I just started up a vlog here on youtube and I'm excited to get started... I've only put up a few so far and I'm linking them on my facebook so pretty much everyone knows I'm doing them. Honestly I think some of my friends are sick of hearing about youtube lol... But they seem to enjoy my videos
@gabsgobygab555 At first I was shocked...by your usage of 5 (!) exclamation points! But(t) then I realized that it was part of your stand-up routine...what?
Only my husband knows I make videos, and he just thinks it's cool. I don't tell everyone I know because I think it'd make me feel vulnerable in some way. You'd think with the advent of Facebook and Myspace people would understand. Youtube is just like writing a note on FB, but with video instead of text. That's all it is. People don't think blogs are weird...but vlogs are still a bit misunderstood.
this video is incredibly touching and evokes so much emotion. I hope you find a way to dispell all the negativity in ur life because its up to us who we keep in our lives and who we choose to let affect our persona. You're a lovely woman and Im glad i found ur channel!!
No one should ever make you feel wrong for letting your expressions be known. I pretty much disagree with everything your boyfriend said. Everything. I could make counter arguments but comments can only be a certain amount of characters. lol.
It's very unfair to be given an intervention for something like this. He needs to try it for himself. Either he attempts to see what you see or he stays quiet. That's the only way he wouldn't sound like he's on a high horse.
Sorry I also wanted to comment on the the whole internet thing and how long it has been around.
I think you have to think of it like those scales in the star sign libra.
Not having the internet in the world far out weighs the having the internet in the world so yeah I think it will still have some getting use to.
Also regarding the friends commenting on your own life it is like what my friend says to me when I comment "its none of there !@#$ business" unless you ask for there opinion.
I am 'out' to my friends and family though, apart from a few, none of them know how to find me on YT. I don't think many of them really understand why I do it but they take on board that I've e-met a lot of people from different parts of the world and that I find that exciting.
I get the distinct feeling that Brits around my age (33) in the UK don't really get the whole YT community thing, as opposed to the States for example.
This video made me so sad... it must be hard to not have support in your (i hesitate to say your real life)... some people just don't get that we are part of a support group.. they don't understand how real the relationships, support and accountability are...
I think weird people are interesting :) I personally don't listen to negativity so I'm not really under cover. But I don't do weigh-in because I don't want my dumb ass ex boyfriend''s negative comments "you weigh that much". Good for you for not letting a man stop you from doing what you want. It's not like you are naked on the vids..
@WorkOnWellness "It's not like you are naked on the vids...: You thusly touch upon the ONE negative aspect of them. Even a little belly dancing ("gut-grinding") would be greatly appreciated...incorporated into a dream sequence? (TIC)
I'm undercover. I make videos but I'm not in them. A lot of people don't get it though but I use to spend as much time watching TV as I do now watching YT videos. From my experience on this site. I think people that make videos become more self confidence overtime because they learn how to express themselves better. You pick up a lot of skills about editing and filming. You learn a lot about marketing even if you are not into building a big audience. It's hard to make an interesting video.
The thing I enjoy the most about YT is watching people's progress in their video making and seeing them get better over time. I think your boyfriend is a lot insecure. From my experience people kinda go through phases with YT. When you start getting into it. You go through a couple of months of being obsess with it then that fades overtime. It happens to everybody that gets into YT. I seen it from geeky kids to glamorous diva like singers. It's just like "hey people want to watch me"..
Oh I'm very much "out". Pretty much everyone knows. Hell, at one point after work some of my mates put my youtube videos on all the screens in a pub o0
My mother and father also knows, however they dont know the adress for them, which is because I talk about subjects that I at times dont feel comfortable sharing with them.
Yes, we all have to seperate our audience here i suppose. Good to find you from Krum and keep expressing your yourself with abandon. Real friend should embrace your creations, and help with ideas and want to be included! I totally relate to your situation!!
Hey, Thanks for watching and commenting! It's a shame really that people look on youtubing the way they do but, it's people that don't know / understand it that do this so.. understandable! Thank you :-)
This is Chris, a friend of Jordan Krumbine. I have watched your vids and I must say, they are pretty awesome! The music, the angles, the editing, great stuff! My view on what you were talking about is that you are doing great things. Doing this IS creative and helping your life. Kudos to you! The people here aren't weird, and if they seem that way...it's only because they are truly creative. You are awesome! I shall subscribe!
Hey Chris, thank you!! Glad you like them. Any friend of Jordan's must be an awesome guy! Do you know him in real life? What's he like? (Would love to know if it's similar to on camera!)
Thanks for this cool comment and for the support. Em x
People judge me when I tell then I met my fiance online. Honestly, I wish people would be more open-minded. Had the internet not existed, I would have never met him, we lived across the country from one another.
People can be such assholes. I met two partners online and had great relationships with both...they were just as valuable as relationships in person. I think the internet gives us a much broader scope to meet people who are possible a lot more compatible to us
On another note...this is the first vid I've seen of yours. I came across it seeing someone elses response to your video. I have to say...great editing skills! You're very talented.
i made a remark that i will start posting youtube videos to my gf...its resulted in a massive arguement and a possible ending of the relationship bcoz she thinks im doing it for female attention...i instantly thought back to this video
Ya know, I've just watched this again, and safe to say if I ever met that twit, I'd probably knock him around.... and I'm not a violent guy. I'm just one of those weirdo's you talk to on the interwebs! lol
I watched your video feeling sorry for you, it seems you are getting crusifide. Beaten up of sorts. It hurt me to watch you, though you spoke your piece, still sad. I simply tell whom I want to tell. My 3 daughters know, they all think its crazy cool. My hubby knows, he's fine, and sometimes helps, and I have friends that know. so far so good. I am sorry for what your going through!
I'm glad your daughters and husband think it's cool. My BF has actually moved out of my home now (this video made me realise a few things) - thank you for your support! x
Hey! I'm an "outed" VLogger, in the sence that I've never hidden the fact that I've blogged. And I suppose you can tell my my user name (my real name), that I don't care if people from "RL" find me here or not.
I think the key is to not put anything on the net that would be horrible if anyone you know found it. But other than that... I can't say anyone's reacted negatively towards me for vlogging. It seems weird that anyone would.
Thanks for your comment! I kinda use this as a way to express myself but there are a lot of things on here that are quite personal. However, I haven't given away too much information about myself in real life (such as real name) so I think I'm ok :-)
I don't mean to be insensitive, but I am very glad your BF is moving out. I think he is toxic and unhealthy for you to be around. Since I have a PhD, I hardly think that I'm an unintelligent idiot and i'm also fat, so his cracks about fat wierdos were just as insulting. And who isn't a little wierd. Everyone has quirks. That's part of what makes people interesting. I really don't like the way he talks to you. By saying these things, he's also saying them about you. Kick him to the curb.Hugs
I'm dirty and uninteresting and a weirdo and have a personality disorder and I'm totally a pervert, but I am also your friend. Take that, off-screen asshole.
Your friends & BF R bothered by 2 things. 1. The effects that Utubing is having on U. They see the changes & they R not the U they have always known & it scares them b/c they do not know how 2 work with/control U anymore. They R struggling with having 2 change how they relate 2 U & need something 2 blame.......that would B us fucking, daft, unintelligent idiots! Plus, they see the changes R good and feel bad that we helped U get there & not them....guilt & jealousy. #2 is coming...........
#2 is that of fear. They R afraid that U will change 2 the point & meet enough of us that U will outgrow them & won't need them anymore. They don't want U 2 like us better. We helped bring out a side of U & a self respect that they didn't. Hell, if I was your friend, I would worry about the same thing. U R so cool, I wouldn't want 2 lose U either. They have 2 discredit us b/c they know U get from us what U obviously were not getting from them, & they can't fight us. We R unreachable
Not to defend your friends or anything because they seem like the daft ones, but that is just my analysis of the situation......does not make it right, & you didnt ask but I thought I would offer. I tell everyone I am on youtube and don't give a shit what they think! I am who I am take it or leave it. Once again you outdid yourself! Love Ya!
Yes, My BF actually expressed a few days ago concern at my changing appearance (hence new nice clothes) and confidence and said he was worried I might get a new boyfriend. I think there is also a lot of confusion as to why I'm not confiding in them.
Creativity justifies itself. What does it matter what other people think?
And EVERYBODY is weird. If anybody who thought he was normal attempted to make a video, he'd see just how fucking weird he was in 5 seconds.
Also, just as the devil is more interesting than god, so people with personality disorders are more interesting than the well-adjusted. It's that on YouTube, you don't have to worry about getting too close to their issues.
this is one of the most compelling videos i've ever watched on youtube.....i'm glad gimmeabreakman steered me over here! you've got another loyal subscriber. ; )
I'm not surprised that a man who says he is "insecure" would think that others were weird for wanting to record videos of themselves and share them on the internet.
Yep... At one point he said he would make a video but only to take the mickey out of the people I watch on youtube (weight loss vloggers)... interesting eh?
Yes, some people who are evil have personality disorders (cough Dick Cheney cough), but most people who are mentally ill are quite lovely. Mental illnesses -affect- people--it's not who they are. And more, importantly, are no different from anyone else.
The older I get and the more I know, the more other people seem deeply weird in various interesting ways.
And everyone is a little crazy. You have to be to stay sane in a world gone mad, as they say.
Please no one respond to me here because 1. the discussion already taking place is beautiful and 2. I am way way way off-topic.
But . . .
At the risk of leaving people confused about who I am, I just want to stick up for people who have personality disorders or any mental illness of any kind or, alternatively, who are weird in any way.
Yes, a like this "a new level of entertainment and social interaction".. the youtubers I met were completely normal and very bubbly and confident people and we had an awesome day.
I think the only reason non-YouTubers get freaked out by people spending time on YouTube is that they think we're going to replace our offline lives with an online life.
Life offline is better. As long as YouTube is just a supplement--a new avenue for self-expression, an additional collection of acquaintances--it's fine.
On the other hand, there are only 25 hours in the day. At most.
YouTube has helped me to become so much more decisive. Or has it? lol jk
Yes, I believe so. It is definitely a positive influence for me (a little like dysfunctional group therapy - but free!) and a great avenue for personal expression. I do admit that initially, it was my prime focus and I became obsessed but now, it is balanced into my offline life.
Ha ha... my time management has gotten great but simply because I wanted to fully experience both online and offline. Initially, when I became obsessed, I realised it was unhealthy and forced myself to manage my time so I could enjoy the best of both "worlds".
This is what vlogging is all about, a means to deal, an open can-o-worms group therapy, missing from this ridiculous invention of non-village life, that our ancestors were beguiled into. Not only is this a replacement for that missing element of human programming, but it will force the meme onto the streets & into the bedrooms of the privileged world, (privileged = internet access). Civilization is in the midst of re-defining itself, & we are the vanguard, whether anybody likes the idea or not.
This is a great video! I think a lot of people are simply afraid of the unknown. Before I started vlogging, I would have never considered YouTube as a self-help tool, but now...there is SUCH a HUGE community of positive people committed to each other. It's heartening to see, and I for one need the positive reinforcement, because I have other voices, like your boyfriend's that are pounding out their most recent negative spew. I am out about YT and I don't care who knows. You go girl!
I never new it helped as a self-help tool either until I randomly (in a moment of despair) typed in "weight loss" and found videos. They then inspired me to make my own videos. It's amazing how one random act can completely change your life. Thank you again :-)
If i were you i would leave your boyfriend, he seems too controling. And yes there is an extent of people that aren't trust worth, but there are also a lot of people with good intentions and honest hearts.
He's moving out this Saturday... can't wait :-) I think it was completely a fear of the unknown, which is why he feels this way. He is very insecure and yes, controlling.
How much alcohol does he drink a day and WE'RE the ones with problems?!?
Wow, Em, I never realized how much shit you got for this. The people I've told are completely underwhelmed by the revelation. My mom and my husband watch. I don't think most people I've mentioned it to really understand or care. I guess I should be glad for that!
I think the biggest thing is finding balance - I've wasted too many years of my life gaming online, or surfing, or vid watching - I have to have boundaries.
Hey Natasha, this is the amount of it yes but I have also been avoiding our relationship problems by burying myself into the computer and trying to "forget" about these other problems.
During daytime when he's at work I'm productive and get out the house and have great balance... I'm really looking forward to him moving out this weekend. It's going to completely chancge my life for the better :-)
ive just watched this again.. and to be honest.. i think ian is being really horrible.. i'm so glad you managed to get these clips of him.. i wouldnt hav been able to sit so calm while he was sayin all this.. there would hav been clips of me tryin to strangle him or somthing lol..
i HATE it when ppl put others down.. he's a bully!! think hes jealous? he wants to grow up and get a life.. "get real ian!!" haha..
I would usually shout back but he was a bit drunk and the best thing to do when he's like that, is to ignore him! Thanks sweetie.. I'm personally glad to be a weirdo! x
Thanks for making this video Em. That is the exact reason I stopped my videos...it was embarassing to my family/friends. I'm glad you still make videos..I'm not very brave I guess :( But you're awesome!
Hi - that makes me really sad that you stopped for this reason! I'm assuming you already told your family? One thing to do would be to make them in private or set up a new account they don't know about? But, if you feel dishonest doing this, maybe it's best to not?? Let me know your thoughts! - This does not mean you aren't brave. x
Hiya. I don't do videos but I love watching yours. I don't like like the way your boyfriend speaks to you. Why does he get so involved with things that are nothing to do with him. Remind him that you are not his clone. You are an individual. You make your own decisions. Take care and keep up the good work. x
Only one question: How old is the guy making the comments in the video?
I only ask because younger people are more likely to respond to things that are out of their purview of experience with, "That's weird", or "That's lame", etc, which is about all I could discern from his argument.
E.g. "I saw a weird guy on Youtube, therefore all people associated with it are 'weird'".
Hey, yeah... he knew! It was initially to remind myself of how he is when he drinks and I then decided to use it to demonstrate something in this video - obviously cutting him out physically... He does also watch my videos!
You seem like a nice person. I made a video reply which I haven't uploaded yet. It's not directed toward you though. It's about the comments the other person made about us. He's really out of line to speak of others that way and is not in tune with the score. There are a lot of lovely people here. In any event, it's your business, but you deserve to be treated with kindness and not judgment about the way you live your life.
Looking forward to your reply! Don't worry about your message. I'm not easily offended. It's unfortunately 4am here and I must sleep but video responses are automatically added and I will watch it in the morning :-)
Found you through Gimmeabreakman, but this sounds a lot like the response i was getting from people for meeting people in person i had met online.
A lot of people don't consider the internet or anything using the internet a legitimate form of communication, that everyone you might chat to or discuss anything with is a fucked up loser...I'm sure there are screwed up losers online, but there are people like that everywhere, have to use your judgment in assessing every situation.
It's surprising that people do respond this way. I'm loathe to express an opinion about anything I don't understand / haven't experienced... but others find it so easy to! In this time, I'm surprised it isn't considered to be a genuine form of communication. You are right - there are assholes / losers / freaks / perverts on every street... Cheers :-)
I applaud your efforts towards bettering yourself, maybe for the first time in your life!!! You're "real life" friends and family are not gving you the support you needed and YT has... That is not WEIRD, it is a wonderful outlet for you and you have helped others.. What is wrong with that for fauks sake?? Towardds your daft BF, I am not weird for watching Em's vids. I am a professional and I am intelligent and I do NOT have any personality disorder!!What a sod you are! Treat Em better asshole!!
OH AND... saying some of us could be phycos and paedophiles and the like, how is that any different from going out, binge drinking going to a club and talking to completely random people?!?!?! Hypocrites, that's why i don't go out and drink, I don't like it, it doesn't feel safe. youtube is safer than society, we have more guidelines and protection!! lol. Love you darling, don't let anyone tell you that you're not 'normal'. X
Hey :-) You should make a response! Would love to hear your thoughts. Would also love to have a chat on skype. I'll PM you my details.. Might be around from about 10.30pm tonight if you're up for it? Em x
Hey darling. Oh man I have SO much to say about this video and the issues raised. I think i might have to e-mail you to be honest. Fancy skyping sometime? Basically the jist of what I want to say is - if your friends and boyfriend aren't supportive, they aren't the right people for you! And I'm offended by your boyfriend, we're not all wierdos, we are just normal people (well some of us! lol) expressing ourselves and making friends!! X
He does definitely feel alienated. BUT, I have reassured him... and have recently not wanted to spend a great deal of time with him. Partly, because he has been unsupportive in other areas of my life and I've needed fulfillment from people I know online, partly because we just aren't getting on and I'm burying myself into online activity to avoid dealing with our relationship and finally because he has (I believe) a drinking problem.
My take is on it is that there are alot of closed minded people in the world who just cant or won;t understand things outside of there box video blogs are the same as journals or diarys or norm blogs its a day to day activity you do to recap or unwind is it obessive HELL NO theres nothing wrong with you its not like your your struting shit on camera and rubbing your nipels and showing your ass off no what your doing is not sick or preverted its fine
i feel that people should just let other peiople do things they like to do as long as its not hirting themselves or others lol i'm debting on makeing a video responce i don;t make videos but i do interact with people on the net via aim and dev art but i don;t know if that counts for this lol
It would definitely be worth hearing your opinion as someone who doesn't normally make videos! We haven't had an opinion from a non-video-making-you tube user yet!
All of my friends know that I've got vids on youtube but they don't care as long as it makes me happy.
But hear this... it is something wierd about your boyfriend. He sounds like he've got issues. I suggest that you dump that prick and move on with your life, find someone new and better. Someone that can give you a hand with things if you know what I'm talking about. this ones just mean and I don't like him. he's creepy and controling.
I dont get why people think people are weird for posting videos on youtube. Youtube is a place to express creativity and maybe get discovered for talent.
For others, or anyone who even comments, it is a way to interact with people all around the world.
People need to stop judging people over one thing that is a part of their life. Its annoying and ignorant!
I'm glad you have this point of view!! It is put simply, ignorance.. It's very easy to brand an activity as "Weird" or "freakish" when little is known about it.
i think this a great subject.. i'm an undercover youtuber.. only my boyfriend and my mam know im on here and i dont plan to tell any1 else!! my boyfriend just lets me get on wth it and has nothing really to say but i wont let him see my videos.. and my mam kinda just lets me get on with it but wont check out what i've done.. then cringes at the idea of me recording myself to put on the internet!!
maybe i will come out 1 day to every 1 but not just yet.
I guess we can't blame our mums for that! At least they are letting you get on with it - I think this is the best way! I have one friend who "knows" about it, and the fact that she would rather not watch the videos, and instead spend time with me, has been wonderful! I find it odd when friends I know watch my videos.. not sure why. Em x
I never ever thought about this before, I never thought of people making You Tube vids as 'weird' - I haven't made any yet but intend to do so. Your boyfriend sounds extremely judgemental. I find theres a lot to be said for communicating with others on the internet it expands your knowledge base and broadens the mind. That was a good point about watching telly - you stand up for yourself girl!
Hey, I agree with you completely. People think that going to the pub, watching TV, Clubbing etc are "OK" activities and this isn't.. I think it's fear of the unknown?
You're right - it is lack of understand.. and fear that we are confiding in "strangers"... but as I said above, these people are refreshingly honest and non-judgmental.. they thoroughly listen to what we say, digest it, can watch again if they choose and then comment. We aren't this patient with communication on a face to face basis. Thanks :)
I found your video via Gimmeabreakman....I dont really have anyone who thinks I am normal as a Youtuber but that comes from their lack of understanding. Anyone remotely interested in the "human experience" or "human interaction" would discover that youtube is a place of intimacy and friendships. I would tell these folks that for centuries that written letters was considered a valid form of communication. Youtube is even more. ~Raven
You're right - it is most certainly a lack of understanding.. and sometimes a concern "why are they not coming to me?".. People not only feel threatened by the unknown, they also feel jealous that we're discussing our personal lives to strangers.. but, these strangers don't judge and are refreshingly honest! I have made some wonderful friendships on here only on here, we watch, we listen, we process what our friends are saying.. this doesn't often happen in real life. Thanks Raven
ha! lol YES, damn straight, it is TOO short! it is so sad to see woman wasting thier lives with a'holes! we all deserve to be happy. we aren't here to satisfy thier wonts only, we deserve to have our desires and needs met too. and sometimes that is simply to be respected!
Your bf isn't very articulate... he continues to say "they're weird, it's weird, etc.". Perhaps it's time to get rid of some negativity in your life, you know? Find someone who respects your intelligence.
Yes, I know. He was a little drunk.. but he speaks like this sober. He works with children with learning disabilities and sometimes I wonder if he is is speaking to me in such a generalized way because of this! LOL..I am certainly removing negativity. He's moving out this weekend!! YouTube Party!! ;-P
You've hit the nail on the head, people associate/stigmatize anything internet based friendship/communication is weird and hollow, dangerous, etc etc etc
What's sad, is your boyfriend fully displaying this line of thinking, or rather the lack of. It's also scary that this guy is saying this stuff to you about other people, when you are basically in the same group -- this is how he thinks of you?
Cheers for the comment - yeah.. people feel threatened when other ways of communicating - especially ones they don't understand - are used. I agree re the second phrase... he isn't the best at articulating his line of thoughts! Thanks :)
I agree with you. My wife still thinks I have a problem too, because I am on youtube so much, making videos and talking and what not. I know exactly how you feel.
Hey Matt, what are the things you usually say to her when she tells you how it makes her feel? My partner doesn't really tell me how he feels... more barrages me with the kinds of things on this video! x
Well I usually say you know its a way for me to relax and network and get to know interesting people from all around the world. And she doesnt understand why I am on it so much a day , checking videos, leaving comment replies and stuff. I dont know why it bothers her so much, its almost like she thinks her and youtube are competing for attention from me and that youtube gets more of it then I give her which isnt true.
Have you say down and show it all to her? She probably is worried or insecure about your contact with these people? Also... she may wonder why you aren't talking to her in this way?
Yeah I've explained it to her, and then she started doing videos on youtube for awhile, but I'm much more of a technology head, then she is. and I enjoy the networking.
It makes me sad to see that people aren't supportive of you doing your videos. There is absolutely nothing wrong with making videos, and I don't see how people can't understand that. We're in the year 2009, this is a VERY common thing!! I didn't tell anyone about my YouTube until a few months ago. My parents/brother are very supportive and want me to do what makes me happy. I haven't told many friends about my videos though, just because I like having this be more of my "own" thing.
I'd love to know why you postponed telling your family / friends? Were you worried about what they'd say?
I think it's very normal to make vids and don't understand why some people don't. I guess it comes down to fear of the unknown. I have noticed that it is only people who haven't tried it or even used it, that are negative towards it... which speaks volumes.
I think this is a good outlet for saying what we like, free from what our friends / family "expect" us to do you know?x
I just started up a vlog here on youtube and I'm excited to get started... I've only put up a few so far and I'm linking them on my facebook so pretty much everyone knows I'm doing them. Honestly I think some of my friends are sick of hearing about youtube lol... But they seem to enjoy my videos
cdnsee 9 months ago
no offense but i would dump his ass!!!!!
gabsgobygab555 1 year ago
@gabsgobygab555 At first I was shocked...by your usage of 5 (!) exclamation points! But(t) then I realized that it was part of your stand-up routine...what?
zuzulo56 11 months ago
Only my husband knows I make videos, and he just thinks it's cool. I don't tell everyone I know because I think it'd make me feel vulnerable in some way. You'd think with the advent of Facebook and Myspace people would understand. Youtube is just like writing a note on FB, but with video instead of text. That's all it is. People don't think blogs are weird...but vlogs are still a bit misunderstood.
PlusSize2DreamSize 1 year ago
wow this touched me..... hey do you have another account now b/c i miss you on this one
AKphoto101333 2 years ago
this video is incredibly touching and evokes so much emotion. I hope you find a way to dispell all the negativity in ur life because its up to us who we keep in our lives and who we choose to let affect our persona. You're a lovely woman and Im glad i found ur channel!!
cookiesncocktails 2 years ago
No one should ever make you feel wrong for letting your expressions be known. I pretty much disagree with everything your boyfriend said. Everything. I could make counter arguments but comments can only be a certain amount of characters. lol.
It's very unfair to be given an intervention for something like this. He needs to try it for himself. Either he attempts to see what you see or he stays quiet. That's the only way he wouldn't sound like he's on a high horse.
honestlyhonest22 2 years ago
Sorry I also wanted to comment on the the whole internet thing and how long it has been around.
I think you have to think of it like those scales in the star sign libra.
Not having the internet in the world far out weighs the having the internet in the world so yeah I think it will still have some getting use to.
Also regarding the friends commenting on your own life it is like what my friend says to me when I comment "its none of there !@#$ business" unless you ask for there opinion.
ilovecheesebacon 2 years ago
I would make a video repsonse to this but my camera is broken.
This reminds me of people from My country NZ...
Sometimes doing something away from the grain of everyone else is far to much for them to handle.
I didn't tell people I made videos because in NZ we have tall poppy syndrom and when someone exceeds they need to be cut down.
The man in the video sounded very concerned in my opinion of loosing control of you.
ilovecheesebacon 2 years ago
Hey Em!
Great video. Very honest and moving.
I am 'out' to my friends and family though, apart from a few, none of them know how to find me on YT. I don't think many of them really understand why I do it but they take on board that I've e-met a lot of people from different parts of the world and that I find that exciting.
I get the distinct feeling that Brits around my age (33) in the UK don't really get the whole YT community thing, as opposed to the States for example.
Cheers!
novanine 2 years ago
This video made me so sad... it must be hard to not have support in your (i hesitate to say your real life)... some people just don't get that we are part of a support group.. they don't understand how real the relationships, support and accountability are...
thank you for this
MissJanieHere 2 years ago
Oh em, now you've done it! I'm going to have to respond as well. I don't know how I missed this when it came out but I did.
Response coming up - even though very late.
Good for you girl, stand up for what you believe in.
:)
GrandmaDorrie 2 years ago
I think weird people are interesting :) I personally don't listen to negativity so I'm not really under cover. But I don't do weigh-in because I don't want my dumb ass ex boyfriend''s negative comments "you weigh that much". Good for you for not letting a man stop you from doing what you want. It's not like you are naked on the vids..
WorkOnWellness 2 years ago
@WorkOnWellness "It's not like you are naked on the vids...: You thusly touch upon the ONE negative aspect of them. Even a little belly dancing ("gut-grinding") would be greatly appreciated...incorporated into a dream sequence? (TIC)
zuzulo56 11 months ago
I'm undercover. I make videos but I'm not in them. A lot of people don't get it though but I use to spend as much time watching TV as I do now watching YT videos. From my experience on this site. I think people that make videos become more self confidence overtime because they learn how to express themselves better. You pick up a lot of skills about editing and filming. You learn a lot about marketing even if you are not into building a big audience. It's hard to make an interesting video.
Debonair73 2 years ago
The thing I enjoy the most about YT is watching people's progress in their video making and seeing them get better over time. I think your boyfriend is a lot insecure. From my experience people kinda go through phases with YT. When you start getting into it. You go through a couple of months of being obsess with it then that fades overtime. It happens to everybody that gets into YT. I seen it from geeky kids to glamorous diva like singers. It's just like "hey people want to watch me"..
Debonair73 2 years ago
Oh I'm very much "out". Pretty much everyone knows. Hell, at one point after work some of my mates put my youtube videos on all the screens in a pub o0
My mother and father also knows, however they dont know the adress for them, which is because I talk about subjects that I at times dont feel comfortable sharing with them.
TokyoZeplin 2 years ago
Wow.. they put your videos on the pub screens? Well... it's publicity I guess?
Glad you can be out.
I have friends who know but choose not to watch my videos and I like this.
x
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Well strangely enough, two guys in the staff and another regular customer were all youtubers so...
TokyoZeplin 2 years ago
Yes, we all have to seperate our audience here i suppose. Good to find you from Krum and keep expressing your yourself with abandon. Real friend should embrace your creations, and help with ideas and want to be included! I totally relate to your situation!!
cooksterz 2 years ago 2
Hey, Thanks for watching and commenting! It's a shame really that people look on youtubing the way they do but, it's people that don't know / understand it that do this so.. understandable! Thank you :-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Hi Em...
This is Chris, a friend of Jordan Krumbine. I have watched your vids and I must say, they are pretty awesome! The music, the angles, the editing, great stuff! My view on what you were talking about is that you are doing great things. Doing this IS creative and helping your life. Kudos to you! The people here aren't weird, and if they seem that way...it's only because they are truly creative. You are awesome! I shall subscribe!
clebrane 2 years ago 2
Hey Chris, thank you!! Glad you like them. Any friend of Jordan's must be an awesome guy! Do you know him in real life? What's he like? (Would love to know if it's similar to on camera!)
Thanks for this cool comment and for the support. Em x
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Wow! Stay strong. Some people will never understand the interweb.
btw, I'm still undercover. I don't have time to deal with trying to get people in my "real life" to understand my internet life.
deach69 2 years ago
Thanks! I guess on the issue of "coming out", if it ain't broke, don't fix it right?
:-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
People judge me when I tell then I met my fiance online. Honestly, I wish people would be more open-minded. Had the internet not existed, I would have never met him, we lived across the country from one another.
It happens.
CutTheFat 2 years ago
People can be such assholes. I met two partners online and had great relationships with both...they were just as valuable as relationships in person. I think the internet gives us a much broader scope to meet people who are possible a lot more compatible to us
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I have to give you kudos for saying it out oud. What's the F*ing problem? I'll have to do a reply for you. Well put, Em. oxox
Clarachk 2 years ago
Thanks Clara! x
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Good riddance to him!
On another note...this is the first vid I've seen of yours. I came across it seeing someone elses response to your video. I have to say...great editing skills! You're very talented.
I'm subbin and saving this vid to my favorites.
rockybarragan 2 years ago 2
Thank you! Such a nice thing to say :-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I think someone was jealous of the time and the connections you were making with others who accepted you for you. I really enjoyed this video. :)
waterchicklet 2 years ago
Thanks Heather. I think you're right about that! x
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
i made a remark that i will start posting youtube videos to my gf...its resulted in a massive arguement and a possible ending of the relationship bcoz she thinks im doing it for female attention...i instantly thought back to this video
TheVoid 2 years ago
Hey, I'm so sorry that this happened! Is everything ok now?
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Ya know, I've just watched this again, and safe to say if I ever met that twit, I'd probably knock him around.... and I'm not a violent guy. I'm just one of those weirdo's you talk to on the interwebs! lol
DeathOfAFatMan 2 years ago
Ha ha... you may be a weirdo but you're a delicious one!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I watched your video feeling sorry for you, it seems you are getting crusifide. Beaten up of sorts. It hurt me to watch you, though you spoke your piece, still sad. I simply tell whom I want to tell. My 3 daughters know, they all think its crazy cool. My hubby knows, he's fine, and sometimes helps, and I have friends that know. so far so good. I am sorry for what your going through!
Florida Friend
Deanna (Tell b/f I'm NORMAL)
RelaxxKiller 2 years ago
I'm glad your daughters and husband think it's cool. My BF has actually moved out of my home now (this video made me realise a few things) - thank you for your support! x
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Hey! I'm an "outed" VLogger, in the sence that I've never hidden the fact that I've blogged. And I suppose you can tell my my user name (my real name), that I don't care if people from "RL" find me here or not.
I think the key is to not put anything on the net that would be horrible if anyone you know found it. But other than that... I can't say anyone's reacted negatively towards me for vlogging. It seems weird that anyone would.
lesleyburt 2 years ago
Thanks for your comment! I kinda use this as a way to express myself but there are a lot of things on here that are quite personal. However, I haven't given away too much information about myself in real life (such as real name) so I think I'm ok :-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I don't mean to be insensitive, but I am very glad your BF is moving out. I think he is toxic and unhealthy for you to be around. Since I have a PhD, I hardly think that I'm an unintelligent idiot and i'm also fat, so his cracks about fat wierdos were just as insulting. And who isn't a little wierd. Everyone has quirks. That's part of what makes people interesting. I really don't like the way he talks to you. By saying these things, he's also saying them about you. Kick him to the curb.Hugs
Neferkit 2 years ago
No need to worry - you don't appear insensitive. He moved out last week and it was such a good decision for this to happen. Hugs.
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I'm dirty and uninteresting and a weirdo and have a personality disorder and I'm totally a pervert, but I am also your friend. Take that, off-screen asshole.
Keep it up, em. You are awesome.
-The real Obsquatch
obsquatch 2 years ago
You can perve over me anyday ;-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
You are the comment-meister!
novanine 2 years ago
Your friends & BF R bothered by 2 things. 1. The effects that Utubing is having on U. They see the changes & they R not the U they have always known & it scares them b/c they do not know how 2 work with/control U anymore. They R struggling with having 2 change how they relate 2 U & need something 2 blame.......that would B us fucking, daft, unintelligent idiots! Plus, they see the changes R good and feel bad that we helped U get there & not them....guilt & jealousy. #2 is coming...........
JoanLandis 2 years ago
#2 is that of fear. They R afraid that U will change 2 the point & meet enough of us that U will outgrow them & won't need them anymore. They don't want U 2 like us better. We helped bring out a side of U & a self respect that they didn't. Hell, if I was your friend, I would worry about the same thing. U R so cool, I wouldn't want 2 lose U either. They have 2 discredit us b/c they know U get from us what U obviously were not getting from them, & they can't fight us. We R unreachable
JoanLandis 2 years ago
Not to defend your friends or anything because they seem like the daft ones, but that is just my analysis of the situation......does not make it right, & you didnt ask but I thought I would offer. I tell everyone I am on youtube and don't give a shit what they think! I am who I am take it or leave it. Once again you outdid yourself! Love Ya!
JoanLandis 2 years ago
Yes, My BF actually expressed a few days ago concern at my changing appearance (hence new nice clothes) and confidence and said he was worried I might get a new boyfriend. I think there is also a lot of confusion as to why I'm not confiding in them.
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Creativity justifies itself. What does it matter what other people think?
And EVERYBODY is weird. If anybody who thought he was normal attempted to make a video, he'd see just how fucking weird he was in 5 seconds.
Also, just as the devil is more interesting than god, so people with personality disorders are more interesting than the well-adjusted. It's that on YouTube, you don't have to worry about getting too close to their issues.
IamNotTheMoon 2 years ago
I do agree with pretty much everything you're saying here.
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
This has been flagged as spam show
wtf? DO NOT WANT!
ralphinio3 2 years ago
Huh?
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
This is such a great topic = )
xXNe0nStitch3sXx 2 years ago
Thank you!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
this is one of the most compelling videos i've ever watched on youtube.....i'm glad gimmeabreakman steered me over here! you've got another loyal subscriber. ; )
-baby smith
artworkslive 2 years ago
Thank you! Glad you liked it.. it was put together so quickly and I'm really pleased at the response (and surprised!) Thanks for subscribing. Em :)
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TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
good topic.... im not embaressed...
BlkUnk 2 years ago
I'm glad you aren't. It's nice when people don't care. I'm not embarassed either... but unfortunately, the people I told are!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I'm not surprised that a man who says he is "insecure" would think that others were weird for wanting to record videos of themselves and share them on the internet.
I would go completely against his instincts.
mongrelssister 2 years ago
*It would go completely against his instincts.
Argh, typo. DX
mongrelssister 2 years ago
Yep... At one point he said he would make a video but only to take the mickey out of the people I watch on youtube (weight loss vloggers)... interesting eh?
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I love those who are weird on the outside just as much as I love those who keep their weirdness all safely tucked away.
Conforming to the norm is a bore.
As Ciccone once said, 'Express yourself, don't repress yourself.'
ReliableInsider 2 years ago
hehe madonna ciccone?
rushedartist 2 years ago
Yes, some people who are evil have personality disorders (cough Dick Cheney cough), but most people who are mentally ill are quite lovely. Mental illnesses -affect- people--it's not who they are. And more, importantly, are no different from anyone else.
The older I get and the more I know, the more other people seem deeply weird in various interesting ways.
And everyone is a little crazy. You have to be to stay sane in a world gone mad, as they say.
ReliableInsider 2 years ago
Please no one respond to me here because 1. the discussion already taking place is beautiful and 2. I am way way way off-topic.
But . . .
At the risk of leaving people confused about who I am, I just want to stick up for people who have personality disorders or any mental illness of any kind or, alternatively, who are weird in any way.
ReliableInsider 2 years ago
It's your life love - you are the only one who can live it...
As the Bard would say "The world's a stage & you're the star" - so shine & don't let these peeps piss on your parade!!!!
NiteBlogger 2 years ago 2
Ha ha... no one is pissing on my parade!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I'm out...but my family/friends don't watch, think they get enough of my weirdness real time. :)
Most like to live their lives vicariously thru telly...
YT peeps like to watch real peeps & interact..
Just another level of entertainment & social interaction...
But non-tubers (for the most part) don't get it.
BTW - Have met a bunch of tubers - most are pretty cool & yes, a bit off kilter...but really, who isn't????
NiteBlogger 2 years ago 2
Yes, a like this "a new level of entertainment and social interaction".. the youtubers I met were completely normal and very bubbly and confident people and we had an awesome day.
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I think the only reason non-YouTubers get freaked out by people spending time on YouTube is that they think we're going to replace our offline lives with an online life.
Life offline is better. As long as YouTube is just a supplement--a new avenue for self-expression, an additional collection of acquaintances--it's fine.
On the other hand, there are only 25 hours in the day. At most.
YouTube has helped me to become so much more decisive. Or has it? lol jk
ReliableInsider 2 years ago
Yes, I believe so. It is definitely a positive influence for me (a little like dysfunctional group therapy - but free!) and a great avenue for personal expression. I do admit that initially, it was my prime focus and I became obsessed but now, it is balanced into my offline life.
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I'm sort of agnostic on the whole thing.
Online long-distance friendships, of -course-, are real friendships and can become lifechangingly meaningful very quickly, which is very good.
And the online world actually has many advantages.
But the offline world has advantages, too, obviously.
In the end, the offline world is more painful, and yet . . . better.
With good time management, we can all have both. (Then again . . . who has good time management?)
ReliableInsider 2 years ago
Ha ha... my time management has gotten great but simply because I wanted to fully experience both online and offline. Initially, when I became obsessed, I realised it was unhealthy and forced myself to manage my time so I could enjoy the best of both "worlds".
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
This is what vlogging is all about, a means to deal, an open can-o-worms group therapy, missing from this ridiculous invention of non-village life, that our ancestors were beguiled into. Not only is this a replacement for that missing element of human programming, but it will force the meme onto the streets & into the bedrooms of the privileged world, (privileged = internet access). Civilization is in the midst of re-defining itself, & we are the vanguard, whether anybody likes the idea or not.
DonQuixotedeKaw 2 years ago
Couldn't agree more. It's therapy enough for me! It's ideal for a control freak as we can turn it (youtube) on whenever!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
This is a great video! I think a lot of people are simply afraid of the unknown. Before I started vlogging, I would have never considered YouTube as a self-help tool, but now...there is SUCH a HUGE community of positive people committed to each other. It's heartening to see, and I for one need the positive reinforcement, because I have other voices, like your boyfriend's that are pounding out their most recent negative spew. I am out about YT and I don't care who knows. You go girl!
TheJourneytoThin 2 years ago 3
Thank you! :-)
I never new it helped as a self-help tool either until I randomly (in a moment of despair) typed in "weight loss" and found videos. They then inspired me to make my own videos. It's amazing how one random act can completely change your life. Thank you again :-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
If i were you i would leave your boyfriend, he seems too controling. And yes there is an extent of people that aren't trust worth, but there are also a lot of people with good intentions and honest hearts.
oOMusicIsLifeOo 2 years ago
He's moving out this Saturday... can't wait :-) I think it was completely a fear of the unknown, which is why he feels this way. He is very insecure and yes, controlling.
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
How much alcohol does he drink a day and WE'RE the ones with problems?!?
Wow, Em, I never realized how much shit you got for this. The people I've told are completely underwhelmed by the revelation. My mom and my husband watch. I don't think most people I've mentioned it to really understand or care. I guess I should be glad for that!
I think the biggest thing is finding balance - I've wasted too many years of my life gaming online, or surfing, or vid watching - I have to have boundaries.
WingedSeed 2 years ago
Hey Natasha, this is the amount of it yes but I have also been avoiding our relationship problems by burying myself into the computer and trying to "forget" about these other problems.
During daytime when he's at work I'm productive and get out the house and have great balance... I'm really looking forward to him moving out this weekend. It's going to completely chancge my life for the better :-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Watched all the responses. Thank you for this awesome video. Thank you for inspiring so many awesome videos.
discaimer 2 years ago
Thank you! :-)
BIG SMILE!
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msixpackabs 2 years ago
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This is like the HOT Video this Week:)
People like to be Fucked Off...Eh?
Nicsaprincess 2 years ago 2
Hey gorgeous BFF. They do yes! I'm going to try get on Skype a bit later so we can have a chat.. it won't be til after 4pm your time though xx
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
ive just watched this again.. and to be honest.. i think ian is being really horrible.. i'm so glad you managed to get these clips of him.. i wouldnt hav been able to sit so calm while he was sayin all this.. there would hav been clips of me tryin to strangle him or somthing lol..
i HATE it when ppl put others down.. he's a bully!! think hes jealous? he wants to grow up and get a life.. "get real ian!!" haha..
your great hun n all of us wierdos love ya haha..
kirsty xx
glamaura 2 years ago
I would usually shout back but he was a bit drunk and the best thing to do when he's like that, is to ignore him! Thanks sweetie.. I'm personally glad to be a weirdo! x
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Thanks for making this video Em. That is the exact reason I stopped my videos...it was embarassing to my family/friends. I'm glad you still make videos..I'm not very brave I guess :( But you're awesome!
beetlecakes 2 years ago 2
Hi - that makes me really sad that you stopped for this reason! I'm assuming you already told your family? One thing to do would be to make them in private or set up a new account they don't know about? But, if you feel dishonest doing this, maybe it's best to not?? Let me know your thoughts! - This does not mean you aren't brave. x
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Hiya. I don't do videos but I love watching yours. I don't like like the way your boyfriend speaks to you. Why does he get so involved with things that are nothing to do with him. Remind him that you are not his clone. You are an individual. You make your own decisions. Take care and keep up the good work. x
AnnemarieKennedy73 2 years ago
Thanks you Annemarie! X
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Only one question: How old is the guy making the comments in the video?
I only ask because younger people are more likely to respond to things that are out of their purview of experience with, "That's weird", or "That's lame", etc, which is about all I could discern from his argument.
E.g. "I saw a weird guy on Youtube, therefore all people associated with it are 'weird'".
ROFL
ShermerIllinois 2 years ago
He is almost 30. I here what you're saying. He is immature which would explain his behaviour!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Wow! You recorded your argument? I should try that with my wife... might be good viewing, but have a feeling it would make a whole new argument...
fatblueman 2 years ago
Hey, yeah... he knew! It was initially to remind myself of how he is when he drinks and I then decided to use it to demonstrate something in this video - obviously cutting him out physically... He does also watch my videos!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
You seem like a nice person. I made a video reply which I haven't uploaded yet. It's not directed toward you though. It's about the comments the other person made about us. He's really out of line to speak of others that way and is not in tune with the score. There are a lot of lovely people here. In any event, it's your business, but you deserve to be treated with kindness and not judgment about the way you live your life.
kalacaw 2 years ago
Hey Kalacaw,
Looking forward to your reply! Don't worry about your message. I'm not easily offended. It's unfortunately 4am here and I must sleep but video responses are automatically added and I will watch it in the morning :-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Found you through Gimmeabreakman, but this sounds a lot like the response i was getting from people for meeting people in person i had met online.
A lot of people don't consider the internet or anything using the internet a legitimate form of communication, that everyone you might chat to or discuss anything with is a fucked up loser...I'm sure there are screwed up losers online, but there are people like that everywhere, have to use your judgment in assessing every situation.
Good Video
Thanks
Projoiner1 2 years ago 2
Hi,
It's surprising that people do respond this way. I'm loathe to express an opinion about anything I don't understand / haven't experienced... but others find it so easy to! In this time, I'm surprised it isn't considered to be a genuine form of communication. You are right - there are assholes / losers / freaks / perverts on every street... Cheers :-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Wow I didn't know there were people out there who reacted so negatively about youtubeing...
SayuriRenegade 2 years ago
Yeah... I'm surprised that people think they have a right to be so negative when they don't remotely understand it..
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I applaud your efforts towards bettering yourself, maybe for the first time in your life!!! You're "real life" friends and family are not gving you the support you needed and YT has... That is not WEIRD, it is a wonderful outlet for you and you have helped others.. What is wrong with that for fauks sake?? Towardds your daft BF, I am not weird for watching Em's vids. I am a professional and I am intelligent and I do NOT have any personality disorder!!What a sod you are! Treat Em better asshole!!
Surgicalbum 2 years ago
Thank you! I have made half assed attempts in the past to better myself to no avail. However, this is 100% fat assed and full! Thanks sweetie :-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Dump the BF.
Ramiiam 2 years ago
He's moving out this weekend!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
the way your boyfriend talks to you is disrespectful.
BaronZombie 2 years ago 2
Yep... although I'm a bitch to him.... either way... he's moving out this weekend and life will be peachy ;-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
OH AND... saying some of us could be phycos and paedophiles and the like, how is that any different from going out, binge drinking going to a club and talking to completely random people?!?!?! Hypocrites, that's why i don't go out and drink, I don't like it, it doesn't feel safe. youtube is safer than society, we have more guidelines and protection!! lol. Love you darling, don't let anyone tell you that you're not 'normal'. X
littlemonster333 2 years ago
Hey :-) You should make a response! Would love to hear your thoughts. Would also love to have a chat on skype. I'll PM you my details.. Might be around from about 10.30pm tonight if you're up for it? Em x
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Hey darling. Oh man I have SO much to say about this video and the issues raised. I think i might have to e-mail you to be honest. Fancy skyping sometime? Basically the jist of what I want to say is - if your friends and boyfriend aren't supportive, they aren't the right people for you! And I'm offended by your boyfriend, we're not all wierdos, we are just normal people (well some of us! lol) expressing ourselves and making friends!! X
littlemonster333 2 years ago
I think that's awesome that they'll all cool about it!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
He does definitely feel alienated. BUT, I have reassured him... and have recently not wanted to spend a great deal of time with him. Partly, because he has been unsupportive in other areas of my life and I've needed fulfillment from people I know online, partly because we just aren't getting on and I'm burying myself into online activity to avoid dealing with our relationship and finally because he has (I believe) a drinking problem.
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
My take is on it is that there are alot of closed minded people in the world who just cant or won;t understand things outside of there box video blogs are the same as journals or diarys or norm blogs its a day to day activity you do to recap or unwind is it obessive HELL NO theres nothing wrong with you its not like your your struting shit on camera and rubbing your nipels and showing your ass off no what your doing is not sick or preverted its fine
lilmadhatterlu 2 years ago
Your take on things is pretty much the same as mine.
Although... I have strutted my stuff on youtube.. but not in the nude! LOL...
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
i feel that people should just let other peiople do things they like to do as long as its not hirting themselves or others lol i'm debting on makeing a video responce i don;t make videos but i do interact with people on the net via aim and dev art but i don;t know if that counts for this lol
lilmadhatterlu 2 years ago
It would definitely be worth hearing your opinion as someone who doesn't normally make videos! We haven't had an opinion from a non-video-making-you tube user yet!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
All of my friends know that I've got vids on youtube but they don't care as long as it makes me happy.
But hear this... it is something wierd about your boyfriend. He sounds like he've got issues. I suggest that you dump that prick and move on with your life, find someone new and better. Someone that can give you a hand with things if you know what I'm talking about. this ones just mean and I don't like him. he's creepy and controling.
keep up the good work.
Krofetzir 2 years ago
You're dead on there - he does have issues. And... he is moving out - this weekend! :-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I dont get why people think people are weird for posting videos on youtube. Youtube is a place to express creativity and maybe get discovered for talent.
For others, or anyone who even comments, it is a way to interact with people all around the world.
People need to stop judging people over one thing that is a part of their life. Its annoying and ignorant!
abigailjcharles 2 years ago
I'm glad you have this point of view!! It is put simply, ignorance.. It's very easy to brand an activity as "Weird" or "freakish" when little is known about it.
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
i think this a great subject.. i'm an undercover youtuber.. only my boyfriend and my mam know im on here and i dont plan to tell any1 else!! my boyfriend just lets me get on wth it and has nothing really to say but i wont let him see my videos.. and my mam kinda just lets me get on with it but wont check out what i've done.. then cringes at the idea of me recording myself to put on the internet!!
maybe i will come out 1 day to every 1 but not just yet.
kirsty xx
glamaura 2 years ago
I guess we can't blame our mums for that! At least they are letting you get on with it - I think this is the best way! I have one friend who "knows" about it, and the fact that she would rather not watch the videos, and instead spend time with me, has been wonderful! I find it odd when friends I know watch my videos.. not sure why. Em x
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I never ever thought about this before, I never thought of people making You Tube vids as 'weird' - I haven't made any yet but intend to do so. Your boyfriend sounds extremely judgemental. I find theres a lot to be said for communicating with others on the internet it expands your knowledge base and broadens the mind. That was a good point about watching telly - you stand up for yourself girl!
trifelgeputinage 2 years ago
Hey, I agree with you completely. People think that going to the pub, watching TV, Clubbing etc are "OK" activities and this isn't.. I think it's fear of the unknown?
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Your bf sounds like a controlling dick.
calvin8hobbs 2 years ago 2
*Nodding in agreement*
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
some people just like to criticize things they don't understand.
making video is not weird but I don't think you need to prove it to anyone.
I would just let it go in one ear and out the other
ughat 2 years ago
Yes, this is what I am doing :)
You're right - it is lack of understand.. and fear that we are confiding in "strangers"... but as I said above, these people are refreshingly honest and non-judgmental.. they thoroughly listen to what we say, digest it, can watch again if they choose and then comment. We aren't this patient with communication on a face to face basis. Thanks :)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I found your video via Gimmeabreakman....I dont really have anyone who thinks I am normal as a Youtuber but that comes from their lack of understanding. Anyone remotely interested in the "human experience" or "human interaction" would discover that youtube is a place of intimacy and friendships. I would tell these folks that for centuries that written letters was considered a valid form of communication. Youtube is even more. ~Raven
RadicalComedy 2 years ago
You're right - it is most certainly a lack of understanding.. and sometimes a concern "why are they not coming to me?".. People not only feel threatened by the unknown, they also feel jealous that we're discussing our personal lives to strangers.. but, these strangers don't judge and are refreshingly honest! I have made some wonderful friendships on here only on here, we watch, we listen, we process what our friends are saying.. this doesn't often happen in real life. Thanks Raven
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
i think you need to dumb the bf!!
msdragonfly1 2 years ago
;-) He's moving out this weekend
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
YEAH!!! *jumping up & down* so happy for you!
msdragonfly1 2 years ago
Wahoo!! I'm excited!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
i'm so glad you didn't get trapped with that 'person' grrr, like so many woman have like me.
msdragonfly1 2 years ago
Thanks :0) I hope you aren't still trapped?
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
no, i'm not! i'v FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!
msdragonfly1 2 years ago
Wahey!! That's great :-) Life is too short!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
ha! lol YES, damn straight, it is TOO short! it is so sad to see woman wasting thier lives with a'holes! we all deserve to be happy. we aren't here to satisfy thier wonts only, we deserve to have our desires and needs met too. and sometimes that is simply to be respected!
msdragonfly1 2 years ago
Your bf isn't very articulate... he continues to say "they're weird, it's weird, etc.". Perhaps it's time to get rid of some negativity in your life, you know? Find someone who respects your intelligence.
aurayon 2 years ago 2
Yes, I know. He was a little drunk.. but he speaks like this sober. He works with children with learning disabilities and sometimes I wonder if he is is speaking to me in such a generalized way because of this! LOL..I am certainly removing negativity. He's moving out this weekend!! YouTube Party!! ;-P
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
This is good- I am def gonna make a response vid to this-
TheKatyMayBatesShow 2 years ago
Hey, great! Looking forward to seeing it.. they're on automatic add so I won't need to approve :)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
you go girl
Miss2elgatta 2 years ago
*kick arse* ;-)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
You've hit the nail on the head, people associate/stigmatize anything internet based friendship/communication is weird and hollow, dangerous, etc etc etc
What's sad, is your boyfriend fully displaying this line of thinking, or rather the lack of. It's also scary that this guy is saying this stuff to you about other people, when you are basically in the same group -- this is how he thinks of you?
Good luck.
wehrmanj 2 years ago
Cheers for the comment - yeah.. people feel threatened when other ways of communicating - especially ones they don't understand - are used. I agree re the second phrase... he isn't the best at articulating his line of thoughts! Thanks :)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
I agree with you. My wife still thinks I have a problem too, because I am on youtube so much, making videos and talking and what not. I know exactly how you feel.
-Matt
MDR PROD
mdrproductionz 2 years ago
Hey Matt, what are the things you usually say to her when she tells you how it makes her feel? My partner doesn't really tell me how he feels... more barrages me with the kinds of things on this video! x
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Well I usually say you know its a way for me to relax and network and get to know interesting people from all around the world. And she doesnt understand why I am on it so much a day , checking videos, leaving comment replies and stuff. I dont know why it bothers her so much, its almost like she thinks her and youtube are competing for attention from me and that youtube gets more of it then I give her which isnt true.
-Matt
MDR PROD
mdrproductionz 2 years ago
Have you say down and show it all to her? She probably is worried or insecure about your contact with these people? Also... she may wonder why you aren't talking to her in this way?
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Yeah I've explained it to her, and then she started doing videos on youtube for awhile, but I'm much more of a technology head, then she is. and I enjoy the networking.
-Matt
MDR PROD
mdrproductionz 2 years ago
It makes me sad to see that people aren't supportive of you doing your videos. There is absolutely nothing wrong with making videos, and I don't see how people can't understand that. We're in the year 2009, this is a VERY common thing!! I didn't tell anyone about my YouTube until a few months ago. My parents/brother are very supportive and want me to do what makes me happy. I haven't told many friends about my videos though, just because I like having this be more of my "own" thing.
digupmyheart 2 years ago
Hi Kelly,
I'd love to know why you postponed telling your family / friends? Were you worried about what they'd say?
I think it's very normal to make vids and don't understand why some people don't. I guess it comes down to fear of the unknown. I have noticed that it is only people who haven't tried it or even used it, that are negative towards it... which speaks volumes.
I think this is a good outlet for saying what we like, free from what our friends / family "expect" us to do you know?x
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
Yah, lose the bf, find someone a little more healthy in the head
MollyMock 2 years ago 4
Ha ha... agreed... nothing like self projection eh? :)
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
can i get some of the names of the self help books you read
iLoveJapan2 2 years ago
? Huh? Not sure if you're being sarcastic?
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
n0 im being serious
sorry i should have been more clear
iLoveJapan2 2 years ago
And you know I read self help books? I can recommend a few... just curious!
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago
yeah you said so in the vid and yes please recommend some
iLoveJapan2 2 years ago
Hmm... well, what kinda thing are you into? I'd suggest anyone reads Paolo Coelho... any of his books. They're all beautiful.
TheStarvingSoprano 2 years ago