Transitioning is a life time process. You have found out who you are mentally. Now you will spend years and years transitioning into the understanding of your spiritual self.
Trans, gay, straight, bi... it doesnt matter, relationships are hard work. I think you are putting to much pressure on yourself, and others to meet some "fairy tale" ideal that you have in your head of a relationship, and i hate to be the one to rain on your parade but, sweetheart, its never going to happen. Try stepping back and truly enjoying a person, then see where it goes, dont try to put life in a box, because it always has a way of breaking out and F'ing up all your shit LOL.
@themostwanted4life This is easy,,leave her alone,,that was easy. She is living the reality of being TS and after the euphoric stage of self discovery. It is a wake up call that many of us go through. She is spot on in her evaluation of her position in life. This video needs to be heard by anyone considering transition. Live is hard for trans folk and those that say its not are hiding behind a lie. At some point your unigue past comes out to rear its ugly head. I think she is a confident woman
Just some words of encouragement. You will find someone who likes you for who you are. And it is unfortunate what people are saying about you behind your back. Nothing hurts more than being the victim of gossiping.
By the way I'm a 35 year old man and if I wasn't married I would be very willing to start a relationship with you. Just by watching your videos; your the kind of woman that I wish I would have waited for.
First off, WOW!!! You are beautiful. Second I'm thinking that guys are not seeing you as transgender so their treating you as most guys treat beautiful women, as a girl that can be discarded when things get to complicated and if they know that you've had the change they think they can handle it cause your beauty is so much but in the end they can't get passed the fact that you we're born a man. On the other hand if you know exactly what kind of person you want to be with you will find him.
I'm glad you're sharing..most girls think they can have the world just by getting surgeries when it's not the case. thanks for being honest. and reality is that we have to show we don't give a fuck just to get respect. even if you like a person you have to let them know life wont be so hard if they not a part of it you'll be fine and best thing is knowing you've accomplished so much with out anyones help. all you need is a man and honestly u have you're entire life to find one. un beso muah <3
Hey babe. Sorry about how it's all effected you. I think there is more spinning in the guy you like's head than not dating you because you're trans. I'm a straight guy, and i would have zero problem with it. Maybe other personality flaws or maybe he thinks twice about being together becos u put all this stuff on the net. Who knows? ur beautiful, but you're the first to admit u have issues to work thru & they project to others perception of u. I think ur awesome luv ur videos hope it gets budder.
Hey I've been watching your vids for awhile and I think that your environment isn't helping the situation. The world is a vast place and I think once youve got the school and that environment out of the way you will see a positive change. You deserve to hope for more and you will get it if you keep looking.
Hi! Girl Sorry to hear of your breakup life sucks sometimes.Dating & heartbreak are things you can`t avoid.I know personaly how much it hurts and stings.All you can do is learn from it.Had 4 loves in my life they screwd me bad but i still love them. Letting go has to be the hardess thing to do.My advice is be patient & let your georgeous looks do the talking for you.Guys judge a book by it`s cover so (if they don`t ask don`t tell for gods sake!).Let them come to you all will be fine.Hugg&kiss.
Im kind of in the same situation...i really like my best friend (of 18 years) and i think he feels the same way, but there is always this kind of 'thing' in the way of us being more than friends...i dont know what to do...and since i've told him about my 'situation' (transition) he hasnt talked to me about it, but at least he hasnt changed the way he acts around me, apart from being a bit quieter than normal...
So, you're a contradiction.Our inner lives are a series of realizing contradictions
Ours & others, & those who don't do not grow & mature
Mature isn't "old" but having greater perspective on self, others, & life experiences - which u gain with each realization of contradiction. Like hormones: a matter of time.
Dreaming of 'perfect' life, relationship, etc., is like tying your shoes together.
Oh sweetie, all women hope beautiful , confident and without a care. School is a fake reality.It is not real.After you are out of school everything changes.
Moonfire , babygirl, it doesnt go away...that feeling of inadequate, but it gets easier ..I promise, mostly you will stop caring eventually! It gets better !
I transition in my teens completely and did think my problems were solved after the big snip....but it just starts over....anothe learning process, but I can promise you that 'Mr.Right " will come along and things always get better.
Either transitioned or not transitioned, you (we) are trans regardless. It looks like you must be growing through a rough spot emotionally, but that is not necessarily the result of your transition.
On one level, I'm on the opposite side of the fence, having not transitioned (as of yet), but having this overwhelming desire every day to be a woman, and feeling like I've missed out.
I've completely avoided intimacy because of my own physical self-loathing...
you will have your day girl. hang in there you have lots to offer never forget that. just cause your trans never under sell your self. be proud of who you are. school is just the blink of an eye of your life. most all people have relationship problems. if you love someone let them free if they dont come back. give your love to someone who can give it back dear. best of wishes
Don't give up as long as you keep trying your wining, but if you give up then you'll have more problems. If you think about it there are alot of so called normal people that cant find relationships for various reasons.
@MsSaneJane I'm trying not to give up, but I think this was the one rejection that has triggered me building walls. I feel like I can't let anyone in for a long time just because I don't want to get hurt anymore.
@moonfire1777 It's normal just take your time, I can totally relate to you. I don't wanna sound patronizing like so many up here, but believe me there are alot of people that would love to have you as a girlfriend or maybe more.
@moonfire1777 You don't need to build walls but you do need to know when to cut your losses. A guy does not need 6 months to decide whether he wants to get busy with a girl, even with you being trans. If he needs a week to decide...thats reasonable.
I don't want to sound harsh but when it comes to dating, pre or post op will limit you, big time! A lot of time people don't disappoint us, they just disappointed our expectation. See this experience as a personal growth that you can learn, cherish, and apply to other areas of your life that need more of your own self-love and self-acceptance. Rejection sucks but perhaps as you can see it as you're being protected from something that's not healthy for you. Free your mind and let go.
@SeekGod82 Trans or genetic, most women are craving love, affection and everything in between from a man. Something that they should have for themselves first.
But I think moonfire does have love for herself,etc. Yet when she expresses love, caring and affection for a man she's rejected (although, as you say, rejection can serve to protect you) and, of course, that hurts.
@gregory2953 I'm sure she does but we can all learn to love ourselves a little bit more and apply the love and affection toward those who appreciate it.
@SeekGod82 True, true. That's the thing people need to realize. Being trans is limiting, but it's also empowering. I might be facing another huge disappointment, but I'll use it as a means of strength. I have no other choice.
I feel sad for you.Nothing ever seemes to work out for you.My advice is dont give up because time changes all bad things to good things.You strike me as a very strong person.I know you will overcome this hard time just like the others.Good times are coming you have your whole life ahead of you.There are so many things to come it just takes time.You are beutiful. Some day the right guy will come and your whole world will change.I just hope you dont change because I like you just the way you are.
@nelly2hot1 Thanks. I think I'm going to focus on myself for awhile, which means I won't be opening up to another guy in a really long time. Relationships are overrated anyway. :(
I do like your videos they are very honest. they even give me a clearer view of transitioning I plan to do it myself someday but due to current health and finaincail problems I cannpt at the moment. If I were you i wouldn't worry about the ppl who are talking bad about you behind your back they aren't worth your time or effort. and as for love well I can't really realate I have decided not to be interested in anyone and I learned to turn off my feelings for ppl in a romantic way hope that hlps
You know what where there is a negative there will always be a positive. Life is a struggle no matter but it gets betters. Cheer up your to pretty to be sad. Oh when you see him again kick him in the balls :)
Its often difficult to stay where people know your history. I am sure that you will find a number of videos from girls who have moved and found life has improved dramaticly.
No one questions who you are because you ARE yourself... your not hiding -- your living the life that you were meant to be. Yes it can be scary to move but it can have great rewards.
If you don't like what is happening - then YOU have to change it.
also not everyone will accept anyone. and don't pressure yourself to be accepted by as many as possible. pressure yourself to release those pressures. to do what you have to do. but not because you need to. think about that for yourself and figure out what it means for you :)
no life is perfect. all you can do is accept reality. which you are very close to achieving :). take it slow. life isn't perfect. and i'm happy to see you arne't giving up ^_^. introspection is good :)
I think we often focus on the positive and purposefully avoid the negative aspects of things. Doing so can motivate us to do some extraordinary things. But it can also create unrealistic expectations. I think unrealistic expectations are the root of all unhappiness. If we're really honest with ourselves about what we desire, why we desire it, and set realistic expectations based on a logical outcome, we can achieve everything we desire and reduce disappointment.
@EmoGossipGirl Thanks chica. I think I just need to get my head together today. I'll be fine. I've made it this far, and I won't let another disappointment bring me down. Thanks so much though.
Transitioning is a life time process. You have found out who you are mentally. Now you will spend years and years transitioning into the understanding of your spiritual self.
onepointsixone 1 month ago
Trans, gay, straight, bi... it doesnt matter, relationships are hard work. I think you are putting to much pressure on yourself, and others to meet some "fairy tale" ideal that you have in your head of a relationship, and i hate to be the one to rain on your parade but, sweetheart, its never going to happen. Try stepping back and truly enjoying a person, then see where it goes, dont try to put life in a box, because it always has a way of breaking out and F'ing up all your shit LOL.
TheButtur123 5 months ago
OMG! You are so HOT! I am str8 but you are are beautifull! Serbia loves you
babo6980 6 months ago
"Could have potentially lost my life"...WTF?
Did you feel in danger?
BTW, you will find love, because you're worthy of love.
lucisferre257 7 months ago
♥ U☺
TheTRANNYHUNTER1 8 months ago
sooooooo much drama, how can you sleep at night?? each video is more depressing than the last one
themostwanted4life 8 months ago
@themostwanted4life FYI: This comment inspired my subsequent video hahaha
moonfire1777 8 months ago
@moonfire1777 I'm glad I helped to inspire you
themostwanted4life 8 months ago
@themostwanted4life This is easy,,leave her alone,,that was easy. She is living the reality of being TS and after the euphoric stage of self discovery. It is a wake up call that many of us go through. She is spot on in her evaluation of her position in life. This video needs to be heard by anyone considering transition. Live is hard for trans folk and those that say its not are hiding behind a lie. At some point your unigue past comes out to rear its ugly head. I think she is a confident woman
Jenna08848 7 months ago
Just some words of encouragement. You will find someone who likes you for who you are. And it is unfortunate what people are saying about you behind your back. Nothing hurts more than being the victim of gossiping.
spot16us 8 months ago
What I meant to say by all that was if I can look past your past then I'm sure another man can too
truckn33 8 months ago
By the way I'm a 35 year old man and if I wasn't married I would be very willing to start a relationship with you. Just by watching your videos; your the kind of woman that I wish I would have waited for.
truckn33 8 months ago
First off, WOW!!! You are beautiful. Second I'm thinking that guys are not seeing you as transgender so their treating you as most guys treat beautiful women, as a girl that can be discarded when things get to complicated and if they know that you've had the change they think they can handle it cause your beauty is so much but in the end they can't get passed the fact that you we're born a man. On the other hand if you know exactly what kind of person you want to be with you will find him.
truckn33 8 months ago
Take a day at a time and don't go out looking for love.. It will find you..
metaverse3 8 months ago
I'm glad you're sharing..most girls think they can have the world just by getting surgeries when it's not the case. thanks for being honest. and reality is that we have to show we don't give a fuck just to get respect. even if you like a person you have to let them know life wont be so hard if they not a part of it you'll be fine and best thing is knowing you've accomplished so much with out anyones help. all you need is a man and honestly u have you're entire life to find one. un beso muah <3
conceited1380 8 months ago
Hey babe. Sorry about how it's all effected you. I think there is more spinning in the guy you like's head than not dating you because you're trans. I'm a straight guy, and i would have zero problem with it. Maybe other personality flaws or maybe he thinks twice about being together becos u put all this stuff on the net. Who knows? ur beautiful, but you're the first to admit u have issues to work thru & they project to others perception of u. I think ur awesome luv ur videos hope it gets budder.
primepua 8 months ago
Hey I've been watching your vids for awhile and I think that your environment isn't helping the situation. The world is a vast place and I think once youve got the school and that environment out of the way you will see a positive change. You deserve to hope for more and you will get it if you keep looking.
4NDR414D 8 months ago
I accept you, Moonfire1777. I think your great and you will do fine from here on out. :)
TheElkton 8 months ago
What's your ethnicity?
rrcczz 8 months ago
*hugs*
csoki631 8 months ago
Hi! Girl Sorry to hear of your breakup life sucks sometimes.Dating & heartbreak are things you can`t avoid.I know personaly how much it hurts and stings.All you can do is learn from it.Had 4 loves in my life they screwd me bad but i still love them. Letting go has to be the hardess thing to do.My advice is be patient & let your georgeous looks do the talking for you.Guys judge a book by it`s cover so (if they don`t ask don`t tell for gods sake!).Let them come to you all will be fine.Hugg&kiss.
underloved1 8 months ago
Im kind of in the same situation...i really like my best friend (of 18 years) and i think he feels the same way, but there is always this kind of 'thing' in the way of us being more than friends...i dont know what to do...and since i've told him about my 'situation' (transition) he hasnt talked to me about it, but at least he hasnt changed the way he acts around me, apart from being a bit quieter than normal...
the0siren0of0night 8 months ago
So, you're a contradiction.Our inner lives are a series of realizing contradictions
Ours & others, & those who don't do not grow & mature
Mature isn't "old" but having greater perspective on self, others, & life experiences - which u gain with each realization of contradiction. Like hormones: a matter of time.
Dreaming of 'perfect' life, relationship, etc., is like tying your shoes together.
SRS, reputation, relationship, nothing exterior = happiness.
Know: there's hope in every contradiction.
jenniferlacex 8 months ago
You are an example to follow !
Valytg 8 months ago
Did you already get surgery girl?
Hang in there. Feel better.
love5288 8 months ago
Oh sweetie, all women hope beautiful , confident and without a care. School is a fake reality.It is not real.After you are out of school everything changes.
darliegoddess 8 months ago
The nerd glasses are so sexy btw :)
voss0749 8 months ago
Moonfire , babygirl, it doesnt go away...that feeling of inadequate, but it gets easier ..I promise, mostly you will stop caring eventually! It gets better !
I transition in my teens completely and did think my problems were solved after the big snip....but it just starts over....anothe learning process, but I can promise you that 'Mr.Right " will come along and things always get better.
alongezonga 8 months ago 2
@alongezonga Thanks love.
moonfire1777 8 months ago
@alongezonga how did you do it??? like how much does it cost??
blaa15 4 months ago
i will pray to the universe for you to develop understanding and courage to help you get through all of this...
i know that things will work out for the best... ~~~ Mitakuye Oyasin~~~
IChoseTheRedPill 8 months ago
@IChoseTheRedPill Thank you VERY much. ^^
moonfire1777 8 months ago
@setsuka9 Thanks girly. I'll keep you updated.
moonfire1777 8 months ago
Either transitioned or not transitioned, you (we) are trans regardless. It looks like you must be growing through a rough spot emotionally, but that is not necessarily the result of your transition.
On one level, I'm on the opposite side of the fence, having not transitioned (as of yet), but having this overwhelming desire every day to be a woman, and feeling like I've missed out.
I've completely avoided intimacy because of my own physical self-loathing...
Hang in there! You'll be fine...
riverwest1 8 months ago
@riverwest1 Thank you, and I know things will work out for you as well. We just have to be strong.
moonfire1777 8 months ago
@riverwest1 I'm in the exact same position as you are
xWildxChildx92x 8 months ago
@013Jayne Very true. Human beings are complicated.
moonfire1777 8 months ago
you will have your day girl. hang in there you have lots to offer never forget that. just cause your trans never under sell your self. be proud of who you are. school is just the blink of an eye of your life. most all people have relationship problems. if you love someone let them free if they dont come back. give your love to someone who can give it back dear. best of wishes
msseabreeze1 8 months ago
@msseabreeze1 Thank you for the support :] I know I'll make it.
moonfire1777 8 months ago
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voss0749 8 months ago
Don't give up as long as you keep trying your wining, but if you give up then you'll have more problems. If you think about it there are alot of so called normal people that cant find relationships for various reasons.
MsSaneJane 8 months ago
@MsSaneJane I'm trying not to give up, but I think this was the one rejection that has triggered me building walls. I feel like I can't let anyone in for a long time just because I don't want to get hurt anymore.
moonfire1777 8 months ago
@moonfire1777 It's normal just take your time, I can totally relate to you. I don't wanna sound patronizing like so many up here, but believe me there are alot of people that would love to have you as a girlfriend or maybe more.
MsSaneJane 8 months ago
@moonfire1777 You don't need to build walls but you do need to know when to cut your losses. A guy does not need 6 months to decide whether he wants to get busy with a girl, even with you being trans. If he needs a week to decide...thats reasonable.
voss0749 8 months ago
@MsSaneJane I definitely will try my best not to give up.
moonfire1777 8 months ago
I don't want to sound harsh but when it comes to dating, pre or post op will limit you, big time! A lot of time people don't disappoint us, they just disappointed our expectation. See this experience as a personal growth that you can learn, cherish, and apply to other areas of your life that need more of your own self-love and self-acceptance. Rejection sucks but perhaps as you can see it as you're being protected from something that's not healthy for you. Free your mind and let go.
SeekGod82 8 months ago
@SeekGod82 Trans or genetic, most women are craving love, affection and everything in between from a man. Something that they should have for themselves first.
SeekGod82 8 months ago
@SeekGod82
But I think moonfire does have love for herself,etc. Yet when she expresses love, caring and affection for a man she's rejected (although, as you say, rejection can serve to protect you) and, of course, that hurts.
gregory2953 8 months ago
@gregory2953 I'm sure she does but we can all learn to love ourselves a little bit more and apply the love and affection toward those who appreciate it.
SeekGod82 8 months ago
@SeekGod82 True, true. That's the thing people need to realize. Being trans is limiting, but it's also empowering. I might be facing another huge disappointment, but I'll use it as a means of strength. I have no other choice.
moonfire1777 8 months ago
I feel sad for you.Nothing ever seemes to work out for you.My advice is dont give up because time changes all bad things to good things.You strike me as a very strong person.I know you will overcome this hard time just like the others.Good times are coming you have your whole life ahead of you.There are so many things to come it just takes time.You are beutiful. Some day the right guy will come and your whole world will change.I just hope you dont change because I like you just the way you are.
nelly2hot1 8 months ago
@nelly2hot1 Thanks. I think I'm going to focus on myself for awhile, which means I won't be opening up to another guy in a really long time. Relationships are overrated anyway. :(
moonfire1777 8 months ago
I do like your videos they are very honest. they even give me a clearer view of transitioning I plan to do it myself someday but due to current health and finaincail problems I cannpt at the moment. If I were you i wouldn't worry about the ppl who are talking bad about you behind your back they aren't worth your time or effort. and as for love well I can't really realate I have decided not to be interested in anyone and I learned to turn off my feelings for ppl in a romantic way hope that hlps
Juliessecret 8 months ago
@Juliessecret I'm very glad I could help. That's what I want the most and that's the point of these videos. Thanks for watching :)
moonfire1777 8 months ago
You know what where there is a negative there will always be a positive. Life is a struggle no matter but it gets betters. Cheer up your to pretty to be sad. Oh when you see him again kick him in the balls :)
ehilado06 8 months ago
The truth has been spoken. I hope you find the one, yes that sounds cheesy, but I hope you do :)
KvL92 8 months ago
Its often difficult to stay where people know your history. I am sure that you will find a number of videos from girls who have moved and found life has improved dramaticly.
No one questions who you are because you ARE yourself... your not hiding -- your living the life that you were meant to be. Yes it can be scary to move but it can have great rewards.
If you don't like what is happening - then YOU have to change it.
10susan10 8 months ago
I loved your video. Being trans isnt easy, but we do it very well....
jaterrascott1 8 months ago
also not everyone will accept anyone. and don't pressure yourself to be accepted by as many as possible. pressure yourself to release those pressures. to do what you have to do. but not because you need to. think about that for yourself and figure out what it means for you :)
blaster28 8 months ago
no life is perfect. all you can do is accept reality. which you are very close to achieving :). take it slow. life isn't perfect. and i'm happy to see you arne't giving up ^_^. introspection is good :)
blaster28 8 months ago
I think we often focus on the positive and purposefully avoid the negative aspects of things. Doing so can motivate us to do some extraordinary things. But it can also create unrealistic expectations. I think unrealistic expectations are the root of all unhappiness. If we're really honest with ourselves about what we desire, why we desire it, and set realistic expectations based on a logical outcome, we can achieve everything we desire and reduce disappointment.
thescrybe 8 months ago
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thescrybe 8 months ago
You will be ok dont worry.
nishamtf 8 months ago
@EmoGossipGirl Thanks chica. I think I just need to get my head together today. I'll be fine. I've made it this far, and I won't let another disappointment bring me down. Thanks so much though.
moonfire1777 8 months ago