@LeftSeatAviation, if I'm being harsh, it's not because I don't think that narcissistic guy isn't an evil bastard. He is. But women like you choose to stay with such men while rejecting good guys. And then you expect people to have sympathy for you. You complain there are no good guys around, but you reject any guy that treats you right. There's no excuse. Men have become thuggish partly because that's what women want these days.
how the hell can I explain this to the retards at my school. My life will be over. How the hell can I explain this to my lady I am trying to get? She'll be like oh, no wonder your such a fool, get the hell away from me.
@2583060, I sympathize and resonate with your anger. As someone who has Asperger's and used to have it to such an intense degree that normal socialization was impossible for me, I can say that most normal people are unwilling to have compassion for those that suffer from any type of disorder, whether physical, neurological, or psychological.
The best way to explain it is to be as calm and patient as you can be, and to focus on the brain wiring being different rather than emotions.
@KhagarBalugrak I thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts and feelings. If aspergers where a ratio, I'd say for me it would be like 60% aspergers, and 40% normal. I have many friends, and girls whom like me, but I cant ever break this to people. People are just too ignorant to come to an understanding with me.
@2583060, you want to make clear it's a brain abnormality, not a matter of your state of mind, emotions or intelligence. Will this make people more sympathetic? Probably, since physical problems are much harder to change than emotional problems. Will this get you the girl you like? Only if she is a compassionate and open-minded person who can see your affection for her, regardless of the fact that you communicate differently than most people.
@2583060, At this point in my life, after 30 years of being unable to socialize, I can finally socialize fairly normally. And guess what? I still have a hard time attracting women. They're so paranoid and narcissistic that authentic communication with them is impossible.
Of course, not ALL women are like this, but 97% of women in this country are. Especially upper- and upper-middle-class white women. If you like being treated like shit, date a white girl from a rich family.
A really good video. What you say feels so real for me. And the way you explain it is in a way that a so called "expert" who is an NT would not be able to they could only quote what they have read or observed and not how it actually feels. Well done and thanks
@DiamondDragon419 Yes but it depends on the OT. My current OT does sensory integration, executive dysfunction and life skills. The OT I had before that did the same. The OT before that only did a little bit of executive dysfunction but mostly life skills. I think it is worth noting that pediatric OTs will do all three where as OTs that focus on adults will focus more on executive dysfunction and life skills to varying extents based on what they are trained to do...
@LeftSeatAviation The first two OTs I mentioned that do all 3 are pediatric OTs that I go to a pediatric therapy center to work with [even though I'm an adult they made exceptions for me]. The third was at a residential treatment center for young adults called Yellowbrick [This place is terrible never NEVER go there. I was there for about a month and I finally tried to kill myself and I went to the psych ward. Then I moved back home.] Anyway, the OT there...
@LeftSeatAviation mainly focused on life skills and a little bit of executive dysfunction [but not very much]. Most adult OTs I've heard of [so don't take this as a fact, it's just what I've heard] focus on getting the patient to be able to work at a job, often after an injury so the person can learn to work around their limitations to return to their previous job. But it really depends on the OT. Think about what you want to accomplish. Then get a referral from a doctor...
@LeftSeatAviation Or go on your health insurance's website [if you have private insurance]. The most important thing when you meet the OT for the first time make sure that you know very well what you want them to help you with and that you communicate that clearly to them because OT is an umbrella term which means a large range of professionals offering a large range of different services can be certified as OTs.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!! I'm almost 33, I'm an Aspie (Dx'd) single mom of a probably Aspie 3 year old daughter, and executive functioning is one of my hardest things to deal with. I have to schedule, on a white board, every detail of my day or I won't remember to shower, to brush my teeth, to do the dishes, etc. People thing I'm lazy because I have such a hard time keeping up my apartment, and my mom still sometimes comes over to help, but executive functioning issues are severe.
@JustEmbers Ya I grew up with the "lazy" label too and it did a lot of damage. Had to learn to forget the people who refuse to understand. I use a whiteboard too, and my diary and my laptop and my phone's calendar and sticky notes AND if I receive letters with important appointment dates in them, I stick them to my wardrobe so I accidentally read them almost every day! I think executive functioning is my biggest difficulty too so when I start occupational therapy I'll ask for lots of help there!
@NiamhFrancisPianist LOL on top of what I already use (white board), you've given me some new ideas :-) I particularly like the idea of sticking things on my wardrobe because I forget that my phone has a calendar, I forget about my computer, and I always forget to write in my diary (I have one, but entries are months apart... due to forgetting about scheduling time for it lol). I'm in vocational rehab, but I think my counselor doesn't understand AS, and so has unrealistic expectations.
Oh my god, all of these issues describe me. I was diagnosed with ADD when I was young, but my dad didn't believe that was my problem. I always forgot my homework or forgot I even had homework, or forgot where I put it.
@ApollonApostle yeah but take a couple of dexies, and the problem is put at bay. Aspies who use the term "neurotypicals" are just hating on everyone else cause there is no pill that can make them act normal, cause nobody is sure exactly what is wrong with them in the first place -- just that there obviously is.
Best guess I've heard is it's caused by parents thinking its OK to raise a child by bottle-feeding in a crib during the years of life when basic human bonding is learned.
@zaphraud None of that is true. It tends to be genetic. It's not a matter of 'mommy didn't hold me enough'. My daughter shows strong signs of being on the spectrum and I barely ever let her go.
@ApollonApostle People will just say her problem is you held her too much, then. Normal people don't need consistency; they only need an excuse, no matter how thin, to abuse and not care about the different.
@zaphraud well i was in care for 6 months from one month old and a lot of the brain grows in the first six months 50 persent so maybe you are not far out...jeff
My thoughts "Why can't I do the normal things" is a reoccurring heartbreaking broken record in my head. My boyfriends "Why can't she be normal?" I cannot be left alone, especially if I go out with someone. If they let me go in a store and I cannot find them,. I friek. I get the anxiety also and get blank, especially when I know the answer to the question presented to me. It is like I get nervous, but later on, I will tell you detail for detail everything you wanted to know. I wish I wasntscared
@2xhonorrolestudent i know your problem i get lost indoors and i have these odd shutdowns.tell you friends to let you know where they are,hospitals are the worst i have had cancer i have got lost 4 times in hospital...jeff
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@LeftSeatAviation, if I'm being harsh, it's not because I don't think that narcissistic guy isn't an evil bastard. He is. But women like you choose to stay with such men while rejecting good guys. And then you expect people to have sympathy for you. You complain there are no good guys around, but you reject any guy that treats you right. There's no excuse. Men have become thuggish partly because that's what women want these days.
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LeftSeatAviation 2 weeks ago
I noticed you relax when you grounded yourself using the rubber ball to stim with. That's awesome!
UniquelyGeeky 1 month ago
how the hell can I explain this to the retards at my school. My life will be over. How the hell can I explain this to my lady I am trying to get? She'll be like oh, no wonder your such a fool, get the hell away from me.
2583060 1 month ago
@2583060, I sympathize and resonate with your anger. As someone who has Asperger's and used to have it to such an intense degree that normal socialization was impossible for me, I can say that most normal people are unwilling to have compassion for those that suffer from any type of disorder, whether physical, neurological, or psychological.
The best way to explain it is to be as calm and patient as you can be, and to focus on the brain wiring being different rather than emotions.
KhagarBalugrak 3 weeks ago
@KhagarBalugrak I thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts and feelings. If aspergers where a ratio, I'd say for me it would be like 60% aspergers, and 40% normal. I have many friends, and girls whom like me, but I cant ever break this to people. People are just too ignorant to come to an understanding with me.
2583060 3 weeks ago
@2583060, you want to make clear it's a brain abnormality, not a matter of your state of mind, emotions or intelligence. Will this make people more sympathetic? Probably, since physical problems are much harder to change than emotional problems. Will this get you the girl you like? Only if she is a compassionate and open-minded person who can see your affection for her, regardless of the fact that you communicate differently than most people.
KhagarBalugrak 3 weeks ago
@2583060, At this point in my life, after 30 years of being unable to socialize, I can finally socialize fairly normally. And guess what? I still have a hard time attracting women. They're so paranoid and narcissistic that authentic communication with them is impossible.
Of course, not ALL women are like this, but 97% of women in this country are. Especially upper- and upper-middle-class white women. If you like being treated like shit, date a white girl from a rich family.
KhagarBalugrak 3 weeks ago
A really good video. What you say feels so real for me. And the way you explain it is in a way that a so called "expert" who is an NT would not be able to they could only quote what they have read or observed and not how it actually feels. Well done and thanks
adultswithautism 3 months ago
You have really good non-verbal behavior
LadyCocoa1234 4 months ago
@LadyCocoa1234 lol.
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girlstorm09 6 months ago
Does OT actually help with exec. dysfunction? Do OTs have ways to help with that?
DiamondDragon419 7 months ago
@DiamondDragon419 Yes but it depends on the OT. My current OT does sensory integration, executive dysfunction and life skills. The OT I had before that did the same. The OT before that only did a little bit of executive dysfunction but mostly life skills. I think it is worth noting that pediatric OTs will do all three where as OTs that focus on adults will focus more on executive dysfunction and life skills to varying extents based on what they are trained to do...
LeftSeatAviation 2 weeks ago
@LeftSeatAviation The first two OTs I mentioned that do all 3 are pediatric OTs that I go to a pediatric therapy center to work with [even though I'm an adult they made exceptions for me]. The third was at a residential treatment center for young adults called Yellowbrick [This place is terrible never NEVER go there. I was there for about a month and I finally tried to kill myself and I went to the psych ward. Then I moved back home.] Anyway, the OT there...
LeftSeatAviation 2 weeks ago
@LeftSeatAviation mainly focused on life skills and a little bit of executive dysfunction [but not very much]. Most adult OTs I've heard of [so don't take this as a fact, it's just what I've heard] focus on getting the patient to be able to work at a job, often after an injury so the person can learn to work around their limitations to return to their previous job. But it really depends on the OT. Think about what you want to accomplish. Then get a referral from a doctor...
LeftSeatAviation 2 weeks ago
@LeftSeatAviation Or go on your health insurance's website [if you have private insurance]. The most important thing when you meet the OT for the first time make sure that you know very well what you want them to help you with and that you communicate that clearly to them because OT is an umbrella term which means a large range of professionals offering a large range of different services can be certified as OTs.
LeftSeatAviation 2 weeks ago
Is it just me or is the audio about a half second off?
daimyoyo 8 months ago 2
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!! I'm almost 33, I'm an Aspie (Dx'd) single mom of a probably Aspie 3 year old daughter, and executive functioning is one of my hardest things to deal with. I have to schedule, on a white board, every detail of my day or I won't remember to shower, to brush my teeth, to do the dishes, etc. People thing I'm lazy because I have such a hard time keeping up my apartment, and my mom still sometimes comes over to help, but executive functioning issues are severe.
JustEmbers 1 year ago
@JustEmbers Ya I grew up with the "lazy" label too and it did a lot of damage. Had to learn to forget the people who refuse to understand. I use a whiteboard too, and my diary and my laptop and my phone's calendar and sticky notes AND if I receive letters with important appointment dates in them, I stick them to my wardrobe so I accidentally read them almost every day! I think executive functioning is my biggest difficulty too so when I start occupational therapy I'll ask for lots of help there!
NiamhFrancisPianist 10 months ago
@NiamhFrancisPianist LOL on top of what I already use (white board), you've given me some new ideas :-) I particularly like the idea of sticking things on my wardrobe because I forget that my phone has a calendar, I forget about my computer, and I always forget to write in my diary (I have one, but entries are months apart... due to forgetting about scheduling time for it lol). I'm in vocational rehab, but I think my counselor doesn't understand AS, and so has unrealistic expectations.
JustEmbers 10 months ago
yes that noise was a problem to me i thought it was a fight outside and yes i get lost in buildings i have no idea which way i am faceing...jeff
petchharrison 1 year ago
Oh my god, all of these issues describe me. I was diagnosed with ADD when I was young, but my dad didn't believe that was my problem. I always forgot my homework or forgot I even had homework, or forgot where I put it.
ApollonApostle 1 year ago
@ApollonApostle yeah but take a couple of dexies, and the problem is put at bay. Aspies who use the term "neurotypicals" are just hating on everyone else cause there is no pill that can make them act normal, cause nobody is sure exactly what is wrong with them in the first place -- just that there obviously is.
Best guess I've heard is it's caused by parents thinking its OK to raise a child by bottle-feeding in a crib during the years of life when basic human bonding is learned.
zaphraud 1 year ago
@zaphraud None of that is true. It tends to be genetic. It's not a matter of 'mommy didn't hold me enough'. My daughter shows strong signs of being on the spectrum and I barely ever let her go.
ApollonApostle 1 year ago
@ApollonApostle People will just say her problem is you held her too much, then. Normal people don't need consistency; they only need an excuse, no matter how thin, to abuse and not care about the different.
TOMHYLE88 2 months ago
@zaphraud well i was in care for 6 months from one month old and a lot of the brain grows in the first six months 50 persent so maybe you are not far out...jeff
petchharrison 1 year ago
@zaphraud That's the bullshit Refrigerator Mother hypothesis by the discredited hack Bruno Bettleheim
ssjbriguy 1 week ago
My thoughts "Why can't I do the normal things" is a reoccurring heartbreaking broken record in my head. My boyfriends "Why can't she be normal?" I cannot be left alone, especially if I go out with someone. If they let me go in a store and I cannot find them,. I friek. I get the anxiety also and get blank, especially when I know the answer to the question presented to me. It is like I get nervous, but later on, I will tell you detail for detail everything you wanted to know. I wish I wasntscared
2xhonorrolestudent 1 year ago
@2xhonorrolestudent i know your problem i get lost indoors and i have these odd shutdowns.tell you friends to let you know where they are,hospitals are the worst i have had cancer i have got lost 4 times in hospital...jeff
petchharrison 1 year ago