My brother does this kind of thing to me. It sucks. I'll have something I feel is very important to know about, and out of love for my brother I want him to know about it too, but he has no respect of me to care. And beyond that, a prejudice disrespect that I'm just a valueless bunch of bullshit. It's like I can't even talk to him about any real concerns because he already has his mind made up that I'm some kind of fool. Like my whole world view is always the same BS to him. No mater the topic.
I know this is a different dynamic then you are describing, but I think it's something to do with ego. Like the person isn't present in the conversation, and is insted projecting onto you some sort of diminished idea of what they need you to be, in order for them to be right.
It doesn't give you credit for being an intelligent human. It's Insulting and frustrating.
I actually experience what you're describing too. I just try to avoid any real, or serious conversation. Sometimes you can, sometimes you cant. Some conversations lead somewhere else though... I try to focus on being positive around the person and not give away any opinions, views, or any of my cherished ideas on things. Its frustrating when the person doesnt appreciate what your giving to them.
I'm not sure how important it really is. Or for that matter, how much it really matters.
I know your not an idiot, you know, so who cares?
It seems like there will always be individuals who masquarade through life sucking the vital forces from whoever they can. I look at them as having emotional insecurities and allow them the rope to hang themselves. Parasitical weasals, pychic vampires, bed wetters, they are what they are and we can not help them.
Hi- I've been gone for awhile, broke my camera haven't replaced it yet. Nice to see you. I agree with you and it's worse when they get really agressive to the point where you feel the dark energy beating you. I feel that coming from people sometime and have to tell them to back off when it feels like physical assault..
I don't think you can accept it if you don't like it. I think it has everything to do with egos. you don't like someone talking over you.. because YOU want to be heard. Who are you? That is the question an old sage named Ramana Marharshi would say to people who would come to him with problems... they would say I have this problem.. or this bothers me.. and he would ask who does it bother? According to him.. and I agree with him.. that is the only thing worth trying to understand.
I didnt go into the details of what "accepting it" means to me. The whole problem I have with this is not focused on not being heard, but that the person already thinks you are not agreeing with them, and they just like to seem like they have the knowledge. If the person had let me speak, then they would hear that I know what they are talking about, that we're on the same page.
But the person doesnt want to accept that for some twisted reason. They must think Im some idiot, some child. I hate what motivates their action. So, yeah, I guess thats being egotistical..
My brother does this kind of thing to me. It sucks. I'll have something I feel is very important to know about, and out of love for my brother I want him to know about it too, but he has no respect of me to care. And beyond that, a prejudice disrespect that I'm just a valueless bunch of bullshit. It's like I can't even talk to him about any real concerns because he already has his mind made up that I'm some kind of fool. Like my whole world view is always the same BS to him. No mater the topic.
rayofminneapolis 2 years ago
I know this is a different dynamic then you are describing, but I think it's something to do with ego. Like the person isn't present in the conversation, and is insted projecting onto you some sort of diminished idea of what they need you to be, in order for them to be right.
It doesn't give you credit for being an intelligent human. It's Insulting and frustrating.
rayofminneapolis 2 years ago
I actually experience what you're describing too. I just try to avoid any real, or serious conversation. Sometimes you can, sometimes you cant. Some conversations lead somewhere else though... I try to focus on being positive around the person and not give away any opinions, views, or any of my cherished ideas on things. Its frustrating when the person doesnt appreciate what your giving to them.
12blin 2 years ago
I'm not sure how important it really is. Or for that matter, how much it really matters.
I know your not an idiot, you know, so who cares?
It seems like there will always be individuals who masquarade through life sucking the vital forces from whoever they can. I look at them as having emotional insecurities and allow them the rope to hang themselves. Parasitical weasals, pychic vampires, bed wetters, they are what they are and we can not help them.
cityhall4all 2 years ago
Hi- I've been gone for awhile, broke my camera haven't replaced it yet. Nice to see you. I agree with you and it's worse when they get really agressive to the point where you feel the dark energy beating you. I feel that coming from people sometime and have to tell them to back off when it feels like physical assault..
yafanna3 2 years ago
I don't think you can accept it if you don't like it. I think it has everything to do with egos. you don't like someone talking over you.. because YOU want to be heard. Who are you? That is the question an old sage named Ramana Marharshi would say to people who would come to him with problems... they would say I have this problem.. or this bothers me.. and he would ask who does it bother? According to him.. and I agree with him.. that is the only thing worth trying to understand.
sabeansiy 2 years ago
I didnt go into the details of what "accepting it" means to me. The whole problem I have with this is not focused on not being heard, but that the person already thinks you are not agreeing with them, and they just like to seem like they have the knowledge. If the person had let me speak, then they would hear that I know what they are talking about, that we're on the same page.
12blin 2 years ago
But the person doesnt want to accept that for some twisted reason. They must think Im some idiot, some child. I hate what motivates their action. So, yeah, I guess thats being egotistical..
12blin 2 years ago
I understand you're being annoyed by it though. totally annoying.
sabeansiy 2 years ago
i hate it when people ask me if i'm ok... -_o
MayanMonkey 2 years ago
Long time no see are you ok ????????
skodas 2 years ago
yeah, I'm OK.
12blin 2 years ago