A Prayer for Joe Bob

[sillygoose544]

Luckily, I am not, have never been and will never be Joe Bob. I am far too selfish for that. ;)

[MaxxTheMerciless]

The sad thing is that Women, in general, never want to hear this.

Women have it good.

Why would they want things to change?

[Zain844]

My Dad is joe bob

[lillie1990am]

The fishing analogy was excellent, it clearly illustrates how someone would lose their sense of self. The statistics on suicide are sadly correct as men usually use a gun. This is not a histrionic cry for help such as overdose and cutting, which is what women typically do. When a man has had it he's done.

[Dickbaum]

Whats the point of marriage anymore? its not proof of love. It only seems to tie together two people finacially.

[rolynstone48]

What you have, is a choice between two things : You can have a wife - or, you can have a life - but you can't have both , for they are each incompatible with one another---- !

[TheAmericanArm]

Parents need to be happy first before- Their Children...Children are never happy if they don't see the parents happy...or argue most the time...

I know from experience...and it was fucked up...

My Children will never see the New age parent hood Crap that has been pawned off to my parents.

My kids Will be Spanked...with explanation...

Not talk it out- or any crap like that.

The Crap pawned off as parenthood Today and for decades IS SHIT!

More like a Hell raising recipe book...

[TheAmericanArm]

I am a gun owner- with no need to take my own life...

I bought a gun because I Like them...

[TheAmericanArm]

I believe in marriage greatly, I just don't believe in the sacrifice of becoming Joe Bob is Required...At All.

Many women make Joe Bob's out of Men.

Sadly...

I am thankfully not a joe bob...but could see it happening without having any understanding before choosing marriage.

[TheAmericanArm]

Must see...for men...Explains much why I have chosen not to get married on a whim.

All I see coming from marriage is numerous Joe Bob's...My dad is Joe bob...and doe not express it.

[paragshah2112]

what sally struthers forgot to mention was that with a simple donation that amounts to a cup of coffee a day, you can help keep the smile on one happymisogynist's face.

OR if you prefer,

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that always seems to keep a smile on THIS* happy misogynist's face!

* meaning me

[ExcelAndBeExcellent]

My cousin was one of those men who commited suicide. He was always trying to please his mother who acted like she hated him and neglected him as a child and his girlfriend who kept telling him that their kids weren't his and throwing the ring he gave her back at him. He wasn't perfect but he ment well and took good care of his family. He didn't deserve that type of treatment. Women we need to wise up. Everything is not about us and a man can't do everything for you. He's not ment to.

[im2fatactual]

why do some men not want get married

[ManSpeakOut]

@im2fatactual Well for one, what many men face in marriage today, like the story of Joe Bob.

There is other reasons too, one my favorite videos on the other reasons is "Why won't men commit?" made by 1menaregood1.

[shadowmare97]

This is an excellent story. And my heart goes out to all who suffer this.

[SButler512002]

"The mass of men live in enduring silence" This is a quote from a poem about the suffering of men by the hands of women. I am glad that men are no longer silent. Men have needs and wants and desires that are almost never met. Men you must stand up and say, "I will take care of myself just was much I take care of my family." You should not have to sacrifice all of your being for others. So the next time she said you aren't going fishing tell her, Yes I am and if you don't like it to fucking bad.

[addvoc8]

How true! Been there, done that...

[TSM8088]

This reminds me of one of my most cherished films and characters...Kevin Spacey in American Beauty.

[TheHappyMisogynist]

@TSM8088

LOL! Lester Burnham is my GOD!!

[TSM8088]

@TheHappyMisogynist Yes indeed.

....and another hero for me: Andy Dufresne.

Btw, Thanks for all you do my friend.

[TheHappyMisogynist]

@TSM8088

You have excellent taste. Shawshank was the most inspirational King stories ever. And you are quite welcome.

[TainoMantis]

CONTINUED: The truth of something will usually lead to a crossroads of decision...'Is change necessary or is oblivion better?'. Unfortunately, oblivion is the choice taken by many of the victims and they usually are lost to the rivers of "civilization".

[TainoMantis]

Heh...My psychology isn't exactly social. I don't really get anxious or excited about being around people (or about much of anything). This has afforded me an objective opportunity to observe the songs & dance that men & women do within society. Women creating the music and men singing & dancing. I find myself laughing at the energy spent by these people to follow their niche. And I noticed that most of them don't want to hear the truth. Why? Because the truth is frightening...

[Garrett00009]

I like all Paul's video but this one hit closer to home then the others, well done.

well done with the womans narrative as well, added to the mood

[Hulkmania316]

This is a great video, it is sad an so real. Men arround the world have to know this article.

[tobysoter]

Married or not never give up those precious things you love.

[dainismichel]

Thank you

[TheQueenIsWithin]

Nice Vid. I'll share this with my man

[unassumption]

I tried to change my dad, until I realized he actually likes living this kind of life now. Men are too easilly manipulated like this.

[crh2010]

good video....i use to be joe bob

[mindround]

This video displayed the lives of many married men accurately. Unfortunately, nothing will change until men take the appropriate actions and stand up for themselves. Much of the time, men are called gay or "less of a man" if he fights for his rights. Understand that this is just another way to control you. Don't wait for social acceptance, the time to act is now!

[TheQueenIsWithin]

@mindround You're right - why should a man or anyone have to fight for rights. You are born free and no one has the right to take it from you.  Many men while thinking that they are 'macho' or 'sucking it in' have duped themselves into being 'expendable'. I've spoken to men about this and its as if they are brainwashed. Imagine me a woman telling them and its as if I'm talking to a wall!

[Xtro2005]

And people wonder why men cheat.

[fignal]

Oh my God.

I am Joe Bob.

Now i understand why i have thoughts of suicide.

Thanks for the video.

[TheHappyMisogynist]

Then make my work, worthwhile. LIVE. And change. Take care of yourself.

[uratrick]

Keep the Faith don't give up!

[ghostrider481]

Don't let the everyday grind were you down. Do something play video games go to gym do something.

[TheQueenIsWithin]

@fignal Why did you let it happen?

[cjjaxxon]

Good vid. I played the "Joe Bob" role too. I moved in with a woman and her daughter and everything of mine except my dresser drawer went to the basement. How can you be the man of the house when your name ain't even on the lease or mortgage?

[TheQueenIsWithin]

@cjjaxxon Not meaning to be callous but you should have paid your way and make sure you receive a receipt for each payment that way no one can manipulate you.Truth is you were never expected to be 'the man of the house'.You were expected to be a figure-head for people to 'think' you were the man of the house (i.e. guard dog).Never give away money to a woman/man without proof that you actually contributed. I'd rather sleep in a shelter than have a man do that to me.

[cjjaxxon]

You're not being callous but a receipt wouldna helped because I was being used anyway. I shoulda got my own apartment.

[CatMacLean]

poor Joe Bob... however Its not only men who this type situations happen. I moved across the ocean with two suit cases. I am a bit of a minimalist so it was alright with me, however my husband has taken up all the space phyiscal and emothional. He is the youngest in his family and sweet and sensitive so his family adores him and I am seen as 'there' for him and I am nowhere. - Jill Bob

[1960Greeneyes]

I agree that expectations for men are different. I have seem many relegated to a small dark area of the home. I do understand. Women have been taught they can be anything stay home,work both. Have kids or not Choices,Men are taught for the most part a single minded mission. I see a shift a bit generation wise perhaps through fruition this will right itself. He must stand up or retreat., The spine & balls must be in the equation !!! Thanks for the great work, it has me thinking a good thing

[1960Greeneyes]

Outside of my gender we share the same traits Joe Bob & I. Is the battle worth fighting ,should we just move on before we forget what our dreams are. While I see your POV in respect to men, I see this as non gender based . It has been my experience. Excellent work

[TheHappyMisogynist]

I agree with you. No shortage of Jane Bobs out there. Though I do think the experience and social demands for such, especially in terms of space in the home are more universal for men.

I appreciate your comments.

[nikkiwindham]

@TheHappyMisogynist I have a similar comment in that I don't think Joe Bob's fictional wife is any happier or more satisfied with her life. This is why I don't believe in getting married. There seem to be plenty of YT feminists saying marriage is oppressive for women and MRA's saying it is a bad deal for men, but I firmly believe that marriage is a bad for everyone.

[CHRLPTRSN]

@nikkiwindham Just out of curiousity, does this mean you don't believe in monogamy, either?

[nikkiwindham]

@CHRLPTRSN No, I don't. I believe that if you are male or female and you have some big dreams you want, then you don't want to be in a relationship becaue of the time and energy that goes into it.

[Chevrobert]

"I am Spartacus" No in reality I am Joe Bob as I suspect most men who read this are Joe Bob's as well. We do not live in our own homes we are merely caretakers of a home we give others. We Joe Bobs are not members of the family but merely providers for it. We go through life trying to please those we love but instead recieve only criticism and contempt. Joe Bob make your presence known in your homes and make your lives yours instead of someone elses.

[4thtroika]

I am a recovering Joe Bob. Everything I did for myself, no matter what it was, was just an excuse to ignore my responsibilities. Those days are over, but it's still hard sometimes. But I keep going.

[Chevrobert]

If you ignored your responsibilities then you are not a Joe Bob. Joe Bob is the guy who takes his responsibilities very seriously even though he may have a wife that has no respect for him. He does what he can for his family even though he is at risk daily of losing that very family on a whim from his wife. Joe Bob keeps quiet because he is afraid things will get worse if he stands up for himself. Nice try though. You are no Joe Bob.

[4thtroika]

I assure you I did not ignore my responsibilities. I've written a tie-in to this video, which i hope Paul will post on his site soon. It goes into greater detail.

[Chevrobert]

Perhaps I got confused when you said" an excuxe to ignore my responsibilities". The way I read that seems to confirm my previous statement.And as for your tie in I am not going to go looking for a different statement as I responded to you here not there.

[Izzeygirl]

Joe Bob is everywhere, only most, do not see him. We give our men too much credit when we disregard lightly, their need for presence; individualisms, personal space, and special care. We demand it, thinking it is generally accepted. It is accepted, to "keep the peace"..while Joe Bob's existence, dwindles into oblivion. The end result, a sad life for a man that blends in with the wallpaper. I hate wallpaper. I love the narrative in a woman's voice. It adds balance; what we strive for. Kudos

[TheHappyMisogynist]

Most well stated, IG. Joe Bob is reduced to a paycheck and the duties of a beast of burdon. And many of them do, in fact, keep the peace till the day they blow their brains out.

[crypter27]

Poor Joe Bob,he can't express him self in his own home!

[4thtroika]

Of course not. It's just an excuse to ingnore his wife and responsibilities. What makes him think it's worth it anyway? What's he trying to prove?

[crypter27]

Every body needs to feel at home,in there homes & every body needs some me time. From time to time & people need to express them selves,also allowed to express. Who they are,but most women don't want there men to be them selves,they want men. To change,to what they want them to be & that makes most women of today selfish bitches.