How to Approach Her in a Group www.PracticalHappiness.com

[OryxMortis]

sounds like fail. srsly

[joshnohmer]

Yahhh, it might worked a few years ago when U were in school.... (cuz idk how old u are)... but in todays enviorment. Its a no go.

[izoe01]

Is this tryna help shy guys?

[karmajunior09]

what if she rejects ????

[mwanga1000]

dude this not helping thts the lasts thing u cn do like wtf? hey cn i talk to u for moment one on 1? no u creep

[ValenciaPro]

No, you are wrong

first mistake: that's gonna work only if you are handsome, if you are not, she will kick you out in no time

second mistake: don't say ever: EXCUSE ME, PARDON ME, too formal mate, believe me, just use HI or HEY and... (whatever you want to tell or ask)

in this situation I'd go talking to all the group first and focus on the girl you want, that has worked to me



[roombooy2]

This works sometimes if you're really confident ,, Don't try it if you can't even

Approach one little girl . Take it step by step from the ugliest and the simplest then master it :)

[Quartrez]

Uh... Okay, so I approach her in the group and then what... I start a conversation ? I say "Hi ?" :/

It's not like we met in the street, I just "grabbed her" from her group...

Urgh anyways...

[G4mePl4yzzz]

i like most of your videos but i think this one doesnt works in practice. Im sorry I thumped down for this one

[mikael1991]

I have always done the same mistake: I go every weekend into Bars and wait that something would happen. But after watching your videos, I decided to use your tactics. So the result of last saturday: I met 10 new girls :) Im so happy that I made a big step towards, being confident. Thank you for your great advice! Without these videos I would be still doing that old mistake!!

[yeayea131]

what would should you do if shes with one other friend, do you just talk to them both?

Ur vids are great by the way, keep up the good work bro!

[kashisall1]

Hey Bro, Great Video. Love The Advice!

[drystzz]

I've watched ur videos, but this particular one is useless. I dont think that direct way will earn our way. Why would she wanna be summoned out of her group for us, before developing any tendencies?

[AmericanFascist11]

Arkady39 you are a genius when it comes to women but some of your strategies just take too long and I don't want to wait about a million years just to find out that she wants to be friends, I am not criticizing you. this one girl i am chasing after who has no idea that i even exist is extremely beautiful and when i have seen her interacting with her friends she seems like a very nice person, the thing is i don't want it to take forever just to date her. do you have any other tips?

[awesomebeto75]

@AmericanFascist11 i know how you feel huh im a shy guy so asking girls out is hard i get too red and get all smiley and shit its quite embaraasing how can i get rid of my shyness please help

[AmericanFascist11]

@awesomebeto75 well i know it's easier said than done, but don't try to impress the chick, i know it may be really stupid but try a cheesy pick-up line and introduce yourself right after, she may laugh and that could break the ice. if you have more questions i'd be happy to answer. i just don't have answers to every last detail.

[speedybastard2]

if this fails and she tells her friends, you still prove that you have the balls to approach her. if she doesn't appreciate that then the next one will.

[alacareintrapeyoutub]

stop giving him advice , he doesn't need it . He Obviously lives in a galaxy where u can talk normal to women :)

[darkhunterGPX]

Honestly i feel like your Chances Drop When You pull her out of the Group Like that and ask her that....first off she will Think your kinda weird and second she will defiantly tell that whole group exactly what you just told her...And thats where the rumors and Jokes Will be tossed back and forth about you within that group for the rest of that day...

[JoyeuxLj]

agree

you can only pull this off when her group (esp the girl of interest) is already familiar with you.

[darkhunterGPX]

exactly that never happened to me But it happened to someone whos done that and was interested in on of my Chick friends And she Told us what he told her and As What i mentioned above :S

[Sokrates82]

Its important to approach the whole group especially if there are guys around. First pay most attention to the guys and kind of "ignore" her a bit.

If you go straight up to her everyone in the group will know that your only interessted in her and her friends will ignore you, which makes it hard to have a comfortable conversation.

If you prove yourself a cool guy to her friends they wont have a problem and wont interrupt you if you "isolate" her later from the group to have 1 on1 conversation.

[PunkRockCelt]

i find approaching girls for the first time so difficult, i have no confidence whatsoever...often i sweat, heavily.

[3320105]

@PunkRockCelt lol sucks for you

[awesomebeto75]

@PunkRockCelt lol me too ugh i hate it i ned help hehe its annoying being shy and i hate the sweat lol just so weird situation

[ikmoestLucaslezen]

finally I found an answer :D tyvm ^^

[bebIessed]

what do i do when she says yes, where do i take her, im 15 and i dont drive.

[SirGrixxly]

meet her at the park. It's a good place to talk and see what kind of common interest you share.

[rionsic]

@bebIessed He has about 100 vids, go check his site...

[theREDmolecom]

Funny, just being straight and not having any gimmick is something that works well but there can be more to it than that. This is a good start though. There are a few different things you can do with your body language that can make this even easier. My videos show it, but other than that, nice Vid man!

[mafriqa]

dude you should get your own tv show. just call vh1

[0MrRib0]

haha!

another good video,

again i'm not sure if this applies to me. I mean wouldn't that be a bit random? If you don't even know the persons name or anything?

hahah

keep up the good work man x

[chikeedoo]

funny but genious

[devil45450]

"one on one as a man and a woman do"

....

[yellowhat4]

I found it funny too.

[cmeduck]

@devil45450 Yea I know right? lol

[nicktubara]

if you dont know the group personally i doubt they will let their own friend go off with someone theyre not familair with. if you have a friend and someone asks if they could talk to them alone youre not gonna say " sure go ahead, i mean you look like a serial killer but ok then"? lol

the way i would go about trying to get to know a gal who's always in a group would be to get to know the group themselves, start by getting to know her best friend then talk to her a lil so she can be familair 2u.

[bojangles322]

agreed... u have to run game on all the friends initially.. approach them all and try to create some laughter or interest.. then make the girl u are interested in know it by focusing ur attention on her.. tell her she's attractive and that you wanna call her.. if the friends thought u were cool u have an even better chance with teh girl cuz they'll all talk about u after u leave and be like ," so when u gonna call him suzy he was a cool guy"

[jpz1016]

hahaha., nice one., haha., seriously dude., what will i do??

[guitarbumx]

just play it off with a nonchalant 'oh, fuck it' kind of attitude.

say like 'well, regardless, nice to meet you' or 'can i at least buy you a drink before you go back?'

[Kitsune81]

so, a girl rejects you and you buy her a drink?

She'll just say: thx for the drink, and walk off, nice tactic :P

[guitarbumx]

well, maybe, but that depends on the type of girl, doesn't it?

some girls have a stone-cold superiority complex and others are just shy or not interested enough at the moment. and perseverance might work with the latter.

[jpz1016]

wat if rejects you dude? wat'll you do?

[blackchamp95]

just punch her on her face n say @#$% off!!!

LOL jst kiddin

[AutoPilotDelta]

This is interesting.

The question is:

will you ask HER ''can I talk to you for a moment one on one?''

or

will you ask the GROUP ''can I lend your friend for a moment''.

[goldmine332]

when you say one on one it seems like doing the puna nee bussiness, i think the woman might give a slap, maby a different words can be used

[dtst395]

dude i swear your a genious

[tbone441122]

ok..im having this exact problemm..

[Killingtrolls]

-Read my last comment up 4 better tips-

n that she should tag along on one of those things, or if you got nothing goin on just pull out your phone n realize your late n blame.tell (don't ask) her to giver her your number n that you should b free (specific day). bring her back to her friends, joke around withem for a bit. hug em.... done deal much better than only having to crapy ideas of wat ur guna do. i'm all about improvising, but every one gets stuck.

[Killingtrolls]

asking permission from the group to isolating her before you got some sort of sexual attraction and then right away asking her if maybe sometime the two of you could hang out and do what men and women do one on one is bad. a better way to go direct on a group is to let them know u can only stay for a sec but you thought 1 was cute and u had see if there was anything else goin for her.

[Killingtrolls]

if ur mind frame is congruent to this u'l get positive reactions. if they look at you weird copy and over do her facial expression/body language and joking mock her like "how dare you talk to some one as beatuful as me" or whatever it looks shes thinkin. this should get em laughin. shel be like "lol that's not wat i was thinkinglol". playfuly push her n me like bs. ask her friends how they role with her. Then out of the blue ask "wait a sec, are you guys like best friends or something?

[Killingtrolls]

"i can totaly tell, u guys got the same facial expresions" n just go from there talk about how they just did girl code, n how u wished guys had that. (story of a some girl u werent feeln n need some help from a budy) or anything. u want playful touching back an forth with them. move them some where. eventually once your hittin it off with one of them take her hand spin her n tell her friends your bowrrowing her for a sec n you'll bring her right back. once your allone get to know each other

[Killingtrolls]

tease her on stuff ocationally but be real. ask her things about feelings. really understand her. u could probably hook up with her right there if you feel it out. i like to tell them we're guna play thumb wars n if she wins she gets to kiss me on the lips for a sec but if she loses she only gets to kiss me on the cheak. you could cheat and win, n be like idk bout you....ok try again....

if your not feelin the kiss, tell her about 2 different specific things that are happenin later that weak

[sgtconker]

true. why not. we always make life harder when life can be simple.

[crispyhannibal]

this is a very helpfull video.sounds very simple ..

[iouetm954y9m]

I like this guys videos...But that seems like the worst way and i agree that would take alot of balls

[elendless]

i rather the good ol' let's dance, sing, drink a glass and part from there, this one needs a huge shell to endure what the groups says (cuz ppl in masses are ruthless)

[WerdddoT]

That's what girls like though. Don't expect to atract girls without useing your balls man

[qbertzz]

it would take alot of balls to do that

[McDavis93]

thank you soo much for your advice

[beisaaa]

women are so hard to understand so AFC's like you guys can envy PUA's

[lordmind]

afc?

[rellabma1]

Very Nice How MUCH? haha

[chumppe]

Why must you women be so hard to understand :<

[killa268]

yea they are kinda in their own little world that us men must understand. : )

[XPRODIGIOX]

it works only if ur good looking

[samqwerty8938]

or if shes buters

[verycoldice2]

true true true!!

[zmxncbv243]

@XPRODIGIOX awww yyeeeaahhhh booiiiii

[TheNewRiflemanBob]

@XPRODIGIOX So I'm guessign that you tried but it never worked out and you think that you have below average looks. Am I correct?

[heyruhn]

@XPRODIGIOX you have limiting-beliefs

[maxchoudhry]

I rather stick needles in my eyes than approach a group. I might do that if had 10 shots of Patron!!

[juswolf22]

i feel ya bro, thats like hard cuz you gotta keep the friends occupied too and stuff, and the friend could be butt ugly.

[AibanSama]

lmao xD

[huholah]

hey, I appreciate this video, but do you have to know the girl really well in order to do that?

[Slimtwin75]

First off, the majority of your videos are spot on and give good advice. However, I would not recomment this approach under any circumstances. It comes across as awkward. I would suggest addressing the group for a while and isoalate after some comfort and ideally attraction has been established. Thanks for the videos.

[bludika]

AND you are an idiot

[libetta]

1 thing is for sure, they will laugh and "giggle" once you're away, now it's either they/one of them likes you or otherwise.

[djbro16]

why not take advantage of the group? Women will feel more comfortable around a man if there are plenty of interconnecting relationships between her friends and the man. More friends will never hurt. And in some cases by hanging out with her and the group, you may find this girl is no good and you by pass all that grief, or maybe, you find another girl or perhaps a connection to another girl?

[sakanet]

You are awesome man. I really enjoy these videos and find them extremely useful. Keep up the good work!

Greetings from Turkey!

[arkady39]

Thanks!!! I have been in Antalia a few years ago. Great place.

[sakanet]

Ohh cool, i am sure you picked up some women over there... :)

[TheCrossov3r]

Hey man, I need some help. Its not about girls in groups, but its about girls in general. Well im staff for some basketball camp at a highschool, theres lots of girls taking classes at the school, I think its a good opportunity to learn to talk to girls. So what do I do, a girl I don't know, she is walking down the hall, what do i do/say? Also if a girl is at a vending machine, how can I strike up a conversation, or get her attention, thx

[julgelon]

do you have any tips for me about this?

what good topics are good to talk about considering that she's a great easy goin kinda girl

[arkady39]

Check out my free program "Powerful Personality" at the main page of my site. Lots of examples there, as well as my article, forums and audio programs.

[julgelon]

Hows it goin man, hope u ok!

ihave no probs approachin females etc. the only thing is that im not realy great at keepin the conversation flowing after 20 to 30 mins... :(

[playingAround81]

Very good advice arkady39. ONe thing I would like to add here is that it is always good to ask her friends if you could borrow her for a minute to talk to her. A girl will never open up easily in front of her friends coz then she would come across as being easy. SO take her away from the group, and talk to her.

[omarmafia234]

i like a girl older than me by one year and she's always with her friends so i'll look bad if i told her that i want to talk to ya and there isn't too much too say one of my friends told me that he could tell his girll friend to talk the rest of the group and left her alone so i can talk to her is than the right thing or what

[arkady39]

You don't need to say much or worry about what she will think. Ask her to talk to you one on one, introduce yourself and tell her that you would like to see her sometime. As simple as that, and don't worry about what her friends will think. It should not be your concern.

[ratview]

@omarmafia234 Did you get her??? 

[Tai02]

I wasn´t sure about this trick and I needed your opinion to be more confident! Thanks arkady39!

[arkady39]

Sure thing.

[Tai02]

I have a trick that a friend of mine told me. he said that by using this trick you can cause a good impression to a woman (even if she is around her group of friends)sounding like a smart and funny guy! The trick is simple:you walk near her and you say this a bit loud and with sarcasm:" It´s so hot around here! I feel myself barking!" My friend said that if you say in the right paste and time... she (and the rest of her group) won´t stop laughing!!! This line is deadly specialy in the winter!

[arkady39]

Sure thing. That's a good one. There are plenty of other sarcastic observations you can think of to just say in a woman's presence and if she is cool, smart and in the right frame of mind at that time and place, it will be a great ice-breaker.

[Tai02]

I have a question! asking her to talk to you in private... the rest of the group won´t start to wonder? I thought that we only ask those things when we already know the Woman.

This is my opinion but if you say that there´s no problem then I believe you.

keep up the excelent work!

[arkady39]

Thanks for your kind words. The group will mostly guess why you want to talk to her. I mean, why else if not to meet her? And... if they wonder, let them wonder all they want. What's wrong with that?

[arkady39]

I appreciate that all of you guys help me keep the posting clean and DIFFERENT from comments on other videos that are either worthless or rude or both. Thanks a lot.

[blak000]

Well, I think it's because your advice sounds reasonable, and there's not much room for controversy. Plus, your videos are sincerely aimed at helping people; it's hard for people to hate on that.

[arkady39]

Thanks a lot. Such words as yours are important to me.

[bhuber77]

I'd be willing to try it, although it does go against the rule of asking permission because it gives them an opportunity to say and then you're screwed. But if they say no, would you really wanna talk to assholes like that?

[arkady39]

Exactly! And you are not really asking for permission in a way that will make you come across as insecure and wimpy. You simply ask her to talk in private. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

[methy222]

wow its such a common problem with such an obvious solution. "hey gurls, can i borrow your friend i need to talk to her for a sec"

i could just imagine her friends talking behind her back and telling her afterwards that guy must lik you etc.... you rock arkady!!

[arkady39]

Thanks a lot. Indeed, some solutions to seemingly big problems with approaching women are really easy and don't need overanalyzing.

[VictorMalvado]

Not bad actually.

[arkady39]

Thanks!