Excess Skin after Gastric Bypass Surgery - Part 2 of 2

[toni8571]

I know how you feel. I feel the same way. The only difference is i had tumor surgery cancer surgery and kidney surgery, from May 2010 to April 2011. I lost a total of 180 lbs. so far, Right now my problem is all the loose skin.

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[deepblueyes28]

Girl you are breaking my heart! I setting here crying with you. I just wanna reach out and give you a hug!!! I am going to have the same surgery in 17days! I am starting out 2 libs ligher then what you did, I am now 354libs so I am sure I am going to go threw the same thing. Iv had to kids so I know my stomic is going to be bad and my legs are HUGE, thats going to be the worst place. I am hear for ya girl!

[sknemnewannabe]

I am living the very same thing at this same moment. I have lost 174 lbs in 11 months and still weigh 246--i need to lose another 80 -100lbs and can;'t even imagine how much worse my skin is going to get. But I am like you--spanx are great for now but I want to be free eventually! I am all for plastic surgery. You look beautiful and the skin is a reminder of the harm we did to our bodies and the courageous journey we took to change our lives. It sags because we now soar! Thanks for your bravery!

[neecyd63]

Sarah I can totally empathize with you. I am still about 60lbs from my goal wt and I KNOW that I will need reconstructive surgery just from the skin I already have a hanging! I try to ignore it as much as possible because it is a downer. I will have surgery tho... I deserve it and so do you'll get there you are an inspiration. I hope you know that you are loved by many here! Thank you for being so honest.

[tbear2739]

You look great but I got you beat on the underarms

and probably the legs

ever see those movie's where they reconstruct the persons face due to a car accident

well I wish I have naked pictures of myself from 25 years ago, cuz I think they are going to have to reconstruct my body

LOL

Hugs

[TheHiddent]

wow your amazing, inspiring in your honesty. If you do it , do it for yourself your the only one worth doing it for. We will love you what ever you do.

[KLUNME]

Unless you find a way to feel good about yourself, you never will feel beautiful and sexy. I wish I could tell you how to do that!

I do want to say, that when I looked at the pictures of you a the Vegas meet and greet, all I could hink about was what a beautful, radiant smile you have. My god girl, you light up the place around you.

I am only 5+ months post surgery and have not lost nearly as much weight as you, nor will I probably. I am also a few weeks shy of 60 and married.

[KLUNME]

I know it's not the same for me as for you. I'm just so happy to be healthier and wearing smaller sizes. I am estatic. I wasted my youth feeling fat and now I recognize that at 113 and 5'7'" I was not f at, but my friend was a tiny thing who got weighed in gym class ahead of me and she always weighted 10-15 less than me. I wasted my youth feeling fat. I'm probably not making myself clear,just don't waste your youth worrying about this. Plastics or not, you are beautiful!!!

[LadyIgrayne]

I am sending you a big virtual hug, Sarah. Thank you so much for sharing your pain. I am just starting the journey but can see that I will have to pay for all my years of abusing my body. Not looking forward to PS but am saving my pennies for it. I wish you all the best.

[mjteller]

ok, I am going to make a bare-all video! I know I am not supposed to compare myself to others-you started more than me and now lighter that me so you have come further than I have, however, I BET mine is worse...you'll see. I try to take comfort in that I am not alone and that I will be fixed soon and those who don't like it-too bad. Most peeps just complement me, they don't know. It's hard to give advice cuz we see it all the time, not much u can say to help only know ur not alone! <3 U

[BandClass101]

I was a sz 5 , 130 lbs when i met my husband 17 yrs ago. He has only seen me naked maybe 3 times ! I have always had an issue even at my smallest and with my body parts in the right place ! GIRL THERE IS A WAY AROUND EVERYTHING ! I find semi shear long sleeve bitton down shirts to wear to bed and hell sometimes i dont even take my pants all the way down if im in that mood :0) After 17 yrs sex is still amazing and he still thinks im hot. Men are easily distracted !!! Work it girl !

[ChunkyDunk2skinnydip]

Hey Sarah,

I thought about your videos alot and i'm only 2 and a half weeks post op and i am so happy i'm lossing but i'm starting to see the skin change and when your heavy you don't like whats under the close then when your skinny or "smaller" you dont like it either. its a battle you cant win no matter what its not enough because there will always be part of you that has loss skin. its whats inside that counts and you are beautiful even if you don't see it.

mandi

[RNYSteph]

Love you Sarah hunny! Hang in there, i'm mostly bothered by my arms and saggy boobs LOL really quite sad about the boobs. Just know you are not alone... Big hugs from Cali!! You are BEAUTIFUL!! Wish i looked that good fresh out of the shower lol!

[gastricRose]

oh my sweet sarah I know !! I so can relate sweetie and my huge legs and hips and booty all still are here with me I have my tummy now ok but you saw!! me I am all hanging legs and booty girl!!! and yet we have to find someway to feel good about what we have cause it is so real!! like you said...I see how everyone is doing resp. video so I did not make you one sweetie but I do love you and stand next side sweetie...love ya hugs xxoo love rosemary

[puhlease1]

Sarah, thanks so much for airing this. I feel the same way about my excess skin, the more I lose. (by the way, your Vegas pics are BEAUTIFUL!). I don't care that I can't afford it, I'm going to find a way to get plastics so I can like my OWN body, as well as feeling comfortable with someone else seeing it in full. Hang in there, sweetie. And document ANY rashes or anything that skin or breasts give you - insurance might cover if you get a rash.

[QuietHiddenMe]

Kudos for your raw honesty, Sarah. I'm glad you spoke up...so are the others in the community. You did a real service to others by sharing your deepest feelings.

You've had such success with your weight loss. I hope you don't diminish that because of the inevitable outcome to your success..

I'm sure dating is hard, but you're right that you have to be happy yourself before concerning yourself with how someone else feels.

keep strong and proud. you're a beautiful winner! you're doing it!

Aviva

[meltingmamamelted]

I feel this ENTIRELY. Hang in there. :)

[shelskharma]

Sarah- I am so sorry that you are going through this. You are so brave to put yourself out there like this. Remeber, you are a beautiful girl, and an inspiration to so many. Good things are coming- you will get through this, and someday look back on your battle scars and remember how far you have come.

xoxo

~Shel

[sky8725]

Sounds like you are almost the perfect plastic surgery candidate. You're young, beautiful and have your whole life ahead of you. Whether insurance covers it or not, it can be a goal of yours to work/save/take out a loan and have PS. Especially, if you continue feeling the way you do. Just as you conquered the excess weight, you will find a way to come to terms w/ the excess skin:-)

[OurDoOver2]

Oh Sarah, what an honest, raw moment you have shared with us. I am a nurse and I've never seen a naked body on an OLD woman that looks as OLD as mine...but, I'd rather have skin rolls as fat rolls. I know exactly how you feel. I'm fortunate that Larry has skin too! Larry will tell you that a man that wants you, will want YOU, loose skin and all....honest...HUGS!!!!

[IamKris411]

Hi Sarah,

I don't have any advice... as I am only 2 weeks post-op (I still have yet to deal with all that in the future)... but I just want to tell you that I think you are a really beautiful girl, and I think it will happen for you if you want it, even if it takes a little while. Lots of love, hugs!! -Kristen

[freshorangina]

I love you Sarah and I completely understand. I too have the same island of free floating skin when I take a bath. I know I am going to get plastics done, and have been thinking of getting it done sooner than later. I am terrified of dating and have pretty much been avoiding it altogether. My skirted bathing suit bottom does not even begin to cover it, the saggy butt and wrinkly skin going all the way down to my knees. I try to keep a sense of humor about it, but it can be really hard sometimes.

[vkhele]

I totally understand and empathize! I want plastics so badly and will somehow come up with the money even if it:s doing surgery in stages. Can't really give u any advice. I deal with it just by saying all this skin is still better than where I came from and I will somehow eventually get it removed. I also understand about getting intimate...absolutely horrified about it but no worries for me yet since i cant even get a man!! LOL well i hope that at least put a smile on ur face :)

[nanananabhappy]

I wish I could give you a hug, Sarah. I know how you feel. I think i feel the same way as you do. I have made myself come to a conclusion that I will just not have anyone in my life. Im to worried to get involved. You on the other hand are young and beautiful. You have your whole life ahead of you. You are so brave for putting it out there. i hope that you reach a level of tranquility and that you find a solution that works for you.

[AmySDMOM]

I want all mine gone !!!! I am gald you talked about this.

[fudds64]

Sarah ur a brave soul who has did a complete 180 degree change for bettering ur health..& throughout it all u were beautiful before u had ur surgery & ur radiant after, w/ or w/o excuss skin..U'll find out the true answer in the end that will best suit u & ur well being w/ whatever u choose to do. U know we all be behind u as ur support system..Girl smile & be proud of what u've succeeded w/ & say I did it!! BRAVO I applaud u from the highest mountain.. Take care keep safe lots of love

[anewme1983]

Thanks for this Sarah - I think you are beautiful!

[seemego2150]

Hey Sarah - thanks for posting this. I think it was good for us and I am hoping it helped you just by talking about it. I really can't give any advice since I am just getting to the point that Im getting excess but I do know there is hope. Maybe you can find a way to get the surgery. I want to tell you what most have - that you should not worry about it-you are who you are - I know that you know that but it's still so tough being in your shoes. BUT It will all work out for you.. chip up :)

[karasjourney]

Bless your heart! I can only imagine what you are going through since I am still in pre-op! Thank you for being so honest & real with us. I know I will probably have to deal with this also since I am up to 320 lbs. It is definitely not true that weight loss surgery is an "easy" way out. Praying for you & hoping that there will be a financial door opened for you to get your surgery.

[AwesomeForever]

Sarah, my boobs hit the floor before my feet in the morning.

I am sure the surgeon would make a brand new you. It will be costly but you will feel so much better about your body.

My sister has a full length mirror on her bathtub sliding glass door. It was awful seeing all my wrinkles.

Linda

[supaflyflip]

Thanks for being brave and baring your soul to us, Sarah...

your feelings are totally valid and for anyone who's going to have any kind of bariatric surgery has to deal with this issue eventually...

IMO, if you're not content with your outside appearance, then pursue the plastic surgery. I know you'll have a major boost in your self-confidence, esp. when you're happy with ALL of you...after all, you're so very beautiful already =) We love you, Sarah...

[youwantgeekEncore]

Oh, and you're great and amazing and I heart you. I'm going to try to do a vid response for ya later!

[youwantgeekEncore]

SARAH! It's so sad to see you so down. I have a TON of excess skin and let me tell you how I get past the uglyness of it all. First, I remember that skin used to be stuffed full of FAT. Secondly, I am somber--I think about it, that I've done so much damage to my body that I'm literally deformed, and then I think about how much courage it took to CHANGE who I was, even if it meant ALL THIS SKIN. Also, excess skin is really, really soft and babies think it's totally amazing to play with. :D

[123dietdrpepper]

U must pm greenfrog775. She has mentioned that burn centers would love to have ur skin & often are willing to pay for ur surgeries for that skin. So write to her it may be the answer to ur fiancial concerns.

Honey, I want u to know u r beautiful & anyone would be lucky to have u for who u r -- with all that said, I do understand how & why the excess skin bothers u. I will be lifting this up in prayer as I so can't wait to see your final transformation as you ARE my INSPIRATION!

[JustSlcinoz]

hugs! That's how I feel... "if I don't like it, how would anyone else find me sexually attractive or beautiful...." I am so with you!!!!!!! sigh....

Shannon

[skymoon1982]

cont... and I had serious stretch marks with loose skin on my tummy. It was horrible to take showers and I felt completely uncomfortable getting naked in front of anyone. My best advice and suggestion is to proceed w/ the plastic surgery, im not sure if you kept up w/ my vids but I had the works done back in Jan and so far, so good. No regrets at all and I finally got the body I always dreamed about!

[skymoon1982]

Sarah, I understand what ur going through. I know how u feel. Again, this is why I had plastic surgery in Jan. I saw Dr. Katzen too in Las Vegas just to check my body after surgery and he sounds like a great surgeon. I am confident that he can get your insurance to approve you for plastic surgery. The reality of it is that u would never be happy w/ your body unless u get the extra skin off. I couldn't like at myself anymore after I lost the weight. My breast were deflated & I had no ass

[jillmbooth]

Girl....my arms look like curtains. I wish I had your arms. You have done fantastic and shouldn't be so down on yourself about the skin. You are so much more than what shows on the outside and anyone who gets to know you will say the same thing....and if they don't, &*%$ em!

[faithkp]

You know I LUVS YA Miss Sarah :) Look at it THIS way. Every bit of that hanging skin represents the work and determination you had to RID YOURSELF of the fat and pain that was underneath it. This is another phase of your transformation. You are looking back and seeing the remnants of that hard work. It's painful. BUT, there is hope, and it can be fixed! Just like the weight problem was fixed :) I <3 My Skinny AZZ Twin!!