Self-Improvement Tips : How to Be Outgoing

[Saucy94]

you look like a pompous mofo

[DarkArabesque]

This guy is wrong. Narcissists actually tend to have lots of friends and they are usually outgoing and dramatic people.  Sorry, you can't change an introvert into an extrovert, that's just how some people are born. And there is nothing wrong with being an introvert or shy; many composers, artists, and writers, and scientists to boot, were introverted or shy types. Stop trying to change everyone into the same mold, we don't want to be the same.

[solidysnake1]

..so what is his book called?

[86Blessed86]

If you go out n do something out of the box.. Something that you usually wouldn't do,,, that's really embarasing for u n do it over the course of months then u will slowly become more outgoing

[86Blessed86]

When u rock up to a party... Don't think ohhh is my hair ok.. don't think at all.. Just engage n talk. And while your talking to ppl.. Don't think ohhh am I boring her n so on.

[kenob1996]

Nice :)

[pander22]

This guy makes Dr. Phil look like Freud.

[xThexLionxWithxWeed4]

I like led zepplin the band.

[billyflowers1]

I agree...get outta ur own head...

[whittalboy]

Great tip. I believe not many can understand the point because it is fairly deep.

[amaka38]

i get what he is saying ....he means stop thinking about messing up and just do it

[IAmAwesomeSoAreYou]

This really makes sense...  Thanks!!!

[Lailanisurflove]

i love your advise it really helps

[taylor4canucks]

this guy is an idiot

[vanadium3]

this is deep! he's like james bond..'s dad.

[EricSchwin22]

After this video...the Porn Crew comes in!!!

[superkulkin2]

I wonder why there are people who don't want to be known, I mean they don't want to share with you their goals, their fears, the things that make them happy. Maybe a kind of selfishness?

[Shaytarder]

This guy seems so arrogant

[DarkArabesque]

@Shaytarder He's probably a narcissist himself, look at his body language.

[mcgge7]

@sLicker88 lol

[frontiervilla]

Yes exactly I always think of myself and about other people's thoughts about me so talking in front of people makes me really nervous..

[EricSchwin22]

"Why do we like people that are outgoing? Because they are not thinking of themselves"

Hhahahahahaha....Dr. PAUL! Yesterday I talked to my cousin, and I could not get a word in at all. 5 minutes of talking about his personal life, and his personal "Drama"....then when I try to ask him questions I just get interrupted by his loud voice, and then he walks away from me talking to the other crowd of people.

I swear he's like some sort of Energizer Bunny hopping one person to the next.

[christophermok]

wats wif the back drop?

[shaunny1992]

this guy is definatly a pedophile

[christophermok]

@shaunny1992 ok lol

[EarthH2oLuma]

@PunkyPrincessPop - You're absolutely right! narcissist elevate themselves

and usually take over conversations ... he miss applied the term. Sensitive

shy people are too afraid to be hurt and stay pretty much inside themselves. You're pretty smart and self assured to realize the difference and disagree with the doctors comment.

[p00ner92]

for the life of me i dont understand why EVERYONE is taking such offence!!

to summarize this video, to be outgoing you must think of others and not just yourself..

very offensive.. NOT

[AnnoyingLittleShit]

Well here's a '30 second trick' for YOU, 'doc': Look inside my head (or the mind of any other shy person) for 30 seconds and tell me then if you think shyness is narcissism. Shyness is painful and by calling us narcissists you're not exactly helping.

[misskoutsofta]

May your fantasies of today be your dreams of tomorrow... ;) haha! Cheeseball!!!! ;)

[ilovethestory]

Our culture is narcissistic because everyone is out for themselves. We aren't focused on the collective whole, but rather the individual, making people too into themselves for survival.

[2010theraver]

I think there is a generation of people that are narcissistic. They are taught too much self esteem and not to think about someone else. A job or community service really helps, or give for some charity. It is all about God, not yourself.

[TheAdrian341]

@cubancrusader yes man i'm shy and you know the rest

[rxstarh]

Great advice! Verr helpful, thank you.

[prettyboy2549]

you are a genius！

[MightySheep25]

this guy is dumb 

[TrynaGetBacToMyLuv]

@sLicker88 haha I know he is.This video makes so much sense to me.

[Swooshie101ify]

Wow I never knew after 30 we start to think of ourselves very interesting

[shillise]

He sounds just like one of those people off those religious shows that screen at like 5:30am lol

No offense dude, go for a more natural setting and have some enthusiasm in your voice! =)

[Felas212]

You're a genius Dr. Paul just like me lol

[XColumbX]

usually a couple shots of vodka w. orange juice makes me outgoing. ;)

[roxysurf23]

haha that was funny but it actaully makes sence

[dukenthaylor]

Jay "Big Jaw" Leno! XD

[lost4soul]

wow this guy is smart and you gotta love the scenery with all the candles and the sofa... he is funny and informational ;p 5 stars

[TeeFlick]

lmfao I can digg that

[huda2]

take lots of crack and it will help

[fee20luv]

i'm a out going person. i love people . and like to learn about ppl. :)

[geezthomas]

love the background- its so...romantic lmao

[muppetspuppets]

I got to admit I'm turned off outgoing people.... I'd rather spend time with someone that lets ME approach THEM.

[rockstarsenty]

yeah, its easier to talk to people or girls when they're not surrounded by people. but sometimes you just gotta go with things

[articulaytor]

he's cool!

[didier4529]

hes a rapist in disguise looking for victims

[fee20luv]

you're hella funni . ehehe.

[BethanyAwSomeness]

i thought that shy people are always thinking about wat other people think about them...and that they feel uncomfortable?

[Lockesayshi]

In a way yes, as a shy person (and I think I'm talking for a lot of shy people) I don't care to much what people think of me. The thing that gives me trouble when talking is the fear of offending them. You can call me overly sensitive, but I care a lot about other peoples feelings, but since I rarly know what to say I just shut-up. That's shyness from my point of veiw.

[DanielleEquestrian]

hah thats how i am.

[chickensarecoolest]

yes thats definitely shyness

[rockstarsenty]

yeah, im shy and am self-conscious. i have lots of outgoing friends who tell me you just gotta do crazy shit and not care what people think.

[nahum67]

well i agree with dr paul, but understanding that his shy people definition

shy poeple is narcissistic because they are selfcentered. im shy and im very selfcentered.

when we are talking to somebody we are paying more atention to ourselves than the other person.

[jv842]

ooo this is BS, this "doctor" needs his license to be taken away.

[PunkyPrincessPop]

Excuse me "doctor" but I don't agree that most shy people are narcissistic, in fact we're usually the opposite, we're usually sensitive to what other people think or how they feel. That doesn't sound like narcissism to me.

[runedermilot]

Sensitive to what other people think and feel.. about you.

[HPAbby]

Exactly, that's what I was thinking.

[dvs21694]

this persons right

[quix117]

+1 interwebz for you. BUT PAUL IS AMAZING!

[guarimn]

@PunkyPrincessPop we all love ourselves, and it's normal. All the man is saying, and there's truth in it, is that being outgoing can be a result of spending less time fussing about ourselves and more time actually CONNECTING with others. And being sensitive can also help us connect. I don't know. Im a shy person and his advice resonates with me.

[MrMatidor]

@PunkyPrincessPop

Thinking about yourself can also mean worrying about our insecurities, if we left the oven on at home, are we getting ahead in life...yada yada yada! Right Doc?!

[TheCoisacoisa]

@PunkyPrincessPop You can be narcissistic and care about what other people think at the same time. My father has NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I've never seen anybody as self-conscious as he is.

[geppegep]

@PunkyPrincessPop then you are "selfish" enough and dont think about urself and your needs

[VieraLuck]

@PunkyPrincessPop Shyness is narcissism. Sure shy people are sensitive to what other people think or feel, but this is more often than not in relation to themselves. For example, a shy person will constantly analyze a friend's facial expressions for signs of annoyance, fear, happiness, etc. But this is because the shy person is worried about how they are making the other person feel. Shyness is narcissism in one of its worst forms.

[DarkArabesque]

@VieraLuck No, shyness is NOT narcissism. I studied psychology, worked in a mental health centre, and write about these subjects often. Shy people are just born that way, just like if you're naturally an introvert or extrovert. Narcissists tend to have many friends, are dramatic, and outgoing. This is just the way people are. Some are introverts and/or shy, and some are not, and then you have extroverts and the more extreme forms of narcissism. There is NOTHING wrong with being shy.

[DarkArabesque]

@VieraLuck Also, introverted or shy people tend to be empathetic because they DO CARE about what they say affects others. Narcissistic people on the other hand, DO NOT.

[GMZTORP]

@PunkyPrincessPop I agree in part, because usually people that are shy, are sensitive to what other people think and feel about them...And they are afraid that the things other people think and feel towards them may cause them any harm...That's why they are shy mos of the times.

[ncripzx]

@PunkyPrincessPop but you only care about what they are thinking and feelings about YOU. What you think they think about the man down the street doesnt make you shy...its about how you think your self-image if portrayed by them via what you say. Forget living up to a illusory self image made by yourself, if you are able to have thoughts and feelings then who is the one who is aware of it all - that is the real you! Thank you for your time this is Doctor Woodford have a nice day x

[Miikoong904]

@PunkyPrincessPop I think being shy does have a little bit of narcissism in it because your always worried about making yourself look bad or getting rejected, or embarassing yourself. The mindset is focused too much on you you you, self self self. What helps me is I try to focus on other people and try my best to relax and be myself. Its hard though.

[dummshapeshifter]

its that 30 seconds i'm scared of

[solidysnake1]

nobody is outgoing then according to his definition since we all think about ourselves after 30 seconds...

[chilingzzz]

is he playing with himself?

[WarnyBoy]

this is quite profound actually because I've lived my life with the one dimensional thinking of how everything affects myself. i would have to redefine my belief in order to incorporate this new way of thinking. That's something that the video cant do for anybody, but now that it has made me aware of a new way of thinking, I will definitely give this a go and hopefully become more outgoing. Thanks.

[SamIam992]

man now that i think about it the only reson i am not outgoing is i think about myself to much!!!

[Jifcrunch79]

so...shy people are narcissistic?

[KatFiteFan]

In a way yes because they are overly consumed by what people think about them.

[DokkenCanes11]

I'm watching this videos... they're very good by the way, but it feels like they are not helping. :/

[KelferMookie]

Sitting on the internet is not going to help no matter how many times you look at the video... You have to actually do it ^_^

[rubiksking12345]

lol the 30 second test is true. i didnt even think of it but the first video i watched of him i thought of him for like half a minute and then just listened. very good never even thought of it like that

[internetsgoldenegg]

Hey I really enjoyed your video. I just posted a new one you might like. I look forward to your next one