The Silent Crusade

[aztecadreamerz]

Your video touched my soul, Everyone asks why I'm so different and I always say because my son took a piece of me when he was born still. Thank you for posting this.

[jamalije]

Thanks for this great video. It is truly touching. My sister's baby girl, Lauren Rose was born still on Nov. 30/07 at 38.5 weeks. She had a great pregnancy & found no heartbeat at her regular prenatal visit. The last 2 months have been very difficult for our whole family. I have posted this video on my Facebook page so friends can hopefully try to understand what my sister is going through & maybe by watching your video they can help ease some of her pain & understand stillbirth & the pain

[devilpo123]

Everyone has to go.

I can see that you have a demure heart.

Love~ Kaylen

[dmm1415]

You are a wonderful human being and have helped me to understand the pain that I am experiencing through your videos. My story is unique and I could not begin to tell you what has happened and what I am going through right now. God Bless You.

David

[missysspot]

I love this, its so well done, I would like to add it to my myspace, so I can share it w/ more people anyone know how ??????

[1butterflykiss]

Thank you so much for making this video. I do not know where you are from but in Illinois they do not even give a death certificate...as though they don't count. Its sad that so many people really do not know how hard it really is.

*kisses*

Therese

[cakesNM]

Your video is so touching. I too lost a son, Mateo in July 2005. I think about him everyday, miss and love him. To all the angels....we love you always. I will never forget him. love mama.....ELG

[twish1999]

I am truly honoured that you have attached this video here

It is a wonderful video, with a message for the world.

No wonder you are so proud of it because i am proud of you for making it :-)

xxx hugs xxx

[emhsmommy]

My son was born still on September 1, 2005. I miss him so much. I think about him everyday. It DOES hurt so much to have him forgotten by everyone around us. I know exactly what it feels like to want to crawl in that hole with your baby just to hold him. It seems crazy until you actually bury your own baby - leave them in the ground & walk away - that was the worst. Thanks for the video.

P.S.You may want to fix the spelling mistakes...the errors are distracting.

[lizaye]

Payton Ryan was born on August 21, 2007. I miss him so much everyday. I never realized how many people have experienced this horrible thing called stillbirth. I agree with clzachman1, our babies need to be remembered, talked about, and recognized as the beautiful babies that we all wanted so much.

[clzachman1]

I wish that everyone in the world could see this touching and heart felt tribute. Emi Kate was silently born on Feb. 8th 2007. I thought that I was the only person in the world who had experienced this horrible loss.....until you start talking to people. It amazed me how many people had experienced my pain. It truly is the silent killer no one wants to talk about. Our babies need to be remembered, talked about, and recognized as the beautiful babies that we all wanted.

[Starlitshores]

This video is beautiful. I'm so sorry about the loss of your baby. Your baby was and is so loved by you and God. Many blessings to you always. You may like to see my movie: "Abortion, Miscarriage, and Stillbirth: Remembering a life" that can be found on my channel page.

[brandy28655]

oh god thank you, there is no pain in this world like loosing your child. my baby was born asleep on the 6th of feb. 2007 and there are days that i just want to crawl into the ground with him.

oh god i want to hold my baby in my arms and to hear him cry just once.. the silence when he was born will haunt me for the rest of my life.

[veranichole1981]

Sweetie, I'm crying with you! I miss my little boy so much on so many days. Yesterday I went to the cemetary on his due date and just laid there next to his easter decorations and balled because I wanted to hold him. Love ~ Rae

[veranichole1981]

Sweetie, I'm crying with you! I miss my little boy so much on so many days. Yesterday I went to the cemetary on his due date and just laid there next to his easter decorations and balled because I wanted to hold him. Love ~ Rae

[veranichole1981]

The overwhelming majority of women NEED that validation but for various reasons put on by grief, society and what they think is "right" don't know that it is okay to acknowledge your child. While everyone else is tucking their kids into bed at night all these parents have are the memories and they never forget... That is just what I have seen and heard from women I've met or talked with. They WANT and NEED to talk about ALL their children.

[Lindathemightywitch]

They minimize it because really, it's not a big deal (to some people), go have sex and make another one or adopt like Angelina Jolee! I probably don't understand so don't mind me, but my mom had a misscarriage as well, and we don't talk about it.

[veranichole1981]

While that might be true in a few cases the majority find it difficult to go with out answers and to move on with their lives. To show the impact of what a stillborn child has on a parent I'll refer you to a resent study done by Dr. Frederick Froen....

Out of just under 3,000 women 90% said they held their child and only 5 regretted it. Out of the 10% that did NOT hold their child 77% regretted not doing so.

[anasmomma]

thanks for the vid, beautiful. I had Ana, a full term stillbirth several years ago, healing has been a process. I have a webpage about our loss, which has helped through the healing process... hugs gloria

[veranichole1981]

Sweetie, your site is beautiful! I love the story of the Carpenter :) That is a wonderful way to look at life. Thank you so much! Love, Rae

[JeniAisling2010]

Vera,

I stillbirthed last June and you are totally right. I ended up divorced and I push the pain aside. But the pain is still there. Thanks for the video.

[veranichole1981]

Sweetie, you will be in my thoughts :( I can only hope for healing... If you ever need to talk don't hesitate to e-mail...

[JeniAisling2010]

Thanks Vera,

That means a lot. I posted your video on my MySpace page and once my group gets going on strong in topic on MyYearbook, I am posting it there also. People will need to know.

The one thing that people do not understand that is stillbirth and abortion may involve dead babies, one is an accident the other may be construed as murder.

Right now the topic is Stillbirth vs. Abortion.

Thanks so much. You have helped the process and helped me get the word out there more.

[veranichole1981]

Thank you so much for that comment. You put it into words that I couldn't. It is very much Stillbirth vs. Abortion and that should not be the case as they are two totally different causes that happen to lead to the same outcome so people group them together when one is a decision and the other is never a decision. It's sad that people do that because it causes so many problems (such as with the MISSing Angels Bill - and with tax deductions for the year your child was born).

[Lindathemightywitch]

Why do they get divorced? Do they not love each other anymore? They just wanted the kids?

[veranichole1981]

Many get divorced because they grieve differently Society often teaches that men be strong and by that they mean to appear NOT to grieve In reality that is not strength When a women is going through her grief it can appear that her husband doesn't care What you end up with are two people who have become strangers They feel completely alone wishing the other would understand Men often wish their wives would be happy Women often wish men would care about their child rather than to forget them

[veranichole1981]

Thanks Mel, I would love the information! I've got more to say but it won't fit here so I'm going to send you some info. :) Hugs, VeraWang

[SSGLuceyGirl]

Beautiful video, I have done some research recently and have found that there are some organizations out there that help with parents like us who have gone through such a tragic loss in our lives Let me know if you want that info because as soon as I'm in the states I plan on volunteering and becoming extremely active in them Tons of hugs ♥Mel®