I wouldn't say I believe in luck, but I do buy into positive thinking.... But that goes along with YOU changing the situation YOU are in, as you are saying. A very interesting topic to bring up indeed.
I agree that when people use luck or being unlucky as an excuse - especially for something they should have done - it is very frustrating.
The book you were reading from also sounds interesting. Maybe a review on your personal channel?
I love that topic. Especially since I'm a psychology major, and this is something that I've been studying recently.
What you were talking about, where people attribute their own failures to external, situational causes, is part of the self-serving bias, or the ego inflation where people externalize mistakes and internalize failure. For example, if they did well on an exam it was because they studied very hard. If they did poorly it was because the EXAM was difficult.
This was very interesting to me. When I did my psychology degree, I studied a bit about this phenomenon of some people believing in luck and others not... and it did certainly have a lot to do with the degree to which one was willing to take responsibility for one's actions. In one of the studies I read about, there were dramatic gender-based differences, where women were both more willing to accept responsibility for not doing well at something by saying they didn't work hard enough to make it
happen, and then more likely to say that they just got lucky when they did well at something. On the other hand, men were much more likely to take credit for their successes and blame outside forces when they didn't do well. In this latter instance, you certainly don't fit the mold! Props to you.
All of that being said, I do think there are often forces at work in our lives whose antecedent causes are so complex that they could be defined as 'random'... lucky or unlucky, depending upon the
consequences in people's lives. I recently gave a book to my husband entitled The Drunkard's Walk: How Randomness Rules Our Lives, by Leonard Mlodinow. Haven't read it, myself (I'm not much of a non-fiction person), but you might be interested! Maybe check out some of the online reviews, if you're curious...
Oh my goodness, that's enough blahbittyblah for one day. I'm off to bed so I'm not crabby tomorrow for my (gasp!) 15th wedding anniversary. :-) (I'm so old, lol.)
Personally, the one instance that jumps out at me is when my whole family was in Phuket during the 2004 tsunami. We were all fine because by chance we were all far enough away from the beaches. Because I don't believe in a God watching over us, I tend to think that was pure luck. We didn't make choices one way or another, and it wasn't fate guiding us there... it was just lucky that we happened to be in the right place.
I think there's a difference between luck and fate. I agree with you that the successes and failures people face in life are due to their own choices rather than "invisible guiding force," but I do also think some things happen out of sheer luck. (1/2)
I agree with you to an extent. I think that much of what happens to people is brought about by their choices, but I also believe that some things... just happen.
I think you have to have some believe in luck if you consider many of today's successful entertainers. They are famous because they are reasonably talented/good looking. But for each one of them there are 100s of other equally talented/pretty artists, who play the same bar circuit or hang out at the same malls the discovered ones did
This is a good video, Andy! I wasn't sure what you were going to do and say, since you have R3428 as well.
I don't really believe in luck, but I say it anyways. Like some things happen because you're in the right place at the right time and I can only define that as lucky. But I don't think people should depend on luck. They should prepare themselves.
I wouldn't say I believe in luck, but I do buy into positive thinking.... But that goes along with YOU changing the situation YOU are in, as you are saying. A very interesting topic to bring up indeed.
I agree that when people use luck or being unlucky as an excuse - especially for something they should have done - it is very frustrating.
The book you were reading from also sounds interesting. Maybe a review on your personal channel?
fairydust831 2 years ago
I love that topic. Especially since I'm a psychology major, and this is something that I've been studying recently.
What you were talking about, where people attribute their own failures to external, situational causes, is part of the self-serving bias, or the ego inflation where people externalize mistakes and internalize failure. For example, if they did well on an exam it was because they studied very hard. If they did poorly it was because the EXAM was difficult.
Woohoo glad OOT is back!
barnangel56 2 years ago
This was very interesting to me. When I did my psychology degree, I studied a bit about this phenomenon of some people believing in luck and others not... and it did certainly have a lot to do with the degree to which one was willing to take responsibility for one's actions. In one of the studies I read about, there were dramatic gender-based differences, where women were both more willing to accept responsibility for not doing well at something by saying they didn't work hard enough to make it
loquaciouskook 2 years ago
happen, and then more likely to say that they just got lucky when they did well at something. On the other hand, men were much more likely to take credit for their successes and blame outside forces when they didn't do well. In this latter instance, you certainly don't fit the mold! Props to you.
All of that being said, I do think there are often forces at work in our lives whose antecedent causes are so complex that they could be defined as 'random'... lucky or unlucky, depending upon the
loquaciouskook 2 years ago
consequences in people's lives. I recently gave a book to my husband entitled The Drunkard's Walk: How Randomness Rules Our Lives, by Leonard Mlodinow. Haven't read it, myself (I'm not much of a non-fiction person), but you might be interested! Maybe check out some of the online reviews, if you're curious...
Oh my goodness, that's enough blahbittyblah for one day. I'm off to bed so I'm not crabby tomorrow for my (gasp!) 15th wedding anniversary. :-) (I'm so old, lol.)
loquaciouskook 2 years ago
Personally, the one instance that jumps out at me is when my whole family was in Phuket during the 2004 tsunami. We were all fine because by chance we were all far enough away from the beaches. Because I don't believe in a God watching over us, I tend to think that was pure luck. We didn't make choices one way or another, and it wasn't fate guiding us there... it was just lucky that we happened to be in the right place.
LunasLion 2 years ago
Very interesting topic!
I think there's a difference between luck and fate. I agree with you that the successes and failures people face in life are due to their own choices rather than "invisible guiding force," but I do also think some things happen out of sheer luck. (1/2)
LunasLion 2 years ago
I agree with you to an extent. I think that much of what happens to people is brought about by their choices, but I also believe that some things... just happen.
I think you have to have some believe in luck if you consider many of today's successful entertainers. They are famous because they are reasonably talented/good looking. But for each one of them there are 100s of other equally talented/pretty artists, who play the same bar circuit or hang out at the same malls the discovered ones did
lvlyraindrops 2 years ago
This is a good video, Andy! I wasn't sure what you were going to do and say, since you have R3428 as well.
I don't really believe in luck, but I say it anyways. Like some things happen because you're in the right place at the right time and I can only define that as lucky. But I don't think people should depend on luck. They should prepare themselves.
Holy crap, I have to make a video soon. CRAZY.
Starlysh 2 years ago