what are u a weakling your not a small boys anymore its doesnt matter if your parents approve or not as long you can stand up with them and tell them that your not a child anymore its your choice to be who you want to be with lol. btw i am asian dude
There is one rational solution: Stop being such a pussy and date who you want to date. Your parents can't and should absolutely not try changing the one you love. The heart wants what it wants. If your parents are stuck-up idiots it's their goddamn fault. I understand that they want to have influence over your life (I call it control), but when it comes to the love zone they should just STAY THE FUCK OUT!
Great video. I do disagree a little with what you said about the guy not saying anything to his mom. My last AMBW relationship was with a guy from China whose mother didn't like me AT ALL. She was definitely not shy about it but even though he was living with his parents and they had recently moved here he was still able to respectfully tell her that he loved me and I was the person he wanted to be with. And by doing this things went a lot smoothly between his mother and me.
Another great video :). This is a big problem for AM non-A relationships. I felt that Sung's mother was a little annoyed by me when we first started dating, but now we are really close ^-^. I think as long as the girl has the support of her BF this is an obstacle that can be overcome.
so, this has nothing to do with the message of ur video but the way u make ur "w" sounds annoys me lol its like a pet peeve, but i don't mind if u say cool whip lol but everything else is gaaaah cringe! lol if u dont mind u should work on that xD
@toadette11 I'll need to look into it as I am not sure what you're talking about. But yuh, there's definitely some things I need to work on, particularly my high pitch when i'm tired or struggling with something. Thanks for the heads up =]
@icysparks2007 i mean, like when u say something like "white, or where, when" anything like that u pronounce it like "hwite, hwere, hwen," idk thats a pet peeve of mine
Lol my mom is the "I'm always right, you're always wrong, and if someone else tells me that you are right, then they are wrong as well" type of person lol
I feel bad for saying it, but I would probably snap on my mother if she prohibited a relationship because of race. I love and respect her, but I would not listen. That's just the honest truth.
I still don't understand why asian parents are so strict on not dating outside their race. I mean it may be a tradition to stick to one race, but then it turns to pure racism D: and we miss out on good asian men! It's not fair..
I think that the two of them should stay together, this is not the 1950's anymore, this is 2011! People need to get real, there is nothing wrong with interacial relationships! It sickens me that people still have their heads stuck in the sand about this! SMDH!
@icysparks2007 Yea, My brother is in an interacial relationship and he gets angry stares, questions, angry comments and whispers all of the time. Its like really I wish people would just get a life! Its not hurting anybody for two people of different races to be together, honestly there are more important problems in the world that need attention like homelessness, hunger, education, healthcare, but not what race someone chooses to date or be married to. OASMDH!
(Cont.) I understand that the boyfriend's mom may be suspicious and/or wary of him dating a non-Asian girl. If your friend had been disrespectful or standoffish toward his mom, that would be a different story, but that doesn't seem to be the case. I think the best thing for them to do would be (as you said) to take it slow, and also have a frank talk with the mom about why she feels so strongly. I wish them all the best, though, and if they are meant to be together, then nothing'll stop them.
I understand that people are very protective of their children, and I don't advocate people being disrespectful to their parents. However, it sounds as if your friend is really hurt by this, and it can be a serious blow to someone's self-esteem (especially a girl), when their boyfriend does not take up for them. It sets a precedent that has little chance of improving over time.
@cvaguy I believe every parent has the ability to become culturally open-minded given the right situations. My parents used to only want me to date asians, but after positive experiences with several non-asians, particularly hapas (part-asian part-[ethnicity]), they are open to me dating most ethnicities now.
@cvaguy yeah thats easier said than done. During some holdiays and family get togethers i have to be around them unless i dont go at all and thats not fair to my boyfriend or me for that matter. Were gone at school most of the year its not like i live with his parents.
@brahmancheerleader1 When you graduate from school and find a job hours away from the parents, you will have our own social life which involves much less of the parents. For now, you either put up or fed up, depending on how much love you two have.
@cvaguy well thank you for your advice =] as of now him and i decided that i shouldnt go to family events seeing as we have only been dating for 10 months. College starts back up on august 22 so we will be back in our usual setting so this stress wont be weighing so heavily on our minds.
I understand what u guys are saying. i went through the same thing. and it was tough. even though my situation had more to it... the asian guy i was with did not stand up for me at all in a lot of ways. i know he cared for me,, but his mother was really disrespectful for no reason. sometimes i think you have to find someone who is willing to stand up 4 you. and hes here living on his own.
@CaylaRhene87 I watched your latest video and admire the way you stay positive and treat experiences like these as a challenge. Your experience is something that definitely needs to be heard. By increasing awareness about struggles like these, we can work to resolve them.
@CaylaRhene87 Asking your BF to stand up for you agaist his parents is a sure way for breaking up. If you put yourself in his shoe you will understand.
@cvaguy its just that honestly if someones parents dont know you.. have never met you,, its kinda wrong of them to be disrespectful towards you because of the color of your skin. maybe it think even a little should be said.. even if its just shes a good person.
@CaylaRhene87 I agree with you there. This is the reason why I would rather spend a year or two with my future girlfriend before revealing her to my parents, so that I have plenty of positive things to say and to defend her with (that go more than skin deep).
@keith11689 Yeah... =/ Well, as I discussed in my Interracial Marriage Trends video, the stability of asian marriages is largely due to asian parents. Asian parents are the reason why marrying an asian is so difficult, but they are also the reason why asians have such a low divorce rate. If there is a way we can convince the mom to accept this girl, the trouble of doing so will pay off in the long run. But yeah, I understand what you mean, bro.
THANK YOU SO MUCH! him and i are going into sophomore year and i have decided to take some classes based on what you suggested =]. To answer the living situation question he does live with his parents but not when in college of course. This was very helpful thanks again!
Would she be able to talk to the parent? Like have a genuine conversation. Try to befriend her. That's what I would try. If that doesn't work I guess show her you care in actions.
what are u a weakling your not a small boys anymore its doesnt matter if your parents approve or not as long you can stand up with them and tell them that your not a child anymore its your choice to be who you want to be with lol. btw i am asian dude
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There is one rational solution: Stop being such a pussy and date who you want to date. Your parents can't and should absolutely not try changing the one you love. The heart wants what it wants. If your parents are stuck-up idiots it's their goddamn fault. I understand that they want to have influence over your life (I call it control), but when it comes to the love zone they should just STAY THE FUCK OUT!
kamenos85 6 months ago
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kamenos85 6 months ago
Great video. I do disagree a little with what you said about the guy not saying anything to his mom. My last AMBW relationship was with a guy from China whose mother didn't like me AT ALL. She was definitely not shy about it but even though he was living with his parents and they had recently moved here he was still able to respectfully tell her that he loved me and I was the person he wanted to be with. And by doing this things went a lot smoothly between his mother and me.
JazzyBaby1029 7 months ago
@JazzyBaby1029 AMBW certainly has a hurdle to overcome when it comes to approval by asian parents. Thanks for sharing.
icysparks2007 7 months ago
nice sounding engine
Autofanatic28 7 months ago
@Autofanatic28 Ahahaha
icysparks2007 7 months ago
Another great video :). This is a big problem for AM non-A relationships. I felt that Sung's mother was a little annoyed by me when we first started dating, but now we are really close ^-^. I think as long as the girl has the support of her BF this is an obstacle that can be overcome.
EmIlY72912 7 months ago
@EmIlY72912 I completely agree with you. Strong support by the girlfriend goes a long way :D
icysparks2007 7 months ago
so, this has nothing to do with the message of ur video but the way u make ur "w" sounds annoys me lol its like a pet peeve, but i don't mind if u say cool whip lol but everything else is gaaaah cringe! lol if u dont mind u should work on that xD
toadette11 7 months ago
@toadette11 I'll need to look into it as I am not sure what you're talking about. But yuh, there's definitely some things I need to work on, particularly my high pitch when i'm tired or struggling with something. Thanks for the heads up =]
icysparks2007 7 months ago
@icysparks2007 i mean, like when u say something like "white, or where, when" anything like that u pronounce it like "hwite, hwere, hwen," idk thats a pet peeve of mine
toadette11 7 months ago
@toadette11 Okay got it! I'll fix that :D
icysparks2007 7 months ago
Respond to this video... and the cool hwip thing is from family guy lol
toadette11 7 months ago
This has happened to me as well.
DaleKamp 7 months ago
@DaleKamp Aww, you too? =/
icysparks2007 7 months ago
Lol my mom is the "I'm always right, you're always wrong, and if someone else tells me that you are right, then they are wrong as well" type of person lol
OmgItsEmmie 7 months ago
@OmgItsEmmie That's rough @_@
icysparks2007 7 months ago
I feel bad for saying it, but I would probably snap on my mother if she prohibited a relationship because of race. I love and respect her, but I would not listen. That's just the honest truth.
OmgItsEmmie 7 months ago
@OmgItsEmmie Lets find a way in which we won't need to snap, such as... "Mom, you're wrong!!! *hugs* " :D
icysparks2007 7 months ago
I still don't understand why asian parents are so strict on not dating outside their race. I mean it may be a tradition to stick to one race, but then it turns to pure racism D: and we miss out on good asian men! It's not fair..
cheesesmiles 7 months ago
@cheesesmiles Not all are this strict, but there are enough of them that are which makes relationships like ambw and amwf so difficult.
icysparks2007 7 months ago
@icysparks2007 Ah, I see, but why are they so strict?
cheesesmiles 7 months ago
I think that the two of them should stay together, this is not the 1950's anymore, this is 2011! People need to get real, there is nothing wrong with interacial relationships! It sickens me that people still have their heads stuck in the sand about this! SMDH!
BlaqueReign25 7 months ago
@BlaqueReign25 I agree
icysparks2007 7 months ago
@icysparks2007 Yea, My brother is in an interacial relationship and he gets angry stares, questions, angry comments and whispers all of the time. Its like really I wish people would just get a life! Its not hurting anybody for two people of different races to be together, honestly there are more important problems in the world that need attention like homelessness, hunger, education, healthcare, but not what race someone chooses to date or be married to. OASMDH!
BlaqueReign25 7 months ago
@BlaqueReign25 That's horrible! This has got to change.
icysparks2007 7 months ago
@icysparks2007 I could not agree with you more, it is a horrible thing and it has got to change ASAP!
BlaqueReign25 7 months ago
(Cont.) I understand that the boyfriend's mom may be suspicious and/or wary of him dating a non-Asian girl. If your friend had been disrespectful or standoffish toward his mom, that would be a different story, but that doesn't seem to be the case. I think the best thing for them to do would be (as you said) to take it slow, and also have a frank talk with the mom about why she feels so strongly. I wish them all the best, though, and if they are meant to be together, then nothing'll stop them.
TheSapphireEmpress96 7 months ago
@TheSapphireEmpress96 Great advice =]
icysparks2007 7 months ago
I understand that people are very protective of their children, and I don't advocate people being disrespectful to their parents. However, it sounds as if your friend is really hurt by this, and it can be a serious blow to someone's self-esteem (especially a girl), when their boyfriend does not take up for them. It sets a precedent that has little chance of improving over time.
TheSapphireEmpress96 7 months ago
i like this video, if i ever run into this problem then i ask y'all questions :)
Desi1204 7 months ago
@Desi1204 Okay :D
icysparks2007 7 months ago
If you have a disapproving parents, you need to move away from the parents. I don't see any other solution.
cvaguy 7 months ago
@cvaguy I believe every parent has the ability to become culturally open-minded given the right situations. My parents used to only want me to date asians, but after positive experiences with several non-asians, particularly hapas (part-asian part-[ethnicity]), they are open to me dating most ethnicities now.
icysparks2007 7 months ago
@icysparks2007 That is good for you. But not every parents is like that. It takes a long time to change people's mind...
cvaguy 7 months ago
@cvaguy yeah thats easier said than done. During some holdiays and family get togethers i have to be around them unless i dont go at all and thats not fair to my boyfriend or me for that matter. Were gone at school most of the year its not like i live with his parents.
brahmancheerleader1 7 months ago
@brahmancheerleader1 When you graduate from school and find a job hours away from the parents, you will have our own social life which involves much less of the parents. For now, you either put up or fed up, depending on how much love you two have.
cvaguy 7 months ago
@cvaguy well thank you for your advice =] as of now him and i decided that i shouldnt go to family events seeing as we have only been dating for 10 months. College starts back up on august 22 so we will be back in our usual setting so this stress wont be weighing so heavily on our minds.
brahmancheerleader1 7 months ago
I understand what u guys are saying. i went through the same thing. and it was tough. even though my situation had more to it... the asian guy i was with did not stand up for me at all in a lot of ways. i know he cared for me,, but his mother was really disrespectful for no reason. sometimes i think you have to find someone who is willing to stand up 4 you. and hes here living on his own.
CaylaRhene87 7 months ago
@CaylaRhene87 I watched your latest video and admire the way you stay positive and treat experiences like these as a challenge. Your experience is something that definitely needs to be heard. By increasing awareness about struggles like these, we can work to resolve them.
icysparks2007 7 months ago
@CaylaRhene87 Asking your BF to stand up for you agaist his parents is a sure way for breaking up. If you put yourself in his shoe you will understand.
cvaguy 7 months ago
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CaylaRhene87 7 months ago
@cvaguy its just that honestly if someones parents dont know you.. have never met you,, its kinda wrong of them to be disrespectful towards you because of the color of your skin. maybe it think even a little should be said.. even if its just shes a good person.
CaylaRhene87 7 months ago
@CaylaRhene87 I agree with you there. This is the reason why I would rather spend a year or two with my future girlfriend before revealing her to my parents, so that I have plenty of positive things to say and to defend her with (that go more than skin deep).
icysparks2007 7 months ago
Of course it's the mother that disapproves. I bet if it was an Asian daughter wanting to date a white guy, she'd be supporting it.
I personally think the guy you two are speaking of should go for what he wants and thinks is best....not the parents.
keith11689 7 months ago
@keith11689 Yeah... =/ Well, as I discussed in my Interracial Marriage Trends video, the stability of asian marriages is largely due to asian parents. Asian parents are the reason why marrying an asian is so difficult, but they are also the reason why asians have such a low divorce rate. If there is a way we can convince the mom to accept this girl, the trouble of doing so will pay off in the long run. But yeah, I understand what you mean, bro.
icysparks2007 7 months ago
@winniegoje Nah, we are just average people hahaha ^.^
icysparks2007 7 months ago
THANK YOU SO MUCH! him and i are going into sophomore year and i have decided to take some classes based on what you suggested =]. To answer the living situation question he does live with his parents but not when in college of course. This was very helpful thanks again!
brahmancheerleader1 7 months ago
@brahmancheerleader1 Awesome! Glad we could help :D
icysparks2007 7 months ago
Would she be able to talk to the parent? Like have a genuine conversation. Try to befriend her. That's what I would try. If that doesn't work I guess show her you care in actions.
Lonelyeco 7 months ago
@Lonelyeco Great suggestion!
icysparks2007 7 months ago