See my site HowIgotCustody with an O-R-G at the end .....Click on the tab "5 Entities That Push Away Dads" I got custody of my daughter, but know first hand these systems DRIVE dads about, ESPECIALLY black fathers (MOST dads WANT to be involved)
I have both parents. My dad is an angry, condescending, arrogant, asshole jerk. My mother is a nagging bitch, who never seems to stop. I'm now old enough to know that I shouldn't be like that, and that I shouldn't view others as I view them. I think what you're saying is true, if both your parent are positive roll models in your life ten the child will view the world as so; if they are negative, then the child will view it as I did for the longest time: negative. Thank you for posting this.
BALANCE. That's what you're talking about. Hollywood stopped glorifying men and women in their natural roles a long time ago. They made it all about money and women started to feel slighted because they "weren't allowed" to help pay the bills. They got jobs n motherhood got lost in the shuffle. It's hard being a REAL mother and the job should get a lot more respect and honor. It's a sad thing when humanity doesn't care about its offspring and the results are terrifying. I like your video
It's very true. I was raised by a single parent... never even knew my father. I am 38 and I still believe it affects my perception of relationships to this day.
I came from a single parent house. I'm going to college to learn physics, writing a book, don't drink, smoke, or do drugs (never tried them either) and have respect for my elders. If I may say so, I think my mother did a very good job raising me. (Best mom in the world in my honest opinion.) I had a father, but then he started drinking and cheating, so a divorce was imminent. Oh well, if he had stayed, I would have likely been like him. lol No thank you. Anyone else have a super-mom? :)
blablablabla....tell us about your relationship with your wife( if you gat one) in coupla minutes that's more better than talking blalalalalalabla for 7mins.
Funny to read Tsuguas completely out of place and uninformed comment...when as a fact nonetheless the President of our nation (US) was raised by a single mother.
SOLUTION: END welfare, alimony, child support, affirmative action and make abortion ILLEGAL. Women will only value hard working men and only have unprotected sex (or sex period) with their husbands. Single moms and divorces will disappear because there would be no incentive. Single moms act as Matriarchies in that they are in charge of how the next generation of kids are raised and are bad in that they produce non productive men and failing communities.
Im the oldest of six children. My parents were married for over 25 years. I didnt understand the racist assumptions people would sometimes make about my mother and they would ask her if they were all by the same man, which we were. My dad was sometimes too overbearing but he was there for all of his six kids and i know that him being there was very very important for my 4 brothers and my sister and i. He kept them in line. now the media makes us think that its okay to have single families.
each person has their own way of internalizing family situations and friends. I think we all need good friends, good family, but sometimes it makes life more complicated when people have too high of expectations. I believe it's about finding a middle ground between likes/dislikes of the family, friends, and partner/significant other is finding an area to make a compromise. anything of value takes work!
my sofomor english teecher told us of these two peeple who dide and went to hell. A man and a woman. Theyr hell was havin to live with each other. it was funny the way he told it. it was the only thing me learnt in high schul and me been reminded of it a few times over the years.wether that had been actual experience or vicariosly .
I know I have written this before. Throughout history, in every place on earth there is a ceremony binding a man and a woman together for life. It keeps them together to raise the children. Children who do not have a father in their lives seek a paternal image elsewhere. Fathers really are value added for children. Women are fools to think they are better off raising children without a man.
@Jim01001011 I agree about marriages but for different reasons. I see it as insurance for women that they get the support they need if/when things don't work out. I preach to my kids that they should get married first even though I didn't because it increases the chance of success I believe if the RIGHT people marry. Marriage and parenting are not things to rush into. Both require extreme maturity in order to succeed. That maybe the most important attribute not the actual acts itself.
@Jim01001011 They need Father Figures when their is no biological father around for whatever reason. 50% marriages end in divorce. What happens to those kids if the parents don't live around the corner from each other? lol Here you go preaching to me and my kids are both in college on academic scholarships. 2 different mothers and never married. Raised my son from 13 on my own and worked my my daughter's mom and stayed involved in her life. Some of you are so self-righteous.
LOL Your living right up to the stereotype. 2 baby mamas. And guess what having your kids in college doesn't mean shit. Anyone can have their kids in college. That aint a sign of success or morality or any other dumbass measure you use.
@skyding8962 Maybe you missed they're both in school on academic scholarships. You conveniently overlooked that. I don't recognize your religion or morals. My kids are fine with a bright future ahead of them.
@Jim01001011 Does anyone need a degree? Degrees will be completely useless very shortly in today's world. I work with several kids right out of college who have Bachelors degrees, etc., that will work most of their lives paying them off. I served our country proudly in the Army, and make more money than all of them now BECAUSE I WORKED HARD ALL MY LIFE. What good is a degree if you can't put bread on the table?
meine Oma was my ultimate family, she lived in every aspect of my life and meine Mutter was a lesbo perv and meine tante was a whore... in all of these cultural life was made hell but to fags that had to live under fags, life was hell...
@Jim01001011 oh talk shit Jim... I was raised by a dyke and defend masculinity as a fag that rejects acting like a woman or a real man to make my point... as a fag and that is that men are evil and acting masculine makes me invalid regardless of agreement or support to BS and while men helped me and all, and as a male have men's interests on my sides but male role models are blamed and I say this as a fag...
As a fag who is white, with a lesbian mother and a half brother who was let down from divorce and rejected but yet was seen as better off and procreative and bitched and nagged to form him...
@MrSpemat I also learned my male side and gay community representative to be shamed to be male and that money could define human and you would still fail...
as a fag, men, women and being hit with the same pressures, I can relate and am almost creeped out by false rape claims... I regret not acting like a female....
There is a phenomenon called Role Reversal which is in effect as we speak. Men and women are exchanging roles which in turn, in time causes resentment. The man is the protector and maintainers of the woman...Period! If this is brought back into the family, things will be better.
Strip clubs are filled with women with father issues. Prisons are filled with men with father issues.
Having an abusing or bad father is much worse than not having a father at all but I know it’s important for both men and women to have positive male role models in their life when they are young.
Rockefeller try to make the man weak and unable to support a family etc... So now woman works and then the rockefeller can tax the man and woman (the whole population)
Reg lies alot like most boys.He lives wit mommie n takes care of his family?Deadbeat,slug,bum,leech,dog,punk,liar,etc are gr8 descriptions for his stupid thinking.Wonder why he talks bad about ladies.
Sorry dem but you are wrong again. At the end of the day it is up to the individual whether he/she succeeds or not. Blaming daddy is an old tired excuse. Plenty of individuals do just fine without a father or mother figure around. If you are capable of critical thinking and don't just conform to group think then you are already better off than most people. This " we" and " our" is detrimental to the success of the individual. The largest minority in the world.
Reg lies alot like most boys.He lives wit mommie n takes care of his family?Deadbeat,slug,bum,leech,dog,punk,liar,etc are gr8 descriptions for his stupid thinking.Wonder why he talks bad about ladies.
I was a single parent divorcee who had a son who is creative, intelligent, still in a four-year college, loved me to pieces, had a great open and honest relationship. One day, he met a girl who hated me (unbeknownst to me) turned my son against me and I don't know how. Now, my son wants nothing to do with me, calls me horrible names each time I try to talk to him and lies like hell on me to everyone. I wish I knew what happened. It's like he was overtaken by a monster. So sad.
Reggie your a man basher. Stop talking about black people Reggie because you don't know shit. Most of those so-called single women have a man under the same roof. They just aren't MARRIED. There are men around. Not always the best ones but the term "single mom" is misused and abused when discussing black people in particular and you perpetuate the bullshit with your IGNORANCE.
It is critical to share mutual respect for each other in every way. There should always be constructive criticism without bashing. Her older boy has not had a steady positive male influence in his life (he is 10) and it shows, though he is a good boy and I look forward to knowing him and looking after him. I am the only father the little one (2.5 years) will know and I am excited to father him as well. Having positive,loving,constructive parenting cannot be overstated in importance
Great points. I am with a woman who was a single mother of two young boys and this woman is a rare breed of love and affection + discipline. She actually took on the younger boy (2.5 years old) after becoming pregnant by accident,refusing to have an abortion and having the father sign over his rights to protect the child. She accepts me for who I am and pushes me to be the best I can be and vice versa.
Men and women are alientated from one another and our realities have become completely subjective fictions based on perverted televisions shows and stupid, negative movies.
yeah, you make some good points demcad but the problem stems from the fact that men are no longer men. Nothing more than a bunch of tuff guys that are still sucking there mothers tits. I moved out of home at 16 got a job and learnt how to be a man. Now i'm 33, 3 kids and my own home and life. expirience is learnt not given.
I agree with this... but women are no longer women either, and what is most men's greatest motivation? WOMEN. There are much less positive incentives for men to be men these days, since testosterone is such a bad word in this society. Historically, it was always through women that society would give men incenctives to be good men. FEW MEN desire in and of itself, to be good men. Good men, if they cannot find a good women for whom he can trust, remain SINGLE.
Demcad it has been proven especially in the black community we need our fathers in the community but i feel that alot of women have downplayed the value of fatherhood we had a show britains missing dads and that proved things and how fatherhood is viewed
black celebraties which have had fathers have proven to be successful Michael Jordan, Floyd Mayweather, Beyonce ,Michael Jackson, Roy jones Jr ,and so many more even tho the fathers may have been strict they raised their children to be the best
To bad we cant fix the pass. There are a lot of mixed up young people out here robbing , stealing and killing . in the first thing you hear from them is no one loved me I never had a father ...ect all I can say is people love you kids
@P9372638491 I am a women and did not get that from this video AT ALL : ) and I would also like to say, maybe that is where it starts the downward spiral, in a relationship, I am his, and he is mine ...correct ? he is the protector, he is the backbone of the family, and if you take his power away in anyway .... and wonder why the family unit is torn apart ... feminism - they lied to you then ...and they are still lieing to you ....sorry
I really like this one, very good thinking and observations. Not to often we hear things like this anymore, I totally agree with what you are saying here, Especially how important a good Father needs to be in the home and the importance of a good mother as well.
As long as a person is not mooching off their parents I see nothing wrong with living with them. I mean in some cultures it is expected and an honor to care for your elderly parents.
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Demcad, next video you should talk about all this civil unrest going on in China,Yemen,Algeria and Iran. Im surprised you didnt bring it up in this video.
The greatest problem we have in this country is our families. Our Women think they are men and our men are acting like children. I have a great family and everyone around me have the worst broke families. Its so easy to have a good family and everyone would rather fight, work, game, internet porn watch TV, drink, rather than have loads of fun with their children and their wife
Interesting points that are well taken. I can't help but wonder how I would have turned out as an adult if my father were still alive and actively involved in my life when I was growing up and getting through my adolescence. I didn't have a good relationship with my mother and just didn't feel I could talk to my mother about a lot of things. Even today, I still can't. I just try to get along with her and hope for the best.
I still live at my mom's house too, but I've been doing a decent job conserving my money to move out.
Listen demcad or Reginald : it's not as hard to find a job as it was in 2009 and early 2010. I found a job during the census. During that time, job inquiries more than tripled for me. I still get multiple emails a week about my 2010 resume that I haven't updated since I found my job.
That tells you something about the market. Leave Michigan and suffer/work like us.
@TheMetalPerson I live with my 67 year mom and 47 year sister who's been out of work for three years. She's earning a degree in childhood development and makes 7 bucks an hour. Her money goes to her medical bills. All of it.
I pay the gas, electric, water, telephone, cable TV (I don't watch) and Internet bill. If I leave, who's going to buy the those bills? So if I could leave, I would.
I wasn't aware that you were taking care of your mother financially.
Sorry if it seemed like I'm trying to insult you about how you live with your mom. The reason I thought you should move out was to increase your ability to make money, not because I was looking down on you. Well it would definitely be nice to work a full time job and still be where you want. Personally, I hate living in NY. Rent is much higher where good jobs are. I would love to live in a ghost town myself :P
@TheMetalPerson My mom covers the rent and I pay for the other bills. SO it's not like I'm living off of my mother. My sister has been out of work for years. So if I could jet out of Flint. I would. But I'm doing what I have to do and taking care of family, just as they have supported me earlier in life.
@DEMCAD you can be wherever you choose to be, just ask illegal aliens who wire money back home! But if you choose to be home in flint with your family that's honorable if you ask me and you know you don't have to justify it to anyone.
you hit the nail right on the head you can't watch any tv commercials without the guy in the video being made to look like a fool. Can you imagine what would happen if they tried to do a sitcom like Father Knows Best today
A males view of the importance of a mother and father in the home is always wrong. - - As usual, the focus is mainly on the mother.The problem is the male, father, is in most cases, the one that leaves the family unit. - - The point is we cant change what is true about what is always said about men unless the men change their behaviour.The men are the same in every race. - -Nope, the boy doesnt need his father to show him how to be a man. God has taken care of that. Males s/b adults not boys
I didn't have a good father he was a drunk and tried to kill me and my mother, she divorsed him when I was 10 yrs old . So I decided at very young age not to be like my father I'm a dad of a 22yr old daughter I love very much and she turned out wonderful. Because I learned from my terrible father how not to be.
Many in our society have unfortunately bought into the lie that we're all a bunch of "deadbeats" who never pay our child support. Fatherlessness in America is a major problem. Study after study has shown that children who grow up in a fatherless home grow up struggling with alchoholism, drug abuse, and struggle in their own relationships. Dads are important!
demcad has a college degree hanging from the wall of his rundown studio apartment..thats kinda funny....Kids need a good father...I had one who worked everyday....it provided me a good example to follow.
@GypsyHustled yea, i just dun get how thats the first thing that pops into ur head. oh wait, i guess i do, but u shoulda said it as a joke , makin it serious is weird =]
Well I want to hear the story about it. I read that his Grandfather drove Nazi tanks during the WW2 occupation of Africa. I think it's a really interesting story. His wife he met during the campaign and they left to America before the end of the war.
@Firearms4Canada If your father was a piece of shit, be grateful he left! I wished my Mother had dumped my father! Loved him, but he was an asshole when drinking! A Soldiers mentality and booze aren't a good combo! Definitely not when the boys grow up, pump iron and he tries to smack them. I still remember him going out on a stretcher with a broken ankle! Smacked my older brother once, bro took it, he smacked him twice, he was warned, third time, Bro smacked back and the old man went down!
@johnwilsonriley yeah, my dad was an abusive drunk who almost killed my mom more than once. i'm glad he lives in the other side of the country!! fuck him.
in no way am i talking about child pornography or incest.daughters used to be in love with their fathers,if he was a good man and want a man like him.
@areyoulookinatmepal1 In some way, yeah, daughters love their fathers more and sons love their mothers more. However, I don't think it ever goes past family love. Daughters may see their father as a "model" for a good man and try and seek someone out who is similar.
@WorldwideWakeupCall Now why didn't my daughter meet you lol My grandson's dad is a dead beat who loves bar life and hoochies more than his own son. There is a completely different pool of men out there than when I was younger. The men I met back in the day were responsible, hard working, goal setting moral characters. I have to say as a society what kind of children are we raising ? Your mate should complement you and you should do the same for him.
I'm an only child of a single mother, and let me tell you...you're right. Growing up, I was constantly seeking the approval of older men. I also got away with a lot of things I shouldn't have been doing in HS. No supervision. My mom was a complete man hater also. Looking back, she was wrong about a lot. lol I was lucky to meet a man who's parents have been married 45+ years and counting. He has taught me so much when it comes to relationships. My 2 girls are lucky to have him in their life.
My dad wasn't there, but I had my grandpa until I was 5. He was so fun. I remember him to this day. Sad thing is I don't think I will meet a guy who was good as him.
Great video and good points, but you lost me on your last comment about gay couples, sorry buddy but it just is not the same thing. If anything, attempts at gay families are merely, very poorly, imitating the real thing. There is a spiritual, physical, emotional, and physiological dynamic at play between a male and female that leads to relationships and families, your points about good men and women explains part of that dynamic very well.
Jared Diamond is an example of those who try to down grade mens role in society- he claims that warfare and security are a detriment and therefore men always detract more than add to any society. This kind of distorted and obtusely short sighted thinking is forced down students throats in the university system and if they don't agree then they get lower marks. The leaders of nations remain male so anti-patriarchy becomes a universal path of attack, no matter the need for good male role models.
One of the impacts I have seen fathers have on their daughters is the standards they expect men to measure up to as adults. A good father will naturally instill good discriminatory practices in their daughters is basically what I am trying to say.
A survey of French women revealed their ideal job for a husband was "worker." I was impressed. My spouse stepped down from the mgt job I encouraged him to go for, after 8 years, & became a manual laborer, he feels better & I think it's great. (I just have to keep him well fed, it is very physical work.) Broken homes are so sad. I guess by having a working father, married to my mother, I appreciate my spouse more? I never let him be "a quitter, " though, that will ruin his self esteem.
See my site HowIgotCustody with an O-R-G at the end .....Click on the tab "5 Entities That Push Away Dads" I got custody of my daughter, but know first hand these systems DRIVE dads about, ESPECIALLY black fathers (MOST dads WANT to be involved)
prosedad1 1 month ago
@demcad awesome baby!!
jayliovesnomore 5 months ago
I have both parents. My dad is an angry, condescending, arrogant, asshole jerk. My mother is a nagging bitch, who never seems to stop. I'm now old enough to know that I shouldn't be like that, and that I shouldn't view others as I view them. I think what you're saying is true, if both your parent are positive roll models in your life ten the child will view the world as so; if they are negative, then the child will view it as I did for the longest time: negative. Thank you for posting this.
MetalHeadBanger011 6 months ago
BALANCE. That's what you're talking about. Hollywood stopped glorifying men and women in their natural roles a long time ago. They made it all about money and women started to feel slighted because they "weren't allowed" to help pay the bills. They got jobs n motherhood got lost in the shuffle. It's hard being a REAL mother and the job should get a lot more respect and honor. It's a sad thing when humanity doesn't care about its offspring and the results are terrifying. I like your video
xXStrWbrrYsToneXx 7 months ago
It's very true. I was raised by a single parent... never even knew my father. I am 38 and I still believe it affects my perception of relationships to this day.
MsNJohnson 7 months ago
I came from a single parent house. I'm going to college to learn physics, writing a book, don't drink, smoke, or do drugs (never tried them either) and have respect for my elders. If I may say so, I think my mother did a very good job raising me. (Best mom in the world in my honest opinion.) I had a father, but then he started drinking and cheating, so a divorce was imminent. Oh well, if he had stayed, I would have likely been like him. lol No thank you. Anyone else have a super-mom? :)
Uwohilatlitigv 7 months ago
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veemon 8 months ago
blablablabla....tell us about your relationship with your wife( if you gat one) in coupla minutes that's more better than talking blalalalalalabla for 7mins.
real4real1960 9 months ago
Funny to read Tsuguas completely out of place and uninformed comment...when as a fact nonetheless the President of our nation (US) was raised by a single mother.
JLo33W 10 months ago
@JLo33W That's not comforting to hear that. He's a complete f.up
Superseadragon 2 months ago
SOLUTION: END welfare, alimony, child support, affirmative action and make abortion ILLEGAL. Women will only value hard working men and only have unprotected sex (or sex period) with their husbands. Single moms and divorces will disappear because there would be no incentive. Single moms act as Matriarchies in that they are in charge of how the next generation of kids are raised and are bad in that they produce non productive men and failing communities.
Tsugua21 10 months ago
Im the oldest of six children. My parents were married for over 25 years. I didnt understand the racist assumptions people would sometimes make about my mother and they would ask her if they were all by the same man, which we were. My dad was sometimes too overbearing but he was there for all of his six kids and i know that him being there was very very important for my 4 brothers and my sister and i. He kept them in line. now the media makes us think that its okay to have single families.
khalilahinjapan 10 months ago
each person has their own way of internalizing family situations and friends. I think we all need good friends, good family, but sometimes it makes life more complicated when people have too high of expectations. I believe it's about finding a middle ground between likes/dislikes of the family, friends, and partner/significant other is finding an area to make a compromise. anything of value takes work!
prettylyricsmarie 11 months ago
dem dizzle....
bertmarx 11 months ago
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excellent points, we are what we know and live.
agape0112 1 year ago
Say it and say it LOUDLY DemCad. You sound like me!!!
IdolHans 1 year ago
Having worked with kids, I can tell you that as bad as is can be for a boy raised by a single mom, its 10x worse for a girl.
Honkyrappa 1 year ago
Thumbs up and an excellent topic. This can very easily expand over a series of videos as there are so many different angles.
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jdouglasfisher 1 year ago
my sofomor english teecher told us of these two peeple who dide and went to hell. A man and a woman. Theyr hell was havin to live with each other. it was funny the way he told it. it was the only thing me learnt in high schul and me been reminded of it a few times over the years.wether that had been actual experience or vicariosly .
kt10585 1 year ago
I know I have written this before. Throughout history, in every place on earth there is a ceremony binding a man and a woman together for life. It keeps them together to raise the children. Children who do not have a father in their lives seek a paternal image elsewhere. Fathers really are value added for children. Women are fools to think they are better off raising children without a man.
EdR77203 1 year ago
Your mom rocks Demcad she raised a nice man
AllTheSame711 1 year ago 3
@Jim01001011 I agree about marriages but for different reasons. I see it as insurance for women that they get the support they need if/when things don't work out. I preach to my kids that they should get married first even though I didn't because it increases the chance of success I believe if the RIGHT people marry. Marriage and parenting are not things to rush into. Both require extreme maturity in order to succeed. That maybe the most important attribute not the actual acts itself.
Badjohn007 1 year ago
@Jim01001011 They need Father Figures when their is no biological father around for whatever reason. 50% marriages end in divorce. What happens to those kids if the parents don't live around the corner from each other? lol Here you go preaching to me and my kids are both in college on academic scholarships. 2 different mothers and never married. Raised my son from 13 on my own and worked my my daughter's mom and stayed involved in her life. Some of you are so self-righteous.
Badjohn007 1 year ago
@Badjohn007
LOL Your living right up to the stereotype. 2 baby mamas. And guess what having your kids in college doesn't mean shit. Anyone can have their kids in college. That aint a sign of success or morality or any other dumbass measure you use.
skyding8962 1 year ago
@skyding8962 Maybe you missed they're both in school on academic scholarships. You conveniently overlooked that. I don't recognize your religion or morals. My kids are fine with a bright future ahead of them.
Badjohn007 1 year ago
@Badjohn007
No I saw that point. You missed my point.
skyding8962 1 year ago
@skyding8962 You have no point. You were born in wedlock and raised by both parents and just look at the idiot you turned out to be. lol
Badjohn007 1 year ago
@Badjohn007
Insulting my intelligence from someone like you I consider a positive.
skyding8962 1 year ago
@Jim01001011 Does anyone need a degree? Degrees will be completely useless very shortly in today's world. I work with several kids right out of college who have Bachelors degrees, etc., that will work most of their lives paying them off. I served our country proudly in the Army, and make more money than all of them now BECAUSE I WORKED HARD ALL MY LIFE. What good is a degree if you can't put bread on the table?
knoyes75 1 year ago
meine Oma was my ultimate family, she lived in every aspect of my life and meine Mutter was a lesbo perv and meine tante was a whore... in all of these cultural life was made hell but to fags that had to live under fags, life was hell...
MrSpemat 1 year ago
hey the goatee suits you. keep it
orangedac 1 year ago
@Jim01001011 oh talk shit Jim... I was raised by a dyke and defend masculinity as a fag that rejects acting like a woman or a real man to make my point... as a fag and that is that men are evil and acting masculine makes me invalid regardless of agreement or support to BS and while men helped me and all, and as a male have men's interests on my sides but male role models are blamed and I say this as a fag...
MrSpemat 1 year ago
As a fag who is white, with a lesbian mother and a half brother who was let down from divorce and rejected but yet was seen as better off and procreative and bitched and nagged to form him...
MrSpemat 1 year ago
@MrSpemat I also learned my male side and gay community representative to be shamed to be male and that money could define human and you would still fail...
as a fag, men, women and being hit with the same pressures, I can relate and am almost creeped out by false rape claims... I regret not acting like a female....
MrSpemat 1 year ago
Great topic. Complicated topic too...
Do you think your relationship with your parents affected your outlook on relationships?
flapjack9999 1 year ago 2
@flapjack9999 I was raised by a single mother, so I never saw a relationship in my home.
DEMCAD 1 year ago 2
too many people are wacked out on porn!! that is silently killing the nation
acts131 1 year ago
@acts131 That's spot on...
MrWisePete 1 year ago
@Demcad
There is a phenomenon called Role Reversal which is in effect as we speak. Men and women are exchanging roles which in turn, in time causes resentment. The man is the protector and maintainers of the woman...Period! If this is brought back into the family, things will be better.
AbdMalil1 1 year ago
Strip clubs are filled with women with father issues. Prisons are filled with men with father issues.
Having an abusing or bad father is much worse than not having a father at all but I know it’s important for both men and women to have positive male role models in their life when they are young.
espada9 1 year ago 2
Rockefeller try to make the man weak and unable to support a family etc... So now woman works and then the rockefeller can tax the man and woman (the whole population)
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Reg lies alot like most boys.He lives wit mommie n takes care of his family?Deadbeat,slug,bum,leech,dog,punk,liar,etc are gr8 descriptions for his stupid thinking.Wonder why he talks bad about ladies.
LadySePe 1 year ago
Sorry dem but you are wrong again. At the end of the day it is up to the individual whether he/she succeeds or not. Blaming daddy is an old tired excuse. Plenty of individuals do just fine without a father or mother figure around. If you are capable of critical thinking and don't just conform to group think then you are already better off than most people. This " we" and " our" is detrimental to the success of the individual. The largest minority in the world.
Oozingmachismo24 1 year ago
Reg lies alot like most boys.He lives wit mommie n takes care of his family?Deadbeat,slug,bum,leech,dog,punk,liar,etc are gr8 descriptions for his stupid thinking.Wonder why he talks bad about ladies.
LadySePe 1 year ago
I agree 100%
stankmaw 1 year ago
and I am black
regardingme1 1 year ago
I was a single parent divorcee who had a son who is creative, intelligent, still in a four-year college, loved me to pieces, had a great open and honest relationship. One day, he met a girl who hated me (unbeknownst to me) turned my son against me and I don't know how. Now, my son wants nothing to do with me, calls me horrible names each time I try to talk to him and lies like hell on me to everyone. I wish I knew what happened. It's like he was overtaken by a monster. So sad.
regardingme1 1 year ago
@regardingme1
maybe its you who did something.
orangedac 1 year ago
Reggie your a man basher. Stop talking about black people Reggie because you don't know shit. Most of those so-called single women have a man under the same roof. They just aren't MARRIED. There are men around. Not always the best ones but the term "single mom" is misused and abused when discussing black people in particular and you perpetuate the bullshit with your IGNORANCE.
Badjohn007 1 year ago
@Badjohn007
if you are going to have a child with a woman, first get married to her and then have the child.
orangedac 1 year ago
@orangedac 50% marriages end in divorce. Then what?
Badjohn007 1 year ago
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RockingMrE 1 year ago
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RockingMrE 1 year ago
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RockingMrE 1 year ago
It is critical to share mutual respect for each other in every way. There should always be constructive criticism without bashing. Her older boy has not had a steady positive male influence in his life (he is 10) and it shows, though he is a good boy and I look forward to knowing him and looking after him. I am the only father the little one (2.5 years) will know and I am excited to father him as well. Having positive,loving,constructive parenting cannot be overstated in importance
MrZayne8 1 year ago
Great points. I am with a woman who was a single mother of two young boys and this woman is a rare breed of love and affection + discipline. She actually took on the younger boy (2.5 years old) after becoming pregnant by accident,refusing to have an abortion and having the father sign over his rights to protect the child. She accepts me for who I am and pushes me to be the best I can be and vice versa.
MrZayne8 1 year ago
It's an intentional design to breakdown the family, and fill that void with the state.
Constant attack on Fathers, men in general, and Christianity, from the media.
EMPIREofPUPPETS 1 year ago
Men and women are alientated from one another and our realities have become completely subjective fictions based on perverted televisions shows and stupid, negative movies.
GroupKB 1 year ago
Great video DEMCAD - you are indeed a very wise and sensible person.
We need more men like you to stand up and talk about the nonsense of misandristic propaganda.
Keep up the good work.
RockingMrE 1 year ago
yeah, you make some good points demcad but the problem stems from the fact that men are no longer men. Nothing more than a bunch of tuff guys that are still sucking there mothers tits. I moved out of home at 16 got a job and learnt how to be a man. Now i'm 33, 3 kids and my own home and life. expirience is learnt not given.
HalfQ 1 year ago 6
@HalfQ "but the problem stems from the fact that men are no longer men."
Exactly.
DEMCAD 1 year ago
@HalfQ
I agree with this... but women are no longer women either, and what is most men's greatest motivation? WOMEN. There are much less positive incentives for men to be men these days, since testosterone is such a bad word in this society. Historically, it was always through women that society would give men incenctives to be good men. FEW MEN desire in and of itself, to be good men. Good men, if they cannot find a good women for whom he can trust, remain SINGLE.
I was LUCKY.
marcdaddy33 1 year ago
ecellent comment about how good women don't let their men quit.
marcdaddy33 1 year ago
Demcad it has been proven especially in the black community we need our fathers in the community but i feel that alot of women have downplayed the value of fatherhood we had a show britains missing dads and that proved things and how fatherhood is viewed
black celebraties which have had fathers have proven to be successful Michael Jordan, Floyd Mayweather, Beyonce ,Michael Jackson, Roy jones Jr ,and so many more even tho the fathers may have been strict they raised their children to be the best
beckton11 1 year ago
University degrees are useless.
knoyes75 1 year ago
To bad we cant fix the pass. There are a lot of mixed up young people out here robbing , stealing and killing . in the first thing you hear from them is no one loved me I never had a father ...ect all I can say is people love you kids
916edward 1 year ago
Well you can start by not objectifying women
P9372638491 1 year ago
@P9372638491 I am a women and did not get that from this video AT ALL : ) and I would also like to say, maybe that is where it starts the downward spiral, in a relationship, I am his, and he is mine ...correct ? he is the protector, he is the backbone of the family, and if you take his power away in anyway .... and wonder why the family unit is torn apart ... feminism - they lied to you then ...and they are still lieing to you ....sorry
wideawake73 1 year ago
I really like this one, very good thinking and observations. Not to often we hear things like this anymore, I totally agree with what you are saying here, Especially how important a good Father needs to be in the home and the importance of a good mother as well.
maximosseas 1 year ago
As long as a person is not mooching off their parents I see nothing wrong with living with them. I mean in some cultures it is expected and an honor to care for your elderly parents.
srtowner 1 year ago
hoes are only good for one thing. SAY NO TO MARRIAGE
JesusSaviorTeaParty 1 year ago
Good Video, you speak the truth! Thank You
Aloebunny 1 year ago
Will you celebrate when you upload your 1000 video?
aran08504 1 year ago
@aran08504 Sure.
DEMCAD 1 year ago
Isn't welfare a state run entitlement program?
aran08504 1 year ago
In all, 19 people were killed that day in separate shootings throughout the city.
b o r d e r l a n d b e a t d o t c o m
Indianwoodsman 1 year ago
Friday was the most violent day, leaving 20 people dead. A municipal police officer was killed by an assassin who belonged to a band of carjackers. Hours later, a state police investigator was executed on his drive home.
On Saturday, a highway police officer was killed by a driver who confronted the patrolman after the officer gave him a ticket. The officer was shot 10 times at close range in the middle of the afternoon.
Indianwoodsman 1 year ago
Among the dead were four police officers from three different agencies, Sandoval said.
"This is the worst violence we've seen this year," he said, referring to the three days from Thursday through Saturday.
The bloodshed started on Thursday with 14 people killed, including a municipal police officer.
Indianwoodsman 1 year ago
Even by Juarez Standards, a Deadly 72 Hours
Sunday, February 20, 2011 | Borderland Beat Reporter Ovemex
By Nick Valencia and Arturo Chacon,
CNN
Fifty-three people were killed in a 72-hour span in Ciudad Juarez, Mexico, making it one of the deadliest three-day periods in recent memory, state attorney general's office spokesman Arturo Sandoval told CNN Sunday.
Indianwoodsman 1 year ago
Demcad, next video you should talk about all this civil unrest going on in China,Yemen,Algeria and Iran. Im surprised you didnt bring it up in this video.
coldfire2227 1 year ago
Importance of a good father, good woman, shotgun blast!!! Classic DEMCAD. Great Intro!
traynickel 1 year ago
Great Message
petsatcom 1 year ago
The greatest problem we have in this country is our families. Our Women think they are men and our men are acting like children. I have a great family and everyone around me have the worst broke families. Its so easy to have a good family and everyone would rather fight, work, game, internet porn watch TV, drink, rather than have loads of fun with their children and their wife
btigtime2 1 year ago
Interesting points that are well taken. I can't help but wonder how I would have turned out as an adult if my father were still alive and actively involved in my life when I was growing up and getting through my adolescence. I didn't have a good relationship with my mother and just didn't feel I could talk to my mother about a lot of things. Even today, I still can't. I just try to get along with her and hope for the best.
chiyerano 1 year ago
Well done Demcad!
erikkritter 1 year ago
Most women these days act like Ho's so I treat them like Ho's, I've only met a few that act like good people and those are all married so.....
MrROTD 1 year ago
very good video Demcad. you bring up alot of good points.
good fathers as well as good mothers each bring alot into the lives of their children
bob4775 1 year ago
p.s love the audrey hepburn piece you got behind you is it an original?
weestitch 1 year ago
great insight to your thoughts again demcad, keep posting :)
weestitch 1 year ago
I had a good mother and father and I try to be a good mother too. Family is very important and families need to pull together right now to survive.
theluellen 1 year ago
Do you make money yet?
I still live at my mom's house too, but I've been doing a decent job conserving my money to move out.
Listen demcad or Reginald : it's not as hard to find a job as it was in 2009 and early 2010. I found a job during the census. During that time, job inquiries more than tripled for me. I still get multiple emails a week about my 2010 resume that I haven't updated since I found my job.
That tells you something about the market. Leave Michigan and suffer/work like us.
TheMetalPerson 1 year ago
@TheMetalPerson I live with my 67 year mom and 47 year sister who's been out of work for three years. She's earning a degree in childhood development and makes 7 bucks an hour. Her money goes to her medical bills. All of it.
I pay the gas, electric, water, telephone, cable TV (I don't watch) and Internet bill. If I leave, who's going to buy the those bills? So if I could leave, I would.
DEMCAD 1 year ago 18
@DEMCAD
I wasn't aware that you were taking care of your mother financially.
Sorry if it seemed like I'm trying to insult you about how you live with your mom. The reason I thought you should move out was to increase your ability to make money, not because I was looking down on you. Well it would definitely be nice to work a full time job and still be where you want. Personally, I hate living in NY. Rent is much higher where good jobs are. I would love to live in a ghost town myself :P
TheMetalPerson 1 year ago
@TheMetalPerson My mom covers the rent and I pay for the other bills. SO it's not like I'm living off of my mother. My sister has been out of work for years. So if I could jet out of Flint. I would. But I'm doing what I have to do and taking care of family, just as they have supported me earlier in life.
DEMCAD 1 year ago 13
@DEMCAD you can be wherever you choose to be, just ask illegal aliens who wire money back home! But if you choose to be home in flint with your family that's honorable if you ask me and you know you don't have to justify it to anyone.
Plum369 1 year ago
@DEMCAD that's what's up.
skyyeblue101 10 months ago
@DEMCAD how did they pay the bills before you lived there?
zgreg427 1 year ago
@zgreg427 I had temp jobs.
DEMCAD 1 year ago
@DEMCAD You're a good man.
Joe11Blue 1 year ago
Great vid !
manunitedfan15 1 year ago
You look like you have lost some weight, how's that going?
facestomp88 1 year ago
jeez bro, gonna send this fast to my ex-wife...
I'm divorced with 50/50 custody of two girls....
Damn...
33ismute 1 year ago
you hit the nail right on the head you can't watch any tv commercials without the guy in the video being made to look like a fool. Can you imagine what would happen if they tried to do a sitcom like Father Knows Best today
missouriprepper 1 year ago
@missouriprepper It's true, the man is always portrayed as a dumb jerk.
MrROTD 1 year ago
PontVedra 1 year ago
You see it everyday on TV, A guy can try to talk to a girl on a commercial and instantly he gets rejected as if he is awkward or scum.
What do you think is going on in the minds of our young women in the world today. And what does this do to the mindset of men?
socomplete 1 year ago
How's that 10,000$ being spent reg? Must be handy.
wvbkball 1 year ago
like the goatee Reginald its a great look on you ( > :
Truth2Give 1 year ago
I didn't have a good father he was a drunk and tried to kill me and my mother, she divorsed him when I was 10 yrs old . So I decided at very young age not to be like my father I'm a dad of a 22yr old daughter I love very much and she turned out wonderful. Because I learned from my terrible father how not to be.
sljs1010 1 year ago 2
@sljs1010 great stuff--right on
tokyorealestateman 1 year ago
We just need to contact Websters and tell them to change the definition of "All" to mean "not ALL"
Imagine the bandwidth it would save by reducing silly debates and the need for exacting qualifications.
mindprism 1 year ago
Bravo Reginald
I enjoy your videos. Keep it up, because you always seem to speak the truth.
MrWeekapaug 1 year ago
you'd probably have more good women if their fathers stuck around
marniespeaks 1 year ago
Many in our society have unfortunately bought into the lie that we're all a bunch of "deadbeats" who never pay our child support. Fatherlessness in America is a major problem. Study after study has shown that children who grow up in a fatherless home grow up struggling with alchoholism, drug abuse, and struggle in their own relationships. Dads are important!
USAPatriot63 1 year ago
I don't think we're allowed to talk about black famlies
marniespeaks 1 year ago
You get a thumbs up and a U GO BOY! LOL
6717joma 1 year ago
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Damn! this vid was really good enough to pass on. Great insights.
6717joma 1 year ago
good vid, nicely put, good insight, completely agree.
jwgbmp40 1 year ago
david d ,transformation?
Yamakashi1 1 year ago
i didn't have a dad- but that was because he died- even if he did live-
apparently he was a drunk and a loser
so i dont know which wouldve been better
having no father or having a loser drunk
1x93cm 1 year ago
demcad has a college degree hanging from the wall of his rundown studio apartment..thats kinda funny....Kids need a good father...I had one who worked everyday....it provided me a good example to follow.
starrstruck2003 1 year ago
@starrstruck2003 I was under the impression that he lived in a house with his mother and sister, not a studio.
chiyerano 1 year ago
As long as you keep putting out good videos like this you are working! Keep them coming!
bigdad06 1 year ago
Demcad, do you think a black boy could be raised successfully by a Grandfather who is a White Nazi?
GypsyHustled 1 year ago
@GypsyHustled that sounds fun. should be made into series.
Yamakashi1 1 year ago
@Yamakashi1
Demcads grandfather might have been a Nazi, but he wasn't raised by him. Keigler is a German name.
GypsyHustled 1 year ago
@GypsyHustled thats as random as sayin what if your grandma, a slave, was fukin her landlord .wtf.
Yamakashi1 1 year ago
@Yamakashi1
Well an African American man doesn't get a German name unless there is a white ancestor.
GypsyHustled 1 year ago
@GypsyHustled yea, i just dun get how thats the first thing that pops into ur head. oh wait, i guess i do, but u shoulda said it as a joke , makin it serious is weird =]
Yamakashi1 1 year ago
@Yamakashi1
Well I want to hear the story about it. I read that his Grandfather drove Nazi tanks during the WW2 occupation of Africa. I think it's a really interesting story. His wife he met during the campaign and they left to America before the end of the war.
GypsyHustled 1 year ago
@GypsyHustled where did u hear that
Yamakashi1 1 year ago
my father is a piece of shit and left when i was 1. i would love to have a good father!!
Firearms4Canada 1 year ago
@Firearms4Canada If your father was a piece of shit, be grateful he left! I wished my Mother had dumped my father! Loved him, but he was an asshole when drinking! A Soldiers mentality and booze aren't a good combo! Definitely not when the boys grow up, pump iron and he tries to smack them. I still remember him going out on a stretcher with a broken ankle! Smacked my older brother once, bro took it, he smacked him twice, he was warned, third time, Bro smacked back and the old man went down!
johnwilsonriley 1 year ago
@johnwilsonriley yeah, my dad was an abusive drunk who almost killed my mom more than once. i'm glad he lives in the other side of the country!! fuck him.
Firearms4Canada 1 year ago
hear me out,only perverts would take this wrong.
in no way am i talking about child pornography or incest.daughters used to be in love with their fathers,if he was a good man and want a man like him.
areyoulookinatmepal1 1 year ago
@areyoulookinatmepal1 In some way, yeah, daughters love their fathers more and sons love their mothers more. However, I don't think it ever goes past family love. Daughters may see their father as a "model" for a good man and try and seek someone out who is similar.
EazySPM 1 year ago
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Dajuhan2u 1 year ago
I want to be a Daddy soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo bad but don't think it's ever going to happen in this life.
WorldwideWakeupCall 1 year ago
@WorldwideWakeupCall Now why didn't my daughter meet you lol My grandson's dad is a dead beat who loves bar life and hoochies more than his own son. There is a completely different pool of men out there than when I was younger. The men I met back in the day were responsible, hard working, goal setting moral characters. I have to say as a society what kind of children are we raising ? Your mate should complement you and you should do the same for him.
NWOIS666 1 year ago
Very Nice Work!
lilacmoon68 1 year ago
even if you dont believe in God
proverbs 31:10-31
prov 22:6
the major cause of break ups is resentment
areyoulookinatmepal1 1 year ago
I'm an only child of a single mother, and let me tell you...you're right. Growing up, I was constantly seeking the approval of older men. I also got away with a lot of things I shouldn't have been doing in HS. No supervision. My mom was a complete man hater also. Looking back, she was wrong about a lot. lol I was lucky to meet a man who's parents have been married 45+ years and counting. He has taught me so much when it comes to relationships. My 2 girls are lucky to have him in their life.
tessa696 1 year ago 8
My dad wasn't there, but I had my grandpa until I was 5. He was so fun. I remember him to this day. Sad thing is I don't think I will meet a guy who was good as him.
Modacolorist 1 year ago
I cude of sworn you did this befor maybe it`s some kinda dayshavoo I`m having I dont now may be you reeposted it befor or some thing?
chris7w7 1 year ago
Daddy, daddy wasnt there, to change my underwear, to take me to the fair.
BowToMySkill 1 year ago
Great video and good points, but you lost me on your last comment about gay couples, sorry buddy but it just is not the same thing. If anything, attempts at gay families are merely, very poorly, imitating the real thing. There is a spiritual, physical, emotional, and physiological dynamic at play between a male and female that leads to relationships and families, your points about good men and women explains part of that dynamic very well.
jmcclellan54321 1 year ago
Great topics(s...)
LocalScumBag123 1 year ago
Jared Diamond is an example of those who try to down grade mens role in society- he claims that warfare and security are a detriment and therefore men always detract more than add to any society. This kind of distorted and obtusely short sighted thinking is forced down students throats in the university system and if they don't agree then they get lower marks. The leaders of nations remain male so anti-patriarchy becomes a universal path of attack, no matter the need for good male role models.
doit420sdf 1 year ago
thanks to women more people are going insane, i dont blame them
aaronzack14 1 year ago
One of the impacts I have seen fathers have on their daughters is the standards they expect men to measure up to as adults. A good father will naturally instill good discriminatory practices in their daughters is basically what I am trying to say.
ikorack 1 year ago 4
I realize now that you did touch on this.
ikorack 1 year ago
@ikorack Hmm, I can see that.
chiyerano 1 year ago
A survey of French women revealed their ideal job for a husband was "worker." I was impressed. My spouse stepped down from the mgt job I encouraged him to go for, after 8 years, & became a manual laborer, he feels better & I think it's great. (I just have to keep him well fed, it is very physical work.) Broken homes are so sad. I guess by having a working father, married to my mother, I appreciate my spouse more? I never let him be "a quitter, " though, that will ruin his self esteem.
slobomotion 1 year ago
I consider this one of your best works, DEMCAD. Spot on!
Tacticalgearhead 1 year ago 13
@Tacticalgearhead me too!
jshel37 1 year ago