Isn't it amazing how when we grow up and reflect back on our growth we find out who we really are and the beautiful persons we are becoming. Holding onto past resentments and old haunts is tiring. And looking back and not forgetting makes us better for the future I hope! U are wonderful and uplifting! x;0)
Not only are you beautiful on the outside your beauty on the inside truly shines through. Yu have NO idea of how much your videos helped me cope with my own emotional issues, thank you so much.
Great wisdom. WOW. We can't forget where we come from. Our experiences shape us and we cannot turn our back or turn up our noses at our family and the mess that we've been through.
I saw an Oprah episode on this. A news woman who became big and tried to forget the poverty she lived in...One day she saw her Mother digging in a trash can. I cannot remember the rest.
my background is very similar to yours, my parents telling me what to do and not to do, when to do it...i was very sheltered and it was not a good thing after graduation...i was off the hook.
Happy New Year! I'm not the oldest but I understand the pressure just by reflecting on the actions of my oldest sister and my oldest child. Parents seem to forget that the oldest child does not come equipped with the knowledge and skills for the responsibilities we put on them. I left home at 17 and never went back either. I understand how you felt. I have done well with my life thus far, but of course I made a lot of mistakes along the way. You're blessed young man. Never forget that.
Just like you, I couldn't be ME around family. I had to play the happy-go-lucky church going girl who didn't cuss, drink, etc. all for the sake of looking good for church folk. FOR YEARS I was angry and accused my family of wanting me to be "phoney." Now, as an adult, I see why they did it. Though I don't agree how they went about it, I UNDERSTAND why they did it. That's just one thing that I hated as a child, but as you stated; why focus on everything bad? Embrace the good things. Thanks!
My situation is the same I never wanted to be around my family because I felt like everyone was so dysfuntional, hatred and abandonment. But, yet I still wanted my siblings to look up to me I was the first in everything except having a baby. So..all of that back fired even though I'm married and have the best education the big house...they look at me as if I think I'm better than them..So I kept trying to prove them wrong and I had no intent of trying to make anyone jealous. I hate going home.
@lloyd614 Our backgrounds sound very similar lol. I'm glad you learned to balance, temper that radical & conservative side. I've been learning to do that over the past few years. And we must DEFINITELY be grateful!
TRAVNESS!!!! My roommate grew up the same way. 'Cuz let me tell YOU!!! That Columbus, OH for me was a TRIP! As much as I love my people, I felt like I was walking around with shackles on my heart, mind and DREAMS! As you said, I value the principles I was raised by. Although it was a bit overbearing at times, I have learned how to temper both the radical and conservative sides of myself. Thank you for this, friend!
good story..thanks for sharing...it's amazing that all you have gone through and all the anger you held against your family that they needed you to come and share your wisdom..it's amazing how we go full circle..wonderful revelatory moment for you my friend..Happy New Year
@Trippleg1993 I wouldn't call it anger--resentment, maybe, but I'm so glad to have the awareness of why they treated me that way. I went through a LOT as a child. They only wanted the best for me. I'm appreciative. Now lol. HAPPY NEW YEAR, love!
While these skills/lessons don't translate on a resume they inform my day to day. They keep my lights on, my cabinets full, and keep me off drugs. They are the reflections of hard learned lessons from God appointed teachers, I used to look at as failures.
Not to get all conspiracy theorist here but,
I think a result of this digital age that we live in places very little value on anything that preexisted it. Info-overload. Too much of the wrong information being stored. Thanks for the reminder.
Thank you for posting this video today Trav.It's message was right on time.Our journeys are different but,the moral my story is the same as yours.I'll just say I made a phone call today that was five years overdue.God Bless You.Much Peace,love and appreciation.
Isn't it amazing how when we grow up and reflect back on our growth we find out who we really are and the beautiful persons we are becoming. Holding onto past resentments and old haunts is tiring. And looking back and not forgetting makes us better for the future I hope! U are wonderful and uplifting! x;0)
Blaquegoddess13 1 week ago
Not only are you beautiful on the outside your beauty on the inside truly shines through. Yu have NO idea of how much your videos helped me cope with my own emotional issues, thank you so much.
Sassylovexjo 1 week ago
Great wisdom. WOW. We can't forget where we come from. Our experiences shape us and we cannot turn our back or turn up our noses at our family and the mess that we've been through.
bradleysubershow 1 month ago
HI TRAV:D
idis91 1 month ago
I saw an Oprah episode on this. A news woman who became big and tried to forget the poverty she lived in...One day she saw her Mother digging in a trash can. I cannot remember the rest.
Ariegiggles 1 month ago
Is that why the room you are in is so clean and neat?
Ariegiggles 1 month ago
my background is very similar to yours, my parents telling me what to do and not to do, when to do it...i was very sheltered and it was not a good thing after graduation...i was off the hook.
brnize1969 1 month ago
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jayebrite 1 month ago
U got beautiful skin
Chocolatediva69 1 month ago
Happy New Year! I'm not the oldest but I understand the pressure just by reflecting on the actions of my oldest sister and my oldest child. Parents seem to forget that the oldest child does not come equipped with the knowledge and skills for the responsibilities we put on them. I left home at 17 and never went back either. I understand how you felt. I have done well with my life thus far, but of course I made a lot of mistakes along the way. You're blessed young man. Never forget that.
jsix4evr 1 month ago
Eye opening video...thank you.
williejbirden 1 month ago
Just like you, I couldn't be ME around family. I had to play the happy-go-lucky church going girl who didn't cuss, drink, etc. all for the sake of looking good for church folk. FOR YEARS I was angry and accused my family of wanting me to be "phoney." Now, as an adult, I see why they did it. Though I don't agree how they went about it, I UNDERSTAND why they did it. That's just one thing that I hated as a child, but as you stated; why focus on everything bad? Embrace the good things. Thanks!
JoyNicole1974 1 month ago
Thank you!
ebony66pink 1 month ago
Love it!!!
terrencenixon07 1 month ago
Trav: Your spirit is just beautiful :~) I always enjoy your videos, and I know what it's like, to be so controlled as a child. Be blessed!
whatanightmare1 1 month ago
@whatanightmare1 Thank you!
WordSmith79 1 month ago
This was a great video and I won't forget my family I will just pray for them and hope they will change and I hope I will change as well.
TheDiaryOfMe365 1 month ago
My situation is the same I never wanted to be around my family because I felt like everyone was so dysfuntional, hatred and abandonment. But, yet I still wanted my siblings to look up to me I was the first in everything except having a baby. So..all of that back fired even though I'm married and have the best education the big house...they look at me as if I think I'm better than them..So I kept trying to prove them wrong and I had no intent of trying to make anyone jealous. I hate going home.
TheDiaryOfMe365 1 month ago
This video hit close to home... i love it.
MsChocoholik 1 month ago
Love this video. Thanks for sharing Trav.
jayizmee 1 month ago
I absolutely love this video and only you will know why
tssexychanel 1 month ago
And it's so funny, I was having a reflection time today and I was expressing that we MUST be thankful! We MUST be grateful! I high five you!!!
lloyd614 1 month ago
@lloyd614 Our backgrounds sound very similar lol. I'm glad you learned to balance, temper that radical & conservative side. I've been learning to do that over the past few years. And we must DEFINITELY be grateful!
WordSmith79 1 month ago
TRAVNESS!!!! My roommate grew up the same way. 'Cuz let me tell YOU!!! That Columbus, OH for me was a TRIP! As much as I love my people, I felt like I was walking around with shackles on my heart, mind and DREAMS! As you said, I value the principles I was raised by. Although it was a bit overbearing at times, I have learned how to temper both the radical and conservative sides of myself. Thank you for this, friend!
lloyd614 1 month ago
good story..thanks for sharing...it's amazing that all you have gone through and all the anger you held against your family that they needed you to come and share your wisdom..it's amazing how we go full circle..wonderful revelatory moment for you my friend..Happy New Year
Trippleg1993 1 month ago
@Trippleg1993 I wouldn't call it anger--resentment, maybe, but I'm so glad to have the awareness of why they treated me that way. I went through a LOT as a child. They only wanted the best for me. I'm appreciative. Now lol. HAPPY NEW YEAR, love!
WordSmith79 1 month ago
so, so true!
athomas1124 1 month ago
and not enough storing of experiences and memories of where we have come from or through.
ablacksquare 1 month ago
While these skills/lessons don't translate on a resume they inform my day to day. They keep my lights on, my cabinets full, and keep me off drugs. They are the reflections of hard learned lessons from God appointed teachers, I used to look at as failures.
Not to get all conspiracy theorist here but,
I think a result of this digital age that we live in places very little value on anything that preexisted it. Info-overload. Too much of the wrong information being stored. Thanks for the reminder.
ablacksquare 1 month ago
well said
darlynasanford 1 month ago
Much Love ...Travis
XlaviathanX 1 month ago
Thank you for posting this video today Trav.It's message was right on time.Our journeys are different but,the moral my story is the same as yours.I'll just say I made a phone call today that was five years overdue.God Bless You.Much Peace,love and appreciation.
Angelicalovessolur 1 month ago
@Angelicalovessolur Good luck to you!
WordSmith79 1 month ago
You preached the truth in this video. I loved this video.
tamtamtam 1 month ago
Well said, insight is priceless.
tmeicxl 1 month ago
Thank you, Trav. :o)
jupiterinmotionn 1 month ago