facial paralysis, so I was extremely ostracized and bullied as a child....so I don't believe I was autistic, but rather manipulated by a maladaptive environment to cause Asperger's life symptoms. Have you come to the conclusion that Aspie is environmental more then genetic disposition?
PNHassett 8 months ago
Pride or fear... in the third question. One extreme is Magneto and his 'homo superior'. The other extreme is of feeling worthless and being afraid of never 'fitting in'. Both extremes are VERY harmful. I have seen this myself... in the lives of my Neurotypical friends let alone those with autism or Asperger's. We have our own gifts as Aspies... but so do the Neurotypicals. They cannot memorize a textbook. But I have great trouble talking in a crowd. Different gifts, but gifts still.
RigelHopeStar 8 months ago
LOVE THIS, Animish! Thank you for being brave enough to ask these questions of the famous Tony Attwood. I didn't know Mr. Attwood was such a nerd... not offense. ;) I have been likened to a Vulcan myself for many years. And it isn't the work that is hard in school. It is the social aspects. But the analogy of left-handed was a great one. Link is left-handed after all and he saves Hyrule. ;) So many talents in both ASD and NT. Both together will bring a great future. :)
RigelHopeStar 8 months ago
That was really a great interview! : )
Thereminator101 8 months ago
This has been flagged as spam show
lol, this is the dude you're so in love with? He looks and sounds like a child molester.
suicidewins 8 months ago
OK i am not too familiar with.... what am i saying - this was crazy good!.. especially for a newbie like me to academic Asperger studies. (I felt the cacophony in the background was sheer irony. That means i think the video without sound retrieval will always be an important archive. It also means I will probably always enjoy the raw take the most. :-)
ClickBeetles 8 months ago
very interesting
agentsteve007 8 months ago
I have to thank you again for this interview. I've had more insight from his answer to the first question than from any other source I can remember. I listen to that and I hear Cenk in my head saying "Of cooourse!". As for lectures online, I've seen quite a few videos and interviews with him, but I haven't found any full lectures. Like you might find on Fora or TED talks. There's a radio interview on his website which is very thorough. I just thought that if anyone knew of a lecture, you would!
DaithiDublin 8 months ago
I'm reading the book The Complete Guide to Asperger's syndrome and thank you for the interview and the time you took. By the way you look great greetings.
juniorpages 8 months ago
Great interview :)
Torandrius 8 months ago
you are my hero for this. i really like his ideas on how we can improve awareness that autistic thought is valuable... i agree that presenting oneself as unique, problem solving oriented, not concerned with nor focused on social conventions may actually be the strongest way to do this, without ever delving into educating people about the spectrum itself.
ecnetsixe 8 months ago
Thank you, I found his comments fascinating and something I will consider deeply. I was especially piqued by his comment that arrogance about Aspergers can become religion like. I will need to think more about that but my first response is that I agree and that his description is very apt.
Very pleased I saw your interview :-)
silvertip185 8 months ago
Explaining your problems, but not dropping the term "Aspergers" when telling people... brilliant!!! :D
I love how you are happy when talking to Tony! Thanks so much for uploading and interviewing!!! ^^
Kenjitsuka 8 months ago
bit short unfortunately
managarm1349 8 months ago
3:30 That's a very interesting point, yes contemporary formal education does have a very strong social dimension to it and I think this works to the advantage of more confident people with more assertive personalities.
clownsandjugglers 8 months ago
what I find interesting here is to look at TheAnMish. You are doing an very good jobb with the body language here. I know that is alot of work for an aspie to do. Awesome . And Tony is just awesome too and Also One can see he kinda know you a little . Thats just super awesome. Also Thanks alot for taking time doing this .
FatherToaSon 8 months ago
I have shared this on my FAcebook page. Thanks!!!! Great interview! (You look professional as an interviewer!)
mamalusk 8 months ago
I like Tony Attwood... He is brilliant! And great questions! :D Especially the last one... He hit the nail on that one... Wauw... Next conference he has in Denmark I'll be there for sure... :)
SkateriAKASue 8 months ago
but i disagree in one point , you don't have to fake what you are in order to get it , is the that say to a gay that it should act straight to get what it wants, sounds familiar ?
DraskyVanderhoff 8 months ago
awesome guy , thanks for share it
DraskyVanderhoff 8 months ago
I like this man.
TheLaughingOut 8 months ago
@thetvuser666 He has an Honours degree in Psychology from the University of Hull, Masters degree in Clinical Psychology from the University of Surrey and a PhD from the University of London. He is currently adjunct Associate Professor at Griffith University in Queensland. Is what is says on his website. He also speaks at conferences about AS/Autism all over the world.
TheAnMish 8 months ago 3
@TheAnMish he seems really nice. I'm glad you got the chance to meet with him. :)
BinaryReader 8 months ago
VERY GOOD INTERVIEW... I'M NOT FEELING AS BAD ABOUT NOT HAVING DIAGNOSIS YET, BUT FOR MYSELF... I AM STILL GOING TO SEEK IT, BUT NOT GOING TO STRESS ABOUT IT ANYMORE. Thanks VERY much for sharing this interview with us! I feel that having official diagnosis (for myself) will be good, but don't feel it's so mandatory anymore.
-Blessings with Cheers to You =o)
lexxintegra 8 months ago
Great video. This guy seems really knowledgeable. Do you know if he comes to the United States for lectures at all? Specifically anywhere close to Omaha, U.S.?
coda623 8 months ago
Fantastic video.
These questions were very useful, and well delivered.
republicofsandles 8 months ago
very cool! the last question is something I might have asked myself.
twirlingchair 8 months ago
That was helpful, thank you.
hollywoodt00 8 months ago
That was awesome! Thanks for sharing that with all of us! Very good questions followed by great answers!
HaleyMary 8 months ago
Great vid! Reading his book, it explains a lot about myself. He talks about tics and I didn't even know some of the habits I use to have qualified as such. Including the odd way I walk as well. Another big thing is interests. Get me talking about my interests and I won't shut up about it, I have to consciously remember not to talk about them too much and listen to what other people have to say.
Satanos777 8 months ago
Good questions and excellent answers. He seems like a really nice man. Are there any of his talks / lectures online anywhere? I'd like to hear more from him.
DaithiDublin 8 months ago
@DaithiDublin There should be more videos on youtube.. and he also has a website. Don't know if there are any talks there.. but I'm sure you can find something somewhere :)
TheAnMish 8 months ago
Great interview, you must be very happy about getting the chance to do this. All the questions were great, but i really liked you included the first one. Congratulations and Have a nice week :-)
BarelyNoticeable 8 months ago
I love you AnMish but you could have asked more questions. He seemed very willing to answer them.
RubberWilbur 8 months ago
@RubberWilbur He had agreed at first to answer one.. getting to ask three is just him being charitable :D
TheAnMish 8 months ago
@TheAnMish I'm kind of confused on the answer to the first question you asked him. Was he saying it was her for it or against it? Or was it more in between?
Epica124 8 months ago
All i know is... for a diagnosis that i got when i was 17 and 9 months, it totally ruined my life :), but good for you on getting this short vid :D
Badgerbitesback 8 months ago
@Badgerbitesback
Really? I got my diagnosis this last winter at 21 years old, but it has been the problems that the diagnosis describes that have been ruining my life, not the diagnosis itself.
moscowmasha 8 months ago
@moscowmasha well you try joining the Armed Forces with it... because i'm banned just because of a diagnosis of very mild AS... so yes the diagnosis ruined my life.
Badgerbitesback 8 months ago
@Badgerbitesback
Ah yes, I suppose that in that particular situation it could be a problem. It doesn't seem like a fair reason to be banned from serving, though...
moscowmasha 8 months ago
@Badgerbitesback
BUT I'm sure that you could find plenty of other enjoyable things to do besides joining the Armed Forces! That's quite a difficult job...
moscowmasha 8 months ago
@moscowmasha you don't say... i'm an army brat... i think i already know what it entails, and theres no BUT in this, the system is using a clause that is irrisponsible of the world we live in today, so what you're telling me is its ok to discriminate against people who had a diagnosis even though the diagnosis could have been wrong as it even states (SO9) that a disgnosis of this condition could have been in error due to adolescance and puberty... are you telling that sits ok on your mind?
Badgerbitesback 8 months ago
@Badgerbitesback
The army is somewhat picky about the people that it accepts, and any disability is likely to bar one from service (since the job requires the ability to do well under pressure and work with a great deal of precision). In my experience, a number of the symptoms of AS could interfere quite heavily with proper service, although this is certainly not a given. If you think that the diagnosis is incorrect, you should go get a 2nd (and possibly a 3rd and/or 4th) opinion.
moscowmasha 8 months ago
@moscowmasha and now you become part of my problem... make no mistake I am not disabled, i am precise and grew up under pressure, you don't know a thing about me to include me in a generic opinion, I am a [precise worker, i work to oders and above them if needed, I'm a carpenter so being precise is the way of the job, point is this, there is not system set out by the MoD to test this to find out if they are indeed no eligable for service and this is not acceptable.
Badgerbitesback 8 months ago
@Badgerbitesback
How am I part of the problem? I'm just an inquisitive stranger. Do what you want, and good luck to you.
moscowmasha 8 months ago
@moscowmasha because you are talking like the people who refuse to see the world outside of thier box... if you're inquisitive then you'd understand why i'm challenging such a wide reaching slander of anyone with AS.
Badgerbitesback 8 months ago
Great job!
kenandkids 8 months ago
Good work anmish, very good work Tony.
(No relative judgement implied)
greenwoodonearth 8 months ago
Briiliant interview with Tony Attwood. Looking forward to seeing you do more interviews on this topic in the future. As I think you are very good at interviewing.
writer2036 8 months ago
cool :)
omar12331 8 months ago
Delightful interview !!! Sound not too bad here.....Well done !!!....Ben.
YaGonk101 8 months ago