I have inspiration for you! My son was adopted as baby and it was the hardest decision i ever made his biological father was not in the picture! And I too have had a wonderful experience with adoption. I was just not able at the time to be able to provide for him like he deserved and almost three years later my son is as happy as can be...god bless you and i know you have mad his parents truly blessed
@justpeachy918 If I had a baby at 18, I would've done the same thing. I hope Lucas won't hate you for giving him the life you and his father couldn't give him.
Why would you give away a miracle and gift from God? God blessed you with Lucas and you gave him away. I know many people who stopped everything and gave up their life for their child. Living in the most expensive places in the United States and still doing all they can to support and provide for their child. It's possible. College isn't forever. Soon enough you would have gone on to possible find a good.decent paying job.
I just don't understand nor will I ever understand adoption. I have two precious, perfect boys who are my world. Their the air I breathe. I couldn't imagine had I given them up. I think it's very strange to give your child away, your flesh and blood. I'm sorry, as this is my opinion and you're sharing your story with You tube. Do you mind me asking if you would like to have a child in the future?
Erika, that is a very beautiful expression of your love for your son. I hope he is happy, and healthy, and that you get to see that for yourself. Best of luck to you!
you would have made a great mother. I am sure you have days of regret. When you have your own children someday how will your son feel? Stay in his life as much as possible. The loss of adoption doesn't fully hit you until adulthood.
Lucas will most likely hate this video. As an adoptee it is painful to watch a child go thru this kind of trauma. I can't tell you enough how horrible adoption can be on a child. It is not selfless, it is not heroic, it is a choice that traumatizes a child. This is not God's design. This is not what you should have done.
@Emilie5125 I am so sorry for your terrible experience with adoption. I know many others who have been children of open adoptions and have a very healthy relationships with their parents and birth parents. This was the right choice in my situation, I will not speak for anyone else. Best wishes.
Lucas will most likely hate this video. As an adoptee it is painful to watch a child go thru this kind of trauma. I can't tell you enough how horrible adoption can be on a child. It is not selfless, it is not heroic, it is a choice that traumatizes a child.
My birth parents had the same story you do. I thought about them every day of my life. What baby would trade their mother and father for material things? It is too late now. I wish you had spoken to adult adoptees before you were brainwashed by social workers making a buck off your baby. I really am sorry for your and lucas's loss. Adoption is unnatural and sick. Being poor or unwed was the wrong decision to surrender. I hope your adoption is open. Adoption is a life long trauma.
@MagBini69 I do in fact have a very open adoption. I am sorry you view it in such negative regards, but it has been such a beautiful experience between my son, the adoptive family, and myself. I am not brainwashed, I am and always have been more than capable to form my own opinions and decisions. I am now two years out from the adoption, and can safely say that it was the best decision for my son. I don't look at it as a loss now, but an expansion of love for him. Peace to you.
@nicole227901 You don't know that they will thank you. I was adopted and my parents thought they were doing the right thing because they didn't feel they could give me the life I deserved. I found them when I was 16 yrs old. In addition to feeling abandoned by them; I had to tell them that my adopted father, who was loved & respected by many people, was a pedophile. Not only did I NOT thank my real parents, it took me years to forgive them. Being adopted can be very painful.
a better life than I could but it has completely destroyed me to do that. There will always be a hole in my heart. Because of him I am even more driven to go to college and become successful and turn my life into something that my baby boy would have deserved. I do have a semi open adoption and hope that one day he will want to meet me and that by then I will be someone he will be proud of. Just wanted to share some of my story. It gets kind of lonely. My heart goes out to you and I wish you..
moments I held him took everything I had not to burst into tears. I knew that if I held him longer I wouldn't let him go and I hated that I couldn't just look at my baby lovingly without crying. I wanted so much to just hold him and kiss and tell him how much I love him. I wanted to be able to tell him goodbye and I couldn't. It's the most excruciating pain. I've cried every day since and woken up with my eyes swollen shut. I'm so happy for him and that I put him in a home that could give him..
Your video is beautiful. I just gave my baby up Oct. 15th. I wish that I could have had the strength you had. I wasn't able to hold and hug and kiss my baby. I detached myself from the entire pregnancy because I knew that if I allowed myself to feel like anything other than a surrogate that early I wouldn't be able to let him go and give him the life he deserved. I had his adoptive mother in the room for the birth. I wasn't able to hold him long before I had to have her take him. The few..
When they took her away it was the hardest thing. my baby had gone forever. i miss my sunshine so much. it was the right decision because i could never have given her the life she has now. she shouldnt have to suffer cause of my mistakes. I LOVE YOU SUNSHINE
In labor i screamed not because of pain but because i knew my time with the love of my life was nearly over. When she arrived i held her close and sang to her,
you are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy when skies are gray, you'll never know how much i love you but i must give my sunshine away. (youtube.com/watch?v=0_TGFXc5XQo).
( read below comment first this is continued) It hurt to see other mums and pregnant women because i was so jelaous they got to keep their child. I loved her so so much. As i got closer to my due date i got even more scared. Not for the pain of laour but because i knew my time with mu sunshine was running out. When my contracetions began i went to hospital. I screamed and cried the whole time not just because of the pain but because i knew i wouldnt get my little girl after it. (continued)
when i was 15 i got pregnant. I cried for days because i hadnt even wanted to have sex in the first place. I told my parents after 2 weeks. From the begining i knew i couldnt keeep my child. I spoke to teen moms and researched. at my first scan i saw my beautiful baby and knew that it deserved a better life. I called it sunshine, because it lit up my world. I loved eing pregnant and spending time with my gorgeous daughter. I smiled on the outside but deep down i was terrified. ( continued)
I find this to upsetting. I could never give a child up. You could have done it. There is nothing anyone could give him that is better than you. But it is a true gift to the family that get to love him forever.
I cried through your video. I was adopted and by a miracle I located my birth mother 2 days before my 50th birthday. Thank you for sharing and for giving the gift of life. My story will bless you if you care to read it.
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I really admire you for your wisdom and strength. I am a young mother too and I can't imagine having to give my kids away so soon; I don't think I will be that strong. You choose to do the best thing for your baby and that takes a lot of courage; you did the right thing for him. I'm glad its an open adoption so that you will have the chance to see him grow up. This music video was very touching and really touched my heart. Good luck to you.
Very touching. I wouldn't worry about your son hating you. He'll seek you out someday like most adopted children do. You have courage and if you believe he'll be better off that will make both of you happier in the end.
@HarpoSpoke Thank you for the comment. To be clear, I have an open adoption so that he will know where he came from and not have to worry about finding me in 17 years. He will know there is an endless group of people who love him and I hope, will not feel resentment.
I am an adoptive mother, we adopted our son Will just 14mths ago. This video touched me so much I cried through the whole thing. We have a semi open adoption, the birth parents, both teens like yourselves won't see him but we send updates on his progress. Through this year I have struggled with a feeling of guilt regarding how his birth parents are feeling, I am so so SO enternally gratefull to them no words are enough. I longed for a baby for ten years, and they chose US..
You are two beautiful souls to give your adoptive parents such a wonderful gift, you have changed their lives in ways they will never ever be able to verbally express. Our son will always know where he came from, he will know that he was loved by so many before he was even born, and I am sure your son will know the same. I kiss him every day for his birth mom, and pray that the hurt in her heart lessens with each passing day. One selfless act has made a forever family, god bless you and yours xo
@kingerswife Thank you so much for your kind comment. I wish you the best of luck with your son. It sounds like you have a lot of respect for your birthmother and I respect that, you changed her life as well.
@kingerswife I am so happy for you, adoption is such a special thing. As a birthparent, I want to tell you there is no reason at all to feel guilty :) I love and cherish the people who adopted Lucas because just as I have changed their lives, they have changed mine and the life of my baby. He can now live the life he deserves to have, and I am sure your birthmom feels the same. God bless.
You truly did the most selfless and honorable thing anyone woman could do. God will reward you in the end for your act of godliness. Lucas was a gift from God and he could not have gone to a more deserving couple. I hope that you reach all of your goals and build the life you deserve and by the time Lucas is all grown up and able to make his own decisions he will be proud to know that you are his biological mother. I love the video and so will he. May God continue to bless you!
I have inspiration for you! My son was adopted as baby and it was the hardest decision i ever made his biological father was not in the picture! And I too have had a wonderful experience with adoption. I was just not able at the time to be able to provide for him like he deserved and almost three years later my son is as happy as can be...god bless you and i know you have mad his parents truly blessed
jcolemanc87 1 month ago
@justpeachy918 If I had a baby at 18, I would've done the same thing. I hope Lucas won't hate you for giving him the life you and his father couldn't give him.
HV2LS 1 month ago
Why would you give away a miracle and gift from God? God blessed you with Lucas and you gave him away. I know many people who stopped everything and gave up their life for their child. Living in the most expensive places in the United States and still doing all they can to support and provide for their child. It's possible. College isn't forever. Soon enough you would have gone on to possible find a good.decent paying job.
sparklescuzishine 1 month ago
I just don't understand nor will I ever understand adoption. I have two precious, perfect boys who are my world. Their the air I breathe. I couldn't imagine had I given them up. I think it's very strange to give your child away, your flesh and blood. I'm sorry, as this is my opinion and you're sharing your story with You tube. Do you mind me asking if you would like to have a child in the future?
sparklescuzishine 1 month ago
Erika, that is a very beautiful expression of your love for your son. I hope he is happy, and healthy, and that you get to see that for yourself. Best of luck to you!
pinkypetite 2 months ago
Thanks for sharing your story. IT was great to read the update from 2011 as well.
Giftoflifeadoptions 3 months ago
you would have made a great mother. I am sure you have days of regret. When you have your own children someday how will your son feel? Stay in his life as much as possible. The loss of adoption doesn't fully hit you until adulthood.
lordviperscorpion69 3 months ago
Lucas will most likely hate this video. As an adoptee it is painful to watch a child go thru this kind of trauma. I can't tell you enough how horrible adoption can be on a child. It is not selfless, it is not heroic, it is a choice that traumatizes a child. This is not God's design. This is not what you should have done.
Emilie5125 3 months ago
@Emilie5125 I am so sorry for your terrible experience with adoption. I know many others who have been children of open adoptions and have a very healthy relationships with their parents and birth parents. This was the right choice in my situation, I will not speak for anyone else. Best wishes.
justpeachy918 3 months ago
Lucas will most likely hate this video. As an adoptee it is painful to watch a child go thru this kind of trauma. I can't tell you enough how horrible adoption can be on a child. It is not selfless, it is not heroic, it is a choice that traumatizes a child.
Emilie5125 3 months ago
Lucas will most likely hate this video. As an adoptee it is painful to watch a child go thru this kind of trauma.
Emilie5125 3 months ago
My birth parents had the same story you do. I thought about them every day of my life. What baby would trade their mother and father for material things? It is too late now. I wish you had spoken to adult adoptees before you were brainwashed by social workers making a buck off your baby. I really am sorry for your and lucas's loss. Adoption is unnatural and sick. Being poor or unwed was the wrong decision to surrender. I hope your adoption is open. Adoption is a life long trauma.
MagBini69 3 months ago
@MagBini69 I do in fact have a very open adoption. I am sorry you view it in such negative regards, but it has been such a beautiful experience between my son, the adoptive family, and myself. I am not brainwashed, I am and always have been more than capable to form my own opinions and decisions. I am now two years out from the adoption, and can safely say that it was the best decision for my son. I don't look at it as a loss now, but an expansion of love for him. Peace to you.
justpeachy918 3 months ago 2
Oh gosh lady...i have 2 sons who we're adopted...but not from birth and this made me cry. so beautiful.
TattooedMOMTwiggs 4 months ago
the best of luck. I know that our children will want to meet us one day and they will thank us for what we did for them.
nicole227901 4 months ago
@nicole227901 You don't know that they will thank you. I was adopted and my parents thought they were doing the right thing because they didn't feel they could give me the life I deserved. I found them when I was 16 yrs old. In addition to feeling abandoned by them; I had to tell them that my adopted father, who was loved & respected by many people, was a pedophile. Not only did I NOT thank my real parents, it took me years to forgive them. Being adopted can be very painful.
fairlightdawn112 2 months ago
a better life than I could but it has completely destroyed me to do that. There will always be a hole in my heart. Because of him I am even more driven to go to college and become successful and turn my life into something that my baby boy would have deserved. I do have a semi open adoption and hope that one day he will want to meet me and that by then I will be someone he will be proud of. Just wanted to share some of my story. It gets kind of lonely. My heart goes out to you and I wish you..
nicole227901 4 months ago
moments I held him took everything I had not to burst into tears. I knew that if I held him longer I wouldn't let him go and I hated that I couldn't just look at my baby lovingly without crying. I wanted so much to just hold him and kiss and tell him how much I love him. I wanted to be able to tell him goodbye and I couldn't. It's the most excruciating pain. I've cried every day since and woken up with my eyes swollen shut. I'm so happy for him and that I put him in a home that could give him..
nicole227901 4 months ago
Your video is beautiful. I just gave my baby up Oct. 15th. I wish that I could have had the strength you had. I wasn't able to hold and hug and kiss my baby. I detached myself from the entire pregnancy because I knew that if I allowed myself to feel like anything other than a surrogate that early I wouldn't be able to let him go and give him the life he deserved. I had his adoptive mother in the room for the birth. I wasn't able to hold him long before I had to have her take him. The few..
nicole227901 4 months ago
When they took her away it was the hardest thing. my baby had gone forever. i miss my sunshine so much. it was the right decision because i could never have given her the life she has now. she shouldnt have to suffer cause of my mistakes. I LOVE YOU SUNSHINE
tillytillytilly1 4 months ago
read below comment first this is continued
In labor i screamed not because of pain but because i knew my time with the love of my life was nearly over. When she arrived i held her close and sang to her,
you are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy when skies are gray, you'll never know how much i love you but i must give my sunshine away. (youtube.com/watch?v=0_TGFXc5XQo).
tillytillytilly1 4 months ago
( read below comment first this is continued) It hurt to see other mums and pregnant women because i was so jelaous they got to keep their child. I loved her so so much. As i got closer to my due date i got even more scared. Not for the pain of laour but because i knew my time with mu sunshine was running out. When my contracetions began i went to hospital. I screamed and cried the whole time not just because of the pain but because i knew i wouldnt get my little girl after it. (continued)
tillytillytilly1 4 months ago
when i was 15 i got pregnant. I cried for days because i hadnt even wanted to have sex in the first place. I told my parents after 2 weeks. From the begining i knew i couldnt keeep my child. I spoke to teen moms and researched. at my first scan i saw my beautiful baby and knew that it deserved a better life. I called it sunshine, because it lit up my world. I loved eing pregnant and spending time with my gorgeous daughter. I smiled on the outside but deep down i was terrified. ( continued)
tillytillytilly1 4 months ago
I find this to upsetting. I could never give a child up. You could have done it. There is nothing anyone could give him that is better than you. But it is a true gift to the family that get to love him forever.
elesha76 5 months ago
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tillytillytilly1 6 months ago
I cried through your video. I was adopted and by a miracle I located my birth mother 2 days before my 50th birthday. Thank you for sharing and for giving the gift of life. My story will bless you if you care to read it.
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God Bless you!
Frank
drummerboy7580 6 months ago
I really admire you for your wisdom and strength. I am a young mother too and I can't imagine having to give my kids away so soon; I don't think I will be that strong. You choose to do the best thing for your baby and that takes a lot of courage; you did the right thing for him. I'm glad its an open adoption so that you will have the chance to see him grow up. This music video was very touching and really touched my heart. Good luck to you.
lindaxiongsta 7 months ago
I bawled when I watched this. You are an amazingly selfless person and I know your son WILL understand someday. Much love to you and yours!
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I can't remember the last time I cried this much. God bless... I hope you see your baby very soon again.
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craigmaxadopt 1 year ago
Very touching. I wouldn't worry about your son hating you. He'll seek you out someday like most adopted children do. You have courage and if you believe he'll be better off that will make both of you happier in the end.
HarpoSpoke 1 year ago
@HarpoSpoke Thank you for the comment. To be clear, I have an open adoption so that he will know where he came from and not have to worry about finding me in 17 years. He will know there is an endless group of people who love him and I hope, will not feel resentment.
justpeachy918 1 year ago
I am an adoptive mother, we adopted our son Will just 14mths ago. This video touched me so much I cried through the whole thing. We have a semi open adoption, the birth parents, both teens like yourselves won't see him but we send updates on his progress. Through this year I have struggled with a feeling of guilt regarding how his birth parents are feeling, I am so so SO enternally gratefull to them no words are enough. I longed for a baby for ten years, and they chose US..
kingerswife 1 year ago 4
You are two beautiful souls to give your adoptive parents such a wonderful gift, you have changed their lives in ways they will never ever be able to verbally express. Our son will always know where he came from, he will know that he was loved by so many before he was even born, and I am sure your son will know the same. I kiss him every day for his birth mom, and pray that the hurt in her heart lessens with each passing day. One selfless act has made a forever family, god bless you and yours xo
kingerswife 1 year ago
@kingerswife Thank you so much for your kind comment. I wish you the best of luck with your son. It sounds like you have a lot of respect for your birthmother and I respect that, you changed her life as well.
justpeachy918 1 year ago
@kingerswife I am so happy for you, adoption is such a special thing. As a birthparent, I want to tell you there is no reason at all to feel guilty :) I love and cherish the people who adopted Lucas because just as I have changed their lives, they have changed mine and the life of my baby. He can now live the life he deserves to have, and I am sure your birthmom feels the same. God bless.
justpeachy918 1 year ago
You are an amazing person for doing something so hard but so right for Lucas and yourself. There is no doubt that love for him gives you strength.
mitziloar 2 years ago
Your child will have no doubt how much you love him!
brazua 2 years ago
You truly did the most selfless and honorable thing anyone woman could do. God will reward you in the end for your act of godliness. Lucas was a gift from God and he could not have gone to a more deserving couple. I hope that you reach all of your goals and build the life you deserve and by the time Lucas is all grown up and able to make his own decisions he will be proud to know that you are his biological mother. I love the video and so will he. May God continue to bless you!
kleann1003 2 years ago
You did the right thing for your child. Amy and Rob will be great parents. And Lucas will grow to know that you did the right thing for him.
flowers691 2 years ago
You are amazing
drummerjosh1984 2 years ago