So I know you've had this video up for a while but I just want to say I find it relevant to all of us transpersons. I showed this one to my mother and it was like a light bulb went off in her head. It's like she finally got it. After over a year she finally got it. So thank you for keeping this video up. *hugs*
@thejdchronicle My Mom had the same moment of truth seeing these vids. She saw me! I am thankful that people make these videos.better trans health care may result from enough of us standing together! I find it funny to see how some people knew I was trans before I said anything but didn't tell me & the only ones who didn't see it suddenly had the Ah-ha moment. We can fight ourselves to death or accept our needs and move on from there. education & caring is key to acceptance.
My pain is waiting any longer to transition.I felt just like you for my whole life & now after a friend posed 1 single philosophical statement regarding morals and who created them.Then I realized I was the one who created my own morals & my lying to myself & others about who I am became too much to bear.I realized transition is all I wanted my entire life & I could not run from it anymore.The evils imposed by society no longer held any relevance to me.i just had 2 be me or stop living period.
@TankyTeemo . I'm soon getting an Orchiectomy & am going to fix a few things soon. So far my legal name change & ID has been the best part.14 months of HRT so far.I want to make a video but I am investing every cent in my transition. Electrolysis is slow & expensive. FFS & SRS are my goals. People can't tell me not to be me anymore. If I can't be me then I have no reason to live. So far everyone I know accepts me even if they don't understand. Its a long journey but I must take it!
I love being" stopped in my tracks" by lifes greatest moments, which are more often these days. Your love of life shows in your smile and lives in your words. Have an Amazing Day.
I apologize to all for the removed comments. I hate the 500 character limit. I suppose it is necessary, because I would write a book, instead of wordsmithing my message.
I am late to post this because I had my greatest epiphany in Bangkok this month! FFS is a great self-awareness moment. I looked in the mirror and saw my self for the first time! I never liked the face that stared back before. I nurtured myself, but my face was wrong. I knew it. Now it is right, and I smile constantly! I can now go through life and everyone else knows who I am, too! This was the greatest core moment for me. In my experience, nothing else ever came close to this.
A realy touching video, lots to think about. I havn't thought enough upto now about how it would be difficult for my friends to take in and accept it. Thanks Meghan. x
Meghan wow you just spoke to my heart , i am also in transition but before i started i never cared about society judging me anyway at all ! l was and am an individual .but now here i am transitioning into me and NOW i am worried about labels and all that goes with it what is that all about? i am going to have to think about this... oh and if fear starts to edge over pain watch out.. i am there and its not fun .. the 2 have been battleing since i moved here and i am at wits end ,wish me luck?
I think one of the big difficulty with transition is culpability. Culpability to hurt people you know from a long time like your family and lover. Like Erica2 said, we dont know, often, how much is difficult for the others to accept and understand what transition is and the long and winding road it can be. Often I feel guilty when I saw the pain and tears, consequences of my transition. For me is a road of deliverance but for people who know me for long years (particulary the men) its hard.
The hurt that transition causes to friends and relatives is something that I have been thinking a lot about lately. I want to come out to my best friend and his wife, but I am sure that they are not going to take it well. It's quite strange that 2 years ago he told me that he had decided that if I was gay, that I would still be welcome at his house. What he didn't realize is that I'm not gay, I'm trans. I wish that I had told him the whole truth then. My advice is tell them early on.
what you say about transition is also true for someone making any transition, either going after a new job, a new position, living in a new place, losing a loved one, etc...
For as much planning and thinking through that you do, you can't really know with 100% certainty how people will react, especially when discussing a major life change like transitioning. Whenever I've dropped a major bombshell bit of news on my family, I've always braced myself for the worst but hoped for the best. You almost have to steel yourself, otherwise you set yourself up for a hard fall if you prematurely let your guard down.
In the beginning, I had no idea just how traumatic it was for people to hear I was Transitioning. It just didn't occur to me how emotionally upsetting this news can be. To me, I was like, "what's the big deal? I'm not dying. I'm still here. I'm just going to look, act and sound different."
It wasn't until months later, when I really started discussing it with people that I realized just how upsetting this sort of news can be to your loved ones and friends.
So I know you've had this video up for a while but I just want to say I find it relevant to all of us transpersons. I showed this one to my mother and it was like a light bulb went off in her head. It's like she finally got it. After over a year she finally got it. So thank you for keeping this video up. *hugs*
thejdchronicle 6 months ago 2
@thejdchronicle My Mom had the same moment of truth seeing these vids. She saw me! I am thankful that people make these videos.better trans health care may result from enough of us standing together! I find it funny to see how some people knew I was trans before I said anything but didn't tell me & the only ones who didn't see it suddenly had the Ah-ha moment. We can fight ourselves to death or accept our needs and move on from there. education & caring is key to acceptance.
trancendedsoul 3 weeks ago
My pain is waiting any longer to transition.I felt just like you for my whole life & now after a friend posed 1 single philosophical statement regarding morals and who created them.Then I realized I was the one who created my own morals & my lying to myself & others about who I am became too much to bear.I realized transition is all I wanted my entire life & I could not run from it anymore.The evils imposed by society no longer held any relevance to me.i just had 2 be me or stop living period.
WheedWhack3R 10 months ago 3
@WheedWhack3R Omg I am in the EXACT same position!! Thank god I'm not the only one :')
TankyTeemo 3 weeks ago
@TankyTeemo . I'm soon getting an Orchiectomy & am going to fix a few things soon. So far my legal name change & ID has been the best part.14 months of HRT so far.I want to make a video but I am investing every cent in my transition. Electrolysis is slow & expensive. FFS & SRS are my goals. People can't tell me not to be me anymore. If I can't be me then I have no reason to live. So far everyone I know accepts me even if they don't understand. Its a long journey but I must take it!
trancendedsoul 3 weeks ago
GREAT video!
Whitedoggy24 1 year ago
I love being" stopped in my tracks" by lifes greatest moments, which are more often these days. Your love of life shows in your smile and lives in your words. Have an Amazing Day.
otterz4u 1 year ago
I apologize to all for the removed comments. I hate the 500 character limit. I suppose it is necessary, because I would write a book, instead of wordsmithing my message.
Again, my apologies.
Leona1950 1 year ago
I am late to post this because I had my greatest epiphany in Bangkok this month! FFS is a great self-awareness moment. I looked in the mirror and saw my self for the first time! I never liked the face that stared back before. I nurtured myself, but my face was wrong. I knew it. Now it is right, and I smile constantly! I can now go through life and everyone else knows who I am, too! This was the greatest core moment for me. In my experience, nothing else ever came close to this.
Leona1950 1 year ago
A realy touching video, lots to think about. I havn't thought enough upto now about how it would be difficult for my friends to take in and accept it. Thanks Meghan. x
MissKimSinger 1 year ago
Meghan wow you just spoke to my heart , i am also in transition but before i started i never cared about society judging me anyway at all ! l was and am an individual .but now here i am transitioning into me and NOW i am worried about labels and all that goes with it what is that all about? i am going to have to think about this... oh and if fear starts to edge over pain watch out.. i am there and its not fun .. the 2 have been battleing since i moved here and i am at wits end ,wish me luck?
jennjelly 1 year ago
@lucidwinds - you are NOT ugly.
Erica2Lives 1 year ago
I think one of the big difficulty with transition is culpability. Culpability to hurt people you know from a long time like your family and lover. Like Erica2 said, we dont know, often, how much is difficult for the others to accept and understand what transition is and the long and winding road it can be. Often I feel guilty when I saw the pain and tears, consequences of my transition. For me is a road of deliverance but for people who know me for long years (particulary the men) its hard.
CamilleDesserres 1 year ago
The hurt that transition causes to friends and relatives is something that I have been thinking a lot about lately. I want to come out to my best friend and his wife, but I am sure that they are not going to take it well. It's quite strange that 2 years ago he told me that he had decided that if I was gay, that I would still be welcome at his house. What he didn't realize is that I'm not gay, I'm trans. I wish that I had told him the whole truth then. My advice is tell them early on.
shotgun7 1 year ago
Who cares what the consequences are becoz let's face it, it ain't a choice!!!!
ThatFelicitygirl 1 year ago
Some interesting points...
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ArcadePerfect 1 year ago
what you say about transition is also true for someone making any transition, either going after a new job, a new position, living in a new place, losing a loved one, etc...
podcastbard 1 year ago
For as much planning and thinking through that you do, you can't really know with 100% certainty how people will react, especially when discussing a major life change like transitioning. Whenever I've dropped a major bombshell bit of news on my family, I've always braced myself for the worst but hoped for the best. You almost have to steel yourself, otherwise you set yourself up for a hard fall if you prematurely let your guard down.
6672rock 1 year ago
great video
nochokin 1 year ago
In the beginning, I had no idea just how traumatic it was for people to hear I was Transitioning. It just didn't occur to me how emotionally upsetting this news can be. To me, I was like, "what's the big deal? I'm not dying. I'm still here. I'm just going to look, act and sound different."
It wasn't until months later, when I really started discussing it with people that I realized just how upsetting this sort of news can be to your loved ones and friends.
Erica2Lives 1 year ago
it is a big adjustment re labels not just being trans but the fact is we are controlled by labels even before transition..
For example if you are living as a white male of at least average income and education you are at the top of the social chain race / society wise..
Then moving to Female even if you pass you suddenly lost a lot of those social advantages..
Then being trans if you don't pass now you've just dropped another lower rank.
I for one, was not used to being at the bottom.
fromariel 1 year ago