when I was watching this video, I was expecting another boring rant about the basic principles of life and good conduct ..
but after three minutes my presumption changed and I was drawn in the whole subject of forgiveness and how important that is for your own life, because if you are holding resentment or grudge against anyone you can not carry on with your life.
anyway thanks for sharing and it helped for me and I hope it will be of a benefit for many others ..
You're absolutely right, it's a painful process.....it's like two sumo wrestlers having a wrestle in your head...but once you do forgive it brings incredible freedom. God bless you!
It looks like you're doing great on your self evolution path. I am grateful that you decided to talk about forgiveness, as I think it's a word we rarely hear in it's true context. It is in fact one of the great tools to help reach one's true potential. It sure isn't easy, but more rewarding than anyone can imagine.
So I have a special request. I would like to hear you talk about judgmentalism. It is the issue I'm facing right now and I have to say, this one takes a while to let go of.
Melissa, I know exactly what you mean about the power of forgiveness... in may case, I was be come much healthier. I only just started seeing a professional and I wish I had done it sooner. In any case, I am all the better for it. Great topic.
i will write a longer comment when I have more than a second to type but I wanted to say: Thank you for creating this video and putting it out into the world.
p.s. the same thing happens to me, when im upset about something i just feel empty and neauseous all day and *shudders* it is not a good feeling at all... but when you get back to feeling good, its all so much better
You are married ? I'm sad. I live in france and i wanted to marry with an american girl. I'm disappointed. Now i have to marry a french girl. My life is over. i WILL DRINK wine all my life. Mac donald it was better. Good bye ronald and melissa.
i sincerely looooove this seires, melissa. really, it means so much that you're making these. i try to take your advice & live intentionally just like you're saying :)
I think you should feel willing to risk being a bit "preachy". I think the more open you are about that, the more you will be taken seriously. We don't expect high and mighty in the first place, but demonstrating some vulnerability can help your audience identify with you in spades. So if you think you can get more personal . . . well that's your choice, but I'll certainly be watching either way. :)
If someone hurts someone else I love, like family member perhaps, I find it much more difficult to forgive than if they only do something to me personally.
ah, i posted a video recently about how frustrated about this lady on base who was RUDE toward me so I immediately lost my mind and let go of myself up there in my brain... all I could think was UGH! I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT! SHE BETTER BACK DOWN! But, there you go again... knocking me back in my spot where I belong. Thanks again. [:
I don't put as much stock in forgiveness as I do mercy. Though I do think the principle is important , some things are unforgivable. My personal experience is my now ex-girl friend. We hit a rut and tried to talk it through, but she dumps me the next day with no real reason. Day after she calls and says she's sorry, that she fell for a guy wrong for her and he convinced her to break up with me. That's beyond my forgiveness. She dumped me for a loser at the drop of a hat 'cause he asked her
I've found that whenever I encounter a new depth of human depravity in someone new, it helps me put the past wrongs of others in some new perspective. For example even though I haven't forgiven my last ex-gf for some particularly unethical behavoirs, I've found that at least its now much easier to forgive my two ex-wives for things I thought were pretty bad at the time but really don't seem so epic given what I know now. Not such a happy thought at first, but at least it works.
@MoEnzyme If you have two ex-wives and multiple ex-gf, maybe it's not all their fault. The question is not what they did to wrong you, but what you keep doing to wrong them.
@CommentorX I've certainly considered that a lot and accepted my own responsibilities. That too makes it easier me to forgive as does the context of newer experiences. I HAVE indeed had a post mortem with my first ex-wife where I basically said, yeah I was acting like jerk. I don't blame you for leaving my ass, and that kind of stuff. I felt better too :)
First let me say Great vlog.....I totally agree that forgiveness is an empowering emotion. It shows the person that you completely understand the difference between right and wrong, and you know nobody is perfect. It can also be an overpowering emotion in the sense that people tend to take advantage of you when forgiveness is used readily. Forgiveness is a personal characteristic that everyone must develop…
“The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts”-- Marcus Aurelius
Whoa re you again???? What series??? The Series you start over a year ago????What is frustrating is a peprson starting a series and taking over a year to add to it...How about making a video on what it means to create a series...
General forgiveness is one thing, day to day stuff. But what about very deep lifelong ever lingering feelings of being wronged? How can anyone find forgiveness for that?
i think ppl should do more forgiveness right coz ppl i no keep banging onabout things i done wrogn and that, but its like jeez did u really need that xbox coz i needed the money when i sold it right know what im saying?? anyway they never forgive its like i fu forgive u should not mention the error aagain, like "dont get me started rememebr when u fkin ate my fkin last fkin donut u wnker" and im like dude that was this morning i thought u forgived me dont bring the past up again
You're sharing, NOT being holier-than-thou. At least holier-than-thou's not how I see it. You're talking about grace. And you're honest about it: it stinks. But if you can "get to a better place" faster that way, then so can we. :)
so glad to see you back. Keep up the good work, I love watching your video's. Oh, and I think I have the same bookshelf as you. anyways, hope you post more video blogs.
Oh my, so glad you are back. Looking smooth today MJ. Thank you for continuing your series. What happens if you split the word in half "Fore-Giveness"? Maybe the word is different all together. Such as giving forth. Oh and quick note, the description box is now underneath all the videos.
Even after her kid a few months back. She has been gaining alot of weigh recently.
happyninslave 7 months ago
@happyninslave Hahaha! This was posted a year ago. You know, when I was 8 months pregnant. :)
MelissaJenna 7 months ago
@MelissaJenna Geez, you don't have to yell at me, how was I supposed to know? Your husband is freaking a lucky dude!
happyninslave 7 months ago
O,MJ MJ! wherefore art thou MJ?
MuseseekerMan 8 months ago
when I was watching this video, I was expecting another boring rant about the basic principles of life and good conduct ..
but after three minutes my presumption changed and I was drawn in the whole subject of forgiveness and how important that is for your own life, because if you are holding resentment or grudge against anyone you can not carry on with your life.
anyway thanks for sharing and it helped for me and I hope it will be of a benefit for many others ..
dred05m 11 months ago
You're absolutely right, it's a painful process.....it's like two sumo wrestlers having a wrestle in your head...but once you do forgive it brings incredible freedom. God bless you!
PenelopeA57 1 year ago
Hey!
It looks like you're doing great on your self evolution path. I am grateful that you decided to talk about forgiveness, as I think it's a word we rarely hear in it's true context. It is in fact one of the great tools to help reach one's true potential. It sure isn't easy, but more rewarding than anyone can imagine.
So I have a special request. I would like to hear you talk about judgmentalism. It is the issue I'm facing right now and I have to say, this one takes a while to let go of.
D
chimichanga25 1 year ago
Melissa, I know exactly what you mean about the power of forgiveness... in may case, I was be come much healthier. I only just started seeing a professional and I wish I had done it sooner. In any case, I am all the better for it. Great topic.
ribbitquack 1 year ago
i will write a longer comment when I have more than a second to type but I wanted to say: Thank you for creating this video and putting it out into the world.
aarongmoore 1 year ago
"You'll never get ahead if you're busy getting even"
rctrbo 1 year ago
p.s. the same thing happens to me, when im upset about something i just feel empty and neauseous all day and *shudders* it is not a good feeling at all... but when you get back to feeling good, its all so much better
MegaMuffin4568 1 year ago
You are married ? I'm sad. I live in france and i wanted to marry with an american girl. I'm disappointed. Now i have to marry a french girl. My life is over. i WILL DRINK wine all my life. Mac donald it was better. Good bye ronald and melissa.
lubo056 1 year ago
i sincerely looooove this seires, melissa. really, it means so much that you're making these. i try to take your advice & live intentionally just like you're saying :)
MegaMuffin4568 1 year ago
I think you should feel willing to risk being a bit "preachy". I think the more open you are about that, the more you will be taken seriously. We don't expect high and mighty in the first place, but demonstrating some vulnerability can help your audience identify with you in spades. So if you think you can get more personal . . . well that's your choice, but I'll certainly be watching either way. :)
MoEnzyme 1 year ago
wb MelissaJenna! i'm glad to see you found your principle series glasses!
MaywitherDragon 1 year ago
If someone hurts someone else I love, like family member perhaps, I find it much more difficult to forgive than if they only do something to me personally.
MoEnzyme 1 year ago
ah, i posted a video recently about how frustrated about this lady on base who was RUDE toward me so I immediately lost my mind and let go of myself up there in my brain... all I could think was UGH! I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT! SHE BETTER BACK DOWN! But, there you go again... knocking me back in my spot where I belong. Thanks again. [:
tiffsoglam 1 year ago
I don't put as much stock in forgiveness as I do mercy. Though I do think the principle is important , some things are unforgivable. My personal experience is my now ex-girl friend. We hit a rut and tried to talk it through, but she dumps me the next day with no real reason. Day after she calls and says she's sorry, that she fell for a guy wrong for her and he convinced her to break up with me. That's beyond my forgiveness. She dumped me for a loser at the drop of a hat 'cause he asked her
Maniac742 1 year ago
"I have never met a person I could despair of, or lose all hope for, after discerning what lies in me apart from the grace of God."
-O. Chambers
Great series, MJ :) Shalom.
bertomartin 1 year ago
I've found that whenever I encounter a new depth of human depravity in someone new, it helps me put the past wrongs of others in some new perspective. For example even though I haven't forgiven my last ex-gf for some particularly unethical behavoirs, I've found that at least its now much easier to forgive my two ex-wives for things I thought were pretty bad at the time but really don't seem so epic given what I know now. Not such a happy thought at first, but at least it works.
MoEnzyme 1 year ago
@MoEnzyme If you have two ex-wives and multiple ex-gf, maybe it's not all their fault. The question is not what they did to wrong you, but what you keep doing to wrong them.
CommentorX 1 year ago
@CommentorX I've certainly considered that a lot and accepted my own responsibilities. That too makes it easier me to forgive as does the context of newer experiences. I HAVE indeed had a post mortem with my first ex-wife where I basically said, yeah I was acting like jerk. I don't blame you for leaving my ass, and that kind of stuff. I felt better too :)
MoEnzyme 1 year ago
Thanks Malissa, Great video. I love your positive attitude and I love your beautiful smile.
workwillfreeyou 1 year ago
i love you and miss you! <3 gwen,
gwenweedon 1 year ago
First let me say Great vlog.....I totally agree that forgiveness is an empowering emotion. It shows the person that you completely understand the difference between right and wrong, and you know nobody is perfect. It can also be an overpowering emotion in the sense that people tend to take advantage of you when forgiveness is used readily. Forgiveness is a personal characteristic that everyone must develop…
“The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts”-- Marcus Aurelius
rmassie11 1 year ago
Whoa re you again???? What series??? The Series you start over a year ago????What is frustrating is a peprson starting a series and taking over a year to add to it...How about making a video on what it means to create a series...
Drav1212 1 year ago
I liked it. You are totally right about forgiveness. :)
marsman57 1 year ago
Someone said a great thing to me today "Your closest relationship in life will be with yourself, so be good to yourself".
donovan1971 1 year ago
General forgiveness is one thing, day to day stuff. But what about very deep lifelong ever lingering feelings of being wronged? How can anyone find forgiveness for that?
seanmuse 1 year ago
@seanmuse That's called paranoia. Seek help.
CommentorX 1 year ago
i think ppl should do more forgiveness right coz ppl i no keep banging onabout things i done wrogn and that, but its like jeez did u really need that xbox coz i needed the money when i sold it right know what im saying?? anyway they never forgive its like i fu forgive u should not mention the error aagain, like "dont get me started rememebr when u fkin ate my fkin last fkin donut u wnker" and im like dude that was this morning i thought u forgived me dont bring the past up again
DreadsideNubune 1 year ago
You're sharing, NOT being holier-than-thou. At least holier-than-thou's not how I see it. You're talking about grace. And you're honest about it: it stinks. But if you can "get to a better place" faster that way, then so can we. :)
drusillathetinsmith 1 year ago
SHE'S BACK! haha, great stuff Mel. Going strong for... how long has it been? Five years?
thejobloshow 1 year ago
so glad to see you back. Keep up the good work, I love watching your video's. Oh, and I think I have the same bookshelf as you. anyways, hope you post more video blogs.
Musique3434 1 year ago
first!!1111111111111111111
GnikNusEht 1 year ago
@GnikNusEht Wrong.
CommentorX 1 year ago
Good to see you looking so happy and really working on yourself. It appears to be working no? :)
MrCaltec 1 year ago
Oh my, so glad you are back. Looking smooth today MJ. Thank you for continuing your series. What happens if you split the word in half "Fore-Giveness"? Maybe the word is different all together. Such as giving forth. Oh and quick note, the description box is now underneath all the videos.
CAlex6977 1 year ago