While I understand that most young people are not ready for marriage, it works for some. I got married at 20 because my boyfriend and I were from different countries and we wanted to live together. We've only been married two years but we've made it through a lot of hurdles together. Too many people assume that marriage is a fairy tale, but in all reality is takes a lot of work. However, some people are ready and others shouldn't assume that all people marrying young are stupid for doing so.
The thing is, to me, marriage should NOT be something to weigh me down. I'm not like, "I'm not getting married, I want to live life!" I understand people that say that, but I want to live life full of adventure with the person I love the most.
To me i dont see whats the point in marriage im nearly 20 and been with my boyfriend 4 over 4 years but we decided were not going to get married because whats the point in spending thousands of pounds and changing youre last name just 1 day if you love him that much you dont have to get married as long as youre happy and all :)
What I don't understand is people who are like 18-21 and want to be married. Why don't you finish your education and start your career first so that you're a more stable person entering a marriage? And the excuse is always along the lines of "but I love them soo much!! ". Well if you love them so much, why can't you wait till you're a bit older?
I don't see why getting married young is a bad thing. Yes, you should definitely know yourself and your partner very well, and no it's obviously not going to be a fairytale, but life isn't a fairy tale and getting married shows that you are ready to live your life with someone, through ups and downs. I don't see why younger people can't make that decision. People lack perseverance these days.
You know, this did actually give me something to think about.
All I've ever really wanted was a life-long commitment with another person, and you've made me realise that marriage isn't a necessary part of that.
Legally recognised commitment is of course a good idea, legal benefits and all, but socially there really isn't any meaning to it. I don't want marry as a way of forcing devotion, I want that devotion to be real.
It is too bad that Laci couldn't cover this subject in more depth. She could do an hour and still not hit all the reasons ppl get married young. Just a couple of items: During the "dark ages" only the royalty and land owners married and that was for land rights. commoners just shacked (hutted) up. The RCC allowed GAY marriages circa 1000 CE. 1700s ppl married young since the avg. life expectancy was around 35-50.
If you love your viewers so much why don't you marry them?!! Ok, that was whack...but so is marriage as an institution. I don't know very many married couples who are truly happy and feel free. The second you limit yourself something in you is gonna want to get free, even if you aren't aware of it.
@Antblazer3 You saw the video's picture before you clicked on it. Why would you click on it, if she is a "whore?" Oh, I forgot! To gain attention by trolling videos insulting women who are doing a service to people by providing knowledge on various topics. Troll..
I think Laci just wrote The Boyfriend and I's vows if we ever get married. Me love you long time and I'm totally willing to pop out a couple of babies with you! Love it!
I got married at 26 (more than 2 decades ago, and yes,we're still married). Back then, I was considered a "not so young" bride. Most people married right after college. Now, women are putting it off until they have solid careers; so they can afford IVF.
In my opinion, all those "rights" need to be removed. Marriage shouldn't be anything beneficial from the government (nor detrimental). It should be for real reasons between the two people.
All this talk about marriage from a girl who isn't. Guess that makes you an expert. Personally I think everyone should get married young. There is no such thing as a soul mate. The problem with society is people don't want to grow up. Put down the video game and do something with your life!
I live in a conservative town and I always get shit from people because I don't wanna get married. Every girl dreams of her wedding day, but I just don't.
Ideally I'd like to marry my boyfriend the summer after I graduate high school, which is next year. By then we'll have been dating almost three years. That just feels so right to me, because he's my best friend and I can't wait to start our life together. :)
@xlovelyfreak Do it! Marriage is awesome! =D =D I got married at 18. It's been 2 years now and we are so happy! I got a video on what it's like being married young if you want to check it out
Unions outside of God are pointless(just like a life outside of God). You dumbed down and ignorant worldly people need to get a clue, there is much more to life than sex and having your little boyfriends and girlfriends.
@SuperboyXX0018 Your opinion. You can't hate people for thinking and feeling differently than you. That is ignorant, and isn't hate against others against the word of God? Oh wait, it is. Take your words back, because God'll turn you down.
Plus, I'm always reading news articles about spouses killing one another because a divorce is too difficult, or costs too much. No thanks.
I also hate when people get married young (or after a short relationship) because they get pregnant and are going to be parents. Kids =/= relationship success.
I am also experiencing that thing where all my friends seem to be getting married, and I totally agree with everything you said in this video.
Thanks for making me feel a little less alone in feeling this way.
I've also decided to probably never get married, even if I have kids, because it really is just a contract (and my partner and I could just write out a contract for the important things). I don't feel the urge to declare my love in the form of a glorified party.
When one falls in love, hormones go through the roof, especially one hormone called oxytocin... aka "love hormone". This hormone is the cause of passionate love and it is a strong stimulator for the sex drive.
This hormone naturally recedes after 3 years. It's normal and has evolutionary causes. That's why older couples have less sex. When one gets into a relationship, one should know that the relationship SHALL change for a host of reasons including natural biological reasons. So don't rush!
Been there done that and surprise (not really) I'm now divorced and the marriage that took place at a whooping 19 lasted 4mos despite the relationship's prior length of nearly 10yrs.
I think people should wait until they're older to get married, even if they meet the person they want to marry when they're very young. Of course, I will admit that I'm one of those people who has a super romanticized and fantasy-like view of marriage, and I've always been horrifically afraid of getting divorced.
There is a beautiful busty young girl in a low cut top talking to me through you tube so why oh why can't I stop staring at her... eyes. Seriously you need to cover those baby blues I can't concentrate. :p
ok uhmm young marriage is actually great..i got married at 15 with my 18 yr old bf...cuz we WE ARE IN LOVE...we have over half a year now im 16 hes 19...And its awesome..and it better too cuz when you marry young you dont go through many bfs and sex relations so youre just your partners..weve had no fights and we love cuz we chose to love each other.... not for reasons that may die in years..Marriage is the gift in the world..i recommend it ;)
@D0ntTellMe First off, check your grammar. You would have realized that if you didn't dropout of school. Your so-called "husband" is a sexual predator and you have been brain washed by those radical-Christians. I suggest you get some help get your husband thrown in jail and go back to school. Don't pull a Penn State.
@D0ntTellMe She is not saying it's bad. I have heard of successful relationships in which the couples marry young. She is showing a different side to getting married young. Be happy you are one of the lucky exceptions
Many people don't respect marriage any more I know one couple who got married she was 20 he was 21 and now they are in their 50s and still going strong.
@lacigreen I'm afraid I'll have to go a bit pedantic here... actually, for the biggest part of history, observing Europe, Northern Africa and Asia (with the exception of the Turk peoples (i.e. peoples in the steppes and deserts between the Kiev Rus, the domain of Novgorod, India, the Western Chinese kongdoms, Persia and Byzantine (later Rum-Seljuk) territory), India and the Eastern parts of Persia), the bride's family had to offer a dowry (so the groom would take away the "financial burden").
I got married when I was 19, I'm now 22, and we could not be happier! We wanted to get married and surprisingly, our families believed that we were "too young". We have known each other for 10 years and have been together for a total of 5 years. We've lost a baby together which I think has brought us much closer, in the end. We talk about EVERYTHING, there is nothing we do not share. I am at a very happy place in my life with my husband. I could not ask for more.
what about a video about the benefits of being married? or sex in marriage? i am pretty sure there is research out there about it. not being married too young but some video about benefits of marriage. are there no benefits?
I like what you have to say, and because this video's (relatively) old now (considering how many comments you get in a week or two,) but if I might add some constructive criticism? I find the background music a bit distracting.
Laci, I appreciate that around 3:35 you state "At the end of the day, you and only you get to decide if you're ready to get married." However, it seems inconsistent to me that you are so supportive of people's choices in regard to other issues, but demonize people's choices to get married. Yes, marriage has a sordid past as an institution that treated women like property, but if you forbid marriage, you are limiting the rights of today's women (and men).
When my mom found out I wuz on BC she actually asked if I had anyone I wanted to marry...she preferred the thought of me getting married at age 17 to just going out and having sex when i want with who i want (not that i'm a slut, but....u know wut I mean)...it freaked me out O.O I don't want to get married till I'm past the age to legally drink
@LiberalVSConservativ really? cuz i see non religious, teenage mothers, and the like getting married earlier....like just recently this girl i know, 16, got married with her parents permission. they NOT b religious they just figure: she wants to get married, let her
but then again i've never seen anyone get married b4 19 until that happened
I'm engaged, and been so for about a year and a half (been together for 3 year total), and I will not be ready to get married till I finish college so I don't end up being trapped as a stay-at-home mom. Now, nothing is wrong with stay-at-home moms, but I find it very upsetting when I look at one of my friends who is my same age (24) who had gone to college for one year, met a guy and abandoned all of her plans and got married, had a kid and she loves her family, but regrets not finishing college
@MrKylehass "It would be nearly impossible to determine what is at its pinnacle" exactly, so no one can say, with any logical reasoning, that anything is at its pinnacle. the law of gravity is not "at a pinnacle". it just is, its always been the same (as far as humans are concerned). however our understanding of gravity and how we defy it is always growing. if u think that we are at the pinnacle of healthy relationships by marriage, u can't be using divorce rates (50%) because that has gone up.
I live in the south, it seems like everyone here gets married young. I'm 21 and just recently got engaged to a guy I've been dating for about a year, but I've known since I was 15. We won't be getting married until next year when I'm 22 and he's 23, but down here... even that seems *older* to be getting married. Alot of the people I went to highschool with were married that same summer we graduated at 17 and 18 and were having kids by 18 or 19.
as a recent divorcee after 25 years (ok we sign the papers tomorrow) I feel that while it can work, marrage is a myth and monogomay is a lie that not everyone can live up to. we are just not wired for monogomy. If you can make it work go for it! But realize that at somew point almost everyone cheats or is sorely tempted.
"significant amount of time typically refers to at least a few years" love this part. I have a friend, she has the rings ready. She doesn't have a guy though. A "significant amount of time" for her is one month. If it lasts that long she'll go "this is it, he's the one!" I think she's had about seven "the one"s this past year. She's 18.
I have several Mormon friends who are not even 20 and are already married and have at least one kid. It's legitimately terrifying, and a bit sad. It seem like a "safe" route because you're guaranteed companionship, legitimacy, and other things; but it's sad that people box themselves off so early in their lives, before they can zoom out and know what they really want. Fuck social pressures, especially from conservative religion.
I dated a guy last year, December, and it didn't worked out. Two months later he got a girlfriend, 3 months later they were living together and four months later he asked her to marry him. I'm so glad I'm not that girl, I wouldn't see myself married on the age of 19.
Laci, not all couples get married just to have sex or because they're pressured. My parents got married at age 19 and they are in their 40s now and still together. But get this, they didnt have me until they were 24. Some people are more responsible than you think.
@LiberalVSConservativ It really is because sometimes they get married before they really know each other (because they want to have sex). Then they realize they aren't really compatible, contributing to the high divorce rate.
I'm getting married next summer. We'll be 24 and 25. I think it's a good age to be married. We're hoping to have 2 kids by the time we hit 30. Ideally we would already be married because of the tax breaks seeing as how I'm an out of work teacher and he could file me as a "dependent spouse".
I can't wait to be married. I feel like I already am. We live together and his family is like my family and vice versa. He is a special guy :)
I looked at statistics and noticed since the percentage of "premarital living together " has gone up, so has divorce. This statement is Purely from observation --------> the younger you are to get married the more likely you are to get divorced.
oh one last thing my husband and I got married with no expectations of how a marriage is supposed to be because well we know each other very well the good and the bad and well we already know our relationship.
lust wears off and you start to see who they really are and if you can deal with who they really are and their crap then get married. But wait because the lust and the newness of the relationship does wear off and then that is where the work comes in but I believe that is when the true love for that person comes in because to truly love some one is to work at the relationship and deal with the crap and still love them at the end of the day. sorry for being so long with my comments.
because we were living in sin according to her and frankly it's not her relationship and so we were not going to get married while she kept bugging us to. We decided if we wanted to eventually get married we would do it in our own time and not let anyone or religion dictate when we were going to get married and if at all. We tell our friend now that want to get married to someone they just met to wait and to live together and try to be together for at least a year or two because eventually the
married because we knew we were committed to each other and we already treated our relationship like a marriage. So really we look at our wedding and legal marriage as something to show our friends and family yes we are committed and have been and have gotten through some tough issues together and we are still committed to each other through it all and that we are ready to start our own family. Oh one last thing to is we waited because his mom was always on his back about us getting married
expectations on how a marriage is supposed to be and how there spouse is supposed to act and they think being married will change their spouse oh and then on top of all these expectations it's like they are shocked that marriage is a lot of work and it doesn't get easier. That is why my husband and I decided to wait so long because we really wanted to make sure we knew each other and we could deal with each others crap and still love each other. Plus it wasn't that important to us to get
I have got to say first of all great vid!!! Second I just recently got married to my high school sweet heart which we met our senior year of high school that was almost 10 years ago. Yes we were one of those couples that waited to marry and it took us 10 years and I am glad we waited that long and didn't get married right out of high school like a lot of our friends did because now most of those couples are getting divorced or already have. I think a lot of younger people enter marriage with
My views on marriage have changed drastically throughout the years. Now that I'm 25 and so many of my friends are married and have kids, I feel a little left behind but overall, I know that I am not ready for marriage. If I'm going to love someone, I will love them with or without the contract. I don't need the legality of it. Even if I do fall in love soon, I won't be in a rush to make that love and respect contractual.
I've been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years and we were friends for 5 months before that. He's 21, I'm 20. I sometimes wonder if we can really be happy together for the rest of our lives because of how young we were when we met. For me, it's simply because I don't want either of us to "settle" I guess. I love him to death, but obviously it's a lot of work and we are still young. I don't want to rush anything. However, right now, I can't imagine my life without him in it.
@MrKylehass i agree, and never said otherwise. i agree except for the pinnacle idea. i know nothing that could not be improved or learned upon. please me of anything that is at its pinnacle, because i know not if one exists.
Marriage used to be a contract in which a woman was basically bought. Nowadays, Marriage is a contract in which a man forfeits half his stuff. Love is an entirely different matter. Marriage right now is about love and money, when its over, only money remains.
Men get married forever, Women can just get a divorce.
My fiance and I plan to marry (hopefully) next year in Feb. He's 27 and I'm going to be 21 in November. We've been together for four years. So far, I feel that it's been the right choice for the both of us. We've talked about it numerous times. However... not really into the whole "big wedding" (paying for the dress, cake, venue, etc.) I'd rather just get married at city hall... which is what we might end up doing. xD
My boyfriend and I have been together since we first met (literally) and a month and a half later he proposed. I said yes and we're now engaged, even though we're not planning on getting married anytime soon. Plus, we're both atheists and wont go anywhere near a church so we're only doing this because we want to be together forever ;*
A whole different area of discussion is military marriage... A large number of military personnel marry to get out of the barracks and for the increased benefits, which in MY PERSONAL OPINION, accounts for the majority of military divorces.
i love this video. i am currently nineteen, and my boyfriend and i have been together now, for almost four years. i know for a fact that we will end up marrying one another, but there are too many factors that go into marriage, that we just simply aren't ready for it. marriage is both a loving relationship, and a business - and we just cant handle the business aspect quite yet, and i find that many people dont recognize that as an issue these days.
@diorgirl17 I dunno, rather than think of it as a "contract," think of it as, "I have given my oath to remain with this person until death." Hopefully the two of you are men and women of your word and both of you were careful enough to pick a person you can live with, too.
I find it annoying when I look around my family their all married with kids.... and I don't see myself going that route ( not anytime soon anyways) but everyone really really expects that for some reason....
@MrKylehass i would agree with you except for the past validation thing being narrow minded. i think it is the exact opposite. to do something just because people did it years ago defies open-mindedness. tradition is the biggest idea that is holding back the species. we always know more than we did 5 minutes ago. why would we trust our limited knowledge of the past? today we have yesterday to learn from, yesterday we did not.
I remember asking a colleague of mine why he got married. That was before I got married myself. He simply answered that there are as many reasons for getting married as there are marriages. Oh, and btw kiddo, why I got married is none of yo' biznisssss !
I don't know if marrying at 24 (my wife was 23) qualifies as marrying young or not, I guess that it does. We had been together for 7 years, and I always thought I wouldn't want to marry. But then I did, because I just felt like doing so.
I've been with my husband since we were 15 years old. We moved in together at 18 into a small apartment... then at 20 got our own 2 bedroom house :) and decided to tie the knot!!! not for social pressure.. but legit love indeed!!! we're both 20, been married for 1 year & are expecting our first child (planned) of course <3 && yes we've changed since 15 but the best thing about us is that we know how to handle each other after so many years!!! BTW people have been getting married young for years!
No disrespect intended, but it seems rather funny to get marriage advice from a 22-year-old single woman (the "woman' part is not a matter of humour as much as the other parts.).
@SBizarre Ha! Well, while I may not agree with all of her conclusions, I will simply say that she appears to be intelligent. I shall refrain from commenting on her being smart for her age, because that is one step removed from saying, "For being a woman, she's rather smart." Saying that would likely drown me in hate mail.
@PaxIesus i think the opposite. the fact that she is single allows her to look at it from an outside, objective view. anyone who is married will have strong emotions toward whether they support it or not, which may lead to bad advice for some.
@ejpetersondub Single people often have the same response to marriage and are often either more vehemently opposed or in favor of the institution. For instance, she mentions her "marriage-crazed" friend. When this person was single, ask her for her opinion about marriage, eh? Or ask the man who has remained "non-committal" his entire life. There's the other end of the pole.
You can have a reasonable opinion if you're married, and be just as likely to have an unreasonable one if you aren't
my parents have been married for 27 years and my grandparents have been married for almost 60 years. i don't really believe in marriage, but i think if i was with a person for years and have been living with them for a while, as well as being financially stable and out of school, i may consider it. i think at a younger age, couples don't want to work through their problems and communicate with their partner as much because of social aspects/media. everyone's different, though.
But see, you're still appealing to that false ideal that marriage should last YOUR WHOLE LIFE. A 50% divorce rate means half of married couples are staying together FOREVER. That is just weird. And culturally inspired. I mean, biologically, we're designed to stay with a mate for an optimum of seven or eight years. Which is, coincidentally, the median duration of marriage.
I think a married couple is kicking some major ass if they stay together through an entire set of kids.
2 of my friends that I've known since high school got married as soon as the left high school and are still together 20 years later and their eldest child is in highschool now. When I asked them 15 years ago why they were getting married, they said because they love each other and wanted to and it was thier parents that made them wait.
Too many people assume that anyone who gets married young is in a bind (such as being pregnant), and I'm someone who's been on the other end of this. You're right. It's very situational. If most of my friends my own age told me they were getting married, I would question it as well. It all depends on how mature and responsible the person is.
I'm twenty now and got engaged at 19. I'll be 21 when we finally get married. My fiance is 25, and we've known each other for over ten years. We've lived together for almost two years now. We've been in premarital counseling since we got engaged and intend to follow through with it until the wedding. We're responsible adults who are independent, own a home together, have no children, work full time, and take care of ourselves. My situation is unique but musn't be ignored.
One of my best friends got married at 20 and had none of the romantic thoughts you were thinking of. She's now 23, expecting her first child, and is still happily married. She travels the world with her husband. In this video, while it is informative and will probably help people avoid marrying for the wrong reasons, you seem extremely defensive of your viewpoint and it seems like this is a very personal subject for you.
my ex mess up leaving a great guy like me :( we been together for 2 months and she end up talking about sex. i told her it too soon i wanna wait longer or better too wait till marry and she tell me how can we be together with out sex. so she broke up with me. since she broke up with me i knew right then she promble just wanna me for sex. cause sex is really not the meaning of love. i want someone who love me for who i am. and how great there personally is. it hard too find the right girl :(
Yup i just had a friend get married recently, right after he joined the airforce. I grew up with that kid, but i think you were right about living together for a while to actually know how spending hour by hour would be... Anyway, they're still happily married with my buddies first son on the way. I am really wondering if as some one who who is only going to be 22 when the baby is born is ready, but in all honesty, i think my buddy will make a great dad, and husband for that matter.
I'm noticing here in southern California people are getting married the day after graduating high school. What's with the rush to get married anyway except for certian government and tax incentives?
@MrKylehass u seriously using the past as validation? its young because, through experience we see many problems with it. doesn't matter what happened 100 years ago, we live we learn, we grow. dont fear change.
However if I could go back and change it I probably would, and wait til I was 24 or 25. Being married changes alot of things. Alot of the choices you would normally make on your own now become joint decisions and you may not like what your husband/wife has to say about it. If you want your marriage to last you must take what they say into consideration because you are tied to this person for life. So long story short, my advice would be to wait, live a little first. much love =]
First of all, I'm glad to see your better! Anyway on to the topic, I got married a 19. At that point my husband and I had been together for 2 years and been friends for 2 years before that and had planned on getting married, but at a much later time. We ended up doing it sooner than planned because I got pregnant and we decided to keep the baby. Almost 3 years later and we just had our second baby and are still very much in love.
my friend is getting married he is 18 after he dose this he is going to the army and shes a bitch that has used him and dropped him for no reason before. i know its what he wants but it seems like he is doing this because he is afraid to lose her again should i do some thing or not? it just doesn't seem like a healthy relationship srry for asking but i just dont know what to do
Getting married young is stupid. people change over time, and people wonder why cheating is common, and divorce is common also. People deserve to get divorced if they are married at 19 or some young age like that. Stupid young people.
@GuruNicholas2012 This has got to be one of the most ignorant comments I have ever read on youtube. No... just no. People don't change nearly as much as you think they do. Studying relationship psychology for five minutes would show you that. They don't "deserve" to get divorced and not all of them do get divorced.
Been with my husband for 5 years.. Married after a yeAr and a half (20yrs old).. I was 5 months pregnant (our main reason for getting married).. Been married for 3 years and wouldn't change a thing!
She is nice for an athiest, I donot care if she is but she is pretty cool, I am gonna be honest but I like her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DevonsCrown 1 week ago
DON'T GET MARRIED.
if your relationship is already good, what would being married add? GIRLS, stop brainwashing yourself with your auto-pilot biology. snap out of it.
great video btw...
Liteboyiam 1 week ago
irritating
rosandicart 2 weeks ago
While I understand that most young people are not ready for marriage, it works for some. I got married at 20 because my boyfriend and I were from different countries and we wanted to live together. We've only been married two years but we've made it through a lot of hurdles together. Too many people assume that marriage is a fairy tale, but in all reality is takes a lot of work. However, some people are ready and others shouldn't assume that all people marrying young are stupid for doing so.
lovelyfairy27 3 weeks ago
The thing is, to me, marriage should NOT be something to weigh me down. I'm not like, "I'm not getting married, I want to live life!" I understand people that say that, but I want to live life full of adventure with the person I love the most.
iloveboneslots 4 weeks ago 4
To me i dont see whats the point in marriage im nearly 20 and been with my boyfriend 4 over 4 years but we decided were not going to get married because whats the point in spending thousands of pounds and changing youre last name just 1 day if you love him that much you dont have to get married as long as youre happy and all :)
Staceybabiee92 1 month ago
What I don't understand is people who are like 18-21 and want to be married. Why don't you finish your education and start your career first so that you're a more stable person entering a marriage? And the excuse is always along the lines of "but I love them soo much!! ". Well if you love them so much, why can't you wait till you're a bit older?
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togozzer232 1 month ago
I don't see why getting married young is a bad thing. Yes, you should definitely know yourself and your partner very well, and no it's obviously not going to be a fairytale, but life isn't a fairy tale and getting married shows that you are ready to live your life with someone, through ups and downs. I don't see why younger people can't make that decision. People lack perseverance these days.
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You know, this did actually give me something to think about.
All I've ever really wanted was a life-long commitment with another person, and you've made me realise that marriage isn't a necessary part of that.
Legally recognised commitment is of course a good idea, legal benefits and all, but socially there really isn't any meaning to it. I don't want marry as a way of forcing devotion, I want that devotion to be real.
RupertAndCheese 1 month ago 2
perhaps they're getting married because they want to
danceisfun43 1 month ago
Actually...the divorce rate is the lowest its been since the 70s
xAutumnLiebex 1 month ago
It is too bad that Laci couldn't cover this subject in more depth. She could do an hour and still not hit all the reasons ppl get married young. Just a couple of items: During the "dark ages" only the royalty and land owners married and that was for land rights. commoners just shacked (hutted) up. The RCC allowed GAY marriages circa 1000 CE. 1700s ppl married young since the avg. life expectancy was around 35-50.
Heathen57 1 month ago
I'm not getting married until I'm 105. I want to have a career, go traveling, have friends, and be free.
ItsMoriashkiBitches 1 month ago 19
@ItsMoriashkiBitches Lol!!! I LOVE THAT!!
BLU3R0S3S1 1 month ago
I Loooooooooove your channel! So much informative, IMPORTANT shit!!!!!!!!!
EuphoriaAVEK19 1 month ago
Check out my video "getting married young." That's what it's all about man!
SpousalAnomaly 1 month ago
If you love your viewers so much why don't you marry them?!! Ok, that was whack...but so is marriage as an institution. I don't know very many married couples who are truly happy and feel free. The second you limit yourself something in you is gonna want to get free, even if you aren't aware of it.
MakeshiftEstablished 2 months ago
This bitch is a whore! Cover up
Antblazer3 2 months ago
@Antblazer3 You saw the video's picture before you clicked on it. Why would you click on it, if she is a "whore?" Oh, I forgot! To gain attention by trolling videos insulting women who are doing a service to people by providing knowledge on various topics. Troll..
Mikelovision 1 month ago
I think Laci just wrote The Boyfriend and I's vows if we ever get married. Me love you long time and I'm totally willing to pop out a couple of babies with you! Love it!
LBAnonymous 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
You look beautiful today - it's the hair. :)
rebellatina14 2 months ago
I got married at 26 (more than 2 decades ago, and yes,we're still married). Back then, I was considered a "not so young" bride. Most people married right after college. Now, women are putting it off until they have solid careers; so they can afford IVF.
Missmarymac012 2 months ago
In my opinion, all those "rights" need to be removed. Marriage shouldn't be anything beneficial from the government (nor detrimental). It should be for real reasons between the two people.
Vicioussama 2 months ago
All this talk about marriage from a girl who isn't. Guess that makes you an expert. Personally I think everyone should get married young. There is no such thing as a soul mate. The problem with society is people don't want to grow up. Put down the video game and do something with your life!
joshspence87 2 months ago
I live in a conservative town and I always get shit from people because I don't wanna get married. Every girl dreams of her wedding day, but I just don't.
Marina9417SP 2 months ago
Ideally I'd like to marry my boyfriend the summer after I graduate high school, which is next year. By then we'll have been dating almost three years. That just feels so right to me, because he's my best friend and I can't wait to start our life together. :)
xlovelyfreak 2 months ago in playlist More videos from lacigreen
@xlovelyfreak Do it! Marriage is awesome! =D =D I got married at 18. It's been 2 years now and we are so happy! I got a video on what it's like being married young if you want to check it out
SpousalAnomaly 1 month ago
@SpousalAnomaly have fun 5 years from now
69iambecomedeath89 1 month ago
@69iambecomedeath89 Thanks! You too!!! =D
SpousalAnomaly 1 month ago
Unions outside of God are pointless(just like a life outside of God). You dumbed down and ignorant worldly people need to get a clue, there is much more to life than sex and having your little boyfriends and girlfriends.
You disgust me, personally.
SuperboyXX0018 2 months ago
@SuperboyXX0018 Your opinion. You can't hate people for thinking and feeling differently than you. That is ignorant, and isn't hate against others against the word of God? Oh wait, it is. Take your words back, because God'll turn you down.
Theycallmepelski 2 months ago
@Theycallmepelski-It's the truth, not an opinion ignorant.
SuperboyXX0018 2 months ago
People should be having a good time when they are young (18-29) and ruin their lives when they are 30 years old.
psychoB8765 2 months ago
Plus, I'm always reading news articles about spouses killing one another because a divorce is too difficult, or costs too much. No thanks.
I also hate when people get married young (or after a short relationship) because they get pregnant and are going to be parents. Kids =/= relationship success.
dd1987x 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
I am also experiencing that thing where all my friends seem to be getting married, and I totally agree with everything you said in this video.
Thanks for making me feel a little less alone in feeling this way.
I've also decided to probably never get married, even if I have kids, because it really is just a contract (and my partner and I could just write out a contract for the important things). I don't feel the urge to declare my love in the form of a glorified party.
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@glitteryBella around there yeah, if you wanna call that at that particular age lol
safeforeverandalways 2 months ago
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hollymarieread 2 months ago
When one falls in love, hormones go through the roof, especially one hormone called oxytocin... aka "love hormone". This hormone is the cause of passionate love and it is a strong stimulator for the sex drive.
This hormone naturally recedes after 3 years. It's normal and has evolutionary causes. That's why older couples have less sex. When one gets into a relationship, one should know that the relationship SHALL change for a host of reasons including natural biological reasons. So don't rush!
nickst0ne 2 months ago 10
1:30 "Isn't that great..." Best face, lol. This girl has the best expressions :)
JamesonLemonade 2 months ago
Ugh. The military is pushing me into an early marriage. And I'm folding. Help!
littlechivita 2 months ago
Mormon? Magnets, how do they work?
itachi00b 3 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Been there done that and surprise (not really) I'm now divorced and the marriage that took place at a whooping 19 lasted 4mos despite the relationship's prior length of nearly 10yrs.
safeforeverandalways 3 months ago
@safeforeverandalways You started dating your exhusband when you were 9?
glitteryBella 2 months ago
I think people should wait until they're older to get married, even if they meet the person they want to marry when they're very young. Of course, I will admit that I'm one of those people who has a super romanticized and fantasy-like view of marriage, and I've always been horrifically afraid of getting divorced.
eleventhousandfour 3 months ago
i think your shows a bit to good to not have proper sound recording.
9Tcrookedteeth 3 months ago
There is a beautiful busty young girl in a low cut top talking to me through you tube so why oh why can't I stop staring at her... eyes. Seriously you need to cover those baby blues I can't concentrate. :p
z3r0t0l3r4ns 3 months ago
ok uhmm young marriage is actually great..i got married at 15 with my 18 yr old bf...cuz we WE ARE IN LOVE...we have over half a year now im 16 hes 19...And its awesome..and it better too cuz when you marry young you dont go through many bfs and sex relations so youre just your partners..weve had no fights and we love cuz we chose to love each other.... not for reasons that may die in years..Marriage is the gift in the world..i recommend it ;)
D0ntTellMe 3 months ago
@D0ntTellMe First off, check your grammar. You would have realized that if you didn't dropout of school. Your so-called "husband" is a sexual predator and you have been brain washed by those radical-Christians. I suggest you get some help get your husband thrown in jail and go back to school. Don't pull a Penn State.
historyboy08 3 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@D0ntTellMe She is not saying it's bad. I have heard of successful relationships in which the couples marry young. She is showing a different side to getting married young. Be happy you are one of the lucky exceptions
CrazyBaconLover 2 months ago 2
@D0ntTellMe I'll be praying for you. You kids know nothing about love.
psychoB8765 2 months ago
BACK TO THE KITCHEN!!!
live4death7 3 months ago
Many people don't respect marriage any more I know one couple who got married she was 20 he was 21 and now they are in their 50s and still going strong.
januarygurlguzzard92 3 months ago
i have always wondered...what are you singing at the end of every video?
reddingo213 3 months ago
@reddingo213 Peace by with everyone... cept your mom, OH
ShadowBasker 3 months ago
@lacigreen I'm afraid I'll have to go a bit pedantic here... actually, for the biggest part of history, observing Europe, Northern Africa and Asia (with the exception of the Turk peoples (i.e. peoples in the steppes and deserts between the Kiev Rus, the domain of Novgorod, India, the Western Chinese kongdoms, Persia and Byzantine (later Rum-Seljuk) territory), India and the Eastern parts of Persia), the bride's family had to offer a dowry (so the groom would take away the "financial burden").
SteinbrecherBack 3 months ago
marriage is a total win for females and a total loss for males.
shmiggen 3 months ago
wait... what? there are girls on the internets?
ivar3145 4 months ago
I got married when I was 19, I'm now 22, and we could not be happier! We wanted to get married and surprisingly, our families believed that we were "too young". We have known each other for 10 years and have been together for a total of 5 years. We've lost a baby together which I think has brought us much closer, in the end. We talk about EVERYTHING, there is nothing we do not share. I am at a very happy place in my life with my husband. I could not ask for more.
iamsamshope 4 months ago 2
I wish this video was around 8 years ago when I got married at 20. Very good points, Laci.
whosits22 4 months ago
what about a video about the benefits of being married? or sex in marriage? i am pretty sure there is research out there about it. not being married too young but some video about benefits of marriage. are there no benefits?
MaturePassion 4 months ago
U R the best.
eveningbuzz 4 months ago in playlist More videos from lacigreen
SHUT THE FUCK UP.
bbefu 4 months ago
I like what you have to say, and because this video's (relatively) old now (considering how many comments you get in a week or two,) but if I might add some constructive criticism? I find the background music a bit distracting.
Belial348 4 months ago
majority of marriage during and out of High School is fake. Some of them do it because they think they have or need to. Marriage is sacred
JCInsatiable319 4 months ago
Idk how I got to this but I like this lol. I think ima subscribe? :0
batcab52 4 months ago
@LiberalVSConservativ
They also have higher divorce rates then non-religious.
LucianUramu 4 months ago
Laci, I appreciate that around 3:35 you state "At the end of the day, you and only you get to decide if you're ready to get married." However, it seems inconsistent to me that you are so supportive of people's choices in regard to other issues, but demonize people's choices to get married. Yes, marriage has a sordid past as an institution that treated women like property, but if you forbid marriage, you are limiting the rights of today's women (and men).
PolymorphicPenguin 4 months ago
When my mom found out I wuz on BC she actually asked if I had anyone I wanted to marry...she preferred the thought of me getting married at age 17 to just going out and having sex when i want with who i want (not that i'm a slut, but....u know wut I mean)...it freaked me out O.O I don't want to get married till I'm past the age to legally drink
Emmalicious115 4 months ago
@LiberalVSConservativ really? cuz i see non religious, teenage mothers, and the like getting married earlier....like just recently this girl i know, 16, got married with her parents permission. they NOT b religious they just figure: she wants to get married, let her
but then again i've never seen anyone get married b4 19 until that happened
Emmalicious115 4 months ago
I'm engaged, and been so for about a year and a half (been together for 3 year total), and I will not be ready to get married till I finish college so I don't end up being trapped as a stay-at-home mom. Now, nothing is wrong with stay-at-home moms, but I find it very upsetting when I look at one of my friends who is my same age (24) who had gone to college for one year, met a guy and abandoned all of her plans and got married, had a kid and she loves her family, but regrets not finishing college
engalnd2newyork 4 months ago
What Im saying marriage
I don't Know
The feeling of being Trapped
MaximumGKB8 4 months ago
@LiberalVSConservativ It's so they can finally have sex and not feel as guilty doing it.
no but seriously, that's probably not the soul reason, although I imagine it might be a cause in some cases
skinandbonesx 4 months ago
@MrKylehass "It would be nearly impossible to determine what is at its pinnacle" exactly, so no one can say, with any logical reasoning, that anything is at its pinnacle. the law of gravity is not "at a pinnacle". it just is, its always been the same (as far as humans are concerned). however our understanding of gravity and how we defy it is always growing. if u think that we are at the pinnacle of healthy relationships by marriage, u can't be using divorce rates (50%) because that has gone up.
ejpetersondub 4 months ago
Job well done.
eveningbuzz 4 months ago in playlist More videos from lacigreen
I live in the south, it seems like everyone here gets married young. I'm 21 and just recently got engaged to a guy I've been dating for about a year, but I've known since I was 15. We won't be getting married until next year when I'm 22 and he's 23, but down here... even that seems *older* to be getting married. Alot of the people I went to highschool with were married that same summer we graduated at 17 and 18 and were having kids by 18 or 19.
ElegantMiyavizm 4 months ago
as a recent divorcee after 25 years (ok we sign the papers tomorrow) I feel that while it can work, marrage is a myth and monogomay is a lie that not everyone can live up to. we are just not wired for monogomy. If you can make it work go for it! But realize that at somew point almost everyone cheats or is sorely tempted.
eahazell 4 months ago
No. Just no. :|
And also, boobs.
KeroroGunsouTX 4 months ago
As of right now, I never want to get married.
MyMissySissy 4 months ago
Hope to be married somewhat soon, love my guy! :)
jdfox1 4 months ago
"significant amount of time typically refers to at least a few years" love this part. I have a friend, she has the rings ready. She doesn't have a guy though. A "significant amount of time" for her is one month. If it lasts that long she'll go "this is it, he's the one!" I think she's had about seven "the one"s this past year. She's 18.
whohie 4 months ago 47
@whohie pathetic
ShadowBasker 3 months ago
@ShadowBasker I know right? If she wasn't a great friend I'd be able to tell her that properly x.X
whohie 3 months ago
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READ "A History of the Wife" by Marilyn Yalom!!!! So well written and fascinating!
bananananananananane 4 months ago
I have several Mormon friends who are not even 20 and are already married and have at least one kid. It's legitimately terrifying, and a bit sad. It seem like a "safe" route because you're guaranteed companionship, legitimacy, and other things; but it's sad that people box themselves off so early in their lives, before they can zoom out and know what they really want. Fuck social pressures, especially from conservative religion.
KillerHill06 4 months ago
I dated a guy last year, December, and it didn't worked out. Two months later he got a girlfriend, 3 months later they were living together and four months later he asked her to marry him. I'm so glad I'm not that girl, I wouldn't see myself married on the age of 19.
ohsnapitsroos 4 months ago
Laci, not all couples get married just to have sex or because they're pressured. My parents got married at age 19 and they are in their 40s now and still together. But get this, they didnt have me until they were 24. Some people are more responsible than you think.
ILoveFLuffee811 4 months ago
love you 2 laci
crazitomali 4 months ago
@LiberalVSConservativ It really is because sometimes they get married before they really know each other (because they want to have sex). Then they realize they aren't really compatible, contributing to the high divorce rate.
nori452 4 months ago
Hey Laci,
I'm getting married next summer. We'll be 24 and 25. I think it's a good age to be married. We're hoping to have 2 kids by the time we hit 30. Ideally we would already be married because of the tax breaks seeing as how I'm an out of work teacher and he could file me as a "dependent spouse".
I can't wait to be married. I feel like I already am. We live together and his family is like my family and vice versa. He is a special guy :)
MadB1oom 4 months ago
you should have a video getting married when your old.
ericou812 4 months ago
@LiberalVSConservativ yep...they want to be able to boink lol
nori452 4 months ago
I looked at statistics and noticed since the percentage of "premarital living together " has gone up, so has divorce. This statement is Purely from observation --------> the younger you are to get married the more likely you are to get divorced.
TriggerHappy923 4 months ago
My friend is 16 and her husband is 22 and they're married. They had a child though and had to because of legal situations.
SarahShutUp 4 months ago
oh one last thing my husband and I got married with no expectations of how a marriage is supposed to be because well we know each other very well the good and the bad and well we already know our relationship.
musicbaby202 4 months ago
lust wears off and you start to see who they really are and if you can deal with who they really are and their crap then get married. But wait because the lust and the newness of the relationship does wear off and then that is where the work comes in but I believe that is when the true love for that person comes in because to truly love some one is to work at the relationship and deal with the crap and still love them at the end of the day. sorry for being so long with my comments.
musicbaby202 4 months ago
because we were living in sin according to her and frankly it's not her relationship and so we were not going to get married while she kept bugging us to. We decided if we wanted to eventually get married we would do it in our own time and not let anyone or religion dictate when we were going to get married and if at all. We tell our friend now that want to get married to someone they just met to wait and to live together and try to be together for at least a year or two because eventually the
musicbaby202 4 months ago
married because we knew we were committed to each other and we already treated our relationship like a marriage. So really we look at our wedding and legal marriage as something to show our friends and family yes we are committed and have been and have gotten through some tough issues together and we are still committed to each other through it all and that we are ready to start our own family. Oh one last thing to is we waited because his mom was always on his back about us getting married
musicbaby202 4 months ago
expectations on how a marriage is supposed to be and how there spouse is supposed to act and they think being married will change their spouse oh and then on top of all these expectations it's like they are shocked that marriage is a lot of work and it doesn't get easier. That is why my husband and I decided to wait so long because we really wanted to make sure we knew each other and we could deal with each others crap and still love each other. Plus it wasn't that important to us to get
musicbaby202 4 months ago
I have got to say first of all great vid!!! Second I just recently got married to my high school sweet heart which we met our senior year of high school that was almost 10 years ago. Yes we were one of those couples that waited to marry and it took us 10 years and I am glad we waited that long and didn't get married right out of high school like a lot of our friends did because now most of those couples are getting divorced or already have. I think a lot of younger people enter marriage with
musicbaby202 4 months ago
stfu so annyoing
ellurfellur18 4 months ago
My views on marriage have changed drastically throughout the years. Now that I'm 25 and so many of my friends are married and have kids, I feel a little left behind but overall, I know that I am not ready for marriage. If I'm going to love someone, I will love them with or without the contract. I don't need the legality of it. Even if I do fall in love soon, I won't be in a rush to make that love and respect contractual.
greeninker86 4 months ago
I've been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years and we were friends for 5 months before that. He's 21, I'm 20. I sometimes wonder if we can really be happy together for the rest of our lives because of how young we were when we met. For me, it's simply because I don't want either of us to "settle" I guess. I love him to death, but obviously it's a lot of work and we are still young. I don't want to rush anything. However, right now, I can't imagine my life without him in it.
whatevbrahh 4 months ago
@whatevbrahh TRUTH.
neonfiona 4 months ago
@MrKylehass i agree, and never said otherwise. i agree except for the pinnacle idea. i know nothing that could not be improved or learned upon. please me of anything that is at its pinnacle, because i know not if one exists.
ejpetersondub 4 months ago
Marriage used to be a contract in which a woman was basically bought. Nowadays, Marriage is a contract in which a man forfeits half his stuff. Love is an entirely different matter. Marriage right now is about love and money, when its over, only money remains.
Men get married forever, Women can just get a divorce.
ocram3333 4 months ago
My fiance and I plan to marry (hopefully) next year in Feb. He's 27 and I'm going to be 21 in November. We've been together for four years. So far, I feel that it's been the right choice for the both of us. We've talked about it numerous times. However... not really into the whole "big wedding" (paying for the dress, cake, venue, etc.) I'd rather just get married at city hall... which is what we might end up doing. xD
HorseGal1590 4 months ago
the music in the background stresses me so much!!
Thea961 4 months ago 2
My boyfriend and I have been together since we first met (literally) and a month and a half later he proposed. I said yes and we're now engaged, even though we're not planning on getting married anytime soon. Plus, we're both atheists and wont go anywhere near a church so we're only doing this because we want to be together forever ;*
McIcecreamers 4 months ago
A whole different area of discussion is military marriage... A large number of military personnel marry to get out of the barracks and for the increased benefits, which in MY PERSONAL OPINION, accounts for the majority of military divorces.
shdwwolf7 4 months ago
if you love your viewers so much, then why don't you marry us?
AidanTAKFW 4 months ago
i love this video. i am currently nineteen, and my boyfriend and i have been together now, for almost four years. i know for a fact that we will end up marrying one another, but there are too many factors that go into marriage, that we just simply aren't ready for it. marriage is both a loving relationship, and a business - and we just cant handle the business aspect quite yet, and i find that many people dont recognize that as an issue these days.
kaitlynfaith3 4 months ago
Cant people get married young because they love each other? ..
TheRealJayDanae 4 months ago
2:56 where did you get that bottem left picture? Its gorgeous
Kami9799 4 months ago
Wow Lacy how did you get so smart?
nacholibre48 4 months ago
I got married at 18 and six years later we are still together and happy as ever. Always will be that way. :)
AmarathAsura 4 months ago
@lacigreen I really do not like calling it a * Contract* i dont feel like its a contract. calling it that makes it seem like something its not..
Also respect, trust, communication, and support should be in every relationship married or not. :D
diorgirl17 4 months ago
@diorgirl17 I dunno, rather than think of it as a "contract," think of it as, "I have given my oath to remain with this person until death." Hopefully the two of you are men and women of your word and both of you were careful enough to pick a person you can live with, too.
PaxIesus 4 months ago
I find it annoying when I look around my family their all married with kids.... and I don't see myself going that route ( not anytime soon anyways) but everyone really really expects that for some reason....
SxeScotty 4 months ago 41
@SxeScotty funny, i find myself kinda pissed off and jelous a little bit, i wanna be married with lotsa kids,
greymobvmp 4 months ago
laci we shouldn't marry that young
sonny01red 4 months ago
fucking hot!
FriezaReturns00001 4 months ago
@MrKylehass i would agree with you except for the past validation thing being narrow minded. i think it is the exact opposite. to do something just because people did it years ago defies open-mindedness. tradition is the biggest idea that is holding back the species. we always know more than we did 5 minutes ago. why would we trust our limited knowledge of the past? today we have yesterday to learn from, yesterday we did not.
ejpetersondub 4 months ago
i love you laci & i love your videos!!
this was really helpful, thank you!
321Chanelle 4 months ago
I remember asking a colleague of mine why he got married. That was before I got married myself. He simply answered that there are as many reasons for getting married as there are marriages. Oh, and btw kiddo, why I got married is none of yo' biznisssss !
I don't know if marrying at 24 (my wife was 23) qualifies as marrying young or not, I guess that it does. We had been together for 7 years, and I always thought I wouldn't want to marry. But then I did, because I just felt like doing so.
DaimonAugustus 4 months ago
that laugh made me shit my self
avistomad 4 months ago
I just can't see me getting married, there's no reason to do so.
Rabbiz 4 months ago
ALOT of my friends from high school are engaged. I graduated this year... i swear they wont make it to marrige
johannaaight 4 months ago
I've been with my husband since we were 15 years old. We moved in together at 18 into a small apartment... then at 20 got our own 2 bedroom house :) and decided to tie the knot!!! not for social pressure.. but legit love indeed!!! we're both 20, been married for 1 year & are expecting our first child (planned) of course <3 && yes we've changed since 15 but the best thing about us is that we know how to handle each other after so many years!!! BTW people have been getting married young for years!
austriacalderon 4 months ago
No disrespect intended, but it seems rather funny to get marriage advice from a 22-year-old single woman (the "woman' part is not a matter of humour as much as the other parts.).
PaxIesus 4 months ago
@PaxIesus She is not your average 22 year old.. she is one smart cookie :)
SBizarre 4 months ago
@SBizarre Ha! Well, while I may not agree with all of her conclusions, I will simply say that she appears to be intelligent. I shall refrain from commenting on her being smart for her age, because that is one step removed from saying, "For being a woman, she's rather smart." Saying that would likely drown me in hate mail.
PaxIesus 4 months ago
@PaxIesus i think the opposite. the fact that she is single allows her to look at it from an outside, objective view. anyone who is married will have strong emotions toward whether they support it or not, which may lead to bad advice for some.
ejpetersondub 4 months ago
@ejpetersondub Single people often have the same response to marriage and are often either more vehemently opposed or in favor of the institution. For instance, she mentions her "marriage-crazed" friend. When this person was single, ask her for her opinion about marriage, eh? Or ask the man who has remained "non-committal" his entire life. There's the other end of the pole.
You can have a reasonable opinion if you're married, and be just as likely to have an unreasonable one if you aren't
PaxIesus 4 months ago
my parents have been married for 27 years and my grandparents have been married for almost 60 years. i don't really believe in marriage, but i think if i was with a person for years and have been living with them for a while, as well as being financially stable and out of school, i may consider it. i think at a younger age, couples don't want to work through their problems and communicate with their partner as much because of social aspects/media. everyone's different, though.
caitlyneFUCK 4 months ago
But see, you're still appealing to that false ideal that marriage should last YOUR WHOLE LIFE. A 50% divorce rate means half of married couples are staying together FOREVER. That is just weird. And culturally inspired. I mean, biologically, we're designed to stay with a mate for an optimum of seven or eight years. Which is, coincidentally, the median duration of marriage.
I think a married couple is kicking some major ass if they stay together through an entire set of kids.
Heligoland43 4 months ago
2 of my friends that I've known since high school got married as soon as the left high school and are still together 20 years later and their eldest child is in highschool now. When I asked them 15 years ago why they were getting married, they said because they love each other and wanted to and it was thier parents that made them wait.
Atriviality 4 months ago
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Atriviality 4 months ago
Too many people assume that anyone who gets married young is in a bind (such as being pregnant), and I'm someone who's been on the other end of this. You're right. It's very situational. If most of my friends my own age told me they were getting married, I would question it as well. It all depends on how mature and responsible the person is.
unsweeteneddoll 4 months ago
I'm twenty now and got engaged at 19. I'll be 21 when we finally get married. My fiance is 25, and we've known each other for over ten years. We've lived together for almost two years now. We've been in premarital counseling since we got engaged and intend to follow through with it until the wedding. We're responsible adults who are independent, own a home together, have no children, work full time, and take care of ourselves. My situation is unique but musn't be ignored.
unsweeteneddoll 4 months ago
Why are people getting married at all?
I actually don't know my stance on marriage in general. But I do wonder. Why do people get married?
AgentKuo 4 months ago
One of my best friends got married at 20 and had none of the romantic thoughts you were thinking of. She's now 23, expecting her first child, and is still happily married. She travels the world with her husband. In this video, while it is informative and will probably help people avoid marrying for the wrong reasons, you seem extremely defensive of your viewpoint and it seems like this is a very personal subject for you.
SUPERfreckleland 4 months ago
---- ONLY 1 thing ---____ your loser LACI, just because you haven't fallen in love and found a honest/right guy that's - YOUR PROBLEM -
Don't be a BITCH
PS: and no I'm not married
GostosoSPbr 4 months ago
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my ex mess up leaving a great guy like me :( we been together for 2 months and she end up talking about sex. i told her it too soon i wanna wait longer or better too wait till marry and she tell me how can we be together with out sex. so she broke up with me. since she broke up with me i knew right then she promble just wanna me for sex. cause sex is really not the meaning of love. i want someone who love me for who i am. and how great there personally is. it hard too find the right girl :(
eric0100 4 months ago
Yup i just had a friend get married recently, right after he joined the airforce. I grew up with that kid, but i think you were right about living together for a while to actually know how spending hour by hour would be... Anyway, they're still happily married with my buddies first son on the way. I am really wondering if as some one who who is only going to be 22 when the baby is born is ready, but in all honesty, i think my buddy will make a great dad, and husband for that matter.
MrKillthebunnies 4 months ago
I'm noticing here in southern California people are getting married the day after graduating high school. What's with the rush to get married anyway except for certian government and tax incentives?
worseorbetter 4 months ago
Brilliant.
ctp2067 4 months ago
@MrKylehass u seriously using the past as validation? its young because, through experience we see many problems with it. doesn't matter what happened 100 years ago, we live we learn, we grow. dont fear change.
ejpetersondub 4 months ago
***cont***
However if I could go back and change it I probably would, and wait til I was 24 or 25. Being married changes alot of things. Alot of the choices you would normally make on your own now become joint decisions and you may not like what your husband/wife has to say about it. If you want your marriage to last you must take what they say into consideration because you are tied to this person for life. So long story short, my advice would be to wait, live a little first. much love =]
PussInBootsJF 4 months ago
First of all, I'm glad to see your better! Anyway on to the topic, I got married a 19. At that point my husband and I had been together for 2 years and been friends for 2 years before that and had planned on getting married, but at a much later time. We ended up doing it sooner than planned because I got pregnant and we decided to keep the baby. Almost 3 years later and we just had our second baby and are still very much in love.
PussInBootsJF 4 months ago 33
@PussInBootsJF That's actually the cutest thing ever, I hope you two have a good rest of your life together! :)
ibegabby36 4 months ago
@PussInBootsJF you have a wonderful life in front of you. dont let that man go from your life. you are a damn lucky person!
DruggedChicken 4 months ago
my friend is getting married he is 18 after he dose this he is going to the army and shes a bitch that has used him and dropped him for no reason before. i know its what he wants but it seems like he is doing this because he is afraid to lose her again should i do some thing or not? it just doesn't seem like a healthy relationship srry for asking but i just dont know what to do
meherumeheru 4 months ago
I think loads of people wanna get married because they think 6 months is a long time and they Cant be bothered waiting.
SJANews 4 months ago
Glad to see you're all better!! :D
icecat131 4 months ago
She is so cute. Wow.. cleavage. She is smart - I like that
GuruNicholas2012 4 months ago
Getting married young is stupid. people change over time, and people wonder why cheating is common, and divorce is common also. People deserve to get divorced if they are married at 19 or some young age like that. Stupid young people.
GuruNicholas2012 4 months ago
@GuruNicholas2012 you don't have to be so negative geez
PussInBootsJF 4 months ago
@GuruNicholas2012 This has got to be one of the most ignorant comments I have ever read on youtube. No... just no. People don't change nearly as much as you think they do. Studying relationship psychology for five minutes would show you that. They don't "deserve" to get divorced and not all of them do get divorced.
SUPERfreckleland 4 months ago
I Swear I love your Tits <3.........but seriously you give really good advise, it even got me Laid so thank you and Keep your TITs Big and Proud
vulcanfirekiller 4 months ago
Cool
robloxplox 4 months ago
because being a very attractive green eyes perfect faced teen automattically gives you a good opinion on sex
SoundboyEric 4 months ago
Been with my husband for 5 years.. Married after a yeAr and a half (20yrs old).. I was 5 months pregnant (our main reason for getting married).. Been married for 3 years and wouldn't change a thing!
Jsunsetsky87 4 months ago
'',or'' great syntaxe!
Yomommasuperfat 4 months ago
..nice porn set.
TrishaAbbott 4 months ago
or...maybe the love facet?
TrishaAbbott 4 months ago
BECAUSE WE LOVE EACHOTHER!
TrishaAbbott 4 months ago