I know this all to well..but I am a women. I am the Managing Conservitor but looks like not for long. I wanted shared parenting. This is killing me slowly inside. I a been diagnosed bipolar 1 (since 7/01 which is my sobriety month as well), but manage it and they are now saying I am unfit because my ex cares more about getting back at me then his own son. This fight has been more about my medical condition then getting our son peace, and serenity....when does it end..when is enough..enough!
Thank you to Justin for being a spokesperson for fathers like us. I dont quite have the issues of the lying ex, but I am definitley the ATM. I am broker than broke and if things dont change I will be beyond even being able to file for bankruptcy as even that wont help me. Child support laws are so unreasonable and the one size fits all rules of it dont fit all sizes. Fuck the government for interfering in my family matters. I will take care of my kids, I dont need you driving me beyond bankruptc
I can relate dude, my ex is a bitch too... I've not seen my son for over a year, she up and left me, and that was my fault apparently, I did all I could, I provided for them and I even to this day I'm fighting for my son, and the battle continues, my ex did exactly what yours is doing... but of course, maternal laws say we've got no leg to stand on... you're an inspiration dude.
@DraziacDurst My brother is going through the same thing...sadly he has not even met his daughter yet. but hes seen pictures and wants to fight so hard for her
@TheJasNextDoor It sucks man, we have as much right to see our kids as much as their mothers, but maternal laws say that we can't, we have to have them only on weekends and holidays, what good is that? what steams me the most man, is the fact that she blames me for something she did, I didn't go sleep with someone else, but hey, who am I kidding? she can go do what she wants in her fucked up life, but I'm fighting for my son.
As someone who is going through the EXACT same thing right now, thank you Justin, thank you for being the voice for all of us GREAT fathers who are royally fucked by the system and hateful ass babys moms. Thanks man.
Keep doing this Justin! It's what needs to happen! Fighting my own fight as of this day and it's hard but I try to cover it and walk strong. But inside its kills me. And "letting Blue realize it"later down the road", well thats a one way road- with so many stops that I person does want to be there for doesn't get to see. Can't get those "stops" back ever.
Who in their right mind would LEAVE him or cheat on him!? OMG he is amazing!!!!! Who could walk away from THAT?! And who could take his baby away?!?! :(
everything is not black&white. I LOVE BLUE. and JUSTIN. But in my case my dad tried to get custody and i wanted to live with him. My mom came to his house while he was at work and basically stole me. Later on i found out stuff about my dad that i was glad my mom got sole custody but she made sure it was 50-50 or some times even seen me more. He was a amazing man just had flaws that made it where she was the better choice. But thats not what Justin is asking for and I applaud him
He's a real heart felt person- he's so right- all so many single moms see ex husbands just as an ATM machine and get excluded from there childs life in this way...(what a shite interveiwer- she is a muppet)
Justin i'm a big fan but i'm also a DAD. My daughter wont talk to me because her mum has poisoned her against me but i do have my 11 year old son and that makes life all the more!. Your daughter will grow up and she will know what happened and that you put in all the effort to be part of her life so dont worry< your a good dad :) jan19671@hotmail.com
Justin i'm a big fan but i'm also a DAD. My daughter wont talk to me because her mum has poisoned her against me but i do have my 11 year old son and that makes life all the more!. Your daughter will grow up and she will know what happened and that you put in all the effort to be part of her life so dont worry< your a good dad :)
He did not name is band after his daughter, the band has been around since the late 90's and his daughter is only 4. He got the name from a time when he was really messed up and had to check into a rehab facility.
that's fucking stupid a father should not be kept from his kids. it just show's how greedy people can be. 20 year's of saving for a college fund and it all get's taken away. what a bunch of bullshit.
:( WHY why why do the nice women in life end up with the jerks... AND the nice men in life end up with rotten women??? 17 years and 3 kids and my husband left me for a woman in her 20's. I hope the new woman wakes up sooner than me.
Mad respect for this man. I dont know what really goes on in the relationship with justin and his ex wife but all I know is from what im hearing he deserves his daughter as much as her.
My dad was exactly like Justin lies being told him being told he wasn't a fit parent... He died and then I found this stuff out... Shared parenting all the way! I spent the first 4 years of my life with my dad and then after they got divorced I probably only spent about a year with him... I miss and love my dad soooo much... Justin you help me get through all the hurt and pain of a 12 year old who misses my dad and is depressed and goes through things in her life that most other kids have to de
This man is an absolute GENIUS! His lyrics are written from his heart and soul about his LIFE! I feel nothing but pain and frusturation for him for everything he has endured. And I commend him for NOT being a deadbeat father, for wanting so very dearly to be in Blue's life and I believe from listening to A.M.I.A. Blue wants very much to be in his life as well. Justin- believe this, there may be a long road ahead of you but eventually Blue will come to make up her own mind, untainted and pure
He was accused of death threats towards his ex. He wrote a song and ran it by his ex(married at the time). She said out it on the album it the best song on there. Later she brought it to court saying this song was written to me by him saying he was going to kill me, Justin's Lawyer believed her...
in a nutshell...justin deserves to see his girl regardless of any bitterness he harbors, regardless of whether he drinks his wine, whether he tries to smooth it over with his crazy ex or not...most men & women do not have to prove themselves before having access to their kids. jus provides for and has only ever loved and protected his daughter. his ex knew he was a rock star and went on tour, etc, when she met him. that lifestyle and long hours on the road etc. ARE legitimately difficult but...
@ThePaulaann1999 having a daughter changed his life he hasnt been into drugs for a long assed time your an asshole for not knoqwing this.... justin is not an addict...
He never mentions it but, i'm guessing it's something like raping either her or his daughter because of the way he says it in this interview and several others.
Out of all the deadbeat fathers and mother that walk out of their kids lives, there are actually a small percentage of parents who actually do their part and WANT to be in their kids lives, ladies, men, if your ex wants to provide for his or her kid let them because there are millions of people who dont have that and wish they could, such a backwards world.
Although I love his music and followed the band for years, there is of course always two sides to the story. I do agree it should be 50/50 parenting however but on the road that much with a young child was bound to cause problems. Now, it is time to work on the bitter aspect and in time if she is telling numerous lies- Blue will know that later down the road.
@125daiz You realize that being on the road is part of his JOB and its his duty as a dad to provide for his family, just the same as a trucker or a traveling buisness man would, and their not gone ALL the time, just for sections of the year, he was busy fulfilling his duty as a man and a father.
I was a child from a situation like this, I went through a lot. Now I'm grown and married with two children, I have broken ALL ties with my mother. So if his x-wife is making false accusations about him you can be certain it will do nothing but back fire on her. I just got tired of being controlled and manipulated. As his daughter gets older she will just see it on her own.....
I am a huge Blue October fan and it is very evident he is consumed by bitterness. Lets face it, being in a band on tour all year is bound to create problems at home regardless of how great of a Dad or husband you try to be. No woman wants that plain and simple. So I would stop blaming so much and start thinking about how to make amends with your wife. True unselfishness is the only way to get your daughter back. True unselfishness is to make up with the person you hate the most regardless...
@utubeatworkallday first of all it is his EX wife and secondly if you listen to his music he was MORE then willing to stand by his EX and to make it work, she was the one always wanting out and telling him he was a complete failure.
I feel for him. My uncle went through almost the exact same thing, with his wife randomly taking off to another state with their daughter, then accusing him of sexual abuse and a whole lot of other crap just for the sake of getting his parental rights terminated so he'd have to pay her child support. He didn't even see his own child for almost an entire year...But guess what? It's gets better. All her lies eventually came crashing down on her, and now my uncle has full custody of his daughter,
i hope the best for Justin and that one day all of this business will be over and done with and his daughter will see how great a father he is and tries to be. I completely agree with him--fit parents should have a 50/50 split of rights to see their children and Justin is certainly a fit parent. I hope Justin wins the rights to see his daughter whenever he wants and the judge makes someone give all that money back that's being taken out of her college fund.
It is so wrong that such a wonderful person could be kept from his child. This MAN is trying so hard to make a better life for himself and his child, but just because she is the mother it is assumed she is correct. thats wrong
This is why women's rights should be null and void NOW.
AssociateAdvocate79 23 hours ago
He's so intelligent, and so passionate... And she's so stupid.
JonathanKeyesMusic 4 days ago
I know this all to well..but I am a women. I am the Managing Conservitor but looks like not for long. I wanted shared parenting. This is killing me slowly inside. I a been diagnosed bipolar 1 (since 7/01 which is my sobriety month as well), but manage it and they are now saying I am unfit because my ex cares more about getting back at me then his own son. This fight has been more about my medical condition then getting our son peace, and serenity....when does it end..when is enough..enough!
treefrog0721 1 week ago
Karma comes back to bite you in the ass!
lopez2625 2 weeks ago
Thank you to Justin for being a spokesperson for fathers like us. I dont quite have the issues of the lying ex, but I am definitley the ATM. I am broker than broke and if things dont change I will be beyond even being able to file for bankruptcy as even that wont help me. Child support laws are so unreasonable and the one size fits all rules of it dont fit all sizes. Fuck the government for interfering in my family matters. I will take care of my kids, I dont need you driving me beyond bankruptc
benny5789 2 weeks ago
I can relate dude, my ex is a bitch too... I've not seen my son for over a year, she up and left me, and that was my fault apparently, I did all I could, I provided for them and I even to this day I'm fighting for my son, and the battle continues, my ex did exactly what yours is doing... but of course, maternal laws say we've got no leg to stand on... you're an inspiration dude.
DraziacDurst 1 month ago
@DraziacDurst My brother is going through the same thing...sadly he has not even met his daughter yet. but hes seen pictures and wants to fight so hard for her
TheJasNextDoor 1 week ago
@TheJasNextDoor It sucks man, we have as much right to see our kids as much as their mothers, but maternal laws say that we can't, we have to have them only on weekends and holidays, what good is that? what steams me the most man, is the fact that she blames me for something she did, I didn't go sleep with someone else, but hey, who am I kidding? she can go do what she wants in her fucked up life, but I'm fighting for my son.
DraziacDurst 1 week ago
As someone who is going through the EXACT same thing right now, thank you Justin, thank you for being the voice for all of us GREAT fathers who are royally fucked by the system and hateful ass babys moms. Thanks man.
cfraley17 1 month ago
Keep doing this Justin! It's what needs to happen! Fighting my own fight as of this day and it's hard but I try to cover it and walk strong. But inside its kills me. And "letting Blue realize it"later down the road", well thats a one way road- with so many stops that I person does want to be there for doesn't get to see. Can't get those "stops" back ever.
mistaenlanning13 1 month ago
He seems like such a nice guy!! I love his music...so much!
6256sarah 1 month ago
Who in their right mind would LEAVE him or cheat on him!? OMG he is amazing!!!!! Who could walk away from THAT?! And who could take his baby away?!?! :(
irishberry6 1 month ago
The dude is gifted when it comes to words. He has a way of winning you over. And the Lyrics are deeeeeeeeep.
dealwithit555 2 months ago 2
everything is not black&white. I LOVE BLUE. and JUSTIN. But in my case my dad tried to get custody and i wanted to live with him. My mom came to his house while he was at work and basically stole me. Later on i found out stuff about my dad that i was glad my mom got sole custody but she made sure it was 50-50 or some times even seen me more. He was a amazing man just had flaws that made it where she was the better choice. But thats not what Justin is asking for and I applaud him
theycallmepink15 2 months ago
i went through exactly that, if you keep at it you will win it took me 4 years and probably £25000
rallyisthebestsport 3 months ago
He's a real heart felt person- he's so right- all so many single moms see ex husbands just as an ATM machine and get excluded from there childs life in this way...(what a shite interveiwer- she is a muppet)
pennypacker93 3 months ago 3
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Justin i'm a big fan but i'm also a DAD. My daughter wont talk to me because her mum has poisoned her against me but i do have my 11 year old son and that makes life all the more!. Your daughter will grow up and she will know what happened and that you put in all the effort to be part of her life so dont worry< your a good dad :) jan19671@hotmail.com
johnligthart 3 months ago
Justin i'm a big fan but i'm also a DAD. My daughter wont talk to me because her mum has poisoned her against me but i do have my 11 year old son and that makes life all the more!. Your daughter will grow up and she will know what happened and that you put in all the effort to be part of her life so dont worry< your a good dad :)
johnligthart 3 months ago
how could someone ruin such an inspiring and wonderful persons life. Justin all ur fans r prayin for u.
9cccaseycane 3 months ago
He did not name is band after his daughter, the band has been around since the late 90's and his daughter is only 4. He got the name from a time when he was really messed up and had to check into a rehab facility.
TheBobcatforlife 3 months ago
i wish it wasnt fox news cause hes such a good guy
jbinthacoc 3 months ago 2
that's fucking stupid a father should not be kept from his kids. it just show's how greedy people can be. 20 year's of saving for a college fund and it all get's taken away. what a bunch of bullshit.
drock7170 3 months ago
His situation is just like my dad's and my ex-stepmom. He speaks the truth. And it always gets me why child support hates on dads so god damn much.
hl2lover14 4 months ago
did justin name blue after his band?
JessyEfffingLey 4 months ago
@JessyEfffingLey Yep.. he named his band after his babygirl blue and if im not mistaking her birthday is in october. explaining blue october
Girliemeltem 3 months ago
@Girliemeltem thought so
JessyEfffingLey 3 months ago
@Girliemeltem no he didn't, as said above he had a BLUE october in a hospital, his daughter is named after a longtime friend and inspiration
EnKioferidu 2 months ago
good for him!! money is not love :(
ccurry806 4 months ago
:( WHY why why do the nice women in life end up with the jerks... AND the nice men in life end up with rotten women??? 17 years and 3 kids and my husband left me for a woman in her 20's. I hope the new woman wakes up sooner than me.
yooperheart1 4 months ago
Hope things get easier for him he's such a good father and him and everyone out there shouldnt have to ever go through this!
single1311 4 months ago
Mad respect for this man. I dont know what really goes on in the relationship with justin and his ex wife but all I know is from what im hearing he deserves his daughter as much as her.
ballerbscott2 5 months ago 2
al with. Thanks Justin I love your words and lyrics. I love the book too. Thank you Justin I can't say that enough... Thank you soooooo much.
iloveblueoctober100 5 months ago
My dad was exactly like Justin lies being told him being told he wasn't a fit parent... He died and then I found this stuff out... Shared parenting all the way! I spent the first 4 years of my life with my dad and then after they got divorced I probably only spent about a year with him... I miss and love my dad soooo much... Justin you help me get through all the hurt and pain of a 12 year old who misses my dad and is depressed and goes through things in her life that most other kids have to de
iloveblueoctober100 5 months ago
This man is an absolute GENIUS! His lyrics are written from his heart and soul about his LIFE! I feel nothing but pain and frusturation for him for everything he has endured. And I commend him for NOT being a deadbeat father, for wanting so very dearly to be in Blue's life and I believe from listening to A.M.I.A. Blue wants very much to be in his life as well. Justin- believe this, there may be a long road ahead of you but eventually Blue will come to make up her own mind, untainted and pure
AzureBlueStar 5 months ago
He was accused of death threats towards his ex. He wrote a song and ran it by his ex(married at the time). She said out it on the album it the best song on there. Later she brought it to court saying this song was written to me by him saying he was going to kill me, Justin's Lawyer believed her...
ISOgone4good 6 months ago
in a nutshell...justin deserves to see his girl regardless of any bitterness he harbors, regardless of whether he drinks his wine, whether he tries to smooth it over with his crazy ex or not...most men & women do not have to prove themselves before having access to their kids. jus provides for and has only ever loved and protected his daughter. his ex knew he was a rock star and went on tour, etc, when she met him. that lifestyle and long hours on the road etc. ARE legitimately difficult but...
lindadreiling 6 months ago
@lindadreiling ...can be worked around. when he has blue, she is all he focuses on. wish my own kids' dad was as attentive.
lindadreiling 6 months ago
ilove him, but he is a ADDICT
ThePaulaann1999 6 months ago
@ThePaulaann1999 having a daughter changed his life he hasnt been into drugs for a long assed time your an asshole for not knoqwing this.... justin is not an addict...
Kailjiin 5 months ago 2
Does anyone know what his wife accused him of?
He never mentions it but, i'm guessing it's something like raping either her or his daughter because of the way he says it in this interview and several others.
ilikethecolourblue 6 months ago
Justin doesn't look crazy, if anyone doesn't realize that he is an ANGRY man...from being dicked around.... then fuck them
BlueRaven1702 6 months ago
Out of all the deadbeat fathers and mother that walk out of their kids lives, there are actually a small percentage of parents who actually do their part and WANT to be in their kids lives, ladies, men, if your ex wants to provide for his or her kid let them because there are millions of people who dont have that and wish they could, such a backwards world.
BarbwireHalo 6 months ago 3
you go!!! there are some sure bitches out there.
swe3t23 6 months ago
Although I love his music and followed the band for years, there is of course always two sides to the story. I do agree it should be 50/50 parenting however but on the road that much with a young child was bound to cause problems. Now, it is time to work on the bitter aspect and in time if she is telling numerous lies- Blue will know that later down the road.
125daiz 6 months ago 13
@125daiz You realize that being on the road is part of his JOB and its his duty as a dad to provide for his family, just the same as a trucker or a traveling buisness man would, and their not gone ALL the time, just for sections of the year, he was busy fulfilling his duty as a man and a father.
MysticGohan091 3 months ago
I was a child from a situation like this, I went through a lot. Now I'm grown and married with two children, I have broken ALL ties with my mother. So if his x-wife is making false accusations about him you can be certain it will do nothing but back fire on her. I just got tired of being controlled and manipulated. As his daughter gets older she will just see it on her own.....
alg4tlg 7 months ago 4
I love this band, but am not niave enough to understand that THIS IS ONLY ONE SIDE of the story. He has the mic and can say whatever he wants.
bluemask68 7 months ago
I am a huge Blue October fan and it is very evident he is consumed by bitterness. Lets face it, being in a band on tour all year is bound to create problems at home regardless of how great of a Dad or husband you try to be. No woman wants that plain and simple. So I would stop blaming so much and start thinking about how to make amends with your wife. True unselfishness is the only way to get your daughter back. True unselfishness is to make up with the person you hate the most regardless...
utubeatworkallday 7 months ago
@utubeatworkallday first of all it is his EX wife and secondly if you listen to his music he was MORE then willing to stand by his EX and to make it work, she was the one always wanting out and telling him he was a complete failure.
AzureBlueStar 5 months ago 2
I feel for him. My uncle went through almost the exact same thing, with his wife randomly taking off to another state with their daughter, then accusing him of sexual abuse and a whole lot of other crap just for the sake of getting his parental rights terminated so he'd have to pay her child support. He didn't even see his own child for almost an entire year...But guess what? It's gets better. All her lies eventually came crashing down on her, and now my uncle has full custody of his daughter,
Evanescence67 7 months ago
i hope the best for Justin and that one day all of this business will be over and done with and his daughter will see how great a father he is and tries to be. I completely agree with him--fit parents should have a 50/50 split of rights to see their children and Justin is certainly a fit parent. I hope Justin wins the rights to see his daughter whenever he wants and the judge makes someone give all that money back that's being taken out of her college fund.
wintermoons1215 7 months ago
It is so wrong that such a wonderful person could be kept from his child. This MAN is trying so hard to make a better life for himself and his child, but just because she is the mother it is assumed she is correct. thats wrong
FITZ6822 7 months ago 53
@FITZ6822 very wrong my friend... i hope he wins... and gets his daughter
Kailjiin 5 months ago 2
i hope that one day you get to show your daughter how much you love her any chance you want.
nicktransue 7 months ago