Why clap for a virgin?

[GaMeR69]

I feel sorry for that girl she's not going to have many successful relationship as she grows up thats why being a virgin is wrong

[Nautypaw]

she is the first virgin I know who got "the claps" and has not had sex *giggle*

[krickle1986]

Continued.. I think its awesome that she still has it to herself. Almost like she has a card she hasnt played yet and she wants to wait until the stakes are higher. Seriously, if you pay attention to statistics you'll probably only find a tiny percentage of people who have sex before love or marriage and it hasnt ruined anything yet. Like a friend of mine said, whats the point of having a honeymoon if you've already done everything and you have nothing left to give to your spouse.

[kiwisunshine5233]

@krickle1986 What statistics are you refering to exactly?

There is more to a honeymoon than having sex and not ever couple has sex on their honeymoon. If the newlyweds have already had sex before, they can just kink it up & try something new. They can play out and indulge in their spouses fantasies that they wouldn't consider doing for a person they didn't care about.

[krickle1986]

Virginity is mostly about religion. Not just society. Of course, people are treated accordingly by society, but why do most of you think someone keeps their virginity because of everyone elses opinion. Not only does she deserve applause for having the guts to say that, but a persons body is like a gift, and some people don't just go around handing out their most prized posessions to just anyone.

[MrMedicineMan]

Well.....As far as personal preference is concerned....I am a college student. Using a condom is totally 100% guaranteed not just for STDs but also accidental pregnancies. I have many friends who used protection either pill or condom or even both and still became pregnant. That's a risk that I do not want to partake at this certain point of my life because taking care of kids or paying extra money for child labor isnt a part of my agenda at this time. Cant Miss what u never had.

[OceanWushi]

abstaining from sex isn't some kind of commendable achievement. sex is natural and healthy. If someone was holding a delicious, healthy sandwhich, but didn't eat it, I wouldn't applaud him for that. Instead I'd feel sorry for him because he doesn't know what he's missing.

[MrMedicineMan]

I do not see it as a achievement nor something that should be missed. People have their own different opinions about certain things you know. So I do not see how commending or in your case feeling sorry should even take place. One can never miss what one never had. Like with the sandwich you said...if someone never had a sandwich before in his/her own life, how can someone miss something if he/she never had it before? U could describe it but thats not any physical action that person experienced.

[kiwisunshine5233]

@MrMedicineMan However, humans are not wired to desire sandwiches unlike they are with social/mental/emotional needs such as sexual satisfaction, love, respect, friendship, etc.

[7OF7]

good comments by everyone

[nardinodr]

well i don't blame the asshole because he is an ASSHOLE and the society we live in now makes fun of virgins and say syaaaaaay to non virgins :) and im not taking anybody's side i was just very disturbed that this asshole thought it was not cool to be a virgin

ASS fuckin HOLE

[kiwisunshine5233]

How is he an asshole? Just because he doesn't bow down to praise people just for not having sex [yet]? People are "virgins" by choice or just by circumstance. There is just as much stigma against the sexually active and those considered "sluts" and "whores". This guy was just being objective. Virginity shouldn't be praised & neither should being sexually active. One is not better than the other. This was the point he was making. Virginity is just a stupid socially binding & dividing concept.

[krickle1986]

@kiwisunshine5233 true, however, society is the ones that place those particular labels on women. What this argument should be about is why arent men subjected to the same ridicule and looked down upon instead of being a "man's man". And no virginity isnt a concept its a posession that you have in your power to give to someone or to keep. After that its more like second hand clothing or sloppy seconds.

[kiwisunshine5233]

@krickle1986 No one should be ridicule and looked down upon for having sex or not. That is shallow & contemptuous. Virginity is a concept, it doesn't physically exist & people shouldn't be judged based on it. The idea that women are like second hand clothing if they had sex, degrades & objectifies women. The concept of "sloppy seconds" is bullshit. Would you call a rape victim that?

[mercyhurstchic]

We V-card carriers can be like those women who sleep with every Tom, Dick, and Harry and perform oral sex, but they could NEVER be like us!

[mercyhurstchic]

That guy in the navy blue shirt was a complete arsehole! The reason why non-virgin women don't get applauded is because they give their "stuff" up so easily to men, while virgins like us have more willpower and can be in control with our bodies.

[kiwisunshine5233]

Virgins like you are why you shouldn't get applauded. You're so stuck up & you negatively judge other women who chose to have sex. There is nothing to "give up". Virginity doesn't actually exist, its only a stupid dividing concept that was used to treat women like used & unused property. You do not have more willpower just because you run away from sex. Women who think through their decision to have safe sex have just as much or even more willpower than those who avoid sex all together.

[krickle1986]

@kiwisunshine5233 The only way to keep stds and the population under control is to promote abstinence, otherwise we are all going down together. There is no such thing as perfectly safe sex, and millions are finding that out the hard way, so thanks for promoting what tons of people are trying to change.

[kiwisunshine5233]

@krickle1986 No, the realistic way to keep the population & STDs undercontrol is promoting birthcontrol, condoms, & waiting until the individual is ready when ever that may be. Married people still need to have protected sex & not all married people limit themselves to their spouse. There is no such thing as perfection & everything has risks.

[Brandonlewis08]

being a virgin is an acomplishment! and anyone who thinks its not is shit head!

[mercyhurstchic]

I couldn't agree more with you. But I have a hard time getting men to look beyond that.

[nardinodr]

true

[fookmeharder08]

@Brandonlewis08 Unless ur ugly lol

[vagisil4eva]

I totally agree -- what's wrong with sex? Abstaining from sex is virtuous? Or just close-minded and god fearing? If you truly believe sex is something to wait for, and you've abstained from temptation, then I guess I can applaud your willpower but not your choice.

[urbium]

Very much agreed.

[mwill82]

she's not a virgin because of how she looks. she's cute! honestly... most guys think pussy is pussy. I wish i was still a virgin that's a difficult thing to do with so much curiousity out there. AND... STD's are always a good reason to stay abstinent...

[anglicantian]

That's just bullshit. Sure nobody want to get STD's, but there's a way to avoid these... called CONDOMS! My GOD. Condoms work 98% of the time, and if you're afraid those last 2% will get you an STD, well then you shouldn't stand up in the morning... There's a risk you'll get killed in the traffic.

[OyarsaElentari]

Condoms have a much higher failure rate than 2 percent.

The University of Texas, analyzing eleven different studies, determined the average failure rate for preventing transmission of the AIDS virus is 31%.

Various studies have stated that the average failure rate for preventing pregnancy is anywhere from 10-36%.

All it takes is one condom one time to fail, and you have an incurable, potentially life threatening STD.

You really want to trust your life to a piece of latex?

[anglicantian]

Various conservative studies. For all I've ever heard (including my own parents, who are doctors) condoms have a failure rate of 2-3%, and this is in terms of pregnancy, which can be avoided. In terms of STD's, condoms protect very close to 100 %. Your claims are often made by religious groups who, for some reason, find sex to be bad.

You really want to miss out on such a great time because of religious idiots?

[OyarsaElentari]

A study carried out at University of Miami Medical School which used live couples to test HIV transmission found "that 3 out of 10 women whose husbands are HIV positive and were always using a fresh condom for each intercourse, contracted AIDS Related Complexes (ARC) in an 18-month period". This translates into an infection rate of 11.2 per cent first year, 21 per cent in 2 years, 30 per cent in 3 years, 45 per cent in 5 years and 70 per cent in 10 years.

[OyarsaElentari]

Argumentem ad hominem and use of straw men, and a clear lack of research; all noted.

UN Report declares that the failure rate of condoms in preventing the spread of HIV is 10%.

CDC assigns the failure rate of condoms at 12%.

[luisjosp5]

@anglicantian thats because according to those religious idiots...sex is for procreation...not for pleasure...so u should only have sex after married cuz of the commitment with the person + "u wanna have kids" & all that shit ... & ofc they say that probably cuz they havent taste it =P or never tasted it before getting marry...

[anglicantian]

@luisjosp5

Yep, absolutely ludacris. I know.

[19PHS74]

Fat ugly biotch will remain a virgin.

[benkulio]

Sex is a personal choice, being a virgin does not make a person better. It just saves people from unneccesary worries about STD's and pregnancy as well as their big brother HIV. But a the same time there are ways to avoid prgnancies and STD's if one is sexually active.