In my case i' am still single because i haven't quite been able to understand people, this is a deficiency on my part and all i can do is try to keep learning about the needs and wants of others while at the same time work hard on my own happiness.
Life is a tough gig, maybe i' am meant to be on my own....it can get very lonely.
Here's how to solve the single problem many people, including myself, have.
1) Every person that's in an abusive relationship, follow steps 1a and 1b 1a abused party: flee in a public setting. 1b abuser party: kindly report to the local police station
2)Every person whom wants to ask someone out just ASK!
3)Everyone join a dating site, with many filters such as"kids y/n?" and "religious views" two major roadblocks that few sites I've seen have.
ive been single for one month - seems easy right? then why do i feel like i want to crawl into a hole to die in because the man i love didn't think things were "working out". i could find another guy to date if I wanted to. but i don't want to. and I am HATING being single. and to top it off - i have major depressive disorder - talk your way out of that one oh so smart doctor.
Still single and coming up to 29 this year all my friends are in serious relationships. I got a pretty good job and friends and family and i look after myself but i just never really got this full dating game i got buddies who get girls all the time but that just never happens with me i have had a fair few one night stands but just not a serious relationship. I dont wanna be a single guy forever but just find it hard to open up to girls that i dont really know and express my feelings.
How to deal with being single: Get involved in very high risk sports and combine it with compulsive exercise. Example. Go on a 15 mile run and then raise your heart rate to maximum and then jump off a cliff into a lake that is 60 degrees. Hey, risks are involved but it's better than growing to old age and risk being stuck in a hospital bed alone with no one to confide in.
There are too many people out there who are single and have a hard time finding someone because all the people that are taken, or the ones they want, choose the wrong people to be with and the people you do want to be with don't want you. There are too many genuine guys out there that try to meet the right woman but they can't get noticed. And those guys CAN AND WILL make a relationship/marriage work but these dumb women out there just can't see that and keep going for the wrong guys.
@rocesventronic No! Single people are single because they want to be single or they just are too sloby to be with someone. There's a saying "if you want you'll have results if you dont want you'll have an excuse.".
@FashionableLad Tell me about it. I'm in a university class where about 22 out of 25 are with someone, including the girl who you think could be your life partner.
Society is degenerating relationships have about the same chance of the marriage rate in the U.S youngmen should not put their strength into women it is futile and a waste of time and money, nowdays its everyman for himself.
Ive been single for a very long time. almost around six years. everyone tells me im funny and nice and smart and that im good looking , they always shove down my throat that i should model. im not trying to be conceded by saying this. but if its true... why am i still single?? :(((
Just be a player dudes. That way you don't ever have to worry about being single. You will have a lot dates and women, therefore, you will have a lot of options.
@rocesventronic Being single can also mean you love yourself. you shouldnt have to be dependent on a person. being single means you're strong! and you arent :( sorry
Im a 20 year old single guy (Im not gay) and Ive been single my whole live so far. I personally believe there is no "OTHER HALF" for me. Girls like my cousin who drinks and parties all day and Im a good lokking polite, hardworking guy that girls don't care about. He teases me alot about it and to think he used to be my best friend.
@Nintendo82345 someone will come along for you! Those chicks will get tired of those party-bad-boy types cuz a girl wants to settle with a good guy who will treat her right and be a good mate. You have integrity, good work-ethic, and morale. Just be you Good Luck! Forget about your cousin.
@Nintendo82345 Dude I know exactly how you feel. Im 20 and I never had a relationship with a woman either. I still get irritated by the friends I hang with in Michigan are easily able to obtain a gf or bf while I still stay on the sidelines seeing everyone else have a companion of some sort. Make it so bad, they actually ask me for advice to help them so they can keep their relationship. So yeah don't stop just keep looking like I am
OK fine lets see ifany of you can help with my problem i have been with this one guy for a year i cheated on him about a year ago we were going to get married he was happy now he called off the wedding and doesn't know if he wats me anymore he wont talkto me and just gets mad because of how depressed i am and he is leaving for boot camp in march and is bi poler i don't know how to help or ever how to stop my bad depression plz if you can help write to me on my page
i'm single coz i want to be, i can assure you ive felt more lonely in some relationships than ive ever felt on my own, thats something you conclude with experience, so what i'm saying is, relationships are good as long as the other person still desires you otherwise you'll become an emotional blubbering mess! its also ironic that you have the most fun in a relationship when you dont fully know each other, the problems start when ya do!! i dont think men & women were ever meant to live together
i too study psychology and i understand how u feel is what u project. if u don't like being single, u will project a neediness and an insufficiency about yourself. i'm single and i like it and because i like it, many girls kick it to me because they feel my confidence. i use the time being single to improve myself so when the right girl comes along, i'll have more to give! peace!
@deceptacongrl I agree, it's the same with me, except I'm a guy and I'm 16 (almost 17). It seems as if the people who say being single isn't that bad, are only thinking of the people who are currently single but have been in a relationship before. They don't even consider people like us, who have always been single and have no idea what it's like to be in a relationship. You know what I mean?
@prettynoose89 I know what you mean. I'm 19 years old now I have friedns who are getting married, having kids, etc and I have yet to be asked out on a date! It makes me really sad, lol. I'll live though. I can always get an arranged marriage, lol.
26 years, was with a girl when I was 10-11 years old for a month I think (don't remember much of it, sad to say I think I was too young to understand it and really who understands those things at that age :P)
Don't like being single, but I chose it because I've been single for 15-16 years and after a while you just...Accept it or in a way commit love suicide
For those that try and fail, but get up to try again, I applaude them
@SolidMike84 Well, all I can say is your actually lucky that girls approach you. I have not been in much contact with girls because I was home-schooled throughout middle school, and went to a alternative school for my first two years of high school, which was mainly made up of boys. So I don't even really have any close friends that are girls. If you want to just give up in getting a relationship, then that's your own choice.As for me, I am not built to be single for the rest of my life.
You'd be surprised how many girls might actually like you, but are too shy to approach
Still in the same kind of school?
I tried once with a girl, via love letters, got burned and since I'm pretty introvert created all kinds of reasons why she did not like me and have thought those thoughts ever since, making the single life appear the safest beat
When instead I should've saddled up and tried again
@SolidMike84 Thanks man, I am not going to the same school, but I am doing independent study through some other school. They also have some classes to take there and I did see some girls there, but I think it might be best to make school my main priority now. So I don't know how things are going to play out. Also, I know it seems like all your chances at finding the one are gone, but they really aren't, your still young (lol I know I'm younger but still). You will definitely find the one.
@prettynoose89 I'm in the same boat buddy. I'm going to be 18 this year, and I haven't even been on a friendly date yet. The majority of the time, I don't let it bother me, but there are just some times where I just can't help feeling disappointed.
She basically said nothing. being single is hard and thought it has it's moments, most people would prefer having a worthy companion than being alone. You can enjoy singlehood but it's not the best you'd want out of life.
It is true you can have fun doing things on your own. Like in the song Cabaret....what good is sitting alone in your room come here the music play, life is a cabaret old chum come to the cabaret. Put down you knitting your book and your broom, it time for a holiday... You will find freinds and you just might meet someone special doing something you love. Join a club, hiking, sailing etc or just get involved in your community volunteering. Live. Don't wait for life to happen make it happen.
One more single is having a partner/wife/husband in a carehome. You are single in your daily life but have the responsiblity of caring for the disabled partner. In all aspects you are single. You must carry on life alone without the support but you have the burden/responsiblity for someone else. This can be very difficult in dealing with the obligation and commitment. Their can be issues of gult along with the responsibility. Also burden of the financial responsiblity and emitional needs
In my case i' am still single because i haven't quite been able to understand people, this is a deficiency on my part and all i can do is try to keep learning about the needs and wants of others while at the same time work hard on my own happiness.
Life is a tough gig, maybe i' am meant to be on my own....it can get very lonely.
T42please 1 month ago
Here's how to solve the single problem many people, including myself, have.
1) Every person that's in an abusive relationship, follow steps 1a and 1b 1a abused party: flee in a public setting. 1b abuser party: kindly report to the local police station
2)Every person whom wants to ask someone out just ASK!
3)Everyone join a dating site, with many filters such as"kids y/n?" and "religious views" two major roadblocks that few sites I've seen have.
1-more singles 2-more chances 3-go global
jaythephoenix 2 months ago
What about people who want to date but are too ugly? this is my case ...oh well :)
Kidanis 4 months ago
ive been single for one month - seems easy right? then why do i feel like i want to crawl into a hole to die in because the man i love didn't think things were "working out". i could find another guy to date if I wanted to. but i don't want to. and I am HATING being single. and to top it off - i have major depressive disorder - talk your way out of that one oh so smart doctor.
crimsonlondon 4 months ago
How about coping with being married?
TheodorusRex 4 months ago
@rocesventronic Don't tar everyone else with your brush. I absolutely love being single, it's fantastic!!
LordWedgewood 6 months ago
@rocesventronic I've been single for 10 years mate
BASTARDUS1MAXIMUS 6 months ago
Maybe i should just slash my wrists, i guess i would not be single anymore.
goran2009 7 months ago
Still single and coming up to 29 this year all my friends are in serious relationships. I got a pretty good job and friends and family and i look after myself but i just never really got this full dating game i got buddies who get girls all the time but that just never happens with me i have had a fair few one night stands but just not a serious relationship. I dont wanna be a single guy forever but just find it hard to open up to girls that i dont really know and express my feelings.
ADZ01982 9 months ago
Im 26 turning 27 and i have been single my whole life, i can't find anyone especially since it's hard for me because i have aspergers.
fuckstick1984 10 months ago
How to deal with being single: Get involved in very high risk sports and combine it with compulsive exercise. Example. Go on a 15 mile run and then raise your heart rate to maximum and then jump off a cliff into a lake that is 60 degrees. Hey, risks are involved but it's better than growing to old age and risk being stuck in a hospital bed alone with no one to confide in.
RB902050 11 months ago
@rocesventronic Im going on almost 10 years now :3 pretty sure I got pretty much everyone beat. haha!
cilayin 11 months ago
There are too many people out there who are single and have a hard time finding someone because all the people that are taken, or the ones they want, choose the wrong people to be with and the people you do want to be with don't want you. There are too many genuine guys out there that try to meet the right woman but they can't get noticed. And those guys CAN AND WILL make a relationship/marriage work but these dumb women out there just can't see that and keep going for the wrong guys.
Grapes428 11 months ago 3
i love him but he stopped loving me.. years of my time and emotion i wont get back..
xXOsMAbiXx 1 year ago
Been single for 5 years and counting.
repeatman 1 year ago
I can't find any girl!!!!!!!
Isaacsac4 1 year ago
man, shes right. :)
JuicyWuSea 1 year ago
@rocesventronic No! Single people are single because they want to be single or they just are too sloby to be with someone. There's a saying "if you want you'll have results if you dont want you'll have an excuse.".
D3admaus 1 year ago
@FashionableLad Tell me about it. I'm in a university class where about 22 out of 25 are with someone, including the girl who you think could be your life partner.
Terrra91 1 year ago
I always do better on my own.
PrivateDmitry 1 year ago
Society is degenerating relationships have about the same chance of the marriage rate in the U.S youngmen should not put their strength into women it is futile and a waste of time and money, nowdays its everyman for himself.
DIJV79 1 year ago
"I'm not happy with the word coping".... *me looking at title*
MatthewLedZepfan 1 year ago 2
@rocesventronic
I'm single because I want it and I know some girls who have tried to talk me into starting a relationship with them, but ultimately I declined
Still am single. I made the choice a while back
There's someone for everyone, it's a big world filled with many people for those that dare. Either way:
"Who dares, wins."
And for you funny people out there who are sure to ask, no I'm not gay
SolidMike84 1 year ago
@SolidMike84 I pretty much cant find a woman that can put up with ME. lol
repeatman 1 year ago
Ive been single for a very long time. almost around six years. everyone tells me im funny and nice and smart and that im good looking , they always shove down my throat that i should model. im not trying to be conceded by saying this. but if its true... why am i still single?? :(((
spinjoh 1 year ago
I'm in a long distance relationship but some ppl still wud constier meh to b single
14Thesexiichick 1 year ago
Just be a player dudes. That way you don't ever have to worry about being single. You will have a lot dates and women, therefore, you will have a lot of options.
NewUnderwear 1 year ago
@rocesventronic Being single can also mean you love yourself. you shouldnt have to be dependent on a person. being single means you're strong! and you arent :( sorry
wanna go out?
Kimberly3EB 1 year ago
drink a zip of water
ssoopphhiieeownsyou 1 year ago
Im a 20 year old single guy (Im not gay) and Ive been single my whole live so far. I personally believe there is no "OTHER HALF" for me. Girls like my cousin who drinks and parties all day and Im a good lokking polite, hardworking guy that girls don't care about. He teases me alot about it and to think he used to be my best friend.
Nintendo82345 1 year ago
@Nintendo82345 someone will come along for you! Those chicks will get tired of those party-bad-boy types cuz a girl wants to settle with a good guy who will treat her right and be a good mate. You have integrity, good work-ethic, and morale. Just be you Good Luck! Forget about your cousin.
pinchej 1 year ago
Thanks buddy! Not to many people understand. Your one of the smartest people I have talked to about this.
Nintendo82345 1 year ago
@Nintendo82345 No prob keep your head up!
pinchej 1 year ago
@Nintendo82345 Dude I know exactly how you feel. Im 20 and I never had a relationship with a woman either. I still get irritated by the friends I hang with in Michigan are easily able to obtain a gf or bf while I still stay on the sidelines seeing everyone else have a companion of some sort. Make it so bad, they actually ask me for advice to help them so they can keep their relationship. So yeah don't stop just keep looking like I am
Donte758 1 year ago
Yeah thanks dude! it just gets exhausting after a while.
Nintendo82345 1 year ago
@rocesventronic Hope you find someone. Cheers
ITHEREONETHATHASNT 1 year ago
Being single isn't something you need a psychologist for. If you do you are pretty weak. Single for a year and LOVING IT!
ITHEREONETHATHASNT 1 year ago
@ITHEREONETHATHASNT I've been single for 5 years.
repeatman 1 year ago
Thank You So Much,
Your right, it is all in your own attitude of how you see it.
& it's nice to be reassured that there is nothing wrong with being single.
reowreow11 2 years ago
OK fine lets see ifany of you can help with my problem i have been with this one guy for a year i cheated on him about a year ago we were going to get married he was happy now he called off the wedding and doesn't know if he wats me anymore he wont talkto me and just gets mad because of how depressed i am and he is leaving for boot camp in march and is bi poler i don't know how to help or ever how to stop my bad depression plz if you can help write to me on my page
Rin376204 2 years ago
i'm single coz i want to be, i can assure you ive felt more lonely in some relationships than ive ever felt on my own, thats something you conclude with experience, so what i'm saying is, relationships are good as long as the other person still desires you otherwise you'll become an emotional blubbering mess! its also ironic that you have the most fun in a relationship when you dont fully know each other, the problems start when ya do!! i dont think men & women were ever meant to live together
trippy119 2 years ago
i too study psychology and i understand how u feel is what u project. if u don't like being single, u will project a neediness and an insufficiency about yourself. i'm single and i like it and because i like it, many girls kick it to me because they feel my confidence. i use the time being single to improve myself so when the right girl comes along, i'll have more to give! peace!
bigbadwoolf7 2 years ago 7
I'm an 18 year old girl and I've never dated! Never even been kissed.....This didn't really help.
deceptacongrl 2 years ago
@deceptacongrl I agree, it's the same with me, except I'm a guy and I'm 16 (almost 17). It seems as if the people who say being single isn't that bad, are only thinking of the people who are currently single but have been in a relationship before. They don't even consider people like us, who have always been single and have no idea what it's like to be in a relationship. You know what I mean?
prettynoose89 1 year ago
@prettynoose89 I know what you mean. I'm 19 years old now I have friedns who are getting married, having kids, etc and I have yet to be asked out on a date! It makes me really sad, lol. I'll live though. I can always get an arranged marriage, lol.
deceptacongrl 1 year ago
@deceptacongrl lol yeah, but really, I do hope you find you find your guy. Best of luck to both of us, I guess.
prettynoose89 1 year ago
@prettynoose89 Aw, thanks! Best of uck to you too :)
deceptacongrl 1 year ago
@prettynoose89
26 years, was with a girl when I was 10-11 years old for a month I think (don't remember much of it, sad to say I think I was too young to understand it and really who understands those things at that age :P)
Don't like being single, but I chose it because I've been single for 15-16 years and after a while you just...Accept it or in a way commit love suicide
For those that try and fail, but get up to try again, I applaude them
I wish I'd done the same
SolidMike84 1 year ago
@SolidMike84 Well, all I can say is your actually lucky that girls approach you. I have not been in much contact with girls because I was home-schooled throughout middle school, and went to a alternative school for my first two years of high school, which was mainly made up of boys. So I don't even really have any close friends that are girls. If you want to just give up in getting a relationship, then that's your own choice.As for me, I am not built to be single for the rest of my life.
prettynoose89 1 year ago
@prettynoose89
You'd be surprised how many girls might actually like you, but are too shy to approach
Still in the same kind of school?
I tried once with a girl, via love letters, got burned and since I'm pretty introvert created all kinds of reasons why she did not like me and have thought those thoughts ever since, making the single life appear the safest beat
When instead I should've saddled up and tried again
You try at least? Unlike me ^^
I hope you do find the one
SolidMike84 1 year ago
@SolidMike84 Thanks man, I am not going to the same school, but I am doing independent study through some other school. They also have some classes to take there and I did see some girls there, but I think it might be best to make school my main priority now. So I don't know how things are going to play out. Also, I know it seems like all your chances at finding the one are gone, but they really aren't, your still young (lol I know I'm younger but still). You will definitely find the one.
prettynoose89 1 year ago
@prettynoose89
Just keep your eyes open all time and not only during study time ;) Sometimes things happen when you least expect it, so eyes open!
Never too late for either of us! ;D
*salutes with a glass of milk*
SolidMike84 1 year ago
@SolidMike84 *salutes back with glass of milk* =D
prettynoose89 1 year ago
@prettynoose89 I'm in the same boat buddy. I'm going to be 18 this year, and I haven't even been on a friendly date yet. The majority of the time, I don't let it bother me, but there are just some times where I just can't help feeling disappointed.
lifeisgood1013 11 months ago
She basically said nothing. being single is hard and thought it has it's moments, most people would prefer having a worthy companion than being alone. You can enjoy singlehood but it's not the best you'd want out of life.
santonegra 2 years ago
thanks. Going out really is (if the only) thing i can imagine more fun when being single *g* hey, found something!
kiljoe 2 years ago
With that attitude, you might as well just stay single... Really not your place for discussion dude!
TCFan25 2 years ago
honestly, why restrict yourself to one girl??
Longfellow89 2 years ago
Another bit of useless advice for those who have and always been single and still looking for the answers to overcome their trouble.
TCFan25 2 years ago
It is true you can have fun doing things on your own. Like in the song Cabaret....what good is sitting alone in your room come here the music play, life is a cabaret old chum come to the cabaret. Put down you knitting your book and your broom, it time for a holiday... You will find freinds and you just might meet someone special doing something you love. Join a club, hiking, sailing etc or just get involved in your community volunteering. Live. Don't wait for life to happen make it happen.
GlobalStargazer 2 years ago
One more single is having a partner/wife/husband in a carehome. You are single in your daily life but have the responsiblity of caring for the disabled partner. In all aspects you are single. You must carry on life alone without the support but you have the burden/responsiblity for someone else. This can be very difficult in dealing with the obligation and commitment. Their can be issues of gult along with the responsibility. Also burden of the financial responsiblity and emitional needs
GlobalStargazer 2 years ago
Not bad advice, thank you Doc.
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nickalbano222 2 years ago
thanks for posting! great choice of words, Inspiring
nikki0515 2 years ago
I agree. Useless! I'm still lonely!--but your comment cheered me up though. :)
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