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  • I know how that is...lossing a great friend..my best friend..anorexia is the scariest thing i have even encountered in my life...and i've been through a hell of a lot..

  • So don't hate me. Oh Becky please don't hate me.

  • You have to understand... i'm not 'good at everything' and i never wanted you to feel like this. Never, not for a moment. You are beautiful... and you always were. I'm not lying, ask anyone. You are. And we love you just as you are... not as you should be, or think you should be. Just. As. You. Are.

  • I am crying so, so hard right now. Oh gosh... Becky... dear, dear Becky. How could you? you said we did this to you.. and now when i look over at your empty chair all i hear in my head is 'Look at what you've done, look what you've done to me' no no no no... and you're mother... screaming out her car window when she drove past... the look on your face when i spoke to you last. Pure hatred. But you don't understand. All i did was love you. That's all.

  • it may seem she doesn't want you as a friend but what you see isn't her it's her illness. don't give up on her, and also remember to take good care of yourself. Try to stay strong.

  • Thank you makng this .... its so true. ♥

  • i am 17 I have a ED ,no freinds ,not many people understand except my ed counselor whos tryin g to help me. people are asking questions when i dont eat more then 200 cals i wish i had a freind i could talk to that cares and understands

  • @16bunnylover you can always contact me - i know where youre coming from. hope you will get better you deserve it!! <3

  • i suffer from this horrid decease and so does a friend

  • I'm one of those girls suffering från anorexia. Lots of friends has left during my struggle, and that has hurt me really deep. Stay with her. Trust me, no matter what she says, she just wants to be with you and everything to go back to normal. She can see you hurt but caught in this illness you don't know how to stop.

    I hope your friend is better now and that you have found a way to cope with this dilemma. You're strong! (Sorry for my bad english, I'm from Sweden <3 )

    Take Care

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  • Anorexia isn't just changing your body. It changed my whole life. Every day, in the morning, I write an excuse on my hand. I am prepared to lie to anyone and everyone. I am prepared to walk into school, throw open the doors, with a plastic smile and pretend I'm not dying. Pretend I'm happy with myself.

  • what is this song? 

  • i really hope she gets better and your a good friend for wanting her to be better dont give up on her. try and help her the best you can. and a friend is someone who will help no matter what even whenever they need the help but wont accept it. so stay strong

  • I know how you feel, more than I want to. My sister has gone through anorexia and depression. Now, my best friend has depression, and I think she may have anorexia as well. I want to tell her, talk to her about this, but mostly I just want to scream and cover my ears and make it all go away.

  • i feel the same. my friend has both anorexia and bulimia..im at a total loss of what to do. help?

  • @hayliforever27 just be there for her, that's all you can do :( Good luck xx

  • what song is this? sorry if you've already said x

  • @shansziexo It's 'You Could Be Happy' by Snow Patrol :)

  • @bekbek93 thankyou! :) 

  • I have a friend who I think is beginning to go anorexic, and she's my best friend-our other best friend and I are trying to coax sense into her, trying to tell her how bad it is for her but she won't listen to us, all she sees is that she's losing weight which is good. She doesn't get it...

    It breaks my heart knowing that I can't help her no matter how hard I try. All I can do is pray for her. It hurts me so badly. But I keep my head up high for her.

  • @IxBitexRawr you're a very good friend. she'll thank you one day xx

  • i just told my best friend and she says shes scared for me..sometimes its lik she doesnt care...what is she really thinking cn u help me understand her?

  • I have so much respect for you that you did this video for your friend. She doesn't realize right now what an amazing person you are because ED (eating disorder) won't allow her to see things rationally right now. I hope she is better...I see this video was from awhile ago..how are things now? Is she getting help from anyone like seeing a counselor or anything. I hope your hangin in there..don't take what she says personally. She is just stuck in a disorder and doesn't mean what she says!

  • @tennisgirl200 thank you. yeh i made this video a while ago. now she's moved on, she's still v. aware of her appearance etc but she is healthier now, which is great. sadly we aren't v. close anymore and she has little to do with me. i hope she realises that i was just trying to help her. but all i care about now is that she continues to get better, even if it's kinda wrecked our friendship - her health is more important.

  • @bekbek93 i understand it is hard anorexia wrecked your friendship! but you did all you could have possibly done.. you were there for her and hopefully one day she will understand and come back to you. i hope you are having a great couple of friends yourself.. you need them too! love you <3

  • hey i think this a really amazing thing to do, to talk about it from your prospective. i had a ill friend whilst i was in school an it was very much as you have said.

    I am now in my final year of college goin on to get a degree in graphic design and i have chosen anorexia as my subject for the pure reason that i know what its like from a friend looking in and i want to bring this info to people this has really inspired me to do this project to the best of my abillity thank you xx

  • That's exactly why i don't tell anybody. If no one knows no one gets hurt..

  • @gojaeme nooo. i'd rather know than not know because then my friend has support and i can help her get help. u should tell someone PLEASE

  • one of my friend knows, but not everything, cause i don't want to be a burden on her shoulders.. but sometimes is her support everything there is keeping me from commit suicide.. In the end i don't think you know how much you are doing fore your friend, but I thinks she's probaly so afraid to tell you everything as i am to my friends cause we think we are a big burden enough.... we want your support so badly, but sometimes we can't take it... and for me, it's like that, all the time.

  • @gojaeme i'm glad u told her, even if u haven't told her everything. i wish u all the best and if u ever wanna talk etc, please feel free.

    BTW u aren't a burden, i'm sure ur friend cares a lot about u and won't mind being there for you. x

  • @bekbek93 thanks :)..

  • @bekbek93 thank you.. :)

  • @gojaeme Help Me i dont know which way but i know i need help :((

  • @jaytee81usa Help you with what? Help you to tell a friend or what? I can't help you out of an eating disorder if it's what you are asking fore. I cant even help myself out. The only thing I can say to you is talk to someone. Someone you is feeling good around, somebody who comfrts you. Something you believe in. A adult ( parents, school counselor etc..) a good friend. i will continue

  • @jaytee81usa I Know how hard it can be to tell someone about your problems but believe me, you will be feeling better after you've done it. It will be a burden liftet from your shoulders. And the day you are telling someone will be hell-day, BUT IT IS ALL WORTH IT! If you can't say it face to face, write it down an paper give it as a letter, an e-mail. Please

  • @gojaeme i'm sorry i know u cant help me i just cryed out.. stupid i know ... i cant talk to anyone that i know as i did 2yrs ago and i started to get better but i dont wanna put them through this again like i did b4 i just wanna die now i've had enough :(

  • @jaytee81usa Oh dear.. that's not atupid. It's healthy fore you :), and believe me I know excactly how you feel. Don't wanna talk, don't wanna go on and don't wanna breathe. But trust me your family and friends love you, if you put of your shoes and going in the graveit will by a 1000 % hurt then more than if you are telling them what's going on. If you tell them now you will get a brigther future already tomorrow :)

  • @jaytee81usa and besides if you puts your mind on the brigth site of things ( there is always a brigth site) and writing a list of all the good things you have you don't want to say goodbye to, and read them when you are feeling like you are going to crash, and maybe 3 times at day. Stand in the mirror and look and yourself every morning and evening and say to yourself 7 times YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, you'll get much better :)

  • @gojaeme Thank u :)

  • @jaytee81usa Hey.. if you want to talk with someone there knows how it feels, just pt me :). I don't mind at all, I would be really glad if I could help someone :).. And if not I want to say these words to you; Stay strong, and keep figthing fore to go on! :) Good luck, may God be with you

  • @gojaeme Thank u so much i really appreciate this and your kind words :)

  • @jaytee81usa Well if we didn't support each other I really don't think we could have a chance of getting better :).. Or even just breath on earth, it would be a caos, and besides I love to help :)

  • @jaytee81usa and besides if you puts your mind on the brigth site of things ( there is always a brigth site) and writing a list of all the good things you have you don't want to say goodbye to, and read them when you are feeling like you are going to crash, and maybe 3 times at day. Stand in the mirror and look and yourself every morning and evening and say to yourself 7 times YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, you'll get much better :) I know this is hard

  • Realize that no, you can't fix her. She has to do this on her own. But just listen to her, try to understand what she's going through. I know you think it's hard but when you really think about it, you can walk away from her anytime. She can't just walk away from her eating disorder.

  • this video is really sad :( i hope your friend's getting better :)

  • @laurenG1814 thanks, but we're not that close anymore, i guess the illness won. i don't know whether she's better or not. it's hard to tell what's real and fake.

  • @bekbek93 i know what you mean :( but with a different experience =/ if you need to talk feel free to send me a message :)

  • This was kind a stong. And I see what you meen. But you shouldn't just thik that it will go over by itself. Couse it doean't. Someone have to do something, or else she will die.

    Just sit down, only you two, and make her some food, say what it is, hos many kcal and everything, and both of you eat it. She will not eat until you do it too, and she have to feel safe. Tell her that it isn't dangerous and stuff.

    If my friend wouldn't have done that to me, I would have been dead by now...

  • @LolloTheVampire wow, well done for your recovery :)

  • hey i understand you compleatly im in the exact same place as you ....i know what your goin through and even tho she acts like/says she doesnt want you there just always keep reminding her you are cause i understand both sides of this n in her mind she doesnt want to hurt you .....its like she wants you to be there but is afraid of what it would do to you ....just keep strong shell need all the support she can get n its friends like u thts shes pushed away and that stay that wil be the ones

  • that help her the most n shell thank them in the end.....if any of her so-called friends are not trying to get her better n trying to dismiss it they do nothing but make it worse....trust me i know...if u need to talk just message me ...=)

    from one friend to another .....but please just let her know your there for her always ....its all she needs from you atm

    p.s those friends that dont want to "upset her" are just killing her so whats there choice now tears or death xxx

  • Hey. I just wanted to leave something on here for you. I hope you get a chance to read it.

    She does want you as a friend. She says she doesn't, but that's the anorexic part of her speaking. It's not the same. The thing with anorexia or bulimia is that it turns everything into a lie, including the person who is controlled by it. The person you argue with? That's not your friend. Your friend has been taken ransom. But she can still fight back. Stay strong. You know where to find me if you want.

  • @chelliroo It's just so hard to accept. Thanks you though :)

  • yeh i went through a stage of having ana and its the hardest thing to just stop everything and start eating. its not just a habit its your whole life if you havn't been through it, its very hard to understand what she is thinking and feeling but hun seriouly stick by her u love her anyone can see that by this video but the only thing that got me through was my friends and family . she wants youthere shes just scared!

    stay by her hun

    take care.x

  • thank u x

  • thanks for this vid i have been struggling with anorexia with the past few years and it makes me feel so guilty thinking about how badly iam treating my friends and family i fell out with my best friend when she told her mam i had been throwing my school dinner in the bin then i realised it was only cos she was worried about me, my life is hell and its hard for me but ive started to realise its not only my life that is affected

    take care hun x

  • i cryed as i watched this... its so sad

    does anorexia [can] it start off with just wanting to loose weight and then stop eating ect... can it start like that? xx

  • yes for some that is how it starts and then can even turn into bulimia

  • It is different for every sufferer but for my friend it started off with her wanting to loose weight on her thighs and then the anorexia took over her thoughts and actions and it has got out of control

  • yh dats exactly how it started for me, when i was 12 i decided i was fat and needed 2 lose weight so i started dieting and ana & mia soon took over its 4yrs later now iv gone from 129lb to 87lb and my weights still dropping but i can't stop.

  • awwah hunni :( huggs. im here if you ever wana talk.. yeah? i have an eating disorder as well.. i understand.. im here xxxxxx

  • (part three)

    sure, it´s not like she´s healthy by now really not told u.

    but it helps and i have hope. sometimes (or more times) i´m SO sad but when i see her, and i see her laugh and know she´s happier than before it gives me hope!

    so, if your friend doesn't already go to therpaies (i guess, she doesn`t?), try to convince her about it!!!

    wish you luck!!

    love,

    me

  • (part two)

    i´m so sorry for you

    does she visit therapies or somethin?

    my sis goes there once a week and it helped her a lot!

    she´s been bulemic for about, i think, 1 1/2 till she told us and finally decided to go to therapy.

    now she´s there since about a year, i guess, and it really works!!!

  • (part one)

    i feel so sorry for you

    u know bout my sister, but

    i think it´s kinda the same. but on the other hand my sis lives at/in(?) a boarding school (for good pupilsoO) and so i don´t see her a lot. but if i did it would be more terrible for me, u know.

    that´s why i think it´s kinda harder for u. u know, u see her every day (at least at school, right?).

  • wow, that video made me cry. ive suffered with anorexia for 7 years, always asking why people dont feel more sorry for me, devastated that no one knows what im going through. ive lost all my friends and the trust of my family, one friend in particular. because she said she didnt know how to help, and she couldnt watch me die. thank you for showing me why she walked away. i dont blame her, and now i know what was going on for her while i was stuck in my own head

  • All the best in your recovery. I hope your friend comes back to you x

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