Gun Shy Guy or Just Leading You On?

[ShadowPhoenix82]

Damn, that guy is me. I still want companionship, but I can't handle sex and can't handle a commitment after that same thing happened to me. I am afraid I'm taking too long to get over the fear, but...if I could find a woman okay with just being a close cuddle friend, just...female comfort without expectations or demands, then that'd be awesome. But I'm 28 and I don't naively expect women to be looking for "something casual" heading into their thirties...

[zxcvbnmjhgfdsa1]

never before have I seen people say the exact same thing and yet appear so completely opposite. Dan says date the guy unless you need commitments, Jen says don't date a guy if if you don't want the same things in a relationship

[justmemother]

Hey, everyone has been dumped! This guy is balking because you are not putting out. Move on, he was probably just using the other woman too!

[alorathegreat]

jen wheres the pants in the relationship

[llcoolwii]

some guys are fear from rejection eventhought he likes the girl. please woman, talk to him

[lark224]

i'll fuck jen all night

[DavidSaintOnge2007]

hey...you watch your mouth!

(u forgot to say all morning too) XD

hahaha!

jenn is very pretty. i'm sorry dan, but brother man, i am not sexually attracted to u at all...lol.

[TaCoHoMo6]

THANK YOU SOOO MUCH!!

Im having the same problem,and this video helped alot =]

[tlndofa]

well done guys,myself i think ,your not the one and he is keeping hisself open for this..as i have said the same ,i been raising kids for 12 years.if he adores you then this would not be a topic

[osbjmg]

Actually some good advice here.

[Bobzeaux]

If you want a relationship and he doesn't, move on.  How hard can this be?

[wolfinside]

As usual always good advice from Dan and Jenn. I wonder if this guy is just using her for sex and using his relationship shyness as an excuse to string her along.

[thepaganone]

You have no idea of love. You have no concept of eternal love. This jumping from one partner to another is obscene. You are a joke.....

[AutumnBrooke]

So it doesn't work for you, don't do it.  That doesn't mean it can't work for others. And who says you actually have to love everyone you have sex with?

[Bobzeaux]

So you're cool with a bunch of guys plowing your field and leaving you if they don't care about you... -_-

[AutumnBrooke]

Well I'm married now, so no. But before I was, yeah, sometimes I'D screw some guy and leave HIM. You don't think girls like to have nsa sex sometimes too? What is this, the 50s? :P

[Bobzeaux]

Excuse me for being so naive as to think that sex should be with someone who you actually enjoy being with...

[AutumnBrooke]

I enjoyed being with them. And you're excused.

[AutumnBrooke]

Besides, I don't think I said anywhere that everyone should be so free with their sexuality. If you're not comfortable with it, then there's one simple answer: stick to what works for you. Clearly my mentality is not that of the masses. I wasn't in love with all the guys that I've been with, but it doesn't mean I didn't care about them in some way or another. Don't get me wrong, it's not like I was screwing everything that moved, it just meant I didn't want to marry every guy I screwed.

[Bobzeaux]

You honestly don't see ANY problem with using someone for sex, then leaving them high and dry? It's bad enough that men do that without women contributing to it.

[AutumnBrooke]

I think it's safe to say none of the guys wanted to get married. We were all consenting adults. As long as both parties know what it's about, I really don't see the problem.

[Darkcasanova]

dude this isnt a feminist convention stfu..  U can have physical relationships with anyone.. Just cause no one is attracted to you , you dont have to put down other people.. u have no experience in this field so u should rly stfu.

[Bobzeaux]

Make me.

[Darkcasanova]

bob shut the fuck up YOU ARE NOT A MAN.. u have no say where do u keep ur balls.

[Bobzeaux]

Uh-huh.... Can you explain coherently exactly as to how I'm not a man? The floor's all yours.

[jgonsalk]

Autumn Brooke, I totally agree with you. If you like casual relationships, that's not a problem. It just depends on you. I've never been in a relationship and only had casual flings and I HATE it (women always dump me, I'm a guy) but that actually works for some people. I don't fall in love easily and those in whom I fall in love often don't become involved with me. No casual sex would be no sex for me!

[verysexymeanie]

i love you...

[messiah980]

Words Of Wisdom

[PATRICKHORSE]

he is useing you for head in the backroom at work!

[Darkcasanova]

its true!