Stuff Cis People Say To Trans People

[PimpMyParadigm]

Gay marriage hahaha they still dont get it

[BradTroika]

I'm feeling terrible right now for not getting half of the things in this video.

[FuchsiaFF00FF]

"They" is not a pronoun. That is accurate. It is meaningless gobbledygook.

[Wehpudicabok]

Thank you for making this video.

[kexxrulz]

OH GOD I'M PRE EVERYTHING AND PRETTY MUCH HALF OF THIS APPLIES TO ME ALREADY

[computerlover1991]

Waaahhhaa. Story of my life in this video. =)

[KateSix]

God. Someone needs to learn how to edit.  This video makes me cringe.

[vanpacman]

@KateSix it's not really cringe worthy, relax..

[alissewonder]

On lesbian transwomen: "Why would someone get breasts and a pussy if they're going to be fucking women afterwards?" This from a drag queen...who's an activist. Ugh!

[senpai16]

Im sad for guys that base there male identity on there overly large clit and misplaced overies.

[senpai16]

Always hear that "when you get the surgery " or "when you get your penis" LOL why do all cispeps expect for me to want a phallioplasty?

[alissewonder]

@senpai16 Cause they think a penis should be the center of a man's identity.

[TheLeakyPen]

My favourite was my mom saying about my girlfriend, "Why did she decide to become a woman if she was just going to be gay?" OMFG, THAT'S NOT HOW GENDER OR SEXUAL ORIENTATION WORKS. (also I'm not even a woman, but let's not confuse the parentals too much ><;; )

[TheLeakyPen]

Oh god thank you so much for this. ><;

[amaya0223]

"My cousin's best friend is gay...so I TOTALLY get it."

I'm like barfing over the ways that trying to include someone can go wrong if you don't educate yourself, and the wrong that assumptions can do. AWESOME video.

[eightbitbreaks]

man i thought this was going to be about chemistry...

[SirKate]

oh geez, 1:27 killed me.

[KeairaElisabeth]

I have been asked if I've had 'The Surgery' so often, I refer them to my blog post about asking if I have had 'The Surgery'.

[bananananananananane]

@KeairaElisabeth this doesn't really have to do with your comment but my name is Keara Elisabeth and I got all excited when I saw your name

[KeairaElisabeth]

@bananananananananane

Wow girl, That's awesome! :D I actually decided on Keaira Raine about 6 months ago. I used Keaira Elisabeth for a while before transition but there's a lot of people with that name, especially where I work. So,that's one less Keaira Elisabeth in the world, but that just makes you just a little more unique. ^_^

[6sakuchan6]

This is gold! X'D And I can proudly say that I have been guilty only one of these phraises. :'D

[silasagnostos]

@KilroyZTC hi brace :B

[allatraca]

Has she had the surgery yet?????

?????

[xatuism]

you two are cuties aww

[nmania3]

Honest question: What exactly is a cisexual and cisgender ???

[XxReJoycexX]

@nmania3

Someone who isn't transgender/sexual.



[nmania3]

@XxReJoycexX So someone who is a female and takes on the role of what society considers female vice versus for males??? So I, being a heterosexual female non transgender/sexual would be called cis???? So why isn't the video call " Shit ppl say to Trans ppl" I was under the impression it was similar to being transgender. sexual..

[sasugakirin]

@nmania3 Because if you just say "people" when you're referring only to "cis people", then it implies that trans people aren't real people.

[TheRaquelephant]

@nmania3 you, a non trans* female (regardless of your sexuality or the "role you take on" which I'm guessing means how you present yourself or something) are cis, yes. It's not an identity forced on you that means anything extra, its just the word for "non-trans*" MAke sense? :)

[nmania3]

@TheRaquelephant Yep.Got it !

[BlacklitFloater]

"Eric! WHAT ARE YOU DOING IN MY HOUSE!"

[kyuremgrey]

Awesome vid.

[thebaronvonbito]

Stuff no one says to no one.

[CuriousVirga]

@thebaronvonbito hahahahaha oh you poor dear

[Ptinski]

"So did you know when you were a kid? How old of a kid? Don't you know kids don't know anything?"  crapola.

[PhattyMo]

Uhm.ok. How did I get here,and what the hell is this? Something about gay/bi/transgendered people,I gather...but beyond that I'm totally lost.

I guess I'm not gay enough.

[Ptinski]

@PhattyMo No, just not educated in this area enough. Do the research, decide for yourself, but take a stand - fence-sitting is painful!!

[TheDreamClaw]

@PhattyMo

Re: Shit PhattyMo says.... ;)

[shessomickey]

So accurate.

[xxAVAxADORE]

Another one, "wow, you ACTUALLY look like a (preferred gender here). ... Gtfo

[MustBeAWeasley]

Oh my god. I love you for this. Thank you thank you thank you.

[rockonwalrusbaby]

Um... so did you get the surgery yet?

[kalinaisato]

This is fucking hilarious and so true!

[Danikadojo]

"you were so brave..." *wtf eyes* I love this.

[Amazingwinky]

Yup.. People still don't get that the surgery won't help me anyway...

[cimeleht]

"So how old were you when you, you know... knew?" Every damn time.

[BringYerOwnBomb]

"Wait, cis? What the hell does that mean?"

Haha, that was me.

[WaitWaitFixate]

I love that all the related videos have to do with the Trans-Siberian Orchestra, though.

[carelessninjas]

This is so awesome!

[Marge6351]

Heehee funny. Cis people are such dumb jerks to trans people... some, not all, but a lot of them are

[shanestar]

nice job!



[wolfyknight]

"this is ryan, she is a transguy, you know... like a drag king.'

[JayfromJTIC]

I LOVE YOU ALL COME TO CHICAGO

[tmamone83]

To a FTM trans*: "So, uh, what made you want to be a dude?  Chicks are awesome!"

[alissewonder]

@J3ss70 I didn't cry, but it's an AWESOME book. Of course I wouldn't just bring it up in conversation with trans ppl like it's totally relevant (specially since it's not even abt trans ppl, it's abt an intersex person). It would be like telling a black person "I've watched Pulp Fiction and Samuel L. Jackson's performance was amazing. Like, one of the most memorable"...in the middle of a conversation abt French fries.

[ZazieLavender]

Too much "Filler", they spammed one main comment way too often. Would have been funnier if they'd done it in a more "Narrator-like" kind of style

[Chickengirl005]

that was funny n' all, but I was a lil confused as to who was portraying the Cis-person/trans-person role. Also it seemed like they were also rattling off typical transphobic comments they get from people? Also, "cis" is a term i'm not too familiar, so I looked it up...

4)transgender: a person whose self-determination of hir gender is regularly invalidated/undermined by hir society.

(cisgender: a person whose self-determination of hir gender is generally validated and upheld by hir society.)

[hallahmallahmo]

They looked but couldn't find any "cis" actors

[MApsych]

OMG, that was AWESOME!

[SephieRothe]

This is Sephie, I met her when he was in high school.

[daphscat]

oh i thought middlesex made you cry yourself BALD

[kristijoy13013]

After watching this I watched the Calpernia Addams Bad Questions video and I just feel awful about the stupid, heartless questions I have asked of trans people in the past. I had/have no right to ask those questions and I am truly sorry.

[Dan7Bow]

@kristijoy13013 Awww. :)

[junipermama1]

Also: "So, you used to be a girl?"

(In response to an untransitioned transwoman coming out.)

[nbelsky]

@junipermama1 Say what!?!?!

[TSLuciaMiel]

You forgot "I'm not gay but can I suck your cock?"

[junipermama1]

"I didn't even know you were gay!" irritates me the most (as the female partner of a trans woman). Surely to God, it's not that hard to understand that transmen can be gay and that transwomen can be lesbians!?

[daphscat]

hahahhahaa yesss

[gusandrews]

needs tighter editing and better audio! these are important messages (yeah, I've been guilty of a few of these, I apologize), and you gotta make it snappy!

[geegeevindaloo]

love it!

[vertmb]

When I first heard the word cis I was all like why you calling me a sissy? I thought we were friends man!

[NZInfiniteJest]

jojococoa: "Cis" is the opposite prefex to "Trans", so applied to people it means someone who is non-transgendered, basically. (Being cis, my first reaction was 'why do I need that label, it's not how I self-identify, why can't you just call me "normal"...oh wait a minute, I get it". If you're cis and you don't like the term, please think about it for a while :) )

[nhlredwingsfan]

i got another one that wanted too hook me up with lesbians.i got pissed at him saying dude!! im a male! they cannot call themselves lesbians when they are with me. secondly lesbians are probably not into bald headed mustache and beard people.

[nhlredwingsfan]

i get the " so how do you have sex? thing

[strawberryutopia]

@nhlredwingsfan Well, as you asked so nicely...

First I get the ropes out and set the webcam up...

[GothGeekGrrl]

@nhlredwingsfan Me too. Answer is: I don't.

[jojococoa]

what is cis?

[kyler0relik]

@jojococoa A person who is comfortable with the sex they were born into

[shrinerspark]

"I'm gay, so I totally understand what it's like to be trans!" Umm, no.

[shrinerspark]

FUCK THE SURGERY, man.

[eargosedown]

I lol'd so hard

[scumbuddy]

what dosen "cis" mean?

[eargosedown]

@scumbuddy same gender as their birth assigned. Aka: non-transgender or gender variant people.

[KilroyZTC]

"I just don't think you're old enough to know that"

"I just don't think they're old enough to make that decision"

"They're too young to make that decision, their parents probably just wanted a girl"

"Why can't you just be gay?"

"I'm ok with gay people but saying I have to be ok with trannies is political correctness gone too far"

"You're setting a bad example for gay people"

"We'll come back for you. It's just that gay rights are more socially acceptable"

[GothGeekGrrl]

@KilroyZTC If they don't have to be okay with us, we don't have to be okay with them. Matches, please...

[zypherax]

I've only heard the CIS say "ROGER ROGER"

[thisnik]

Oh, yeah. Those transgenders. They're so brave to do what they're doing! ...and um. Have you had the surgery yet?

[sjbresnahan]

Wow, I'm sure I've said some of these things before. Sorry, trans friends!

[pitchblackskull]

I love everything about this!

[cameronboi19]

Cis in a nutshell means you like the sex you were born as and perfer to stay that way.

[ACluelessKid]

People always give me the "But you're so girly! Why do you think you're a guy?" Well 'scuse me for not being Mr. Macho Man.

There's also the "You can totally tell *incorrect pronoun* is a boy/girl" or "They really do look like a girl/boy".

[GothGeekGrrl]

@ACluelessKid Right because all women are feminine and all men are bodybuilders. Do people even live in the real world anymore? Or is it just us living in their illusion?

[danieliharris]

Have the people in this video had their surgeries yet?

[mrmaxanthony]

@danieliharris noneya business ^_^

[prettysummergurl]

true true ... although I am a bit confused as to who plays who in the skit. Other than that it pretty much right on. Good work :)

[Vilexxica]

I love this so hard.

[lychicambess]

Actually...what DOES cis mean? *runs off to google*

[EvilKarmaAngel]

"Why WOULDN'T you get the surgery?" "What do you MEAN that isn't a compliment?" "Genderqueer? WTF is that?"

[touchyphiliac]

Aww!



[Sapphonouveau]

Genius. That is all.

[reverof]

It's just like my brother DIED or something. And now I have you...

Let's go around and say our name and what we were born as. My name is Faye and I'm a girl.

DUDE DAT'S A DUDE BRO~!!

Hey, Foobies (nickname made from the words "Fake" and "Boobies")

I don't care if she is a man I'd still hit it.

HAI MY NAME IS COOKIE

OH~! You're TRANS? You're my new best friend.

Me: "Why do people assume that since I'm trans I love going to drag shows? I can't STAND them."

HAVE YOU SEEN ROCKY HORROR???

[MegaBeanification]

This is Really Poorly Edited, you should take some film courses to Hone your Craft

[EvilKarmaAngel]

@MegaBeanification You should take some English classes to hone your capitalization skills.

[SiiinginInTheRain]

@MegaBeanification Who cares? It's still funny, regardless of the "poor editing." Anyway, I'm sure whoever made it wasn't fancying themselves the next Steven Spielberg.

[reverof]

You have a little stubble growing in on your neck. Might wanna take care of that. --THANK YOU for pointing out my insecurities.--

[reverof]

Cis-M: "So, you're a guy who wants to be a girl, but dates girls." T-G:"If the way I am explaining it to you doesn't make sense, but that does, then fine, we can stick with the politically incorrect." Cis-M: "So you're going to be a lesbian...that is the most genius thing I have ever heard....Guess what, I'm a lesbian too!" T-G: "No, you're not. You're male, that makes you straight." Cis-M: "Well you still have a pen15, so what's the difference?" T-G "Did ANYTHING I said in the past 20min go in?

[juicykarkass]

A for effort at least.

[DmitriVosche]

I read middlesex and I cried just bawled!

[feonix83]

Awesome video. I love the Super Effective hoodie.

[CrackerJacq701]

"Sorry I keep getting your pronouns wrong, this is just really hard for me." That IS what people say. Great video!

[Lincolnj2]

A cis person once said to me: You know when you think about it, you don't really do much to transition. It's everyone else around you who has to do all the hard work. We have to change how we think of you, government ppl have to give you new documents, we all have to learn new pronouns. All you do is take care of the outside. WTH????

[ShelbysShiftChange]

@Lincolnj2 Wow that's just... wow. :)

[alissewonder]

@Lincolnj2 Yeah, we cis ppl have to LEARN new pronouns and all. It's not like there is, for instance, a pronoun used for men that I could just use when smn says they identify as male. I have to LEARN all these new pronouns, and it's so.much.work! And we have to keep repeating to ourselves "He's a man, he's a man, he's a man!" cause we have to trick ourselves into believing your true gender, cause your word on the subject is not enough. Damn you trans ppl for making we THINK and stuff!

[Lincolnj2]

So, you're just a hairier lesbian right?

[Lincolnj2]

I'm constantly correcting my gay male friends who can get my pronouns just fine but seem to trip up on trans women and Chaz Bono for some reason.

[lifebystereo]

@Lincolnj2 Probably because they don't actually care about making an effort to not be transphobic, but they care about you as their friend.

[QueerlyK]

"So does that mean you're gonna cut your dick off?"

"I would NEVER be able to handle being trans."

"But...I was a tomboy, and you don't see me changing my gender. I am what I was born."

"I can't talk about this anymore. It's just overwhelming."

"Did you ever stop to think that I LIKED having a sister?"

[EveDaDingo]

"Do you still...have it?" "Yeah, but HOW do you know?" "If you still like girls, why don't you just stay a boy?" and "So wait, you're really a boy?!" are the biggest things strangers say to me. In those conversations all I can really do is sigh really loud the entire time.

[BrokenCrimson]

It seems that some nosy people take other people transitioning, or just being trans, as an invitation to make prying questions regarding other people's sexuality and *shudder* genitals and other organs they consider to be sex markers. It's weird, don't people stop to think "how would I feel if someone asked me a similar question?" or "how would I feel if people made remarks like that about me?". It's not that hard >_<

[sophiewilder]

"Are those real?"

[JakikoChan]

SO HAVE YOU HAD THE SURGERY YET?

[Tatsuyoujo]

I don't care if a person's trans. If fact I'd rather not know. I call you he and she as I see you in your gender expression, at that's it. I really don't give a fuck.

[Indi3R]

lols ty

[DaeDaze]

this is amazing. FINALLY, a "shit____people say" that I can relate to.

(besides shit gay guys say to their cats, that one's totally me too)

[genderqueersd]

- i totally have body dysphoria, i know exactly how you feel. I hate my thighs!

- but you're female-bodied, right?

- i respect and love you, but i just can't get used to your pronouns

- they is a plural. it's not grammatically correct. i can't refer to you with that!

- at least YOU take the time to educate me. some trans people just get so ANGRY when I say something wrong.

- you are SO beautiful (for a trans woman)

[D600Active]

(Parents) "It's hard to use the right name when you're here because normally you're not around to hear it so it doesn't matter what we use"

[frankiejlh]

-"Ohhhhh, you're trans. I knew something was different about you, but I couldn't quite put my finger on what it was."

-::Defaults to calling everyone 'she' at 'women and trans' event/space/resource::

-"I'm cool with *these* trans women coming into women's space, but *those* trans women aren't quite 'cooked' yet."

-(to any trans man, regardless of his sexual orientation): "Back when you were a lesbian..."

-"Wow, you're not crazy and bitter like other trans people!" (has met 2 trans ppl, ever)

[alissewonder]

@frankiejlh Didn't get this one: "Defaults to calling everyone 'she' at 'women and trans' event/space/resource". You're talking abt events that are open to trans ppl of all genders?

[frankiejlh]

@alissewonder - Yeah, exactly; the event is basically open to everyone except cis men (a practice which I have mixed feelings abt, but that's a tangent for another day), but since it's in what used to be 'women's space', some of the volunteers decide that it would be an awesome idea to call everyone 'she' as a default instead of asking after pronoun preference or avoiding pronouns or whatever people do when they want to be respectful about that sort of thing.

[evanthesquirrel]

I am not a cis, you can't label me, only I can label myself. I am a man born with a cock, and if you're going to refer to me by a label, you better call me a dick

[alissewonder]

@evanthesquirrel Fine, you're a real dick. Happy now?

[evanthesquirrel]

@alissewonder quite :P

[ShelbysShiftChange]

"SO, when are you getting the Surg.."

"OH god no! I can't talk about it! It went so wrong! That poor doctor and.. they are still looking for parts in Peru! I.. Ican't talk about it. Seriously. That's what the Judge told me. I can't. Legally."

[leslea001]

I've been going by my name now for 14 years and I STILL have family who insist on using the old name, as though they JUST found out yesterday. It's insulting & demeaning. Yet they claim it's HARD for them to remember... Apparently they also have alzheimers?

[GothGeekGrrl]

@leslea001 They're not your family.

[Hearten7]

Loved it! Nice seeing you two, BTW. Yes, Cis people say the most outlandish things without a CLUE how offensive they are. I'm trying, honest, but "Have you had the surgery yet?" Don't answer that, I'm just KIDDING! Some of these things are obviously stupid or rude. Is the #1 least favorite question "Have you had the surgery yet?" What "the" surgery anyway (electrolysis?)? I HAVE learned not to ask that question at least. Nobody's business, right? Keep up the good work with TransFix.

[DoctorRainbow8321]

look up

now look down

everything is triggering

wooo

[thedactylbike]

does that mean you're straight now?

this is a women and trans space only, no men, oh you're trans?

i get it, i have hormone problems too

transitioning is the easy way out

its not that hard to find a job, you just have to try harder

just try harder

you're not trying hard enough

its cool that you're trans but if it was my kid i would freak out

if you're so against misogyny why did you become a man? isn't that what you want?

[DoctorRainbow8321]

@thedactylbike yes. everything you said x1000

[CindiKn]

"You fooled me"

[NamelessQueer]

"You do know this is a Lesbian bar?"

"So how did they make your penis?"

"So when did you know?"

[anarkitsch]

"You transgenders are so inspiring."

Also, when people say "a transgender". Like, "I didn't know you were a transgender!"

[SQPNTK]

!!!!!

[bastianbux]

I've lost count of how many "YOU ARE SO BRAVE"s I've gotten over the past decade.

[Daymnwheresmycola]

@bastianbux I'd rather be called brave than a freak. My two cents.

[militantturtle]

"I'd try to respect you, but I just don't give a shit about anyone, but myself so I'll consciously choose to keep "forgetting" to treat you like a human."

[JollyJosh1089]

"Oh him, I've known him since he was Melissa!" #Dead lol

[RainbowPowerRangerX]

Fun and all, but the pace is really slow and the hum of the mic is a little distracting.

[OddMike]

I'm definitely going to make sure I don't say these-which I don't think I ever have, but it's helpful!

[thatRUGA]

Glad that they were able to make this humorous and that it wasn't a lot of whining about things cispeople say. I think poking fun at it is a good way to shed some light on cis/TG relations. I always kind of have to chuckle at how cisgender people tend to stick their foot in their mouth by being overly interested/too supportive. It's a lot like straight people who go out of their way to be TOO gayrights supportive. There's a point where it's just weird. Be supportive, not creepy.

[thisisamyfox]

"We respect our transgendered sisters, but this is a women's event."

---

Cis: "Someone tried to kick my girlfriend out the women's washroom, can you believe that?"

Trans: "Yup, yup, I got chased out of that washroom over there."

Cis: (Stares trans person up and down, implication being, 'well... duh, of course *you* got kicked out")

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"I'll *try* to call you she."

[FyremaneFoxx]

yup, have recived more then a few of those myself

[nochokin]

so funny and real

[tjcinsf]

HaHa! Brilliant!

[lilmonster702]

"I don't really identify as cis, and it makes me feel really marginalized when you say that."

[alexketchup]

SO awesome! (and so true! Have you had the surgery? Are you going to get the surgery? When are you gonna get the surgery? How was the surgery?)

[lyrestonehart]

LOL!

[phoenixrisingftm]

This made me almost spit Dr. Pepper everywhere!