Actually, the song was co-written by Don Henry. The other half of this great song writing team was Jon Vezner, who is, BTW, Ms Mattea's husband. I was fortunate to be in a songwriting class under Mr. Vezner. We, of course, twisted his arm to get him to sing this song for the class. Spoiler for this song. Don't Read this or it will forever tain't the song. Vezner says the lady in the song actually said this in a loud, questioning tone of voice, "Where've You Been!" ha
I awaited for Paula [Whom works @ Salem Kroc Center] while I am doing my exercise routines bit no shows from her but thought tomorrow is another day I hopes nothing happens to her because she is so sweet and generous I hopes she reads this so wherever you are @ Paula it's because you didn't came.¡ ;(
I watched a man hold his wife of 66 years hand who died last night of heart complications. If ever two people embodied a song more it was these two. Even with dementia, she would know if he had been to see her. This song makes my heart ache today...
Boy when you pay attention to this song the ending chokes ya up big time. Yeah Kathy big fan here ! Not an alhimerze desease person, , but my anxiety fear of separation anxiety is what hit the mark for me. But I'm all better now, and totally alone with no FEAR! YEAH
my father use to take us to school in his little ranger. we had this on casset. its one of the few songs that bring back so many happy memories sense he is gone. it makes the happy tears worth every moment of this song.
One of my favorite songs of all time, I cry every time I hear it, every time I sing it, it's just very moving. It's love like this that makes life worth while.
This song renews ones faith in the ultimate goodness of people. It illustrates how love is eternal. I love it so very much. It is completely moving. Kathy, you are beautiful and I wish you a long and beautiful life replete with the type of love you sing of here. God bless you forever.
I finally managed an arrangement for this song performed by a single acoustic guitar. Very tough to capture the important movements on one instrument. Kathy's guitar really adds to this mix...when she drops out I miss what I was hearing. I didn't realize she played that well!
Watched this video in my nursing class today when discussing Alzheimers, dementia, and delirium. Many tears from the class. Beautiful song. <3 Great work.
This song still tugs at my heart after all these years. The song is about her husband's grandparents. It was written by her husband and Don Henley and it's more than a lovely tribute. When you find that one you love you just aren't the same without them. Beautiful voice telling this beautiful yet tragic story.
My wife and I went to a CD debut last night at the Silver Tassie in Letterkenny County Donegal for alzheimers disease, and she mentioned this song to Shaun Doherty of Highland radio. We love this song.
I first heard this song in 1999 and immediatley equated it with the relationship and marriage of my grandparents. I travel this week to attend the memorial service of my grandmother. There were married 78 years!
Within moments of hearing of my grandmother's death, this song played on my iPod at work. I became a basketcase.
Now I plan on using the lyrics of this song at her memorial service... I can hear my grandfather saying "Where've you been? I'm just not myself when your away."
my parents were married almost 70 years until she got alzheimers and then a stroke. she died over a year ago. i miss my mother. my father is still alive at 92. but he is alone like the song.
This may seem silly, but I don't care....This is for my best friend and companion for 6 years Lola. She is just more than a cat, she was with me thru my college years. She lost her life 2 years ago and I grieve for her every day....I will see her again in heaven....
To Theladyrebekah & taliesinjones, thank you both for your kind comments. Its been just over a year now, time does not heal, but it makes things easier. I still love this song
I cried when she told us about losing a player during her Christmas show two years ago. I gave her hug, For my mother died and a freind cancer, a friend's mother passed away from cancer.
I sang this song at Karaoke the other day to my friends who had never heard it before... all I have to say is: Niagara falls. If you really want to affect someone, let them hear this song.
A true classic!! My grandparents are now separated by death and she's in the nursing home alone, but they will meet again one day!! God bless anyone suffering w/ Alzheimers!!
The Show Choir I'm in, Herscher "Class Act", did this song as our ballad this past year. The power of this song to move and inspire others is amazing. This is one of the best ballads anyone can pick to sing.
From what I understand this was is based on a personal experience her husband went through with his, I think, parents. Or should I say his parents went through.
Like others, I cannot hear this without 'tearing up', Try it at 65mph. on a freeway, then try to work yourself over to the hard shoulder! love this song.
If this isn't about what love is all about, I don't know what is. An incredibly beautiful, powerful song by an artist with the voice of an angel. I still cry when I hear it.
This is probably my favorite song ever. I basically grew up listening to Kathy Mattea, & some of her songs-especially this one-have contributed to my view of the idealistic love.
This about her husband's grandparents. She said that when she'd spoken to her husband, it was the last time she said anything. She died just a few days later. I'm glad he got to see her. Isn't it ridiculous to keep people apart like that unless it's for different problems?
thank you kathy! havent heard this song in years and you still managed to bring a tear to my eye. Powerful song!truly the power of love! GREAT JOB GREAT SONG!
In the other nursing home under God's thumb nail. That points to where he is. The one whowho whose name is different. And changes with the wind. There are so many cats the squirrels are no longer around, and the trees do not produce acorns but if the cats were out the squirrels would collect acorns again. Bring the dogs in so the cats will come out and be ran off so the squirrels can come back an live with the dogs they get along.
Indeed where have you been? We met so very long ago, one simple kiss remembered all these years, your face imprinted on my heart. now I've found you again... where have you been? My heart is healed by your smile again.
You will! :-) We celebrated 40 years of being together (34 married) today. If somebody can put up with me that long, then there IS somebody for everybody!
I'm so glad I looked up this song, I used to listen to this as a child and just cry my eyes out. I'm 24 and I still cry LOL. Very touching stories. God bless
I lost my wife of 39 years 10 weeks ago to Alzheimers. An illness I would not wish on my worst enemy. This song made me cry. I love Kathy Mattea's voice. A wonderful song.
@pjm290 i hope u r dealing with that as best u can, tho i know it's very hard! my parents were together since my mom was 16...over 33 years...& he died last aug.
it's been tough on her too!
the wistfullness of this song always moves me a lot, i've been married now for just over 2 years & if i could make any wish it would be to grow old with him, & spend the whole rest of our lives together!
@pjm290 great words.....special. I am fearful my father may have the onset of this awful disease which from what I understand only gets worse. this song makes me cry too.....guys are allowed to cry. thanks for your post.
@mekes12 - My heart goes out to you and all others who have a loved one with this disease. One thing I say to you all, and I speak from experience. Carers need lots of support too, take good advice, spread the load, accept help from others. It's no use you becoming ill. I nearly went under, trying to do everything myself. It was only through help from family and friends that I made it. God Bless
@pjm290 Wish there were someway some of us out here could do something to comfort you. But I know that isn't possible.... congratulations on the wonderful 39 years together. So many people have dreamed and hoped for such a relationship. You are a wonderful example to us all.
@pjm290 My father has Alzheimers. This was a favorite song of his every time I hear this I think about my dad and the irony of this song being one of his favorites. He once told me how much he would hate to be in the hospital in separate beds on different floors. Mom and dad have been married 51 years. I know how unfair this disease is and I wish you happiness and peace. Life throws us some whoppers sometimes. Live life now. I am truly sorry for your loss.
After more than half a century of marriage my friend and his wife had to be in separate nursing homes. He recently died, and his wife was brought to the funeral home for the service. Her wheelchair was right up against the coffin, and she spent the entire funeral service looking at her husband's face.
I looked at her, and could hear Kathy Mattea singing this song.
this is one of the most poignant love songs I have ever heard, and whisperingwind, it reminded me of camping at Sugargrove with my wife in the West Virginia Mountains, gonna do it again, make memories we'll never forget.
My parents took us camping alot when I was young, and my mother liked to sing and play her acoustic guitar as we gathered around the bonfire in the evening. I remember she sang a number of songs, and this was one of them. I've always loved it because of that, but this is the first time I have heard it sung by anyone other than my mother. I just now have been surprised to notice my mother sang it exactly the same as Kathy Mattea does here. Exactly as I remember it
sorry to hear that...my grandma had alzheimers as well...we went to see her and when we left she had such a sad look on her face...it broke my heart....last time i saw her alive...God bless you!
Took me 8 years to remember the partial lyrics I knew to this song and finally try google to find it leading me here. Made me cry like the first time all over again : ]
I was on the 91 frwy.Cal. when I 1st. heard this. have the tears ever whelled up in your eyes as you are driving the frwy. at 70mp., then had to try to get to the hard shoulder to bawl like a baby?! True love my friends, true love. Problem is that 'the powers that be' are doing this sort pf thing to couples all the time. Some have been together decades.
I am so luck to be half way there...been married to the same woman for 37 years ! I can not imagine life without her. Words of wisdom...do not marry for sex!!! This song says it all.
Wonderful post! Her voice is so beautiful and this has always been one of my favorite songs...touching...it's right up there with Colin Raye's "Love Me".
Absolutely gorgeous in every way. And I love her anecdote about how the "where've you *been*?!" was originally delivered in rather a different tone. :-) Just goes to show that inspiration can emerge from all kinds of situations.
This is love, just simply put a beautiful song that always reminded me of the love that I saw in my wifes grandparent's eyes. I hope I can show her that I love her this much
this song makes me cry every time i hear it. i think she was standing in my grandfathers room and listened to my grandmother talking to him as he laid dieing. i only hope to share the love they had for 54 yrs with my husband.
Around 1994 I was driving from Chicago to Florida late at night. Just as I crossed into Tennessee this song came on the radio. I didn't who Kathy Mattea was or anything, but I thought ,"This is the most beautiful song I've ever heard" - and it still is.
What a spellbinding performance!! Not a note missed & sung with so much feeling. It even had a lump in the throat of an old cynic like me. Thanks so much for posting it.
Saying good bye is hard...we all have to do it,and in turn at sometime in our life someone will be telling us goodbye...love your family,friends and even your enemies!! Life is short people!!! Live like there is no tomorrow!!
Thank you so much for posting this beautiful song! I remember it when it was such a big hit. What happened to Kathy, she just dropped out of sight? Floyd
Thanks for this song. It was recently the two year aniversery of my grandma's death and it will be the one year of my grandpa next month. This song reminds me of them. Especially the part about sixty years, because when my grandma passed away they had been married for about 65 years. Once again thanks.
I went to see Kathy perform last week, when she described this song and its origins i laughed rather to hard. Apparently the last 'where have you been' she wasn't all nostalgic and emotional... and i quote 'grandma was pissed' ;0)
I was driving the 91fwy. when I 1st, heard this. Come the end I had had to get onto the shoulder, tears in my eyes!! Caught me by surprise. Brilliant, just brilliant!!!!
Kathy begins this video looking like an average housewife, but by the end, she sounds like a goddess who sums up the human experience in one simple song.
this song makes me cry. my dad has alzheimers and we have a tough road ahead. he is only 62. i love him so much. i cry for my mom, they have been together for 42+ years.
I remember this song I love it my mom just passed away this year in june she had Alzeimer as well.Its hard when ur parents cant remember anything but I know she is in a better place now and remembers everthing looking down on me making sure Im ok
my sympathies goes to you and your family, loosing someone very special to such a debilitating disease is very hard. Be comforted to know she is with the Havenly Father.
G D6 C G D6 C G D bdim sounds like the bridge is pretty sused out. any thoughts
gehersh 1 month ago
god this song chokes me up everytime I hear it. AMazing.
Ladysarauk 3 months ago
Love this song!
LOGAPL 4 months ago
Actually, the song was co-written by Don Henry. The other half of this great song writing team was Jon Vezner, who is, BTW, Ms Mattea's husband. I was fortunate to be in a songwriting class under Mr. Vezner. We, of course, twisted his arm to get him to sing this song for the class. Spoiler for this song. Don't Read this or it will forever tain't the song. Vezner says the lady in the song actually said this in a loud, questioning tone of voice, "Where've You Been!" ha
It still inspired a gem.
jbrad1211 4 months ago
I awaited for Paula [Whom works @ Salem Kroc Center] while I am doing my exercise routines bit no shows from her but thought tomorrow is another day I hopes nothing happens to her because she is so sweet and generous I hopes she reads this so wherever you are @ Paula it's because you didn't came.¡ ;(
MrVideowatcher5 6 months ago
I watched a man hold his wife of 66 years hand who died last night of heart complications. If ever two people embodied a song more it was these two. Even with dementia, she would know if he had been to see her. This song makes my heart ache today...
crazdmomof04 6 months ago
Love ,love ,love it. Great song by a wonderful singer.Thanks for this . RCAKEN. ENGLAND.
rcaken 6 months ago
Really nice
MomPPP 6 months ago
This is a great song....written by Don Henry....In my opinion, one of the best written songs ever.
pbrannon 8 months ago
Reminds me of my grandparents. Chokes me up every time.
jwomack94 9 months ago 2
I'm glad I'm not alone about the tears...this song is truly an emotional powerhouse!
pyx1eluvsp0kr 10 months ago
Beautiful song written by Kathy's husband.
Thanks for the post.
johnmorris008 10 months ago
Really great stuff. Wish there was more.
whatihave2do 10 months ago
Always makes me cry - beautiful.
Saskia
SaskiaCornell 10 months ago
I was directed to this link from a Facebook friend, and I do not think I have ever cried so hard over a song in my life.
Spinny78 11 months ago 4
Boy when you pay attention to this song the ending chokes ya up big time. Yeah Kathy big fan here ! Not an alhimerze desease person, , but my anxiety fear of separation anxiety is what hit the mark for me. But I'm all better now, and totally alone with no FEAR! YEAH
cybervisionstar 11 months ago
my father use to take us to school in his little ranger. we had this on casset. its one of the few songs that bring back so many happy memories sense he is gone. it makes the happy tears worth every moment of this song.
saremy9584 11 months ago
Thanks again for all your comments. My heart goes out to all of you who have relatives/friends suffering from this terrible disease.
Thank you Kathy for a truly wonderful poignant song.
God Bless Peter
P.S. I still cry when I hear this song
pjm290 1 year ago 12
@pjm290 i do too
seksamerika 10 months ago
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pjm290 1 year ago
One of my favorite songs of all time, I cry every time I hear it, every time I sing it, it's just very moving. It's love like this that makes life worth while.
maiyeknight 1 year ago 2
This song renews ones faith in the ultimate goodness of people. It illustrates how love is eternal. I love it so very much. It is completely moving. Kathy, you are beautiful and I wish you a long and beautiful life replete with the type of love you sing of here. God bless you forever.
cutbanksam1 1 year ago 2
I finally managed an arrangement for this song performed by a single acoustic guitar. Very tough to capture the important movements on one instrument. Kathy's guitar really adds to this mix...when she drops out I miss what I was hearing. I didn't realize she played that well!
supertrippfan 1 year ago
We played this song at our wedding 15 years ago today! I still love it as much now as I did then.
kerriwh 1 year ago
Watched this video in my nursing class today when discussing Alzheimers, dementia, and delirium. Many tears from the class. Beautiful song. <3 Great work.
18BlueEyes 1 year ago
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This song still tugs at my heart after all these years. The song is about her husband's grandparents. It was written by her husband and Don Henley and it's more than a lovely tribute. When you find that one you love you just aren't the same without them. Beautiful voice telling this beautiful yet tragic story.
L8dyJane 1 year ago
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L8dyJane 1 year ago
for Leigh, Trojan & Nicola (goy beorge is a total fukin' nutcase loser)
JeSuisMonAmiPourTu 1 year ago
This song touches my heart like you wouldn't believe.............
Allisonhopkins24 1 year ago
My wife and I went to a CD debut last night at the Silver Tassie in Letterkenny County Donegal for alzheimers disease, and she mentioned this song to Shaun Doherty of Highland radio. We love this song.
Greg and Margaret Drake
egdrake 1 year ago
For my bride of 51 years.
Alpha and Omega.
olepaw1 1 year ago 2
This song gives me chills - it's so beautiful and touching
Brooklinres 1 year ago 2
Beautiful song and message. I love to look at the newspaper announcements and photos of couples who have been married 50+ years. What a Godly legacy!
MrCairokid 1 year ago
thank you for posting this song. I have been looking for it for years.
thank you
waynemacfarlane 1 year ago
this one always makes me cry. I lost my mother to Alzhenmier's.
htarceno 1 year ago 2
I first heard this song in 1999 and immediatley equated it with the relationship and marriage of my grandparents. I travel this week to attend the memorial service of my grandmother. There were married 78 years!
Within moments of hearing of my grandmother's death, this song played on my iPod at work. I became a basketcase.
Now I plan on using the lyrics of this song at her memorial service... I can hear my grandfather saying "Where've you been? I'm just not myself when your away."
cleggja 1 year ago
where is my edwin?
lucierueth 1 year ago
CJ from West Wing?
goofywilly 1 year ago
i am a nurse and used to worked with Alzheimers patients and this song is so touching and powerful. love it
hperkins38 1 year ago
my parents were married almost 70 years until she got alzheimers and then a stroke. she died over a year ago. i miss my mother. my father is still alive at 92. but he is alone like the song.
hairyman 1 year ago
Beautiful ballad ... beautiful love story ... wish it could be this way in real life ..........
ladydrummond 1 year ago
super sweet song!
mrod1425 1 year ago
Everytime I hear this song I just cry, hits close to home.
swycguy 1 year ago
This may seem silly, but I don't care....This is for my best friend and companion for 6 years Lola. She is just more than a cat, she was with me thru my college years. She lost her life 2 years ago and I grieve for her every day....I will see her again in heaven....
jlhist64 1 year ago
To Theladyrebekah & taliesinjones, thank you both for your kind comments. Its been just over a year now, time does not heal, but it makes things easier. I still love this song
pjm290 1 year ago
I cried when she told us about losing a player during her Christmas show two years ago. I gave her hug, For my mother died and a freind cancer, a friend's mother passed away from cancer.
GinnyStar2 1 year ago
I sang this song at Karaoke the other day to my friends who had never heard it before... all I have to say is: Niagara falls. If you really want to affect someone, let them hear this song.
mungbean4u 1 year ago
A true classic!! My grandparents are now separated by death and she's in the nursing home alone, but they will meet again one day!! God bless anyone suffering w/ Alzheimers!!
greeneyeslinz 1 year ago
The Show Choir I'm in, Herscher "Class Act", did this song as our ballad this past year. The power of this song to move and inspire others is amazing. This is one of the best ballads anyone can pick to sing.
spectacular1440 1 year ago
From what I understand this was is based on a personal experience her husband went through with his, I think, parents. Or should I say his parents went through.
Like others, I cannot hear this without 'tearing up', Try it at 65mph. on a freeway, then try to work yourself over to the hard shoulder! love this song.
rafhenlow 1 year ago
I love this song..... to find love like that is rare. Makes me cry every time.
loaner444 1 year ago
Gives me chills......
dannyd1572 1 year ago
i've spent the last 20 years tearing up whenever i hear this song.
tranurse 1 year ago
Thank you so much for posting this! What a beautiful song!
adornic 1 year ago
I love this song. Wow.
rhocando 1 year ago
this is one of those songs that can make me bawl like a baby.
ffejbboc 1 year ago
I don't care how much of a tough man you think you are...this song will make you cry everytime you listen to it.
SPAZraptor 1 year ago 2
i dont know how she can sing this without crying!
pauletta1972 1 year ago
Bless you,pjm290
watcherofolde 1 year ago
This song gets me everytime...WoW!
guinnessman1965 1 year ago
this song means so much to me... Mom I miss you everyday and you always told me we all will meet again I hope you are right
wrestlinggonewrong97 1 year ago
i like that song, kathy mattea will give a concert in my town in 2 weeks from now, i ll be able to enjoy her sining on live :)
shaurora26 1 year ago
I will sing this to my beloved when I see him .... soon
I say forever and a day all the time.. it is in my first novel.. Namaste
DBLorgan
dianep888 1 year ago
I have played this to widows/widowers, like myself and we have all wept knowing just how they felt. A beautiful and soo so true song.
ahyams1 1 year ago
crap ... after 20 years I still can't hear this song without crying. just beautiful.
jameypittman 1 year ago 21
@jameypittman right there with ya !
j22kl5777 1 year ago
If this isn't about what love is all about, I don't know what is. An incredibly beautiful, powerful song by an artist with the voice of an angel. I still cry when I hear it.
butfulmuzik 1 year ago
For myself, and my friends, don't forget lonesome ole gay lovers as well.
verbaud 1 year ago
This is probably my favorite song ever. I basically grew up listening to Kathy Mattea, & some of her songs-especially this one-have contributed to my view of the idealistic love.
ValkyrieVaryn 1 year ago 2
This about her husband's grandparents. She said that when she'd spoken to her husband, it was the last time she said anything. She died just a few days later. I'm glad he got to see her. Isn't it ridiculous to keep people apart like that unless it's for different problems?
TheWagbert 1 year ago
thank you kathy! havent heard this song in years and you still managed to bring a tear to my eye. Powerful song!truly the power of love! GREAT JOB GREAT SONG!
AlirU100 1 year ago 3
Thanks Kathy,
My mom passed away last year, this always reminds me of her. I love you mom xoxo your son Shawn...
runnerrman 1 year ago
This song makes me cry!
Vickie1300 1 year ago
I love this song I havent heard it in years
msmoonbeam91 1 year ago
your great kathy i have been enjoying all your songs i love coal tatoo i am trying to learn it mitzie
guitardolly 1 year ago
this is the kind of love i am looking 4
quehlcote 1 year ago
It will appear when you're least expecting it.
sibersong 1 year ago
It will appear when you least expect it.
sibersong 1 year ago
The world needs more love stories like this one!
coug0899 1 year ago 4
In the other nursing home under God's thumb nail. That points to where he is. The one whowho whose name is different. And changes with the wind. There are so many cats the squirrels are no longer around, and the trees do not produce acorns but if the cats were out the squirrels would collect acorns again. Bring the dogs in so the cats will come out and be ran off so the squirrels can come back an live with the dogs they get along.
boxerpup7 1 year ago
I cannot NOT cry when I hear this song. Same as when I first heard it 20 years ago!
jukaswo 2 years ago 2
This is one of the few songs that made me well up when I heard it the first time, it's so beautiful and powerful.
1shortee 2 years ago 2
My Lord! This is just simplybeautiful!!
WOW! Some CC commenters are poets in there own right! xo
santamara 2 years ago
That's what True Love does to people!!
It would do the rest of the world a whole lot of good to embrace it!! xo
Resonantforce 2 years ago 2
LOL @ true love.
msm318 2 years ago
I lost my grandfather to Alzheimers'..this song hits the nail on the head...
thespontaniousblobs 2 years ago 2
Indeed where have you been? We met so very long ago, one simple kiss remembered all these years, your face imprinted on my heart. now I've found you again... where have you been? My heart is healed by your smile again.
TGriff48 2 years ago 2
Sometimes The past meets the present.
Hello past, nice to meet you again.
Where have you been?
Love Always.
RockArtLove 2 years ago
I still love you, Abigail.
-John
78kljk 2 years ago
I can only hope I find love like that one day
shuley1536 2 years ago
I hope you do too:)
lbck1 2 years ago 2
Me too. And if you havent found it yet I wish that for you as well
shuley1536 2 years ago 2
You will! :-) We celebrated 40 years of being together (34 married) today. If somebody can put up with me that long, then there IS somebody for everybody!
ChrisCurtisFan 2 years ago
That is great ... I wish you many many more years of happiness..
shuley1536 2 years ago
For my Mads, I'm just not myself when your'e away..."
Engelen51 2 years ago
I'm so glad I looked up this song, I used to listen to this as a child and just cry my eyes out. I'm 24 and I still cry LOL. Very touching stories. God bless
greeneyeslinz 2 years ago
If I'm not mistaken, Kathy was inspired to write this song because of her husband's grandparents.
BethnJulia 2 years ago
I lost my wife of 39 years 10 weeks ago to Alzheimers. An illness I would not wish on my worst enemy. This song made me cry. I love Kathy Mattea's voice. A wonderful song.
Thank you
pjm290 2 years ago 49
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sandykhusted 1 year ago
@pjm290 I hope things are better for you now!
taliesinjones 1 year ago
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TheLadyrebekah 1 year ago
@pjm290 i hope u r dealing with that as best u can, tho i know it's very hard! my parents were together since my mom was 16...over 33 years...& he died last aug.
it's been tough on her too!
the wistfullness of this song always moves me a lot, i've been married now for just over 2 years & if i could make any wish it would be to grow old with him, & spend the whole rest of our lives together!
TheLadyrebekah 1 year ago
@pjm290 my deepest sympathy, god bless.
4wdRam 1 year ago
@4wdRam Thank you for your kind thoughts. God Bless
pjm290 1 year ago
@pjm290 great words.....special. I am fearful my father may have the onset of this awful disease which from what I understand only gets worse. this song makes me cry too.....guys are allowed to cry. thanks for your post.
mekes12 1 year ago
@mekes12 - My heart goes out to you and all others who have a loved one with this disease. One thing I say to you all, and I speak from experience. Carers need lots of support too, take good advice, spread the load, accept help from others. It's no use you becoming ill. I nearly went under, trying to do everything myself. It was only through help from family and friends that I made it. God Bless
pjm290 1 year ago
@pjm290
mrod1425 1 year ago
@pjm290 Wish there were someway some of us out here could do something to comfort you. But I know that isn't possible.... congratulations on the wonderful 39 years together. So many people have dreamed and hoped for such a relationship. You are a wonderful example to us all.
ladydrummond 1 year ago
@pjm290 It almost makes me cry everytime I hear it.Just rememeber one day Ya'll will together again and she will say "Where you've been"
emt1605 1 year ago
@pjm290 I am sorry for your loss Sir. This is a 1 year old reply, however, I pray you have found some peace. Mike
mdegerness 1 year ago 2
@pjm290 My father has Alzheimers. This was a favorite song of his every time I hear this I think about my dad and the irony of this song being one of his favorites. He once told me how much he would hate to be in the hospital in separate beds on different floors. Mom and dad have been married 51 years. I know how unfair this disease is and I wish you happiness and peace. Life throws us some whoppers sometimes. Live life now. I am truly sorry for your loss.
alifishhead 1 year ago
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pjm290 1 year ago
After more than half a century of marriage my friend and his wife had to be in separate nursing homes. He recently died, and his wife was brought to the funeral home for the service. Her wheelchair was right up against the coffin, and she spent the entire funeral service looking at her husband's face.
I looked at her, and could hear Kathy Mattea singing this song.
KarenWrites 2 years ago 3
this song makes my mom and I bawl like babies...
Jamiev440 2 years ago
this is one of the most poignant love songs I have ever heard, and whisperingwind, it reminded me of camping at Sugargrove with my wife in the West Virginia Mountains, gonna do it again, make memories we'll never forget.
PetulantKim 2 years ago 3
My parents took us camping alot when I was young, and my mother liked to sing and play her acoustic guitar as we gathered around the bonfire in the evening. I remember she sang a number of songs, and this was one of them. I've always loved it because of that, but this is the first time I have heard it sung by anyone other than my mother. I just now have been surprised to notice my mother sang it exactly the same as Kathy Mattea does here. Exactly as I remember it
whisperingwind2 2 years ago 25
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beautiful
htarceno 1 year ago
too bad everyone can't find a claire or edwin. so sad
ABluEyeDixiChik 2 years ago 4
This was my wedding song... now today we buried Grandpa... the circumstances were identical Grandma has alzheimer's... made me cry... Powerful song!
tastethegrace2009 2 years ago
sorry to hear that...my grandma had alzheimers as well...we went to see her and when we left she had such a sad look on her face...it broke my heart....last time i saw her alive...God bless you!
yetitracker 2 years ago 3
nice song. remeber it from long ago
TheBlacksheep2020 2 years ago
She had a video that accompanied this song, but I don't seem to be able to find it. One of the most beautiful songs she has put out.
SuperKilgore 2 years ago
My sweetheart and I will celebrate 30 years next year. Where did the time go? But I love her more than I did all those years ago.....
geldridge 2 years ago 4
Took me 8 years to remember the partial lyrics I knew to this song and finally try google to find it leading me here. Made me cry like the first time all over again : ]
solarieq 2 years ago 4
I absolutely love this song! Best love song ever!!!!
jcarrillo6969 2 years ago 3
I was on the 91 frwy.Cal. when I 1st. heard this. have the tears ever whelled up in your eyes as you are driving the frwy. at 70mp., then had to try to get to the hard shoulder to bawl like a baby?! True love my friends, true love. Problem is that 'the powers that be' are doing this sort pf thing to couples all the time. Some have been together decades.
rafhenlow 2 years ago 4
GOOD SONG!!!!
tommy30507 2 years ago 2
beautiful, touching - true love is indeed frever
Tundrazzy 2 years ago 5
I remember the first time I heard this song. Great song.
09bloctfan 2 years ago 4
mmmmh! I LOVE this song!
sheltona1 2 years ago
I am so luck to be half way there...been married to the same woman for 37 years ! I can not imagine life without her. Words of wisdom...do not marry for sex!!! This song says it all.
tall65dude 2 years ago 2
we have been together for 45 years. love the lyrics
chitlin1369 2 years ago 4
this made me cry. so beautiful
franigirl 2 years ago 2
My mom is in heaven now singing this to my Dad who is still here..they were married 62 years
5kevmol 2 years ago
I love this song
redstonenuts 2 years ago
This song is unbelievably good
zookzs 2 years ago
cried my eyes out
audrey661 2 years ago
I cant listen to this without crying.. I really miss my dad.. And this makes me think of him so much..
iluvsmakeup 2 years ago
Saw Kathy at Shakori Hills Pittsboro n.c. What a Great person.
Jack from Iowa said thanks.
see you next year.
EarlHoward1 2 years ago
i1111111
krout1967 2 years ago
Wonderful post! Her voice is so beautiful and this has always been one of my favorite songs...touching...it's right up there with Colin Raye's "Love Me".
oldetavern 2 years ago
Absolutely gorgeous in every way. And I love her anecdote about how the "where've you *been*?!" was originally delivered in rather a different tone. :-) Just goes to show that inspiration can emerge from all kinds of situations.
faulknmd 2 years ago
it was the '89 or '90 when i heard it first and it still touches my heart - timeless.
katsmiau 2 years ago 2
I can't listen to this song without crying.
Oh, my dear sweet father - so sick~ I dedicate this to my Dad. Such a beautiful
song -- "where have you been? I've looked for you forever and a day...
I'm just not myself when you're away"
thank you, for posting this.
rosesredvioletsblue 2 years ago 3
This is love, just simply put a beautiful song that always reminded me of the love that I saw in my wifes grandparent's eyes. I hope I can show her that I love her this much
Mercutioh 2 years ago 3
Her husband Jon Vezner wrote such a beautiful song....my dad has Parkinson's Disease....and the song touches me even more...if that is possible.
SmoothDemocrat 2 years ago
this song makes me cry every time i hear it. i think she was standing in my grandfathers room and listened to my grandmother talking to him as he laid dieing. i only hope to share the love they had for 54 yrs with my husband.
jeanne173 2 years ago 2
This is one of the sweetest songs ever written. ILOVEIT!!!!!
1997imfree 2 years ago 2
Thank your for posting this absolutely beauitful song. It makes me remember the love my grandparents had for each other.
virginiatforever 2 years ago 2
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virginiatforever 2 years ago
Around 1994 I was driving from Chicago to Florida late at night. Just as I crossed into Tennessee this song came on the radio. I didn't who Kathy Mattea was or anything, but I thought ,"This is the most beautiful song I've ever heard" - and it still is.
brucerby 2 years ago
This song is so Beautiful. Babe, she is singing about us!
jcarrillo6969 2 years ago
One of the most beautiful songs ever written.
cweiandnd 2 years ago
This is the only song that ever made me cry~
WireDream 2 years ago
i glad we found each other....
elizabethlee2008 2 years ago
Simply amazing!!!! This song was my first introduction to Kathy Mattea and still brings me chills!!!
DAVEJJR 2 years ago
What a spellbinding performance!! Not a note missed & sung with so much feeling. It even had a lump in the throat of an old cynic like me. Thanks so much for posting it.
1955poet 2 years ago
Saying good bye is hard...we all have to do it,and in turn at sometime in our life someone will be telling us goodbye...love your family,friends and even your enemies!! Life is short people!!! Live like there is no tomorrow!!
conleeweb 2 years ago
Thank you so much for posting this beautiful song! I remember it when it was such a big hit. What happened to Kathy, she just dropped out of sight? Floyd
Thank you for sharing this with me Diana!
dahoser44 2 years ago
Where've you been? xoxoxox
bille1954 2 years ago
Her voice is so pure and lovely. I like how she puts her soul into her music.
BluegrassGreeneyes 2 years ago
Thanks for this song. It was recently the two year aniversery of my grandma's death and it will be the one year of my grandpa next month. This song reminds me of them. Especially the part about sixty years, because when my grandma passed away they had been married for about 65 years. Once again thanks.
thomas000012 2 years ago
Just a remarkable song! :)
I've always just adored this beautiful song..and her voice is just adds to it!!
UGASouthernGirl23 2 years ago 2
I went to see Kathy perform last week, when she described this song and its origins i laughed rather to hard. Apparently the last 'where have you been' she wasn't all nostalgic and emotional... and i quote 'grandma was pissed' ;0)
TheBadgerousOne 3 years ago
This songs means so much to me...
really makes me miss my father in-law~ He was my best buddy~~ Orvial Buckner
:)
GeorgeStrait1986 3 years ago
A Farewell
We say goodby a lot this time of day.
The sun is going down; the shadows grow too long.
We knew the day would end but still,
We say goodby too much this time of day.
Bill Reich
Copyright ©2001 Bill Reich
WillInNewHaven 3 years ago
What a versatile musician. In my opinion,she's more at home in this small venue than in a concert hall. But that dosen't pay the bills.
rocker53zero 3 years ago
I was driving the 91fwy. when I 1st, heard this. Come the end I had had to get onto the shoulder, tears in my eyes!! Caught me by surprise. Brilliant, just brilliant!!!!
rafcosford 3 years ago
i can relate this song to the movie THE NOTEBOOK. i saw it tonight amazing movie.
but this song is very touching.
bradmann85 3 years ago
Tears... sniff sniff... tears
MySonsMama 3 years ago
Kathy begins this video looking like an average housewife, but by the end, she sounds like a goddess who sums up the human experience in one simple song.
nihonjoe06 3 years ago
Just amazing. I have tears.
Shishondra 3 years ago
This is really a very emotional song. it made me cry whenever i heard it. thanks for uploading this.
musingslaughter 3 years ago
What an amazing song, with such depth... fits my life perfectly right now.
DP4C 3 years ago
Thank you for posting.
I'm glad to see that this song gets better with age, for both performer and listener.
Much love and respect to Ms. Mattea.
williambenton 3 years ago
this song makes me cry. my dad has alzheimers and we have a tough road ahead. he is only 62. i love him so much. i cry for my mom, they have been together for 42+ years.
littlelola33 3 years ago
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inthedeed 3 years ago
I remember this song I love it my mom just passed away this year in june she had Alzeimer as well.Its hard when ur parents cant remember anything but I know she is in a better place now and remembers everthing looking down on me making sure Im ok
navymom1966p 3 years ago 2
my sympathies goes to you and your family, loosing someone very special to such a debilitating disease is very hard. Be comforted to know she is with the Havenly Father.
CelticGent355 3 years ago