Typically, peoples' 2 cents on this issue is BS. Many uneducated, recovering people, & others hold the assumption that some trauma is THE causal agent for addiction. Why then, ater yrs of therapy, will so many addicts/alcys (same damned thing) rely on abstinence? Should not the goal of recovery, based on the afore mentioned assumption, be aimed at training these people to drink properly? There's many factors; I'm willing to say most are biological.
I don't understand, you're focusing on a pattern of destructive behaviour in a friend and asking him to evaluate the situation while he is actively engaged in it and you are joining him? I know it is difficult to address this situation and nothing seems to work but there is help. I am a recovering alcoholic and for me the daily experience of life as a painful, hopeless and increasingly futile drudge toward an early grave brought me to the point where I couldn't do it any more, then I found AA.
I dont know what to think of this. I DEF understand your motive to help your friend and why you made this video, but I think you drinking with him in the video is contradicting (even though I know he would prob drink without you). I also wouldnt criticize/blow off his rambling. All addicts (esp alcoholics) have one thing in common, they are trying to fill a void and escape something they dont want to deal with in reality. Rather than take shots, you should ask the important question of WHY?
@SmartHerSparty I agree with everything you say. I was the ultimate party girl until 15 yrs ago at age 34, I woke up and decided enough was enough. No AA, I was finished with the bottle. I was great fun drinking with but underneath, I was so deeply sad and I now know why. No therapy, just soul searching. My life is so amazing and I truly married Mr Right. I wake up every morning still amazed that he chose me. Matt is enabling him and needs to detach. Consequences wake up an alcoholic big time...
@stelpan62 Thats good to hear. I am still 'soul searching' myself. I am truly grateful for my family and I count my blessings when I am down. i still drink...but not to the excess as I once did. I occupy my time with more constructive things.
@SmartHerSparty You sound like you are on the right track. Soul searching is really hard because for me, it meant owning my own behaviors and facing up to the core issue, which was my cruel, narcissistic mother who really never loved me. Accepting that & cutting her out of my life was the hardest thing I have ever done but it turned out to be so healing and liberating. She left a massive void inside me & I have now filled it with the true joy of living a productive & loving life... All the best!
@SmartHerSparty Yes I have, and written many short stories and papers on addiction, I'm a believer that addiction is a choice; yes it can develop into a disease though addiction is a habitual act in which people destructively fall into. I have my own personal battles and yes life is a contradiction when one must seek their own personal self.
I think somoene needs to do this to my husbands aunt she doesnt realize that she gets that way when shes drunk anyone who has really gotten drunk before has had moments where they were just functioning without knowing what they are doing. It would be nice to pull them back up to her when she's sober, and show her how terrible her addiction really is, and why nobody likes or wants her to drink.truthfully your friend has a problem but atleast he's still able to talk right.
Typically, peoples' 2 cents on this issue is BS. Many uneducated, recovering people, & others hold the assumption that some trauma is THE causal agent for addiction. Why then, ater yrs of therapy, will so many addicts/alcys (same damned thing) rely on abstinence? Should not the goal of recovery, based on the afore mentioned assumption, be aimed at training these people to drink properly? There's many factors; I'm willing to say most are biological.
SoberAllmanBrosFan 1 month ago
I don't understand, you're focusing on a pattern of destructive behaviour in a friend and asking him to evaluate the situation while he is actively engaged in it and you are joining him? I know it is difficult to address this situation and nothing seems to work but there is help. I am a recovering alcoholic and for me the daily experience of life as a painful, hopeless and increasingly futile drudge toward an early grave brought me to the point where I couldn't do it any more, then I found AA.
MultiCheesehead1 1 month ago
Like how you open a beer while narrorating, and that you drink liquor with him, enabling much?
Gregman420 2 months ago
@Gregman420 You dont know me I made this movie about 10 years ago.
finant2003 1 week ago
I'd hate a life like that when you're constantly drunk.
Planetoxo 2 months ago
i guess he has to ask himself why is he that pissed just watching TV its not like hes at a party
IDMWEIGHTSIDM 3 months ago
interesting but the loud music/tv is a little distracting
tarkan525201 4 months ago
fucking need ambient sound in the background(coming from the tv): a documentroy about the music label Factory.
fucking neato.
planet1000 7 months ago
@planet1000 you found out the movie we were watching great job, I was too drunk to remember it.
finant2003 1 week ago
I dont know what to think of this. I DEF understand your motive to help your friend and why you made this video, but I think you drinking with him in the video is contradicting (even though I know he would prob drink without you). I also wouldnt criticize/blow off his rambling. All addicts (esp alcoholics) have one thing in common, they are trying to fill a void and escape something they dont want to deal with in reality. Rather than take shots, you should ask the important question of WHY?
SmartHerSparty 11 months ago 3
@SmartHerSparty I agree with everything you say. I was the ultimate party girl until 15 yrs ago at age 34, I woke up and decided enough was enough. No AA, I was finished with the bottle. I was great fun drinking with but underneath, I was so deeply sad and I now know why. No therapy, just soul searching. My life is so amazing and I truly married Mr Right. I wake up every morning still amazed that he chose me. Matt is enabling him and needs to detach. Consequences wake up an alcoholic big time...
stelpan62 1 month ago
@stelpan62 Thats good to hear. I am still 'soul searching' myself. I am truly grateful for my family and I count my blessings when I am down. i still drink...but not to the excess as I once did. I occupy my time with more constructive things.
SmartHerSparty 1 month ago
@SmartHerSparty You sound like you are on the right track. Soul searching is really hard because for me, it meant owning my own behaviors and facing up to the core issue, which was my cruel, narcissistic mother who really never loved me. Accepting that & cutting her out of my life was the hardest thing I have ever done but it turned out to be so healing and liberating. She left a massive void inside me & I have now filled it with the true joy of living a productive & loving life... All the best!
stelpan62 1 month ago
@SmartHerSparty Yes I have, and written many short stories and papers on addiction, I'm a believer that addiction is a choice; yes it can develop into a disease though addiction is a habitual act in which people destructively fall into. I have my own personal battles and yes life is a contradiction when one must seek their own personal self.
finant2003 1 week ago
Apparently I'm lightweight compared to him because if I had 8-10 shoys of vodka or anything of that strength, I'd be out like a light.
weirdguy75 1 year ago
@weirdguy75 lol..haha..I am with you on that dude..I can hold my drink, but not he does with those shots..well nasty
hottyfromnotty 1 month ago
I think somoene needs to do this to my husbands aunt she doesnt realize that she gets that way when shes drunk anyone who has really gotten drunk before has had moments where they were just functioning without knowing what they are doing. It would be nice to pull them back up to her when she's sober, and show her how terrible her addiction really is, and why nobody likes or wants her to drink.truthfully your friend has a problem but atleast he's still able to talk right.
firegoddess662332 1 year ago
@firegoddess662332 but for how long ?
TheFrostymountains 11 months ago
@TheFrostymountains for how long what?
firegoddess662332 10 months ago
@firegoddess662332 i really don't remember i was too drunk .
TheFrostymountains 10 months ago
@TheFrostymountains oh alright
firegoddess662332 10 months ago