Dealing with Negativity

[DifferentKind0fSmart]

You are what you think. Of course a lot can influence the way you view things (shitty diet, stress, etc) but that's why balance is key. You'll be amazed at how easy the brain rewires itself, just depends on a bit of will power and good influences, so put yourself in situations that make you happy.

[oldskoolliam]

Negative people, are just igonrant. There the type of people who walk around critizing everyone and acting as if they own the whole world. Well I got to words 'fuck u'.

[DifferentKind0fSmart]

@oldskoolliam

Uneducated much?

[oldskoolliam]

@DifferentKind0fSmart You dont even know me or my life or where I live, or what I do, so keep ur opionions to yourself.

[Invinciblearmor1986]

i have the same problem you have have.

[Invinciblearmor1986]

(i dont recalled i think it was dealing with INDIANS and ) i wasnt to sure so i asked an older cat to drop some wisdom on the topic, dude (this indian guy) actually got mad because i told him he was wrong and the older cat simple co-sign.....he got mad because i ask a older cat to build on a topic but he actually copy & paste info from a website saying so & so isnt a indian etc. (FACT: there more than 500+ indians some which was never recorded

[Invinciblearmor1986]

the thing is one guy posted some bullshit from wikipedia trying to reprimand me because wikipedia stated it was "verified" (due to some youtube videos). im not one for an online argument....or tit-4-tat shit online. another time we had a discussion on something

[Invinciblearmor1986]

was wondering as to how do you all deal with online conflict wheter it be disses or some other form.

i ask this due to the fact that i had a situation on a site that i thought would be positive but im finding out its the opposite

Over on another site I somewhat post info like the "a list of good herbs for you"- type threads, the annunanki, ufos.etc.

[DaFakaMatt]

I got a question, how do you deal with negativity with yourself when your feeling negative?

[havefun5431]

I LIKE YOUR ADVICE I HAVE A QUESTION......WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU SAY SOMETHING AND MEAN WELL AND THE OTHER PERSON JUST TAKES WHAT YOU SAID THE WRONG WAY.WHY CANT THEY SEE YOU MEANT WELL IF YOU KNEW YOU MEANT WELL.I AM VERY EMPATHIC WITH PEOPLE AND FEEL WHAT THEY FEEL AND SO WHEN THIS HAPPENS IT DRAINS ALL MY ENRGY OUT OF ME.WHY IS IT GOOD PEOPLE HAVE TO GO THROUGH SO MUCH SH**.ANYWAY ILL KEEP TRYING TO HELP PEOPLE.THANX MOMO.

[dirtybugx]

NO MOMO THK YOUUUU!!!!

[bigsweaty15]

Good stuff man

[collectiveconscify]

straight up dood instantly subscribed.

[marthasdemo]

i am very positive person, i see good in everyone...but, i also sense all the negativeness in most people, usually there due to insecurities. while most ppl have to work for a living, i don't as i collect rent from my real estate i paid off. now, i stay away from negativity..which made me a complete loner..as insecurity is born always around me..healthy, successful, beautiful, kind individual..somehow gives birth to negativities around them..the only positiveness i find is in myself, lately!!

[pro1817]

@marthasdemo i gota say it depends on how you use positive in a right way , and some negative people use positive in a negative way, so dont look at the outside appereance of right or wrong and appereance are never true until we find what true within then that outside appearence i true for us and might not be for others so, whats positive for others might not be positive for us

[marthasdemo]

@pro1817 true...there is a lot of depth into what you said. I was referring more to the insecurities of one, the narcissists..while trying to understand them and relate to whatever they feel, by the time you are done instead of bringing light into their life, they manage to bring darkness into yours. And yes i do agree 100% with you about, not everything you see on the surface is what it is ..

[elisacid]

how can you be so positive and teach people and you swear so much. you should save the swear part for your self only because its a shame you have such a wonderfull ideas and wisdom and so you still use that kind of language.

[TheMomoZone]

@elisacid Hi My friend thanks for the question. Well i have many videos and some i swear in and some i dont. Ive been told by many that i use the swear word in the right places, and to some swearing will never be right, thats ok. Im the motivator who swears some times, i mean no offense but in the year 2011 its a word thats used inappropriately in many places,everywhere. I like to think im showing people how to use it more positively. Thanks and have a great day Momo

[clichesucks]

@elisacid what a pussy you are! aww boo hoo, somebody made a series of sounds with their vocal cords which offends you for absolutely no fucking reason. seriously, gimme a reason. why is the word fuck so bad? it can be used in so many instances like:

a) fuck it's cold

b) fuck i forgot to turn the fucking stove off (double use, will get to that later)

c) i wanna fuck her so badly

d) she doesn't want me because i'm a miserable fuck

e) what the fuck

f) fuck

see? it's fucking versatile

[elisacid]

@clichesucks and who is talking to you little insect? who are you? I mean I coment to the important person in here not you Disgusting cockroach

[clichesucks]

@elisacid You talk to one of us, you talk to all of us... bitch. You use terms like "little insect" and "disgusting cockroach" which can be considered quite offensive, just like the world "fuck". You fucking hypocrite!

[elisacid]

@clichesucks I love you :)

[elisacid]

@clichesucks oh no wait!! Im a hypocrite! you are rigth haha but be positive ;) haha

[reganam69]

@elisacid Even though swearing is negative, it has its uses. I think this guy has mastered how to be positive with a cool spin on it.

[tonytang2222]

@elisacid Well nothing is perfect budy...Let that go and you'll be able to hear what the dude is talking about instead of focusing on his choice of words !

[elisacid]

@tonytang2222 well I think all words have some kind of power in peoples life, and the reason I coment is not because I get scare or surprise of how he talk,but most people use swear for negative reasons to offend or to look for a fight and he is teaching so kind of controvecial to me and the first reason is because I wanted to healp my 12 year old with some negativity that he was dealing in school so wen we leasen to the video he feel like he wanted to coment so I let him to put the coment.

[ElfishPowers]

@elisacid he just shows us that even swearing can be done in a positive manner...

[TheMomoZone]

@ElfishPowers Thanks for that comment, i like the way you think.Lets use the F word properly. See ya Momo

[mfl728]

LOL that's awesome "in the past... I would physically fucking assault you."

[ILLBEBACH2]

Came upon you by accident. So grateful that you are exist. My questions re: negativity involve a graver nature. The system, which has violated my civil rights. In a few words: An evicition proceeding evolved into a Supreme Court ruling, which rendered me incapable of controlling my own bank account, which I lost due to the corruption of this landlord/lawyer. How can I regain my sense of self-respect, despite being classified as an "incompetant" I lost much. Thanks, ILLBEBACH2

[anchan789video]

Momo... I've been watching your videos for 2 years.... You have no idea how supportive they are to my daily life... I want to thank you again for making this beautiful things... It helps a lots of ppls... Here... I wish u and your family... Have a beautiful life... Momo... U ROCK!!!! Annie from Hong Kong ^.~

[fart1001]

u rule dude :) be positive

[Pepeti78]

Cool! i believe sometimes you can cheer up those negative fuckers with showing them a mirror of themselves in a funny way ,they are just lonely ,hurt ,full of passive-aggression ,or shit... ,rarely ,but you might can change them. That's the real challenge. Thank you!

[bobzerok]

Thank you Momo!

[TheJack0Phantom]

Lol i like to fuck with people like that too :D

[DrummerBeaster]

Why not try to help the negative person to become more positive. Allienating someone like that is just going to make them worse. Why not just make the world better and try to help the best you can?

[DrummerBeaster]

Great shirt!



[broadcastmyass4u]

this is for my haters :)

[cgMagia]

hmm it is time the cut off switch from negative peoples

[silhouette77777]

Happened upon your videos. . . watched about 6 for now, cried.. you are so pure and sweet. It's late, I can't sleep.. perhaps I should try. Your words penetrate me in a most comfortable way. .. if you knew of my life, you would throw up your hands. . No words, lost cause.. she is of the negative's. .. pass this comment by.

[MetalShreader]

awesome video momo

[MsHolmar]

Excellent! Another thing is, it's their own opinion. I like to tell myself, if you don't like me, I don't care. I i like myself. I mean, its just their opinion. That doesn't make it true.

[unity2012]

So right Momo... funny enough, some people have been so heavily conditioned by their social surrounding that they truly feel they have to sink with the negative ship in order to achieve Heavenly redemption... We need to stop making excuses and empowering them to think that what they do is "all right."

Thank you Momo and God Bless you my friend.

[AniretUkato]

lol that SOOO WORKS! when ur around douches, being nice to them not only makes you look good... they stop and they feel more like fuckings assholes.

[evilyakko]

The 2 fingers is the same/similar to the 1 finger here in the UK lol

[Manasik2]

what if they were my family? and they are the source of my negativity

[ammusi]

@Manasik2 I had this problem & I just didn't know what to do. I was desperate and at the time broke as well. One night I just looked up at the stars and said, "God - my hands are tied, please, YOU take care of it because I just don't know what to do." Shortly after that I got a job overseas.

[TheDrfoxx]

We could practice "Judge nothing that occurs Day" instead of using our fingers.

[chillskid]

Sage advice.

[TheQueenFatima]

I Love You, I Love Your Videos, I Love Your Advice. Great Guy.

note: But if you can take it easy on the cursing it hurts my ears.

[HARRIETTECELESTINE]

but you cant keep running all of your life

[shnitzipopers]

EDIT: ** Or i say ''I love you too'' :)

[shnitzipopers]

What I always do with my friends, whenever they start to become angry at me or a situation and say something like ''FUCK YOU!'' , my response is ''Well Thank you :) '' and then they don't really know how to react and just laugh and the fighting is over with !

[YouOrSum1LikeYou93]

peace out dude ur the best =]

[LUVJONZ99]

You said it, I shut down and shut them out. But this makes negative people ATTACK you even more....then if you avoid them -- you are antisocial. The bottom line is the problem is within themselves, they are not happy with who they are. I have learned you are better off ALONE.

[DeMaRcAmRx]

You couldnt have said it better!

[MetalGearKelan]

Momo, you sir, are the fucking man. I agree completely.

[thegriggspaul]

fucking fuck fuck me!!fucking hell...

[ILUMOT]

hey momo :D ive been learnin from motivational videos, studying astrology and reading buddhist teachings, well they all make sense but what you have shown makes better sense, i believe in balance, and being strong as an individual, you rule dude, i am only 16 and learning to change for the past 3 years man, your great , ever since i found your channel i've been watching your vids for five days at times when i need the help,(i have the vids in my psp XD) this vid is one of my favourites.

[accellente]

CUT THEM OUT....that's exactly my approach nowadays MOMO. I had to cut out people that were just bringing me down and got the impression they'd reach out to find out how much I am struggling rather........thks for the vid bro.

[howtokillaninja]

i second fatcat's question

[fatcat14]

What if they are family and you have to live with them?

[Neequu78]

Try and stay strong, until you can get out of there. I know the feeling. Just try and stay strong.

[londongeezar]

i got these jealous bastards in my job as well fuck em

[XFry333X]

I'm not sure if this is such a good idea bro. I mean, if you can't accept them and help a bro out. Then who will?

[TheMomoZone]

Hi xfry333x if your talking about the cut off switch im talking about. One day you realize that enough is enough and the time to move on has finally come and is the only option.You can only try for so long before you get dragged down into the mud...its our choice . Peace out Momo

[XFry333X]

I see, and understand. But how do you know when you have reached that cut off point? Where is the split off point between fighting to help and fighting for a lost cause? I think this should be addressed in the video because as intelligent as I like to think I am I can't figure this out. Some people help too much others too little but if there is an easy set boundary it would be more beneficial.Examples would be nice.

[TheMomoZone]

Different people have different breaking points.Some might say that if its a family member you should be unconditional more so then a friend which could be replaceable depending on the kind of friend.All this stops working when fathers rape their kids and drunk friends kill some one you love by accident .I dont want to sound radical but in the end its your life divided by the amount of time you have on earth.You do the math.When you get serious about it.3 strikes your out should be your max.

[XFry333X]

Very true, overall the lesson here is to keep relations in a rational perspective? If there is no longer a tolerable purpose then why continue.

[Mugzsta]

momo your awesome dude thanks for the reality check sure needed it

[EmmaClaire84]

Hey Momo I really like this! Love your ideas and your no bullshit approach. If you ever find that someone makes you mad even tho you know that being annoyed at them is just wasting your energy watch my vid i made, seems to make ppl smile:D trust me.

[curioussuccess]

Dude u are just out of this world!!! U got a Fan in me. Much Respect!!!!

[Ironandtheshizzelz]

sometimes its good when people are negative, but just to themselves. for example "man my life is bad, i live in a junkyard and i have nothing to eat".. then you think for yourself, hey actually my life is good ! there are people who actually live unhappy. understand what i mean?

[Missuskeefe]

I now have a new quote on my "reminder board":

"Negative people just aren't happy with who they are" Momo

Another one on there:

I believe that sometimes when I am angry, I have the right to be angry. That doesn't give me the right to be cruel. Unknown

[khem316]

momo i like youre vids but what happens when life just sucks you know my mom, die my father is dying, im shy, i have no girlfriend not to mention im a virgin, i barely have friends im out of money and nothing good in my life and im 21 years the only good just that im healthy how i supose to see life like this but good vid

[jenniferfritts]

love will be our guide

[tuber123asd]

You made me laugh (as well as think of course), and today, I really need all the laughter I can get. Thanks Momo. You're fantastic, dude. :)

[brryall99]

i have a really close friend whose basically my brother, I'd do anything to back him up, and we share everything with each other. the only problem is that he looks at life in a really negative way and as a 16 year old has tried to kill himself 4 times now. i cant let him go as a friend we are too close but it seems like no matter how much i try he wont stop being depressed. any suggestions on how to help him become optimistic?

[MetalGearKelan]

Great advice man. Cheers.

[adamkirrmusic]

2 fingers up in Europe is equivalent to the middle finger in America.

[mrbaird]

Yes!  You are so right!

Mairlyn

[Gary1111001]

Do I smell Negativity?? It's coming from above me.

(cuts fucker out)

See, it works.

Now, where's that stupid smell coming from?

[bprizze]

hahaha lol

[NebulaBurst]

boooooo.. why did ya watch it then

[snigglebottom]

That two finger salute, around that way, is actually (at least where I come from) an insult. Around the other way (where I come from) it means peace or victory. Anyway, great video... again. :)

[geniefere]

I so needed to hear your thought on negative people. Just got rid of a friend who was wearing me down, oh what a relief to no longer have her in my life. Your video came to me like a confirmation from heaven that my joy and happiness must come first.  Bless your heart, Genie

[geniefere]

I love you Momo - I just got rid of a friend who is so negative, ill and unpredictable and I feel so good, such a relief not to have her in my life. Listening to you about negative people and what to do, was like a confirmation from heaven that my joy and happiness must always come first.  Bless your heart, Genie

[bhweller]

I got a job in May that turned negative really fast even though management likes my work. Toxic people. I have been afraid to leave because of the job market but after watching your video I know there is something better for me than this situation.

[pstce38]

too right momo, your an inspiration mate

[sunsetbeach123]

I always enjoy your videos. Thanks.

[calibernguyen]

best video yet!

[Heavenlyday101]

I agree!

[DocHolliday92966]

Amen Brother! ! !

We talked on the phone about this 1 day and I remember telling you I was 2 stupid to give up lol And I stand by that :-)

We lead by example, not everyone can change their mindset, but if "practice what we preach" the effects are much more dramatic and life changeing

Take my channel a simple music channel with blogs but everytime some1 tells me I made a impact it impacts me positively, positiveity breeds positiveity Put good food in and good shit comes out :-)

Peace Brother

[SSparks555]

When it comes to dealing with a negative person I am a firm believer in the power of Disassociation. They will never help you get to a better place, but try to keep you at their level.

[bhweller]

Amen to that. I have been sucked down several times by people. I thought they were friends but they were secretly envious and trying to ridicule me at every turn. The trick is to spot them quickly and I am still learning that.

[spookyboo22]

wise words momo x

[Chivalryaintdead]

I let the vid load for an hour and watched it, great points Momo, especially the part about fighting the negativity with positivity.

That is sort of like what Jesus said. "Pray for your enemies" When we are nice to folks that treat us bad, we are doing the right thing.

[Carolhope39]

Thanks Momo for your insight. I have found for myself that if I start expressing gratitude for things and people around me, sometimes out loud, sometimes in my head, that the negativity goes away. Love ya'll =)

[Chivalryaintdead]

The video isn't loading for me for some reason.  Really want to watch this topic too!

[MoonCloud217]

to just ignore all negativity can be kind of narrow minded. i see where you're going with the attitude thing, but there are different kinds of negativity and some negativity shouldn't be ignored.

[snouter]

I don't think Momo suggested to ignore it. The key is to acknowledge it, and use it to motivate positive action.

[jasonsgroovemachine]

Momo, this is totally awesome.

I actually just did an accidental hour (lol) video in tolerance and all that. You've summed up a lot of that here.

[ozjthomas]

Awesome advice, Momo. Have to add I have quite a struggle with this and that writing down my thoughts helps me see just how counter-productive they are, kind of like cogntitive therapy.

[ohveryyoung]

what if the negative person has been a friend for a long time? how do you get rid of them without being an ass or just ignoring them?

[TrueDavebucket]

I just watched a video about Developmental Disabilities. Thats what my friends have. Real life "40 Year Old Virgins" Live at home, preoccupied with hobbies etc. I cut them out but now I feel lik emaybe I was being intolerant. Where is the acceptance? MMph? Im not sure anymore

[danthemango]

does anyone disagree?

[wallacegrommit]

i think the only thing that can be hard with negativity... especially when... say its a collaborative project or something... with many people in a group...

it wouldnt be that hard for someone to confuse Critism (ideally constructive) with Negativity.

[PeaceProfit]

One who accepts cruelty, surrenders to indifference.

Respect, Regard, Relevance, Resolution = Stability.

Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fear = Instability.

L.O.V.E.-2.0

[ChristopherMast]

excellent video

[fredcolumn]

Momo, me, my half and your digital little neveu still to come (on your birthday you're still in the run for it -__- ) wish you a wonderfull birthday. May all your wildest dreams come true. May your positivity turns around the wall of negativity and make those bricks fall down. You're a fresh air on the net! You got my friendship for ever...

[IanCrossland]

the electrons are negative; they are like sparks of existence appearing where constricted or rushed, apparating.

sometimes we choose negative things without realizing. the video is good to see this.

Thanks man, you cast some sort of spell that begins at 4:20 when you say "no" that goes to 4:37. Then when you say "that can calm you down enough" you calm the person down to realize what you invoked with your spell. Good words man, I rewatched it 4 times and thought of 4 things I want to do

[MimiMut]

Great vid Momo. I think the more you feel happy with yourself, the more negative people dissapear automatically out of your life. First it seems hard and sad, but after a while it feels like a relief and you start attracting more positive people in your life. Like you said Momo: "Just keep smiling" :-)

[ohveryyoung]

good point....

[nickrza]

What made you want to educate people through videos?