I wanted to start recording all the nonsense i was getting out of my X when we were together, but was unable,,the divorce came as a complete surprise she must have been planning it for while i had no money to hire my own attorney.. I feel so bad for my Kids i often ask them if she is treating them well?? i can only assume they are lying
@karlbuttler the best thing you can do is start documenting things now, and anything that your ex does that could get her locked up don't hesitate to make it happen. Most men hesitate because they don't want to ruin their ex's life. However, in the proces theirs and their children's lives are ruined. If your ex goes to jail for a DUI or something of that nature make sure the courts hear about it and take your children back.
@begood4000 That was EXCELLENT advice! I need more people with your level of insight to stop by and check out my last 3 videos. YOUR commentary would be GREATLY appreciated. And thanks again for the video updates. Good material. You have a alot of useful wisdom. Keep up the good work!
My mother tried this...it backfired. It commonly backfires as the child grows and sees that they've been used as a weapon against someone they love - and by someone that claims to love their child.
@YoBravaFrumAnuvaMuva ...Yep a lot of my friends are above 50 yrs old...while they were my age (early thirties) they struggled with this. Until the kids got old enough to see that Dad got shafted. Ironically, though, they ended up having a deeper relationship with him in the end, because what mom said in the past was untrue. "Lying only delays the inevitable consequence of our actions."
@theamazingautistic because sadly though both sex's can and do take part in the alienation. The reality is that the majority of the alienators are mothers and the laws are set up to allow them and even reward them to do so.
Still loving your vids. Thank you for keeping it up. And thank you SO much for helping spread awareness about the mental abuse narcissists and borderlines place upon their partners, in particular the male ones. When most people think of a "cluster B" personality, they think of a man abusing a woman. Most people don't know about the mass numbers of women who abuse their male partners.
And on a side note - don't forget that the DSM-V will be integrating narcissism in with psychopathy in 2012!
@ohjujubeeme I'm glad you like my videos. That's great about the DSM-V interegrating narcissism with pyschopathy as it's my opinion that Narcissism is just another form of psychopathy. I'm glad they reached this conclusion because I heard a while back they were trying to take out narcissism as a disorder all together.
@begood4000 Well they are essentially removing it. If I' not mistaken, it will go something like " Antisocial Personality Disorder with extreme narcissistic tendencies". Same for BPD and HPD. It will become "BPD with histrionic behaviors". I will have to do more research on it, but we will know more next year, as well as the guidelines on how to format the wording. I'm a bit surprised the APA is doing this, considering it significantly raises the statistics on APD.
....(cont) and therefore, I wonder if I'm not emotionally stuck as a young girl, desperately calling out, "daddy, Daddy! Take My hand! I'll save you!"
But I've got to learn how to avoid the walking wounded in favor of men who have admitted they have been abused (not easy, I know), and who have taken steps to recover from it...b/c I find that if you haven't dealt with your past, you keep repeating it by making the other person 'pay' for the exes (or mother's) sins.
NPD M has done that to F...then wonders why he hates coming home on holidays. She calls him every dirty name in the book, but dares to feign innocence by claiming, "I've never called you stupid!" ...yet, she HAD called him every other word in the English language that means the same thing...plus things like "Monster" and other swearwords. l find myself attracted to men who have been abused by women (but who have not yet come to terms with it)...
Thank God, I havent but I came very close to marrying one of these women. The smiling passive aggressive type. I was lied to for a year and a half. I had no idea because I was sold so hard. Then one day I got a letter saying she was marrying someone else (a lie) and was cut off without a word. I blamed myself and went to hell and back. Only freak coincedence brought me the information I was missing. A year later she called and apologized but told me she had cancer(a lie) Theyre very sick.
@cozyfoxstudio I'm so so so glad you got the heck out and aren't with such a person. I"m glad you learned about this stuff when she made her attempt to ensnare you once again.
@begood4000 It took me about 8 months of obessive research on personality disorders before I beat it into my brain and accepted it wasnt my fault. Even though I knew it wasnt, I was stuck there in a living hell. The experience helped me realize how they got that way, before they could develop empathy. They cannot self love and seek attention to bury the pain. They cannot heal because they dont have the tools. I'm not mad at her anymore. I've couldnt have more pity. They're doomed. Its horrible
Mothers have to be made realize that a child loves his dad. To cause a child to hate their dad is doing not alone the dad a great harm but great harm to the child as well. If mothers love the child they should respect their child's natural love. - Blessings - Rene
My Wife's Ex has a tendency to tell his children that they must not love him unless they comply with his expectations. This places a 6 and 8 year old child in a stressful and protective position. This tendency is a two way street and is leaves the child in the position of arbiter.
Absolutely excellent summary of parental alienation and the type of personality who engages in it. Your references to how this is done in secrecy and darkness, and how we need to shed a bright light on it, are spot on. That is exactly what I have tried to do with my own video. We need a thousand points of light.
There are Laws, Court and Police practices that encourage an epidemic of False Accusations of Domestic Violence, Abuse and Rape in this country. Women gain from False Accusations - Why?
The "Feminist" Ideology that is now Indoctrinated into Politics, the Government, Courts, Police and General Public, that:
- Women are Good, Men are Bad!
- Women are helpless Victims, Men are Perpetrators!
- Women need Help and Protection, Men must be Restrained, Prosecuted and Jailed!
Google: Martha Laura Granados Immigration Prostitute
The VAWA Immigration Loop-hole:
If you are a woman, pretend to be in love with a US citizen or a Legal Resident, get him to marry you. As soon as you got the marriage certificate dial 211 and falsely accuse him of Domestic Violence and Rape and move to a VAWA shelter.
You will be on a fast-track for a Green-Card and US citizenship - all expenses paid for by the US tax payer and as a bonus you will be getting full social benefits.
The main reason I got involved is exactly this issue of women alienating the children from the fathers. They don't just do this in anticipation of a courtroom terrorist attack, this is also done for the womens ego needs.
It is rotten and should be illegal with judicial consequences.
my mom tried to poison us with lies about my father too but i'm her only child that didn't take the bait...i always knew that my mother was a sick bullshit person...but luckily i dont have to deal with women on sexual terms because i'm gay.
Man, if there's a fundamental universal bitch move that women pull, it's this one. The really fucked up ones turn their insanity on the kids and set them on them road to self-sabotage.
The good news is that kids are smarter than the person who does this thinks. The woman may win a battle based on this coaching, but rest assure, the lies she tells ensure she will loose the war. My Ex did exactly this and my children are now adults and each of them will not even speak to her after they in turn called her out on it. Of course she blames me for that.
@begood4000 Unfortunately, I still lost some time to it. My children are adults now and we are very close in Virginia and their mother lives in Florida and since we were divorced she has had probably a 100 boyfriends and only one lasted more than a few weeks. Her motivation for what she did was financial, but it didn't work and her situation completely sucks. Right where she belongs and set herself up to be.
@maconsumner many of these types grand financial plans fail due to their own narcissism. The think they are too good to get caught or to not have things work out their way. Often times it does work out for them but there are plenty of times it doesn't. When it doesn't they are completely baffled and someone blaim this fact on some poor sucker.
@begood4000 Or even worse, have damaged themselves so badly with intoxicants that they can't work and live on public assistance. My ex, as soon as she figured out that I was not going to support her for the rest of her life decided that using my insurance she was still on to pay for her script med addiction she had and dump copious amounts of alcohol on top if it. Is she messed up now? Completely yes.
This was another very informative video james my friend, good job :) I didn't suffer from this at all but I do know people who have :/ but I liked this video for you :)
There are Laws, Court and Police practices that encourage an epidemic of False Accusations of Domestic Violence, Abuse and Rape in this country. Women gain from False Accusations - Why?
The "Feminist" Ideology that is now Indoctrinated into Politics, the Government, Courts, Police and General Public, that:
- Women are Good, Men are Bad!
- Women are helpless Victims, Men are Perpetrators!
- Women need Help and Protection, Men must be Restrained, Prosecuted and Jailed!
Google: Martha Laura Granados Immigration Prostitute
The VAWA Immigration Loop-hole:
If you are a woman, pretend to be in love with a US citizen or a Legal Resident, get him to marry you. As soon as you got the marriage certificate dial 211 and falsely accuse him of Domestic Violence and Rape and move to a VAWA shelter.
You will be on a fast-track for a Green-Card and US citizenship - all expenses paid for by the US tax payer and as a bonus you will be getting full social benefits.
I am really impressed with this video collection. Rarely does anyone speak out, but this is exactly what my narcissistic ex-wife did to me and my children. We are in the middle of a custody "battle", but the word battle really does not apply, she is keeping the kids away from me, and as them locked away in a home schooling situation. Filed a PFA to make it all the easier for her. My poor children are suffering from the abuse, but they do not even realize it, she has trained them to fight me.
better to leave them far behind. If there is a possibility she has alienated the child(ren), then we are already talking about things when it is far too late. They act out of the sweet mother's wishes and are going to be the big losers when they "grow up". Unfortunately for them, the bridges she burned were their only lifeline to reality. If the child is not already awake in this modern world, then he is already lost. The ties she broke are the ties they have lost for ever. That is the tragedy.
I give this advice to young men,if you want to settle down don't do it in the west the deck is stacked against you & your children if you want a marriage go to a country that isn't so feminized. And one that doesn't have a DHS or CPS & I'll go as far as saying,go to a country that has no concept of divorce what so ever then settle down. But never bring her back to the west!
man all this happen with me , my mom put me in the middle and thats y i have stress and pressure on me , theres nothing i can do about it , the bad life I have leade to a dark hole , no rode ,no life, and just seeing the rode of death
Things can change for you - especially since you've already taken the 1st step and can see though your mother and situation. What would happen if you told your mother that you will not be in the middle, anymore? Then, not let her manipulate you anymore?
@ayemaya75 Well truthfully the damage is done i was about 11 when all this happen now im 25 . but just the development of my mind of trying to get away reached far to get to stress and heart problems then almost all organs . yup im really sick of this earth .yes i hope we all see the light at the end
Brilliant.Wonderful! ive had 10 years of this shit. 35 applications to court.
theideasguy1 1 week ago
Thanks for finally making this video...a second part would be cool too. Endure to the end men-we do not have to be manginas no more!
Amocee 3 months ago
Thank you for making this video. I was never able to put my family situation into words.
feministsAreCorrupt 3 months ago
@feministsAreCorrupt yw
begood4000 3 months ago
I wanted to start recording all the nonsense i was getting out of my X when we were together, but was unable,,the divorce came as a complete surprise she must have been planning it for while i had no money to hire my own attorney.. I feel so bad for my Kids i often ask them if she is treating them well?? i can only assume they are lying
karlbuttler 3 months ago
@karlbuttler the best thing you can do is start documenting things now, and anything that your ex does that could get her locked up don't hesitate to make it happen. Most men hesitate because they don't want to ruin their ex's life. However, in the proces theirs and their children's lives are ruined. If your ex goes to jail for a DUI or something of that nature make sure the courts hear about it and take your children back.
begood4000 3 months ago 2
@begood4000 That was EXCELLENT advice! I need more people with your level of insight to stop by and check out my last 3 videos. YOUR commentary would be GREATLY appreciated. And thanks again for the video updates. Good material. You have a alot of useful wisdom. Keep up the good work!
realmanallen73 3 months ago
My mother tried this...it backfired. It commonly backfires as the child grows and sees that they've been used as a weapon against someone they love - and by someone that claims to love their child.
YoBravaFrumAnuvaMuva 3 months ago
@YoBravaFrumAnuvaMuva ...Yep a lot of my friends are above 50 yrs old...while they were my age (early thirties) they struggled with this. Until the kids got old enough to see that Dad got shafted. Ironically, though, they ended up having a deeper relationship with him in the end, because what mom said in the past was untrue. "Lying only delays the inevitable consequence of our actions."
Amocee 3 months ago
Why the alienators dont go arrested?
theamazingautistic 4 months ago
@theamazingautistic because sadly though both sex's can and do take part in the alienation. The reality is that the majority of the alienators are mothers and the laws are set up to allow them and even reward them to do so.
begood4000 4 months ago
You make some very valid points here. Thank you for posting this information.
Successmate 4 months ago
@Successmate I'm glad you liked the video. Thank you.
begood4000 4 months ago
Still loving your vids. Thank you for keeping it up. And thank you SO much for helping spread awareness about the mental abuse narcissists and borderlines place upon their partners, in particular the male ones. When most people think of a "cluster B" personality, they think of a man abusing a woman. Most people don't know about the mass numbers of women who abuse their male partners.
And on a side note - don't forget that the DSM-V will be integrating narcissism in with psychopathy in 2012!
ohjujubeeme 4 months ago
@ohjujubeeme I'm glad you like my videos. That's great about the DSM-V interegrating narcissism with pyschopathy as it's my opinion that Narcissism is just another form of psychopathy. I'm glad they reached this conclusion because I heard a while back they were trying to take out narcissism as a disorder all together.
begood4000 4 months ago
@begood4000 Well they are essentially removing it. If I' not mistaken, it will go something like " Antisocial Personality Disorder with extreme narcissistic tendencies". Same for BPD and HPD. It will become "BPD with histrionic behaviors". I will have to do more research on it, but we will know more next year, as well as the guidelines on how to format the wording. I'm a bit surprised the APA is doing this, considering it significantly raises the statistics on APD.
ohjujubeeme 4 months ago
@ohjujubeeme It will be very interesting to see how it plays out for sure.
begood4000 4 months ago
Thanks James
RenegadeJuggler 4 months ago
@RenegadeJuggler anytime
begood4000 4 months ago
Both Men and women are responsible for crazy/ psycotic behavior. Your advice is well stated for both men and women.
ShilohNative 4 months ago
....(cont) and therefore, I wonder if I'm not emotionally stuck as a young girl, desperately calling out, "daddy, Daddy! Take My hand! I'll save you!"
But I've got to learn how to avoid the walking wounded in favor of men who have admitted they have been abused (not easy, I know), and who have taken steps to recover from it...b/c I find that if you haven't dealt with your past, you keep repeating it by making the other person 'pay' for the exes (or mother's) sins.
Hawaiiansky11 4 months ago
Okay - that was a test.
NPD M has done that to F...then wonders why he hates coming home on holidays. She calls him every dirty name in the book, but dares to feign innocence by claiming, "I've never called you stupid!" ...yet, she HAD called him every other word in the English language that means the same thing...plus things like "Monster" and other swearwords. l find myself attracted to men who have been abused by women (but who have not yet come to terms with it)...
Hawaiiansky11 4 months ago
let me post...wahhhh
Hawaiiansky11 4 months ago
Another great vid!
ChuckNorris899 4 months ago
Shrink4Men has a radio show!!!
For anyone who hasn't seen it, go now. She's saying a lot of the same truths you can find with this guy. Broaden yoursources and spread the message.
TheLordmep 4 months ago
TRUE STORY... GOOD VID
shizzashark1 4 months ago
nice video
LucianoBolognesi1957 4 months ago
@LucianoBolognesi1957 thank you
begood4000 4 months ago
Thank God, I havent but I came very close to marrying one of these women. The smiling passive aggressive type. I was lied to for a year and a half. I had no idea because I was sold so hard. Then one day I got a letter saying she was marrying someone else (a lie) and was cut off without a word. I blamed myself and went to hell and back. Only freak coincedence brought me the information I was missing. A year later she called and apologized but told me she had cancer(a lie) Theyre very sick.
cozyfoxstudio 4 months ago 3
@cozyfoxstudio I'm so so so glad you got the heck out and aren't with such a person. I"m glad you learned about this stuff when she made her attempt to ensnare you once again.
begood4000 4 months ago 3
@begood4000 It took me about 8 months of obessive research on personality disorders before I beat it into my brain and accepted it wasnt my fault. Even though I knew it wasnt, I was stuck there in a living hell. The experience helped me realize how they got that way, before they could develop empathy. They cannot self love and seek attention to bury the pain. They cannot heal because they dont have the tools. I'm not mad at her anymore. I've couldnt have more pity. They're doomed. Its horrible
cozyfoxstudio 4 months ago
Great vid, very useful for parents. Thanks.
FeelGreatForever 4 months ago
Mothers have to be made realize that a child loves his dad. To cause a child to hate their dad is doing not alone the dad a great harm but great harm to the child as well. If mothers love the child they should respect their child's natural love. - Blessings - Rene
mammyoriordan 4 months ago
My Wife's Ex has a tendency to tell his children that they must not love him unless they comply with his expectations. This places a 6 and 8 year old child in a stressful and protective position. This tendency is a two way street and is leaves the child in the position of arbiter.
pavanatanaya 4 months ago
This was a very good video.
cdkgb 4 months ago
Fuck my mother! :)
blkgnuz2007 4 months ago
Absolutely excellent summary of parental alienation and the type of personality who engages in it. Your references to how this is done in secrecy and darkness, and how we need to shed a bright light on it, are spot on. That is exactly what I have tried to do with my own video. We need a thousand points of light.
father99782 4 months ago
There are Laws, Court and Police practices that encourage an epidemic of False Accusations of Domestic Violence, Abuse and Rape in this country. Women gain from False Accusations - Why?
The "Feminist" Ideology that is now Indoctrinated into Politics, the Government, Courts, Police and General Public, that:
- Women are Good, Men are Bad!
- Women are helpless Victims, Men are Perpetrators!
- Women need Help and Protection, Men must be Restrained, Prosecuted and Jailed!
... - Why?
VAWAhorrors 4 months ago
Google: Martha Laura Granados Immigration Prostitute
The VAWA Immigration Loop-hole:
If you are a woman, pretend to be in love with a US citizen or a Legal Resident, get him to marry you. As soon as you got the marriage certificate dial 211 and falsely accuse him of Domestic Violence and Rape and move to a VAWA shelter.
You will be on a fast-track for a Green-Card and US citizenship - all expenses paid for by the US tax payer and as a bonus you will be getting full social benefits.
VAWAhorrors 4 months ago
Lawyers are expensive and worthless
BikerBry 4 months ago
The main reason I got involved is exactly this issue of women alienating the children from the fathers. They don't just do this in anticipation of a courtroom terrorist attack, this is also done for the womens ego needs.
It is rotten and should be illegal with judicial consequences.
lillie1990am 4 months ago
my mom tried to poison us with lies about my father too but i'm her only child that didn't take the bait...i always knew that my mother was a sick bullshit person...but luckily i dont have to deal with women on sexual terms because i'm gay.
Janoahable 4 months ago
@0fDaughter thank you so much for your carrying comment
begood4000 4 months ago
Good video James...
This is the thing that happens to men, time and time again. My own mother did it and my ex-wife did it to me with my son.
It's long overdue that laws were changed to protect fathers from losing out in this way
Yazoo2564 4 months ago
@Yazoo2564 I'm glad you liked the video, and yes the law are in dire need of a big change.
begood4000 4 months ago
Man, if there's a fundamental universal bitch move that women pull, it's this one. The really fucked up ones turn their insanity on the kids and set them on them road to self-sabotage.
phoenixmg 4 months ago
I say the presumption of motherhood has to GO! What we need is the presumption of PARENTHOOD!
Great work as always mate!
Just finished a video of my own. Be great if you could find the time to check it out.
Be well brother
/watch?v=EXogFmObSUE
thespacialone 4 months ago
@noneedforawoman Yes, it is a very serious topic indeed. I'm glad you liked the video.
begood4000 4 months ago
great video as always
nwb954 4 months ago
@nwb954 thank you.
begood4000 4 months ago
The good news is that kids are smarter than the person who does this thinks. The woman may win a battle based on this coaching, but rest assure, the lies she tells ensure she will loose the war. My Ex did exactly this and my children are now adults and each of them will not even speak to her after they in turn called her out on it. Of course she blames me for that.
maconsumner 4 months ago
@maconsumner thankfully kids are indeed getting smarter and also waking up to this fact. I'm so glad your children understood what as going on.
begood4000 4 months ago
@begood4000 Unfortunately, I still lost some time to it. My children are adults now and we are very close in Virginia and their mother lives in Florida and since we were divorced she has had probably a 100 boyfriends and only one lasted more than a few weeks. Her motivation for what she did was financial, but it didn't work and her situation completely sucks. Right where she belongs and set herself up to be.
maconsumner 4 months ago
@maconsumner many of these types grand financial plans fail due to their own narcissism. The think they are too good to get caught or to not have things work out their way. Often times it does work out for them but there are plenty of times it doesn't. When it doesn't they are completely baffled and someone blaim this fact on some poor sucker.
begood4000 4 months ago
@begood4000 Or even worse, have damaged themselves so badly with intoxicants that they can't work and live on public assistance. My ex, as soon as she figured out that I was not going to support her for the rest of her life decided that using my insurance she was still on to pay for her script med addiction she had and dump copious amounts of alcohol on top if it. Is she messed up now? Completely yes.
maconsumner 4 months ago
This was another very informative video james my friend, good job :) I didn't suffer from this at all but I do know people who have :/ but I liked this video for you :)
chrismax18 4 months ago
@MyVoicenotSilenced thanks
crypter27 4 months ago
There are Laws, Court and Police practices that encourage an epidemic of False Accusations of Domestic Violence, Abuse and Rape in this country. Women gain from False Accusations - Why?
The "Feminist" Ideology that is now Indoctrinated into Politics, the Government, Courts, Police and General Public, that:
- Women are Good, Men are Bad!
- Women are helpless Victims, Men are Perpetrators!
- Women need Help and Protection, Men must be Restrained, Prosecuted and Jailed!
... - Why?
VAWAhorrors 4 months ago
Google: Martha Laura Granados Immigration Prostitute
The VAWA Immigration Loop-hole:
If you are a woman, pretend to be in love with a US citizen or a Legal Resident, get him to marry you. As soon as you got the marriage certificate dial 211 and falsely accuse him of Domestic Violence and Rape and move to a VAWA shelter.
You will be on a fast-track for a Green-Card and US citizenship - all expenses paid for by the US tax payer and as a bonus you will be getting full social benefits.
VAWAhorrors 4 months ago
Spot on video, and very good advice.
nlpsupport 4 months ago
I am really impressed with this video collection. Rarely does anyone speak out, but this is exactly what my narcissistic ex-wife did to me and my children. We are in the middle of a custody "battle", but the word battle really does not apply, she is keeping the kids away from me, and as them locked away in a home schooling situation. Filed a PFA to make it all the easier for her. My poor children are suffering from the abuse, but they do not even realize it, she has trained them to fight me.
scottall71 4 months ago
yep, got the t shirt
DashiellCabasa 4 months ago
Everytime I watch this channel it just confirms things that I've been thinking all along.
NightwingBMV1 4 months ago
God made such a big mistake when he created women. He should have just let well alone. Just kidding, of course.
capturedpilot 4 months ago
better to leave them far behind. If there is a possibility she has alienated the child(ren), then we are already talking about things when it is far too late. They act out of the sweet mother's wishes and are going to be the big losers when they "grow up". Unfortunately for them, the bridges she burned were their only lifeline to reality. If the child is not already awake in this modern world, then he is already lost. The ties she broke are the ties they have lost for ever. That is the tragedy.
TheItalix 4 months ago
@MyVoicenotSilenced The best way to win is not not playing the queen bee's game & leave her behind!
crypter27 4 months ago
I give this advice to young men,if you want to settle down don't do it in the west the deck is stacked against you & your children if you want a marriage go to a country that isn't so feminized. And one that doesn't have a DHS or CPS & I'll go as far as saying,go to a country that has no concept of divorce what so ever then settle down. But never bring her back to the west!
crypter27 4 months ago
man all this happen with me , my mom put me in the middle and thats y i have stress and pressure on me , theres nothing i can do about it , the bad life I have leade to a dark hole , no rode ,no life, and just seeing the rode of death
pkmnmaster29 4 months ago
@pkmnmaster29 my prayers go out to you. Please know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I light of life not death.
begood4000 4 months ago
@pkmnmaster29 Just learn from your'e fathers mistake.
crypter27 4 months ago
@pkmnmaster29
Things can change for you - especially since you've already taken the 1st step and can see though your mother and situation. What would happen if you told your mother that you will not be in the middle, anymore? Then, not let her manipulate you anymore?
ayemaya75 4 months ago
@ayemaya75 Well truthfully the damage is done i was about 11 when all this happen now im 25 . but just the development of my mind of trying to get away reached far to get to stress and heart problems then almost all organs . yup im really sick of this earth .yes i hope we all see the light at the end
pkmnmaster29 4 months ago
Sorry for not being able to give 10 thumbs up.
TheLordmep 4 months ago
@TheLordmep thank you
begood4000 4 months ago
wow james i needed this along with others man its like this was for me
jnixongo00 4 months ago
@jnixongo00 I'm glad you find this having value.
begood4000 4 months ago