Sorry for the late comment, life has been busy with me. I have lived in various parts of Texas, its not that bad (could be way better of course). I have seen many open, very feminine gay guys, and no one confronts them or anything, maybe a jock or two, but nothing that bad. There might be staring and whispers but thats all. A lot of young people are open over here, to friends at least, not sure about family.
Dude I'll be your dude...unless you have another dude, than thats ok dude.
scott ur so right about not being as accepted as some think... I get statements from kids like: "It makes me sad to see so many good coming out stories". A DR. friend teaches a diversity course... he is so shocked at how many students think gays have no coming out problems anymore! similiar attitudes with ppl with AIDS...
well i didnt want to admit it (ppl i know follow my on YT ...sigh), but i almost commited suicide at 15, mainly due to very bad home life, but being gay didnt help (NO ONE to talk to). im a lucky one in one respect, was brought up a very gay friendly religion (unitarian). Ive had a few gay teen friends who have commited suicide, so in their memory, i fight for advise, volunteer for others in their situation. It's the least i can do. 1 LIFE
I live in Dallas,TX. Born and raised. You hear the term "bible belt" let me tell you it's true. In the city it's really not that bad. Your still get the stares and hear the whispers, but not many would confront you. Out in the burbs and the country it's still pretty bad. Sooooo many people are wrapped up in religion. These are the people you see in the news w/ all the abomination bs etc... It's not like people are out gay hunting, but to say that TX is tolerant would be a joke.
DUDE, WHERE IS UR DUDE?! i wanna see ur dude some time scott! >_> thats an order! but thanks for the great messages u always send us. it just shows to prove that athiests can b just as good willed as a christian, or a lot of the time BETTER. u are a wonderful person. ^_^ love u always! xD
u keep saying went through, went through...srry im still in the misery of the closet or whatever. i cant even realize the different anymore. i completely ignore and avoid my "being gay" ssituation. since ive in the past i obsessed over it. thanks for reminding me. seriously
Oh yeah, one more thing. I've now watched yesterday's vid four times — still amazing. I'd edit , though, to include the phrase 'Gay Suicide' somewhere, just so that as many people as possible who need it, find it.
Hi Scott, am glad you made this response vid to all the major comments made to the other one.
I have added this vid to my Gafoy files for others to see to, I think its important enough for them to see it too.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us and being such a powerful inspiration to everyone and a glimmer of hope to those who have none, that there is better times a head of them.
However, there's another issue too: religion. For me, (and for you too, it sounds), the issue with accepting myself had to do with what society thought. That was hard enough — I don't think I could imagine the pain I'd feel if I thought that God, the one supposedly all-good being, thought I deserved to die and burn in hell. Hearing stories like that, where there's a profound self-hatred rather than only a fear of external hatred, are truly heartbreaking.
Hi Scott — I'd go as far as to say that almost every gay goes through something similar to what you did, though in most cases not as extreme. (I know I did.) The reasoning is pretty obvious: no one in their right mind would want to acknowledge the harsher reality that comes along with being gay, so instead they cling desperately and futilely to the hope of eventually being straight. And, like you said, until society at large becomes accepting, this will always be the case.
DUDE! ok, in Texas, Austin and san antonio are very accepting of gay people. the major of Aan Antonio was involved in last years pride parade. plus Austin is really progressive, I should know I live there. it true that some small town are homophobic, but people are slowly changing. Texas is not a bad place to live if you are gay, as long as you live in the city. don't make texas sound bad, I'm guessing people could also make asumptions about where you live. don't mean to sound rude. but come on!
Hell, Scott! This is the very arguement I've been throwing at some of the complacent 'hack'tivists who've 'got theirs' within their insulated circles. (Gay - self-ghettoizing by any other name). And another thing, As a community, we also have to get our own act together And bring our more damaged brothers and sisters up to speed in their own self-esteem/acceptance. We never asked for any of these responsibilities but they're ours nonetheless. Let's ALL get to work!
Scott - yesterday's post was extraordinary, but I feel privileged to share a bit of your life every day - whether it's a one-minute post about getting shelled in hockey try-outs or a heart-rending 8-minute trip to the brink of tragedy. So this is just to say 'thanks.'
Sorry for the late comment, life has been busy with me. I have lived in various parts of Texas, its not that bad (could be way better of course). I have seen many open, very feminine gay guys, and no one confronts them or anything, maybe a jock or two, but nothing that bad. There might be staring and whispers but thats all. A lot of young people are open over here, to friends at least, not sure about family.
Dude I'll be your dude...unless you have another dude, than thats ok dude.
herotobreakfree 2 years ago
scott ur so right about not being as accepted as some think... I get statements from kids like: "It makes me sad to see so many good coming out stories". A DR. friend teaches a diversity course... he is so shocked at how many students think gays have no coming out problems anymore! similiar attitudes with ppl with AIDS...
sleekcartim 2 years ago
well i didnt want to admit it (ppl i know follow my on YT ...sigh), but i almost commited suicide at 15, mainly due to very bad home life, but being gay didnt help (NO ONE to talk to). im a lucky one in one respect, was brought up a very gay friendly religion (unitarian). Ive had a few gay teen friends who have commited suicide, so in their memory, i fight for advise, volunteer for others in their situation. It's the least i can do. 1 LIFE
sleekcartim 2 years ago
I live in Dallas,TX. Born and raised. You hear the term "bible belt" let me tell you it's true. In the city it's really not that bad. Your still get the stares and hear the whispers, but not many would confront you. Out in the burbs and the country it's still pretty bad. Sooooo many people are wrapped up in religion. These are the people you see in the news w/ all the abomination bs etc... It's not like people are out gay hunting, but to say that TX is tolerant would be a joke.
Dangle15 2 years ago
DUDE, WHERE IS UR DUDE?! i wanna see ur dude some time scott! >_> thats an order! but thanks for the great messages u always send us. it just shows to prove that athiests can b just as good willed as a christian, or a lot of the time BETTER. u are a wonderful person. ^_^ love u always! xD
sadguyfoundout1 2 years ago
u keep saying went through, went through...srry im still in the misery of the closet or whatever. i cant even realize the different anymore. i completely ignore and avoid my "being gay" ssituation. since ive in the past i obsessed over it. thanks for reminding me. seriously
liveinmymusic 2 years ago
Oh yeah, one more thing. I've now watched yesterday's vid four times — still amazing. I'd edit , though, to include the phrase 'Gay Suicide' somewhere, just so that as many people as possible who need it, find it.
miamlarda 2 years ago
I meant edit the title, not the vid itself.
miamlarda 2 years ago
Hi Scott, am glad you made this response vid to all the major comments made to the other one.
I have added this vid to my Gafoy files for others to see to, I think its important enough for them to see it too.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us and being such a powerful inspiration to everyone and a glimmer of hope to those who have none, that there is better times a head of them.
Signed ADF1. =] THANK YOU SCOTT!!!! =]
2006Admiral 2 years ago
On a more positive note, I've been meaning to message you for a LONG time, but school's been getting in the way. Hopefully I get to that soon.
miamlarda 2 years ago
However, there's another issue too: religion. For me, (and for you too, it sounds), the issue with accepting myself had to do with what society thought. That was hard enough — I don't think I could imagine the pain I'd feel if I thought that God, the one supposedly all-good being, thought I deserved to die and burn in hell. Hearing stories like that, where there's a profound self-hatred rather than only a fear of external hatred, are truly heartbreaking.
miamlarda 2 years ago
Hi Scott — I'd go as far as to say that almost every gay goes through something similar to what you did, though in most cases not as extreme. (I know I did.) The reasoning is pretty obvious: no one in their right mind would want to acknowledge the harsher reality that comes along with being gay, so instead they cling desperately and futilely to the hope of eventually being straight. And, like you said, until society at large becomes accepting, this will always be the case.
miamlarda 2 years ago
DUDE! ok, in Texas, Austin and san antonio are very accepting of gay people. the major of Aan Antonio was involved in last years pride parade. plus Austin is really progressive, I should know I live there. it true that some small town are homophobic, but people are slowly changing. Texas is not a bad place to live if you are gay, as long as you live in the city. don't make texas sound bad, I'm guessing people could also make asumptions about where you live. don't mean to sound rude. but come on!
rod14h 2 years ago
Excellent video. I am still absorbing yesterday's video. It was powerful in many different ways.
Thank you for making a difference, for touching lives Scott. :-)
garysdeskcom 2 years ago
Hell, Scott! This is the very arguement I've been throwing at some of the complacent 'hack'tivists who've 'got theirs' within their insulated circles. (Gay - self-ghettoizing by any other name). And another thing, As a community, we also have to get our own act together And bring our more damaged brothers and sisters up to speed in their own self-esteem/acceptance. We never asked for any of these responsibilities but they're ours nonetheless. Let's ALL get to work!
JCJasion 2 years ago
Scott - yesterday's post was extraordinary, but I feel privileged to share a bit of your life every day - whether it's a one-minute post about getting shelled in hockey try-outs or a heart-rending 8-minute trip to the brink of tragedy. So this is just to say 'thanks.'
trisshandy 2 years ago