a girl who you dont even know then your boy that you grew up with since kindergarten well then its time to go, anyways great video, girl you was right on point keep up the good work, oh love the back round pic of you in the profile real nice.
this is funny cause i had a friend who was just as you described but guy version, people only hung with him because he had a whip and he ended up becoming a cabby for them. i told him you need to stop that bullshit they using you and he didnt really listen to me because he was so into the bitches and he wasnt use to it he allowed them to use him just so he could say i was with her for the day. so after a while of hearing the bullshit i ended up dropping him i see it as if you would rather trust
Thank you for this really helpful video.. I was looking through your channel not expecting to see this.. because it just happened to me. I've invested so much time in some friends, but it seems like they didn't really care abou met. Now I'm feeling dumb, crying by myself... It will be hard to trust people again, but I still have hope in human being haha.
gurl i agree with u so much, sometimes also people comes into ur lie for a reason, a season and if they were suppose to stay tthey would have. i am very passionate in the friends i keep. i have mybe two people i call my friends. some are opportunist. do what i say but not what i do. i agree 1000%. finey
lets not forget about the FRIENDS who act like they don't know you when their more popular friends come around..but as soon as they are gone they want to start talking to you again....to me, those are worse than the ones who get tied up with a new man...but thats just me..lol.
hey ghana gurl...jus wanted to show my support!!..keep reppin gh with ur beauty!! :)..about the topic..everything u say is true..bt unfortunately some people think they need soooo many friends not relizing that could be their downfall!!
this really makes soo much sense..tho i do disagree with one thing. a true friend is someone hu doesnt get tired of hearin ur pointless drama (d important ones to you that is) over nd over again. i learnt that with my best friend, dint even realise both of us were doing it till i saw that quote and it really is true, so bout u dumping on friends if they are true friends they wuldnt mind hearin it.
interesting your doing a video on this. i realized as i grow older i have less friends and it took me changing from the word friends to acquaintances lol. i called many people friends while in college and now i realize that they were never that cos i found out through other people that they never liked me and talked behind my back lol.
I absolutely LOVED this video!!!! This topic speaks to me so much because I recently had to cut someone out of my life who was bringing me down & I didn't even realize it till it was to late
im in my early twenities and have always had 'convenience' friends. the only person i would call my best friend is my fiance, we were friends before we got together so we know each others ins and outs and have been through so much together! i think im at the stage where im confident to walk or go anywhere without haing a whole crew with me. i think alot of girls do that out of lack of self confidence, they will walk around with girls they dont even like just to say they have 'friends'. good vid
Great video hun! It's definitely not about the quantity of friends but the quality!! Some folks are just emotional vampires and will suck the life outta you if you let them.
this is a really interesting topic! especially for girls in their first year of college because I think at that time the lines gets blurry between what a bad frien , a situational friend and a associate friend is. And it's hard to distinguish the difference in an environment where you're trying to make new friends.
Thanks for sharing this. The word friend is something I do not give to everyone. I have 4 friends. These ladies are way beyond the word friend. They are additional sisters. Two of them I knew my whole life and the other 2 are awesome ladies that I met from here.
The 1 person who did not like this video is that one bad friend she's talking about in here !! lol... GREAT VIDEO! THNK U FOR THIS. MANY OF US NEEDED TO HEAR THIS.
What an amazing video...I too agree that the term friend is used MUCH too loosely these days, and that ppl need to focus more on quality than quantity when it comes to who is close to u, because it truly makes all the difference. Keep vids like this coming!
OMG....you are so right....I had a friend she was my best friend and as soon as she got a man she would change, wouldn't call me...nigga come in she got to get off the phone! I stop dealing with her! went on for too long as i couldnt take it!
OMG....you are so right....I had a friend she was my best friend and as soon as she got a man she would change, would call me...nigga come in she got to get off the phone! I stop dealing with her! went on for too long as i couldnt take it!
I really needed to hear this and thank you. Ive realized since I got older (no more a teen anymore lol) that having too many "friends" can be risky. There are people who you will like more than they like you. And also its not good to rely on people period. Its best to be self sufficient because you may never know who will have your back when you need it. I think this vid becomes more of a reality as you progress in college as well....And btw love your channel! keep making vidz like this :-)
I'm 28 years old and I have very very few friends. I literally have 4 close friends (1 sis, 1 sis in law, and 2 cousins) that I call true friends. I realized at an early age who was only my friend for convenience. I'm the type of person who will go without just to help someone else, and my "convenient" friends have taken advantage of that. I don't let it get me down, I just realize my mistakes, correct it, and let God deal with them.
Seems like i always find the "crack head" type of friends, the ones to only care when they want to borrow my "VCR" (see movie friday) so i thought maybe its me, maybe I do that to people and that's why I get it back, and HELL NO! i'm just really helpful, and a kind person and I seems to draw "friends" who try to take advantage
Diva I totally agree, but the older people are the same way...... I say associates. It takes a lot to be my true friend. My sister , brothers and my daughter are my friends. Outside I really don't have any true friends.Great topic.
she would make mean spirited comments... so like in so many words... she didn't really want to hear it because she doesn't have children or husband she gets tired of me talking about them. That really hurts my feelings. If I can't share those things in my life that make me happy because you don't have them... what kind mess is that?
I remember while I was in H.S. my father once told me that he didn't think she liked me. I thought he was crazy for saying that... she was my friend... I think I would know if someone didn't like me. However, over the years I have thought about it. She had a color complex issue so she would try to put me down for being light skin, she would say things around my other friends to embarrass me. When it came to guys I felt like we were competing. Now that I am married and have children I've noticed
I had a conversation with a friend of mine about my best friend. I have been wondering for a long time if we are even best friends anymore. I love her, but I think about what we have been through in the many years we have known each other and I honestly can only think of the mean spirited stuff she has done... a lot of it stems from her insecurities. With each hurtful moment I have emotionally removed myself from her and honestly if we decided not to be friends today it would not bother me.
@sbabwb Well u know, people like that really don't deserve to be in your life and its good that you realized it before she completely tore you apart. It's really sad that people can be this way but u have to take care of yourself first.
Wow! Very well said. I wish someone would have talked to me about this subject 25 years ago because it could have saved me a tremendous amount of drama and heartache. We are many times drawn to certain people or situations because they are familiar but sometimes we have a difficult time distinguishing healthy from unhealthy. Creating a healthy social circle is one of the key ingredients of living a happy, productive life and this is important to know for all age groups!
@JMcE1969 Thanks hun, yeah I know, its crazy how much heartache friends can bring. But its good that eventually you realized it, and you're right, all age groups need to hear it
a girl who you dont even know then your boy that you grew up with since kindergarten well then its time to go, anyways great video, girl you was right on point keep up the good work, oh love the back round pic of you in the profile real nice.
MrPointGod 5 months ago
this is funny cause i had a friend who was just as you described but guy version, people only hung with him because he had a whip and he ended up becoming a cabby for them. i told him you need to stop that bullshit they using you and he didnt really listen to me because he was so into the bitches and he wasnt use to it he allowed them to use him just so he could say i was with her for the day. so after a while of hearing the bullshit i ended up dropping him i see it as if you would rather trust
MrPointGod 5 months ago
Thank you for this really helpful video.. I was looking through your channel not expecting to see this.. because it just happened to me. I've invested so much time in some friends, but it seems like they didn't really care abou met. Now I'm feeling dumb, crying by myself... It will be hard to trust people again, but I still have hope in human being haha.
toomokoisvip 7 months ago
How many good friends do you have?
alexandervanwyk 7 months ago
Excellent post!! I subscribed
NoordinaryAfro 8 months ago
ur sexy
kingperseverance 8 months ago
real talks
kingperseverance 8 months ago
gurl i agree with u so much, sometimes also people comes into ur lie for a reason, a season and if they were suppose to stay tthey would have. i am very passionate in the friends i keep. i have mybe two people i call my friends. some are opportunist. do what i say but not what i do. i agree 1000%. finey
finey23 8 months ago
AMENOO! God bless you. <3
BabyNeysh 8 months ago
AMENOOO! God bless you. <3
BabyNeysh 8 months ago
lets not forget about the FRIENDS who act like they don't know you when their more popular friends come around..but as soon as they are gone they want to start talking to you again....to me, those are worse than the ones who get tied up with a new man...but thats just me..lol.
4everArtista 9 months ago 3
hey ghana gurl...jus wanted to show my support!!..keep reppin gh with ur beauty!! :)..about the topic..everything u say is true..bt unfortunately some people think they need soooo many friends not relizing that could be their downfall!!
curvaciousakos 9 months ago
@curvaciousakos whoo hoo! Ghana in the house..thank u for your love hun, and thank you, I def will!!
GhanaGoddess05 9 months ago
this really makes soo much sense..tho i do disagree with one thing. a true friend is someone hu doesnt get tired of hearin ur pointless drama (d important ones to you that is) over nd over again. i learnt that with my best friend, dint even realise both of us were doing it till i saw that quote and it really is true, so bout u dumping on friends if they are true friends they wuldnt mind hearin it.
lots ov love honey!!!
xxxxx
18BlaCKBArbie91 9 months ago
right girl
WerkatWar 9 months ago
I AGREE!!!!
i also want to add... Honey you are a role model to so many people
pinkpostergirl 9 months ago
@pinkpostergirl Thank u sweetheart <3
GhanaGoddess05 9 months ago
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prateranita 9 months ago
ughh i need to get rid of these bad friends. Have too many :/
MsAllnaturalbeauty 9 months ago
its funny cos i am one of those people that even when i had a man in my life i never left my friends or acquaintances behind.
kenyagirl2009 9 months ago
interesting your doing a video on this. i realized as i grow older i have less friends and it took me changing from the word friends to acquaintances lol. i called many people friends while in college and now i realize that they were never that cos i found out through other people that they never liked me and talked behind my back lol.
kenyagirl2009 9 months ago
I absolutely LOVED this video!!!! This topic speaks to me so much because I recently had to cut someone out of my life who was bringing me down & I didn't even realize it till it was to late
lilmsrosie87 9 months ago
im in my early twenities and have always had 'convenience' friends. the only person i would call my best friend is my fiance, we were friends before we got together so we know each others ins and outs and have been through so much together! i think im at the stage where im confident to walk or go anywhere without haing a whole crew with me. i think alot of girls do that out of lack of self confidence, they will walk around with girls they dont even like just to say they have 'friends'. good vid
SleeKi 9 months ago
Great video hun! It's definitely not about the quantity of friends but the quality!! Some folks are just emotional vampires and will suck the life outta you if you let them.
MsChanteJ72 9 months ago
this is a really interesting topic! especially for girls in their first year of college because I think at that time the lines gets blurry between what a bad frien , a situational friend and a associate friend is. And it's hard to distinguish the difference in an environment where you're trying to make new friends.
MYSTIQUE5044 9 months ago
Thank you for this gem!!
mizkaterpyl 9 months ago
Thanks for sharing this. The word friend is something I do not give to everyone. I have 4 friends. These ladies are way beyond the word friend. They are additional sisters. Two of them I knew my whole life and the other 2 are awesome ladies that I met from here.
MsLadyEssence 9 months ago
So True
MultiShowOff123 9 months ago
The 1 person who did not like this video is that one bad friend she's talking about in here !! lol... GREAT VIDEO! THNK U FOR THIS. MANY OF US NEEDED TO HEAR THIS.
marib16 9 months ago 7
@marib16 lol you know it! thank u sweets
GhanaGoddess05 9 months ago
What an amazing video...I too agree that the term friend is used MUCH too loosely these days, and that ppl need to focus more on quality than quantity when it comes to who is close to u, because it truly makes all the difference. Keep vids like this coming!
LadyLovely81 9 months ago
SO SO TRUE & WELL SAID.
mzletstalk 9 months ago
This video is 100% on point! Many should view this!
HoneyChali 9 months ago
Do you think a bad friend can be a family member?
gabewatt 9 months ago
@gabewatt Most definetly...it's just a little bit trickier to get around them. But you must still set your boundaries. Family member or not.
GhanaGoddess05 9 months ago 3
Great Topic...
MsNatualTee202 9 months ago
~Great video. So true and so real. Keep em coming.~
mohagany13 9 months ago
OMG....you are so right....I had a friend she was my best friend and as soon as she got a man she would change, wouldn't call me...nigga come in she got to get off the phone! I stop dealing with her! went on for too long as i couldnt take it!
Latoya47 9 months ago
OMG....you are so right....I had a friend she was my best friend and as soon as she got a man she would change, would call me...nigga come in she got to get off the phone! I stop dealing with her! went on for too long as i couldnt take it!
Latoya47 9 months ago
Love this notion of friends being situational. Some friends are only here for a season and that is OK!
missymistique 9 months ago
I really needed to hear this and thank you. Ive realized since I got older (no more a teen anymore lol) that having too many "friends" can be risky. There are people who you will like more than they like you. And also its not good to rely on people period. Its best to be self sufficient because you may never know who will have your back when you need it. I think this vid becomes more of a reality as you progress in college as well....And btw love your channel! keep making vidz like this :-)
Chinique430 9 months ago
@Chinique430 Thank u love, and yes so said it so well.. at the end of the day you need to be self sufficient.
GhanaGoddess05 9 months ago
Love this, I left that user behind. I had to stop an evaluate our "friend" status.
MrzCRiley 9 months ago
@MrzCRiley lol sometimes it just has to happen that way..
GhanaGoddess05 9 months ago
I'm 28 years old and I have very very few friends. I literally have 4 close friends (1 sis, 1 sis in law, and 2 cousins) that I call true friends. I realized at an early age who was only my friend for convenience. I'm the type of person who will go without just to help someone else, and my "convenient" friends have taken advantage of that. I don't let it get me down, I just realize my mistakes, correct it, and let God deal with them.
theprototypekc 9 months ago
More videos like that !
GREAT !!!
arctickooksnash 9 months ago
@arctickooksnash Thank you..will do :)
GhanaGoddess05 9 months ago
Hey Girl, What hair is that? Please SHARE!<3
nana7481 9 months ago
Seems like i always find the "crack head" type of friends, the ones to only care when they want to borrow my "VCR" (see movie friday) so i thought maybe its me, maybe I do that to people and that's why I get it back, and HELL NO! i'm just really helpful, and a kind person and I seems to draw "friends" who try to take advantage
KLocStar135 9 months ago
I am going to do a video response to this
tay0688 9 months ago
Diva I totally agree, but the older people are the same way...... I say associates. It takes a lot to be my true friend. My sister , brothers and my daughter are my friends. Outside I really don't have any true friends.Great topic.
ritediva86 9 months ago
she would make mean spirited comments... so like in so many words... she didn't really want to hear it because she doesn't have children or husband she gets tired of me talking about them. That really hurts my feelings. If I can't share those things in my life that make me happy because you don't have them... what kind mess is that?
sbabwb 9 months ago
I remember while I was in H.S. my father once told me that he didn't think she liked me. I thought he was crazy for saying that... she was my friend... I think I would know if someone didn't like me. However, over the years I have thought about it. She had a color complex issue so she would try to put me down for being light skin, she would say things around my other friends to embarrass me. When it came to guys I felt like we were competing. Now that I am married and have children I've noticed
sbabwb 9 months ago
I had a conversation with a friend of mine about my best friend. I have been wondering for a long time if we are even best friends anymore. I love her, but I think about what we have been through in the many years we have known each other and I honestly can only think of the mean spirited stuff she has done... a lot of it stems from her insecurities. With each hurtful moment I have emotionally removed myself from her and honestly if we decided not to be friends today it would not bother me.
sbabwb 9 months ago
@sbabwb Well u know, people like that really don't deserve to be in your life and its good that you realized it before she completely tore you apart. It's really sad that people can be this way but u have to take care of yourself first.
GhanaGoddess05 9 months ago
Wow! Very well said. I wish someone would have talked to me about this subject 25 years ago because it could have saved me a tremendous amount of drama and heartache. We are many times drawn to certain people or situations because they are familiar but sometimes we have a difficult time distinguishing healthy from unhealthy. Creating a healthy social circle is one of the key ingredients of living a happy, productive life and this is important to know for all age groups!
JMcE1969 9 months ago
@JMcE1969 Thanks hun, yeah I know, its crazy how much heartache friends can bring. But its good that eventually you realized it, and you're right, all age groups need to hear it
GhanaGoddess05 9 months ago