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  • My sisters now ex fiance tried to kill her on valentines day. She is completely finished with him. He strangled and beat her until I stopped him, but she defended herself the best way she could. She almost killed him back defending herself. She could've been arrested and ruined her plans for life.

    Thank you so much for standing up publicly. She loves this song too btw...but she cried a lot then. Not now.

  • @20nimajneb I am so glad to hear that she is done with him now. I pray she is able to stay strong. i know it's not an easy thing to do. Thank you for listening to my song and for commenting. Tell your sister to stay strong and plan her future.

  • i too watched my mum go through this until i was 16 thats the day i stood up to him and he never once again tried to hit or abuse my mother again , now i have my own family i will never ever raise a hand to anyone of them , i would,nt wish anyone to go through what i did ty again sharen, xx

  • @scotsboy010 You were very brave. I used to do the same thing for my mother. Sadly, I don't remember her ever doing it for me. Then I married a man even more abusive than my father was. Happy to say that I finally, finally have the life I always longed to have, one where I am very protective of the peace I worked so hard to create.

  • Thank you for the disclaimer at the end that acknowledges that domestic violence happens to both men and women. I would be thrilled if you did a song that spoke to that all the way through. Both men and women abuse in equal numbers. Both men and women are victims in equal numbers. I could use some help getting the word out. And you are very good! I love this song. teri @ stop abusive and violent environments (SAVE) saveservices(dot)org

  • @teristoddard Hi, thank you for listening and commenting. I am in the process of writing another song about domestic violence, but it's really just from my own personal experience dealing with it, which happens to be what happened between my ex-husband and I. I am in complete agreement with you that this form of bullying and abuse happens across all lines and boundaries. I will email you.

  • @sharenwendy Great! tstoddard@saveservices(dot)org

  • I know he would have beaten me had I stayed as he had his fists up in my face one night and he was completely sober. I use to blame the booze for his behavior and here I was seeing him at his worst and hes sober. I really thought I loved this guy and I believed after leaving and returning many times it would be different ... all it got was worst. I am trying to cope, its only been 48 hours since I filed the police report. I am scared still but safe and no one will ever get the chance again. TY

  • @sharenwendy Thank you for this song. I recently left my abuser 3 months ago and he came back right before the new year. Promised me the moon and the stars and everything in between and then told me he has a girlfriend and wanted me as his " mistress". The next day I received deathe threats and finally got wise and called the cops. I was never allowed to cry when I was with EX. I was not allowed to feel anything and would be abusered

  • wow .. your teh truth !!!

  • @TheRey4you thank you so much!

  • @sharenwendy your such a strong lady im like 18 years old I've had abusive relationships since I was 14 it just kinda becomes normality... But it shouldn't... My ex physically, mentally and emotionally abused me and at the time I didn't realise cause I was so young but this time im more wise. I think that I need to forget men for a while after this cause i dont think I could take much more. I've kicked him out before but then came the tears and "it will be different" and I was back to square one

  • @sharenwendy I understand what your saying... This isn't my first so it's a lil bit easier cause I dont blame myself or anything. I've got border line personality disorder and a lot of the symptoms are similar... My mum went through this with my dad.... I think I will be lol eventually it's just tryna find a way to keep my life stable without him aswell cause he keeps my house running its all complicated... I will come through at the other end.We all will. We are women and no one can take that x

  • @almostshellie I lost everything I had, even my kids disowned me for a few years but I built a new life and the best part is, that I am not afraid anymore. I live a very peaceful life, the one I'd dreamed about for 50 years. Like you, my dad was abusive too so I'd never known anyother life. There is no way to disconnect from the abuse and not have it be traumatic. It's the price you pay for peace and freedom, but the dust settles & you smile again living in peace and freedom.

  • @sharenwendy thank you im nearly crying I read ur website ur such a strong lady x I rap and I wrote a song called foolin myself about it aswel... Im tryna get out of my situation and it's never easy x I have so much respect for u and may your son rest in peace x x thank you x

  • @almostshellie Don't waste another minute in an abusive relationship. I stayed for many decades, always with the hope that the abuse would somehow just "disappear". We had kids and I made a life built around hope, but it never got better, it was a never-ending roller coaster ride. Of course, the hope was constantly kept alive by the good times we had in between the "not so good times." I am still having much post traumatic stress related problems from knowing this man.

  • Omg this makes me feel im not alone x thank you so much x

  • @almostshellie You are definitely not alone. Take good care of yourself....please.

  • beautiful heartfelt lyrics, thankyou !

  • @kimp146 thank you so much for listening and for commenting!

  • Love this song and it so speaks to one of the evils & diseases we experience all over. Great lyrics, instrumentals and your stellar vocals top off your song, "I Won't Cry".  Thanks for this much needed song!

  • @johnbjr1 Hi John, thank you so much!

  • You are amazing! I am so glad I found this - you obviously spoke/sang the words I had in my head - but your voice - you are very talented - sing more? <3 xoxox

  • @uplifter1000 Hi, and thank u for listening to my song. I'm so glad you found my song and that it gives you a voice for your own feelings and emotions. I am out of the abuse finally, and I hope you either are or are getting ready. Life is not meant to be lived in shame and fear, but rather peace and freedom.

  • @uplifter1000 yes, I have more songs and two cds. you can find more information about my music on my website: sharenwendy

  • Wow, Powerful song! I hope I grow to be a good man I don't want my lover to feel pain especially from my actions.

  • @AGDCrompton Thank u. and the fact that you are aware of what it means to be a good man is a very good sign that you are one. Take care!

  • Nice to meet you. By reading about you i see we both have one thing in common. I was also a victim of domestic abuse.My channel is new and dedicated to women who are undergoing abuse.

    On our channel we have uploaded videos from interviews we have done with women and will continue to keep on uploading more, skys the limit. Our website is currently under construction but should be up within the week. please subscribe and comment on our channel. xxx

  • Fantastic song. Not only beautiful, but beautifully sung. Thank you. I'm playing this for the actors in my play so they can be better exposed to domestic violence (which the play is about.)

  • Thank you for this song. I am a Survivor of Doemstic Violence/Sexual Assault, and in July my Fiance came home so high/drunk he turned his rage onme. He beat, strangled & attempted to rape me.I called the police & he was aressted that am. We go to court the end of Nov. And I am going to be goin to get my things b4 that- with an ARMED Officer friend & the movers. I loved him for 5yrs and wished he would change- he did for the worse. I would like to thank you for the song.....

  • @TheJellyfishlion Hi, I've been there. My advice to u is to follow through with your plan. It never gets better. Get out while you can,move on & make a life for yourself where you're not abused, disrespected, & devalued. Only you can make that kind of life for yourself. It is not going to come from a knight in shining armor or from a rich family member so be ready for the tough part of pulling yourself out of the depths of low self-esteem. There is a beautiful rainbow waiting for u though.

  • @sharenwendy Thank you for your kind words of support.. I am sorry for what you have gone thru. However, it makes me REALLY see that if YOU can get thru it like u have, so can I & others..... THANK YOU. Are you on Facebook??

  • @TheJellyfishlion I sure am, but I have more than one page because one is at the 5000 friend limit. Just look me up, you'll see my musician page will come up and a couple of others pages. Try them all. I know you can "like" the musician page, but try sending a request to the other pages. Send me a little message with the request telling who you are, too.

  • You have a beautiful voice

  • @dwalkerus thank you so much and thank u for listening to my song. i have two cds and lots of other music as well. i hope you will check out my other songs, too.

  • 1 womb 1 heart 1 love 1 legacy 1 child 1 justice 1 reparation 1 table 1 turn 1 girl 1 woman

  • im soo srry i grew up in this also n now have been gettin it from my husband here n there he said 3 dif times it wont happen again ....idk wat to do any suggegtions

  • @ikentiff Hi, ty for writing. Although I really can't advise u, I can speak from my own experience that it never gets better. I tried everything (counseling, restraining orders, me leaving, making him leave) it ALWAYS went back to the same problem. I think it might be a dynamic within the relationship that makes it impossible for it to be any different. You owe it to yourself to create a happy life &u probably will never find that w/him. I tried for 34 years! Don't be like me.

  • @ikentiff I hope you are doing well. I know you commented a month ago, but I believe it's never to late to offer a helpful (hopefully) word. I agree with sharenwendy. Abuse doesn't get better more than just temporarily. I was in an abusive relationship for 4 1/2 years before I finally broke free of it. If you can talk freely sometime when he's not around call 800-799-7233. They won't do anything you don't want them to and they are a friendly voice to talk to.

  • that was awesome i too have lived with domestic violence and lost my baby because if it ( watch her video here on youtube under her name Adriana Michele) thank you for a wonderful video

  • This story tells the story of my life.

    First my dad abused be until I was 21, my ex husband's abuse overlapped that by 4 years plus another 5 after I got my dad out of my life.

    Most recently it was boyfriend who kidnapped, beat me and terrorized me.

    I thought I was the only one who continuously put myself in these situations. No more, I will never be a victim again.

  • @skatermom808 Hi, I know exactly what you mean. I have finally broken my own cycle when I divorced my husband of 30 years and my dad died in 2008. I am finally free and vow to myself never to be abused again. It's tough though because abusers usually have an extremely charming side that's not easy to resist. We just have to be strong and always pay attention to the red flags when we meet someone new. There are always red flags to tip us off to the "real" person we are getting to know.

  • this song is beautiful. domestic violence has been a "normal" part of our family for as long as i remember. even though i said i never would, i married a man who almost killed me. i don't wan't anyones simpathy, only suggestions of how to permanently escape when your family interferes and helps your abuser?

  • @0801carolann Hi Carolann...I was 14 when I met my ex and then I stayed with him until I was 46. He established strong ties with my family and it made it really hard for me to leave. They sided with him sometimes too. It used to make me think I was crazy. I'm not, my ex just knows how to manipulate situations. I felt like I lost my kids, my own family and my marriage when I finally left him. But, now, five years later I can honestly say that everything has turned around for me.

  • ive been there aswell, i put up with it for 2 years, i bet it wasnt easy writing this song, its not even easy for me to talk about it. thankyou for posting this video, its made me realise there are more people out there that have gone through it and i can get help x

  • @bdiddybeth I'm glad my song helps you and other people to that they are not the only ones out there. It happens to tons and tons of women, but domestic violence also happens to men and children. It's just so sad and hurtful when someone bullies and belittles someone else. The best way to overcome all of this is to get out of course, but then, make your life successful. Rise above all the nastiness and do good in your life and be a good example to the people around you.

  • This song is beautiful & amazing. I grew up with an abusive father and sadly ended up with an abusive husband. Thankfully I got away but not ever victim is as lucky and it hurts. Love this vid.

  • @BlaydenHalifax

    Hi, thank you for sharing about yourself. We are both lucky and yes, it does hurt and probably will forever.

  • O' wow you are gooooood ! SUBSCRIBED♥ 

  • WOW I know how you felt, crying even makes it worse i know by experience ty for making this and you studio is cool

  • @waterfallphantic39 I'm glad I made the song and the video too. I guess thoe who have been there will totally understand the deep emotional turmoil that is created when domestic violence occurs. I'm still trying to find my place of peace, but the memories and the fear are always just an incident away, like a flashback.

  • @sharenwendy

    yea i know the feeling, i have been out of the violence for 9 years, living with friends ai call mom and dad. people tell me, oh it happened long ago. sadly i think we will always have the memories and flashbacks. what i have learned is journal helps then i see a pattern what caused it. but i do not think we will ever get over it. it gets better yes, but to not have flashback or PTSD or memories will be with us whole life, i learned live one day at a time.

  • great song...

  • @jsukmarie thank you. believe me, it wasn't an easy song to write, sing, or publish, but it's done and atleast I've shared my truth. hopefully, it will give others the courage to speak theirs.

  • Great job. I pray you keep singing and say encourage in the mist of all of your situations past or present. God is able t o give us unconditional love and to heal all. You and your family are in my prayers. God Bless!!!!!!!!

  • @Antwanette0386 thank you so much for the blessings. 

  • You have touched me. I relate to this on different levels. Thank you.

  • @mariecduran

    I understand. It is complex....and not easy to describe or explain. The best I could do was try and put it all in a song. Still hard to talk about, though.

  • Thank you Sharen. Your song is helpful and means more to me then you will ever know.

  • @jwindsblacklist

    I am so glad my song is helpful for you. It isn't easy walking this road and it's even harder to walk away......but, hang in there and keep your head held high. Never forget that YOU were born to walk your full potential...and when the time is right to walk your true path....you will know. Trust me.

  • Lovely voice.... and your studio makes mine seem a little small ;)

  • My name is also Wendy, I came upon your song through O.p.Musichouse..excellent!

  • Suzanne, thank you so much for creating this opportunity! I read your website so I know you understand.

  • You share my purpose.

    Please see opmusichouse's website. I also write to educate about domestic violence and I WELCOME you to perform in our "EXPOSURE Concert, Because Love Shouldn't Hurt," with open arms!

    Great job, Congratulations on getting out. It took me 22 years so I understand!

  • Thank you, Corynne. If my song can help make a difference in just one person's life, then it will have all been worth the amount of flack I'm getting in my own life from making this song public. It's not easy, but not being able to share my truth is harder. Please share the song with as many people as you can. Peace to us all and God bless

  • Thank you for sharing you story through this song, it is very inspiring. i have volunteered many times at the the Domestic shelter in my area and i really think when others hear your story they will be inspired and be encouraged to make a stand. thank you again and God Bless

  • Thank you, Lily. for your encouraging words. I hope my song can help us all be strong.  We all surely need all the inspiration we can get.

  • Thank you Sharen, for sharing your story through your song...your voice is beautiful and you are an inspiration!

  • Thank you, Bea. I would be honored if it was used in such a way. For me, just to think that my song could help support and encourage people about this subject is a wonderful thought.

  • I think this would be a great song to use for many fundraisers and DV awareness events. Brava, SharenWendy! Your voice is beautiful.

  • Hi Wendy,

    Nice job...always speak out...because - "Silence is the Abuser's Friend".

    take care, Mike

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