I'm only 21 so not anytime soon but I would love to adopt.
I mean there are so many kids out there that need a home so why would you not adopt? I think them living with gay parents is better then on the street or in a foster home. I'd love them just the same as a straight couple would.
Gay parents don't become parents accidently they make a thought out deciosion and commit to it. They don't do a half ass job, not that all straight couples do a half ass job. Do some research on this and you'll see kids of gay parents tend to do very well in life. I think you would be a great dad when you and your partner, or just you are ready to. This is a sad story at first but these guys seeem like great parents overall.Let me know what you think. Look up Samuel at home with his dads
Dude, I gotta say this: you are so cute! You're like a teddy bear! It's so awesome you want kids. I hope things work out and I know you'll be an amazing dad!
(Sorry for the over use of exclamation points) Peace! :D
'Gay parents may bring talents to the table that straight parents don't.
Gay parents "tend to be more motivated, more committed than heterosexual parents on average, because they chose to be parents," Gays and lesbians rarely become parents by accident, compared with an almost 50 percent accidental pregnancy rate among heterosexuals' -huffington post
I am adopted, had wonderful parents but sadly I never came out to them and now they have both pasted away. My brother was their biological son. I always wanted to have kids and many years back decided as a single parent to adopt. I wanted to give back what I had, a wonderful family and great support system. My son is now 25 and in the Air Force with a family of his own (wife & 2 kids). There is no greater love than that for your kids. <3
I'm here in lubbock texas! And yes, it's very awkward for me growing up here being gay...and to top it off, I am living with my grandparents who have no idea that I'm gay. And they're super religious and don't believe in anything gay. Sooo...ima wait until I can move out to even think about telling them 0.o
Every time you respond to a comment it shows up on my YouTube homepage. Every time I see your response on my homepage I watch your videos. Every time I watch your videos I feel better. Therefore, you should keep making videos and responding to comments because it makes me (and I'm sure others) lives better :D
I am glad you are putting yourself on YT more because you are grounded, intelligent and a good role model for others. Would you marry a guy that did not want kids? Talk about some other major decisions that need to be similar in a mate. Keep up the good work. I see you are pals with Will - he seems to study a lot maybe he can help lol
ease up guys, his channel,he can speak his mind and doesnt need the backlash from a bunch of yuppy worthless idiots :) keep the negative shiz you got and make a frigging magnet or something I personaly hate the very idea of any child being around me and I was a babysetter for 8 yearsLOL I was also the youngest in my entire blood line,relation,family for about 17 years :) it seems the farther in relation you are to me the more I like you CHILD wise:)But I'd never adopt any under 15:)
I'm completely aware of the fact that I'm waaaay too selfish to have children. I'm not ready to basically give at least 18 years of life's 'prime rib' up, and put somebody else's needs first. Having a child, means doing exactly that. I do not plan to have a child, just to hate him/her while raising the child. People need to be more bluntly honest towards themselves, and not make illusions that may likely hurt others, who are affected by the results of their actions.
@lacarneinflamare Btw, I'm also gay. A gay, who also thinks that the so called gay 'holy grale' - marrige certificate - is only an over rated peace of paper.
@lacarneinflamare I don't care about the piece of paper but rather the tax benefits and legal protection it would provide to my husband (if I ever got one). The issue at hand is much more than just being able to say "I am married", it is about being entitled to a legal status that comes with several important advantages.
Yeah, I want a family too. I'm 23 myself, so like you, not anytime soon. I'm planning to be a foster parent, I have two friends who have been together for an enormous amount of time (not married though) and have helped a lot of young people through their care. Getting mostly boys, they never had problems with the fact that they're two gay guys.
But I do want to get married first, for cultural reasons mostly.
I have two kids (I co-parent with a lesbian) it works out well....because of the kind of work I do I could work weekends and watch kids during the week when they were younger and mom could watch them on the weekends. Think about co-parenting with a lesbian couple...I still live out in the country but I myself am kinda conservative-libertarian anyway. Word to the wise though...get a partner before having kids alone, single dating as a parent is almost impossible let alone a gay parent.
There's been numerous studies that being raised by gay parents has no detrimental effects and does not influence their sexuality in any way. In fact, children raised by gay parents grow to have more positive attributes. As for me, I've never had the urge to be a parent but I'm only 21. Who knows how I'll feel in 15 years.
Totally for it, and i want kids someday. It's not important who raises the kids, as long as those people love them and provide for them. That's what they really need.
i don't want kids. can think of nothing worse. but i think gays should adopt - the world is full of kids that need a loving parent or two. makes sense to me.
@jacobyoutubification No, your sexuality is not a choice you were born that way. I didn't choose to be straight, because I was born this way. To answer your questions, no it wouldn't have any impact on the child's sexuality.
lol on my family being gay isnt anything. not good or bad it just is. so i never thought of my life style would make it hard on my kids when i have them because this daddy here would beat someone up if they mess with them grr. lol i want about 5 by the by
i wanted to be a father but i like surrogacy because adopting children doesn't make me feel like their real father becuase they're not part bioliogical of me.
yeah well you know it's not going to be easy for the kid when he/she grows up..especially in the cruel society that we live in BUT that is not reason enough to stop you from having a kid, maybe, just maybe the society won't have closed minds then as they do now...by the way Love the flag, yeah Proudly South African!!
Amen. My three younger sisters are my everything. I am their boyfriends biggest critics. :P If and when I get a boy who won't run away from the crazy mess that is me, children are a must. :P
I grew up in South Florida. Much different than Texas....by FAR. I hope YOU NEVER completely eliminate the possibility of gay adoption. YOU seem to have a level head; and you are attractive, too. I wish you the BEST in life! Keep working on being the best man you can be. God Loves ya!
This video was amazing really spoke to me :0) I'm in the process of coming out to myself, n this gives me hope and makes me realise that raising a family by providing a loving environment is really all you need :0)
"I always wanted kids", "I always wanted kids on my own", "I want kids", "I wanna family", "I just wanna rise some kids". Ok, I'm kinda understand you because I've always had very similar dreams. However, I am never going to make a decision of adoption. Why? I am afraid that me (gay) rising the kid could affend them in a wrong way. I feel like gay and it's ok but no child should be taken to my life. It seemed too much selfish for me, especially when I realised how often I would repeat: "I want"
And thanks for your piece of mind man :) i would love to have children too... but... its not easy to have your own.. genetically i mean.. i hope someday, cause i love kids and being gay doesn't take my joy of having one :) and above all, love matters in the end for any kid to be happy.
Bully guys is something that you can't avoid unfortunately.. :( im gay... but im also twin.. and i got bullied because of that too XD some twin hater.. so.. now i just laugh with it but it raised me stronger..talking about having kids causes this unsecurity.. but when you love so much the child in your arms... the love will be related by feelings.. not by judgments or pointing fingers... pain is the way sometimes for growth.. we must accept. The protection bubble wont help when they get older ;)
@GayTeen360 Society of mad people who doesn't understand you, hate you.. kids will suffer always because its how we grow stronger... for having gay dad's or by color, differences, just get downed by the ones who think they are right... but in the end you are going to be the ones that they will line on... because you cared for them. Pain and love walk the same path... just have to be positive.. if not, i would be mentally dead by some crazy guys.. im in my 20's and im happy. ;)
I've always wanted to adopt and raise kids, but i've always worried about the repercussions - Nobody wants their kids to get bullied, but at the same time, I really really want kids. Preferably 4. I'm actually grateful for the fact that I am gay because it gives me time to really settle down and create a stable and safe environment for kids before I actually adopt / whatever. There's no unplanned pregnancies in a gay relationship, which means the kids should always feel wanted.
I agree with you I want kids too! I can't wait to take them to the park, soccer practice, etc. Search up the "Zach Walhs Speaks About Family" video. Excellent proof kids raised by gay parents are not disadvantaged!
@GayTeen360 They won't really hate you for that, because they won't know anything else. There may come a time when they resent you for it if it really becomes a problem for them - or just embarrased by it - especially in their teen years. But really, who doesn't resent their parents for something. They'll get over it.
@chasef89 I think that will happen in the famous teenage fase somehow XD but if your kids love you.. that can change.. if not.. thats sad.. because they will understand later that they were loved. It could happen with a straight family.. because of money.. jobs.. society positions.. to name a few.. this is another "problem" within others... i never learned that life was easy eh eh :P live day by day.. and think the love for that kid is the future =D i think that way.
It would be a shame if you don't pass on some of that genetic material that created you. My partner and I raised four kids one, my daughter is genetic and three boys that are brothers we adopted. Our kids are strait and proud of their two dads........
The country represented by the flag behind you has rescued thousands of homeless children thanks to their equality laws re. gay, lesbian and transgender people who adopt kids their. It has been a godsend.
I thought this was sweet, I definitely want to raise kids as well. I do not know how exactly, because being gay gives you multiple paths of possibilities, surrogacy, adoption, getting a friend pregnant? Only time will tell, but I have always known that kids would be great to raise with whoever my husband will be then.
I agree. Most kids have two "dads" anyway. Some have their dad, their step-dad, their uncle who raised them and practically IS their dad, etc. Same goes for women. Many children basically DO already have two moms. Their biological mom and their step-mom, both of whom raise the kid.
I agree with your thoughts. I grew up in a small town in Texas and know the hell I went through and I never wanted to put a kid through that. In my mind it was always how my life would affect theirs. Fast forward to now and I totally see that a loving family is just that and I totally want kids....eventually.
I like the honest and open way you talk about this. You re a nice guy! I d love to have kids myself, but coming from an extremely catholic country, I find it quite impossible.
OMG, this is insane, you are so atractive. This is my fisrt time watching your videos and it shows you have something (alot) between your ears, and I like that. Keep the videos.
you better not wait that long to have your family if u can help it.. raising kids later in life isn't easy....u don't want ur kid to be graduating from high school and u r 70 yo ..no fun for the kid either
so, are you back from spain? i thought you left texas because you had a fight with your parents and you wnet back to spain to find your bf? so, what happened after that?
I'm from South Africa!! Haha, Jacob, I think you should'nt hesitate to adopt a child, because if you know you can love this child and give it the protection he/she needs, then you should definately adopt a child! What's stopping you if you have the fatherly-instinct inside you :)
Hi Jacob, having kids is such a personal decision isn't it? I decided long ago that I was not competent enough to raise children - not because of my sexuality, but because of the requirements of being a good parent, which I lack. I think it's wonderful when people adopt children (there are so many who need a loving family). As for two gay men adopting, it's great that the kids can say they have two dads, because too many children can't even say they have one dad. Best Always, Simon :-)
As a gay man I have thought this over and over and to me I would rather have my own kids rather than adoption...Now the details.It is extremely important to me that me and my partners kids are related in some way....If something happens to both of us while they are young I dont want them growing apart from each other w/ the only thing in common they have is that their dads were a couple yrs ago...The solution we have come up w/ is that we would each have a child from the same woman. blood 4 life
This is a great video with a great message. It shows how your views and opinions have evolved. As you grow, so do your perspectives and viewpoints.
As you get out there, and see all the things that are available, and how people are living around the world today, you can see the opportunities that are there. It is absolutely correct what you note about how many types of families that exist.
If gay people want a family, they should be able to have a family. It is their right!
There are all sorts of options today that might not have existed in the past for gay parents. Recently, I read that a quarter of all gay men who are having children are doing it through surrogacy.
It is not at all uncommon. Celebrities, such as Ricky Martin, Elton John and Neil Patrick Harris have led the way, but now non-famous men are doing it, too. By all accounts, their children are doing just as well as anyone else's children.
We live in a new world today with new possibilities.
There are several YouTube videos about gay men who have had children through surrogacy: "Ricky Martin´s twins (gemelos de RickyMartin)" posted by PrincesaCarolina, " Neil Patrick Harris Talks About His Baby Twins," posted by The EllenShow; and "Elton John and David Furnish Loves Their Baby," posted by MyFavoriteTVMovies.
It's not about having 2 fathers or 2 mothers its about having 2 parents that love you. Once you let your kid know that your family is just one of the many different family structures. I do understand the not wanting to put them trough teasing and such because of the ignorance of the world. nice job jacob ^^
Great video. I completely understand where you're coming from, small town kid from Oklahoma here. Thinking I wouldn't be able to have a family, was one of the hardest things for me to get over when going through the acceptance phase. I think children with gay parents have some advantages though since they know with certainty they were planned and wanted. I definitely agree with your timeline, I want kids in my late 30s or early 40s too. Keep up the videos they are awesome.
i agree, Im gay, I want kids,real soon...but the thought of how it'll work confuses me still...So Ill probly just carry on, an live life till that day comes an not worry about it...It'll also be good when prejudices are down and it becomes more socially acceptable as well. Ive brought up alot of my uncles and aunties kids and being the eldest,it was a responsibility for me to watch em all, and I loved it...
I see a lot of ignorance in these comments and possibly some naivety but hey whatever wether or not gay couples should have kids is not an argument worth having period because no matter what structure you put a kid into gay lesbian hetero whatever so long as the relationship is sound and the couple love each other for each other an not just for the sex or money then there is nothing a gay couples kids won't face that any other family structures' kids won't period plain and simple
I don't want to adopt. I have no issues with people adopting (gay or straight) and I previously thought I would end up adopting but lately it makes me really sad to think theres a very slim chance of me having a child thats genetically a part of me. It's pretty vain, that i want to pass on my genes but despite having kids being a long way off it's something that depresses me when I think about it.
@jam791 It's not vain at all. The desire to create more of us is exactly what has kept every species alive (except for humans of course . . . that has a lot to do with sex being fun). I once heard a (very half-baked, not the least bit scientific) theory that having ZERO desire to reproduce is akin to being subconsciously suicidal in that we should want to exist beyond our own lives as much as we live within them.
Raising kids takes a lot of time and effort. When you feel that you are done exploring all that life has to offer, are financially stable and have someone in your life who will share the burden, then maybe it's a viable thing.
However, keep in mind, that many gay couples split after having kids, and that's going to be a devestating thing for them.
@cyprixx Every person should consider whether they are able to provide for their (potential) children - financially, emotionally, etc... Good point, but it applies to everyone.
And why do you say the "many gay couples split..." after having kids? Where do you get that stat? Glbt couples are very similar to hetero couples. Having kids can strain a relationship. But again, that would apply to every demographic. Why do you apply it just to gays?
man, having kids is the best thing that can happen to anyone. I have always been planning to get jobs that can somehow help me adopt/have a kid. i am only 18 and i cant wait to adopt a kid. I know thats not gonna happen soon but i cant help it. kids are innocent and that innocent bring light to others. If i could bathe in that light of happiness i would do anything to protect it. and my kids someday are going to be the greatest people in this world.
Hopefully in those 20 years it will become fully socially acceptable for gay couples to have children. I feel at this time, it isn't accepted as much as say a single-mother family, which, 20 years ago, wasn't accepted much in the same way as gay couples having children isn't accepted today. I hope as time goes on, views change and children being able to say at school "I have two daddies" or "I have two mommies" is embraced and accepted. I also want to have children in the future.
Having two parents that love you is the best way to raise kids. A built-in support system. Divorced, unplanned but wanted one night stand, or two gay people it does not matter.
I think, with the world population about to hit 7 billion in a couple days, that gay couples should be adopting more than in vitro or surrogacy to help, not only with overpopulation but all the children without parents. Just my thought, I can see why people want kids with their own DNA but I think adoption is a better option for the world.
@JustAnotherOtherDay Would you apply the same logic to hetero parents - since they outnumber glbt parents by a tremendous percentage. If you really want to alter population trends, talk to the heteros...
@dadofjules Yeah, I would for heteros as well, the complication with them is that they can have babies by accident. But I definitely think children being adopted should be a bigger option than it is now.
I'm only 19 but I have given it some thought and don't expect children in maybe 15 years. I've been an only child for most of my life and I always wished I had a sibling closer to my age. My biggest concern would be the safety of my children so i was worried too but if we live in a safe accepting environment then it shouldn't matter. What most matters to me is the care-taking, a safe environment and all loving being together. And I think 2 or 3 kids would be good.
Excellent Video! I agree.. I always wanted children but thought it was impossible cause I'm gay. I didn't know anyone who was gay and had children. Then after being out for many years I now know better. Unfortunately I found out my partner of 17 years doesn't want kids, something I wish I would have found out a long time ago. We never talked about it cause I didn't see kids as an option so the topic didn't come up. So, make sure your Partner in life wants the same as you. Have a great day! ~Russ
To add - we live in the Boston area. My son's pre-school (50+ kids) was almost 1/3 same-sex families.
2010 census records show over 2 million children in lgbt families in the US, in 96% of all US counties. That number only reflects self-reporting lgbt families.
Hetero or homo, parent issues are the same - do you want kids? when do you want them? can you provide for them?
btw - my southern baptist extended in-laws finally opened up to us when we had our son. Kids are a universal language.
Disclaimer - I'm a 'gay dad' (married to my husband) with a 5-yr old son.
I'm not sure anyone escapes the pains of growing up, in any family structure. My hetero siblings & sister-in-law - from upper-middle income hetero-parent families - had hard times in their lives. One bro committed suicide, my sis-in-law died 6 yrs ago.
If we've individual issues as kids (homo parents, whatever), we all share in having to find our way in life. Kids need love, support, structure. That's what any parent does.
I'm on board for gay couple having kids, but I've always felt that they should adopt rather than have one biologically for the sake of the family. Otherwise I feel like even if they were raised by two dads their whole life, beneath the surface one would always be the 'step-dad' and 'real dad'. Tons of families deal with the step situation and get on great, but if it can be avoided it should be. If u do go the bio path, makes sure the mom is there too. Kids deserve 2 know where they come from.
@chasef89 Re: the 'real' dad vs 'step' dad - the "real" parents are the ones who raise the child, who provide for the child, who love and protect their child.
There are 'issues' with adoption, with surrogacy, with co-parenting, etc... There are issues with bio kids in hetero-parent families.
It's probably best not to prescribe someone else's family structure. And with children, all plans seem to go askew anyway.
@dadofjules First of all, he asked for people's opinions, so I game mine. Secondly, I obviously meant biological when I said real. I was raised with by step-mother with a step-brother - who are as real family to me as anyone - but I often felt that I could never have an entire equal relation ship with them. I was just suggesting that a gay couple raising kids will be difficult enough with others' judgement, so starting off on equal footing would relive some pressure.
@chasef89 I wasn't criticizing you. I think we all should be more reserved in critiquing other families. Nothing works as planned with kids. In ways you can't anticipate. To your 2nd point - I didn't know you 'obviously' meant bio for real. Because 'bio' and 'real' are not the same. Every family has issues. Adoption has different issues than surrogacy - but not easier. And bio families can be as hard as any. But they're all families. We all play the hand we're dealt. No better no worse. :)
@chasef89 Fyi - We adopted our son at birth. I was the first one to hold him, my hubby the 2nd. & we're close friends with all types of families - gay dads via surrogacy, lesbian moms via IVF, single parents (adopted, surrogacy), gay and lesbian couples who've adopted, gay parents w/ bio kids from former hetero relationships, hetero parents (married, divorced, single) w/ bio kids, adopted, step, etc... We all love our kids, we all have our own issues. The real pressure is our own, not others.
Instead of seeing children in a way that you fear "hurting" them due to a negative world, it should be seen as raising children to become adults who will change society by being loving, accepting, proactive, etc.... You come across as a wonderful young man and if you have a child that reflects your nature, then it sounds like there would more caring people in the world to fight off the negative aspects of society & the world, at large.
I would like to have kids myself aswell, though I have to admit, I wouldn't be able to raise an adopted child, only those of my flesh and blood or that of my partners.
I think it better that a child has a loving family when growing up, even if it's two fathers, rather than not having a family at all.
Being honest though, I always thought I would tell my kids that when they go to school, to not say they have 2 fathers, due to the bullying that would undoubtedly happen
My parents warned me growing up of the extra burdens put on the children of interracial marriages. But society changed in the interim. Those children weren't over-burdened anymore than other children of race. The same is being said of gay parenting now about the children suffering for their parent's "sins". Too soon to say how much society will change in the interim for them. What's most important is that those kids have a safe & nurturing environment at home regardless of the family structure.
I was a lot like that. I had this mentality that not having a mother would be totally destructive for a kid, probably just because of how close I was to my own mother (all the right-wing propaganda circulating about the immorality of gay adoption wasn't too helpful either). But then I just took a step back and considered the countless amount of people who were raised by their fathers alone, and any other kind of argument just seemed illogical. Like you say, if you love them, that's all there is.
I'm from South Africa and so i am so so so so happy to see the flag on your wall :D Anyway I believe that if a child is being loved and cared for between two men or two women or two heterosexuals, then that is the main thing and it is perfectly FINE. The main thing is love and thats all that matters ^.^
There is no reason why two men can not give a child the love and support that they need. There are straight couples that cant even do that for there children. Its an issue with society not an issue with gay men adopting a child.
I think if children was taught that it was a normality then they wouldn't discriminate. as you say, if you can love them why not? They wont suffer from having two dads its everyone else, I think you just have to think of ways to prepare them for that :-) x
yeah im 20 as well and i pretty much have the exact same view, but for me im gonna need a guy hu wants kids as well, i wouldnt wanna force that on any one. I'd be happy either way. Also it would have to be in the right place as well. ( Def not in my home country Sri Lanka, but maybe here in sydney where im studyin)
I agree, hope I can raise kids when I'm older. Whether they're gonna "suffer" from having two dads depends, like you said already, on where you live. Maybe small town TX might not be the right place lol. I think kids will tease kids with it, but if it weren't for the two dad thing they'd find something else like glasses/braces/weird clothes or whatever really. There are so many people raised by "non-traditional" parents that are doing amazing!!
I'm 22, and I've been through a phase when I wanted a child. I don't quite know if that's normal or not, but who cares? At least, I am aware of the fact that I do want children (I have a lot of friends who do not want children, as in never). Friends told me I would be a really cool dad, but I am not that sure. I mean, I would spoil my children rotten (if it happens they were boys they would be spoilt, but if they were girl, they would be spoilt x10 times more...).
@Aleksay89 I don't think it's weird at all. I'm the same age, straight, and can't wait to be a father (at the same time I'm not nearly in a place in my life where I'd be up for that, some I'm not planning to get a girl pregnant any time soon).
@avatarmn That's extremely optimistic, but let's be frank. Racism is still alive and well in the West, even if not legally. Most racial minorities will tell you they have experienced some racism - even accidental - at some point, and for some people its more than once or twice. Even after homophia has been dealt with on a legal level, it could be decades or a century before it's gone from people's hearts and minds.
I'm right there with you;) I'm gay and am definitely gonna have children when the time is right. I'm 27 and still not ready, but if it comes and the time is right I will welcome it! Great video, glad to see you are doing well=)
i also use to think that having two fathers would be harmful towards the child, but after seeing depfox on youtube, it really changed my perspective on the whole issue on gay parenting. like you said, its just a different family structure and i mean if you have two loving parents, what harm can come from that? btw you're super cute lol
I used to think the exact same way but as I see more and more gay parents raising kids it changed my perspective. Seeing and hearing Neil Patrick Harris talk about his kids will really help change the minds of so many who think it isn't normal to be gay and raise kids. I hope to one day have kids and teach them to be respectful and open-minded to all types of individuals. The Youtubers, Jay and Bryan (DepFox), also helped to change my mind on the issue.
I think I want to adopt a kid one day.
I'm only 21 so not anytime soon but I would love to adopt.
I mean there are so many kids out there that need a home so why would you not adopt? I think them living with gay parents is better then on the street or in a foster home. I'd love them just the same as a straight couple would.
xDINOxSEXxRAWRx 5 days ago
Gay parents don't become parents accidently they make a thought out deciosion and commit to it. They don't do a half ass job, not that all straight couples do a half ass job. Do some research on this and you'll see kids of gay parents tend to do very well in life. I think you would be a great dad when you and your partner, or just you are ready to. This is a sad story at first but these guys seeem like great parents overall.Let me know what you think. Look up Samuel at home with his dads
jcivan1 6 days ago
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jcivan1 6 days ago
Dude, I gotta say this: you are so cute! You're like a teddy bear! It's so awesome you want kids. I hope things work out and I know you'll be an amazing dad!
(Sorry for the over use of exclamation points) Peace! :D
bookfreak10001 1 week ago
I want kids too :)
Chrisbit1 1 week ago
'Gay parents may bring talents to the table that straight parents don't.
Gay parents "tend to be more motivated, more committed than heterosexual parents on average, because they chose to be parents," Gays and lesbians rarely become parents by accident, compared with an almost 50 percent accidental pregnancy rate among heterosexuals' -huffington post
audiovisuality 1 week ago
I am adopted, had wonderful parents but sadly I never came out to them and now they have both pasted away. My brother was their biological son. I always wanted to have kids and many years back decided as a single parent to adopt. I wanted to give back what I had, a wonderful family and great support system. My son is now 25 and in the Air Force with a family of his own (wife & 2 kids). There is no greater love than that for your kids. <3
smjack2 1 week ago
I'm here in lubbock texas! And yes, it's very awkward for me growing up here being gay...and to top it off, I am living with my grandparents who have no idea that I'm gay. And they're super religious and don't believe in anything gay. Sooo...ima wait until I can move out to even think about telling them 0.o
niglett101 2 weeks ago
I like the way you think ... anon yes I did think the way you thought also .... (hope you got that sounded better in my head)
miclo22 3 weeks ago
Every time you respond to a comment it shows up on my YouTube homepage. Every time I see your response on my homepage I watch your videos. Every time I watch your videos I feel better. Therefore, you should keep making videos and responding to comments because it makes me (and I'm sure others) lives better :D
gayglennp 3 weeks ago 3
I am glad you are putting yourself on YT more because you are grounded, intelligent and a good role model for others. Would you marry a guy that did not want kids? Talk about some other major decisions that need to be similar in a mate. Keep up the good work. I see you are pals with Will - he seems to study a lot maybe he can help lol
b4804514 3 weeks ago
ease up guys, his channel,he can speak his mind and doesnt need the backlash from a bunch of yuppy worthless idiots :) keep the negative shiz you got and make a frigging magnet or something I personaly hate the very idea of any child being around me and I was a babysetter for 8 yearsLOL I was also the youngest in my entire blood line,relation,family for about 17 years :) it seems the farther in relation you are to me the more I like you CHILD wise:)But I'd never adopt any under 15:)
JohnnyFizz2012 3 weeks ago
to soon ?
longnguyen96 3 weeks ago
Has anyone ever told you are attractive? Especially with your personality? 'Cause you are.
haha456ize 3 weeks ago
I'm completely aware of the fact that I'm waaaay too selfish to have children. I'm not ready to basically give at least 18 years of life's 'prime rib' up, and put somebody else's needs first. Having a child, means doing exactly that. I do not plan to have a child, just to hate him/her while raising the child. People need to be more bluntly honest towards themselves, and not make illusions that may likely hurt others, who are affected by the results of their actions.
lacarneinflamare 3 weeks ago
@lacarneinflamare Btw, I'm also gay. A gay, who also thinks that the so called gay 'holy grale' - marrige certificate - is only an over rated peace of paper.
lacarneinflamare 3 weeks ago
@lacarneinflamare The straights can keep it to themselves, for all I care. ; )
lacarneinflamare 3 weeks ago
@lacarneinflamare I don't care about the piece of paper but rather the tax benefits and legal protection it would provide to my husband (if I ever got one). The issue at hand is much more than just being able to say "I am married", it is about being entitled to a legal status that comes with several important advantages.
jacobyoutubification 3 weeks ago 9
Yeah, I want a family too. I'm 23 myself, so like you, not anytime soon. I'm planning to be a foster parent, I have two friends who have been together for an enormous amount of time (not married though) and have helped a lot of young people through their care. Getting mostly boys, they never had problems with the fact that they're two gay guys.
But I do want to get married first, for cultural reasons mostly.
DiederickABecker 3 weeks ago
I have two kids (I co-parent with a lesbian) it works out well....because of the kind of work I do I could work weekends and watch kids during the week when they were younger and mom could watch them on the weekends. Think about co-parenting with a lesbian couple...I still live out in the country but I myself am kinda conservative-libertarian anyway. Word to the wise though...get a partner before having kids alone, single dating as a parent is almost impossible let alone a gay parent.
SafariStevo 3 weeks ago
There's been numerous studies that being raised by gay parents has no detrimental effects and does not influence their sexuality in any way. In fact, children raised by gay parents grow to have more positive attributes. As for me, I've never had the urge to be a parent but I'm only 21. Who knows how I'll feel in 15 years.
damienbp 4 weeks ago
whats your major
garyjsimm 4 weeks ago
Totally for it, and i want kids someday. It's not important who raises the kids, as long as those people love them and provide for them. That's what they really need.
KnightRaymund 4 weeks ago
i don't want kids. can think of nothing worse. but i think gays should adopt - the world is full of kids that need a loving parent or two. makes sense to me.
rowenawallace 4 weeks ago
would it make children more likely to be homosexual if they were raised by a homosexual couple?
dodo1234345456 4 weeks ago
@dodo1234345456 did it make you more heterosexual?
jacobyoutubification 4 weeks ago 26
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@jacobyoutubification No, your sexuality is not a choice you were born that way. I didn't choose to be straight, because I was born this way. To answer your questions, no it wouldn't have any impact on the child's sexuality.
bookfreak10001 1 week ago
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you know, it never makes me gay when my parents are hetero. But it did, deal with it.
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bookfreak10001 1 week ago
omg...why did i click on this.
sweetkittytwine 1 month ago
@sweetkittytwine no clue. let me know when you find out.
jacobyoutubification 4 weeks ago 19
lol on my family being gay isnt anything. not good or bad it just is. so i never thought of my life style would make it hard on my kids when i have them because this daddy here would beat someone up if they mess with them grr. lol i want about 5 by the by
MrJonathancompton 1 month ago
i'll raise kids with you. youre perfect.
kendellite 1 month ago
youre back!!!!! its amazing, i've missed you.
kendellite 1 month ago
i wanted to be a father but i like surrogacy because adopting children doesn't make me feel like their real father becuase they're not part bioliogical of me.
Vietnamemperor12346 1 month ago
loved the video…especially the South African Flag…in the background:)
ibabaka 1 month ago
yeah well you know it's not going to be easy for the kid when he/she grows up..especially in the cruel society that we live in BUT that is not reason enough to stop you from having a kid, maybe, just maybe the society won't have closed minds then as they do now...by the way Love the flag, yeah Proudly South African!!
yzeeification 1 month ago
Amen. My three younger sisters are my everything. I am their boyfriends biggest critics. :P If and when I get a boy who won't run away from the crazy mess that is me, children are a must. :P
alexmanian 1 month ago
<3 You're so sincere. And it's really interesting knowing how your opinion has changed, it shows how open of a person you are.
violetsarntblue 1 month ago
I grew up in South Florida. Much different than Texas....by FAR. I hope YOU NEVER completely eliminate the possibility of gay adoption. YOU seem to have a level head; and you are attractive, too. I wish you the BEST in life! Keep working on being the best man you can be. God Loves ya!
FlaDavid954 1 month ago
You are a cute:D
Leddido 1 month ago
This video was amazing really spoke to me :0) I'm in the process of coming out to myself, n this gives me hope and makes me realise that raising a family by providing a loving environment is really all you need :0)
roadtou 2 months ago
Why is there a South African flag on your wall?
TheVicAntonio 2 months ago
what do you study
enimodetda 2 months ago in playlist More videos from jacobyoutubification
your responce gave me alot to think about thank you your the best ever
GayTeen360 2 months ago
guys should only have kids with hot chicks and have bomb sex to make them.
vsboy25 2 months ago
"I always wanted kids", "I always wanted kids on my own", "I want kids", "I wanna family", "I just wanna rise some kids". Ok, I'm kinda understand you because I've always had very similar dreams. However, I am never going to make a decision of adoption. Why? I am afraid that me (gay) rising the kid could affend them in a wrong way. I feel like gay and it's ok but no child should be taken to my life. It seemed too much selfish for me, especially when I realised how often I would repeat: "I want"
On1993Polska 2 months ago
And thanks for your piece of mind man :) i would love to have children too... but... its not easy to have your own.. genetically i mean.. i hope someday, cause i love kids and being gay doesn't take my joy of having one :) and above all, love matters in the end for any kid to be happy.
dmsp1 2 months ago
Bully guys is something that you can't avoid unfortunately.. :( im gay... but im also twin.. and i got bullied because of that too XD some twin hater.. so.. now i just laugh with it but it raised me stronger..talking about having kids causes this unsecurity.. but when you love so much the child in your arms... the love will be related by feelings.. not by judgments or pointing fingers... pain is the way sometimes for growth.. we must accept. The protection bubble wont help when they get older ;)
dmsp1 2 months ago
yeah true but i would never wabt my kids hating me and my husband
GayTeen360 2 months ago
@GayTeen360 Society of mad people who doesn't understand you, hate you.. kids will suffer always because its how we grow stronger... for having gay dad's or by color, differences, just get downed by the ones who think they are right... but in the end you are going to be the ones that they will line on... because you cared for them. Pain and love walk the same path... just have to be positive.. if not, i would be mentally dead by some crazy guys.. im in my 20's and im happy. ;)
dmsp1 2 months ago
I've always wanted to adopt and raise kids, but i've always worried about the repercussions - Nobody wants their kids to get bullied, but at the same time, I really really want kids. Preferably 4. I'm actually grateful for the fact that I am gay because it gives me time to really settle down and create a stable and safe environment for kids before I actually adopt / whatever. There's no unplanned pregnancies in a gay relationship, which means the kids should always feel wanted.
Ryan3789 2 months ago
I agree with you I want kids too! I can't wait to take them to the park, soccer practice, etc. Search up the "Zach Walhs Speaks About Family" video. Excellent proof kids raised by gay parents are not disadvantaged!
teamdonato2 3 months ago
I am gay and I want kids too but what if your kid hates you for being gay
GayTeen360 3 months ago
@GayTeen360 Well, I would think they would not if you raise them in a loving home. If you have not check out depfox on youtube yet, please do
IDH2008 3 months ago
@GayTeen360 They won't really hate you for that, because they won't know anything else. There may come a time when they resent you for it if it really becomes a problem for them - or just embarrased by it - especially in their teen years. But really, who doesn't resent their parents for something. They'll get over it.
chasef89 2 months ago
@chasef89 I think that will happen in the famous teenage fase somehow XD but if your kids love you.. that can change.. if not.. thats sad.. because they will understand later that they were loved. It could happen with a straight family.. because of money.. jobs.. society positions.. to name a few.. this is another "problem" within others... i never learned that life was easy eh eh :P live day by day.. and think the love for that kid is the future =D i think that way.
dmsp1 2 months ago
It would be a shame if you don't pass on some of that genetic material that created you. My partner and I raised four kids one, my daughter is genetic and three boys that are brothers we adopted. Our kids are strait and proud of their two dads........
driverain2 3 months ago
The country represented by the flag behind you has rescued thousands of homeless children thanks to their equality laws re. gay, lesbian and transgender people who adopt kids their. It has been a godsend.
nicksum29 3 months ago
I thought this was sweet, I definitely want to raise kids as well. I do not know how exactly, because being gay gives you multiple paths of possibilities, surrogacy, adoption, getting a friend pregnant? Only time will tell, but I have always known that kids would be great to raise with whoever my husband will be then.
2dquintanilla 3 months ago
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What a stupid fucking video. This is just some early twenty-something moron rambling on for four minutes. Your opinion sucks, Jacob.
iamnickolas 3 months ago
Why the South African flag...?
tcbillyleung 3 months ago 2
I agree. Most kids have two "dads" anyway. Some have their dad, their step-dad, their uncle who raised them and practically IS their dad, etc. Same goes for women. Many children basically DO already have two moms. Their biological mom and their step-mom, both of whom raise the kid.
ScreamingInTheCalle 3 months ago
love ur opinion :) do u have facebook fan page or something like that :))?
iam2510015 3 months ago
I agree with your thoughts. I grew up in a small town in Texas and know the hell I went through and I never wanted to put a kid through that. In my mind it was always how my life would affect theirs. Fast forward to now and I totally see that a loving family is just that and I totally want kids....eventually.
kevinms78 3 months ago
I like the honest and open way you talk about this. You re a nice guy! I d love to have kids myself, but coming from an extremely catholic country, I find it quite impossible.
cseychell 3 months ago
OMG, this is insane, you are so atractive. This is my fisrt time watching your videos and it shows you have something (alot) between your ears, and I like that. Keep the videos.
bettydude 3 months ago
you better not wait that long to have your family if u can help it.. raising kids later in life isn't easy....u don't want ur kid to be graduating from high school and u r 70 yo ..no fun for the kid either
xadam2dudex 3 months ago
@xadam2dudex Doing it any time between the late 20s and late 30s is totally fine. 40s? Not as much, but possible, but 50s is not really good.
SwobyJ 3 months ago
so, are you back from spain? i thought you left texas because you had a fight with your parents and you wnet back to spain to find your bf? so, what happened after that?
101starwarsfan 3 months ago
I think you would make a great father and there are so many kids that need to be adopted
depfox 3 months ago 2
I'm from South Africa!! Haha, Jacob, I think you should'nt hesitate to adopt a child, because if you know you can love this child and give it the protection he/she needs, then you should definately adopt a child! What's stopping you if you have the fatherly-instinct inside you :)
Wirempie16 3 months ago
Hi Jacob, having kids is such a personal decision isn't it? I decided long ago that I was not competent enough to raise children - not because of my sexuality, but because of the requirements of being a good parent, which I lack. I think it's wonderful when people adopt children (there are so many who need a loving family). As for two gay men adopting, it's great that the kids can say they have two dads, because too many children can't even say they have one dad. Best Always, Simon :-)
sjbeck 3 months ago
Best part of this video was when you seemed confused saying the word "studying." @0:11, made me smile lol
josemannydiaz 4 months ago
why the south african flag?
potsiiscool 4 months ago
My feelings exactly! One of my greatest joys in life is being uncle to my nephew's 5 children. I love them very much! You'll be a great dad!
dznyman 4 months ago
As a gay man I have thought this over and over and to me I would rather have my own kids rather than adoption...Now the details.It is extremely important to me that me and my partners kids are related in some way....If something happens to both of us while they are young I dont want them growing apart from each other w/ the only thing in common they have is that their dads were a couple yrs ago...The solution we have come up w/ is that we would each have a child from the same woman. blood 4 life
texasboy5680 4 months ago 2
How come this didn't come onto my homepage?? I only saw this cause you liked another vid
ewanmclean 4 months ago
This is a great video with a great message. It shows how your views and opinions have evolved. As you grow, so do your perspectives and viewpoints.
As you get out there, and see all the things that are available, and how people are living around the world today, you can see the opportunities that are there. It is absolutely correct what you note about how many types of families that exist.
If gay people want a family, they should be able to have a family. It is their right!
RCSVirginia 4 months ago
There are all sorts of options today that might not have existed in the past for gay parents. Recently, I read that a quarter of all gay men who are having children are doing it through surrogacy.
It is not at all uncommon. Celebrities, such as Ricky Martin, Elton John and Neil Patrick Harris have led the way, but now non-famous men are doing it, too. By all accounts, their children are doing just as well as anyone else's children.
We live in a new world today with new possibilities.
RCSVirginia 4 months ago
There are several YouTube videos about gay men who have had children through surrogacy: "Ricky Martin´s twins (gemelos de RickyMartin)" posted by PrincesaCarolina, " Neil Patrick Harris Talks About His Baby Twins," posted by The EllenShow; and "Elton John and David Furnish Loves Their Baby," posted by MyFavoriteTVMovies.
RCSVirginia 4 months ago
I agree.... that thumbnail is smokin' hot
wouldy0ukindly 4 months ago
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It's not about having 2 fathers or 2 mothers its about having 2 parents that love you. Once you let your kid know that your family is just one of the many different family structures. I do understand the not wanting to put them trough teasing and such because of the ignorance of the world. nice job jacob ^^
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SkyKingEX 4 months ago
Great video. I completely understand where you're coming from, small town kid from Oklahoma here. Thinking I wouldn't be able to have a family, was one of the hardest things for me to get over when going through the acceptance phase. I think children with gay parents have some advantages though since they know with certainty they were planned and wanted. I definitely agree with your timeline, I want kids in my late 30s or early 40s too. Keep up the videos they are awesome.
cannonie 4 months ago
i agree, Im gay, I want kids,real soon...but the thought of how it'll work confuses me still...So Ill probly just carry on, an live life till that day comes an not worry about it...It'll also be good when prejudices are down and it becomes more socially acceptable as well. Ive brought up alot of my uncles and aunties kids and being the eldest,it was a responsibility for me to watch em all, and I loved it...
ShannonHorua 4 months ago
I see a lot of ignorance in these comments and possibly some naivety but hey whatever wether or not gay couples should have kids is not an argument worth having period because no matter what structure you put a kid into gay lesbian hetero whatever so long as the relationship is sound and the couple love each other for each other an not just for the sex or money then there is nothing a gay couples kids won't face that any other family structures' kids won't period plain and simple
MrTedder10 4 months ago
I don't want to adopt. I have no issues with people adopting (gay or straight) and I previously thought I would end up adopting but lately it makes me really sad to think theres a very slim chance of me having a child thats genetically a part of me. It's pretty vain, that i want to pass on my genes but despite having kids being a long way off it's something that depresses me when I think about it.
jam791 4 months ago
@jam791 It's not vain at all. The desire to create more of us is exactly what has kept every species alive (except for humans of course . . . that has a lot to do with sex being fun). I once heard a (very half-baked, not the least bit scientific) theory that having ZERO desire to reproduce is akin to being subconsciously suicidal in that we should want to exist beyond our own lives as much as we live within them.
chasef89 4 months ago
Yay you're back! You raised some really good points in this video. Love you!!!
myeyeswillburn 4 months ago
Raising kids takes a lot of time and effort. When you feel that you are done exploring all that life has to offer, are financially stable and have someone in your life who will share the burden, then maybe it's a viable thing.
However, keep in mind, that many gay couples split after having kids, and that's going to be a devestating thing for them.
cyprixx 4 months ago
@cyprixx Every person should consider whether they are able to provide for their (potential) children - financially, emotionally, etc... Good point, but it applies to everyone.
And why do you say the "many gay couples split..." after having kids? Where do you get that stat? Glbt couples are very similar to hetero couples. Having kids can strain a relationship. But again, that would apply to every demographic. Why do you apply it just to gays?
dadofjules 4 months ago
man, having kids is the best thing that can happen to anyone. I have always been planning to get jobs that can somehow help me adopt/have a kid. i am only 18 and i cant wait to adopt a kid. I know thats not gonna happen soon but i cant help it. kids are innocent and that innocent bring light to others. If i could bathe in that light of happiness i would do anything to protect it. and my kids someday are going to be the greatest people in this world.
demonflame1993 4 months ago
Hopefully in those 20 years it will become fully socially acceptable for gay couples to have children. I feel at this time, it isn't accepted as much as say a single-mother family, which, 20 years ago, wasn't accepted much in the same way as gay couples having children isn't accepted today. I hope as time goes on, views change and children being able to say at school "I have two daddies" or "I have two mommies" is embraced and accepted. I also want to have children in the future.
Atomic440 4 months ago
foster gay teens
sleekcartim 4 months ago
Search up Zach Wahls. Prime example of a perfectly normal, straight guy with two moms.
knhim713 4 months ago
Having two parents that love you is the best way to raise kids. A built-in support system. Divorced, unplanned but wanted one night stand, or two gay people it does not matter.
rootbeerfan6 4 months ago
U are amazing as allways:) So cute, so handsome:)
Miquell84 4 months ago
whats worse is raising them in the hateful south, but im sure you will change hearts& minds ; )
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DoctorSpaceman89 4 months ago
I think, with the world population about to hit 7 billion in a couple days, that gay couples should be adopting more than in vitro or surrogacy to help, not only with overpopulation but all the children without parents. Just my thought, I can see why people want kids with their own DNA but I think adoption is a better option for the world.
JustAnotherOtherDay 4 months ago 2
@JustAnotherOtherDay Would you apply the same logic to hetero parents - since they outnumber glbt parents by a tremendous percentage. If you really want to alter population trends, talk to the heteros...
dadofjules 4 months ago
@dadofjules Yeah, I would for heteros as well, the complication with them is that they can have babies by accident. But I definitely think children being adopted should be a bigger option than it is now.
JustAnotherOtherDay 4 months ago
adopt ! hehe, there are sooo many kids out there suffering, and actually starving to death because they dont have a home
XforeverlongingX 4 months ago
Great video :) Also, sorry this is really distracting but your South African flag is upside down
lazerybyl 4 months ago
I'm only 19 but I have given it some thought and don't expect children in maybe 15 years. I've been an only child for most of my life and I always wished I had a sibling closer to my age. My biggest concern would be the safety of my children so i was worried too but if we live in a safe accepting environment then it shouldn't matter. What most matters to me is the care-taking, a safe environment and all loving being together. And I think 2 or 3 kids would be good.
Alfie729 4 months ago
You're so right. Different types of family, most important thing is to love your kids. Your orientation doesn't make you a bad parent =P
GayGHvain87 4 months ago
Are you looking for a study buddy? /:)
afierceb 4 months ago
nice love it
czechivan 4 months ago
wow! our 20 and a jounior in college i'm only 19 and a frashman
frankyg92g 4 months ago
@frankyg92g Maybe it's because of your spelling. :)
chasef89 4 months ago
Excellent Video! I agree.. I always wanted children but thought it was impossible cause I'm gay. I didn't know anyone who was gay and had children. Then after being out for many years I now know better. Unfortunately I found out my partner of 17 years doesn't want kids, something I wish I would have found out a long time ago. We never talked about it cause I didn't see kids as an option so the topic didn't come up. So, make sure your Partner in life wants the same as you. Have a great day! ~Russ
Rfritz09 4 months ago
well look who finally made a video :P.... nice to c u again
frankyg92g 4 months ago
At this point my question is: Waht's the real point of posting this sort of videos? It's either a waste of time or a waste of intellect!!!
snoopy84able 4 months ago
@snoopy84able If you think this video is waste of time,then why you waste your time to watch or comment?
terryandgabriel 4 months ago
@terryandgabriel Don't piss me off, motherfucker!! Just comment on the VIDEOS like everyone else!!!
snoopy84able 4 months ago
@snoopy84able And you just waste your time again to reply me.
terryandgabriel 4 months ago
To add - we live in the Boston area. My son's pre-school (50+ kids) was almost 1/3 same-sex families.
2010 census records show over 2 million children in lgbt families in the US, in 96% of all US counties. That number only reflects self-reporting lgbt families.
Hetero or homo, parent issues are the same - do you want kids? when do you want them? can you provide for them?
btw - my southern baptist extended in-laws finally opened up to us when we had our son. Kids are a universal language.
dadofjules 4 months ago
I agree. Have kids. Everyone should know what it's like to raise a family. It's so fun, so hard and teaches you how to be compassionate.
johntakai8429 4 months ago
Awesome video, thank you. Stay Golden!
TexasHighlander1 4 months ago
Disclaimer - I'm a 'gay dad' (married to my husband) with a 5-yr old son.
I'm not sure anyone escapes the pains of growing up, in any family structure. My hetero siblings & sister-in-law - from upper-middle income hetero-parent families - had hard times in their lives. One bro committed suicide, my sis-in-law died 6 yrs ago.
If we've individual issues as kids (homo parents, whatever), we all share in having to find our way in life. Kids need love, support, structure. That's what any parent does.
dadofjules 4 months ago
I'm on board for gay couple having kids, but I've always felt that they should adopt rather than have one biologically for the sake of the family. Otherwise I feel like even if they were raised by two dads their whole life, beneath the surface one would always be the 'step-dad' and 'real dad'. Tons of families deal with the step situation and get on great, but if it can be avoided it should be. If u do go the bio path, makes sure the mom is there too. Kids deserve 2 know where they come from.
chasef89 4 months ago
@chasef89 Re: the 'real' dad vs 'step' dad - the "real" parents are the ones who raise the child, who provide for the child, who love and protect their child.
There are 'issues' with adoption, with surrogacy, with co-parenting, etc... There are issues with bio kids in hetero-parent families.
It's probably best not to prescribe someone else's family structure. And with children, all plans seem to go askew anyway.
dadofjules 4 months ago
@dadofjules First of all, he asked for people's opinions, so I game mine. Secondly, I obviously meant biological when I said real. I was raised with by step-mother with a step-brother - who are as real family to me as anyone - but I often felt that I could never have an entire equal relation ship with them. I was just suggesting that a gay couple raising kids will be difficult enough with others' judgement, so starting off on equal footing would relive some pressure.
chasef89 4 months ago
@chasef89 I wasn't criticizing you. I think we all should be more reserved in critiquing other families. Nothing works as planned with kids. In ways you can't anticipate. To your 2nd point - I didn't know you 'obviously' meant bio for real. Because 'bio' and 'real' are not the same. Every family has issues. Adoption has different issues than surrogacy - but not easier. And bio families can be as hard as any. But they're all families. We all play the hand we're dealt. No better no worse. :)
dadofjules 4 months ago
@chasef89 Fyi - We adopted our son at birth. I was the first one to hold him, my hubby the 2nd. & we're close friends with all types of families - gay dads via surrogacy, lesbian moms via IVF, single parents (adopted, surrogacy), gay and lesbian couples who've adopted, gay parents w/ bio kids from former hetero relationships, hetero parents (married, divorced, single) w/ bio kids, adopted, step, etc... We all love our kids, we all have our own issues. The real pressure is our own, not others.
dadofjules 4 months ago
Instead of seeing children in a way that you fear "hurting" them due to a negative world, it should be seen as raising children to become adults who will change society by being loving, accepting, proactive, etc.... You come across as a wonderful young man and if you have a child that reflects your nature, then it sounds like there would more caring people in the world to fight off the negative aspects of society & the world, at large.
jaydawg34 4 months ago
I would like to have kids myself aswell, though I have to admit, I wouldn't be able to raise an adopted child, only those of my flesh and blood or that of my partners.
I think it better that a child has a loving family when growing up, even if it's two fathers, rather than not having a family at all.
Being honest though, I always thought I would tell my kids that when they go to school, to not say they have 2 fathers, due to the bullying that would undoubtedly happen
thackertron88 4 months ago
My parents warned me growing up of the extra burdens put on the children of interracial marriages. But society changed in the interim. Those children weren't over-burdened anymore than other children of race. The same is being said of gay parenting now about the children suffering for their parent's "sins". Too soon to say how much society will change in the interim for them. What's most important is that those kids have a safe & nurturing environment at home regardless of the family structure.
dafttool 4 months ago
I like this video - really gave me a nice perspective :)
alecz4eva 4 months ago
I was a lot like that. I had this mentality that not having a mother would be totally destructive for a kid, probably just because of how close I was to my own mother (all the right-wing propaganda circulating about the immorality of gay adoption wasn't too helpful either). But then I just took a step back and considered the countless amount of people who were raised by their fathers alone, and any other kind of argument just seemed illogical. Like you say, if you love them, that's all there is.
OriginalAndFunnyName 4 months ago
Great pov, well put and everything u said made sense. Thank u i might consider a family. Now just find a partner.
Cashmoney098 4 months ago
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"In 10 or 15 years, homophobia will be pretty much over. It's in it's last gasps."
I HOPE SO - but I am afraid it is not true...
DemiSecco 4 months ago
I'm from South Africa and so i am so so so so happy to see the flag on your wall :D Anyway I believe that if a child is being loved and cared for between two men or two women or two heterosexuals, then that is the main thing and it is perfectly FINE. The main thing is love and thats all that matters ^.^
Goodluck!
Danzy
DanZyG6 4 months ago
There is no reason why two men can not give a child the love and support that they need. There are straight couples that cant even do that for there children. Its an issue with society not an issue with gay men adopting a child.
I think if children was taught that it was a normality then they wouldn't discriminate. as you say, if you can love them why not? They wont suffer from having two dads its everyone else, I think you just have to think of ways to prepare them for that :-) x
phoenix5010 4 months ago
yeah im 20 as well and i pretty much have the exact same view, but for me im gonna need a guy hu wants kids as well, i wouldnt wanna force that on any one. I'd be happy either way. Also it would have to be in the right place as well. ( Def not in my home country Sri Lanka, but maybe here in sydney where im studyin)
darkprince3007 4 months ago
I agree, hope I can raise kids when I'm older. Whether they're gonna "suffer" from having two dads depends, like you said already, on where you live. Maybe small town TX might not be the right place lol. I think kids will tease kids with it, but if it weren't for the two dad thing they'd find something else like glasses/braces/weird clothes or whatever really. There are so many people raised by "non-traditional" parents that are doing amazing!!
Great video, good luck with school =).
sander91nl 4 months ago
Finally a new vid :)
I'm 22, and I've been through a phase when I wanted a child. I don't quite know if that's normal or not, but who cares? At least, I am aware of the fact that I do want children (I have a lot of friends who do not want children, as in never). Friends told me I would be a really cool dad, but I am not that sure. I mean, I would spoil my children rotten (if it happens they were boys they would be spoilt, but if they were girl, they would be spoilt x10 times more...).
Aleksay89 4 months ago
@Aleksay89 I don't think it's weird at all. I'm the same age, straight, and can't wait to be a father (at the same time I'm not nearly in a place in my life where I'd be up for that, some I'm not planning to get a girl pregnant any time soon).
chasef89 4 months ago
In 10 or 15 years, homophobia will be pretty much over. It's in it's last gasps.
avatarmn 4 months ago
@avatarmn That's extremely optimistic, but let's be frank. Racism is still alive and well in the West, even if not legally. Most racial minorities will tell you they have experienced some racism - even accidental - at some point, and for some people its more than once or twice. Even after homophia has been dealt with on a legal level, it could be decades or a century before it's gone from people's hearts and minds.
chasef89 4 months ago
I'm right there with you;) I'm gay and am definitely gonna have children when the time is right. I'm 27 and still not ready, but if it comes and the time is right I will welcome it! Great video, glad to see you are doing well=)
sinrboy 4 months ago
i also use to think that having two fathers would be harmful towards the child, but after seeing depfox on youtube, it really changed my perspective on the whole issue on gay parenting. like you said, its just a different family structure and i mean if you have two loving parents, what harm can come from that? btw you're super cute lol
Gongack 4 months ago
I asked this question on a past post and it is good to see your evolution on the matter.
buddhatrue 4 months ago
South African flag in the background :) YaY!!
Mr614am 4 months ago
I used to think the exact same way but as I see more and more gay parents raising kids it changed my perspective. Seeing and hearing Neil Patrick Harris talk about his kids will really help change the minds of so many who think it isn't normal to be gay and raise kids. I hope to one day have kids and teach them to be respectful and open-minded to all types of individuals. The Youtubers, Jay and Bryan (DepFox), also helped to change my mind on the issue.
chicagobigman773 4 months ago
Nice to see a video form you again!
MiddleGuyProductions 4 months ago
I hope ur having a great school year it was great to see ur video again :) fan from Indiana!!!
cabrera052010 4 months ago
Yeah, growing up in a small town in Texas was definitely not the most conducive for a gay kid.
TAMC2K6 4 months ago
Agreed with what you said.
bryangul0 4 months ago
w00t glad you're back making videos!!
anonymousinky 4 months ago
Nice insight.
Etiros 4 months ago