Although I am not gay and neither is my dad I know what you guys mean in the aspect that when scary having a law enforcement officer in the family my dad has been a sheriff for almost 30 years now and has been in a lot of bad situations and every now and then I wonder if he's okay at work, and I myself and going to be a cop soon too and it drives me crazy the way people act when cops die. R.I.P Dennis.
I wanted to thank Brian & Jeff for thier kind words. Today is a hard day for me being St Valentine's Day. I'm glad it's on Sunday, I'll be able to see my Sweetheart at Christ Church Cathedral in St Louis where I plan on laying a white rose and white carnation. Roses were Dennis's favorite flower, mine Carnations. I really miss my Valentine, I know one day I'll be with him again.
I don't care about gay or whatever(whatever covering all states of status. I don't care about black or white. However, I do care about our fallen officers; military or civilian. God bless him and his family(son and partner) - good video ~ John
This news really saddens me. What they are doing to his partner and his kid is disgusting. It also reminds all of us how people will dismiss us for our sexual preference and how important it is to fight for equality.
Once again I am thankful I found your channel, since you help us become more conscious about the struggles of our fellow LGBT.
I called the Mo. Highway patrol and spoke with a very nice gentleman. he said the obituary was "printed verbatim as received from the funeral home." So it was the family that chose to dishonor their son/brother/nephew by diregarding his partner and son.
I want to thank you guys for making this vid; you put a face to a very tragic story. I have been a supporter of gay rights for years (I'm a str8 woman); my oldest friend is a gay man that I've known for over 38 years. We'd been friends for 16 years when he came out to me and it made no difference to me or our friendship. It make me angry that gays/lesbians are denied the right to marry in most states that heterosexuals take for granted; this story shows why that needs to change.
I live in Missouri near St. Louis and had no idea the late state trooper was gay and left behind a long-time partner and son until the St. Louis Post-Dispatch did a story about it on Jan. 30.
I was in the minority who voted against amending the MO constitution in 04 to define marriage as being between one man and one woman; I am ashamed that our constitution has enshrined discrimination in it. Even if same-sex couples marry where it is legal, Missouri won't recognize that marriage.
Bigoted people are so incredibly cruel. How horrible to deny people's family and relationships. I am so ashamed of the law enforcement in our country who have perpetrated this unconscionable injustice. .
losing your partner when they are everything to you is crippling for the survivor(s). been through it.. im surely gonna send him something. lets all do the same even if its a dollar.. it adds up. lets help our fellow human being here, not to mention a gay brother..
Hope Glossip and his son will have the strength to face this difficult situation of loosing their love, and get the support from their family and friends. My best wish to them.
Jay and Bryan,,,do you know how to post a link on the comment box? You tube won't let me post the link to "The Officer Down Memorial Page" so people can leave messages for Kelly Glossip, the partner of Dennis Engellhard
My prayers go out to his family and fellow officers. The Police do so much for us every day that goes unthanked, and I want to take this opportunity to thank each and every one of you for all you do to make our lives better every day.
What a travisty. I can't believe that the state of Missouri has choosen to leave the main survivors out of the picture. I heard that an officer was killed, but I did not realize that his family dynamics were the way they were. May God be with the family.
Such a great thing you guys are doing, using your channel to draw support for this family (and attention to this issue).
It is a special sort of hero who gives his life for a community in which he does not hold full personhood. I know there are more families in this same situation.
If there isn't a national resource or charity fund for same-sex families in this situation, there REALLY should be.
Can you believe they put the names of his aunts and their husbands but not his partner of 15 years? And the obit on the MHP website has the audacity to ask for donations to the Mo. Association of State Trooper Emergency Relief-of which I'm sure his partner will not see one dime.
It has everything to do with gay marriage if this couple had the protections of marriage his family woudlnt be worried about how to provide for his son.
@bluemoon014, the difference between gays and straights is that your friend's girlfriend could've gone to the justice of the peace with her boyfriend and in 20 minutes she is his wife. Kelly and Dennis did not have that option.
A story like this makes my complaining about having to pay double for my partner's health insurance very small Shame on Mo!
I cannot stop thinking about his biological family.Why did they not step up to the plate and insist that the obituary be correct? Are they still "in the closet" about their relationship and afraid of "what people would say?' If I died and my family omitted my partner I would come back and haunt them!
.Rest in peace Dennis-thank you for your service...
You are absolutely correct about the biological family not insisting the obituary be correct. Without knowing the facts, it certainly looks like they wanted to erase the truth. I am ashamed and disgusted by how cruel people can be. And the sad part is that it is not an isolated incident. I think everyone should write letters to the MHP and the local paper there. This video already has over 1400 views. What if we each write a letter rather than just saying how angry we are!
Seriously..I want to SCREAM right now! That poor family! I just put a check in the mail for them. BUT!!! According to Missouri they don't even exist...how sad!
@bluemoon014 At any time your friend could have gone and gained all those rights for himself. That is the difference. He chose not to, this dead police office did not.
It would perhaps be better if you thought a little more before opening your mouth.
Big difference here. Your friends had the choice to get married or not. That choice was not even an option to these guys.
As for the adoption, we do not know about the biological mother. If she is still alive, a joint adoption may not even have an option in MO.
But to add insult to injury, the cop's obituary said he was single and had no children. I understand that the child was not legally his, but SINGLE... after 15 years?
As I stated earlier, they didn't have the option of getting married like a straight couple would and according to an article I read earlier today, they would have done so if it were legal in MO. Your friends made a choice not to be married
And the fact that he was gay is completely relevant, but because the voters of MO found it necessary to prevent relationships like these to be recognized in their state, thus preventing him and his stepchild from receiving benefits.
And, also as stated earlier, adoption may not have even been an adoption given the specific laws in MO and if the mother is still around, it may not have even been possible to petition for adoption. However, if he were able to be a stepfather, that would be a different story as far as the benefits are concerned.
It wasn't just an obit. that ignored his 15 YEAR relationship, it was a police charity that used his death to help them raise funds for themselves.
Very few gay couples have the means to spend the thousands of dollars it would take on legal fees in order to get only a few of the rights automatically available to married couples.
Marriage is the only the that gives couples these rights... rights that were FORBIDDEN from having no matter how much they wanted it.
i remember when this happened, and i had no idea he was gay, or had a parter. or a CHILD for that matter!
the fact that my own city wont help out a child who lost his father, adopted or not, is very hard to believe. i will do more research on this and if everything you've said is true, i will help you in this fight to see that family get the benifits they deserve.
Thank you for posting this heartbreaking story. My condolences and prayers go to Kelly and their son.
Their story points out the cold cruelty of the enshrined homophobia in state governments. It makes me sad and angry that my state would act in this way.
Your family shows time and time again how caring you are for others and one another. Awesome job making this difficult. I understand that this one was particularily difficult to make.
Heartbreaking. Sadly, this story adds yet another dimension to the argument for equal rights / marriage. As far as making the video itself, I don't know how you made it through to the end. Grateful you did, nonetheless. Thank you for posting the contribution specifics as well.
I'm sick with this story. This is why we need equal treatment, duh. Big hug to the depfox family. The check is in the mail! Tell everyone about this. This family needs all of the love and support we can give them.
Heartbreaking. The law enforcement agency basically doesn't care, obviously the other family members of Dennis, are not helping out and trying to make it clear that Kelly is the partner and should be included in everything along with their son. I feel so very badly. This just makes me more aware of how lucky I am as a heterosexual that I have all my rights and I will always step up to help people like Kelly out. XOXO
This horrible incident shows why it's so important to legalize same sex marriage. This type over story MUST be shown to get the point across.
Shame on Missouri Highway Patrol for showing so little respect for a fellow officer and human being.
My heart goes out to his family.
I have a huge respect for law enforcement and totally understand the dangers they face each and every day. One of my best friends was sworn in last week in CT. A quick THANK YOU toward Jay for the job u do.
Wow, thats so sad. I dont understand it. I dont understand how people can be cruel like this. I mean I have been with my husband for 15 years, and with me being ill even, when I die I know he will be heartbroken but he will be able to have financial help from all that I have acquired in my career. Its sickening that they treat this family like they are throw away. My heart goes out to the officers family, and may Engelhard rest in peace.
I shared this vid for obvious reasons, and don't want to harp on you all the time about Canada, but just think about it. That's all. As a LEO you think about many unpleasant and scary things, but think about this for me, OK? Plans don't happen without action is all that I'm saying.
Condolences to the Leffews, and the folks subject to this grave injustice. and thanks for the link and support for our community. Me and F will donate now.
Dear Jay and Bryan, I am so sorry to hear of this. It most certainly does hit close to home for you but it is also a concern for all of us. St. Louis is my birthplace and I lived in the St. Louis area for 23 years. What occurred doesn't surprise me. I've forwarded a link to this video to friends in the St. Louis area and I will contribute to the Memorial Fund. As difficult as it was, thank you for making this video.
This is so sad. I'm sorry for his family's loss. It must be especially hard for his partner and son to not even be recognized in all that's happening. This isn't just about marriage equality either. People need to recognize that glbt relationships and the families they form are just as valid as heterosexual ones. There seems to be an attitude that homosexual relationships aren't real relationships and gay families aren't real families. It's disgusting.
Wow that's totally unbelievable and unacceptable...It's like they want people to believe that gay people can't be heroic cops and just want to sweep it under the rug. Maybe that's why certain stereotypes thrive. People don't wanna believe they might not be true.
This has happened here in Florida as well. The inhumanity of those who ignore the relationship of the partners and family of the fallen officer is unconscionable. These gay officers give their lives to defend those who will not even acknowledge the rights of the fallen hero.
Awe so sad. Just 1 more reason why I hate str8 people. Some (Like the both of you ~ usually) gay peeps preach tolerance in an effort to make straights understand enough to allow us the same rights as them, but I just can't do that. I'm so full of hatred toward them. I pretty much dish out to them what they (as a whole) dish out to me. & so I think its important to have that diversity. Yes the tolerance way (Matt Shepard way) is important, but I feel so is the radical way (Me). My condolences!
@bradleyvoorheesjams I really hate how some (okay, likely MANY) straight people are treating gays, but remember that there are others that are on your side. I'm straight, and I support gay rights.
And to Bryan and Jay, I'm a little short on cash here in college, but I'll see if I can mail a few dollars in.
@bijoukaiba I agree if it wasnt for our straight friends and family memebers they would still be throwing us in prison or worse. Ps even if you cant send money send a card.
hahha too late. But really, it doesn't. Let me ask you this: Does a straight man's darkside dominate his destiny and consume him because he hates a homosexual? Ahhh didn't think of that one did ya? hahaha!
Depfox, guys +1000s geekpoints for making people laugh.
And Bradley, of course it does. Do you think Fred "puke" Phelps is happy? The life of one who hates is not pleasant.. If one has to hate all the time there is less room for love, laughter, LIFE!
Homophobes nowadays still find some shelter in some religions & groups, but they are more and more ousted. And standing on the outside isn't what people like nor want. Gays can marry in my country, the US will follow. Humanity WILL prevail.
Hi there LeafHuntress:-) Perhaps HE does have a lot of h8 inside, & perhaps hes not happy. But let me assure you, and believe me when I tell you, I h8 a lot of people for a lot of reasons, but (and this is the part I'd like you to pay attention to) I don't lose ANY sleep over it. Not one bit. I am a musician ~ AKA ~ an artist. Pain, misery, hatefulness, spitefulness, agonizing misery, they're all my livelihood. Take what you want from that, but believe this: Everyone is special for who they are.
Ow, about the police website, they ever included his dead relatives in his obituary. That makes me want to scream, include his dead aunt/gran but exclude his love&son?
Dear Brian&Jay, this vid brought tears to my eyes. Lots of cyberhugs & equality WILL come. <3
It breaks my heart to hear of something like that, as well as seeing Jay so torn up. I send my deepest condolences, may he rest in peace. I also hope for the best for his partner and son. A tragedy such as that is not easy.
As a straight female living in the Netherlands this is "really far from my bed" aka "not my problem". As a (i hope) decent human being i just am apalled. I am quite poor (btw the link does not show up in the description box) but i searched the police website until i found a likely e-mailadress. I've sent them a very polite email (maybe there is need to rant, but it would not help) to show a little more heart.
Thanks for this video. It brought tears to my eyes. As we speak, here in Calif., the court case about Prop 8 is going on and the bigots supporting Prop 8 claim same sex marriage will destroy marriage without any proof other than they think gay sex is icky. I hope/wish this video will be seen by the judge and/or could be entered as evidence against Prop 8 and might just break through to those who feel moral superiority over gays in loving relationships.
R.I.P Highway Patrolman Dennis Engelhard. I'm really emotional right now I cant even imagine what his partner & son are going thru. So my condolances to them.
very disturbing, whats more is that this is only one aspect / scenario of what we have to deal with without equal rights. very depressing when i think of how many there are... cmon str8 ppl & apathetic gays get involved! we need numbers! 1 LIFE
God bless the both of you , you are the most amazing people out there and I wish many of us would dedicate ourselves to making these topics known like you do.
That's my home state. I am utterly ashamed, now. Thanks, MHP.
My deepest condolences to the family. I'm gay myself, and it also frightens me to no end to think what would happen to my partner (of five years) if the same thing happened.
This is a very sad story. It's sad not all states have some kind of legal rights for gay couples. These are one of many reasons why gay couples should have all the same rights to marriage.
i know what it feels like when you hear an member of an law enforcement gets killed. i will not want anyone to feel that way. i heart goes out to all families that been thru an death of an law enforcement person
Ugh it's obvious that most straight ppl opposed to same sex marriage don't have a heart.
My prayer will be with them and will try to donate as soon as I can give. Thanks for this story. And I would encourage ppl to send even if it's small amounts it adds up eventually. I wonder if there is some sort of Organization for LGBT police officers in the US that may help in raising money too.
@orkoni I agree no matter how small the amount it will help his family. Im giving all the proceeds that people dontate to help keep bryans blog going this month to his family.
I recently just had a friend pass away! It just seems so unreal to me. But what happened in this case is just horrendous! This is exactly what the LGBT community is talking about. I know that my rights are going to be affected as well when I transition. I think this is a prime example of equality!
This is so so terrible! I hope everything falls back into place for them!
It is kinda sad. I did a search on him and none of the write ups about him ever mentioned his partner. I wonder if that was by his families doing or if the press and blogs just left that info out intentionally.
Irregardless of anyone's beliefs, a man has lost his life and someone is left to pick up the pieces and that is hard for anyone.
How awful, that officials and employers can so easily dismiss the life and contribution to society, of a man solely because he was gay.
Yesterday I was speaking to someone, who when he discovered I had a same sex partner, stated that "you people have came a long way in the last 40 years". Not far enough, if he could say "you people".
And not far enough to have Mr Englehard and his family given proper respect.
Thanks for sharing, that is so saddening. The lost of any life is saddening but when people are left behind and not even noticed or left out of the full picture. That is even worse. I will be donating to help as much as I can.
Thats horrible to hear about something like this and on the day it was on... I can't even imagine what he was thinking when he heard the news, or even after that day. That would crush my whole world and i would want to curl up in a bubble and not talk to anyone if i lost someone close to me. Man, my prayers go to him and they're families.. ..
If there were not enough reasons yet, beyond the cop in Florida, beyond the family in Oregon, beyond the business people in Michigan and so many more. This is why we need equal protection and equal rights.
Although I am not gay and neither is my dad I know what you guys mean in the aspect that when scary having a law enforcement officer in the family my dad has been a sheriff for almost 30 years now and has been in a lot of bad situations and every now and then I wonder if he's okay at work, and I myself and going to be a cop soon too and it drives me crazy the way people act when cops die. R.I.P Dennis.
cmisita 7 months ago
Thanks for posting the video, such bigotted actions by government identity should be called out for their actions.
This man gave his life protecting & serving, whether he's Gay or Str8 shouldn't matter at all.
He and his loved ones deserve the same dignity efforted to any other officer.
They insult him and disgrace the badge & oath they swore to.
ristin59 2 years ago 2
I wanted to thank Brian & Jeff for thier kind words. Today is a hard day for me being St Valentine's Day. I'm glad it's on Sunday, I'll be able to see my Sweetheart at Christ Church Cathedral in St Louis where I plan on laying a white rose and white carnation. Roses were Dennis's favorite flower, mine Carnations. I really miss my Valentine, I know one day I'll be with him again.
KellyGlossip 2 years ago 15
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Sorry, I have no sympathy for people who protect and defend the principles and ideals of the NWo
The real criminals are not only free, they are protected by these goons in fancy costumes
peace :)
haansgruber 2 years ago
You'd like to think that were true, wouldn't you?
LeonSKennedy828 2 years ago
It is absolutely so
because I was speaking about myself (thus the phrase: "I find it difficult to feel sympathy")
in life we find that; what is popular is not always what is right and, what is right is not always what is popular
to serve and protect but, the question is WHO?
peace :)
haansgruber 2 years ago
I don't care about gay or whatever(whatever covering all states of status. I don't care about black or white. However, I do care about our fallen officers; military or civilian. God bless him and his family(son and partner) - good video ~ John
criticalzen 2 years ago
This news really saddens me. What they are doing to his partner and his kid is disgusting. It also reminds all of us how people will dismiss us for our sexual preference and how important it is to fight for equality.
Once again I am thankful I found your channel, since you help us become more conscious about the struggles of our fellow LGBT.
sensoriussupremus 2 years ago
I called the Mo. Highway patrol and spoke with a very nice gentleman. he said the obituary was "printed verbatim as received from the funeral home." So it was the family that chose to dishonor their son/brother/nephew by diregarding his partner and son.
EPRVa62 2 years ago 2
I want to thank you guys for making this vid; you put a face to a very tragic story. I have been a supporter of gay rights for years (I'm a str8 woman); my oldest friend is a gay man that I've known for over 38 years. We'd been friends for 16 years when he came out to me and it made no difference to me or our friendship. It make me angry that gays/lesbians are denied the right to marry in most states that heterosexuals take for granted; this story shows why that needs to change.
Garfield712 2 years ago 3
I live in Missouri near St. Louis and had no idea the late state trooper was gay and left behind a long-time partner and son until the St. Louis Post-Dispatch did a story about it on Jan. 30.
I was in the minority who voted against amending the MO constitution in 04 to define marriage as being between one man and one woman; I am ashamed that our constitution has enshrined discrimination in it. Even if same-sex couples marry where it is legal, Missouri won't recognize that marriage.
Garfield712 2 years ago 4
Bigoted people are so incredibly cruel. How horrible to deny people's family and relationships. I am so ashamed of the law enforcement in our country who have perpetrated this unconscionable injustice. .
laraesque 2 years ago 2
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timhere64 2 years ago
losing your partner when they are everything to you is crippling for the survivor(s). been through it.. im surely gonna send him something. lets all do the same even if its a dollar.. it adds up. lets help our fellow human being here, not to mention a gay brother..
timhere64 2 years ago
Very sad...
geyser 2 years ago
Hope Glossip and his son will have the strength to face this difficult situation of loosing their love, and get the support from their family and friends. My best wish to them.
goingforwardforever 2 years ago 2
Jay and Bryan,,,do you know how to post a link on the comment box? You tube won't let me post the link to "The Officer Down Memorial Page" so people can leave messages for Kelly Glossip, the partner of Dennis Engellhard
hellophoenix 2 years ago 2
My prayers go out to his family and fellow officers. The Police do so much for us every day that goes unthanked, and I want to take this opportunity to thank each and every one of you for all you do to make our lives better every day.
Thank you!
Comixbear1 2 years ago 4
I think this is terrible it is so sad.
DiverforPort 2 years ago 3
Wow, what a wake up call.... I can't imagine the trauma. My thoughts are with them....
ufo8mykat 2 years ago 2
What a travisty. I can't believe that the state of Missouri has choosen to leave the main survivors out of the picture. I heard that an officer was killed, but I did not realize that his family dynamics were the way they were. May God be with the family.
knucles1973 2 years ago 2
Such a great thing you guys are doing, using your channel to draw support for this family (and attention to this issue).
It is a special sort of hero who gives his life for a community in which he does not hold full personhood. I know there are more families in this same situation.
If there isn't a national resource or charity fund for same-sex families in this situation, there REALLY should be.
TheGaySupremacist 2 years ago 4
Can you believe they put the names of his aunts and their husbands but not his partner of 15 years? And the obit on the MHP website has the audacity to ask for donations to the Mo. Association of State Trooper Emergency Relief-of which I'm sure his partner will not see one dime.
EPRVa62 2 years ago 2
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what the hell did this story have to do with gay marriage?
mstep3 2 years ago
It has everything to do with gay marriage if this couple had the protections of marriage his family woudlnt be worried about how to provide for his son.
depfox 2 years ago
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yes, but it sounds to me like it was his decision not to get married to his girlfriend......
mstep3 2 years ago
He was gay. His partner was a guy, not a girl.
Azlaier 2 years ago
Oh Jay :(
orangegoblin82 2 years ago
@bluemoon014, the difference between gays and straights is that your friend's girlfriend could've gone to the justice of the peace with her boyfriend and in 20 minutes she is his wife. Kelly and Dennis did not have that option.
hellophoenix 2 years ago 3
A story like this makes my complaining about having to pay double for my partner's health insurance very small Shame on Mo!
I cannot stop thinking about his biological family.Why did they not step up to the plate and insist that the obituary be correct? Are they still "in the closet" about their relationship and afraid of "what people would say?' If I died and my family omitted my partner I would come back and haunt them!
.Rest in peace Dennis-thank you for your service...
stoner829 2 years ago 3
You are absolutely correct about the biological family not insisting the obituary be correct. Without knowing the facts, it certainly looks like they wanted to erase the truth. I am ashamed and disgusted by how cruel people can be. And the sad part is that it is not an isolated incident. I think everyone should write letters to the MHP and the local paper there. This video already has over 1400 views. What if we each write a letter rather than just saying how angry we are!
EPRVa62 2 years ago 2
Seriously..I want to SCREAM right now! That poor family! I just put a check in the mail for them. BUT!!! According to Missouri they don't even exist...how sad!
stoner829 2 years ago
Thank you Stoner829
depfox 2 years ago
What a country. I am sure there were people who were shocked at Obama's State of the Union speech last night about abolishing Don't Ask -Don't Tell.
Doctors, nurses, paramedics, soldiers, police, those who protect and save lives should have the same rights as everyone else.
Englehard's death is an excellent example of how far this country needs to go to truly become a democracy and freedom for all of it's citizens.
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bluemoon014 2 years ago
@bluemoon014 At any time your friend could have gone and gained all those rights for himself. That is the difference. He chose not to, this dead police office did not.
It would perhaps be better if you thought a little more before opening your mouth.
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ObamasTheBeast 2 years ago
Big difference here. Your friends had the choice to get married or not. That choice was not even an option to these guys.
As for the adoption, we do not know about the biological mother. If she is still alive, a joint adoption may not even have an option in MO.
But to add insult to injury, the cop's obituary said he was single and had no children. I understand that the child was not legally his, but SINGLE... after 15 years?
Did your friend's obit say that he was single?
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bluemoon014 2 years ago
As I stated earlier, they didn't have the option of getting married like a straight couple would and according to an article I read earlier today, they would have done so if it were legal in MO. Your friends made a choice not to be married
And the fact that he was gay is completely relevant, but because the voters of MO found it necessary to prevent relationships like these to be recognized in their state, thus preventing him and his stepchild from receiving benefits.
bearchewtoy75 2 years ago
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bluemoon014 2 years ago
And, also as stated earlier, adoption may not have even been an adoption given the specific laws in MO and if the mother is still around, it may not have even been possible to petition for adoption. However, if he were able to be a stepfather, that would be a different story as far as the benefits are concerned.
It wasn't just an obit. that ignored his 15 YEAR relationship, it was a police charity that used his death to help them raise funds for themselves.
bearchewtoy75 2 years ago 2
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bluemoon014 2 years ago
Very few gay couples have the means to spend the thousands of dollars it would take on legal fees in order to get only a few of the rights automatically available to married couples.
Marriage is the only the that gives couples these rights... rights that were FORBIDDEN from having no matter how much they wanted it.
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bluemoon014 2 years ago
i remember when this happened, and i had no idea he was gay, or had a parter. or a CHILD for that matter!
the fact that my own city wont help out a child who lost his father, adopted or not, is very hard to believe. i will do more research on this and if everything you've said is true, i will help you in this fight to see that family get the benifits they deserve.
almightyseancore 2 years ago 2
I'm touched to the heart by your video and so saddened to hear about what that family is going through.
I don't understand people who are hateful-its like they have black holes where their hearts should be.
phenixwryter 2 years ago 2
Thank you for posting this heartbreaking story. My condolences and prayers go to Kelly and their son.
Their story points out the cold cruelty of the enshrined homophobia in state governments. It makes me sad and angry that my state would act in this way.
bilcal 2 years ago
......hmm, I'm speechless. How can there be people so... Inhuman! I feel really sorry for their lost. Thanks for this video, you guys are awesome!
ric331 2 years ago
Your family shows time and time again how caring you are for others and one another. Awesome job making this difficult. I understand that this one was particularily difficult to make.
StraightActingGayGuy 2 years ago 2
Heartbreaking. Sadly, this story adds yet another dimension to the argument for equal rights / marriage. As far as making the video itself, I don't know how you made it through to the end. Grateful you did, nonetheless. Thank you for posting the contribution specifics as well.
jpmann73 2 years ago 3
jeepers im so sorry...
xxlipzxx 2 years ago 3
Shame Shame on St. Louis for treating the family of a fallen hero in such a way.
Fightdog 2 years ago 5
I'm not gay, but this is sick and twisted. Fuck all of you homophobes. You people are worthless sacks of shit. This includes you to Dad.
FreeSpeechHero 2 years ago 12
OMG I love you for posting that about ur dad! I say that too, in some of my songs! You go yo!
bradleyvoorheesjams 2 years ago
I'm sick with this story. This is why we need equal treatment, duh. Big hug to the depfox family. The check is in the mail! Tell everyone about this. This family needs all of the love and support we can give them.
gymnastict 2 years ago 3
Heartbreaking. The law enforcement agency basically doesn't care, obviously the other family members of Dennis, are not helping out and trying to make it clear that Kelly is the partner and should be included in everything along with their son. I feel so very badly. This just makes me more aware of how lucky I am as a heterosexual that I have all my rights and I will always step up to help people like Kelly out. XOXO
mindya12 2 years ago 4
This horrible incident shows why it's so important to legalize same sex marriage. This type over story MUST be shown to get the point across.
Shame on Missouri Highway Patrol for showing so little respect for a fellow officer and human being.
My heart goes out to his family.
I have a huge respect for law enforcement and totally understand the dangers they face each and every day. One of my best friends was sworn in last week in CT. A quick THANK YOU toward Jay for the job u do.
RickOnEarth 2 years ago 3
Gosh this is just horrible!
codyspencer 2 years ago
Wow, thats so sad. I dont understand it. I dont understand how people can be cruel like this. I mean I have been with my husband for 15 years, and with me being ill even, when I die I know he will be heartbroken but he will be able to have financial help from all that I have acquired in my career. Its sickening that they treat this family like they are throw away. My heart goes out to the officers family, and may Engelhard rest in peace.
Dasplaty 2 years ago
OK, F...
I shared this vid for obvious reasons, and don't want to harp on you all the time about Canada, but just think about it. That's all. As a LEO you think about many unpleasant and scary things, but think about this for me, OK? Plans don't happen without action is all that I'm saying.
Condolences to the Leffews, and the folks subject to this grave injustice. and thanks for the link and support for our community. Me and F will donate now.
kern0099 2 years ago
Absolutely heart wrenching.
:-(
debbieomi 2 years ago 2
This ruined my day. It is utterly horrible.
nicksum29 2 years ago 2
Dear Jay and Bryan, I am so sorry to hear of this. It most certainly does hit close to home for you but it is also a concern for all of us. St. Louis is my birthplace and I lived in the St. Louis area for 23 years. What occurred doesn't surprise me. I've forwarded a link to this video to friends in the St. Louis area and I will contribute to the Memorial Fund. As difficult as it was, thank you for making this video.
chriswcalif 2 years ago 2
This is so sad. I'm sorry for his family's loss. It must be especially hard for his partner and son to not even be recognized in all that's happening. This isn't just about marriage equality either. People need to recognize that glbt relationships and the families they form are just as valid as heterosexual ones. There seems to be an attitude that homosexual relationships aren't real relationships and gay families aren't real families. It's disgusting.
danielzero 2 years ago 2
Wow that's totally unbelievable and unacceptable...It's like they want people to believe that gay people can't be heroic cops and just want to sweep it under the rug. Maybe that's why certain stereotypes thrive. People don't wanna believe they might not be true.
WerewolfOfTheWater 2 years ago 2
Link for the donation please?
GoldAnnaple 2 years ago
Go to Bryan's blog, it's right at the bottom of today's post.
kern0099 2 years ago
This has happened here in Florida as well. The inhumanity of those who ignore the relationship of the partners and family of the fallen officer is unconscionable. These gay officers give their lives to defend those who will not even acknowledge the rights of the fallen hero.
Thank you for sharing this story.
Flanole 2 years ago 2
This is insane! How can human beings treat other human beings this way? It makes the loss twice as devastating for his family - sooo lonely.
mikwid 2 years ago 2
discrimination has so many forms and its sad for me to even think about not being able to enjoy my rights just because i am different from others...
vartimor 2 years ago
This is such a great story... I'm planning on attending his funeral wednesday.
PeaceLoveTeenHippie 2 years ago
You guys look like you both need a hug xx This video has just touched my heart and I so sorry for the lost of Dennis Engelhard.
Love Jen
angelgirl2001 2 years ago 2
Awe so sad. Just 1 more reason why I hate str8 people. Some (Like the both of you ~ usually) gay peeps preach tolerance in an effort to make straights understand enough to allow us the same rights as them, but I just can't do that. I'm so full of hatred toward them. I pretty much dish out to them what they (as a whole) dish out to me. & so I think its important to have that diversity. Yes the tolerance way (Matt Shepard way) is important, but I feel so is the radical way (Me). My condolences!
bradleyvoorheesjams 2 years ago
@bradleyvoorheesjams I really hate how some (okay, likely MANY) straight people are treating gays, but remember that there are others that are on your side. I'm straight, and I support gay rights.
And to Bryan and Jay, I'm a little short on cash here in college, but I'll see if I can mail a few dollars in.
bijoukaiba 2 years ago 5
@bijoukaiba I agree if it wasnt for our straight friends and family memebers they would still be throwing us in prison or worse. Ps even if you cant send money send a card.
depfox 2 years ago
Dont go to the darkside Bradley...forever will it dominate your destiny...consume you it will...
depfox 2 years ago
hahha too late. But really, it doesn't. Let me ask you this: Does a straight man's darkside dominate his destiny and consume him because he hates a homosexual? Ahhh didn't think of that one did ya? hahaha!
bradleyvoorheesjams 2 years ago
Depfox, guys +1000s geekpoints for making people laugh.
And Bradley, of course it does. Do you think Fred "puke" Phelps is happy? The life of one who hates is not pleasant.. If one has to hate all the time there is less room for love, laughter, LIFE!
Homophobes nowadays still find some shelter in some religions & groups, but they are more and more ousted. And standing on the outside isn't what people like nor want. Gays can marry in my country, the US will follow. Humanity WILL prevail.
LeafHuntress 2 years ago
Hi there LeafHuntress:-) Perhaps HE does have a lot of h8 inside, & perhaps hes not happy. But let me assure you, and believe me when I tell you, I h8 a lot of people for a lot of reasons, but (and this is the part I'd like you to pay attention to) I don't lose ANY sleep over it. Not one bit. I am a musician ~ AKA ~ an artist. Pain, misery, hatefulness, spitefulness, agonizing misery, they're all my livelihood. Take what you want from that, but believe this: Everyone is special for who they are.
bradleyvoorheesjams 2 years ago
@bradleyvoorheesjams So many straight people don't hate gays
cmisita 7 months ago
Sad and frustrating. I'd probably wouldn't have heard of this story if it weren't for this channel. Thanks.
EvenEvenOdd 2 years ago 2
Ow, about the police website, they ever included his dead relatives in his obituary. That makes me want to scream, include his dead aunt/gran but exclude his love&son?
Dear Brian&Jay, this vid brought tears to my eyes. Lots of cyberhugs & equality WILL come. <3
LeafHuntress 2 years ago
That is so sad. I had tear in my eyes!
jojo20to1 2 years ago 2
It breaks my heart to hear of something like that, as well as seeing Jay so torn up. I send my deepest condolences, may he rest in peace. I also hope for the best for his partner and son. A tragedy such as that is not easy.
NItemareFrog 2 years ago 2
As a straight female living in the Netherlands this is "really far from my bed" aka "not my problem". As a (i hope) decent human being i just am apalled. I am quite poor (btw the link does not show up in the description box) but i searched the police website until i found a likely e-mailadress. I've sent them a very polite email (maybe there is need to rant, but it would not help) to show a little more heart.
Maybe it'll help them to grow a consience...
LeafHuntress 2 years ago 3
Thanks for this video. It brought tears to my eyes. As we speak, here in Calif., the court case about Prop 8 is going on and the bigots supporting Prop 8 claim same sex marriage will destroy marriage without any proof other than they think gay sex is icky. I hope/wish this video will be seen by the judge and/or could be entered as evidence against Prop 8 and might just break through to those who feel moral superiority over gays in loving relationships.
smrne 2 years ago 2
R.I.P Highway Patrolman Dennis Engelhard. I'm really emotional right now I cant even imagine what his partner & son are going thru. So my condolances to them.
Poeboi 2 years ago
I'm sorry guys
1Vella 2 years ago
very disturbing, whats more is that this is only one aspect / scenario of what we have to deal with without equal rights. very depressing when i think of how many there are... cmon str8 ppl & apathetic gays get involved! we need numbers! 1 LIFE
sleekcartim 2 years ago
God bless the both of you , you are the most amazing people out there and I wish many of us would dedicate ourselves to making these topics known like you do.
sbstnjck 2 years ago
Very sad.
God bless him and his family, and you guys for bringing this horrific news to my ears.
I love what you guys do,
Thank you.
cameronfasho 2 years ago
It is so sad these days that people still do not realize we are all one humanity. My heart goes out to Kelly and son.
strawman007 2 years ago 2
That's my home state. I am utterly ashamed, now. Thanks, MHP.
My deepest condolences to the family. I'm gay myself, and it also frightens me to no end to think what would happen to my partner (of five years) if the same thing happened.
Alisterwolf66 2 years ago 2
that is so awful. Lets all share this video with every one we know.
hardinmichael1981 2 years ago 2
Australia has made some small steps towards equality but its not enough. My partner and I are now executing a 2 year plan to migrate to Canada.
Although I am not in law enforcement, the fear of being left without support when one of us dies is a fear that sits in our minds on a daily basis.
korisx 2 years ago 2
This is a very sad story. It's sad not all states have some kind of legal rights for gay couples. These are one of many reasons why gay couples should have all the same rights to marriage.
thatoneshyguy20 2 years ago 2
hugs and all my wishes to be strong enough....because im with you guys.
xxxx
lailaagrado 2 years ago
aw im so sorry guys =(heart gose out to their family <3
dtsfangirl 2 years ago
i am an son of an (now retired) policeman
i know what it feels like when you hear an member of an law enforcement gets killed. i will not want anyone to feel that way. i heart goes out to all families that been thru an death of an law enforcement person
SOUTHWESTCUB 2 years ago
i am simply speechless... I really cant describe how i feel right now
sadguyfoundout1 2 years ago
Heartbreaking. Simply heartbreaking.
Supportahol 2 years ago 4
Ugh it's obvious that most straight ppl opposed to same sex marriage don't have a heart.
My prayer will be with them and will try to donate as soon as I can give. Thanks for this story. And I would encourage ppl to send even if it's small amounts it adds up eventually. I wonder if there is some sort of Organization for LGBT police officers in the US that may help in raising money too.
orkoni1 2 years ago
@orkoni I agree no matter how small the amount it will help his family. Im giving all the proceeds that people dontate to help keep bryans blog going this month to his family.
depfox 2 years ago
You guys are awesome ppl.
orkoni1 2 years ago 2
Donating the money people give to you to this officer's family is pretty amazing.
And makes it much easier for people (like me) to support the family with an online donation.
mrwoolite 2 years ago
We need equal rights. This is one of the many reasons why this fight is so important. I hope they can get through this most difficult time.
Sheldonian18 2 years ago
I recently just had a friend pass away! It just seems so unreal to me. But what happened in this case is just horrendous! This is exactly what the LGBT community is talking about. I know that my rights are going to be affected as well when I transition. I think this is a prime example of equality!
This is so so terrible! I hope everything falls back into place for them!
bananabread119 2 years ago
This is horrible, you are in my prayers tonight
Jay when you started almost-crying I was in tears :(
CAYOMluver 2 years ago
It is kinda sad. I did a search on him and none of the write ups about him ever mentioned his partner. I wonder if that was by his families doing or if the press and blogs just left that info out intentionally.
Irregardless of anyone's beliefs, a man has lost his life and someone is left to pick up the pieces and that is hard for anyone.
I will see what I can do to help out.
scutter4christ 2 years ago 3
How awful, that officials and employers can so easily dismiss the life and contribution to society, of a man solely because he was gay.
Yesterday I was speaking to someone, who when he discovered I had a same sex partner, stated that "you people have came a long way in the last 40 years". Not far enough, if he could say "you people".
And not far enough to have Mr Englehard and his family given proper respect.
ViewsOfAStarChild 2 years ago 2
It's times like these where i'm ashamed to live in this place we call OUR world... i am speechless... hate seeing you guys like that =(
FruityTeen09 2 years ago 2
this going too happen nation wide if we vote those GOP scoundrels back in it doesn't look good for progressives
howdoiquityou2006 2 years ago
Thanks for sharing, that is so saddening. The lost of any life is saddening but when people are left behind and not even noticed or left out of the full picture. That is even worse. I will be donating to help as much as I can.
Take care and stay safe!
LathanJV36 2 years ago 2
you guys are so kind to speak out, i feel for that family. my prays are with them.
iSeanful 2 years ago 2
Thats horrible to hear about something like this and on the day it was on... I can't even imagine what he was thinking when he heard the news, or even after that day. That would crush my whole world and i would want to curl up in a bubble and not talk to anyone if i lost someone close to me. Man, my prayers go to him and they're families.. ..
ZarkaBoy 2 years ago
If there were not enough reasons yet, beyond the cop in Florida, beyond the family in Oregon, beyond the business people in Michigan and so many more. This is why we need equal protection and equal rights.
RavenBlaze 2 years ago 2
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ku200986 2 years ago 2