ok, so the man claims he isn't able to function in society... so, how does he have a nice house, etc? Is he at mom's or is NHS ( tax payers ) and council housing supporting his "Illness"?
This is a psychological trauma that they haven t managed to deal with by going to a psychologist or even meeting people with like themselves maybe. I don t think there s anything wrong with them but they are surely scared from something they chose not to deal with. Like the 1st woman for example she was picked on in her earlier years and chose to take it to heart and change her appearance because of her bullies.
I know its easy for me to say you look beautiful. And i would love to get to know you, bc your personality seems lovely too! If you are watching this - yeah you with the sunglasses,please respond to me . I cant see you over the net,and i would never judge you! Im a girl from Norway. So if you ever need to chat to someone that wont judge you,that would listen to you,and be there for you. Please write me im vera8611. Actually goes for others that might need to talk-girl with a big heart:)
@musicmatterstome105 dont be down on yrself,my fience is tall thinner than me, no brad pitt but i think that is sexy not hollywood real guys who know how to really love, if u rock as u clearly do u will fine love, i hate the way i look but turns out its just me. remember always that no matter what someone loves you!!
I am a 19 year old male who has never been happy with the way I looked, since the age of 13 I have wanted to have a more pretty/cute/tanned face rather than my long/pale face. I was reading up on B.D.D. This is what I came across.
''Imagine you're an average-looking man or woman. But when you look in the mirror, you see a monster.''
I don't see a monster. I see an 'average' looking man. I hate looking average and plain though. I want to be beautiful and have different features!!!
I think he looks good :) Btw, I have dark circles under my eyes too, naturally, because I have thin skin there, so I use concealer daily. That's all :) Simple, no need for knifes or dark glasses.
@apelsinuke he's a guy so perhaps it's a macho thing. men are not supposed to use concealer or something u know :P but u're right it could be an easy fix for any possible physical defect, but there mental problem will still remain and he may still remain to see those dark undereyes even they're not visible to others (like in the pic), or it may even redirect towards something else further complicating his problem. only way is brain repogramming to remove this obsession from his mind altogether
This man really believes he's ugly? Wow. He's cute. Not Hollywood handsome but then, how many are? It's rare. I believe he's shut himself off from the world because it's easier for him to believe. So sad. I don't lie. I don't believe in it and it's cost me. It's become a habit in society and business and it's so tiresome. I'm so sorry he's broken. He's talked himself into it and that's it. I was expecting a monster but this guy is absolutely normal. I won't judge but I don't get it.
@Songsmirth perhaps bad experience with girls or with his mother in early childhood lead to this, along with the pressure from society. but once u're down on that path it gets increasingly harder to get out. u don't get it, but with emotional problems there's nothing for u to "get" since ur mind is not in the same state with theirs to begin with. he could be the most handsomest guy in the world, and still feel this way. actually many people considered beautiful actually suffer from low esteem
@DonMega187 Good points. I have known a person that most would consider beautiful but she didn't believe it. I've also known people crippled for their whole lives because they had a parents who would harp on a part of them that the parent thought needed improvement. Even as adults. What horror parents can do. .
Since a lot of just do not seem to be able to get it, I will have to point it out to you. The whole point is not that these people are ugly or if they are not ! The whole point is that they feel ugly and that is because they are sick ! Do you think they want to feel ugly ? and cry like a baby ? I don't think so . Stop judging other people . You don't know how it feels to be them ! You don't know what they go through. The whole point of this is to show how the ILLNESS blinds you !
Awwwwwww......... I feel so sorry for people with this. But, even if they are not beautiful on the outside, they probably are beautiful on the inside! xx
you know it's mainly artists that feel this way...like me =) Well, I dont have this disorder but I feel depressed many times and I just want to be loved and more beautiful but people tell me Im beautiful all the time...and I express my feelings through my artwork
I wish no one had to feel like they hated themselves.I would be hard pressed to find a serious flaw in any one of these people. I just wish there was a way I could help.
I' self-diagnosed BDD when I was bout fourteen and was professionally diagnosed at seventeen, but my condition is not as bad as these people. I'm lucky enough that taking a SSRI is enough for me to functon normally, although I still feel as if there are 'bad' mirrors and 'good' mirrors, mainly a result of the way I feel I look in them. It is very much an illness, not a result of "society".
i have this. never diagnosed with it. i have been in and out the mental hospital since i was 14. im 23. they never mentioned this ever! i have lost all my friends. no job. no confidence. i want to die everyday. my symptoms are far worse than these people.
Theres nothing wrong with the guy. He looks quite tall as well. I'd say 6'2 area. Plus, he's a man. As a man we get away with being 'ugly' A LOT more than a woman would.
My advice to him is just bang your female friend. That should snap him out of it.
Your problem , no matter how severe , will become exactly that , a problem.You'll have the ability to see It outside of yourself , as something you can do battle with. When you give In to the mirrors deception , you become one with It.
Everyone has a soul that Is capable of Infinite beauty , let It take the reigns and It will lead you out. Maybe on occasion you see something pretty or handsome but your means of achieving that vision are corrupt and you remain In the vicious cycle.
The only way to break free from this Is to walk away , even If the last Image you see of yourself Is that of the elephant man. You should be willing to accept that maybe you are ugly , maybe you are hideous and let It go. You'll feel awful at first but Inch by Inch , you'll feel the emotional high of being In control.The freedom of not being tossed In whatever direction the silver coated glass wants to take you.All your actions will not be based on Illusions anymore.
Some of us really ARE ugly and when people - either because they're polite or they feel it's the moral or ethical thing to lie - it only makes matters worse. I supose it makes THEM feel better but it doesn't help those of us who have below average looks.
Is this the life these people want to live ? I doubt that very much .
I try not to draw conclusions too fast . I'm not sure that getting these people to talk to one's who are disformed or handicaped or anything like that would be a smart move .
I think for most of them they are so fuckin' trapped in (what they consider being a) shame that this would probably be effective for a short period of time (hours ? weeks?) . Then they'd go back to what they know : Hating their looks .
@monnakiko You must remember, what we are seeing are a group of individuals with a mental illness, not just silly people with distorted ideas of themselves.
@TimeManInJail You are neglecting the fact that this is not merely a phase or a pattern of distorted behaviour. The disorders is a mental illness and is recognised as one by both DSM and ICD.
@Billysue2 Well, unfortunately it's all I can get. The only way I've gotten therapists fit to deal with me is via inpatient programs. These are costly if insurance doesn't cover them + they're short term. The therapists I've been referred to or found aren't fit to deal with me, nor are they interested in taking my case. Many don't know how to treat BDD, won't accept minors or won't accept me because I have an underlying medical condition [POTS]. It sucks, but I'm trying to figure something out.
@BillySue2 Well, I guess that depends on the individual, I'd love to feel that I look normal, but I'd love to feel attractive. I think everyone does to an extent though, basically what I'm trying to say is compare it to anorexia. An anorexic usually thinks the look fat, but they tend to want to be thin, rather than average.
@raidon04 Yes, I've been suffering of it at least since january 2010 and I'm 16 now. I'm trying, I've been inpatient and out, it is very difficult to get good help, even in the D.C. metro area of the US. I've given up on mental health resources. Recently I've relied more on free church programs in the area for socializing. I'm hoping that pull me out.
@Alf90100 Socialising can be an essential tool in keeping out of the grips of seclusion and isolation. Perhaps you could consider CBT with a local psychologist? Either way, remember the subjects in the video and remember where true happiness lay.
@Alf90100 if you have BDD then no church program is going to do much,it requires specialised treatment .How could you have given up after 1 YEAR,youve barely started and at such a young age theres lots of hope if treated propery.Socialising does not cure BDD,its good practise though.
@raidon04 Alright, thanks man, I'm just trying to decide, having been through so many severe problems due to my appearance [including hospitalization after some gory selfaltercation "procedures"] and being told I have a distorted body image, if I really am just ugly or what...
@Alf90100 Your problems sound rather concerning. Have you been suffering with negative perceptions of yourself for along time? Treatment is always there, it just takes us to reach out and to grasp it.
@raidon04 So what you're basically trying to say is that people with the disorder have a flawed perception of themselves but they want to look/feel attractive? Or that they just can't handle their [real] flaws? Sorry, I'm a bit confused, just sounds different from anything I've read thus far.
@Alf90100 That sounds about accurate. People with BDD set an unattainable goal for themselves. No surgery and no amount of alternation to one's physicality will alter the deep seeded issues. Like OCD and eating disorders, the symptoms can, at times, overshadow the fact that it is very psychological and more than merely symptomatic
Quote from description - "BDD was once thought of as "imagined ugliness" but it is more about perfectionism or, in other words, believing that appearance should be flawless."
I was kind of hoping that someone may elaborate on this statement. Is it claiming that people with "BDD" are vain? Or that they see themselves the way they really look but just can't handle it because it isn't perfect? Sorry if I took this out of proportion, but I just want to know what they mean.
@Alf90100 I suppose a lot of mental illnesses could be considered "vain". But there is a stark differences between the preoccupation with the self that is displayed by patients with BDD and plain vanity. People who are "vain" do not need intensive psychological treatment to treat their personality traits.
@Alf90100 very often its not about seeking perfection but rather desperation to look normal as they think they are far from it.I personally have never had any desire to look perfect,just have acceptable features compared to others my age
I kinda wonder if i have a mild case of this, i hate how i look, i have to be on antidepressants. Ppl tell me im pretty but i think that they are all lying, i felt this way since i waa little
in this disorder, does the person actually see himself different? I mean, the visual information that enters the eyes are heavily changed by the brain, or it's just a belief of what's pretty and what's ugly? (and they are included in the ugly, of course)
and also, I'd like to know what's the therapy of this. I mean, what to do in this case
i read in some medical study that pple with bdd use their left side of the brain to process what they see, so they pick up things in far greater detail, rather than looking at the whole image .. theres not much research on this ...sadly
I believe it's a bit of both. There is always in everyone a perceived ideal of perfection and we put those in categories so they also have that. They see that they are not in the pretty category. They also perceive flaws that are not there to varying degrees of severity. They will take a specific flaw or many flaws and pick it apart laying everything that is wrong on it blowing it out of proportion so to speak. Sometimes they see flaws that are not there or that the rest of us don't see.
Some surgery can remove the problems for example scars so if that was the case then the patients BDD problem would be fixed.But if they refuse to operate because they are saying the patient will still have an obsession with another part of their body This is making assumptions and is violating their human right to surgery based on assumptions made by observing others but what right do these bastards have to say they will not be happy with surgery because of others are we all the fucking same/
its not the physical scars that hurt them, its the emotional ones they can't stand, these scars take more time to heal, instead of expressing yourself ignorantly open your mind and look at the real problem
It's the emotional reaction to ignorant people's refusal to identify with their physical defect and to assume they will not be satisfied with corrective surgery.
Cases vary mate.
Instead of expressing yourself ignorantly open your mind and look at the actual problem.
i understand what your saying EIKLURAM, and 6 months ago i would have totally agreed with u. I wanted to surgery SO bad because i was CONVINCED that a part of my face was hidious and that if i could just get that one thing fixed my problems would be solved and id be HAPPY! but my mum and others around me refused to let me get it done coz i wanting to die coz i thort i was so ugly. I've gotten help and can now see how distorted my thinking was and am now GLAD i got held back from doing it.
I've studied psychology at university,and I can see that the BPS definition of BDD is flawed.because it assumes plastic surgeons are all conforming within guidelines and does not consider rougue surgeons etc who create problems
There are people who imagine they are ugly when they are not
.But there are also people who don't ,and these people can get dragged into a false diagnosis also people are not exactly going to tell someome they are ugly in front of them are they?
Man we see ourselves through other people's eyes, not our own. Look at the commercial media and the ideal they portray. Listen to the comments people make about people that are ugly. People DO judge ugly people. No wonder this BDD shit happens, but I am telling you, ACTUALLY BEING UGLY is even worse than BDD.
if someone has their car dented they'll get it fixed.
if someone has their nose dented they have a mental illness if they want it fixed?
I don't think so but if they pay a surgeon who does something else that the patient didn't want , but gets away with a shit job but other people think its acceptable but actcually has downgraded the patients looks.if then diagnosed with BDD THEY THEN FIND THEY COULD NOT GET CORRECTIVE SURGERY because these BDD DICKHEADS THINK THEY WILL NEVER BHWTWTL
Well I was diagnosed with BDD and I KNOW I look like a total freak. I am a -1000/10. My psychiatrist said I am nice looking to most girls but I can prove to you all with a photo I am a dog.
this guy isnt just "not ugly", he is extremely attractive! If only we could all write him and tell him, maybe it would help him understand it really is all in his head
That would not help. I have this. He would think that everyone was saying it to make him feel better or because they know has the disorder or out of pity.
People tell me that I am attractive ALL the time but I always find some reason why they are saying it. And the reason that I find is never that I am actually attractive.
I understand, but i still think it could help. Im sure out of all the people who told you youre attractive, at least one of those people made you think for a moment. x
Pathological self criticism combines with caring way too much about what others think. Who are they trying to impress? People? Well people are assholes. Caring about em is the biggest mistake.
ok, so the man claims he isn't able to function in society... so, how does he have a nice house, etc? Is he at mom's or is NHS ( tax payers ) and council housing supporting his "Illness"?
raboesperto 34 minutes ago
wow,he is good looking!!!
MoonPisces029 3 days ago
poor thing he's not ugly
rainepanda 3 days ago
He is sexy! I hope he is not suffering from BDD and is happy
SaraLilith91 3 days ago
ugly? man he could even double for Kevin Spacey :)
23viktor23 4 days ago 2
he's not ugly , god get out and live.
yvonneost12 4 days ago 2
This is a psychological trauma that they haven t managed to deal with by going to a psychologist or even meeting people with like themselves maybe. I don t think there s anything wrong with them but they are surely scared from something they chose not to deal with. Like the 1st woman for example she was picked on in her earlier years and chose to take it to heart and change her appearance because of her bullies.
longjourney2006 5 days ago
not ugly.
TheGoldstrings 1 week ago
1st world problems.
Indie9999 1 week ago 4
Attention whores.
gomunkul 1 week ago
Makes me appreciate how really really really good looking I am lol
Carlsaganguy 1 week ago
He is NOT EVEN UGLY WOW. This really is a mental disroder .
heyyy185 1 week ago
The girl was making herself gross with all that makeup :/
Crystal28Dreams 1 week ago
He is a cute guy
cassielawson31 1 week ago
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eighteror 1 week ago
once again: BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER.
dude is not ugly at all...but his mind's eye tells him something else.
xaithoj 1 week ago 3
he looks normal
gadgetmanjay 1 week ago
i think hes cute!
annika2500 1 week ago
wow the tricks the mind plays on you... so sad :-( so unnecessary...
earthypig 1 week ago
he's not UGLY omg, aw ..
xashxbabex 1 week ago
he looks badass
Commenteronlylolz 1 week ago
motherfucker ive got dark circles! youve got none!
MrBrownCloset 1 week ago
He looks kinda like Tommy Lee . Pamela andersons on and off man!
GIRLSECKS 2 weeks ago
he is NOT UGLY !!!!!!!!!!!
farahdds 2 weeks ago 2
he just looks normal, and he is a really good singer! he even kinda reminded me of chester from linkin park!
SumthinSmellz 2 weeks ago 2
he's not ugly in the slightest .... but if he does insist on wearing sunglasses, couldn't he at least get some stylish ones?
afay 3 weeks ago 2
he is not ugly
POLAK1Nysa 3 weeks ago
he is not ugly at all
melaniecaneba 3 weeks ago
I know its easy for me to say you look beautiful. And i would love to get to know you, bc your personality seems lovely too! If you are watching this - yeah you with the sunglasses,please respond to me . I cant see you over the net,and i would never judge you! Im a girl from Norway. So if you ever need to chat to someone that wont judge you,that would listen to you,and be there for you. Please write me im vera8611. Actually goes for others that might need to talk-girl with a big heart:)
vera8611 3 weeks ago
come on the guy with the glasses is fuckin ugly
ashleyhat 3 weeks ago
@ashleyhat And I bet you look like a super model?
angelfaye101 2 weeks ago
Wow he's hot i can't believe dis
loveslife353 3 weeks ago
wtf?! Hes probs better than average looking...
Rawc90 3 weeks ago
This is really sad, he isn't ugly at all, what a shame he feels like that.
MarkTheJack94 3 weeks ago
hes not ugly
onedirectionlovebug 4 weeks ago
That picture of him with the baby was precious.
He's very attractive, I don't understand /:
Sometimes I think that maybe these people like this just need someone to love them and really make them feel attractive.
But then again, maybe that wouldn't do anything.
But it couldn't hurt.
AprilEXTC 1 month ago
He is really really handsome. I don't understand why he thinks like that. Go (come) to Japan, there are a lot of ugly people, but they live happily.
greenandsheep 1 month ago
I don't understand He is very handsome.
greenandsheep 1 month ago
Man, are you kidding me?
WhitePlayer3D 1 month ago
i think i have this...>.< but not as severe
THEunique4158 1 month ago
Julian-you look like Tom Hardy
damaged05170 1 month ago
the worst part is when you think all the compliments they do.. are lies.. and all the destructive words are not just truth.. but unchangeable truth.
FrOoOtZ 1 month ago
thank you for posting this were covering bdd as part of my course
theiceisgettingthin 1 month ago in playlist More videos from raidon04
I wish I had a friend like Dee.
CassieAnnaCary 1 month ago
I hope these people on this video read this...there is nothing ugly or abnormal about them...its all in their head
marter2006 1 month ago
this guy actually looks pretty handsome (no homo).
TheAlijanify 1 month ago
Support groups are the best.
iraqidolphin 1 month ago
i think he just need a make over
hunnybee1226 1 month ago
He's not even ugly.
stevostevie 1 month ago 63
I'd say he's actually slightly above average looking. If he grew out his hair he'd start to look like Johnny Depp
hend6475 1 month ago in playlist More videos from raidon04 3
@hend6475 lol. As soon as I seen him, I said to myself. JOHNNY DEPP!?!?!? ahaha. That guy is a pimp.
thejaydoh 1 month ago
he's cutee
nikkitheninjaxx 1 month ago
this is crazy, the guy looks absolutely fine! I don't understand but I guess it's something that can't be understood...=/
wyesdnil 1 month ago
@musicmatterstome105 dont be down on yrself,my fience is tall thinner than me, no brad pitt but i think that is sexy not hollywood real guys who know how to really love, if u rock as u clearly do u will fine love, i hate the way i look but turns out its just me. remember always that no matter what someone loves you!!
StarMoon1313 1 month ago
this dude looks like the most males....so he looks average..but not ugly...he has to stop tocomparing himself with dicaprio and pitt
rassemops 1 month ago
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I am a 19 year old male who has never been happy with the way I looked, since the age of 13 I have wanted to have a more pretty/cute/tanned face rather than my long/pale face. I was reading up on B.D.D. This is what I came across.
''Imagine you're an average-looking man or woman. But when you look in the mirror, you see a monster.''
I don't see a monster. I see an 'average' looking man. I hate looking average and plain though. I want to be beautiful and have different features!!!
musicmatterstome105 1 month ago
These people lack self confidence!
parresa101 1 month ago
We all have bloody dark cirles! Just use some concealer. The funny thing is, he is very good looking! What a shame...
asopaso07 1 month ago
I think he looks good :) Btw, I have dark circles under my eyes too, naturally, because I have thin skin there, so I use concealer daily. That's all :) Simple, no need for knifes or dark glasses.
apelsinuke 2 months ago
@apelsinuke he's a guy so perhaps it's a macho thing. men are not supposed to use concealer or something u know :P but u're right it could be an easy fix for any possible physical defect, but there mental problem will still remain and he may still remain to see those dark undereyes even they're not visible to others (like in the pic), or it may even redirect towards something else further complicating his problem. only way is brain repogramming to remove this obsession from his mind altogether
DonMega187 1 month ago
Seriously??? I have seen uglier guys who think they are gorgeous! He looks fine.. this is sad..
1jadeddoll 2 months ago
he's actually really cute...
febuary09 2 months ago in playlist More videos from raidon04
These people look normal??? uhhh what a weird illness.
TheMango121 2 months ago
This man really believes he's ugly? Wow. He's cute. Not Hollywood handsome but then, how many are? It's rare. I believe he's shut himself off from the world because it's easier for him to believe. So sad. I don't lie. I don't believe in it and it's cost me. It's become a habit in society and business and it's so tiresome. I'm so sorry he's broken. He's talked himself into it and that's it. I was expecting a monster but this guy is absolutely normal. I won't judge but I don't get it.
Songsmirth 2 months ago
@Songsmirth perhaps bad experience with girls or with his mother in early childhood lead to this, along with the pressure from society. but once u're down on that path it gets increasingly harder to get out. u don't get it, but with emotional problems there's nothing for u to "get" since ur mind is not in the same state with theirs to begin with. he could be the most handsomest guy in the world, and still feel this way. actually many people considered beautiful actually suffer from low esteem
DonMega187 1 month ago
@DonMega187 Good points. I have known a person that most would consider beautiful but she didn't believe it. I've also known people crippled for their whole lives because they had a parents who would harp on a part of them that the parent thought needed improvement. Even as adults. What horror parents can do. .
Songsmirth 1 month ago
Hes not even ugly!!!!
karlisch32 2 months ago
This is so sad:(
ThePhoebsy 3 months ago
@ThePhoebsy what are you talking about this is funny
MrFaceeatingcancer 2 months ago
haha should see my dark circles
22JaneDoe 3 months ago
@22JaneDoe yeah me too.
Hochichin 2 months ago
he looks beutiful wery handsome !!!
ingaarnad 3 months ago 2
I wish I could help these people....x.x
FenrirAlucard 3 months ago
he's quite attractive..
ZendayaXx0 3 months ago 95
Yes, even his profile -- the shape of his nose and chin and cheekbones, etc --- is lovely. How very sad to waste your life feeling that way.
Mikhaila 3 weeks ago in playlist More videos from raidon04
music sounded good.
xplzf 3 months ago in playlist More videos from raidon04
Since a lot of just do not seem to be able to get it, I will have to point it out to you. The whole point is not that these people are ugly or if they are not ! The whole point is that they feel ugly and that is because they are sick ! Do you think they want to feel ugly ? and cry like a baby ? I don't think so . Stop judging other people . You don't know how it feels to be them ! You don't know what they go through. The whole point of this is to show how the ILLNESS blinds you !
seeker866 3 months ago
what's the name of the song at 1:24
WTFisadeeto 4 months ago
Awwwwwww......... I feel so sorry for people with this. But, even if they are not beautiful on the outside, they probably are beautiful on the inside! xx
LeSackgirl 4 months ago
@manga19 Yes, he is handsome indeed.
megasoso1987 4 months ago
WTF that's the most normal looking man ever lol, He is actually good looking...
garygarypage 5 months ago
people with bdd are hot
CaptainRex619 5 months ago
What if ur really an ugly person then what does bdd apply?
pinkcloud808 5 months ago
dude....... the guy looks totally normal....
wsworld568 5 months ago 2
everyone on this show is very beautiful i wish they can just see it
4407474 5 months ago
He's hot
hotttuii12 5 months ago
he looks normal and I'm not saying this because it's a documentary about BDD.
mushroombest2002 5 months ago
lmao he looks so normal. Poor guy.
eridaniblack 6 months ago
YOU GUYS ARE NOT UGLY! YOU GUYS ARE SUPER ATTRACTIVE. PUT YOUR HEADS UP AND BE PROUD OF YOURSLEF (:
vinka1998 6 months ago
you know it's mainly artists that feel this way...like me =) Well, I dont have this disorder but I feel depressed many times and I just want to be loved and more beautiful but people tell me Im beautiful all the time...and I express my feelings through my artwork
care2much2 6 months ago
i get put downby other people all the time. and i have no idea why.
MrRagingbovine 6 months ago
I think that he is really attractive. o__o!
oliviazski13 6 months ago
this is what happens when you pass Judgement on your self.
serumclx 7 months ago
I wish no one had to feel like they hated themselves.I would be hard pressed to find a serious flaw in any one of these people. I just wish there was a way I could help.
emilyxdaniels 7 months ago
Hes handsome!
EvilAliceWonderland 8 months ago 2
I' self-diagnosed BDD when I was bout fourteen and was professionally diagnosed at seventeen, but my condition is not as bad as these people. I'm lucky enough that taking a SSRI is enough for me to functon normally, although I still feel as if there are 'bad' mirrors and 'good' mirrors, mainly a result of the way I feel I look in them. It is very much an illness, not a result of "society".
blankksugar 8 months ago
He is actually very good looking.
FlutePlayer777 9 months ago
ur not even ugly
lindadiaz123456789 9 months ago
he's not ugly!!! he's actualy kinda cute..... hmmm... if onli i was 15yrs older....... totaly wud wanna meet him.....^___^
celrockz123 9 months ago
i have this. never diagnosed with it. i have been in and out the mental hospital since i was 14. im 23. they never mentioned this ever! i have lost all my friends. no job. no confidence. i want to die everyday. my symptoms are far worse than these people.
666alilthrowedoff666 9 months ago
Bro, I'd date him.
ondehlurvesj00 10 months ago
Theres nothing wrong with the guy. He looks quite tall as well. I'd say 6'2 area. Plus, he's a man. As a man we get away with being 'ugly' A LOT more than a woman would.
My advice to him is just bang your female friend. That should snap him out of it.
brightlights456X 11 months ago
@brightlights456X LAWL so true we do get away with being ungly hahaha
mastersek 9 months ago
@brightlights456X LAWL so true we do get away with being ungly hahaha
mastersek 9 months ago
@mastersek
Such is life:D
brightlights456X 9 months ago
Your problem , no matter how severe , will become exactly that , a problem.You'll have the ability to see It outside of yourself , as something you can do battle with. When you give In to the mirrors deception , you become one with It.
Everyone has a soul that Is capable of Infinite beauty , let It take the reigns and It will lead you out. Maybe on occasion you see something pretty or handsome but your means of achieving that vision are corrupt and you remain In the vicious cycle.
reprovo 11 months ago
The only way to break free from this Is to walk away , even If the last Image you see of yourself Is that of the elephant man. You should be willing to accept that maybe you are ugly , maybe you are hideous and let It go. You'll feel awful at first but Inch by Inch , you'll feel the emotional high of being In control.The freedom of not being tossed In whatever direction the silver coated glass wants to take you.All your actions will not be based on Illusions anymore.
reprovo 11 months ago
Some of us really ARE ugly and when people - either because they're polite or they feel it's the moral or ethical thing to lie - it only makes matters worse. I supose it makes THEM feel better but it doesn't help those of us who have below average looks.
UglySean 11 months ago
If he wanted to go for an emo look.....the supposed "dark circles" would be perfect
xratedMadHattress 1 year ago
Is this the life these people want to live ? I doubt that very much .
I try not to draw conclusions too fast . I'm not sure that getting these people to talk to one's who are disformed or handicaped or anything like that would be a smart move .
I think for most of them they are so fuckin' trapped in (what they consider being a) shame that this would probably be effective for a short period of time (hours ? weeks?) . Then they'd go back to what they know : Hating their looks .
monnakiko 1 year ago 3
@monnakiko You must remember, what we are seeing are a group of individuals with a mental illness, not just silly people with distorted ideas of themselves.
raidon04 1 year ago 92
@raidon04 CORRECT! <3
LAURAM0822 9 months ago
@monnakiko you could look extremely sexy and beautiful but still have this disorder and not want to show your face
audveltadmuna 4 months ago
amazing how similar this is almost to schizophrenia.. i mean, the elephant in the room CLEARLY isnt there, but they see it.
onthinice766 1 year ago
I dont get it, this guy was really maskuline and handsome!
Veprogg 1 year ago
@TimeManInJail You are neglecting the fact that this is not merely a phase or a pattern of distorted behaviour. The disorders is a mental illness and is recognised as one by both DSM and ICD.
raidon04 1 year ago 14
It's hard to get real help for any psychiatric disorder. Been there, done that. Keep trying. Please.
Sammicsno 1 year ago
Don't worry about how you look dude. If you look around, most people have some sort of flaw or inperfection that they are self conscious about.
pucksterz12 1 year ago
@Billysue2 Well, unfortunately it's all I can get. The only way I've gotten therapists fit to deal with me is via inpatient programs. These are costly if insurance doesn't cover them + they're short term. The therapists I've been referred to or found aren't fit to deal with me, nor are they interested in taking my case. Many don't know how to treat BDD, won't accept minors or won't accept me because I have an underlying medical condition [POTS]. It sucks, but I'm trying to figure something out.
Alf90100 1 year ago
@BillySue2 Well, I guess that depends on the individual, I'd love to feel that I look normal, but I'd love to feel attractive. I think everyone does to an extent though, basically what I'm trying to say is compare it to anorexia. An anorexic usually thinks the look fat, but they tend to want to be thin, rather than average.
Alf90100 1 year ago
Yes, very true, thank you very much for posting this video.
Alf90100 1 year ago 3
@Alf90100 If you ever need someone to talk to, you can always confide in me. Keep strong and remain determined.
raidon04 1 year ago 2
@raidon04 Yes, I've been suffering of it at least since january 2010 and I'm 16 now. I'm trying, I've been inpatient and out, it is very difficult to get good help, even in the D.C. metro area of the US. I've given up on mental health resources. Recently I've relied more on free church programs in the area for socializing. I'm hoping that pull me out.
Alf90100 1 year ago
@Alf90100 Socialising can be an essential tool in keeping out of the grips of seclusion and isolation. Perhaps you could consider CBT with a local psychologist? Either way, remember the subjects in the video and remember where true happiness lay.
raidon04 1 year ago 4
@Alf90100 if you have BDD then no church program is going to do much,it requires specialised treatment .How could you have given up after 1 YEAR,youve barely started and at such a young age theres lots of hope if treated propery.Socialising does not cure BDD,its good practise though.
billysue2 1 year ago
@raidon04 Alright, thanks man, I'm just trying to decide, having been through so many severe problems due to my appearance [including hospitalization after some gory selfaltercation "procedures"] and being told I have a distorted body image, if I really am just ugly or what...
Alf90100 1 year ago
@Alf90100 Your problems sound rather concerning. Have you been suffering with negative perceptions of yourself for along time? Treatment is always there, it just takes us to reach out and to grasp it.
raidon04 1 year ago
@raidon04 So what you're basically trying to say is that people with the disorder have a flawed perception of themselves but they want to look/feel attractive? Or that they just can't handle their [real] flaws? Sorry, I'm a bit confused, just sounds different from anything I've read thus far.
Alf90100 1 year ago
@Alf90100 That sounds about accurate. People with BDD set an unattainable goal for themselves. No surgery and no amount of alternation to one's physicality will alter the deep seeded issues. Like OCD and eating disorders, the symptoms can, at times, overshadow the fact that it is very psychological and more than merely symptomatic
raidon04 1 year ago
Quote from description - "BDD was once thought of as "imagined ugliness" but it is more about perfectionism or, in other words, believing that appearance should be flawless."
I was kind of hoping that someone may elaborate on this statement. Is it claiming that people with "BDD" are vain? Or that they see themselves the way they really look but just can't handle it because it isn't perfect? Sorry if I took this out of proportion, but I just want to know what they mean.
Alf90100 1 year ago
@Alf90100 I suppose a lot of mental illnesses could be considered "vain". But there is a stark differences between the preoccupation with the self that is displayed by patients with BDD and plain vanity. People who are "vain" do not need intensive psychological treatment to treat their personality traits.
raidon04 1 year ago
@Alf90100 very often its not about seeking perfection but rather desperation to look normal as they think they are far from it.I personally have never had any desire to look perfect,just have acceptable features compared to others my age
billysue2 1 year ago
I kinda wonder if i have a mild case of this, i hate how i look, i have to be on antidepressants. Ppl tell me im pretty but i think that they are all lying, i felt this way since i waa little
fushadragon 1 year ago
the guy looks pretty normal
mastaODI56 1 year ago
I think hes hot and perfictly normal....i feel bad for him..
KITKAT101059 1 year ago
if he thinks he has dark cycles he wants to see mine
lrigyrtnuocyelyah 1 year ago 2
wow these people can really draw
agetlostgirl 1 year ago
No one is ugly. God made everyone beautiful in his eyes. Its just the god dam celebreties and magazines and TV that make people think they're ugly.
SonyCamry 1 year ago
It's sad, he's quite attractive and his voice is lovely.
anaangel92 1 year ago
Oh my god they're all beautiful people! Theyre not ugly at all! I hope they get well!
BabyMushroom887 1 year ago
God, I have this too and I was a model. I couldn't look at my pictures anymore.
LumierexCosmic 1 year ago
he's a hottie! ;)
Earthivore 1 year ago 4
do you have any footage of how people overcome bdd?
lillith886 1 year ago
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83Pindi 1 year ago
in this disorder, does the person actually see himself different? I mean, the visual information that enters the eyes are heavily changed by the brain, or it's just a belief of what's pretty and what's ugly? (and they are included in the ugly, of course)
and also, I'd like to know what's the therapy of this. I mean, what to do in this case
mayorde18 1 year ago
i read in some medical study that pple with bdd use their left side of the brain to process what they see, so they pick up things in far greater detail, rather than looking at the whole image .. theres not much research on this ...sadly
83Pindi 1 year ago
I believe it's a bit of both. There is always in everyone a perceived ideal of perfection and we put those in categories so they also have that. They see that they are not in the pretty category. They also perceive flaws that are not there to varying degrees of severity. They will take a specific flaw or many flaws and pick it apart laying everything that is wrong on it blowing it out of proportion so to speak. Sometimes they see flaws that are not there or that the rest of us don't see.
Wwdancwe690 1 year ago
Is there a 3rd part to the video?
DarkAngelrace 2 years ago 3
Some surgery can remove the problems for example scars so if that was the case then the patients BDD problem would be fixed.But if they refuse to operate because they are saying the patient will still have an obsession with another part of their body This is making assumptions and is violating their human right to surgery based on assumptions made by observing others but what right do these bastards have to say they will not be happy with surgery because of others are we all the fucking same/
EIKLURAM 2 years ago
its not the physical scars that hurt them, its the emotional ones they can't stand, these scars take more time to heal, instead of expressing yourself ignorantly open your mind and look at the real problem
forfetable 2 years ago
It's the emotional reaction to ignorant people's refusal to identify with their physical defect and to assume they will not be satisfied with corrective surgery.
Cases vary mate.
Instead of expressing yourself ignorantly open your mind and look at the actual problem.
EIKLURAM 2 years ago
i understand what your saying EIKLURAM, and 6 months ago i would have totally agreed with u. I wanted to surgery SO bad because i was CONVINCED that a part of my face was hidious and that if i could just get that one thing fixed my problems would be solved and id be HAPPY! but my mum and others around me refused to let me get it done coz i wanting to die coz i thort i was so ugly. I've gotten help and can now see how distorted my thinking was and am now GLAD i got held back from doing it.
outsider128 2 years ago
@outsider128 one thing gets fixed and then another one starts. the problem is truly on the inside and can only be fixed from the inside.
LollieSmith 1 year ago
I've studied psychology at university,and I can see that the BPS definition of BDD is flawed.because it assumes plastic surgeons are all conforming within guidelines and does not consider rougue surgeons etc who create problems
There are people who imagine they are ugly when they are not
.But there are also people who don't ,and these people can get dragged into a false diagnosis also people are not exactly going to tell someome they are ugly in front of them are they?
EIKLURAM 2 years ago
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I Completely Relate To This .
xdeeshaax 2 years ago 2
Man we see ourselves through other people's eyes, not our own. Look at the commercial media and the ideal they portray. Listen to the comments people make about people that are ugly. People DO judge ugly people. No wonder this BDD shit happens, but I am telling you, ACTUALLY BEING UGLY is even worse than BDD.
CrypticCultureJam33 2 years ago 3
i feel you on that being ugly sucks :/
DanteWhite 2 years ago 3
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if someone has their car dented they'll get it fixed.
if someone has their nose dented they have a mental illness if they want it fixed?
I don't think so but if they pay a surgeon who does something else that the patient didn't want , but gets away with a shit job but other people think its acceptable but actcually has downgraded the patients looks.if then diagnosed with BDD THEY THEN FIND THEY COULD NOT GET CORRECTIVE SURGERY because these BDD DICKHEADS THINK THEY WILL NEVER BHWTWTL
EIKLURAM 2 years ago
...but everything IS in the head. and one's thoughts are one's reality.
deemilieu 2 years ago
Well I was diagnosed with BDD and I KNOW I look like a total freak. I am a -1000/10. My psychiatrist said I am nice looking to most girls but I can prove to you all with a photo I am a dog.
CrypticCultureJam33 2 years ago
Wheres the rest of this video? :o( It cuts off mid sentence and there's no Too Ugly for Love part 3 :o(
LudoPixie 2 years ago
this guy isnt just "not ugly", he is extremely attractive! If only we could all write him and tell him, maybe it would help him understand it really is all in his head
NawTiNinja 2 years ago 3
That would not help. I have this. He would think that everyone was saying it to make him feel better or because they know has the disorder or out of pity.
People tell me that I am attractive ALL the time but I always find some reason why they are saying it. And the reason that I find is never that I am actually attractive.
almoody6872 2 years ago 3
I understand, but i still think it could help. Im sure out of all the people who told you youre attractive, at least one of those people made you think for a moment. x
NawTiNinja 2 years ago
the whole documentary isnt here? Id really like to see it, but Im abraod :(
NawTiNinja 2 years ago
i need help for this URGENTLY in brisbane australia. i dont think any doctor here would know whats wrong,and will just tell me im depressed.
hotchillibot 2 years ago
Pathological self criticism combines with caring way too much about what others think. Who are they trying to impress? People? Well people are assholes. Caring about em is the biggest mistake.
Ayatron34 2 years ago 2
what are you bullshiting about,its a well researched mental disorder
billysue2 2 years ago
Hence why I said "Pathological". Duh.
Ayatron34 2 years ago
Ayatron34 is an unplesant abnormal homosexsual BLACK GAY . ! !
6676plentybody 2 years ago
Poor thing! He's really attractive, very cute. I am so sorry he doesn't see it. :( I find him very handsome.
ursulalynn 2 years ago 94