"why do women get back with abusive men?"

[AssociateAdvocate79]

Women aren't known for their logical prowess.

[SuperScreamingEagle]

This is a very good video. Another thought: abusers do a form of brainwashing, ie: "you are no good and no other man will ever want you" or "you are a piece of trash, you stupid whore" etc, etc, etc...after awhile, you begin to believe it. If you have a low self image, it does attract those types to you.... you have to find people who build you up not tear you down 24/7. Another factor: finances...isolation.....some abusers ensure their women have no outside support from others.

[davidhdaisley1]

Wish I went to your classes mate. You talk a lot of sense.

[ember1k]

I think it's because they secretly enjoy the abuse...I mean if they didn't, why would they choose to get back together with the man that hurts them? Yeah, i know you may love him, but which do you love more, the abusive man or yourself? And if they have children, that's even worse. To force a innocent child to live with an abusive ass all because the woman can't let go.

[SuperScreamingEagle]

@ember1k there are many factors that come into play. Women are emotionally bonded to those they are close to...fear: your abuser promotes fear into you... finances, what if your abuser is your means of financial support? isolation: all your friends and family have been removed...who do you turn to? very complex.

[Pownkracks]

I agree completely. I just got out of a 7 year abusive relationship and always wondered why did I always go back. I always told people that it felt like I was addicted to my partner.... Thank you for this video, it helps me to be more informed why I did what I did and how to prevent it in the future

[Felates]

Why do women get back with abusive men? Ever heard of something call survival of the fittest it's how the dodo died out. These women must like it they say businesses work on repeat business. Before all u abused women get out ur pitchforks I am a wome so u can't use that excuse. Ta!

[karrac2011]

I was in a 2 year relationship with an abusive man..i agree with someone below me that said the man makes u feel like no one loves you as much as him. And they make u feel more comfortable around them too. And my ex acted like the sweetest guy when he WASN'T hitting me. But after 2 years i finally got smart and left. Now I have only been with sweet guys and i treat them like crap unfortunately

[streetfightsecrets]

@karrac2011 thats good that you're out of it... ..

"Now I have only been with sweet guys and i treat them like crap unfortunately" - why do you think that is happening?

[refuckulate420]

@Meekzor

You are clueless.

"Please don't justify a man's shitty actions by stating that women are also known to be abusive."

I never said it justifies abuse against women. Violence is wrong for any gender, I was pointing out that it's just not just men who are the problem, which is a fact.

"There are a lot of women who get abused without being abusive."

Same for men. People like you are infact part of the problem, women do abuse and you don't want to recognize that.

[legend956]

its because women dont know what personality is they only know about confidence and well assholes have too much confidence for their own good so thats what happens

[greenranger8100]

This did happen to me in a 6 and a half year extremely verbally and psychologically abusive relationship. After he revealed that he had cheated on me several times with prostitutes, it pushed me over the edge and I married him.  Analyzing it now, I stayed close to him and denied the full horror of the all of the abuse to avoid the overwhelming anger and sadness that I feel now that he is no longer around. This is also what happened with my parents as I was growing up and to this day.

[brightseattlelights]

I think your video is terrific. I learned a lot. I hope you will post more learning opportunities on trauma bonding! Terri

[streetfightsecrets]

@lawstudentgirl1 it certainly can do if you dont go back, if you get lots of help and support from family and friends, if you get on with your life and if you can find a good counsellor to work it through with - it takes time though

[nicktesla45]

@lawstudentgirl1 Women like you are attracted to the "Bad Boy Types" because even the songs today say it very clear ! You are a Masochist by nature and you enjoy getting your ass kicked !  ha ha ha You could never be happy with a nice decent man like me , You are DOOMED to go from one wife beater to another and another and another ! Something sick and Twisted in your Mind will not let you pick a nice decent man to love and live a normal life .YOU NEED A HEADSHRINKER LADY !!

[streetfightsecrets]

@nicktesla45 take your heart ache elsewhere mate, this isnt about you

[devereaux999]

Hey question, why are their so many comments removed from your video. I see lots of positive comments but not any negative comments. It appears to me you are removing the ones that dont support you. Whats up with that. You have someting to hide. I can see through your bullshit. What are your credentials to teach this subject and manipulate your comments posted.

[streetfightsecrets]

@devereaux999 on a youtube video where you can see "comment removed" that is because the person posting the comment removed it themselves not because the video poster removed it. If you look at some of their profiles you can see the original comments they wrote where that feature is switched on, I suspect some people have removed their comments because they revealed too much private information about themselves

[streetfightsecrets]

@devereaux999 if the OP removes a comment you see nothing, the comment just dissapears. Apart from your comment and some men coming on here and whinging that "women are mean too" (as though I ever implied they were not) the comments have been all positive. Let me repeat that : the comments coming from the people for whom this video was intented, women experiencing abusive relationships (ie not you) have all been positive. So what "bullshit" do you think you are "seeing through"?

[Malacyne]

Thanks for this video. It's refreshing to hear a man speak on this subject. What you saw in the Larry King show regarding Chris Brown is too common a trend in the American Black community.

[rmg101081]

WOW, thanks for posting this. It has helped me so much. I was in a emotionally abusive relationship. Im not with him anymore and Im trying to understand more and more.. please keep the videos coming. I need to know more!

[cottonwhiskersuk]

Because some women would put up with anything rather than work for a living.

[devereaux999]

@cottonwhiskersuk

hahahaha

[Nicky131Popstar]

@cottonwhiskersuk Some men do the same.

[SandiAnne]

This video has started to wake me up...I'd love to chat to you or listen to a 'trauma bonding video...thanks so much

[FullMoonNightSpell]

the female searches for the strongest male. strong male means power.power can mean money, good looks, physical strength etc. another reason may be that women wants to feel like they are needed,the most the best.if a parter of theirs is possesive they might mistake this for overflowing love. i think i just described why wemen tend to be attracted to violent males

[FullMoonNightSpell]

@FullMoonNightSpell as about staying with them longer i think i didn't reply properly or fully,i just hope all these women to find enought strength to make the right descisions at the right time...

[LuqmanNaq]

You never did the follow up vid, RIch!

[streetfightsecrets]

@AngryActivist45 thanks angryactivist - this video is about women who are not "forced" , there isnt a question as to why women stay with abusive men if they are "forced" to... no mystery there mate.

[mindround]

I am a huge fan of you vids man. First thing I want to point out is that there are a lot times when its actually only a men hitting a female back. Well, that is just what the statistics say. I think the reason whey some females in up in abusive relationship again and again is because that female is in someway just as abusive. I read about this and seen it for myself, some females love to be the victims. They will even provoke perfectly good men to feel victimized once again.

[rlam86]

I think your point is very valid. Some people treat others in a reactive way to how they are. For instance, people with humour tends to have people respond with laughter. A person with low self esteem tend to have people treating them lowly. I suppose it's a psychological reaction for some people. However, there are a lot decent people out there who would have sympathy for the weak and not abuse them. But thanks again for an insightful, heartful and intelligent video Richie.

[tnvols90]

great great video

[KingJuelz0088]

its so true!!! & so sad

[salviakingproduction]

Cool video! Would be good to get a follow up with more details.

[hachiman2012]

Great video man, its a really fascinating subject...i'd heard of stockholm syndrome before but not trauma bonding

[1FuckedUpIndividual]

Women get back with abusive men is simple. Women secretly liked being abused, it makes them feel sexy! Nice guys get girlfriends. Players and abusers get pussy. Which one do you want to be? I can;t get a girlfriend because women these days have a preferrence for men who are black, brown and in gangs and white men are just viewed as lower and inferior

[streetfightsecrets]

please, remove yourself from the gene pool post haste, your taking up oxygen.

[Tiahur76]

this is something I have been toying with the last few years, be A TOTAL PRICK TO WOMEN EVERY CHANCE YOU GET. aSK YOUR SELF WHAT DO YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE. Get laid, love or total personal power. like wearing a suit of armor, teflon. Like if your out at a bar or the bank and some bitch is projecting some negative energie at you, a nice guy knows what is going on but says to him self, oh she is hot I better just take it...you should whisper in her ear,"you are a stupid cunt" try it it is fun!

[DonaldBumsfeld]

No Man you can't get a girlfriend for the same reason you don't have any decent friends.

BECAUSE YOU ARE A STUPID, PATHETIC, BITTER, RACIST CUNT

[yesouisijahi]

I am considering airing this video as audio on an upcoming show.

[fstanners]

thank you very much for the very helpful video. i am sure many victims and their frustrated-worried friends would gain much insight from this little clip.

[LuqmanNaq]

Great vid Rich. I've been involved in 1 very serious martial art cult (and one semi-cult, an international school) and you've highlighted 2 of the main reasons why I was involved so deeply in it. I personally don't find foreign martial arts cultural structures healthy, I think the western way of coach-athelete relationship is much healthier and is less likely to lead to the bullying and hero worship that is so prevelant in 'Eastern' martial arts (in my experience) . Viva Matt Thornton!!!

[streetfightsecrets]

I'd really like to hear about your martial art cult experiences if your happy to talk about them

[LuqmanNaq]

Sure, um, What would you like to know?

[kv1901]

Very important subject - good job. I would like to see the follow up video.

[handsome252]

Dis dudes a virgin

[streetfightsecrets]

I was... until I met your mum

[handsome252]

Yep, Dat sum a fag would say.. And stop watchin

Larry King u no life havin 40 year old Fag

[streetfightsecrets]

Jeez... I was only playin ! so sensitive, I really didnt mean to upset you- do you need a hug? x

[hellzbomber]

Hello! You can make your youtube video's longer than 10 mins by making your account a "Director's Account".

[streetfightsecrets]

thanks hellzbomber, actually I think I need to be approved as a partner dont I?

[hellzbomber]

Hmm... Sorry, I'm not too sure to be honest. I always thought that by having a director's account you'd be allowed to exceed the 10 min max, but I guess things have changed..

[streetfightsecrets]

thanks for your help I look into it today

[aldershotcompany]

did u understand what he sed? tht it anit a choice? fucking pricks. im 14 an i understand tht its difficult. u anit got a clue. u ovoiusely got raped by ur dad as a child.

[hpufo]

Yes it is a choice dumbass. She choose to go out with him. She choose to go back to him every time after he hit her. Women are not rational thinkers. They are likely to repeat the same mistake because those women are not smart.

And at the age of 8 I was able to spell way better than you.

[adawg25]

I agree, they deserve it if they are that stupid...

[hpufo]

Why women get back with abusive men? Because they are fucking retarded that is why. Personally I think they fucking deserves it!

[hpufo]

You sister goes back because she is a good damned idiot, that deserves every last hit. Maybe one of the shots to the head would knock some god damn sense into her.

[mennouse]

Wow...thanks so much for posting this video. Man...I understand better now why my beautiful sister goes back to her stupid fat ugly cheap so called husband. He's been beating her black and blue, knocking her unconscious and braking her rib cage and bones for 22 years. This makes more sense to me. I want so badly to help her but he makes sure she doesn't talk to any of the family members...she's isolated the world and lives in her own home. He beats his girls too. Thanks again. Great video

[hpufo]

You may not want to hear this but the stupid bitch deserved every last hit she fucking got. Only an idiot goes back for more abuse, and they do not win any sympathy from me.

[gr870schick]

you are a dumb ass and you need to get a fucking life of your own

[hpufo]

I have a life you stupid bitch.

[pham05]

i loled

[Tiahur76]

looks good on her ....he probably beats her with his huge cock too!

[thrice3muses]

He knows what he's talking about.

I just read a novel where a woman bonded with and actually "fell in love" with the man who beat & tortured her. Made me sick...very sad to think this happens in real life so often.

[Tiahur76]

boo hoo!

[WarrioressKeara]

This is a very true video. It states pretty much exactly what they do. I should know because i was in an abusive relationship for 4 years before i ever managed to get out of it and streighten out my brain. He would use the "Trauma bonding" a lot. he also would give me poor self image by making me think that no other guy would even want me if he left me. Get free of the doushbag that's fucking with your brain,find friends to help you, feel good about yourself then start over with a good guy.

[Tiahur76]

truma bonding...that hilarious!!! good guy!! that's hilarious....

[shellcass]

You should make more video's,I'd love to listen!

[YukonBloamie]

You're a saint, man.

I've always viewed this flaw in humans to trauma bond is a sort of primitive pack bonding. You can do the same things to a dog and get the same results. Try the same behavior towards a cat, which is a solo hunter, and they will avoid you.

[metalmike83]

Good video - does anyone else notice that he's a Bruce Willis look alike - It took me like twenty seconds for me to be certain it wasn't the actor. lol.

[my2cents123]

Great video. Very interesting and helpful. Thank

you so much for posting this. Do you give classes?

If so, where I can find more info? Also, am interested

in knowing your thoughts on Stockholm Syndrome.

Will you be posting that? Thanks again!

[gr870schick]

Trauma bonding...I believe that this is also how some pediphiles are able to abuse their victims and get away with it

[LightLord1870]

Riche u are awesome! Smartest analysis on this subject I have ever heard! Keep it up. :)

[hinatah89]

I think the book "For your own good" of Alice Miller talks about that.

I don´t know exactly which words she used, but what I got is that somebody who become used to have a dominant figure will seek the same in the future. Their idea of "love" is "maltreatment".

I believe it must be something like women in Etiopia supporting FGM (femenine genital mutilation).

[hinatah89]

You made some good points there. But I think those women were certainly abused by their parents.We are apes all we experienced in our early childhood will probably stay the rest of our lives. If you are told by your parents that you are a piece of crap you belive it, and develop a relationship of dependency. Even when that person grows out will look for someone who treats them badly, cause thinks she deserves being treated that way.

[streetfightsecrets]

its a good point, I wonder if there is any evidence to support the notion that physical abuse, particularly from a father figure would lead to seeking an abusive male to continue that role in adulthood

[Seraphin69]

Look for this book:

"Toxic Parents" by Susan Forward and Craig Buck

One of the best books I recently read on these kind of subjects. It's thorough and read in a non-academic, easy language.

[streetfightsecrets]

thanks, I read something about growing up with parents with destructive narcissistic disorder that discussed "toxicity"- another fascinating subject. Lots of people in the martial arts world have suffer from d.n.p and are pretty toxic- endemic of power seeking personailty types maybe?

[Seraphin69]

I met some people like that. They become strong enough to be frightening and they're using their strength to abuse You. They talk like they were saying... "now I'm going to treat You like sh*t... and if You talk back I'm going to kick Your a**" But for anyone mature enough it's clearly pathetic when somebody does that. Though it impresses some, girls including. There are a lot of show off arrogants among elder trainers too.

[kubeface]

very good video.

besides the points you make, being made to slowly feel worthless over a long period of time can even bring on a sort of agoraphobia. you can end up relying on the person completely, to the point where you find it hard to leave the house without them. in this state leaving the person completely can be an EXTREMELY hard thing to do. "how do i cope? where do i go? what do i do?"

[streetfightsecrets]

I hadn;t considered that, its a good point

[Seraphin69]

Some women are more scared of boredom and lack of sexual stimulation by a "dominating" male than a little beat up. Especially if they're used to violence from early childhood.

They are so habituated to pain and aggresion that they're willing to pay

the price of being beaten once in

a while.

Some even have a conflicting innermost

desire to have a partner that won't be a

"wuss" and "take shit from Her".

It's like some women want a man that IS

CAPABLE of beating Her. Sick, but true.

[streetfightsecrets]

thats controversial, speaking as a man I can see that certain relationships that are "bad" are actually more interesting, intense and passionate than "good" ones- whether this unconscious danger seeking behaviour would FULLY account for women staying in relationships where they are can actually be beaten to death over a period of years - 2 women a week die in UK from D.V.- Im not sure but it must be a contributing factor to some peoples scenarios.

[Seraphin69]

I'm not saying it's the most common scenario. Though it exists among the more "adventerous" women.

Some do it consciously, some do it unconsciously while denying it.

It's like with Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct. "You might die... but if You survive that'll be liberating".

A bad childhood can really mess

Your head and most people are

not helping.

It can make You go into the "let's see

how much can I handle" lifestyle,

to override fear of death and memories.

[Tiahur76]

those dirty cunts I'll kick the shit out of them....

[SANDLOLZ2]

very very nice video. i hope you do decide to post the video on trauma bonding, im really interested!

[katerush]

im not saying you don't have a point, what im trying to get across is that D.V is a very complex issue.

[katerush]

yeah i do understand there are individual differences, but there are also axioms of human behaviour. i also stated that there were a number of reasons for D.V, and i only touched on the basics. what you seem to be touching on are the cycles of D.V, these are different for men than women

[katerush]

the equation A+B+C>D, kinda of describes her decision. A= ( vision of the future)is she better off on her own. B=( level of dissatisfaction) can`t take this anymore. C=( is there a small safe step i can take) has she got support. D= if the cost of the change is too big, wont leave/ or will go back. but as said previously there are a no of reasons

[katerush]

as for women suffering D.V, there are many varied reasons why she may stay/return. Love, hope that things may change, financial, emotional,self esteem,and pressure from family and kids, can be contributing factors.

[katerush]

like your channel.hope to get some handy pointers from it. have to say although there are many different and valid viewpoints on D.V, stockholm syndrome is not one of them. the 2 words that most describe an abuser is power and control. that`s why after the vedict was returned at josef fritzels, these 2 words kept reoccurring. Bidermans coercion chart, shows how an abuser can gain this power and control

[streetfightsecrets]

careful Kate!

firstly I didnt say it was Stockholm Syndrome, I said it was "Trauma Bonding" which is LIKE Stockholm Syndrome, I only mentioned S.S. to give people a point of reference for understanding Trauma Bonding effect and secondly be careful of using sentence structures like "this factor IS NOT one of them"- its futile to think and talk in terms of absolutes when discussing human behaviour.

What is true for one human being may not be true for another.

[FionnMcc]

always questioning, you sir are a true martial artist!!!

[doom13131]

wow all of your vid are actally really interesting i think ive lernt a lot from watching them thanks a lot

[karatespidey1]

Very good info. Keep it coming. Thanks.

[LetsWindTheYanksUp]

Low self worth and habit. It gets to the point were having the shit kicked out you when they come back from the pub pissed up becomes the norm.

[LetsWindTheYanksUp]

Basically all youve said is what most people know. Whats the game of monopoly got to do with this???

[LetsWindTheYanksUp]

I would also like to add another one. Trauma bonding,negative self image and habit. Because if youve been in several long term relationships with aggressive partners it becomes a habit because thats all the victim knows.

[LetsWindTheYanksUp]

You talk about Rihanna & her boyfriend and domestic violence. I heard someone had said to the boyfriend you battered rihanna (or sumthing to that effect) he denied it and Ironically beat the shit out of the guy that asked him.

The Boyfriend is up in court for beating her up and him. Nice guy.

[dazzassj6]

hey richard, Im in 3rd yr psychology student, is trauma bonding a theory you made up or someone else's theory?

this is quite interesting.

Please make another video about trauma bonding.

[streetfightsecrets]

google it you lazy student!

where are you studying? is it a particular type of psychology you are doing?

I think I will be getting more into this in next weeks video blog

[dazzassj6]

haha i just did, i never heard of that term before, thats why.

Im studying in sydney, australia, i wanna get into industrial psych.

I also do martial arts too, black belt in tkd and started shotokan karate. Funny thing was my instructor for karate is doing his masters in psych aswell! And my instructor for tkd has a psych degree aswell!

whats with people doing psych and doing martial arts? lol

[streetfightsecrets]

Ninjas have always studied psychology and martial arts- good luck with the degree

[diamondog19]

Great video dude, im a psychiartic nurse and i work with women that have been in abusive relationships everyday. Likewise i work with men abused by women. Domestic violence is a tough topic to work with.

[streetfightsecrets]

Spoke to my mate who worked as a counsellor for victims of domestic violence yesterday he said women hitting men is dead common- didnt know that.

[rp1816]

I just googled this - there's a thread on a BBC news site with men discussing this and it is horrific. People are largely switched on about the idea of male on female violence (though it's perpetration continues) but it must be awful for men too. What's the possible outlay - most men (including me) are brought up thinking you can't hit a women back, courts and police seem unsympathetic to men - at least reading the experiences on the thread. Do you have a view?

[streetfightsecrets]

to be quite honest I wouldnt take the case of a man being assaulted by a woman as seriously either- but yes youre right it must be awful for men too- I would ask how many women can totally physically dominate their male partners? in very very few cases I would think. However how many men can totaly physically dominate their female partners? most I would think. Abuse is abuse, but it's worse for women in my opinion.

[refuckulate420]

Women are also known to be more emotionally abusive to men in bad relationships on top of possibly being physically abusive. I also ready many many studies that suggest women initiate violence just as often as men do.

in domestic violence, women compensate for their size by using weapons. The other thing is it's harder for a man to defend himself when the woman can just turn around and say he beats her. If we want to see D.V. go down we need to recognize women as part of the problem.

[cage987]

if a women fights me with her hands i will just through her down and restrain her...if she uses a weapon she is getting knocked out like a man

[refuckulate420]

I agree with that.

[SpyWhoLovedHimself]

Please do explain in more depth, Stockholm Syndrome really interests me as a topic :)

[FreeFloFighter]

Spy... Stockholm... Am I the only one who sees the irony? Hopefully you have looked it up, it is a great topic to research. }:-)>

[tmac1780]

great subject, more more more.... also id like to hear you (richie) speak on how Barack Obama uses nlp and especially blank face technique on us sheep like americans.

[streetfightsecrets]

I darent go there mate, but it is an interesting topic- Obama is a master communicator

[SignorFOX]

interessting. did you studied stuff like this degree in psycologie, or is it experience (mean from interviews). I'd like to hear more about trauma bonding from you.

[jerem18h]

YOU ARE A GENIUS!!!!! I have many women in my life (mostly family) who are suffering from trauma bonding and you just might have saved them from it. Thank you

[3ch056]

Sorry man, but you look like you're in a zombie shelter underground trying to send out a distress call XD Sorry...

[TruthBeyond]

Just to add to what you said I think it's more accurate to say, "nobody rationally chooses their desires" rather than saying human beings are not rational animals. I do agree that were animals, and a lot of people are oblivious to this fact.

Keep up the good work.

[Carnuss]

My dad beat my mum when I was younger, so one night when he was doing it I grabbed a heavy metal drop bar for the front door and belted him across the spine with it. That fairly stopped him.

[prop8ntballa23131]

haha rock on

[Turok456789]

Awesome.

Well, awesome isn't really the best word... but still, that's the best way to fix that sort of problem.

[jonny232323232323]

intresting post richard, there was a good article in a fighters only magazine about y some people fight, particularly relevant to jens pulver think ud probly enjoy that, cos he was abused as a child n that he seems to fight so that if he can withstand that abuse he cant get hurt in the same way again mentally etc etc worth checkin out

[marcjtdc]

they connect certain actions with the love from their father.  it feels normal to them. also, they like a man who is in control or dominating.

[Foamy126]

Nice

[JointBuster]

i need to read about that trauma bonding so i wont pess myself in the streat

[fightsans]

very insightful its a kind of grooming nurture rather than nature

[lln003]

WHAT'S THE EMAIL AGAIN? YOU SAID IT TOO FAST DUDE.

I would like to get the info about Stockholms Syndrome subject. and also to ask you a few questions about someone close to me, whom I suspect has this abused mindset.

thanks for posting! and you kick ass! Literally!

[texaskid22]

I like the down to-earth way you present all your vids. I'm a new fan of yours. well done.

[omarion2k]

Awesome vid clears things up nicely.

[senxo]

I saw a guy beating his woman. Before I could get there another man threw the man of of the battered woman. The woman turned on the one trying to protect her and when the cops got there she told them he hit her not her boy friend. He got cuffed and put into the cruiser, not the guy who beat her. He was released later because there were witnesses willing to say he did not hurt her. This happens all the time. The low life who beat her got off clean. Woman think they cannot do better & stay.

[Nightavenger2]

Or they were raised in that negative enviorment where their dad beat their mother so they think that's how the relationship between a man, and a woman is suppose to be.

[spinhook888]

Interesting.

[RoaringTiger281]

Just had to say one more thing Richard, you said this is not fighting related but I think this is something we as martial artists or the general public should be educated on. Also this is violence and I feel does warrent discussion. Combat is not just about techniques but understanding human nature. Again well done Richard all the best brother.

[RoaringTiger281]

Very interesting information Richard. Glad you posted this you should do more videos on this! I have seen both women and men fall into this problem being in abusive relationships and continue to go back. Not just women but some men I know have been bullied and slapped around by women and they don't fight back or leave they live in hell. As a friend I have tried to get these people to get out of there bad scene but no luck. Great points definatly post more on this! Thanks Richard

[ilovesilvia69]

wow, this is interesting. lol

[GWH87]

I know it's not exactly fighting related, but i'd still like to see more of these videos, as it says in the description I know someone who's gone through this and I want to help them a bit more.

Very informative.

[BerlasNET]

good video

[upabittoolate]

i had a girlfriend that would try to goad me into confrontations in much the same way that men try to abuse women. richard is very correct in his conclusion that it's not a rational process to stay with that person. thank heavens i got my help. i could have been a statistic; a batterer or murderer. very good insight mate

[izigr]

great work, richie

[chmlndgdss]

This was really informative! I'm a lesbian and had been in an abusive relationship for 2 1/2 years with my ex girlfriend. This does explain a lot. I was, as you said, addicted. Then one day after another abusive episode, I ran to my mother, she got me a plane ticket and the next day I moved to a different state. That was the only way for me then to not go running back to her. And still after I left I called her and begged for forgiveness. Eventually I got over it. I'm glad you posted this