Just caught this and will be watching all the rest you have done so far. I'm a straight women and feel that not matter what sexuality you are if you believe in monogamy then that is what you will strive for in your life. I believe if I had been born gay(lesbian)bi myself, I would still only want to be with one person at a time. It's the way I'm built within myself. I have to have some emotional attachment to that person wherever it's love or lust and I'm too possessive to share with anyone else.
Gay men like to talk about monogamy, but let's see them try it for 30 years. Not many couples make it that long. I think men in general (gay or straight) don't care about monogamy as much as women. I just don't think gay men try as hard as straight guys. They give up, give in or break up too soon thinking that the next guy will be better but often end up in the same cycle. Two years is not long enough... try 22 years, then make another Youtube video so we can follow your progress.
The only annoying thing about this otherwise wonderful video is the camera jumping around all the time. :( But you guys are looking more beautiful all the time. :)
reality.... if u loved them and they where giving u enough atention, u wudnt have to seek it elsewhere, if some1 is truly comited to u emotionally, u wudnt feel a need for it wud u! open relationships are rubbish, its a tester and a lesson of truth to urself and others :) im sinlge btw if any1s interestd ;) tho it takes me a long time to get to know sum1 and settle and trust, thats wat ipersonally want, someone whos gona stick around with me loyal faithfull trustworthy, and that takes time!!!
Do you ever feel like you want to experiment?.. because ever since I was young, I've only ever dated 2 people.. And had sex with one. I'm 19, and I kind of want to experiment without being a whore, lol.
@Acidpointzero I personally don't feel like experimenting but it's a normal urge to have. Just go about it with some common sense and don't rush into anything if you're not comfortable.
Monogamy is not impossible I know that alot of people say that. I just think that people put much more importance on sex than on love and thats why they think that way. I agree with everything the guys say in the video.
@msbuch72 The entire human race is insecure. Yes, even you.
Monogamy involves exercising SELF-control; it's not about controlling your partner. It's fine if you don't agree with me, but I would have at least appreciated a response where you explain why open relationships are fulfilling for you instead of ridiculing our relationship.
We'll go off and live our miserable little lives as judgmental control freaks now. Thanks for watching.
@KindaGayBlog Wow. Thinned skinned. You sound so defensive. And you put words in my mouth that I never said. All I've said about monogamy is that it is about control. You agreed that it is about self-control (splitting hairs). Because if it is simply about self-control, does that mean you would have no problem if your partner had sex outside the relationship and you didn't? I doubt that very much.
@KindaGayBlog I've never ridiculed your relationship. However, you've said people who choose an open relationship are being controlled by their cocks. That sounds like ridicule to me. Funny how you assume that because I state that monogamy is about control and that people who publicly pronounce they're in a monogamous relationship sound like they are bragging must mean I'm against monogamy. I'm simply against people acting better than other people because of something as arbitrary as monogamy.
Sometimes it does seem hard to find guys who want to be in a monogamous relationship, but I know there are tons of guys out there who have the same mind-set as I do. It's only a matter of time till you meet that one special person. Sure there may be heartache along the way, but I believe that is how we grow and mature as people.
I've talked about this on occasion over at redCHAIRdiaries. When you're young, sometimes you're still trying to emulate straight role models and "just want to settle down". But my experience is love finds you, you don't find love. (May sound trite, but that's my experience.)
Michael (the 'old guy' who's been with the same guy for 30 years)
Okay Sam you have been in a relationship for two years. I have a huge problem. No guy my age wants to be with me. They head for the hills and throw me to the trolls and the daddies. This has been going on for years now and its pissing me off. Now everytime I see a gay couple thats happy I want to shoot myself or try to break them apart. What the fuck is up with the gay community and the relationship bullshit? Every relationship I have had my bf cheats on me. I am fed up with the whole thing.
@HMTOlympic I very much feel your pain. I wish I knew more so that I could see just how much I agree with you. But it's a pain I know too well. How old are you?
@Sanctuaryofstars I am only 25 years old and the guys my age ignore me and throw me to the trolls and daddies. There is nothing wrong with older men, but I want to be with someone my own age and not somebody who is old enough to be my father. The gay men here are austentaious little assholes who think the sun shines out thier ass. I am so tired of the head games and mind fucking. I wake up every morning feeling like I am on the Titanic sinking. I'll just hang on the rail and ride the fucker down
it really scares me how open relationships have became so popular in gay society...Im single for 6 years and each time I go for a date...guys asks me about open relationship...cause monogamy seem to be boring and out-fashioned to them...nightmare! why is it sooooo hard to build normal love based relationship with gay guy:((((?
@KindaGayBlog Yes they do...thats why decided to stop dating cause Im tired with this shit! It worries me gays dont want to meet u as a personal and personality they just want to meet ur sex preferences...nightmare!
@msbuch72 As I said in the video, we're not bragging. We're simply stating our opinions on what works for us as a couple. I would love to receive a video response from you expressing your opinion on open relationships. In your eyes, monogamy is about control. In our eyes, monogamy is about making a commitment and not letting our dicks control us. But we're all different, and different things work for different people. If open relationships work for you, that's great. No judgment here.
@KindaGayBlog "not letting our dicks control us". Sounds like you think people in non-monogamous relationships are simply letting their dicks control them. Hmmm. But you don't judge. No. not you.
@msbuch72 Would it have sounded less judgmental to say "genitalia" instead? Please, I urge you to make a video response talking about your stance on open relationships. Otherwise, it just sounds like you're judging me for my stance.
@KindaGayBlog No, it would not sound any less judgmental. You paint with a broad brush and you even use the word control in your response to my comment proving that you agree monogamy is about control on some level. And just because many straight couples have open relationships or cheat doesn't change the fact that the norms of straight society include monogamy. Perhaps you don't see how your presentation comes across as judging those who don't choose monogamy as being beneath you. But I do.
@msbuch72 By the way, I wouldn't say monogamy is an attempt to conform to straight society norms. Many straight couples cheat and have open relationships.
i think 2 years is great, it may not be 5/10/30/75 years but its 2 years and one more day than yesterday and thats how you make it to the high numbers. My and my BF just reached 6 months ^_^ but i find our conversations getting a bit dull, i don't think its from lac of interest but just lack of interesting things to talk about- ever run into a problem like this before? And as for Monogamy, i think its a much more satisfying and rewarding experience that everyone should at least try.
Like I said on your similar vid before, I don't understand how people can enjoy open relationships. But I suppose that depends at what level you call it a relationship. Is friends with benefits an open relationship? I'm only interested in monogamous relationships because it gives you and the person you love that one thing with each other that no-one else can have with you or your partner. It makes your relationship with him/her more special than their relationship with anyone else!
@Fr4yTheStrings Some people have the ability to separate sex and emotion. I don't have that ability. It boggles my mind how someone can be emotionally detached from something so intimate.
"The more you have of something, the less meaningful it becomes....." so true. I luv that. PS: u look hott in this vid, Sam =) and Pier's adorable as always. xoxo
I agree with your comment --- I simply don't have enough strength to carry on more than one relationship. Besides, my BF and I operated at the same sexual level -- I didn't need to find it elsewhere.
I don't see myself in anything other than a monogamous relationship. And although I get and agree with your point that you'll never know what's in the future, I don't think that's one thing I'll change my mind about. Hopefully I'll find that special someone someday:)
I was in a polyamorous relationship and it was nice till the end but trust me, as soon as one of the partners has troubles, it all goes to hell... well that was what happened with my relationship... I'd say, do what you heart tells you, it hurts when the heart gets broken but you get wiser through it and you will find out what suits you best, monogamy, open-relationship or polyamory, do what makes you happy...
@KindaGayBlog I agree with you, also if one explores all of his sexuall desires, what is left for your partner? Maybe I'm too romantic but I think its wonderfull.
I'm going to sound like a broken record but, I'm just so glad you guys are on yt and your blog - I'm feeling more sane every time I watch you or read the blog! I hope thats a good thing :-P LOL No seriously, thanks much!
to me, having sex with someone based solely on physical attraction is kind of lowly. to do so means ur getting off on images and roles that fulfill emotional voids. whereas in a relationship theres so much more. sexuality becomes real. honest. anyone that has real love wont want false pleasure. HOWEVER, total of our dual nature, being one thing makes us unconsciously crave the opposite, so if u truly want monogamy to work, u have to be allowed to cheat... if that makes sense.
@aelius93 "Anyone that has real love won't want false pleasure." Ditto on that. We certainly don't have each other on a leash; after all, if you hold on to anything too tightly, it's going to die. The individual freedom we allow one another makes us appreciate the relationship more, without seeking other sex partners.
oy. well, first and foremost i feel its important to not place rules or restrictions on anything. u have to let things be what they are. monogamy only works as long as both parties desire to be with only eachother. if that changes and u stifle it, the question becomes WHY? r we catering to our loved one's insecurities? is that healthy? wait one more.
LOL Chow....That's not why I think your the shit :OP People need to figure out whats best for them and their relationships...I think the problem is people arnt a 100% honest with each other...People will want to bend their values for another person and then try to influence them once they are in a relationship...Don't settle if you want to be monagomous then don't change because you fall for a guy who wants to be open.
@depfox Yes, I've seen open relationships where both people aren't on the same page. Usually the guy that wants a monogamous relationship settles for the open relationship just to avoid being alone.
@depfox Preach!!!! lol. I have seen a lot of couples wreck their relationships because one wanted to open and the other wanted to keep it closed. Now for me, I always say I am into TWOsomes. I also know that I'm too jealous to ever think of being in an open relationship. For people who believe monogamy isn't possible I think they just want everything they can get. My two cents
I wasn't sure if I preferred monogamy at one point in my dating life, because I didn't meet the right person. The past three years have been all about self-discovery and what I really needed for ME with another person. I know that monogamy isn't always present in nature, but I see how it makes certain types of people happy(ier). It really is a preference, and for some it just comes naturally. I definitely think monogamy is healthier for someone like me, and I'm happy to see it works for you!
We have been together for twenty years monogamously... I agree...I could not share my relationship with another person. Every person that I know that has tried the open thing is no longer with their partner..
@stoner829 Same here. Open relationships are like a ticking time bomb, in my opinion. Bringing other people into a relationship is just bound to blow up in your face.
So far from my experience in relationships there will always be a cheater no matter how much they love their partner and no matter how good they treat them.
@ScienceWillNeverDie In almost all cases, I'd agree. I think, eventually, a relationship has to deal with infidelity and/or temptation to do so. In best cases, the couple becomes even stronger. In worst, chaos :O
My 14 yr monogamous relationship presented itself after a string of very short term relationships, in my early 20's. I cannot recall aiming for committed relationship nor was it ever in my head. it just happened.without much effort. He left without a word in one of his travels, Google didn't help, got no clue what happened. I truly felt i lost a brother. I would recommend everyone to try it, I got to know myself more during and after the relationship. You'll find the real you, somehow.
I am so on your side when you said planting the seed every where..... And you can never have the chance to be with the one. I think if you devote yourself to one person, you ar wishing that person to give his all to you, that's just what I want to be in a monogamous relat.
Police sirens in a cemetery. How peaceful. LOL! Relationships are as different for everyone that's why it's so rare to find someone you are compatible with. Looks are just groundwork for a relationship. All the big stuff comes with time.
Monogamy is all I know or want to know in a relationship. I lock onto the person I'm with. It's what comes natural to me more than anything else. Managing more than one love interest just isn't in my skill set. Nothing worse than the insecurity of being with somebody always looking for what's coming around the next corner. It's belittling. And nothing better than knowing your partner only has eyes for you. It builds you up from the inside finding strength in yourself you didn't even know you had
Love you guys and wish you a million years together!!! ( yeeeeaaahh for monogamy....boooooo for the miserable cheating bastards who killed the desire to have a relationship ever again!)
My first love and I were monogamous 16 years. My second 8 years. My current love and I just reached 12. Through the years I have known many other couples who were monogamous. It is not as rare amongst gays as people think. Those who go into committed relationships tend to drop out of the party circuit, and don't show on the radar of many.
Great Video! I do not know of one couple that has lasted, when in a open relationship. I am sure they are some who have had success but they are of very few. It’s not for me nor my partner. I made sure I got his thoughts on this issue before I committed to him for life. If he did choose this path, later in life, I would turn into Lorraine Bobbit :O) I have found even after 17 years our partnership continues to grow, we continue to learn about each other. I would never take that away from us.
....but when I tell my friends about this, they all tell me how wrong it is. But the way I see it, it's perfectly natural to look around...and have a bit of harmless fun (flirting) as long as it stops before it goes any further.
This is a tricky one for me. On the whole I don't like the idea of open relationships. Although I don't have a problem with harmless flirting. Rob and I have a good relationship in as much as we feel we can discuss pretty much anything, without feeling like either of us will get all confrontational. He comes home from work and tells me about some of the guys he likes at work, and how he flirts outrageously with them. I think it's all in the name of fun......
You two are adorable. For me, an open relationship takes courage. If you can give your attention to more than one person, great. I am the type that, I refuse to fight for attention. I'm a one man type man. Also, I wouldn't want to feel as if I'm in second place. What works for someone may not work for someone else. Just my 2¢.
Good video! I've never been the type that wanted to just hook up with someone or be in an open relationship. It's just not for me. I want to be with on person who enjoys me and my qualities just as much as I enjoy them and there's no room for another person in that equation. I like to be passionate and give my all to the person I'm with. And nice jacket Sam! I have the same exact one :P
@weeandy2008 My Italian is going to have to get better soon for our trip there this spring. I have my pocket book "Idiot's Guide" so I should probably start carrying that around.
Can you please do I video where you kiss each other? I mean…come on…the whole waiting for you to do it and then you decide not to…hello? enough is enough… :D
7 years and still going strong, I dont understand why anyone when they have found someone they love would want to sleep with someone else, but thats just me.
@KindaGayBlog See I know what it is, some couples feel that if they stay with the same person for to long they will lose interest in them, and if they have and open relationship that it will keep is fresh, also if you know your partner is sleeping with someone else they cant really cheat on you. But still, if you love someone stay with that one person you wont need anyone else. Thats what I think anyways. ;)
Obviously my prince charming hasn't been great finding his way around. When he finally shows up, I will give him a good bitch slap for showing up so late.
I think I missed the chromosome of cheating, or being in an open relationship etc. Like you, I put everything into the one person, I never hook-up, it just doesn't feel right to me....I know I'm in the minority though.
@Mattdrmusic I'm the same way, though I don't judge others if that's what works for them. I just don't have the energy or time to waste with bullshitters.
My husband and I have been in a committed, monogamous relationship for over 16.5 years, and honestly it hasn't been hard at all. Speaking for myself, it's been no struggle or sacrifice to sleep only with him. On the contrary, my passion and desire for him have actually grown stronger over the years. Of course it's natural to notice other guys. Just because you're married doesn't mean you're blind...or dead! ;-) Anyway, thanks for posting this, and I wish you and Pierre the very best.
I cannot say for 100% certain that monogamy is right for me. I hope it is, just because that's how I fantasize my perfect relationship, but honestly I'm too inexperienced in love to know for sure.
@greedlusthate Oh I'm very inexperienced too. I think my naivety helped this relationship because I wasn't expecting anything. Fortunately I met a guy who did not take advantage of my naivety and helped me grow and be more comfortable in my skin. And thanks for the complement on my hair!
Monogamy is the only option for me. At my age, I've played all the games and sowed all the oats. And you learn that there is a lot more to life than a roll in the hay.
@scutter4christ Off topic, but as soon as you said "roll in the hay" I imagined the scene in Young Frankenstein when Teri Garr sings "Roll, roll roll in zee hay!" :-P Thanks a lot for watching and sharing your experience.
While I'm not currently in a relationship, I could only see my self in a monogamous relationship. I couldn't handle the idea of my boyfriend sleeping with other people. Now I wouldn't be the extremely jealous boyfriend who would get made if my boyfriend found other guys attractive, I would just hope that he would have enough respect to not act on the impulse.
@MisterMoonyLupin I think we, as people, need to understand the importance of exercising self-control, over anything - food, money, sex. It's such an empowering feeling.
I love that you two are in the cemetery xD I would totally hang in a place like that, they're so quiet and calm... by the way I do hope that you two can still be together for a long time, you're a cute couple!
My hubby and I have been in a monogamous relationship for almost 13 years. It can be done. Of course, as you mentioned, there are attractions that occur at times, but you need to get over the fear and discuss them. Better to do that before something happens than afterward. With 2 kids, there wouldn't be any time to cheat, anyway! lol
@sbaglioscherzo Congrats to you and hubby! Yes, attractions are natural. It would be ignorant for anyone to think their partner finds no one else sexually attractive. But with a little self-discipline and communication, you can build a very successful relationship with one person.
@KindaGayBlog Very well said! My husband and I notice and talk about hot guys all the time. We know we're attracted to them, so we don't see any harm in getting it out in the open and acknowledging it. Just because you might drool over every cake in the bakery doesn't mean you can't be satisfied eating just one. :-)
I was in a monogamous relationship for six years, that just recently fell apart in a sense. We still live together but we are taking a break and that seems to work for us right now. We don't know if we'll get back together or if one of us will find something else, but we are not opposed to falling back together if that does happen. Really, a relationship can be anything it wants to be as long as both people are honest and are satisfied with it. It only becomes a problem if it is unbalanced.
@itirnitii Agreed 100%. Relationships and people are complex, so there are no black and white answers. However, there are two elements - communication and trust - that I believe are key for any successful relationship.
I love you guys! You are so sweet and so non judgmental. I was all for just casual open relationships just because I didn't want any commitment. I ended up going through the scariest night of my life alone because none of my friends could/would help me. Since then I've been looking for someone that I can devote myself to. Someone that I can love, and who I know will stick by my side (as I will stick by theirs) when things are tough or scary.
@jamesnnc1 Hey, thanks James! I'm sorry you had to go through that alone. I think that may be one of the downfalls of open relationships. By never fully giving yourself to someone, you run the risk of not being fully loved in return. Of course, that is simply an opinion, and I would love to hear from people who are in a happy open relationship.
@KindaGayBlog I feel that your opinion is very correct. The fear of commitment causes a fear of allowing someone to truly love you. I'm trying to open up and allow someone in, but I have to find the right person first. Maybe I will find them when I leave for school in May.
I feel the same way as you two. While I've never had any sort of relationship, I never could see myself being able to cope with all of the baggage that a polygamous relationship comes with. Plus, I think that monogamy is just so cute ><
@PolyesterSweater Exactly. I'm not emotionally equipped to deal with multiple relationships. Plus there's always the chance that someone is going to get hurt, simply for the sake of pleasure.
Just caught this and will be watching all the rest you have done so far. I'm a straight women and feel that not matter what sexuality you are if you believe in monogamy then that is what you will strive for in your life. I believe if I had been born gay(lesbian)bi myself, I would still only want to be with one person at a time. It's the way I'm built within myself. I have to have some emotional attachment to that person wherever it's love or lust and I'm too possessive to share with anyone else.
CJPDeQueen 1 day ago
They are hairy-hot and they know it! :D
cactusmilo918 2 days ago
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cactusmilo918 2 days ago
omg u guys hot
inmyboxer 2 days ago
Gay men like to talk about monogamy, but let's see them try it for 30 years. Not many couples make it that long. I think men in general (gay or straight) don't care about monogamy as much as women. I just don't think gay men try as hard as straight guys. They give up, give in or break up too soon thinking that the next guy will be better but often end up in the same cycle. Two years is not long enough... try 22 years, then make another Youtube video so we can follow your progress.
vidform 1 week ago
@vidform A LOT of womans in the world love to have a lot of mans. what you say applies for both. You have a lot of prejudices...
cactusmilo918 2 days ago
The only annoying thing about this otherwise wonderful video is the camera jumping around all the time. :( But you guys are looking more beautiful all the time. :)
johndv777 1 week ago
Do gay monogamous people live together? Gay monogamy is not the same as straight; it cannot be.
benisturning30 2 weeks ago
@benisturning30 They live near the core of the Earth - closest to Satan. Gay people find sunlight uncomfortable, so this habitat is natural to them.
HrMerrlol 2 weeks ago
@HrMerrlol lol
johndv777 2 weeks ago
jelly!
cumboyz 2 weeks ago
pier's ausume!
80spopQueen 3 weeks ago
reality.... if u loved them and they where giving u enough atention, u wudnt have to seek it elsewhere, if some1 is truly comited to u emotionally, u wudnt feel a need for it wud u! open relationships are rubbish, its a tester and a lesson of truth to urself and others :) im sinlge btw if any1s interestd ;) tho it takes me a long time to get to know sum1 and settle and trust, thats wat ipersonally want, someone whos gona stick around with me loyal faithfull trustworthy, and that takes time!!!
chrisbartley88 3 weeks ago
I really love monogamy. But I didn't have any relationship.
It's that ok?
RickySSB 3 weeks ago
Pierre seems so excited.
Audiofreund2 3 weeks ago
I could never do an open relationship!! You are either mine or we are just fuck mates.
phantomsuccour 1 month ago
Do you ever feel like you want to experiment?.. because ever since I was young, I've only ever dated 2 people.. And had sex with one. I'm 19, and I kind of want to experiment without being a whore, lol.
Acidpointzero 1 month ago
@Acidpointzero I personally don't feel like experimenting but it's a normal urge to have. Just go about it with some common sense and don't rush into anything if you're not comfortable.
KindaGayBlog 4 weeks ago in playlist Uploaded videos 2
@Acidpointzero Just keep in mind that following your heart =/= following your urges. Everyone experiences temptations. Even the monogamous type.
essillius 1 day ago
Monogamy is not impossible I know that alot of people say that. I just think that people put much more importance on sex than on love and thats why they think that way. I agree with everything the guys say in the video.
prototyperick1 1 month ago
pier are u from north or south italy?
monkey12347210 1 month ago
Monogamy and insecurity seem to go hand in hand, according to you guys anyway.
msbuch72 1 month ago
@msbuch72 The entire human race is insecure. Yes, even you.
Monogamy involves exercising SELF-control; it's not about controlling your partner. It's fine if you don't agree with me, but I would have at least appreciated a response where you explain why open relationships are fulfilling for you instead of ridiculing our relationship.
We'll go off and live our miserable little lives as judgmental control freaks now. Thanks for watching.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog Wow. Thinned skinned. You sound so defensive. And you put words in my mouth that I never said. All I've said about monogamy is that it is about control. You agreed that it is about self-control (splitting hairs). Because if it is simply about self-control, does that mean you would have no problem if your partner had sex outside the relationship and you didn't? I doubt that very much.
msbuch72 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog I've never ridiculed your relationship. However, you've said people who choose an open relationship are being controlled by their cocks. That sounds like ridicule to me. Funny how you assume that because I state that monogamy is about control and that people who publicly pronounce they're in a monogamous relationship sound like they are bragging must mean I'm against monogamy. I'm simply against people acting better than other people because of something as arbitrary as monogamy.
msbuch72 1 month ago
So non-monogamous relationships are less meaningful? Your words. Hmmm. But you're not judging. No, not you.
msbuch72 1 month ago
I think I love your channel because EVERY video may be personal in origin, but it's ALWAYS geared towards helping, or mentoring. Love you guys.
Sanctuaryofstars 1 month ago
@Sanctuaryofstars Yay, thank you! :-) We love you too!
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
Sometimes it does seem hard to find guys who want to be in a monogamous relationship, but I know there are tons of guys out there who have the same mind-set as I do. It's only a matter of time till you meet that one special person. Sure there may be heartache along the way, but I believe that is how we grow and mature as people.
16Steven92 1 month ago
@16Steven92
Agree with you.
I've talked about this on occasion over at redCHAIRdiaries. When you're young, sometimes you're still trying to emulate straight role models and "just want to settle down". But my experience is love finds you, you don't find love. (May sound trite, but that's my experience.)
Michael (the 'old guy' who's been with the same guy for 30 years)
REDchairDIARIES 1 month ago
@16Steven92 Exactly. Nobody grows if they're constantly trying to avoid or repress pain. You have to be uncomfortable at times to grow.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
I just want to say that the links (in the underpants) to EP 1 and EP 2 are the same :D
alextinc 1 month ago
Okay Sam you have been in a relationship for two years. I have a huge problem. No guy my age wants to be with me. They head for the hills and throw me to the trolls and the daddies. This has been going on for years now and its pissing me off. Now everytime I see a gay couple thats happy I want to shoot myself or try to break them apart. What the fuck is up with the gay community and the relationship bullshit? Every relationship I have had my bf cheats on me. I am fed up with the whole thing.
HMTOlympic 1 month ago
@HMTOlympic I very much feel your pain. I wish I knew more so that I could see just how much I agree with you. But it's a pain I know too well. How old are you?
Sanctuaryofstars 1 month ago
@Sanctuaryofstars I am only 25 years old and the guys my age ignore me and throw me to the trolls and daddies. There is nothing wrong with older men, but I want to be with someone my own age and not somebody who is old enough to be my father. The gay men here are austentaious little assholes who think the sun shines out thier ass. I am so tired of the head games and mind fucking. I wake up every morning feeling like I am on the Titanic sinking. I'll just hang on the rail and ride the fucker down
HMTOlympic 1 month ago
it really scares me how open relationships have became so popular in gay society...Im single for 6 years and each time I go for a date...guys asks me about open relationship...cause monogamy seem to be boring and out-fashioned to them...nightmare! why is it sooooo hard to build normal love based relationship with gay guy:((((?
BuddhaLonely 1 month ago
@BuddhaLonely Wow they bring it up on the dates? That's awkward!
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog Yes they do...thats why decided to stop dating cause Im tired with this shit! It worries me gays dont want to meet u as a personal and personality they just want to meet ur sex preferences...nightmare!
BuddhaLonely 1 month ago
im a freshman in college and my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over a year and were monogamy all the way!!!
akinkead14 1 month ago
@akinkead14 Congrats!
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
Good episode :) monogamy all the way and people that tell you different have major insecurity issues. That's my opinion. Chao
tysonifacation 1 month ago
Pierre is so hot. Just sayin'.
ScreamingInTheCalle 1 month ago
doesnt that go back to the "stereotypical" gay man?
oscflo85 1 month ago
Monogamy is about control.
msbuch72 1 month ago
@msbuch72 ....monogamy is about HEALTH and other things..
DouglasUrantia 1 month ago
I wonder why people think others care if they are monogamous or not. sounds like bragging, or attempting to conform to straight society norms.
msbuch72 1 month ago
@msbuch72 As I said in the video, we're not bragging. We're simply stating our opinions on what works for us as a couple. I would love to receive a video response from you expressing your opinion on open relationships. In your eyes, monogamy is about control. In our eyes, monogamy is about making a commitment and not letting our dicks control us. But we're all different, and different things work for different people. If open relationships work for you, that's great. No judgment here.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog "not letting our dicks control us". Sounds like you think people in non-monogamous relationships are simply letting their dicks control them. Hmmm. But you don't judge. No. not you.
msbuch72 1 month ago
@msbuch72 Would it have sounded less judgmental to say "genitalia" instead? Please, I urge you to make a video response talking about your stance on open relationships. Otherwise, it just sounds like you're judging me for my stance.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog No, it would not sound any less judgmental. You paint with a broad brush and you even use the word control in your response to my comment proving that you agree monogamy is about control on some level. And just because many straight couples have open relationships or cheat doesn't change the fact that the norms of straight society include monogamy. Perhaps you don't see how your presentation comes across as judging those who don't choose monogamy as being beneath you. But I do.
msbuch72 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog And it only works for you as a couple until it doesn't. ;-)
msbuch72 1 month ago
@msbuch72 By the way, I wouldn't say monogamy is an attempt to conform to straight society norms. Many straight couples cheat and have open relationships.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
i think 2 years is great, it may not be 5/10/30/75 years but its 2 years and one more day than yesterday and thats how you make it to the high numbers. My and my BF just reached 6 months ^_^ but i find our conversations getting a bit dull, i don't think its from lac of interest but just lack of interesting things to talk about- ever run into a problem like this before? And as for Monogamy, i think its a much more satisfying and rewarding experience that everyone should at least try.
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I'm to much of a flirt
I stare smile etc...
I'm a 100% flirt to other guys and I'm only 13 xD
JonnyDang21 1 month ago
I enjoy monogamy with my hubby and besides I can only handle one man at a time they are allot of work..lol..
THEROBBIEKSHOW 1 month ago
@THEROBBIEKSHOW Agreed! :-D
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@THEROBBIEKSHOW agree with you on that one lol
thomasjw100 1 month ago
one of the few gays on youtube that makes gays look good.
timm9 1 month ago
Like I said on your similar vid before, I don't understand how people can enjoy open relationships. But I suppose that depends at what level you call it a relationship. Is friends with benefits an open relationship? I'm only interested in monogamous relationships because it gives you and the person you love that one thing with each other that no-one else can have with you or your partner. It makes your relationship with him/her more special than their relationship with anyone else!
Fr4yTheStrings 1 month ago
@Fr4yTheStrings Some people have the ability to separate sex and emotion. I don't have that ability. It boggles my mind how someone can be emotionally detached from something so intimate.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
haha bitchslap on Pier !!
jujoc 1 month ago
your b/f is the daddy! major jel right now lol
imnotsure14able 1 month ago
Why r u in a cemitary 4?
matthew8623 1 month ago
"The more you have of something, the less meaningful it becomes....." so true. I luv that. PS: u look hott in this vid, Sam =) and Pier's adorable as always. xoxo
oxforddictonary 1 month ago
I agree with your comment --- I simply don't have enough strength to carry on more than one relationship. Besides, my BF and I operated at the same sexual level -- I didn't need to find it elsewhere.
kc55mo 1 month ago
your smile is massively cute
neptuniumforest 1 month ago
Pierre looks displeased to be there....
Lanedude08 1 month ago
@Lanedude08 He looks angry when he's thinking. I've learned to stop asking "What's wrong?" all the time - cause then he does get angry.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog Ohhhh in a way, I've been there.
SwobyJ 1 month ago
I don't see myself in anything other than a monogamous relationship. And although I get and agree with your point that you'll never know what's in the future, I don't think that's one thing I'll change my mind about. Hopefully I'll find that special someone someday:)
sander91nl 1 month ago
hey i gotta get one guy first, dont rush me lol
sleekcartim 1 month ago
I was in a polyamorous relationship and it was nice till the end but trust me, as soon as one of the partners has troubles, it all goes to hell... well that was what happened with my relationship... I'd say, do what you heart tells you, it hurts when the heart gets broken but you get wiser through it and you will find out what suits you best, monogamy, open-relationship or polyamory, do what makes you happy...
AlVision13 1 month ago
@AlVision13 Good point. I feel like in an open relationship, neither partner is committed to facing problems as a couple.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog I agree with you, also if one explores all of his sexuall desires, what is left for your partner? Maybe I'm too romantic but I think its wonderfull.
AlVision13 1 month ago
I'm going to sound like a broken record but, I'm just so glad you guys are on yt and your blog - I'm feeling more sane every time I watch you or read the blog! I hope thats a good thing :-P LOL No seriously, thanks much!
sunflyer40 1 month ago
@sunflyer40 Thank you! Feel free to say it as many times as you want. :-P Glad to have you as a viewer.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
to me, having sex with someone based solely on physical attraction is kind of lowly. to do so means ur getting off on images and roles that fulfill emotional voids. whereas in a relationship theres so much more. sexuality becomes real. honest. anyone that has real love wont want false pleasure. HOWEVER, total of our dual nature, being one thing makes us unconsciously crave the opposite, so if u truly want monogamy to work, u have to be allowed to cheat... if that makes sense.
aelius93 1 month ago
@aelius93 "Anyone that has real love won't want false pleasure." Ditto on that. We certainly don't have each other on a leash; after all, if you hold on to anything too tightly, it's going to die. The individual freedom we allow one another makes us appreciate the relationship more, without seeking other sex partners.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
oy. well, first and foremost i feel its important to not place rules or restrictions on anything. u have to let things be what they are. monogamy only works as long as both parties desire to be with only eachother. if that changes and u stifle it, the question becomes WHY? r we catering to our loved one's insecurities? is that healthy? wait one more.
aelius93 1 month ago
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JackzenScott 1 month ago
@kindagayblog, hey man I was wondering if you got my video response? Thanks!
Mrarete76 1 month ago
@Mrarete76 Yep, and thank you so much! I commented and shared it on my Facebook.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
Blush Hi Pier :O)
depfox 1 month ago
LOL Chow....That's not why I think your the shit :OP People need to figure out whats best for them and their relationships...I think the problem is people arnt a 100% honest with each other...People will want to bend their values for another person and then try to influence them once they are in a relationship...Don't settle if you want to be monagomous then don't change because you fall for a guy who wants to be open.
depfox 1 month ago 3
@depfox Yes, I've seen open relationships where both people aren't on the same page. Usually the guy that wants a monogamous relationship settles for the open relationship just to avoid being alone.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@depfox Preach!!!! lol. I have seen a lot of couples wreck their relationships because one wanted to open and the other wanted to keep it closed. Now for me, I always say I am into TWOsomes. I also know that I'm too jealous to ever think of being in an open relationship. For people who believe monogamy isn't possible I think they just want everything they can get. My two cents
vidhead85 1 month ago
I wasn't sure if I preferred monogamy at one point in my dating life, because I didn't meet the right person. The past three years have been all about self-discovery and what I really needed for ME with another person. I know that monogamy isn't always present in nature, but I see how it makes certain types of people happy(ier). It really is a preference, and for some it just comes naturally. I definitely think monogamy is healthier for someone like me, and I'm happy to see it works for you!
zachariahgriffin 1 month ago
@zachariahgriffin Yeah, it totally depends on how you're built emotionally.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
I can't agree more with you guys. Let me tell you I'm one of the single monogamists that love your sharing vids... :-)
"The more you have of something, the less meaningful it becomes", so true.
You in a cemetery?
themonochromeman 1 month ago
@themonochromeman haha yes, it was the only quiet place we could find!
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
We have been together for twenty years monogamously... I agree...I could not share my relationship with another person. Every person that I know that has tried the open thing is no longer with their partner..
stoner829 1 month ago
@stoner829 Same here. Open relationships are like a ticking time bomb, in my opinion. Bringing other people into a relationship is just bound to blow up in your face.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
So far from my experience in relationships there will always be a cheater no matter how much they love their partner and no matter how good they treat them.
ScienceWillNeverDie 1 month ago
@ScienceWillNeverDie In almost all cases, I'd agree. I think, eventually, a relationship has to deal with infidelity and/or temptation to do so. In best cases, the couple becomes even stronger. In worst, chaos :O
SwobyJ 1 month ago
@ScienceWillNeverDie I'm sorry those people treated you badly, but I promise not everyone is like that.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
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idis91 1 month ago
HI IT HAS BEEN A LONG TIME SINCE PIERRE DID A VIDEO WITH YOU:D
idis91 1 month ago
Monogamy is an absolute must, and the only way to have a committed relationship - IF that's what you both want.
avesraggiana 1 month ago
My 14 yr monogamous relationship presented itself after a string of very short term relationships, in my early 20's. I cannot recall aiming for committed relationship nor was it ever in my head. it just happened.without much effort. He left without a word in one of his travels, Google didn't help, got no clue what happened. I truly felt i lost a brother. I would recommend everyone to try it, I got to know myself more during and after the relationship. You'll find the real you, somehow.
rgrksa 1 month ago
You two give me hope. I love u guys :3
MannequinFactoryy 1 month ago
"bitch" *slap* haha so freaking hilarious
xb0y2008 1 month ago
I am so on your side when you said planting the seed every where..... And you can never have the chance to be with the one. I think if you devote yourself to one person, you ar wishing that person to give his all to you, that's just what I want to be in a monogamous relat.
myzackfair01 1 month ago
@corathus59 that's very impressive of you. I wish I could find someone who is as devoted and monogamous like u. I admire your relationship.
myzackfair01 1 month ago
Police sirens in a cemetery. How peaceful. LOL! Relationships are as different for everyone that's why it's so rare to find someone you are compatible with. Looks are just groundwork for a relationship. All the big stuff comes with time.
johntakai8429 1 month ago
Monogamy is all I know or want to know in a relationship. I lock onto the person I'm with. It's what comes natural to me more than anything else. Managing more than one love interest just isn't in my skill set. Nothing worse than the insecurity of being with somebody always looking for what's coming around the next corner. It's belittling. And nothing better than knowing your partner only has eyes for you. It builds you up from the inside finding strength in yourself you didn't even know you had
dafttool 1 month ago
@dafttool Put very well, especially the words about insecurity and the strength inside.
Artjommm 1 month ago
Love you guys and wish you a million years together!!! ( yeeeeaaahh for monogamy....boooooo for the miserable cheating bastards who killed the desire to have a relationship ever again!)
gyqz 1 month ago
My first love and I were monogamous 16 years. My second 8 years. My current love and I just reached 12. Through the years I have known many other couples who were monogamous. It is not as rare amongst gays as people think. Those who go into committed relationships tend to drop out of the party circuit, and don't show on the radar of many.
corathus59 1 month ago
and I wish you two all the success and the Best out of life :O)
Rfritz09 1 month ago
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Rfritz09 1 month ago
Great Video! I do not know of one couple that has lasted, when in a open relationship. I am sure they are some who have had success but they are of very few. It’s not for me nor my partner. I made sure I got his thoughts on this issue before I committed to him for life. If he did choose this path, later in life, I would turn into Lorraine Bobbit :O) I have found even after 17 years our partnership continues to grow, we continue to learn about each other. I would never take that away from us.
Rfritz09 1 month ago
....but when I tell my friends about this, they all tell me how wrong it is. But the way I see it, it's perfectly natural to look around...and have a bit of harmless fun (flirting) as long as it stops before it goes any further.
pierz1981 1 month ago
This is a tricky one for me. On the whole I don't like the idea of open relationships. Although I don't have a problem with harmless flirting. Rob and I have a good relationship in as much as we feel we can discuss pretty much anything, without feeling like either of us will get all confrontational. He comes home from work and tells me about some of the guys he likes at work, and how he flirts outrageously with them. I think it's all in the name of fun......
pierz1981 1 month ago
men are more realistic and fact-of-the-matter about this issue
cherrydog9 1 month ago
You two are adorable. For me, an open relationship takes courage. If you can give your attention to more than one person, great. I am the type that, I refuse to fight for attention. I'm a one man type man. Also, I wouldn't want to feel as if I'm in second place. What works for someone may not work for someone else. Just my 2¢.
Nateynate82 1 month ago
cutest couple :D <3
buqoqa 1 month ago
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warlokyx 1 month ago
Good video! I've never been the type that wanted to just hook up with someone or be in an open relationship. It's just not for me. I want to be with on person who enjoys me and my qualities just as much as I enjoy them and there's no room for another person in that equation. I like to be passionate and give my all to the person I'm with. And nice jacket Sam! I have the same exact one :P
tytheeman20 1 month ago 4
good luck too the both of you, I hope you stay together for sometime. Monogamy is what I hope to find one day.
JeffersPage 1 month ago
agreed and Pierre's english has improved so much!! hows your italian getting on?
weeandy2008 1 month ago
@weeandy2008 My Italian is going to have to get better soon for our trip there this spring. I have my pocket book "Idiot's Guide" so I should probably start carrying that around.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
Can you please do I video where you kiss each other? I mean…come on…the whole waiting for you to do it and then you decide not to…hello? enough is enough… :D
OldNewsThinker 1 month ago
@OldNewsThinker lol I'd love to but I'm pretty sure Pier would nix that idea. Maybe a kiss on the cheek one of these days. I'm working on him.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog YAH! I think I can settle for a peck on the cheek :o)
OldNewsThinker 1 month ago
Yay I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years as well! :)
ImaZombeh 1 month ago
@ImaZombeh High five! :-D Congrats
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
7 years and still going strong, I dont understand why anyone when they have found someone they love would want to sleep with someone else, but thats just me.
jimmypop1222 1 month ago
@jimmypop1222 Same here; that's why I'd love to get a response video from an open couple. I genuinely want to understand it more.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog See I know what it is, some couples feel that if they stay with the same person for to long they will lose interest in them, and if they have and open relationship that it will keep is fresh, also if you know your partner is sleeping with someone else they cant really cheat on you. But still, if you love someone stay with that one person you wont need anyone else. Thats what I think anyways. ;)
By the way you to rock ;)
jimmypop1222 1 month ago
Great video guys and some very mature thinking on the part of a couple of younger dudes. ;) I wish you both happiness and a happy life together.
AliehsLive 1 month ago
@AliehsLive Aw thanks!
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
I can only see myself being in a monogamous relationship. I want to spend the rest of my life with someone I'm in love with :)
TheSurskit 1 month ago
@TheSurskit You're not alone. :-)
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
Obviously my prince charming hasn't been great finding his way around. When he finally shows up, I will give him a good bitch slap for showing up so late.
vancharmer 1 month ago
@vancharmer lol Yes! A good slap'll knock some sense into him. (Not promoting domestic violence, people!)
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
I think I missed the chromosome of cheating, or being in an open relationship etc. Like you, I put everything into the one person, I never hook-up, it just doesn't feel right to me....I know I'm in the minority though.
Mattdrmusic 1 month ago
@Mattdrmusic I'm the same way, though I don't judge others if that's what works for them. I just don't have the energy or time to waste with bullshitters.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
monogamy is the only thing i'm looking for. i have enough trouble just finding one guy.
willy987s 1 month ago 20
@willy987s Haha, well don't let some jerk make you settle for less. When you find someone, it'll make the search all worth it!
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
My husband and I have been in a committed, monogamous relationship for over 16.5 years, and honestly it hasn't been hard at all. Speaking for myself, it's been no struggle or sacrifice to sleep only with him. On the contrary, my passion and desire for him have actually grown stronger over the years. Of course it's natural to notice other guys. Just because you're married doesn't mean you're blind...or dead! ;-) Anyway, thanks for posting this, and I wish you and Pierre the very best.
chpoof 1 month ago 15
@chpoof That's so romantic! I'm so happy for you two. Thank you for the kind words. :-)
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog I guess we're just "hopeless romantics" :-) Hugs to you both!
chpoof 1 month ago
I cannot say for 100% certain that monogamy is right for me. I hope it is, just because that's how I fantasize my perfect relationship, but honestly I'm too inexperienced in love to know for sure.
greedlusthate 1 month ago
@greedlusthate Oh I'm very inexperienced too. I think my naivety helped this relationship because I wasn't expecting anything. Fortunately I met a guy who did not take advantage of my naivety and helped me grow and be more comfortable in my skin. And thanks for the complement on my hair!
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
I cannot get over how cute that hair cut is on you, it's like the perfect cut for your face.
greedlusthate 1 month ago
Monogamy is the only option for me. At my age, I've played all the games and sowed all the oats. And you learn that there is a lot more to life than a roll in the hay.
scutter4christ 1 month ago
@scutter4christ Off topic, but as soon as you said "roll in the hay" I imagined the scene in Young Frankenstein when Teri Garr sings "Roll, roll roll in zee hay!" :-P Thanks a lot for watching and sharing your experience.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog I saw Young Frankenstein on Broadway with the original cast, including Megan Mullally from Will & Grace. It was the best.
greedlusthate 1 month ago
lol '' we're in a cemetery ''. You two are so funny =D
ACrackedSmile 1 month ago
@ACrackedSmile Haha, it was a great place to walk around...and quiet enough to make a video! Thanks for watching. :-)
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
While I'm not currently in a relationship, I could only see my self in a monogamous relationship. I couldn't handle the idea of my boyfriend sleeping with other people. Now I wouldn't be the extremely jealous boyfriend who would get made if my boyfriend found other guys attractive, I would just hope that he would have enough respect to not act on the impulse.
MisterMoonyLupin 1 month ago
@MisterMoonyLupin I think we, as people, need to understand the importance of exercising self-control, over anything - food, money, sex. It's such an empowering feeling.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
Monogamy is where it is at for us. My hubby and I have been together for 10 years.
QueerAsFaith 1 month ago
@QueerAsFaith Lovely! Congratulations to both of you.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
I love that you two are in the cemetery xD I would totally hang in a place like that, they're so quiet and calm... by the way I do hope that you two can still be together for a long time, you're a cute couple!
Shmoonify 1 month ago
@Shmoonify I hope so too! :-) I love this cemetery. It's hard to find a calm and peaceful area in West LA.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
My hubby and I have been in a monogamous relationship for almost 13 years. It can be done. Of course, as you mentioned, there are attractions that occur at times, but you need to get over the fear and discuss them. Better to do that before something happens than afterward. With 2 kids, there wouldn't be any time to cheat, anyway! lol
sbaglioscherzo 1 month ago 3
@sbaglioscherzo Congrats to you and hubby! Yes, attractions are natural. It would be ignorant for anyone to think their partner finds no one else sexually attractive. But with a little self-discipline and communication, you can build a very successful relationship with one person.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago 2
@KindaGayBlog Very well said! My husband and I notice and talk about hot guys all the time. We know we're attracted to them, so we don't see any harm in getting it out in the open and acknowledging it. Just because you might drool over every cake in the bakery doesn't mean you can't be satisfied eating just one. :-)
chpoof 1 month ago
1:44 lol the smile
1691christian 1 month ago
@1691christian lol I edited out so many weird, creepy smiles!
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
I was in a monogamous relationship for six years, that just recently fell apart in a sense. We still live together but we are taking a break and that seems to work for us right now. We don't know if we'll get back together or if one of us will find something else, but we are not opposed to falling back together if that does happen. Really, a relationship can be anything it wants to be as long as both people are honest and are satisfied with it. It only becomes a problem if it is unbalanced.
itirnitii 1 month ago
@itirnitii Agreed 100%. Relationships and people are complex, so there are no black and white answers. However, there are two elements - communication and trust - that I believe are key for any successful relationship.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
I love you guys! You are so sweet and so non judgmental. I was all for just casual open relationships just because I didn't want any commitment. I ended up going through the scariest night of my life alone because none of my friends could/would help me. Since then I've been looking for someone that I can devote myself to. Someone that I can love, and who I know will stick by my side (as I will stick by theirs) when things are tough or scary.
jamesnnc1 1 month ago
@jamesnnc1 Hey, thanks James! I'm sorry you had to go through that alone. I think that may be one of the downfalls of open relationships. By never fully giving yourself to someone, you run the risk of not being fully loved in return. Of course, that is simply an opinion, and I would love to hear from people who are in a happy open relationship.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
@KindaGayBlog I feel that your opinion is very correct. The fear of commitment causes a fear of allowing someone to truly love you. I'm trying to open up and allow someone in, but I have to find the right person first. Maybe I will find them when I leave for school in May.
jamesnnc1 1 month ago
I feel the same way as you two. While I've never had any sort of relationship, I never could see myself being able to cope with all of the baggage that a polygamous relationship comes with. Plus, I think that monogamy is just so cute ><
PolyesterSweater 1 month ago
@PolyesterSweater Exactly. I'm not emotionally equipped to deal with multiple relationships. Plus there's always the chance that someone is going to get hurt, simply for the sake of pleasure.
KindaGayBlog 1 month ago
love you guys
wereluva 1 month ago