Almost 10 years later, and I'm still working on arriving at the acceptance part. But at least I'm solidly in the depression part. But I also feel happy when I think of him, or at least, I do every time I see him looking out of my daughter's eyes.
When I worked for Hospice Home Care, the Chaplain told me the 5 stages of grieving were initially meant to describe how the dying person handles their imminent death.
He also said the the stages weren't meant to be in any particular order and that he'd seen several people do them out of the given order.
I didn't even get a chance to say goodbye to my daughter's dad, my husband, b/c he was rudely taken out of the world by murderers.
He died in a fire on Sep-11-2001, literally burned out of existence so completely we never recovered his body.
Then, when we thought our grief must have an end, we discovered nobody will let us forget about it. It's constantly there in every form, around every corner. You can't even go to the airport w/out having reminders thrown into your face.
@vickiormindyb It's really obvious now that we're never going to be allowed to accept this death and move on. Every year, it changes its face, from looking for bin Laden in 2002, stopping in 2003 for Bush to run off and have a personal issue w/ Iraq, to finding evidence that proved he was there that day, to being told the evidence was in fact a clerical error, to killing bin Laden.
I'm just waiting now for the next face-change on this damn issue.
Almost 10 years later, and I'm still working on arriving at the acceptance part. But at least I'm solidly in the depression part. But I also feel happy when I think of him, or at least, I do every time I see him looking out of my daughter's eyes.
Eric B. 7/17/66--9/11/01
vickiormindyb 6 months ago in playlist Tribute and Memorial videos
When I worked for Hospice Home Care, the Chaplain told me the 5 stages of grieving were initially meant to describe how the dying person handles their imminent death.
He also said the the stages weren't meant to be in any particular order and that he'd seen several people do them out of the given order.
vickiormindyb 1 year ago
I didn't even get a chance to say goodbye to my daughter's dad, my husband, b/c he was rudely taken out of the world by murderers.
He died in a fire on Sep-11-2001, literally burned out of existence so completely we never recovered his body.
Then, when we thought our grief must have an end, we discovered nobody will let us forget about it. It's constantly there in every form, around every corner. You can't even go to the airport w/out having reminders thrown into your face.
vickiormindyb 2 years ago
@vickiormindyb It's really obvious now that we're never going to be allowed to accept this death and move on. Every year, it changes its face, from looking for bin Laden in 2002, stopping in 2003 for Bush to run off and have a personal issue w/ Iraq, to finding evidence that proved he was there that day, to being told the evidence was in fact a clerical error, to killing bin Laden.
I'm just waiting now for the next face-change on this damn issue.
vickiormindyb 10 months ago in playlist Tribute and Memorial videos
I think it's a job well done! very moving!
tt112383 2 years ago 2