Las Vegas Deafhood Insights: Hearing people and captioned TV

[shelpotma1]

Joe, see my comment under yours on FB.

[shelpotma1]

To delegate Deaf guests to the garage room because he doesn't like captions on ANY of his TVs in comfortable rooms is plain rude, and selfish.

I think your brother was in a quandary... to support his own brother or his friend the host. He may not get it NOW, but hopefully he will get it with further exposure to different Deaf folk especially on facebook.

[DrDonGCSUS]

I get that my brother may have been in a quandary re: host rights vs. Deaf rights/comfort, but his response was too automatic in favor of the host (and his friend). For example, I raised the point that it was cold in the garage, and he said "you have a jacket". So, I am going to hold him accountable for not "getting it".

[shelpotma1]

Right now, I'm still thinking on the "it's his house" thing vs. "mi casa es su casa". Too much of either is a bad thing, but there should be a balance. If a guest violates common boundaries in the host's house, then that definitely becomes "HIS HOUSE, WHAT GOES IS HIS DECISION." In your case, I think it's plain boorishness on the host's part, especially since he seems to have rooms with many TVs in each room. To be continued on next comment posting.

[shelpotma1]

Wow. Based on both the vlog and your comments, Don, it seems to me that not only was audism in play, but cultural conflicts arose. Audism... self-explanatory... as per your vlog. Cultural conflict: Host has the prerogative to decide what goes on in the house VS the "mi casa es su casa" mentality.

My view: "mi casa es su casa" SHOULD be in effect. the latter, now that I thought more on that., is perhaps more boorishness than cultural difference.

[kaalnek]

My "bad reaction" eventually worked, but it was still apparent that it was out of a desire not "to make me mad". Ugh. If I ever meet someone like that again and they are at MY place, plan to turn the sound off and stand my line against turning the sound again. Let them get the message, but then when someone is that stupid....... might not get the message through anyways. Sorry your brother should have known better. Oh well.

[DrDonGCSUS]

Yeah, my brother should have known better. He's participated in some discussions on my facebook page, so I thought he was getting it. Apparently not. I like your idea of turning off the sound and not letting them turn it back on. Of course, they're going to get pissed and totally not get the point, I'm sure....

[kaalnek]

That cycle of seeming to get it, totally not getting it. "have a little discussion", rinse, repeat has happened in my family my whole life (am only Deaf ). Many times I private conclude to myself they are just too white-bread to ever get it. Sometimes I even give up and just think to myself 'frak it, they'll never get it" and hold it in. Not good, but what can I do?! Facebook private or not? Just joined FB recently, be nice to find other Deaf profiles.

[kaalnek]

Oh brother. One of the uncles married a woman.. she liked to go on about how she really hated the CC- no matter where she was, at their house or my sisters house.. she even went as far as to turn off the CC every time I left the room, even if I was just getting a drink or went to bathroom. At sis', I said that is pretty rude.. she shrugged and said (aunt) doesnb't like it.. and I wasn't in the room, so.. I stood my ground and said to make her stop with that sh*t and to shut her ranting too.

[DARTHASL]

it is almost like as movie Titanic .. rich people to stay in comfortable rooms then poor people to live in bottom of ship but cannot get out first so let rich people to get out safety first becasuse of stupid white five star class i thinkg or something that is how you feel treated that way .. sorry to hear about that .. hope all hearing people to understand what is equal means ???

[DeafArch]

Dr.G, I got your message and it is no problem that you accidentally deleted my initial comment here. I use mobile version so I am unable to reply to your message. I am sorry that you had to deal with that second class treatment like that from your brothers. I have been there dealing with that treatment with my extended family members. I understand I am not you, my Deaf friend(s) and I would leave and go home or somewhere more welcoming and accomandating.

[DrDonGCSUS]

DeafArch --

Actually, we did leave at halftime to go to a Deaf party. I have a second vlog coming up talking about that.

[heeheeluck]

Thank you for speaking up. I can see you still love your brother and you won't let him treat you like second class! I put this in my favorites because that's an important message for my brother. He will know or notice how Hearing family treat Deaf brother or sister like your situation.